God’s Design
for
Husbands and Wives
Sunday, May 3, 2015
Wayne Hartsgrove
I. Roles defined: 1 Peter 3:1-7
a. Role of the wife: Ephesians 5:21-22; 1
Peter 3:1; Galatians 5:22; Matthew 11:29
b. Role of the husband: Genesis 1:28;
Genesis 3:17-19; Ephesians 5:25,28,33
II. Responsibility explained: Proverbs 31:10-12;
1Timothy 5:8
a. The values of a virtuous wife: Philippians
4:8
b. The value of a loving resourceful husband:
1Timothy 5:8
III. Love that binds: Ephesians 5:22-23;
Galatians 3:28; Ephesians 5:23-27, 33
1.The Bible recommends the
wife to nag her husband
True or False?
2. The wife is cautioned against
being seductive or flirtatious.
3. Husbands need to know
their wives concerns,
desires, fears.
4. The value of a virtuous wife
is mentioned in Proverbs 31.
5. A resourceful husband will
provide for the physical,
emotional and spiritual
needs of his household.
6. A resourceful husband is a good
worker, flexible, decisive, a good
administrator, and a good steward.
He is not lazy or idle.
7. The most important role of a
husband is to be the priest
of his home.
8. Love submits, love initiates,
love obeys.
9. As husbands we are
commanded to love our wife
whether she submits or not.
10.What chapter in the New
Testament is known as the
“Love Chapter”?
1 Corinthians 13
Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives,
submit to your own
husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of
the wife, as also Christ is head
of the church; and He is the
Savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:24 (NKJV)
24 Therefore, just as the church
is subject to Christ, so let the
wives be to their own husbands
in everything.
Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for
her,
Ephesians 5:26 (NKJV)
26 that
He might sanctify and
cleanse her with the washing of
water by the word,
Ephesians 5:27 (NKJV)
27 that
He might present her to
Himself a glorious church, not
having spot or wrinkle or any
such thing, but that she should
be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:28 (NKJV)
28 So
husbands ought to love
their own wives as their own
bodies; he who loves his wife
loves himself.
Ephesians 5:29 (NKJV)
29 For
no one ever hated his
own flesh, but nourishes and
cherishes it, just as the Lord
does the church.
Ephesians 5:30 (NKJV)
30 For
we are members of His
body, of His flesh and of His
bones.
Ephesians 5:31 (NKJV)
31 “For
this reason a man shall
leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife, and
the two shall become one
flesh.”
Ephesians 5:32 (NKJV)
32 This
is a great mystery, but I
speak concerning Christ and
the church.
Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless
let each one of
you in particular so love his
own wife as himself, and let the
wife see that she respects her
husband.
Deuteronomy 6:3 (NKJV)
3 Therefore
hear, O Israel, and be
careful to observe it, that it may be
well with you, and that you may
multiply greatly as the LORD God of
your fathers has promised you—‘a
land flowing with milk and honey.’
Deuteronomy 6:4-5 (NKJV)
4 “Hear,
O Israel: The LORD our
5
God, the LORD is one! You
shall love the LORD your God
with all your heart, with all your
soul, and with all your strength.
Deuteronomy 6:6 (NKJV)
6 “And
these words which I
command you today shall be in
your heart.
Mark 12:28 (NKJV)
28 Then
one of the scribes came, and
having heard them reasoning
together, perceiving that He had
answered them well, asked Him,
“Which is the first commandment of
all?”
Mark 12:29 (NKJV)
29 Jesus
answered him, “The
first of all the commandments
is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the LORD
our God, the LORD is one.
Mark 12:30 (NKJV)
30 And
you shall love the LORD
your God with all your heart, with
all your soul, with all your mind,
and with all your strength.’ This is
the first commandment.
Matthew 6:9 (NKJV)
9 In
this manner, therefore,
pray:
Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed be Your name.
Romans 8:14 (NKJV)
14 For
as many as are led by
the Spirit of God, these are
sons of God.
Romans 8:15 (NKJV)
15 For
you did not receive the
spirit of bondage again to fear,
but you received the Spirit of
adoption by whom we cry out,
“Abba, Father.”
Romans 8:16 (NKJV)
16 The
Spirit Himself bears
witness with our spirit that we
are children of God,
Romans 8:17 (NKJV)
17 and if children, then heirs—
heirs of God and joint heirs
with Christ, if indeed we suffer
with Him, that we may also be
glorified together.
1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)
3 Wives, likewise, be submissive
to your own husbands, that even if
some do not obey the word, they,
without a word, may be won by
the conduct of their wives,
1 Peter 3:2 (NKJV)
2 when
they observe your
chaste conduct accompanied
by fear.
1 Peter 3:3 (NKJV)
3 Do
not let your adornment be
merely outward—arranging the
hair, wearing gold, or putting
on fine apparel—
1 Peter 3:4 (NKJV)
4 rather let it be the hidden
person of the heart, with the
incorruptible beauty of a gentle
and quiet spirit, which is very
precious in the sight of God.
1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)
5 For in this manner, in former
times, the holy women who
trusted in God also adorned
themselves, being submissive
to their own husbands,
1 Peter 3:6 (NKJV)
6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham,
calling him lord, whose
daughters you are if you do
good and are not afraid with
any terror.
1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)
likewise, dwell with them
with understanding, giving honor to
the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and
as being heirs together of the grace of
life, that your prayers may not be
hindered.
7 Husbands,
Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting
to one another in
the fear of God.
Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives,
submit to your own
husbands, as to the Lord.
Galatians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is
love, joy, peace, longsuffering,
kindness, goodness,
faithfulness,
Matthew 11:29 (NKJV)
29 Take My yoke upon you and
learn from Me, for I am gentle
and lowly in heart, and you will
find rest for your souls.
Genesis 1:28 (NKJV)
28 Then
God blessed them, and God
said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply;
fill the earth and subdue it; have
dominion over the fish of the sea, over
the birds of the air, and over every
living thing that moves on the earth.”
Genesis 3:17 (NKJV)
17
Then to Adam He said, “Because you have
heeded the voice of your wife, and have
eaten from the tree of which I commanded
you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:
“Cursed is the ground for your sake;
In toil you shall eat of it
All the days of your life.
Genesis 3:18 (NKJV)
18
Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth
for you,
And you shall eat the herb of the field.
Genesis 3:19 (NKJV)
19
In the sweat of your face you shall eat
bread
Till you return to the ground,
For out of it you were taken;
For dust you are,
And to dust you shall return.”
Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for
her,
Ephesians 5:28 (NKJV)
28 So husbands ought to love
their own wives as their own
bodies; he who loves his wife
loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of
you in particular so love his
own wife as himself, and let the
wife see that she respects her
husband.
1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)
likewise, dwell with them
with understanding, giving honor to
the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and
as being heirs together of the grace of
life, that your prayers may not be
hindered.
7 Husbands,
Proverbs 3:10 (NKJV)
10
So your barns will be filled
with plenty,
And your vats will overflow
with new wine.
Proverbs 3:11 (NKJV)
11
My son, do not despise the
chastening of the LORD,
Nor detest His correction;
Proverbs 3:12 (NKJV)
12
For whom the LORD loves
He corrects,
Just as a father the son in
whom he delights.
1 Timothy 5:8 (NKJV)
8 But
if anyone does not provide
for his own, and especially for
those of his household, he has
denied the faith and is worse than
an unbeliever.
Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting
to one another in
the fear of God.
Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
8 Finally,
brethren, whatever things are
true, whatever things are noble, whatever
things are just, whatever things are pure,
whatever things are lovely, whatever things
are of good report, if there is any virtue and
if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate
on these things.
1 Timothy 5:8 (NKJV)
8 But
if anyone does not provide
for his own, and especially for
those of his household, he has
denied the faith and is worse than
an unbeliever.
Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting
to one another in
the fear of God.
Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives,
submit to your own
husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of
the wife, as also Christ is head
of the church; and He is the
Savior of the body.
Galatians 3:28 (NKJV)
28 There is neither Jew nor
Greek, there is neither slave
nor free, there is neither male
nor female; for you are all one
in Christ Jesus.
Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of
the wife, as also Christ is head
of the church; and He is the
Savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:24 (NKJV)
24 Therefore, just as the church
is subject to Christ, so let the
wives be to their own husbands
in everything.
Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for
her,
Ephesians 5:26 (NKJV)
26 that
He might sanctify and
cleanse her with the washing of
water by the word,
Ephesians 5:27 (NKJV)
27 that He might present her to
Himself a glorious church, not
having spot or wrinkle or any
such thing, but that she should
be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of
you in particular so love his
own wife as himself, and let the
wife see that she respects her
husband.
1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)
3 Wives, likewise, be submissive
to your own husbands, that even if
some do not obey the word, they,
without a word, may be won by
the conduct of their wives,
1 John 4:8 (NKJV)
8 He
who does not love does
not know God, for God is love.
1 John 4:8 (NKJV)
8 He
who does not love does
not know God, for God is love.
1 Corinthians 13:1 (NKJV)
13 Though I speak with the
tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love, I have
become sounding brass or a
clanging cymbal.
1 Corinthians 13:2 (NKJV)
2 And though I have the gift of
prophecy, and understand all
mysteries and all knowledge, and
though I have all faith, so that I
could remove mountains, but have
not love, I am nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:3 (NKJV)
3 And though I bestow all my
goods to feed the poor, and
though I give my body to be
burned, but have not love, it
profits me nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV)
suffers long and is kind;
love does not envy; love does
not parade itself, is not puffed
up;
4 Love
1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV)
5 does
not behave rudely, does
not seek its own, is not
provoked, thinks no evil;
1 Corinthians 13:6 (NKJV)
6 does
not rejoice in iniquity,
but rejoices in the truth;
1 Corinthians 13:7 (NKJV)
7 bears
all things, believes all
things, hopes all things,
endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:8 (NKJV)
8 Love
never fails. But whether
there are prophecies, they will fail;
whether there are tongues, they
will cease; whether there is
knowledge, it will vanish away.
1 Corinthians 13:9 (NKJV)
9 For
we know in part and we
prophesy in part.
1 Corinthians 13:10 (NKJV)
10 But when that which is
perfect has come, then that
which is in part will be done
away.
1 Corinthians 13:11 (NKJV)
11 When I was a child, I spoke
as a child, I understood as a
child, I thought as a child; but
when I became a man, I put
away childish things.
1 Corinthians 13:12 (NKJV)
12 For now we see in a mirror,
dimly, but then face to face.
Now I know in part, but then I
shall know just as I also am
known.
1 Corinthians 13:13 (NKJV)
13 And
now abide faith, hope,
love, these three; but the
greatest of these is love.
Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives,
submit to your own
husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for
her,
Ephesians 6:2 (NKJV)
2 “Honor
your father and
mother,” which is the first
commandment with promise:
God’s Design
for
Husbands and Wives