UNDERSTANDING WHERE YOUR BATTLE IS
1. Do you watch television shows or movies with sexual jokes or graphic sex scenes?
2. Does the music you listen to talk blatantly of sexual desires outside of marriage?
3. Do you ever consciously act over friendly or seductively to get a guy’s attention?
4. Do thoughts of having or keeping a boyfriend consume your mind to the point that you sometimes find it
difficult to concentrate on anything else for any length of time?
5. Are you looking for or entertaining the idea of a serious romantic relationship even though you know it
will be several years before you will be ready to get married?
6. Do you use masturbation as a way to pleasure yourself or as a means of resisting sexual involvement
with others?
7. Are you in a serious relationship and know that sexual activity could be or already is a problem?
8. Do you consider oral sex or other sexual activities “ok” because they aren’t vaginal intercourse?
9. Do you feel that your virginity has been stolen from you?
10. Do you feel as if you are “damaged goods” or that a “respectable guy” wouldn’t want you?
11. Do you believe it is ever okay for a couple to live together even though they are not married?
12. Do you believe it is ever okay for a couple to have sex before marriage?
13. Have you ever lied to your parents about where you were going or who you were with because you
knew they wouldn’t approve if you told them the truth?
14. Would you lie to your parents in order to go out with a particular guy you liked a lot if you knew you
could get away with it?
15. Have you ever made out with a guy just because it was something to do?
16. Are you anxious to get out from under the control of your parents because you know you will be able to
pursue any relationship you want?
17. Do you visit websites or chat rooms that you know your parents would not approve of?
18. Have you ever given your phone number or address to a stranger over the internet without your parents
knowledge?
19. Have you set rules or guidelines for your behavior or your relationships that you have already broken?
20. Do you hide certain letters, magazines or videos because of their content?
21. Do you feel as though you sexual sin is not something you need to worry about or will never be a
problem for you?
UNDERSTANDING OUR BATTLE
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How is our battle different from the battle young men face?
o Male & Female
o Guys are more driven by their physical desires. Girls are more driven by their emotional
desires.
o Guys crave physical intimacy. Girls crave emotional intimacy.
o Guys are stimulated by what they see. Girls are stimulated by what they feel and hear.
o UNFORTUNATELY:Guys give love to get sex. Girls give sex to get love.
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This is EVERY young girls battle
o Your area(s) of struggle might be a little different than others but we all struggle;
o Where is your area of struggle?
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Ephesians 5:3 – Among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality.
o What do you think “even a hint” means?
o Have you ever seen evidence of “even a hint” in your own life?
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John 8:31-32 – If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the
truth and the truth will set you free.
o Is it possible to be a true disciple of Jesus and yet ignore His teachings?
o How can followers of Christ know the truth about their sexuality and sexual integrity?
o How can understanding and embracing God’s truth about sexual integrity (“even a hint”) set
you free? How will you know you are free? What will that freedom look/feel like?
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Who do you think can be affected by sexual temptation?
o Have you ever told yourself that you would never give in to sexual temptation?
Part of God’s perfect plan is that we are so physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually drawn to the
opposite sex that we long for closeness with each other. We have a deep desire to be intimately
connected. Sex can be part of that equation. Unfortunately, too many young girls misunderstand that
need for connection and think that sex is the only way to be intimately connected with someone.
Sex is not bad. God created it and within the boundaries of marriage, it is a beautiful thing. But it was
also never created to be purely a physical connection. God designed sex to be shared not just between
two bodies but between two minds, two hearts and two spirits that unite to become one flesh. When this
level of intimacy is experienced in the commitment of a loving marriage, it can be one of the most
earthshaking and fulfilling experiences you’ll know on earth. But outside of a marriage, sex can
NEVER be what God intends for it to be.
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If God designed sex to be such a powerful bonding experience between husband and wife, why do
you think that so many young people give in to sexual temptations before marriage?
o What do you think they are looking for?
o Do you think they find it?
o What consequences do you risk if you don’t wait until marriage?
o What consequences do you risk if you do wait?
o Which is more desirable to you?
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Accountability Partners
o What is an accountability partner?
o Why should you have one?
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Next Week: Building Lives of Sexual Integrity