The 7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens
Sharpen the Saw
Synergize
Seek First to Understand,
Then to Be Understood
Think Win-Win
Put First Things First
Begin with the End in
Mind
Be Proactive
The first three habits
Habit 1 says: You are the driver, not
the passenger. You have to be
proactive in your life.
Habit 2 says: Decide where you want
to go, begin with an end in mind,
then draw up a map to get there.
The first three habits
Habit 3 says: Get there! Don’t let
roadblocks knock you off course. PUT
FIRST THINGS FIRST.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
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Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet
Think of a scenario
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There were 3 students in your class
to be kicked out from the school
after this academic year.
The criteria is merely based on your
English results.
No matter how smart the whole
class or how dumb the whole class
is.
What might happen?
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Might be you will look around and
try to count off 3 classmates whose
English ability were dumber than
you.
You might feel glad if you find
someone in your class getting lower
mark in Eng test than you.
You might not share your good
ideas in improving English with your
classmates.
That is Think Win-Lose
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It is called the totempole because they are
always trying to get one
notch ahead.
Think Win-Lose
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This is an attitude toward
life that says the pie of
success is only so big,
and if you get a piece
there is less for me. So,
I’m going to get my
piece first so that I get a
bigger piece.
Think Win-Lose
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Win-Lose is competitive.
Win-Lose is full of pride.
Relationships,
friendships, and loyalty
take a back seat to
winning.
Think Win-Lose
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Other signs of a WinLose: jealous, has to
have their way, spreads
rumors, uses people to
get what they want
What about Think Lose-Win?
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It is the doormat syndrome!
Think Lose-Win
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Looks good on the
surface, but just as
dangerous as WinLose.
Think Lose-Win
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Lose-Win is weak.
(Remember the
Yes Man?)
Often will take the
blame to prevent
arguments.
Think Lose-Win
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If you’re in an
abusive
relationship you’re
deep into LoseWin. Don’t think
the abuse is your
fault or that you
deserve to be
abused. That’s how
a doormat thinks.
Can you imagine a
Lose-Lose situation?
Think Lose-Lose
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The downward spiral
Lose-Lose says that if I’m going
down, your going down.
When someone treats you bad you
want revenge. By getting revenge,
you may think you are winning, but
you’re really only hurting yourself.
Think Lose-Lose
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Often happens when two Win-Lose
get together. Both want to win, so
both lose.
Lose-Lose often occurs when we are
obsessed over someone in a negative
way.
Think Win-Win
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A Win-Win attitude feels that
everyone has a chance to succeed.
Their belief is, “I won’t step on you,
but I’m also not going to be your
doormat. I want to succeed, but so
can you.”
Reflection
Tell a Win-Win experience