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What is Self-
Esteem?
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The way we see, feel, and think about ourselves
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Do you think you have a high or low self esteem?
Self Esteem

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Self esteem develops from the time we are infants all the way up to adulthood
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It is harder to change an adult’s self-esteem once it’s set
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Important to grow in early years.. HOW?
Where does self-esteem come from?

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Parental involvement is key
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Self esteem can also be defined as feeling capable while also feeling loved
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If you feel loved, but not capable– you may have low self esteem
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If you feel capable, but not loved, low self esteem may occur

High Self-Esteem
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Know strengths and weaknesses
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Like being around people
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Enjoy challenges
Low Self-Esteem
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Doesn’t try new things
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Talks negative about oneself
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Give up easily
Traits of Self-Esteem

Build Self-Esteem in kids
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Reward effort and completion instead of outcome
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Be a positive role model
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Identify inaccurate beliefs
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Give positive, accurate feedback
Raise Your Own Self-Esteem
• Affirm your strengths, list your faults
• Accept all parts of your physical appearance
• Be willing to accept change
• Become involved with others
• Keep a sense of humor

Self Esteem QUIZ

1. When you wake up in the morning, do you feel happy, loved, and loveable?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

2. Do you wish that you had never been born?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

3. Do you feel as though you matter, that what you say and do impacts on the world?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

4. Do you feel that the people in your community recognize who you are?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

5. Do you find it easy to make new friends?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

6. Do you wish that you family would be more supportive of you?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

7. Do you feel that your family does not respect your individuality?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

8. Do you feel ashamed of aspects of your personality that set you apart from the crowd?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

9. Do you feel as though you are special?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

10. Do you find it easy to make decisions?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

11. Do you feel that life is futile? Do you say to yourself, “why bother?”
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

12. Do you speak out when you feel that something is wrong?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

13. Can you name two or more people in your life whom you admire?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

14. Are you inspired to try a new thing when you see someone else doing it?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

15. Do you say to yourself, “I could never be as cool/ smart/ talented/ as (fill in the blank someone whom you admire).”
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

16. Do you think you are a worthless individual?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

17. Do you think of yourself as a competent person who performs most tasks well?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

18. Do you feel that you have made a positive impact on others’ lives?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

19. Do you look in the mirror and feel satisfied with what you see?
5
Usually
4 3 2 1
Sometimes Never

20. Do you feel clumsy and awkward in your body?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

21. Do you often wish you could change some aspect of your body?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

22. Do you feel that most of your friends and peers are more physically attractive than yourself?
5
Never
4 3
Sometimes
2 1
Usually

Results:
Lowest score: 22
Highest score: 110
The higher your score, the more self esteem you have. Do you agree or disagree with your score?

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I am loveable.
I am connected.
I have role models.
I assert myself, I have power.
I am worthwhile.
I am unique.
I am comfortable in my own body.
7 components of Self Esteem

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Put a checkmark beside the components you feel like you have
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Journal Entry: For the ones you don’t have, why don’t you have them? How could you get them?
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Journal Entry: If you do have all of them, describe how you have achieved 2 of these components.
Reflect