Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning Understanding, supporting and developing. Session 3 Helping your child to grow Self-esteem Self –esteem is the most important contribution that any adult can make to a child’s life. Going through life with low self-esteem is possible, but it is like riding a bike with flat tyres. It is the bedrock on which the majority of personality traits rest and will do more to determine a child’s future than any other single factor! In order to teach it to a child, an adult must first have it within. What makes up self-esteem? There are 3 main parts that contribute to high self-esteem • A sense of Self • A sense of belonging • A sense of personal power Self–esteem is not about… Letting your child do what they want to make them happy! It is about….. Putting boundaries in place Letting them know that someone cares and that they matter even if they don’t like what you are saying e.g. “no you are not going out until midnight and I don’t care what your mates are doing!” Helping them to feel good about themselves Multiple Intelligence How intelligent are you? or How are you intelligent?’ Multiple Intelligence Maslow’s Hierarchy Key points Different ways to be intelligent Feeling good about myself Feeling safe and that I matter Understanding my strengths and weaknesses Homework • Take a Multiple Intelligence profile home with you for your child (this is one we use with students in school) and complete it together • Get your child to think about famous people that they admire and what their areas of Multiple Intelligence would be • Spend a little time every day with you child on your own doing something they want to do • Read the Top Tips sheet!