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What Are The Church’s Standards
On Dating?
What are the Church’s standards on Dating?
Latter-day prophets have
given us standards about
dating to protect us from
spiritual danger and help
us prepare to one day find
a worthy eternal
companion. These
standards include:
 Not dating before age 16,
 Avoiding frequent dates with the same person,
 Dating only those who have high moral standards.
What Is A Date?
A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and a young woman to
get to know each other better. In cultures where dating is acceptable, it can
help you learn and practice social skills, develop friendships, have wholesome
fun, and eventually find an eternal companion.
Dating Guidelines
You should not date until you are at
least 16 years old. When you begin
dating, go with one or more
additional couples. Avoid going on
frequent dates with the same person.
Developing serious relationships too
early in life can limit the number of
other people you meet and can
perhaps lead to immorality. Invite
your parents to become acquainted
with those you date.
High Standards & Morals
Choose to date only those who have high moral standards and in whose
company you can maintain your standards. Remember that a young man
and a young woman on a date are responsible to protect each other’s
honor and virtue.
Be A Guardian of Virtue
What is virtue and what is a guardian? “Virtue is a pattern of thought and behavior
based on high moral standards. It includes chastity and [moral] purity.” And what is a
guardian? A guardian is someone who protects, shields, and defends. Thus, as a
guardian of virtue, you will protect, shield, and defend moral purity because the
power to create mortal life is a sacred and exalted power and must be safeguarded
until you are married.
Virtue is a requirement to
have the companionship
and guidance of the Holy
Ghost. You will need that
guidance in order to
successfully navigate the
world in which you live.
Being virtuous is a
requirement to enter the
temple. And it is a
requirement to be worthy
to stand in the Savior’s
What do you need to
do to remain true to
the Lord’s standards
In order to stay on the path to the
temple, you must guard your
personal virtue and the virtue of
others with whom you associate.
Why? Mormon taught in the Book
of Mormon that virtue and
chastity are “most dear and
precious above all things.”
It starts with believing you can
make a difference. It starts with
making a commitment.
What can I do to be a righteous influence
on those I date?
Be Modest
Be Kind and Respectful
Avoid Negative Influences
Be A Good Example
Choose Appropriate Date Ideas
Servants of the Lord have always counseled us to dress appropriately to show
respect for our Heavenly Father and for ourselves. The way you dress sends
messages about yourself to others and often influences the way you and
others act.
Dress in such a way as to bring out the best in yourself and those around you.
Avoid extremes in clothing and appearance, including tattoos and piercings.
Being a guardian of virtue means you will always be modest not
only in your dress but also in your speech, your actions, and your
use of social media.
Being a guardian of virtue means you will never text words or
images to young men that may cause them to lose the Spirit, lose
their priesthood power, or lose their virtue.
Be A Good Example
Everyone needs good friends. Your circle of friends will greatly influence your
thinking and behavior, just as you will theirs. When you share common values with
your friends, you can strengthen and encourage each other. Treat everyone with
kindness and dignity. Many nonmembers have come into the Church through
friends who have involved them in Church activities.
Choose Appropriate Dates
Plan dating activities that are safe, positive, and inexpensive and
that will help you get to know each other. Go only to places where
you can maintain your standards and remain close to the Spirit.
Be Kind And Respectful
Young men generally take the initiative in asking for and planning dates. Always be
kind and respectful when you ask for a date or when you accept or decline one.
While on a date, be courteous as you listen to others and express your own
Today’s Media Would Suggest Different
Ideas For Dating....
• What negative messages about dating and
morality do you get from the media and how do
you avoid them?
What pressures do you feel?
How can staying close to the Lord and following the gospel teachings help?
The Young Women’s program is designed to help you grow closer to the Savior
and to give you direction during difficult times.
Prepare Now For The Temple
Your years in Young
Women will prepare you
for the temple. There
you will receive the
blessings to which you
are entitled as a precious
daughter of God.
Your Heavenly Father
loves you and wants you
to be happy. The way to
do this is to “walk in the
paths of virtue” and
“cleave unto [your]
As you enter your adult
years, make dating and
marriage a high priority.
Seek a companion who
is worthy to go to the
temple to be sealed to
you for time and all
eternity. Marrying in
the temple and creating
an eternal family are
essential in God’s plan
of happiness.
Make Important Decisions Now
I made those decisions once, and
then in the moment of decision, I
knew exactly what to do because I
had decided beforehand. When
my high school friends said, “Just
one drink won’t hurt,” I laughed
and said, “I decided when I was 12
not to do that.” Making decisions
in advance will help you be
guardians of virtue. I hope each of
you will write a list of things you
will always do and things you will
never do. Then live your list.
You Are Not Alone
Young women, you are
engaged in a great work!
And you are not alone! As
you guard your virtue and
purity, you will be given
strength. As you keep the
covenants you have
made, the Holy Ghost will
guide and guard you. You
will be surrounded by
heavenly hosts of angels.