Do Reflection #5
• Self-concept=how a person
thinks and feels about themself
Today’s Book
• “I love you because you’re you”
By: Liza Baker
Illustrator: David McPhail
Tips for
Building
A Child’s
Self- Concept
STAND UP FROM THE
INSIDE!
• Resiliency = the capacity to bounce back
after disappointment or tragedy.
• Self-Concept = What someone thinks
about themself
– Our looks and traits, how we feel, what
we think, who we see when we look in
the mirror…
– A child’s self-concept is in place by
age 5.
Children are born with 100%
Self-Concept
• Why is this important for them to
have?
• Do you still have the 100% you
were born with?
– Why not? Imagine what you could
do if you did!
1. SELF - PERCEPTION
• 2. Verbal and Non-verbal Communication
– Communication what we hear, say, or See.
• We believe it and may even become it.
• 10 positive words for every negative word or
action might alter the affects of the negative.
3. Positive and Negative
Interactions
Why do we continue to hang
around with or do that which
brings us or other’s down?
Self Concept Cycle
As I See Myself
My Actions
Other’s
Reactions To Me
As Others See
Me
Low vs. High Self-Concept
Tip #1
Provide more successes than
failures for the child
Tip #2
Give lots of encouragement
Tip #3
Focus on the positive
Tip #4
Do not set standards
unreasonably high.
Tip #5
Set limits
Tip #6
Give them freedom to fail
with acceptance
Tip #7
Take their ideas, emotions and
feelings seriously.
Tip #8
Allow exploration and
encourage questions
Tip #9
Help your child develop talents
Tip #10
Be a good role model..
Tip #11
Give your children responsibility.
Tip #12
Encourage independence
Tip #13
Be available.
Tip #14
Don’t Ridicule
Tip #15
Give unconditional love
Other ideas?
“I got two A’s”, the small boy said, his voice
was filled with glee.
His father bluntly asked, “Why didn’t you get
three?”
“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl called
from the door.
Her mother very calmly said, “Did you sweep
the floor?”
“I mowed the grass,” the tall boy said, “and
put the mower away.”
His father asked him with a shrug, "Did you
clean off the sidewalks?”
The children in the house next door seemed
happy and content.
The same things happened over there, but
this is how it went.
“I’ve got two A’s,” the small boy said. His
voice was filled with glee.
His father proudly said, "That's great, I’m
glad that you belong to me.”
“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl
called from the door.
Her mother smiled and softly said, “Each
day I love you more.”
“I’ve mowed the grass,” the tall boy said,
“and put the mower away.”
His father answered with much joy,
“You’ve made my happy day.”
Children deserve a little praise for tasks
they’re asked to do. If they’re to lead a
happy life, so much depends on you.
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