COM 110 - Class 2 - Self in Communication

Self in Communication
Agenda (5.26)
Review of Chapter 1 - Quiz
Review of Homework-Assignments and Discussion Boards
Chapter 2 Goals/Overview
Class Short speeches
Group Exercise #1 – Self Esteem
Upcoming Assignments
Group Exercise #2
Discussion/Homework Week #1
• Discussion Board #1 – The Role Culture
Plays in Communication
• Assignment #1 – Power of Communication
Discussion/Homework Week #2
• Discussion Board #1 – Self Awareness –
Due Wed
• Assignment #1 – Self Disclosure Due
The Self in Human
Define “self-concept”
Define “self-awareness”
Define “self-esteem”
Define “self-disclosure” its rewards, dangers
guidelines, etc.
Define perception – 5 stages
Impression Formation and Management
The Self in Human
Self Concept: your image of
who you are
Sources of Self-Concept
Basic to all communication and is achieved
when you examine several aspects of yourself
as they might appear to others as well as to
Johari Window – 4 Selves
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Growing in Self Awareness
Listening to others
Increasing your open self
Seek information about self
Dialogue with yourself
Class Presentations
• Volunteers?
Self-Esteem: a measure of how
valuable you think you are
Attack self-destructive beliefs
Be aware of imposter phenomenon
Seek out nourishing people
Work on projects that will result in success
Remind yourself of your successes
Secure affirmation
Self Esteem - Quiz
• Page 29 in text book
Daily Affirmations
Self Esteem Group Exercise
• How much do you think Todd believes in himself?
• How strong do you think Todd’s self-esteem is (1 – 10)? How can
you tell?
• How successful do you think Todd will be in life if he doesn’t
increase his self-esteem?
• Why is strong self-esteem important to success in college and in
• Can people raise their own self-esteem?
Ways to Raise Self Esteem
Accepting myself
Keeping commitments to myself and others
Setting realistic expectations
Forgiving myself
Taking risks
Appreciating my creativity, my spirituality, my mind, my body
Taking responsibility for my own decisions and actions (If I agree that self-esteem can be raised,
what would happen if I took full-responsibility for the level of my self-esteem?)
Expressing my feelings
Disputing my Inner Critic
Being a person of integrity
Understanding and affirming my values
Attending to my physical health
Developing basic skills
Serving humanity
Treating myself with love
Rewards of Self-Disclosure
Better self-knowledge
Stronger coping abilities
Improved communication
Meaningful relationships
Dangers of Self-Disclosure
• Personal risks
• Relationship risks
• Professional risks
Your Rights in
• Resist pressure to
self-disclose if uncomfortable
• Do not be pushed into disclosing
• Be indirect and move to other topics
• Be assertive in protecting yourself
Guidelines Self-Disclosures
Things to consider:
The motivation
The appropriateness
The disclosures of the other person
The burdens self-disclosure might entail
Self Disclosure
Guidelines for facilitating and responding
to others’ disclosures:
Support and reinforce the discloser
Be willing to reciprocate
Keep the disclosures confidential
Don’t use the disclosures against the person
• Perception is your way of understanding
the world.
• It’s the process by which you become
aware of objects, events, and people
through senses of sight, smell, taste,
touch, and hearing
Stages of Perception
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Stimulation (Stage 1)
First stage: sense organs are stimulated
Selective perception
Selective attention
Selective exposure
Organization (Stage 2)
At the second stage, you organize the
information your senses pick up in three
(1) by rules
(2) by schemata
(3) by scripts.
Interpretation-Evaluation (Stage 3)
Influenced by experiences, needs, wants,
values, expectations, physical and emotional
state, gender, beliefs, rules, schemata, and
Memory (Stage 4) and
Recall (Stage 5)
Memory (Stage 4)
Storage of
“cognitive tags”
Recall (Stage 5)
Perception Quiz
• Textbook Page 41
Impression Formation
• Refers to the process you go through in
forming an impression of another person
(person perception)
Impression Formation Processes
What you do everyday
Self-fulfilling prophecy
Personality theory
Attribution of control
Increasing Accuracy in Impression
Analyze impressions
Recognize your own role in perception
Avoid early conclusions
Beware of the just world hypothesis
Check your perceptions
Describe what you see/hear and seek confirmation
Reduce your uncertainty
Increase cultural sensitivity
Impression Management: Goals
and Strategies
Also called: self-presentation or identity
Refers to the processes you go through to
communicate the impression you want other
people to have of you
Strategies of Impression
Affinity-seeking and politeness
Impression Mgt Quiz
• Textbook Page 46
Next Steps