Chapter Five Gender and Language Gender and Language • “Women are the decorative sex. They never have anything to say, but they say it charmingly.” – Oscar Wilde Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|2 Gender Differences in Language Use Gender Differences in Language Use • Linguist Deborah Tannen (1991) – Different cultures hypothesis: communication between women and men is as difficult as communication between people from different cultures – Different goals in communication • Women: conversation maintenance; establish and maintain relationships • Men: conversation dominance; display knowledge, avoid disclosure – What do the data say? Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|4 Gender Differences in Language Use (cont’d.) • Tentativeness – Tag questions: a short phrase added to a sentence, which turns it into a question • E.g., “It’s a nice day, isn’t it?” • Women use slightly more tag questions than men • How do we interpret this finding? – Are women communicating uncertainty or weakness? – Or, are women trying to encourage communication? – Disclaimers and hedges • Disclaimers: phrases such as “I may be wrong, but…” • Hedges: phrases such as “sort of” that weaken or soften a statement • Women use more disclaimers and hedges than men when in mixedgender (but not single-gender) groups Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|5 Gender Differences in Language Use (cont’d.) • Intensifiers: adverbs such as very, really, or vastly – Women use intensifiers more than men – What does this difference mean? • Interruptions – Men interrupt women more than women interrupt men – Interruptions have multiple meanings: • • • • • Express power, control Request clarification Express agreement or support Express disagreement Change the subject – Context is important when interpreting interruptions Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|6 Gender Differences in Language Use (cont’d.) • Children’s Speech – Girls are only slightly more talkative than boys • Girls engage in more affiliative speech (e.g., praise or agreement) than boys • Boys engage in more assertive speech (e.g., criticisms) than girls • Differences are very small • Can You Tell Who’s Speaking? – Gender differences in speech are not found by university students, but are detected by highly trained coders – Gender-linked language effect Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|7 Gender Differences in Language Use (cont’d.) • Electronic Talk – Gender differences in e-mail? • Women express more emotion, disclose more personal information, use more hedges and intensifiers • No differences in insults, self-derogatory comments, and oppositions • Participants respond differently to a fictitious netpal depending on gendered content from netpal’s communication Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5|8 Body Language: Nonverbal Communication Body Language: Nonverbal Communication • Interpersonal distance – Men prefer larger interpersonal distance than women do – How do we interpret this finding? • Smiling – Women smile more than men do, d= -.41 – Why do we smile? • Communicate friendliness? • Communicate subservience? • Part of female role Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 10 Body Language: Nonverbal Communication (cont’d.) • Eye Contact – Reflects patterns of power and dominance – Visual dominance ratio: the ratio of the percentage of time looking while speaking relative to the percentage of time looking while listening – Men show higher visual dominance, but: • When women have power, they become visually dominant Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 11 How Women are Treated in Language How Women are Treated in Language • Male as Normative – Male is regarded as standard, norm • E.g., use of he for a neutral pronoun – Language becomes ambiguous – Female-as-the-exception phenomenon: if a category is considered normatively male and there is a female example of the category, gender is noted because the female is the exception; byproduct of androcentrism Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 13 How Women are Treated in Language (cont’d.) • Parallel Words – Parallel words for males and females often have different connotations: • Dog vs. bitch • Master vs. mistress • Stud vs. slut • Euphemisms – We avoid using “woman” and use euphemisms such as lady, girl to be polite or less threatening • Infantilizing – Women are called by terms that make them less mature than they are; e.g., girl, baby Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 14 How Women are Treated in Language (cont’d.) • How Important is All This? – Language reflects thought processes • Sexist language is a symptom of larger problem • If we change how we think, language will follow • Alternatively… – Whorfian hypothesis: theory that the language we learn influences how we think • Using sexist language shapes our thoughts about women and men – Both processes occur to some extent Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 15 How Women are Treated in Language (cont’d.) • Hyde’s Wudgemaker study (1984) – Children’s ratings of the competence of women and men as wudgemakers, as a function of the pronoun they heard repeatedly in the description of the wudgemaker • Pronoun choice affects how children think about women, women’s occupations Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 16 Some Practical Suggestions Some Practical Suggestions • Toward nonsexist Language – Eliminate the use of generic masculine forms • When a doctor prescribes birth control pills, he should first inquire whether the patient has a history of blood clotting problems • When doctors prescribe birth controls, they should first inquire whether the patient has a history of blood clotting problems • A doctor prescribing birth control pills should first inquire whether the patient has a history of blood clotting problems • When a doctor prescribes birth control pills, he or she should first inquire whether the patient has a history of blood clotting problems Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 18 Some Practical Suggestions (cont’d.) • Institutional Change – Textbook publishers, American Psychological Association, Webster’s Dictionary have policies of avoiding sexist language • Language, Women, and Careers – Women who use tentative rather than assertive speech are more influential to men – Women who use assertive rather than tentative speech are more influential to women – Women must strike a delicate balance in speech Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 19 In Conclusion In Conclusion • Tannen’s different cultures hypothesis – Gender differences in communication styles are actually small and depend on context – The meaning of gender differences is unclear • Male-as-normative language pattern may contribute to early social construction of gender for children Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 5 | 21