12 Steamy Days with Your Firefighter
A How To Guide by the Wives of
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12 STEAMY DAYS WITH YOUR FIREFIGHTER
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12 STEAMY DAYS WITH YOUR FIREFIGHTER
TABLE OF CONTENTS:
How to use this Guide………………….….…5
Ideas for Everyone………………..9
Ideas For the Gift
Giver………………….…....12
Ideas for the More
Adventurous……….…….16
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INTRODUCTION
How to use this Guide
He's putting fires out all day at the fire house (ok, well not all day
everyday but when they’re not putting them out, they’re training to put
them out) and comes home exhausted and stressed out. You've just
held down the home front single handedly while he's away. Broken
pipes, irritating neighbors, kids that don't go to bed on time, and the
endless dishes and laundry.
Besides, your firefighter is gone probably at least 1 out of every 3 nights,
perhaps more if he’s working multiple stations or wild land fire. Throw
in a couple kids in your bed some nights and that doesn’t leave a lot of
opportunities for alone time.
So how do you keep the flames burning in your bedroom?
Thanks to the wives in our FirefighterWife.com Private Wives Group, we
have a few ideas for you. See, when ladies get together in a private
place with other girlfriends who understand, you can talk about
anything. ANYTHING! It's a right of passage for us girlfriends to share
deep secrets and help each other out in trouble spots. So a healthy sex
life has been a big topic in this group.
In this guide, we've captured the best suggestions and given you a
formula for a little exercise to spice up your love life, no matter if it’s
already smokin' hot or if you’re a little shy and just like it luke warm.
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Warning: be cautious
reading this at work.
You may need access to
a cold shower!"
How to use this guide:
1. Pick a 12 day period (does not have to be Christmas)
2. Pick your favorites from the list and go!
A few tips:
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Make a little schedule for yourself and stick it someplace safe ;)
Plan around your monthly visitor. Or plan for it in a steamy
shower!
Days he is on shift at the fire house are great days to entice him
with texts, voicemails and photos to get home ASAP
Plan ahead. Some of these items require a little advance
shopping. Be sure to have the items on hand.
Feeling overwhelmed by 12 days? Try just 8 and even 3.
If some of these are too steamy for you, there are plenty of tamer
choices. We’ve broken this down into 2 sections: “Ideas for
Everyone” and “Ideas for the More Adventurous”
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Here are some "Love Note" ideas to introduce the 12 days
to your firefighter…..
Dear Wonderful,
1 day at a time I plan to blow your mind.
Knock your socks off kind of surprises.
By day 12 you won’t know what hit you but will be asking
for more.
Know that it’s all about you and what can make you happy.
Hoping to make you smile,
Mrs. Firefighter
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Ideas for Everyone
Smokin' Up Your Marriage for the Less
Adventurous
Some of you are probably just blushing reading this! If so, way
to go! You clicked and opened and took a big step. You were
made as a beautiful woman to enjoy your husband and be
enjoyed by your husband. Let go of the guilt and shame and
negative self-talk and do what you were born to do.
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Here are some ideas to create 12 Special
Days for your Firefighter
 Write little love notes and place them
in surprising places – his closet, his
side of the bed, his gear bag, his
favorite mug, inside his shoe or coat
pocket.
 Make homemade coupons for
massages or a special date night
 Give him a “get out of a chore free”
card
 Write a whole page full of reasons
you love him with colorful markers
and doodling letters like you did for
your crush in high school
 Make his favorite meal one night
without telling him. You know. That
meal that takes all the prep time and
leaves you with extra dirty dishes but
you love him anyway?
 Buy him his favorite snacks and stick
them in his fire bag for him alone.
(Don’t let the kids see them!)
 Make a custom CD / playlist of your
favorite songs
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(12 Special Days…..continued)
 Create a custom calendar made with pictures of you
and him
 Make his favorite cookies or candy. Drop them off at
the fire house as an added bonus.
 Decorate your bedroom with lit candles for a little
romance
 Send him a series of texts throughout the day
leading him to a hidden treasure when he gets home
 Write about what you appreciate or love about him.
Send it in an email or post it on your facebook status
or blog. Just because.
 Do your hair and make up like you are going to
church….but on a normal day just to make him look
twice when he walks in the door that morning.
 Massage. Anything. Without paybacks. Even if you
think you don’t know, your touch will do the trick.
 Bake "fortune" cookies with love notes and hints
about what will happen the next day
 Using a Dry Erase marker, leave a note on the
bathroom mirror for him.
 Google “aphrodisiacs” and try some sensual scents
(essential oils) or foods.
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Ideas for the Gift Giver
Tease him while he's away with little treasures
If you’re into giving each other gifts, you
could literally give your own version of the
12 days of Christmas (or any special “just
because” event). This is a great one if you
are apart from each other for an extended
period of time such a wildland fire fighters
or military.
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Examples of 12 Day of Gift Giving for your Firefighter:
Day 1: A picture of you, his “one and only”
Day 2: A pair of socks, Reese’s Cups (2 in a pack)
Day 3: Make him a three course meal or you can have
three meals together. You could go all out with breakfast
in bed, a picnic lunch and a candlelit dinner.
Day 4: A sleeve of 4 golf balls
Day 5: A note with 5 “golden” reasons I love you
Day 6: A six pack of his favorite drink
Day 7: A video you send to his phone so he can see your
smile and say good night.
Other ideas….favorite foods, candy, beverage, new briefs,
razor blade refills. Little personal things to let him know
you are thinking of him even in the most mundane
moments.….you get the idea.
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Ideas for the Adventurous
12 (or more) Steamy, Smokin' Hot Days
With your Hot Firefighter
If you are ready for something more, then this is the list for
you. This list will either make you blush or run for a cold
shower or both!
The same guidelines apply.
Pick your 12 days.
Pick your 12 items.
Prepare your plan and “do it”.
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Here are some ideas to create 12 STEAMY
NIGHTS (or days!) for your Firefighter
 On the first day of Christmas, my true love
gave to me...a partridge in a pear
tree. Take a pic of a thoughtfully place
pear(s) highlighting your FF's favorite part
of your body...mine would be in the small
of my back
 On the 2nd day of Christmas, my true love
gave to me, 2 heated sessions and a hose
down after the session (use your
imagination :)
 On the 3rd day of Christmas, my true love
gave me a mid-night wake up call. *ahem*
 On the 4th day of Christmas, my true love
gave to me...4 sexy phone calls
(Oh forget the Christmas days, I want to do
this all year long!)
 Be the initiator in a place in your house
(car, garage....) where you don't normally
get the chance to enjoy each other
Something
sexy inside!
 Make an invitation on your computer to either print out or email to
him. Put sexy clues on it and include an "admit one" ticket. Give
the invitation that morning with the admission ticket. Throughout
the day text him hints on where to find tickets you've hidden
throughout your home. That night, let him choose which "event"
he wants to attend. ;) Still a surprise but he gets to choose that
night. Your invitation can be party or carnival themed. "Come one.
Come all. Step right up to the best show in town. The festivities
can't start without you!"
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(12 STEAMY Days…..continued)
 Surprise attack him! When he's least expecting it, touch him
somewhere surprising for a quick moment.
 When you're out at a social gathering do something to catch his
attention and make him excited to get you home...and then don't
disappoint once you do get home!
 Create a dinner menu for him to choose from with a suggestive
dessert menu.
 Hang your panties on the outside doorknob just before he arrives
home. Be waiting inside wearing whatever you like, but no panties.
 Purchase new lingerie, wrap it in a package and leave for him to find.
 Plan a night away at a hotel, even if you don't have kids.
 Text him from the bedroom that you need him to come fix: light
bulb or whatever and have a candle lit room waiting.
 Find/make up a game asking intimate questions about his favorite
things you do and things he would like you to do more of.
 Leave your intimate wish list, a love note, or something super sweet
in his pants pocket.
 Do something you know he likes unexpectedly, even if you hate it
(within reason! lol)
 Make him an extra steamy "coupon" book.
 Put a note on the tv/computer/ipad/phone that says "Turn me on
instead" ;)
 Brew hot cocoa (made with 100 percent cocoa, milk, and brown
sugar to taste, heated up and whisked in a small pot), toss in a few
slices of fresh ginger or a pinch of cayenne for an aphrodisiac hot
cocoa. Perfect for fireside foreplay. If any of you have seen the
movie "Chocolat", you'll remember she added spices to different
chocolates to stimulate sexual desires.
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(12 STEAMY Days…..last page!)
 Honey Do List : Instead of the ordinary long list of honey do
projects that you normally give him around this time, give him a
surprise one that won’t require a tool box, but may still require his
muscles. Give him a list of "needs" you have.
 Romantic bath…….for two
 Glow in the dark stars and picnic in bed
 Give him play money and do a strip tease ("Santa Baby" by
Madonna good song)
 Have a hands-free night. Touch and arouse your partner with your
other body parts...your breasts, your hair, your nose, your mouth,
your legs, your feet....
 Keep him thinking about you! Check out an erotic book from the
library and pick out a steamy chapter. When you get home, call him
at work on his voice mail(this is important!) Slowly read a paragragh
from your chapter, stopping at a very interesting place. Then tell
him you'll call back with the rest of the story in an hour. Do this
every hour. The last hour tell him you can't wait for him to get
home. He will be dying to check his voice mail! See if he doesn't
sprint home! (This would be good for you 50 Shades ladies!)
 Have him come home at a certain time. Leave a trail of short notes
that instruct him where to go next. Along the way he'll pick up the
sensual necessities (wine, glasses, whip cream, strawberries, etc.).
The last clue should lead him to the room where you are waiting in
lingerie with candles lit and music playing.
 Sexy photo shoot with your firefighter as the cameraman. Wrap the
camera as a gift to open. When he looks at you all
confused....explain. Pose.
 All Tied Up In A Bow: tie his hands with ribbon or tie to bedpost. He
only gets to watch.
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