GAY’S THE WORD
LESBIAN & GAY BOOKSHOP
COMING-OUT BOOKS
Is it a choice?
Answers to 300 of The Most
Frequently Asked Questions About
Gay and Lesbian People
Eric Marcus
Excellent book which covers all the
issues. Comprehensive and broad.
Classic bestseller on this issue.
Highly recommended. £11.99
What If Someone I Know Is Gay?
Eric Marcus
Written for teens this fully updated
and revised book answers such
questions as ‘If you think your
friend is a lesbian, can you ask her?”
Or “how do people become gay?”
Or “Is it a sin…is it a choice?”
£7.99
And Then I Became Gay
– Young Men’s Stories
Ritch Savin-Williams
“The stories that Savin-Williams
retells are poignant and diverse and
his analysis of them is interesting
and provocative. Together, they
demolish the existing stereotypes of
gay male development and replace
these stereotypes with real life
stories” £17.99
The Lesbian Kama Sutra
Kat Harding
Celebrating the love between
women with clear empowering text
and photographs, this offers a frank
and open discussion of the lesbian
sexual experience. £14.99
My Guy
A Gay Man’s Guide
to a Lasting Relationship
Martin Kantor
Wish you were in a happy
relationship? This book offers an
honest, constructive approach to
having lifelong love and
companionship. £9.99
The Velvet Rage
– Overcoming the Pain of Growing
Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World
Alan Downs
A by-product of growing up gay can
be the internalisation of shame and
that can lead to negative behavioural
patterns. This book outlines three
distinct stages to emotional wellbeing for gay men, offering
profoundly helpful strategies to stop
the insidious cycle of avoidance and
self-defeating behaviour and find
self-empowerment. £11.99
Lipstick & Dipstick's
Daggett & Belge
Lipstick is the femme; dipstick is the
butch. Together they know
everything about finding and
maintaining successful lesbian
relationships. In this definitive guide
they offer up their own brand of
punchy, pithy advice. £9.99
Early Embraces
True Stories of Women Describing
Their First Lesbian Experience
Lindsey Elder [Ed]
Another excellent real-life collection
of personal stories revealing the
multitude of ways women discover
and fulfil their fantasies and desires.
Hugely popular. 3 volumes. £9.99
per volume
Becoming Gay
Richard A. Isay
Fully revised and updated this is the
classic guide on how to accept one's
homosexuality. Using personal case
histories Dr. Isay shows how
disguising one's sexual identity can
induce anxiety, depression and low
self-esteem. Chapters tackle
acceptance in any stage or
circumstance of life and the embrace
of positive gay identity. £11.99 Also
available Being Homosexual - Gay
Men & Their Development, £11.99
Girl Meets Girl
-A Dating Survival Guide
Diana Cage
The fun and breezy guide to all
things dyke amour. Decode the
secret language of dyke dating
including relationship myths
debunked, where to cruise, straight
girl desires, dating a sex protocol
and finally couple and how to be
one. £9.99
Coming Out of Shame
Transforming
Gay and Lesbian Lives
Gershen Kaufman & Lev Raphael
Explores the powerful role that
shame has can come to play in the
development of self-esteem, identity
and intimacy in the lives of lesbians
and gays. Includes strategies for
empowerment and creating a
positive gay identity. £14.99
Boys Like Us
Gay Writers Tell Their
Coming Out Stories
Patrick Merla [Ed]
In stunning essays especially written
for this collection, 29 noted gay
writers recount their true ‘coming
out’ stories, intensely personal
histories of that primal process by
which men come to terms with their
desire for other men. Contributors
include Samuel R. Delany and
Edmund White. £12.99
Now That I’m Out What Do I Do?
Brian McNaught
A warmly affirmative and honest
first-person account. “If you’ve ever
felt that you didn’t quite fit in,
weren’t gay in the right way, had
concerns that you didn’t hear other
gay or lesbian people talking about,
this courageous personal account of
a journey to self will give you the
perspective that you are not likely to
find elsewhere.” £9.99
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Gay’s the word: Coming out book list
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My Husband Is Gay
A Woman’s Guide
to Surviving the Crisis
Carol Grever
Includes 26 women’s personal
experiences. After 30 years of
marriage, Carol Grever’s husband
told her he was gay. This disclosure
led her on a five year, soulsearching journey, culminating in
this road-map for women in similar
situations. £9.99
From Boys To Men
Gay Men Write About
Growing Up Gay
T. Gideonse & R. Williams [Ed]
A stunning collection of essays and
memoirs about what it is like to be
gay, young, to be different and to be
aware of that difference from the
earliest of ages. A book more about
coming of age than coming out.
Often funny, raw and deeply
moving. £12.99
Living Two Lives
Married to a Man
& In Love With a Woman
Joanne Fleisher
A guide to help married women
navigate their journey of awakening:
from initial feelings of same-sex
attraction, coming out to husbands
and children, managing the roller
coaster of emotions, developing a
support system, executing the
awkward phases of dating to finally
moving into a new chapter of life.
£10.99
A Woman Like That
Lesbian and Bisexual Writers Tell
Their Coming Out Stories
Joan Larkin
This collection of literate, intensely
personal essays – sometimes heartwrenching, often exhilarating –
illuminates the breath and variety of
experiences known as ‘coming-out’.
Contributors include Pat Califia and
Heather Lewis. £11.99
Lesbian Sex
101 Lovemaking Positions
Jude Schell
Ever heard the question, but what do
lesbians actually do in bed? Well
the answer is hundreds of different
things and this deliciously sexy little
book of high quality photos and sexposition descriptions prove it! Our
favourites are position 72 (Pussy
Pilates) and 76 (Tongue and
Groove) £12.99 HB
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Gay’s the word: Coming out book list
Hello Cruel World
101 Alternatives to Suicide for
Teens, Freaks & Other Outlaws
Kate Bornstein
Celebrated transgender trailblazer
Bornstein bravely shares personal
and unorthodox methods of survival
for navigating an often cruel world.
A one-of-a-kind guide to staying
alive outside the box, a much
needed unconventional approach to
life for those who want to stay on
the edge, but alive. £10.99 RP
The Transgender Child
A Handbook for
Families and Professionals
S. Brill and R. Pepper
What do you do when your son
insists on wearing a dress to school?
Or when your toddler daughter’s
first sentence is that she’s a boy?
Offering an extensive understanding
of gender-variant and transgender
youth this groundbreaking book
covers developmental, legal,
medical and school issues. £9.99
10 Smart Things Gay Men Can
Do To Improve Their Lives
Joe Kort
Does what it says on the tin! This
empowering books provides 10
positive steps gay men can take to
identify and overcome self-defeating
behaviours and move towards a
healthier and more rewarding life.
Very popular. £10.99
Queer Facts
M. Baker & S. Tropiano
The essential almanac of all things
pink, Queer Facts is the fabulous
and fascinating gay and lesbian
trivia book. Packed with dates, facts,
lists and definitions, it is a mine of
information. Fun, informative and
great as gifts. £9.99 (HB)
The No-Nonsense
Guide to Sexual Diversity
Vanessa Baird
A fantastically informative pocketbook guide to sexual diversity from
a global historical perspective,
covering issues such as
homophobia, religion, politics and
science. £6.99
and explores all aspects of a healthy
and varied sex life. Contains frank
and explicit line-drawings. £14.99
USEFUL BOOKS TO GIVE TO PARENTS:
1. Now That You Know
– A Parents’ Guide to
understanding their gay and
lesbian children. An excellent
and recommended classic.
Betty Fairchild & Nancy
Hayward £10.99
2. Beyond Acceptance
– Parents of Lesbian and Gays
Talk About Their Experiences
Provides parents with the
comfort and knowledge they
need to accept their gay
children and build stronger
family relationships.
C.W. Griffin et.al £10.99
3. My Child Is Gay
– A collection of letters
written by parents who have
first-hand experience of the
moment their child reveals
they are gay, written to help
other parents to come to terms
with unfamiliar feelings. Bruce
McDougall [Ed] £9.99
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Gay Man’s Kama Sutra
Terry Sanderson
This books shamelessly celebrates
the pleasures of gay love and sex
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