SEX ADDICTION
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Marie Damgaard
Introduction
 Class Question
 10 Minute Clip
 Types of Sexual
Addiction
 Pornography/Cyberse
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 Love Addiction
 The Making of Addicts
 Arousal Template
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AGENDA
PATRICK CARNES
IS THERE SUCH THING
AS SEX ADDICITON?
“SEXUAL HEALING”
Sexual Addiction Criteria
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This is how we define a
problem area
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It has nothing to do with
“amount” or “number of
times” a person has sex
or masturbates.
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Sexual addiction is a persistent and escalating
pattern or patterns of sexual behaviors acted out
despite increasingly negative consequences to
self or others
SEX ADDICITON
DEFINITION
Sexual Addiction Cycle
Sexual Anorexia Cycle
Belief System
Unmanageability
Belief System
Impaired
Thinking
Unmanageability
Acting Out
Cycle
Anorexia
Cycle
Preoccupation
Despair
Preoccupation
Ritualization
Sexual Compulsivity
Impaired
Thinking
Despair
Copyright: P.Carnes
Distance
Strategies
Sexual Aversion
THE MAKING OF
A SEX ADDICT
The Making of a Sex Addict
The Family Component
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Most addicts come
from families with
addicts and most
have less than
optimum
attachment styles
Abuse/Early Trauma
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Most addicts
report some type
of abuse during
childhood.
TYPES OF
SEX ADDICTION
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Sexually charged
fantasies,
relationships and
situations.
Arousal depends
on sexual
possibility
FANTASY SEX
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Seduction of
partners.
Arousal is
based on
conquest and
diminishes
rapidly after
initial contact
SEDUCTIVE ROLE SEX

Visual arousal.
The use of
visual
information to
escape into
obsessive
trance.
VOYEURISTIC SEX
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Attracting attention
to body or sexual
parts of the body.
Sexual arousal
stems from reaction
of viewer, whether
shock or interest
EXHIBITIONISTIC SEX
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Purchase of sexual
services. Arousal is
connected to payment
for sex and with time
the arousal actually
becomes connected to
money itself.
PAYING FOR SEX
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Selling or bartering sex
for power. Arousal is
based on gaining control
of others by using sex as
leverage
TRADING SEX

Boundary violation
without discovery. Sexual
arousal occurs by violating
boundaries with no
repercussions.
INTRUSIVE SEX
High-risk sex with
Unknown persons.
Arousal involves
No Seduction or
Cost And is Immediate
ANONYMOUS SEX

Being humiliated or hurt
as part of sexual arousal;
or sadistic hurting or
degrading another
sexually, or both.
PAIN EXCHANGE SEX
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Exploitation of the
vulnerable. Arousal
patterns are based on
target “types” of
vulnerability.
EXPLOTIVE SEX

“When
God made Adam, he said, “Adam, I
have good and bad news for you; the good
news is that I gave you both a brain and a
penis. The bad news is that I'm afraid I gave
you only enough blood to work one at a
time."
THE ACCELERATOR
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“…increased availability
of the Internet has led
some researchers to
examine the effects
excessive usage has on an
individual’s social,
emotional, cognitive, and
physical development.”
INTERNET
Watson, J. C. (2005). Internet addiction diagnosis and assessment implications for counselors. Journal of Professional Counseling:
Practice, Theory, & Research, 33, 17-30.
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“Given the widespread
availability of sexually
explicit materials online,
Internet sex addiction is
the most common form of
problem online behavior
among users.”
Young, K. S. (2008). Internet sex addiction: Risk factors, stages of development, and treatment. American Behavioral Scientist, 52, 2137.
CYBERSEX
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Accessing online pornography and audio,
video, and text stories.
 Real time with a fantasy partner
 Other Cybersex venues (similar to social
networking sites and portable devices such as
Blackberries, iPhones, PSPs)
 Multimedia software

What is Cybersex?
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Preoccupation with sex on the Net-people become
irritable because they can’t access the Net
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Frequently engaging in sex to escape from problems
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Repeated unsuccessful efforts to cutback or stop
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Restlessness or irritability when attempting to stop
Cybersex Addiction
Criterion
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Internet Sex is
the “crackcocaine” of sexual
compulsivity
Al Cooper, PhD.
PORNOGRAPHY
79% unwanted exposure in home
 Mobile porn is rising
 39% teens clear hx browser
 16% create private e-mail
 43% close browser @ parents steps
 11% unlock/disable filtering controls
 52% teens given out personal info
 1 in 4 teens have hand held with internet
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STATISTICS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s
WXqSFuIXSc
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“Sexual acting out online
has been shown to
manifest in similar offline behavior. People
who already were sex
addicts find the internet
accelerates their
problem. Those who
start in the on-line
behavior quickly start to
act out in new ways offline”.
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There has been a shift; in patient
treatment facilities report female
population has equaled and
sometimes exceeded male clients
- Other large studies of internet sex
in which problematic cybersex
behaviour by women was over
(40%)
Male: “behaviours that objectify
their partners and require little
emotional involvement” –
anonymous sex, prostitution,
pornography, exhibitionish and
frotteurism
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Women: “behaviours that
distort power – either in
gaining control over others or
being a victim” – sexual
conquest, working as
prostitutes and sadomasochism
However, more recently there
has been a shift in women’s
behavior. There is an increase
in “male” types behavior:
pornography collections,
aggressiveness in approaching
sexual partners, voyeurism
SEX ADDICTION
PATTERNS
15 year old; Ontario
 (3) Female high school teachers
escalating due to online games; Quebec
& Ontario/NY & Michigan
 American Cases of young people being
charged with child pornography
 Amanda Todd
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CASE STUDIES
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“88% of self-made sexual or
suggestive images and videos
posted by young people, often on
social networking sites, are taken
from their original online location
and uploaded on to other
websites.”
October 22, 2012 – guardian.co.uk - Internet Watch Foundation
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Addictive Love is a reliance on someone or
something external to the self in an attempt to
get unmet needs fulfilled, avoid fear or
emotional pain, reenact trauma, solve problems,
and maintain balance. The paradox is that
addictive love is an attempt to gain control of our
lives, and in so doing, we go out of control by
giving personal power to someone or something
other than ourselves.
LOVE
ADDICITON?

Addictive love is an
unconscious attempt to
satisfy our human hunger
for security, sensation,
power, identity, belonging,
and meaning. It is very
often associated with
feelings of never having
enough or not being
enough.
*Brenda Schaeffer
1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0S642NtHtE
2.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RClo_MuDJRs&playnext=1&list=PL497C53E2524F7034&feature=results_
video
BIBLIOGRAPHY
BIBLIOGRAPHY
12 STEP REFERRAL
COSA (partners)
9337-B Katy Freeway
Suite 142
Houston TX 77024
612-537-6904
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
PO Box 70949
(SLAA)
Houston TX 77270
The Augustine Fellowship
713-869-4902
PO Box 650010
West Newton MA 02165
781-255-8825
S-Anon (partners)
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
PO Box 111910
PO Box 111242
Recovering Couples Anonymous
Nashville TN 37222-1910
Nashville TN 37222
(RCA)
615-331-6230
615-833-3152
PO Box 11029
Old Chelsea Station
Sexual Compulsive Anonymous (SCA)
NY NY 10011
PO Box 1585
NCSAC – The National Office
510-336-3300
Oakland CA 94611
PO Box 725544
800-977-4325
Atlanta, GA 31139
www.addictionresearch.com
770-541-9912
www.sexhelp.com
Sexual Recovery Anonymous (SRA)
www.ncsac.org
www.gentlepath.com
Planetarium Station
www.recoveryzone.com
NY NY 10024
212-340-4650
12 Step Referral Information
and www.help