CHOICES
Name
Lay Person
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• Origins of Life’s Choices
– As a child choices are MADE FOR US
– As teens we begin to make choices as an
expression of our independence
– Most of our choices are learned by
watching others
– As adults, we have total control over the
choices we make based on past
experience, belief or developed patterns
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• Origins of Life’s Choices
– As a child choices are made for us
– As teens we begin to make choices as an
EXPRESSION OF OUR
INDEPENDENCE
– Most of our choices are learned by
watching others
– As adults, we have total control over the
choices we make based on past
experience, belief or developed patterns
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• Origins of Life’s Choices
– As a child choices are made for us
– As teens we begin to make choices as an
expression of our independence
– Most of our choices are learned by
watching others
– As adults, we have total control over the
choices we make based on PAST
EXPERIENCE, BELIEF, DEVELOPED
PATTERNS
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• How Choices Affect our Lives
– We go through life making choices guided by
our past accumulation of learning and
baggage
– What we learn today, coupled with our past
experience, can change the choices we
make for the future.
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• What About Your Choices in Prison?
– On the outside we make around 225
choices per day.
– In prison, the number drops down to 25 per
day.
Your most important choices is how you
will do your time.
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• What About Your Choices in Prison?
– What kind of person do you want to be in here?
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The Loner
The Gang Member
A Connection
Hardhead
Negative Leader
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Choices
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What About Your Choices in Prison?
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Be independent
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Someone who does his time his own way
Open to change and ways to get by without
hassle.
You don’t make any big statements that will
cause you grief.
Kairos - WCI
Choices
• What Do You Do About Choices?
– A choice can be a response to life, not just a
reaction.
– To take control, change needs to take place…
• Move from reacting to events to responding to
those same events.
Kairos - WCI
Choices
WRITE THIS DOWN!
EVENT + REACTION = WHAT YOU GET!
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Choices
• What Do You Do About Choices?
– Looking in retrospect we see the big
picture…Choices in the past have been a
reaction to the conditions around us for the
moment.
– Moving out of the immediate need and
seeing the consequences of our choices can
give new perspective.
– Write this down:
EVENT + RESPONSE = WHAT YOU WANT!
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Choices
• The Outcome Will Be Different
– In order to make significant kinds of change:
• We need to think about ourselves:
– Who we are?
– How do we feel?
• Who and what are important to us?
• The choices in the past and the outcome
• The choices we will make in the future and the
direction we want our lives to go.
Kairos - WCI
Choices
Our choices will determine
the outcome of our life!
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