Believing in Yourself:
Self Confidence
“In order to succeed, your desire
for success should be greater than
your fear of failure.”- Bill Cosby
The Power of Thought
 All behavior begins and ends as
thoughts
 Bad thoughts vs. Good thoughts
 Think-Feel-Act model
Importance of Thoughts
 Thoughts are unavoidable
 Our thoughts influence our actions
 Self-fulfilling prophecy
How thoughts works for you
Think
Act
Feel
How thoughts works for you
I know I am going to
have anxiety
about this and
Think
I know I will do bad
start to make
errorsAct
you might
not of made
You get so
worked up
Feel
you
start
feeling it
How thoughts works for you
 Imagine of a time in the pass where you felt
anxiety.
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What was the situation?
What did it feel like?
What lead up to this feeling?
What was the outcome?
 Let’s look at this closer to see what was
happening in the situation and how you could of
changed the thought that lead to the feelings that
lead to the action that let to the…
I have a test
coming up!
I did not do well
Theon Thought
my last test!
I never do
well on
tests!
The Felling
I am not going
to even try to study
If I study I am
Besides I have studied
going toAction
get more
a lot before and look
The
anxiety
at what good that did
STOP IT BEFORE IT STARTS.
WITH ANXIETY
THERE IS A BUILDUP
TO THE POINT IN WHICH
YOU FEEL AND ACT ON IT!
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my last test!
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to even try to study
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doing well
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change
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and am
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Thought
taking steps to do better
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The Action
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think positive
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doing well
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change and am
The
Thought
taking steps to do better
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think positive
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and what doesn't
at what good that did
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doing well
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change and am
The
Thought
taking steps to do better
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think positive
The Felling
I now can study
Put your thoughts
without feeling
into action
dejected
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Decoding Self-Confidence
 The belief in oneself
 A self-confident person thinks that he or
she can reach a goal or cope with a that
situation
 What happens when confidence is lost?
Learned Helplessness
 Identified by Psychologist Martin
Seligman
 The tendency for humans and animals
alike to become helpless at things they
can not change
 Illustration: Poor dog
So people that are self-confident think
and act differently?!
 While our thoughts affect our confidence,
our behaviors foster it!
 Nothing creates the belief that something
can be done like actually doing that
something!
 Nothing succeeds like Success!
Self-confidence Cycle
Feeling of
Competence
Self-Motivation
Using Strategies
of Success
Self-confidence
Success
Actions
Four Techniques for Building
Self-Confidence
1) Regulate your emotional level
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Being aware of our feelings helps us
recognize what we are thinking
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Reduce the drive to avoid your goal
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Block the fear producer from your
awareness
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Use relaxation techniques
Techniques Con’t
2) Seek Affirmation
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What does Stewart Smally say?
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Works just as well in an academic setting
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Encouragement from
3) Pick the Right Models
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Are women on the cover of Vogue the best
way to judge your own body?
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Pick ones who are similar to yourself-ones
who don’t have an army at there disposal to
get them looking the way they do.
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Maybe even choose a student in class who
you know succeeds and watch how they do
it
4) Just Do It
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What better way is there to convince
yourself of your own capability to cope or
perform successfully than trying it and
having a successful experience!
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Reasonable risk
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