Revenge-Seeking Behaviors Characteristics of Revenge-Seeking Behaviors •Angry students that rarely have good days. •Retaliating for real or imaginary hurts. •Their folders often use the words “mean, vicious, or violent. •Maybe physical or verbal attacks. Revenge-Seeking Types Active forms types: •Direct physical attacks •Indirect physical attacks •Psychological attacks •Verbal attacks •Passive form is withdrawl. How to Identify Revenge-Seeking Behaviors Clue 1: Your emotional gauge is boiling. Clue 2: Our impulsive reaction is to strike back. Clue 3: The student’s response to correction. Revenge-seekers can not change easily or quickly. Revenge-Seeking Origins •Violence is everywhere. •Media. •Students’ Legitimate Needs Prevention Strategies 1.Build caring relationships. 2.Teach appropriate expressions of feelings. 3.Try to derail the behavior before it escalates. 4.Recruit assistance early. Guideline 1: Avoiding and Defusing Confrontations Focus on the Behavior, not the student. •Describe the behavior, don’t evaluate. •Deal with the moment. •Be firm and friendly. Guideline 2: Take Charge of Negative Emotions • Control negative emotions. • Release negative emotions. Guidelines 3: Avoid Escalating the Situation Typical teacher responses that usually backfire. •Raising my voice or yelling. • Saying “I’m the boss.” •Using physical force. •Preaching. •Making assumptions. •Nagging. •Throwing a temper tantrum. Guidelines 4: Discuss Misbehavior Later 1. A firm, direct, and friendly intervention can be held privately. 2. Allow some cool down time for the student and yourself. 3. Ensure the student that you care about them. 4. If you try to correct the behavior during class it will likely escalate. Guidelines 5: Allow Students To Save Face •Students know that you hold the ultimate power. They want their 5 minutes of fame. •By insisting that the student do it your way, you may be igniting another confrontation. Stages of a Classroom Volcano •Rumbling Stage: Make a graceful exit. •Eruption Stage: Use time-out or call for help. •Resolution Stage: Set consequences and conduct a teacher-student conference. Let’s Practice What We’re Learned! In a small group, role play how a teacher can provide an intervention to a student that is a revenge-seeker!