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Abortion Recovery
Mentoring Support
My Vision of God… by Quyhn Thi Vidal
-Presented by Stacy L. Massey
The Message
Then, gathering the children up in His arms,
he laid His hands of blessing on them.
-Mark 10:16 (The Message)
Take the old prophets as your mentors.
They put up with anything, went through
everything, and never once quit,
all the time honoring God.
-James 5:10 (The Message)
Workshop Notes
• This workshop will be posted on the ARIN website
following the conclusion of the conference.
• Feel free to download this information and necessary
forms.
Just What is Mentoring?
• Mentoring helps people achieve personal success.
• Mentors are caring individuals who provide: support,
counsel, friendship and reinforcement.
• Abortion Recovery Mentoring results in authentic
empowerment, on-going healing and enhances the
overall experience for both Mentee and Mentor.
Abortion Recovery
and Mentoring?
• Mentoring relationships can be very rewarding for
both parties.
• They provide opportunity to communicate
experiences of awareness and knowledge.
• Sharing stories, backgrounds, a sporting event or
even a cup of coffee can alter the way we feel
supported during the abortion recovery process.
What Makes Mentoring Work?
• Conducting reasonably intensive screening of
potential mentors
• Making matches based on interests that both the
mentor and the mentee share
• Providing more than six hours of training for mentors
• Offering post-match training and support.
Mentor’s Job Description
Title:
Abortion Recovery Mentor
Purpose:
To support a person, negatively affected by
an abortion, through the recovery process.
Duties:
M
Motivate
E
N
T
O
R
Encourage
Nurture
Touch the mentees’ heart
Offer Support
Role model for Christ – BE ONE!
Mentor’s Qualifcations
Qualifications:
• A willing listener
• Encouraging and supportive
• Patient and flexible
• Tolerant and respectful of individual/cultural
differences
• Committed to the relationship, abortion recovery
process and time required
Mentor’s Committments
Time Commitment:
• One hour initial interview
• Six hours+ of initial training in after abortion trauma
issues
• Two-three hours each week during the abortion
recovery process for mentee/mentor communication.
• Further training in related topics: sexual abuse,
addictions, co-dependency, etc.
• Optional mentor/mentee events and meetings
Benefits to Mentor
• Fulfillment through contribution to the mentee and
the group overall (as well as to society and
community)
• Satisfaction in helping someone work through the
shame, guilt and grief from a past abortion
• Better compassion and understanding toward those
wounded by abortion
• A greater insight to the different trauma abortion
leaves behind
• Continued steps of personal healing as they hold
someone else’s hand.
Benefits to Mentee
• A partner/couple to support their journey through the
abortion recovery process.
• A big sister/brother/couple who has personally
experienced the trauma issues first hand.
• Having a mentor who knows the expectations of the
“work” required in the curriculum / bible study.
• Witnesses a role model for Christ. Maybe led to the Lord
if not already a Christian.
• Gains networking opportunities, improved
communication skills and diversity awareness.
Benefits to AR Center / Program
• Ongoing support for women/men/couples going
through the abortion recovery process.
• Continues the opportunity to group members to
experience expanded healing.
• Creates an opportunity for “mentors” to consider
assisting in the abortion recovery program as a
co-leader or eventually lead their own group.
• Thus an expansion of abortion recovery centers /
programs within your community. Yippeee! 
Mentor Application Process
• Fill out Mentor Application and sign Confidentiality
Statement
• Provide 2 written references with application
• Interview with Abortion Recovery Center
Director/Specialist and Volunteer Staff member/s
• If selected, attend ARMS Program Orientation
• Complete 6 hours of initial Mentor training
Sample Mentor Application
Sample Mentee Application
When Matching –
Also Consider…
• God’s Input
• Levels of commitment
• Shared areas of interest
• Balanced Expectations
• Mutually Respectful Relationship
• Open, Two-way Communication
• Conflict Resolution Strategies
Orientation Night
• Have selected Mentors at your orientation night
welcoming new abortion recovery clients.
• A few Mentors should share their personal abortion
story and how the recovery process changed their
lives.
• Match up Mentee and Mentor for a “get-to-know-you”
type activity.
• Share the Abortion Recovery Phone/Email List for your
group at the end of your orientation night.
What Not to Expect…
• Don’t expect the first “team” to be a good fit
– If the initial relationships do not work,
don’t get frustrated
– Have a back-up person who can step in
• Don’t expect immediate results or “bonding”
– Getting to know a person is a gradual process
• Don’t expect the mentee to be the main “contact
person”
– The mentor should be the primary “caller” in the
beginning
You Determine
The Accountability
• Abortion Recovery Director, or other leadership team
member needs to check in with the mentors throughout the
recovery process.
• It is advisable to determine a method of communication
between leadership team and mentors.
• Designate a leadership team member to also check in with
mentees periodically.
Mentors at Memorial?
• Consider including the mentors in the Memorial /
Dedication ceremony.
• Abortion Recovery clients should determine whether
this is an option for their group.
• ARIN believes that support group participants should
design their own memorial. Mentors can attend, but
should NOT plan the active group memorial /
dedication ceremonies.
Sample Mentor Evaluation
• List and explain the ways you felt prepared as a Mentor for this
Abortion Recovery Class:
• List and explain the ways you felt unprepared as a Mentor for
this Abortion Recovery Class:
• Did you feel you were able to spend enough time with your
Mentee? What suggestions do you have to facilitate getting
together more throughout the class?
• Do you feel your relationship with your Mentee moved from a
mentoring relationship to a friendship-type relationship? Explain.
• Do you recommend your Mentee become a Mentor him/herself?
If so, in what areas would he/she benefit others?
Summary:
Abortion Recovery Mentoring…
• M: Motivates the overall collabortion of the group
setting
• E
Encourages both mentors and mentee
• N
Nutures the mentoree by coming along side
• T
Touches the heart of both mentor and mentee
• O
Offers support to leaders and mentees
• R
Role model for Christ
Thank You
• Thank you for attending this workshop and any others
on the Abortion Recovery tract.
• We’d appreciate your support of Abortion Recovery
InterNational and our affiliates.
• Other ideas for steps to expand the recovery process
will be listed on the ARIN website following the
Heartbeat Conference.