Hermes Astrology
Astrology and Breaking
Free from
People-Pleasing
Meg Josephson’s Are You Mad at Me? explores a common
survival mechanism called “fawning”—a pattern of constantly
seeking approval and avoiding conflict, often learned in childhood.
The book teaches how to recognize these patterns, release
self-blame, and live authentically. Astrology offers a
complementary lens: your birth chart can reveal the energetic roots
of people-pleasing, boundary struggles, and conflict avoidance.
The Astrology of People-Pleasing
In astrology, certain planetary placements and aspects can
predispose someone to overextend themselves for others:
●​ Moon in mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius,
Pisces): Emotional adaptability can manifest as a tendency
to mirror others’ feelings, sometimes at the expense of your
own needs.​
●​ Cancer Moon or strong 4th house influence: Deeply
nurturing and sensitive, these placements can lead to
prioritizing others’ comfort over personal boundaries.​
●​ Neptune aspects to personal planets (Sun, Moon,
Mercury, Venus): Heightened empathy and idealism may
cause blurred boundaries, making it hard to distinguish your
needs from others’ expectations.​
●​ Venus-Saturn challenges: Difficulty asserting desires in
relationships, fear of rejection, or overcompensation to earn
love and approval.​
●​ Chiron placements: Wounds around identity, worthiness, or
acceptance often drive people-pleasing as a coping
mechanism.​
Recognizing these patterns astrologically can provide clarity: your
tendencies aren’t flaws—they are energetic habits waiting to be
understood and consciously redirected.
Conflict, Boundaries, and Planetary Timing
Josephson emphasizes that conflict is not inherently
dangerous—learning to lean back and set healthy boundaries is
key. Astrology can guide timing and self-awareness:
●​ Mars transits: Energy for asserting boundaries and taking
decisive action.​
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●​ Saturn transits: Lessons in responsibility, discipline, and
self-respect—especially when saying “no” feels
uncomfortable.​
●​ Pluto transits: Deep transformational energy that can
uncover hidden patterns of self-sacrifice or fear, helping you
release them permanently.​
●​ Venus cycles: Opportunities to explore relational dynamics
and attract people who honor your authenticity.​
By aligning with these energies, people-pleasing behaviors can
shift from unconscious survival mechanisms to conscious choices.
From Fawning to Authenticity
Josephson’s guidance is about reclaiming your power while
maintaining empathy. Astrology mirrors this journey: by
understanding your Moon, Venus, and Chiron patterns, you can
respond to others with compassion without losing yourself. You
learn to:
●​ Honor emotional needs (Moon)​
●​ Assert desires (Mars and Venus)​
●​ Heal identity wounds (Chiron)​
●​ Navigate relational power with awareness (Saturn and Pluto)​
This is not about suppressing kindness—it’s about transforming it
into a choice rather than a compulsion.
Final Thought
Are You Mad at Me? reminds us that the path to joy begins with
self-awareness and courage. Astrology provides the map: by
seeing the energetic patterns that underlie people-pleasing and
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boundary struggles, you can reclaim your voice, stand firm in your
truth, and cultivate authentic relationships.
When awareness meets timing, fawning transforms into
freedom—and living authentically becomes a natural expression of
your chart.
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