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“Tease To Please”
The Absolute Best Techniques To Talk To Women – Insanely
Powerful Strategies To Hit A Grand Slam In Every
Conversation
By Carlos Xuma
Author, “Master Attraction Blueprints: How To Talk To Women”
http://derekrake.com/carlosxuma
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Introduction by Derek Rake
Welcome.
You should already know by now that certain behavior in men
attracts women to them like bees to honey. Once you’re committed to
making your personality shine and letting go of your inhibitions, you
can start practicing your skills around women.
You know all about being cocky and funny; or having the
confidence to take the first step when approaching girls. Now it’s time
to put all that into practice… using a simple step-by-step formula
which you’re going to learn here in this short report.
Carlos Xuma will show you how you can meet more women in
your daily life, and how you can turn any interaction into something
that will lead to a romantic adventure.
Use his killer “Tease To Please” technique… and you will know
exactly what to say to a woman to make her go head over heels in
love with you.
Turn the page…
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“Tease To Please” by Carlos Xuma
Your ability to strike a conversation with any girl is your
gateway to getting more experience in the social scene, being
more confident and getting laid more.
Soon, you will be unlocking more opportunities to meet more
people. You see, it doesn’t stop with one interaction. If a girl you meet
introduces you to her friends and they in turn introduce you to more
people, it won’t be long before you’re neck deep in phone numbers
and invitations to meet up.
On the contrary, if you choose to limit the number of women you
will meet, you’re going to develop the tendency to hang on to these
few women, as if your life depended on not being dumped.
You see what I’m getting at here? Guys who are clingy and
needy are the ones with the mindset that they might never find other
women to date, so they end up desperate for the girls they already
know. Don’t go there.
Instead, do what you can to be the go-to guy for dates and lays.
Be the guy who can make any woman smile in response with his
irresistible charm.
Let’s start by understanding the principles involved in meeting
women anywhere and anytime.
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You might be asking, “Anytime and anyplace? Do I have the time
for that?” I hear you.
Right now, the general misconception is that guys have to beat
around the bush before getting a woman to open up in conversation.
The truth is, if you have about 4 minutes (or less) to spare, you can
talk to women, build a connection right there, and open the doors to
more intimate encounters later.
This approach will work ANYWHERE. And, no it won’t require a
complicated hypnosis routine or a secret handshake.
What you want to do is to bust her resistance barriers early.
What exactly are these barriers? First, we have the aversion to being
picked up.
Women can sense that a guy is trying to pick her up and
puts up a cold front because she’s bracing herself for what she
thinks is coming. This is the factory default that women (particularly
the beautiful ones) have.
There are ways to make her drop her guard and treat you
differently from the 'strange' men who usually come on to her. And
here are some of these.
Tip #1: Approach Immediately
Spotting a woman, approaching her and saying something to
engage her in conversation takes only 3 seconds. Beyond this, her
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guard will go up and you’re going to blow your chance of getting her
while her guard is down.
What can you do in that short period? Do this…
Look for something to comment on. It can be something she’s
wearing. Start with her footwear, her clothes and her accessories. Do
not choose a physical trait like big earlobes or breasts. In particular,
do not mention her general attractiveness. This is the mistake most
men make.
That thing becomes your anchor. Once you have it, you can
comment on it and smile. Make sure your eye contact is strong and
your manner is natural. If you want to practice, do it in a mall. You
know how interaction goes there.
You spot something of interest and you ask someone about it as
soon as you can. There’s nothing threatening about the topic, and the
most important part is that you’re making the other person feel “safe”
talking about something that’s only mildly related to her.
Here’s an example. If she’s wearing bright orange shoes, say
"Wow, those are ... interesting shoes. My younger sister might like a
pair like that. Where'd you get them...?" If you don't have a sister, you
can use 'Cousin' or ‘Mom’. You don't have to lie. You absolutely don’t
want her to think you fooled her when after a time she asks about
your ‘younger sister’ again.
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If she says, "Oh, I got it at Macy's", look at the item again like
you can’t decide or something like that. If you got this far, you
shouldn’t revert back to the old flattery routine like, “it goes so well
with your eyes."
Tip #2: Involve Her in a Conversation Immediately
Acting like you want to flatter her will set off the alarm bells
inside her head. It shows her that you’re screaming for approval and
that you’re desperate to say anything to get her to notice.
A compliment this early in your interaction with a girl brings on a
fleeting sense of thrill – it’s nice for a while then it makes her
suspicious ten-fold.
At this point, your goal is to serve a PROMISE in front of her
first. What sort of promise? The promise that you’re there to talk
about something that isn’t sexual in nature.
You *almost* show her a look of inconvenience; something that
she won’t relate to pick up, or to the sleazy hook up strategies that
she’s so used to from other guys.
From her perspective, you’re simply someone who went out of
your way to talk to her about her shoes, or her denim skirt. The more
she thinks your motives for approaching are safe, the less resistance
she’s going to put up.
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Basically, you’re structuring the interaction so that her next
thought will be: "I wonder if he’s saying he likes my dress. He didn't
say."
From there on out, you will be able to get into the Tease portion
of the conversation. All you need to do is keep her into the
conversation for a minute or two. Do this as confidently as you can,
and you will be able to walk off with her number in your hand.
Next, you might be asking, "What if there's remarkable about
her? She’s wearing nondescript clothing and there’s an absence of any
accessory that’s worth mentioning."
The answer is simple: make something up.
Tip #3: Make Something Up
Remember, you can tell at a glance that there is ALWAYS
something on her that you can comment on. Don’t worry if you can’t
see a brand name anywhere. Find an item to comment on, and make
something up along the way.
Think about it. She's got clothes on, and you can bet she will be
wearing something else (shoes, lipstick etc). Don’t be picky with the
item to talk about. Remember that it’s not about the item, it’s about
getting her in a conversation.
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If you have to be really specific about something, I recommend
looking for jewelry first. This is because every woman puts more effort
to pick out a piece that goes with her ensemble.
Tip #4: Use A Negative-Hit
Resistance and defense mechanisms are higher and
tougher for very attractive girls. Because of this, you have to adopt
a slightly different strategy when approaching an extraordinarily
attractive girl.
Wondering how to classify what’s plain and what’s really
gorgeous? Look at one spread of Cosmo and take a good look at the
models on there. These are the women you really want, and if you see
one like her, you have to pounce with your arsenal of approach skills.
Let’s talk about the combination of negative-hit and the method
we described above. I recommend that you use this method
exclusively on hot girls, or the ones who are used to being
approached.
When you're relaxed and can use the combo method at will, it
makes everything you say more natural.
You just remember one thing, and it's so simple you won’t be
able to forget it:
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"Your dress/shoes/blouse/jacket/purse (whatever) caught my
eye. The style is great, but I think it’s better in black.“ (modify the
color accordingly)
You say this while meeting her eyes full-on.
Her head will be filled with all that she heard from others about
the certain color she chose. "Really? But everyone said this is the best
color for me. What do you mean?"
By using this combination of approaches, you flip her resistance
switch in your favor. She starts wanting to find a reason to trust you,
and she quickly responds to you like she would a friend.
She lowers her guard some more and begins smiling back,
discussing the benefits of mauve shoes and whatever else is in season
with you. When you get to this point, you’re in.
Posing as a non-lover for now will make your whole approach
neutral, and get her wondering whether you’re safe or not. The more
you argue your point, the more she feels that you might not be as
interested in hooking up with her as she initially thought.
In conclusion, she thinks you’re safe enough to talk to, for now.
And, from here on out, you’re going to focus on how to be
INTERESTING to her.
Maybe for the first few times, you’re going to be awkward with
using these approaches. But work your way until you reach a comfort
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zone that will enable you to use the line I taught you effortlessly, like
you’ve been doing it forever.
Heck, I would even recommend the first part ("Where'd you get
xxxx, my sister might like that ...") to practice with, and thank her
then walk away.
The point is to get used to just talking to any woman up
front, without putting pressure on yourself. For the first week or
two, do this and I can guarantee that you will get use to the reality
that will not reject you like you’ve always imagined.
Witty and clever conversation need not be your goal for now,
just take whatever comes to mind after you’ve looked her over and
found something to talk about. Take any topic and turn it into
something unique or interesting and expound on that.
In a sense, you take her mind off the mentality that you’re
picking her up. And, in turn, making her want to validate her likability
to you. This is the foremost concept that the whole "TEASE TO
PLEASE" method is built on.
Keep it simple and workable. While other guys will spend all
their time and energy thinking of conversation starters, you will be
using a very effective method that will build initial trust and get you
going.
One more thing… I suggest that you practice as you go along.
You see, most guys will take an approach try to negate the benefits of
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the method before finally putting it to use. Just apply the concept in
different scenarios, and you’ll find out that it works every time.
Just remember to keep things light, and allow yourself to be
funny. Women will notice your sense of humor and go along with it, as
long as you aren’t insulting, and you’re comfortable with being funny.
Humor and a well-mannered stance are universally effective. All
you have to do is to search around for a girl you like, find something
to talk about (anchor) and start a conversation. In a few minutes
you’re ready to TEASE…
Tip #5: Make It Fun
We learned the very basics of interaction when we were kids.
Remember when you used to tease girls while playing in the sandbox?
Remember how they teased you back? It may be a long time ago, but
the principle of teasing still holds for many of us. We’re all kids at
heart anyway, whether we care to admit or not.
I'm willing to bet that all throughout middle school up to high
school, the girls you loved to tease were the ones you liked best. Of
course, the initial reaction is that the girl will stand her ground and
tease back.
You may not have realized it at that time, but this is the very
foundation of what we call a challenge.
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You challenge a woman into responding to you, and more often
than not, she does (with more passion than you can imagine).
Teasing is all about making her pride rankle a bit, so that
she’ll try her best to prove herself to you. It’s also a way of
showing her that you’re no sissy when it comes to exchanging banter.
You’re confident that you can keep at it without crying to mommy.
And, in the end, both of you will think the whole exchange is
kind of funny, somewhat stupid, and over-all, a lot of fun.
Tip #6: Stick With a Simple Strategy
By teasing a girl, you show a boatload of self-confidence. You
demonstrate that you’re someone who can dish a joke, and take one
in stride.
Some call this attitude cocky. Some call it humorous. And, some
others call it cocky confidence. Call it what you want. It’s an attitude
that works.
You’re calling the shots; you’re leading the way to progressive,
seductive interaction, and skillfully showing her you have the attitude
to pounce back and not roll over and pant like a whipped dog every
time a woman like her says so.
So let’s suppose you delivered your introduction and now you
are in a position to keep the conversation going. You've disarmed her
tendency to be defensive and opened the doors to getting her
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interested in you. You can crank up the attraction by making her feel
that she has to prove herself to you. Do this through Teasing.
For instance, she's got a huge pair of red shades on. You say:
"Wow, that’s and ... interesting… pair of shades. My sister might like a
pair like that. Where'd you get them...?"
She might say: "Oh, these? I got them at Macy's. They're really
old. I was looking to get a new pair."
You can tease her by saying: "Well, my sister is pretty young,
but she'd love that style. For an OLDER lady though ... (PAUSE) ...
you're pretty trendy."
Next, you smile at her as if to say "That’s a joke."
You can use this template for now, but you'll have to think fast
on your feet if her response varies. The point is that you can
customize this to fit your conversation and tease a girl the way she
likes to be teased.
You can deliver any line with a sly smile. Here are some
examples.
If she’s wearing stiletto heels, say…
"Well, with elevated heels like that, you’d better be careful not to
bump your head on a low-flying plane."
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"Those heels are sharp. How many feet have you crushed with
those things? "
If she’s wearing an ornate ring, say:
"Well, my sister loves those types of rings, too. Do you also own
a mood ring? I bet you have one to suit your mood.”
“What is it about having cold hand and wearing blue rings?”
"My sister wears a toe ring like that. Girls who wear those are
pretty cool, except when they have a matching pair on their pierced
butt cheeks. (pause) Wait, don’t tell me yours are pierced.”
"Wow, that ring is HUMONGOUS. It’s pretty hard to swim with
that thing, I bet.”
The list goes on and on. You can probably think of better ones
when you’re on scene and eyeing a girl who’s wearing a pair of hoop
earrings or feather-patterned fishnets.
Now, tell me. Doesn't it feel awesome to have something to dish
out whenever and wherever you meet women?
Remember, the key to this thing is to stick with what’s fun, not
with what could insult the other person.
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Anyone who is said to have a tongue-in-cheek sense of humor
can pull this off easily. If your style isn’t like that, give yourself a few
weeks to practice.
You want to banter with her. Spend a few minutes talking to
her like that to increase rapport. You’re making fun of her and she’s
doing the same with you. You’re both smiling and laughing at your
antics.
Because you’re making her feel great, there’s no chance at all
that she will resist when you ask to continue the interaction sometime
later. You see, it’s rare to meet men who can pull off something like
that in a jiffy, and you can bet she will want more of that from you in
another place and time.
So here’s the “Tease To Please” method in a nutshell…
A) Get a conversation started
B) Challenge her and get her laughing
C) Offer to meet sometime to continue your chat
If after you joke with her for a while, you think she’s worth
dating, go for her number. But do this in a way that will make her
wonder if she will ever see you again. Smile and start to turn around
as if to leave, then turn right back and say "Hey, write down your
number for me. We can talk more about this some other time."
Alternatively, say "Hey, you know, I might like to continue this
conversation sometime. Write down your email address for me."
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If she asks for a pen, give her yours (make sure you have one).
If she says she doesn't have email, tease her by saying, "No email?
You must have been living under a rock in the internet age" Smile.
As she starts writing, say: "That’s your REAL number, right.”
Smile and leave. Leave her wondering whether or not you will call.
That’s all there is to it. Make her feel that you’re a great guy,
make her understand that she’s going to put up with your fun teasing
(and that you can take it when she teases back), have fun with her
and get her digits.
You can do this off the clubs during the day, when all the women
are around you in coffee shops and shopping malls. You’re going to get
ahead of all the men around just by learning this method. It won’t do
to simply limit your game in bars, at night. What matters is you have
something to use on women whenever an opportunity to meet one
opens up for you.
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Here’s to your success with women,
Author, “Master Attraction Blueprints: How To Talk To Women”
http://www.derekrake.com/carlosxuma
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