The Tinder Code
The Tinder Code
Contents
Welcome to The Tinder Code ............................................................................................................... 3
PART ONE - DESIGNING YOUR PROFILE TO GET THE BEST MATCHES ..................................................... 5
Identify the density of your city, to find the perfect match! .................................................................... 5
Identify target personality to find the matches you really want! ............................................................. 6
Profile Picture’s that’ll Make her Swipe Right ........................................................................................ 10
Taglines, that will entice her and keep her interested: .......................................................................... 19
PART TWO - THE ART OF CONVERSATION .......................................................................................... 22
Swiping theory ........................................................................................................................................ 22
Engaging Principles that will make you irresistible to her: ..................................................................... 25
HOOKS; To get her and keep her on the line. ......................................................................................... 26
Attractive Qualities That Every Girl looks For ......................................................................................... 27
Psychology and Physiology; Understand a Woman`s Mind .................................................................... 28
Your Role; Leading The Dance ................................................................................................................ 30
Easy to Learn Conversation Principal’s. .................................................................................................. 32
Openings; that will keep her waiting for your next text ......................................................................... 33
Canned Openers...................................................................................................................................... 35
Banter Basics ........................................................................................................................................... 37
The Catch and Release Principle ............................................................................................................. 43
Calibrating a Dating Cadence; How to keep Her in the Dance ............................................................... 45
Is she into you? Reading her: .................................................................................................................. 46
PART THREE - THE MEETUP ................................................................................................................ 48
The Meet up (Close The Deal) -............................................................................................................... 48
Three Meeting Places that will get you laid!! ......................................................................................... 49
How to instantly form a Great First Impression, that will leave her wanting more! .............................. 51
Moments; Taking advantage of this great new feature like no one else ............................................... 53
Organic Salad Recipe: (Mostly Organic) .................................................................................................. 57
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Welcome to The Tinder Code
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his e book will be your road map to cracking the Tinder Code and finally finding
exactly what you are looking for in your dating world. A vast amount of research
into the minds and expectations of women in the online dating world as well as a
wide array of psychological techniques applicable to Tinder will be revealed to you. In this
comprehensive easy to use guide we will introduce you to effective profile design, the
science of conversation and a foolproof meetup approach all specialized toward engaging
with the female mind. We will provide you with a sophisticated and advanced repertoire
of skills that will not only be applicable in the online dating world but that will give you
confidence in your everyday personal life as well.
As you progress your way through each chapter you will notice goal oriented tips, “Sex
Tips” These are specifically designed to streamline your Tinder experience in the direction
of the bedroom. Bottom line; girls are interested in sex as much as you are. The goal is
not to cajole women into having sex with you but instead to present yourself as a viable
sexual option. Women want sex! Establish yourself as a high value male worth engaging
her sexual fantasies with and she will follow suite. The key to this is identifying her wants
and needs.
“In our daily life, our thinking is 99 percent self centered.”
-Zen Master Shunryu Suzuki
One of the most important things to understand is that all people are exceptionally
narcissistic creatures, yourself included. To have the most success it is crucial that you
recognize these narcissistic tendencies in both yourself and the other person. Identifying
this self-absorption in others and influencing it will lead to more Tinder success than you
can handle. People’s choices are all dictated by what will benefit them the most as
individuals in both the short and long term.
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Being able to adapt and help play to these human necessities is key to understanding and
succeeding in a dating environment, it is therefore important to constantly be learning to
adapt and improve both your online and personal engagements.
Learning to engage with women and fine-tuning your approach on Tinder is a skill, like
anything else. It doesn’t matter if you are looking for sexual encounters, love, romance or
just fun. Once you have mastered this precise format of techniques and tricks you will be
able to easily transfer from a virtual connection to a personal one. You will witness this
change manifest itself in whatever type of relationship you are looking for, whether it be
sexual or something more.
The internet and advancing technology is changing our lives every day. We now live in a
world where one income is no longer enough to sustain the financial requirements of a
family household, subsequently the amount of singles in their twenties and thirties are
increasing as people attempt to establish themselves financially before establishing a
relationship. Ultimately sex is an innate human requirement for a healthy lifestyle, and
online dating sites, Tinder specifically, is helping to assist this need. As time is becoming
more and more valuable and our schedules become more and more full, dating apps like
Tinder are becoming more of the rule than the exception. That doesn’t mean however,
that traditional dating tactics like wingmen, are becoming obsolete. In fact having a Tinder
Wingman is as useful as having a wingman at your local bar.
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PART ONE - DESIGNING YOUR PROFILE TO GET THE BEST
MATCHES
Identify the density of your city, to find the perfect match!
Identifying the density of your city is key to ensuring a high success rate, with your Tinder
experience. If you are in a location where people are spread out over a vast distance, such
as a town with 100,000 people, you want to set the distance of your radius to 100 km +.
This allows you to cast a wide enough net that you’re chances of matching with a person
that suits what you are looking for is significantly increased.
If you are in a dense city, such as a downtown core, you want to set your radius to
something a lot smaller such as 2-5 km. This balances you’re need to match with someone
suitable and accommodates a convenient meeting place.
The more concentrated the population is in your area the smaller your radius. Work
outward so if a small radius does not provide the amount of success you wish to achieve
increase it incrementally by 2-5 miles.
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Identify target personality to find the matches you really want!
This is important when creating your profile. Tailoring your profile pictures and messages
to attract specific individuals is key to your Tinder success. Identifying the type of person
you are looking to attract will allow you to develop your profile in a manner that will
guarantee the most success. Tinder is the fastest most efficient dating site available today
and you need to be able to keep up. You will learn how to use specific items, locations,
activities and language to quickly and efficiently target your perfect match. People are
programmed to surround themselves with people similar to themselves, ultimately
creating a sphere of safety and comfort in their lives. You need to be able to exemplify
that you have a similar belief pattern as your perfect match.
For example; attracting a partner who is athletic and
healthy minded, requires you to display the same
characteristics. An active healthy girl will not see a
viable sexual option in a photo of a man . She will swipe
left. To encourage a swipe right a photo of you
performing a physical activity, hiking, biking or
swimming would increase the chances of attracting a
similarly active female. If you are not so athletically
inclined but wish to attract a partner who is, a photo of
you simply holding a piece of athletic equipment may
do the trick. Ultimately the goal is to draw subconscious
associations. An image associating you with physical
activity will unconsciously cause her to make
assumptions about your personality and habits. This is
true for all photos. Whether we’re conscious of it or not,
every image we perceive comes with pre-attached
assumptions. This can significantly work against you or,
if you know how to manipulate it, for you. That is why photo selection is crucial in
attracting the most desired partner.
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Firstly identify some of the characteristics your ideal partner would have. Characteristics
that are easy to visualize are the best way to approach this. Artistic,adventurous, athletic,
healthy, cultured, or simply D.T.F are some of the most basic ones. Pick a category and
aim to create at least one photo that displays this characteristic in you.
The old adage “opposites attract” is bullsh*t here. People are most comfortable with
things they understand and agree with. Find commonalities now to build interest and
worry about differences later. The Profile Picture section below, will go further into detail
on how to instantaneously establish positive associations within a potential partners
mind.
Your target personality will have a certain belief system about herself. You need to appeal
to these subconscious beliefs with different techniques within your profile. People are
biologically attracted to similar belief systems as it associates with comfort and safety. As
we go through these next steps it is important that you actually try and live a life along
the same lines that these pictures and the character you portray to be true. If you take
the steps outlined in this book you will have no trouble streamlining dates and meetups
with your matches, so it is important to be congruent from your online profile to your in
person persona. That being said don’t be afraid to take up new hobbies and include them,
but be real about your interest in the activities. The term “fake it till you make it” will
work great in this case.
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If you want to meet someone who has different beliefs than you currently fit into, simply
pick up some of the hobbies and interests of your ideal match, photograph it and have
fun. You don’t have to take these activities seriously, but at least the fact that you are
open enough to try them will engage her in a positive way.
When people are swiping through tinder pictures rapidly you need to be able to grab their
attention and portray a similar belief system to your perfect match, often within a fraction
of a second. In order to do this we are going to go over how you can incorporate certain
objects into your profile to attract the perfect match and make sure she swipes right.
Be creative through this process and think about how you can incorporate these concepts
into your personal profile. The answers can be very simple and do not need to be over
thought. It is important to remember there are two ways to appeal to a womans’ belief
pattern; first is to associate yourself with something she likes to do already, the second is
to portray something that she wants to or aspires to be doing one day. For example, here
are three pictures that may appeal to an adventurous girl. Skydiving, playing volleyball
and snowmobiling. These may all be pictures of yourself doing adventurous awesome
things, but your adventurous match may look at these pictures through three different
lenses.
1. Skydiving- She has never sky dived before but, COULD see herself doing it one day.
2. Volleyball- She already enjoys playing volleyball and would love to be on the beach
playing.
3. Snowmobiling- She can not see herself on top of a cold mountain on a snow
machine.
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If she can not see herself within the photo you have up, it actually can have negative
effects on your results. This will give her an opportunity to disqualify you because you
don’t share the same lifestyle.
People are very self involved creatures by nature, a persons perspective on the world is
framed around themselves first, then others afterwards. You need to make these pictures
appeal to the wants and desires of the person at the other end of the engagement. When
women are looking through your pictures she is looking past simple attraction and
focusing on energy, activities, style, interest and photographic charisma. I know it may
seem hard to understand but girls are looking for more than a shirtless picture which is
clearly contradicting to the way guys look at a girls profile.
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Profile Picture’s that’ll Make her Swipe Right
After you have targeted the category of your perfect match, you need to create your
profile to cater to them. There are two key points to remember. When someone is going
through your profile they need to either:
A. see themselves doing the same activity with you or
B. want to be doing that activity one day themselves
Your first photo is the most crucial photo, PERIOD. Most people will not go through the
first photo unless they are uncertain. The majority of decisions are made without looking
past the first picture. So make it count. Proper lighting, angles even filters should be
considered when creating that first impression photo. The sole purpose of this photo is
to create interest and attraction. Attraction plays a huge part of it, but that doesn’t mean
you are expected to be Brad Pitt. Be presentable. It doesn’t matter how good looking you
are, if you’re making a ridiculous face in a blurry picture she will automatically swipe left.
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Not saying you need to be wearing a suit and filtered to the max, but personal hygiene
and general ability to take care of oneself along with attention to detail is attractive. The
most foolproof approach is a shot taken where the photo is only about 60% of your face,
and when you’re not looking directly at the camera.
If you are going to show off your body try and make it one that is of an active shot where
you would naturally have your shirt off regardless such as at the beach, or playing
volleyball. Avoid mirror shots if possible, when girls see a mirror shot, they associate you
to be self centered with no friends who could take your picture. This is counter productive
with our pre selection theory discussed later. But if you are that hungry take some time,
make it a good one and don’t have the camera in the picture. Play to your strengths if you
have a nice body; girls will appreciate it even though they complain that guys have ab
shots.
I can not emphasize enough how important
the first photo is! There are some basic
scientific facts that you can count on to
manipulate human nature and ensure that
your first impression is the best one
possible.
Smile! Smiling is contagious, and with
smiling comes a strong biological response.
A smile creates a spike in the feel good
hormone dopamine. This same hormone spikes during pleasurable activities. Because we
are hardwired for sociability, seeing somebody else smile triggers similar neurons in the
same region of our brain. This in turn causes us to smile and increases our levels of the
feel good hormone. This can causes an unconscious association of good feelings with a
particular individual. Another activity that releases endorphins, yes you guessed it; Sex.
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You don’t have to smile in every picture, but you should have a mix in there for sure to
show you are a fun and approachable person.
One of the top alternatives to a smiling photo
can be taken of you with a flirting face perhaps
a subtle smile looking away from the camera.
This approach is one subtle way to display pre
selection within your profile. It will engage
curiosity in the girl who will wonder where,
who and why you are looking so seductive.
Curiosity is King.
Be able to make fun of yourself, try to include
a picture that will make her chuckle or at least
smile with interest. This will display the
positive and stress free side of your
personality.
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What to Wear
By implementing apparel items that represent a person’s personal beliefs it will make
them feel a natural subconscious connection with you. For example if you are trying to
attract an athletic girl, a picture of you doing something active with nice bright running
shoes. Since runners are a fashion statement, bright and eye catching as well as a symbol
for active living it will trigger a belief system that the two of you share. The two of you
believe the same things, do the same things, and could
potentially live compatible lives.
People are naturally hardwired to look for connections
with others that have similar beliefs. Some examples of
objects that resemble similar belief patterns include.
Artsy: A photo of you playing an instrument.
Healthy: A photo having fun eating small grape tomatoes
Intelligent: Include a Macbook Pro in your picture.
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The Locations that Will say the best things about you:
Where you take your photos can be used to your advantage as well. By taking pictures in
locations that others enjoy to be themselves it again triggers an emotion of similar belief
patterns. Make your pictures say I like to be where you like to be, I believe in what you
believe in and she’ll match with you.
A great example of this is to have a picture of
yourself in front of the most recognizable prop or
sign at the coolest bar in town. If you could snap a
picture of yourself having fun with a beer on the
patio of the bar with the sign in the background
behind you. Girls looking at this photo are going to
not only think I like being there, but I could see
myself there having fun with him.
If you don’t know where your “ideal” match likes
to hang out keep your eyes open when swiping on
Tinder where the majority of the pictures your
athletic girl is taken in or simply go ask some girls
on the streets where the cool place to be is.
Activities, that make her want to join!:
Activities can be one of the most powerful ways to
attract another person. Our results have shown
those that have pictures of scuba diving get matched
much more frequently to those who also have
pictures of scuba diving.
Think of the activities that the person you want to
attract might do and make sure to try and include
them as long as you yourself would also do that
activity as well.
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This is a great opportunity to pick up a new hobby or interest that you want to learn
regardless, aiming to make yourself better, and challenge yourself to learn new things.
This is a quality that will immediately attract women and conveniently for us we are
learning the same thing our match is interested in.
People and Animals to Keep her Interested
We want our match to feel like she would fit in with the situations captured in the photo’s,
so who is in the photo is also important.
Girls do not like pictures of you with other women. If she is trying to imagine herself with
you in the picture and you’re surrounded by other girls, it’s difficult for her to imagine
being comfortable in that situation. She is more inclined to see you as a player, which
contradicts any feelings of trust she may have had. To put it into perspective, even if it is
a picture with your Mom exemplifying how much you love your Mom, she does not want
to go on a date with your Mom. The relationship at this point is a long ways away from
meeting each other’s Mother’s, so leave it out.
You might be wondering how to use pre-selection without having other women in the
photo with you. There are two ways you can infer pre selection through your pictures
with other women but they must be done with careful consideration to how a girl may
view the photo:
1. capture a photo of yourself with a flirty face looking away from the camera,
discussed earlier. This will entice the girls imagination and provide a sort of pre
selection.
2. If you do have pictures with girls tread lightly and try to have more than one female
in the picture in a social setting as well as other guys, this will be great social proof
that you are a high value male and have been approved by other females.
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Group photos have their place in your profile, but they should not be your profile picture.
You do not want to have more than one group photo that leads her to become confused
which one you actually are in the picture. The most effective group photos are where you
are the focal point in the picture, you can have girls and guys around you but it should be
caught with a smile on your face in a fun and positive atmosphere.
Everyone is trying to use Tinder efficiently, so a group photo that requires more research
is not appreciated. Girls don’t want to go through all your photos to try to figure out if
you are the tall or short one. This will reduce the amount of high value matches you get.
ANIMALS
I think you would be hard pressed to find a woman who
doesn’t have a soft spot for animals. If you can incorporate
a love of pets into your profile this will engage her emotions
quickly! A dog can be a great way to build rapport with this
match as the conversation continues.
Remember your profile is not actually directly about you. This is not an opportunity to
show off or exemplify your dominance but rather the opportunity to share commonalities
with the person on the other end of the conversation that you will be building a
connection with through techniques of interaction that we will talk about in later
chapters.
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Important: When looking to engage in meetups the pictures that yield the best results
are photos that are conversation worthy and make it easier to spark meaningful
conversations.
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Taglines, that will entice her and keep her interested:
There is no specific right way to create the perfect tagline, however there is certainly a
few techniques that will help you find more success through Tinder than others. We will
talk about the proper language to use, and what to avoid.
Your tagline area is an opportunity to exemplify your feelings and outlook that will give
the other person the opportunity to have a little ammunition for conversation to come.
This “Belief” we talk about is not a deep religious point of view belief, but rather simply
the things that you enjoy and believe is the proper way for you to be living your life. This
optimistic approach will be portrayed as an attractive quality to women.
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Do not write excessive lists of things you like and don't like. This gives people the
opportunity to disqualify the relationship and eliminate you as a potential match. These
superficial data points do not exemplify you as your principal way of living, so don’t
include them. By saying you like Chess, fishing and Cycling, this could encourage someone
to swipe left that may have otherwise been a match and ultimately chess, fishing and
biking are not deal breakers. This is known as non specific language, and consists of
superficial data points that have more negative effects and should simply be avoided. You
can bring up these interests in conversation after you have matched with them and find
out where common interests actually lie.
Important: Make sure you use appropriate grammar in your tagline. Knowing the
difference between your and you’re is important! Girls want an intelligent guy, so
whether it’s in a conversation or in your tagline make sure you’ve spent time on your
spelling and grammar
There are three types of Taglines, that are geared toward different outcomes; a hook, a
filter system and personality traits.
1. A hook“What are we going to do when the Zombies come??”
This hook engages the user on the other end to come up with a witty response that will
be the beginning of a fun engaging conversation.
2. A filter system“Looking for a fun, active, and spontaneous lovely lady to embark on journeys taking
zombies down along the way.”
In this case we are setting up an expectation for the girl to qualify herself to us. This filter
system will be built to engage that specific type of person that we are aiming to meet
with. Setting the tone for an upbeat and positive engagement as the interaction begins.
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3. Personal Traits
I enjoy being active, challenging myself and learning new things while having a great time
along the way.
This final point reveals a little bit about yourself by specifically using positive and
optimistic language that portrays a positive outlook. This sentence will be directly related
back to your target match and what the two of you will ultimately have in common.
Don’t sell yourself instead create interest and intrigue for these mysterious creatures we
call women.
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PART TWO - THE ART OF CONVERSATION
Swiping theory
Our swiping theory in the Tinder Code is aimed at creating the best matches in the least
amount to time and relies on specifically matching with girls who you would actually meet
with in person, not everyone. Swiping right to everyone and then later filtering through
your matches and picking and choosing is a gigantic waste of time and effort. This is NOT
the approach we recommend. We are trying to streamline the experience for you and
have found that when you have too many low value matches there is little to no quality
engagement. The efforts that are placed in these low value matches are a waste of time
and energy. Instead we would recommend taking a little more time while swiping and
only choosing girls you will surely message.
In his book the The Four Hour Work Week Tim Ferriss outlines the 80/20 approach. We
recommend using this approach when deciding whether to swipe right or left. The 80/20
breakdown is simply this. 80 percent of your reward will usually only come from twenty
percent of your effort. Ferris most often uses this approach in business, however it is
applicable to just about everything else you put effort into in life, including dating. By
swiping right to absolutely every option taxes your effort and time, wasting it on matches
that won’t provide you those big rewards you are looking for. By being selective in your
swiping you ensure that your effort and time will reap top rewards. It is important to
realise not every unit of energy you put in will yield the same results. You can work with
this principle through the beginning as you get your first high value match or two, apply
the tips and techniques from the following chapters and try to recognize exactly how
much time and effort it is for you to build a real connection through online conversation
that builds enough trust to facilitate a meetup. As you continually learn how much effort
may be involved with each match you can engage with a few more.
Ok, so now you’re thinking why is swiping right a waste of time and effort, it’s simply one
movement of my finger. The point is what that swipe leads too. If you swipe right to a
hundred girls and lets say 50% of them match, you then have fifty conversations to
entertain. Even with modern day technology it is impossible to engage with fifty
conversations meaningfully enough to ensure returns.
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A single “what’s up” to every match you make will not be as effective, as matching with
appropriate partners and beginning a conversation with a well thought out intriguing
opening. The goal here is not quantity but quality.
To best achieve the quality you want to first identify your limits. For example imagine
there are 20 girls in a room, how many can you realistically entertain?
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It is tempting to view yourself as a Sean Connery at his peak, but be realistic. All of these
men are high value in their own way. There is no point in trying to be something you
aren't. The bullshit will rise to the top if you can't keep up and you won't be able to form
meaningful connections with the girls you do match with. This is because most women
require a somewhat established relationship built on trust and comfort before they are
willing to meet up let alone hop in the sheets with you. If you can not establish this, the
matches you do make will be a waste of time and energy, so be realistic. Recognize how
many girls you can entertain at once with your skill level and time allotted to Tinder.
This e-book has been written to streamline the Tinder experience from the virtual world
to physical meetups. Having a ton of low quality matches defeats the purpose as time and
effort will not be directed to where it will be the most effective. The more matches you
get the more you’ll be forced to rely on typical one liners. For example;
Lloyd:You remind me of my pinky toe
Mary: Lol, Why?
Lloyd: Because you're cute, and I'm probably going to bang you on my couch!
Silence...
*Save that comment for your ex girlfriend or part way through the conversation after
attraction has been built.
One out of ten girls might bite on this line and if she does you still have a lot of work ahead
of you, she isn’t going to come barging through your front door and onto your couch. The
point is whether it is a funny way to open the conversation or not, ultimately you’ve killed
it before it could go anywhere. You want to yield maximum results with minimum effort.
Although this might sound counter intuitive at first, you will find you may only need three
matches to lead to a meetup rather than 30. This makes it easier to manage your
messages and get the results you are looking for. We will discuss in the coming chapters
exactly which openers will grab her attention, build attraction and why they work so
efficiently.
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If you think by asking 30 women “how’s it going? you’re beautiful!” You’ll be lucky to get
a fraction of them to respond and even if they do, then what next. Make sure your time
is used efficiently when messaging your matches.
Engaging Principles that will make you irresistible to her:
The most important thing to consider when engaging with a woman is their desire to be
understood. Women want someone who they can relate too. Simultaneously however
she is searching for a challenge. Have you ever wondered why girls always go for assholes?
It’s the challenge. A woman wants to feel as if she has won something, a beer always
tastes better after a long day of hard work, right? It is the same way for girls when they
are looking for their match. You need to set the stage for her to promote herself to you,
this is called qualifying. Challenging her with playful games, stories and rapport, gives her
the opportunity to qualify herself to you, creating situations where the two of you are
engaging in positive emotions. Some dating coaches would argue that forcing a girl to
qualify herself to you is a way to ensure that you do not place her on a pedestal and to
create a power dynamic in the relationship, where the girl must appeal to you to win you
over. Qualifying instead should be used to establish yourself as a confident, playful and
engaging male, a prize worth pursuing. The direction of the conversation should
encourage her to promote herself and prove herself to you, not the other way around.
One of the most attractive features in a man is confidence, so show it.
Girls are complex, instinctive and emotionally hardwired creatures, so learn to
understand every girl is unique in their own way, this understanding is beneficial to all
parties involved. The one thing every girl does want, is to know there is someone
worthwhile on the other end of the conversation. They don’t want a horny guy who
should be on a webcam forum, so be fun, entertaining and give the girl substance that
she can engage with. This will help to develop an understanding and connection between
the two of you.
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HOOKS; To get her and keep her on the line.
Hooks are a great way to ensure that you stand apart from other males
and move the conversation forward. A hook is any question or statement
that intrigues a response from the recipient in a non threatening and fun
way. For example, Blake Jamieson, the man credited for wooing over
20,000 women on Tinder used the hook “If I said ‘I like your style,’ What
would you say?” This simple hook helped to increase female responses
by 125%. It’s success can be accredited to its simplicity. The hook should
be simple and engaging and is best if it plays on the human desire to
want to talk about oneself, or contribute to the conversation. Offer a
hook to a girl that is intriguing enough to force her response. People enjoy interesting
lighthearted conversation and a hook opens the door to this. It also provides a challenge,
and girls like challenges just as much as guys do. By using hooks it allows the conversation
to lead to the light and playful while building a connection and curiosity. It also gives the
girl an opportunity to qualify herself to you, and to prove her intelligence or wit. A great
example is to have a question worth 100 points if the recipient can guess it correctly. The
idea is to leave seeds out in your profile that makes it easy and fun for your match to
water them.
There are three important reasons that hooks are effective.
1. Plausible deniability; a hook allows a girl to be engaged without showing direct
interest. Girls rarely want to be seen as the pursuer in the relationship, giving them
an opportunity to engage without pursuing is a soft approach to build comfort and
familiarity through playful interaction.
2. Fun; proposing a fun challenge allows the girl to express herself in a playful way.
This in turn generates positive emotions that will be associated with you. If the
hook is good enough and the challenge interesting enough you can guarantee she
will be thinking about the challenge, and subsequently you, in the present and
future.
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3. It is a challenge, and girls love that sh*t. You must try to stimulate her mind
throughout the process. This is an opportunity for her to qualify herself to you.
Giving her a feeling of accomplishment that you can applaud her for when you are
ready and convinced she deserves it.
Women will always have their types that attract them and types that they will dismiss.
There is no one right answer, you can only do your best to appeal to a broad spectrum of
matches. Craft your own identity through this process and recognize what women like
you and which ones don’t. Change and moderate your profile to target more of those
perfect matches if you are not getting the matches you are looking for. Think like an
entrepreneur, learn from failures and manipulate the process to make it work better. Your
profile from the first day simply might not be good enough and you might need to adapt
to these realities. Build confidence as you move through this experience, take the
positives away from each interaction and use them to build your confidence. Project that
confidence toward your potential matches and they will recognize and be attracted to it.
Attractive Qualities That Every Girl looks For
Every girl is different, however there are some basic qualities that the majority of girls will
be drawn to;
◉ Fun
◉ Pre Selected
◉ Centre of Attention
◉ Excellence
◉ Social Savvy
◉ Non Reactive
◉ Positive
◉ Effortlessness
◉ Mysterious
◉ Well Groomed
These characteristics all play into the way a particular woman will see you;
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◉ Comforting- A state of physical ease and freedom from pain or restraint.
◉ Fun- Enjoyment, amusement or light hearted pleasure.
◉ Seductive- A tempting or attractive thing that attracts someone to a belief.
◉ Qualified- Be entitled to a particular benefit or privilege by fulfilling a necessary
condition.
The key to being attractive to women is to embody all four of these qualities. As Esther
Perel, TED talk guest and relationship coach so acutely put it, women want “you to be
[their] best friend, [their] trusted confidant and [their] passionate lover to boot.” It’s a
large order to fill, but if you can allude to all four of these qualities in your interaction with
a woman she will see you as a viable sexual partner. This is an exercise in manipulating
biology. Women instinctively crave a man with the best qualities required to raise
offspring. These four qualities are integral in subconsciously activating this part of a
woman’s brain, and should be targets for you to be touching on as the conversation
progresses. These four principles will be listed again in the future to emphasize their
importance.
Psychology and Physiology; Understand a Woman`s Mind
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Women do not see men objectively the same way that men see women. They see us
through the filter of emotions and feelings they have for us. All people girls and guys alike
enjoy feeling good. By engaging positive emotions you will become like an addictive drug
to the girl. The best way to go about this is to engage the right side of her brain. It is no
secret that male and female brains differ. Women, because of their biological need to
raise and care for children, are more emotionally sensitive creatures. Identifying this and
engaging with the right side of her brain which is responsible for emotional responses will
fast track you to your destination of choice. The analytical side of the female mind is not
what fuels the emotional attachment that will lead to a relationship or the bedroom, it
controls the logical and linguistic thought processes that will not build attraction.
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Your Role; Leading The Dance
As the man it is your job to lead, whether it is how to find food, step on the dance floor
or initiating connection. Girls are naturally looking for a man who will lead the way to a
safe place. If you can lead a fun and
playful conversation unlike any of the
other guys online, you will entice
curiosity and a connection. It is an
exciting experience for most people to
be building a connection with someone
new and these techniques can be
transferred into your daily life.
You want to bring her into a frame of
mind where she is relaxed and
associating you with a good time. If you can do this she will no longer be judging or
analyzing you. A good way to build trust with women is to let them know you see them
for more than beauty and sexual value. Do not spend the entire conversation
complimenting her on her looks, instead find ways to compliment her on her personality
or accomplishments.
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Avoid negative self doubts, and mindsets. This goes back to confidence. A confident man
is an attractive man. If you are following these principles you will be doing great. If a girl
does not want to engage with you there will be plenty others out there who will. Do not
let one negative experience dictate the rest of your interactions, there are some girls who
are just looking to bash guys to make
themselves feel better about themselves.
Avoid worrying about things out of your
control, rock your style and own it!
Do not be the nice guy who is pursuing
them, there are already a truck load of
others playing that game, and it doesn’t
work. You are the prize and let them qualify
to you. Avoid aggressive hassling, this will
eliminate any trust or comfort that you have developed with this woman as she will see
you as desperate.
You are on Tinder to meet matches, not
to make pen pals, so push the limits and
remember there are many more. That is
the beauty of the anonymity of the
internet, it allows you to go outside your
box without risk of detrimental
repercussions, so use this to your
advantage. Each failure will be a learning
experience that you can catalogue in your
database and use to continually get
better. Try new things and become a
pioneer.
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Easy to Learn Conversation Principal’s.
Here are three simple steps to guide you through a
conversation. Keep these in mind through the next
two section;
1. Capture her imagination
2. Lead the experience deep through
positive emotional states.
3. Link these emotions to you.
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This outline can be applied in almost any situation with a fun and creative enough
approach and should be kept in mind when conversing with women in person or online.
Apply the principles learned about how the woman’s mind works and how you can engage
her feelings and imagination.
Remember she has no social obligation to respond through Tinder. You must make each
message thought provoking and/or humorous. Imagine she is in class and bored, is your
message going to pull her attention away from the lecture being projected at her? Can
you capture her imagination with a thought provoking fun and playful message? Your goal
is to make her escape reality and travel with you through her imagination.
Once you have engaged her, you do not want to agree with everything she says. Girls
want strong and independent men who have their own opinions and views. Bring your
own thoughts and opinions to the conversation if you want to stay in the game. She will
respect you for it. However don’t disagree just to disagree, be sure to have a strong or
well thought out platform for yourself that she will respect. For example, agree with her,
but try to add your own information and perspective.
Have casual intentions throughout the conversation. Never try too hard for her. You need
to release your attachment to your desired outcome, she will recognize this and you will
become more appealing to her as a challenge. If she doesn’t want to play with you and
have fun there will be plenty of other girls who will. It will be a display of confidence
coming from an abundance mentality.
Openings; that will keep her waiting for your next text
Opening a conversation should be fun and unique. You want to excite her and set yourself
apart from the other guys asking stupid questions. Break out of the stereotyped group of
simple and boring messages. A good principle to try and open the conversation with is to
make it seem like you are already friends and continuing a conversation. This is an
approach that is unique and will create comfort right from the start.
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Use her profile as fuel for your creativity. Ideally you want to set up a conversation that
allows you and your match to create your own story together, have fun and be creative
together. This engaging storytelling is the catalyst of playful banter that we will discuss
further in the next chapter. Using points from her profile is often a great place to start
crafting your unique message to her. Use these three different approaches when
cataloguing the information from her profile:
1. Focus on one specific point of her profile and blow it out of proportion. Ask a ridiculous
question, preferably one that will lead to a conversation that is not taken literally or
seriously.
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Now that Ali has engaged in the conversation in a fun and light hearted way and also took
the time to comment on one of harry’s photo’s the stage is set to take this conversation
any way Harry would like. Her imagination is clearly open and by talking about Disney and
childhood imagination they are building a comfort level between each other.
2. Combine two parts of her profile and make some sort of ridiculous comment or
question that will engage her in a way she has never been before. Ask how the two relate
or what it’s like to do them together.
3. Answer your own question. Formulate a fun question from one of her pictures and
guess the answer right away with a witty or completely silly guess. Aim to make her laugh
when she reads it.
Canned Openers
If you can not mine any information out of her profile then you can use a canned opener.
Try to use her profile to start the conversation if possible, this will make you better at
bantering new and creative things off the top of your head. You can also use this in daily
interactions.
The methodology behind any canned opener should be based on the beginning of a fun
playful conversation that is designed to organically twist and turn into anything while
keeping her engaged and interested. Two different approaches at this are:
1. Asking a question that will engage her emotions and fun side that will carry the
conversation forward.
“I NEED to ask! What is the best Disney song ever? I am in much deliberation over
it!”
“I’m knitting us matching sweaters any requests?”
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This question is sure to at least get her imagination flowing. As you move through the
conversation you can suggest different roles for the two of you and keep her thinking of
both of you together and the positive experience it would be.
2. Placing her directly into a ridiculous role to be played out.
“Are you tough? I need a bodyguard and you look like you pack a discretely
powerful punch!”
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This question places her into a role that can grow and develop in so many different
directions. Talking about how you need protection from the crazy Tinderers out there,
and walking through the parts of town and series of ridiculous events the two of you will
be going through together.
Banter Basics
Banter is the art of playful light hearted jovial conversation.
This fun playful conversation actually consists of no content,
literally make believe material that will be created together.
Once the conversation is moving, both of you should be
collaborating, working through the imagined scenario. Banter
is often referred to as being like a self amused ten year old
boy, very curious and not looking for approval. When she
recognizes you are fun, creative and don’t need her approval
she will recognize you as high value. Which is perfect!
This playful process is going to be the equivalent to hanging a carrot in front of her, this
is your best opportunity to see which girls are interested. You aren’t bombarding her with
overconfidence with one shot, but with banter you can lightly play and feel out the
conversation. Think of this like boxing, instead of a street fight. A grueling street fight is a
swing for the fences, a jumbled debacle, whereas boxing is much more methodical. A
boxer will learn and adapt to the opponents skills and weaknesses as the fight progresses.
When you are bantering you are feeling out your match to gauge her interest level and
dodge any crosses that she throws. By being able to dodge these you won’t be taking it
on the chin over and over.
You will recognize the importance of this when the girl will respond with a sack tap to test
to see if you are able to back up your game.
Now that banter has filtered in the girls who want to play and engage with you, created
some trust with her you are now set up to enter a deeper level of rapport whenever you
are ready. Since both of you have opened up you are more willing to be vulnerable with
each other.
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As we have outlined, conversing through Tinder is much more playful and relaxed than
anything else. It is not an interview process or a platform to send pictures of your dick to
everyone. Banter allows you to create fun playful situations that both of you can help
contribute to as the conversation bounces back and forth. Do not take this conversation
as a literal, but rather the complete opposite and treat it as a complete far fetched story.
You want to be able to express personal thoughts in a nonthreatening way. You find out
if the approach isn't working very quickly and can deflect into other avenues easily.
Harry: Will you cut the crust off my PB & J sandwich on our first date?
Suzie: No, I don't date children
Harry: Ahh, Sassy! Everyone's got a kid inside them, I bet you are a closet Classic Disney
Girl!
Suzie: Everyyone loves Disney!
Harry: Hakuna Matata
Since the question was fun and non threatening it makes it easy to redirect the
conversation into other banter and avoid any crosses she might throw. It allows you to
control and direct the conversation in any way you choose, while direct questions limit
the potential responses.
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This outlines the most important principles and gives you a roadmap to lead the
conversation. These points can come in any order but be sure to touch on a few of the
points throughout the conversation.
1. Engage interest
2. Build imagination
3. Set up Role playing
4. create image of you two within her imagination
5. seed the meetup within banter
1. Engaging interest, this is typically done with a creative opener that opens her mind to
thinking of herself in a situation or idea. It is appealing for her.
Harry: Will you be my Prom Date?
Kat: Haha what? are you 18?
2. Build imagination- The best way to build her imagination is to use descriptive language
that will engage a thought process that is challenging, forward thinking and fun. Using
childhood experiences is an easy way to engage on a fun platform you both can relate to.
Harry: Well no, but I always want to be a kid at heart, and now we will be the cool
kids! Definitely sneaking a mickey into grad though.
Kat: Lol, it has to be vodka then!
3. Set up Role Playing- You will want to create an imaginary situation where the two of
you work together to create a story.
Harry: Perfect! You’re going to be the smuggler though, I’m strapping it under your
dress!
Kat: Lol, okay, and we’ll sneak it into the punch bowl!
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4. Create an image of the two of you together throughout the story. This will
subconsciously build trust as she imagines herself with you. The emotions she experiences
subconsciously imagining herself with you are just as powerful as if she was with you, so
make it positive.
Harry: Perfect, I knew you were going to be a sassy partner in crime.
Kat: Oh I bet I would! You too though! ;)
5. Seed the meetup- After or even before you have created the image of the two of you
together, seed where and what the two of you are going to be doing. Building anticipation
for expecting to actually do this fun and playful event.
Harry: Think we could formulate a plan and hit a couple of them in a row? Grad
Crashing!!
Kat: Haha totally!
There are many reasons banter works well while conversing through online dating.
1. It is playful and non threatening
2. Grabs intrigue and interest over other guys on Tinder
3. Engages her emotional side and builds trust, attraction and a connection
4. True character can be displayed, rather than superficial points about each other.
5. Allows her to talk about herself, and envision herself in a specific situation.
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The Catch and Release Principle
Building Rapport that will make you Irresistible!!
After banter the conversation will naturally flow into rapport, do not force this to happen
right away or you will come across as desperate. You will have built a level of trust and
attraction with her by this point and she will want to know more about you. This is The
Catch. You will find she is frequently the one to ask a direct question first, you can answer
and flow into rapport or deflect it in a fun way and keep bantering for a few more
messages and make her feel she is earning the right to build rapport with you. Rapport is
important on Tinder because it eliminates the creepy aspect of speaking to a stranger.
This is where you build a connection that makes her feel she knows who you are. You may
have been fun and exciting through banter, but she is not going to want to meet up with
you if she still doesn’t know anything about you.
The energy in the conversation will slow down and drop down to a lower, more calm
energy. There won’t be so many expressive exciting, and quick fun comments. It will then
slow down and you will find yourself thinking to yourself who is this girl that I am engaging
with, she will be doing the same thing and going through your pictures again.
Rapport is the art of building a connection and relationship between two people,
frequently through information, similarities and past experiences. In this process you will
be sharing a level of emotional experiences. When you talk about things with an
emotional relevance and you can recognize and appreciate her frame of mind, it will build
a connection. Creating a shared experience and find commonalities on an emotional level.
This feeling of recognition that she gets from this experience will be the fuel that will have
her excited to meet you.
As discussed earlier it is your job to lead as the man and by revealing how you feel at the
right time through rapport you can come across as very confident. People want to get to
know the person they are conversing with, and rapport is the avenue to do this.
There are three levels of rapport each with a different release at the end. The aim is to
use these three levels of rapport to create a situation where the girl will be craving more
interaction from you.
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The three levels of rapport include, light rapport, wide rapport, and deep rapport. These
three levels of rapport each include different points and types of information that will
build different levels of connections between you and your match. Building a connection
with someone new is always exciting! Once you know how to engage curiosity and reward
women through this process both of you will be satisfied.
Light Rapport is sharing very basic information between the two of you. This is not the
type of rapport to focus on as it is mostly made up of superficial data points that will not
engage her emotionally. Although this basic information about each other can lead the
conversation deeper. Light rapport in your daily life is often only the acknowledgement
of the other person's existence.
“How’s your day?”
Wide Rapport
Wide Rapport happens when you have found an emotional connection point. This will
start to amplify the trust and connection being built within the relationship. The answers
to these questions will often be much more than one word answers. Sharing opinions and
thoughts.
For example;
“I love the Caribbean, what was the most amazing part of your trip? ”
Deep Rapport
Deep Rapport happens once you have made the connection, and the conversation heads
internal. You will be able to unravel the person inside by understanding their emotional
thoughts and beliefs. The trust that is built will allow the two of you to build a deeper
relationship and connection with each other. This is where girls will build an emotional
connection to you quickly. The fastest way to get into deep rapport is to first put yourself
out there in a vulnerable spot, expressing certain feelings and beliefs and opening the
opportunity for her to contribute.
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Once you have done this she will feel more comfortable doing the same. This is the law
of reciprocity, once one person has done something the other feels comfortable and
compelled to do the same.
For example;
I loved growing up in a small town too, what was the most important part of growing up
there.
The Release
The Release happens when you have reached deep rapport and you release away from
deep rapport and back into playful banter. This release will make her excited to not only
play with banter again but also the opportunity to build deep rapport again later in the
conversation or in person with you. This will build an addiction to you.
Caution: If you are following these principles you will gain the attention of the women
you are applying your energy to. But be careful the depth of the connection you form,
you want her eating out of the palm of your hand but not idealizing you to the point
she’s afraid to meet and ruin the perfect connection.
Calibrating a Dating Cadence; How to keep Her in the Dance
Cadence is a term used both in music and in sales, it represents the rhythmic symmetry
from two sides. In sales, cadence is used to mirror similar language, message frequency
and descriptive length of responses. Applying this approach to women on Tinder will
make you irresistible to them.
When you are engaging with a match you will be able to read her emotions and interest
level through the frequency and descriptive length of her messages. To create a comfort
level with your match you should mirror the language and length of her messages but try
to entice her to engage with more descriptive responses. If you are messaging long
messages and only receiving one word responses, you should shorten your responses and
engage her to carry some of the conversation level.
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This will increase her investment in the relationship. If you are not able to pull her into
the conversation do not waste your time chasing her. Remember she willl never run if you
never chase.
Girls will often use this same principle, if you are only giving her one word responses or
asking boring questions she herself will use slow and drawn out language.
Is she into you? Reading her:
GoodQuick responses
Engages in hooks
Elaborates on questions and banter
Asks questions
BadOne word responses
Delayed
Negative Language
Use the information above to alter her responses from bad to good.
Important: Make sure to suggest a meet up within 48 hours of beginning to converse.
Countless studies have shown that the chance of a meetup significantly decreases after
the initial 48 hour period.
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PART THREE - THE MEETUP
The Meet up (Close The Deal) The material up to this point is all leading up to the meetup. This is where you close the
deal so pay attention. By now you should have engaged her emotions and developed a
relationship that she is excited to grow.
There is no time like the present, and this approach seems to work best. Tinder is a very
rapid experience, played by people with short attention spans when on the app.
Therefore it is often great to feel out the conversation to the point you both know you
are free with no real plans. Seed the meetup and facilitate it as soon as possible.
If you are busy and can’t commit for a few days, the most effective play is to simply give
her your number. This puts the ball in her court and will give you a good idea how
interested she is. You can then spend the rest of your time and energy on other girls. The
girls who then texts you will be a part of that 20% that will yield you the majority of your
rewards. Once they engage with you they have indicated their interest and you can simply
set up the meetup on your convenience. It can come across as creepy or awkward offering
her your number directly in a newer conversation so play the “my 3g keeps messing up
and my tinder’s not working, here’s my number, text me” card. If the conversation has
been going on for awhile though you can use the number play to eliminate those who
aren’t interested. Give her your number and say text me. Those who are interested will
and then you don’t have to worry about entertaining a girl who isn’t.
When you are discussing the meetup you should imply you are already doing something
and it would be more fun if she joined you. Alternatively you could say something along
the lines I was considering inviting you. This comment will engage her to qualify herself
to the situation. This shows you have some reservations and she has to prove she is worth
your time. It may seem like a small thing, but it can have profound effects on her
willingness to engage in a meetup by bypassing her insecurities and hesitations.
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Our principal with this program is to get you the best results with the least amount of
effort and that includes the setting of the meetup. The meetup location and activity
should be something you would be doing anyways in a setting that is convenient and easy
to engage for the first time meeting. We will cover a few convenient meetup locations
and why they are the best.
First impressions count for A LOT. Now that you have facilitated the meetup it is important
that you make a positive first impression right out of the gates. This will set the pace for
the rest of the interaction. The way a man carries himself, the way he walks, and the way
he chooses to present himself to the world will determine what kind of impact he makes
on people. ESPECIALLY with women.
When you meet someone for the first time on a date you want to engage them with a
smile and a friendly hug. This will be comforting and ease the tension of touching which
will help raise attraction through the interaction. .
Three Meeting Places that will get you laid!!
1. Coffee Shop- The coffee shop meetup is clearly the most common because it is
convenient. The risk of the cost associated is way more plausible than something like
dinner and a movie. You could find she is nothing like her profile and as a result you are
only committed to half an hour and a few dollars for coffee in comparison to the latter
option. You could set it up so that she meets you there because you happen to already be
working on something there. This opens up the conversation for what you were doing
and is an opportunity to start the conversation and if she doesn’t show you are still being
productive. (Tip* Always get your coffee in a to go cup. This means you are not bound to
a full cup of coffee if she’s not what you’re looking for.)
2. The Beach- The beach is the classic date spot, and again it holds very little commitment
to time and money. You should know the beach you are taking her to and the activities to
do along the way. Things like ice cream stops and view points.
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3. The Dog Walk- The dog walking date is perfect because you are planning on doing it
anyways. Girls love animals and will be hard for them to say no to a cute pooch. If you
don’t have a dog check out a website called Part Time Pooch. This service connects dog
owners to people who just want to walk a dog every so often. This service is great.
www.parttimepooch.com
The things all these meetups have in common is they are fun and low risk. You do not
want to set yourself up as a rich baller who will be escorting her to events and dinners
frequently.
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How to instantly form a Great First Impression, that will leave her wanting
more!
The girls already agreed to sleep with you when she swiped right, all you have to do is not
f*ck it up! Here are three easy steps to make sure that doesn’t happen!
Step 1: The Intimate Hug
The physical meetup should start with a hug. This is a great way to start the interaction
because you are:
1. Leading the situation
2. Initiating physical touching right away
3. Builds comfort and sets the pace to eliminate awkwardness.
Step 2: Initiate seductive eye contact with a smile
Engage with eye contact throughout the early stages of the conversation. To enforce this
make a concentrated effort to learn the colour of her eyes. Eye contact is a crucial part of
communication and building attraction.
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Step 3; Sexualized Body Posture
After the hug you should not face your shoulders towards her to soon. This might sound
menial, but it is a strong sign of desperation and a characteristic you are trying to avoid.
Think back to Screech from Saved By The Bell, we all loved Screech, but he was the
desperate one who would always turn directly at the other person. Instead gradually face
her more and more throughout the night, at first this will create a need in her to qualify
herself to you and then eventually leave her feeling rewarded that she’s won you over.
And Finally Successful engagement rests on one important point.
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Being interested and able to stay in the moment and hear what the other person is saying
to you, you will keep her engaged and intrigued.
The ability to ask a question about the story or
situation she is bantering to you will build instant
trust and an attraction to you.
This is a skill that can be a life hack in any
relationship you have in life. People want to be
heard before they will truly listen to you. A
certain calming and comforting experience
ensues after you know someone else
understands where you are coming from. This approach will have people looking back on
the conversation and wondering how you got them to tell you so many personal things
about themselves.
Moments; Taking advantage of this great new feature like no one else
Moments is an ephemeral photo sharing feature that is designed to help people get to
know each other. It uses Tinder’s efficient and simple approach to allow users to expose
parts of their lives to others. Each photo has a 24 hour expiry date, meaning matches
won’t be able to see the photo after the 24 hour period. This allows users to feel more
secure in sharing their moments with complete strangers and eliminates the concern that
their moments could end up in the wrong hands.
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The concept came about when the Tinder Team realized the difficulties users face in
effectively getting to know their matches. As people accumulated matches, it became
more and more difficult to get an understanding of each matches life. “Moments” allows
people to share special images with one another and connect in a more meaningful way.
By using the new feature of Moments you are able to simultaneously demonstrate to a
multitude of potential matches how you live an eventful and positive life. A life that they
will yearn to be a part of. If you are a marketing company selling a product and you had
the opportunity to put your product (You) in front of all your potential buyers (Your
Matches) wouldn't you? Moments allows you to directly advertise your product to a large
group of people and to shape the way they think about you. Keep your moments
lighthearted, fun and enjoyable and you’ll have each one of your matches viewing you in
this light. Look at these Moments as a learning experience, try out several different
images and adapt to those that work.
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Jab Jab Hook- By taking a killer moments picture and sending a few openers shortly
afterwards, you will help engage a conversation. She is going to see two jabs from you as
soon as she opens Tinder. You will have made an impression on her. This will put you in
front of your competition.
Working together with another friend who understands this approach will help taking
pictures in social situations much more seamless. The two of you can try and find two
girlfriends who happen to be hanging out. The two of you could snap a picture together
doing something fun and entertaining together. Girls are frequently on Tinder together
or at least before they start hanging out. If you can hook these girls into joining you and
your wingman in your activity you could have a fun double blind date.
For example, you could be at the beach on a sunny day with a cooler full of cold beverages
and tag the photo, “who’s in?”. This hook will engage the girls who are most interested
and they will message you. Chances are there are a group of girls in your area who are
sitting on the beach going through their Tinder at that very moment. Use this approach
with all of the fun activities you and your wingman are doing. You could share a pre
drinking shot of you and your buddies, quote within the picture that you are prepping for
a great night. The likes you receive immediately will be from the girls who are most
interested. A meetup could be arranged between your two groups at the bar later.
Two important factors in this approach are:
1. You and your friends are doing something fun.
2. There are girls in your area that are doing something similar at the same time.
When you are using Moments you do not want to snap two or three pictures of the same
setting. This shows desperation when the girl opens her phone and has to swipe through
the same picture multiple times. Your approach with moments should be we are having
so much fun we had to take a quick 10 seconds to share with you, but we are not sitting
on Tinder. To exemplify that you personally are a high value match, take a photo with
someone else and compliment them. Be the value giver. A guy who is able to take the
spotlight off of himself and showcase someone else is attractive to women. It shows them
that you’re capable of giving attention and sharing the spotlight.
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Organic Salad Recipe: (Mostly Organic)
Small box of organic salad
Diced Apples
Craisins
Diced Avocado
Sunflower Seeds
Optional Toppings
Blackberries
Raspberries
Walnuts
Feta Cheese
Dressing:
Balsamic Vinegar
Olive Oil
Lemon Juice
Make the salad in two bowls right from the beginning and make the presentation of the
salad look grande and appealing like a five star restaurant.
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You should anticipate and prepare for this result, have the confidence in your approach
and you will be surprised how easily girls will follow a confident male. You can tell a girl
almost anything, but if you tell her with confidence more than once she will accept it as
reality and follow your confidence. This is applied in threesomes for example, if you can
convince a girl you are confident in the bedroom with more than one girl, they will slowly
accept it as truth and follow your lead. In preparation you should have your bedroom and
kitchen clean and prepped to be a seductive environment. If you don’t have the
ingredients already you can plan your walk to finish up near a grocery store and make the
grocery shopping experience fun and act as if you have no idea what is going to be in the
salad, just wing it! She’ll love it!
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