Lesson 2: CONTEMPLATE: On your own, reflect on the following question. Think about the phrases babe kase, lalake kase, haligi ng tahanan, ilaw ng tahanan, and pakipot. How do these words communicate patriarchy? We all know that patriarchy is an analytical concept referring to a system of political, social, and economic relations and institutions structured around the gender inequality of socially defined men and women. The society has set a standards or a rule for a woman and a man, on what they are only capable of doing so, they are only do the things what the society expects them to do according to their gender. . “Haligi ng tahanan” is absolutely a man, it refers to a father of the family. It means that a father, is someone who can protect his family, who can provide the needs and work hard to support his family. Basically, a father is the strongest of the family. “Ilaw nang tahahan” refers to a mother of the family. She’s the one who take good care of her children and husband. She is the one who prepare some things that are needed for her family, she’s the one who do the chores inside the house. She’s flexible. A mother is always flexible. Sometimes, when a woman can’t do this thing, or that thing, or easily give up on something, people will say this “babae kase” they think woman is feeble or an attenuated being. While in the other hand, people say “lalaki kasi” because they think that a man can do something inferior to a woman because they are known to be strong, brave and bold. And also the word “pakipot”, we all know that woman are known to be ‘pakipot’ even way back then. They say that thing because they think that a woman is hard to get, or just needed something. But I think, being “pakipot” shows that a woman are being respected. A woman needs an effort. They need to see the sincerity before deciding. It’s a matter of courage. Every person has its own capacity. There are things that a girl can do what the boys can as well as the boys can do what a girl can. A woman can be strong, and a man can feel weakness too, they can cry, they are a human with a heart that can feel. We are all equal, let’s stop stereotyping. Let people do what they want, and what to become to be. Lesson 3: CONTEMPLATE: The following are common statements we hear from people. Reflect on why you think people agree or disagree with the statement. Reflect on your own thoughts: Do you agree or disagree with each statement? Why or why not? Statement Why People Agree Why People Disagree Boys should not cry. People agree because they believe that boys should be tough, and not that soft-hearted one. Boys should be manly because they are born to be that way, they are born to be brave. People disagree because boys can also cry. I disagree too, because every people, every gender has the right to cry. We have a heart, we can feel the same pain, and we can be emotional. We can cry if we want to. There is no gender based when it comes to what we really feel inside. Girls are bad drivers while boys are super drivers. People agree because as a girl, we possess this feminine characteristic, very soft and fragile, so they think that girl can't do driving, or bad at driving since girl are dependable. People disagree because everyone can drive, and everyone can be a super drivers. I disagree with this one also. You can't learn something if you don't know how to try, practice makes you better. A girls can be a good driver or a super drivers if they want to, If they are willing to learn and to practice. Boys should not be allowed to play with dolls. People agree because they consider barbie dolls to be feminine. They discouraged the boys playing barbie dolls because of the prevailing gender stereotypes. People believe that a boy should play cars or any manly toys. People disagree because every child can choose a toy they want to play, they think that it's just a toy, there's nothing wrong in a boy playing with a doll. For me I disagree also. I guess children, either boy or girl has the right to play or choose any toys to play, it will also develop the perspective of the children. You can guide them and help them nurture what they should learn and do. Women Should be prim and Proper. It is okay for men to be Rowdy, they are men anyway. People agree because it is the characteristic of a woman to be prime, soft and proper. Woman born with a feminine characteristic, and we should act according to our gender. People disagree because it is not just only women should act properly, but also the man, and also a woman can also be rowdy. I also disagree with this one, gender equality should implored. Woman is also a human being, they can act and dress however they want, but of course in a sense of manner. Woman and man should be treated equally.
