Topic 3: Emotional Intelligence
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Learning Outcomes
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Explore how to feel, think and behave like an emotionally intelligent person
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Describe the characteristics of emotionally unintelligent persons
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Study the relation between emotional intelligence and maturity
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Discover how to determine your personality type
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Topic Outline
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Part 1: Feel, think and behave like an emotionally intelligent person
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Part 2: Personality versus emotional intelligence
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Part 3: Myers-Briggs test
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Part 1: Feel, think and
behave like an emotionally
intelligent person
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Feel, Think & Behave Like an
Emotionally Intelligent Person
Feel like an emotionally intelligent person:
Know your mood
most of the time
Possess a good understanding of why you
feel the way you do
Know
how others around you are feeling
Manage
emotions by turning negative
emotions into warm emotions
Behave
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Feel, Think
& Behave Like an
Emotionally Intelligent Person
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Think like an emotionally intelligence person:
« Emotionally intelligent people look after
themselves but are often thinking of the needs
of others.
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Have a “what’s in it for you” (WIIFY) attitude,
rather than a “what’s in it for me” (WIIFM)
attitude:
Behave
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“What's In It For Me” (WIIFM) attitude: you focus
on your own needs ("me")
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“What's In It For You™ (WIIFY) attitude: focus on
the needs of your audience ("you"), rather than
your own needs ("me")
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Feel, Think &
Be
Like an
Emotionally Intelligent Person
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Behave like an emotionally intelligent person:
Emotionally intelligent people have high ability
to manage themselves and others by having:
- High self-management
« High level of social skills
- Positive and self-motivated
- Empathetic
Behave
- Receive criticism well
- Handle themselves well in discussions
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Connection Between Feelings,
Thoughts and Behavior
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Our thoughts create our feelings
« Interrupt your thoughts and you can change how you
feel
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Our feelings drive our behavior
» Change your perspective (thoughts) and you can
change the way to react
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Emotionally Unintelligent
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Some signs of low emotional intelligence:
» Don't understand their own feelings
* Don’t interact well with others and maintain good
relationships
* Are demotivated
= Are negative by looking at the dark side
* Lack empathy
= Often get in trouble due to their weak ability to solve
problems
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Part 2: Personality versus
emotional intelligence
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Personality
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Personality: Long-standing internal traits or characteristics
that you carry with you
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The Five Factor model, or the Big Five model, of
personality includes five broad personality traits
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Openness: How accepting one is to new ideas or concepts
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Conscientiousness: How disciplined one is
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Extraversion: How much we enjoy the company of others
Agreeableness: How cooperative one is
Neuroticism: How much negative emotions we experience
Part 3 of this topic will explain the Myers-Briggs test that you
can use to assess your personality.
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Personality: childhood vs adulthood
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Emotional Intelligence:
Maturity
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As a person becomes older, he/she also
becomes:
« Emotionally wiser
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how you wish them to be
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Myers-Briggs Test
Use the questions on the outside of the chart to determine the four letters of your Myers-Briggs type.
For each pair of letters, choose the side that seems most natural to you, even i you don't agree with every description.
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What's Your Personality Type?
Use the questions on the outside of the chart to determine the four letters of your Myers-Briggs type.
For each pair of letters, choose the side that seems most natural to you, even if you don't agree with every description.
1. Are you outwardly orinwardly focused? If you:
3. How do you prefer to make decisions? If you:
«Could be described as
talkative, outgoing
+Make decisions in an
impersonal way, using
logical reasoning
+ Base your decisions on
« Like to be in a fast-paced
environment
«Tend to work out ideas with
others, think out loud
«+ Could be described as
reserved, private
« Prefer a slower pace with
time for contemplation
personal values and how
your actions affect others
«Value justice, fairness
«Value harmony, forgiveness
+Tend to think things
through inside your head
+Enjoy finding the flaws in
« Like to please others and
point out the best in people
+ Enjoy being the center of
«Would rather observe than
«Could be described as
attention
be the center of attention
reasonable, level-headed
then you prefer
then you prefer
then you prefer
an argument
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Extraversion
Introversion
2. How do you prefer to take in information? If you:
+ Focuson the reality of how
+Imagine the possibilities of
things are
how things could be
«Pay attention to concrete
facts and details
«Notice the big picture, see
how everything connects
« Prefer ideas that have
practical applications
« Enjoy ideas and concepts
for their own sake
« Like to describe things in a
specific, literal way
« Like to describe things in a
figurative, poetic way
then you prefer
then you prefer
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Sensing
Intuition
«Could be described as warm,
‘empathetic
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then you prefer
Thinking
Feeling
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4. How do you preferto ive your outer life? If you:
Enthusiastic, creative,
spontaneous, optimistic,
starting new projects,
see potential in others.
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butgoing,
Inventive, enthusiastic,
strategic, enterprising,
inquisitive, versatile
Enjoy new ideas and
challenges, value
inspiration.
« Prefer to have matters
settled
« Prefer to leave your options
open
«Think rules and deadlines
should be respected
«See rules and deadlines as
« Prefer to have detailed,
step-by-step instructions
« Like to improvise and make
things up asyou go
«Make plans, want to know
‘what you'e getting into
« Are spontaneous, enjoy
surprises and new situations
flexible
then you prefer
then you prefer
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Perceiving