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Module 3: The Sonic Approach
Formula
W
hen it comes to macking on women, I’ve seen
it all.
I’ve gotten many a good laugh from the cheesy pick-up lines
spouted off within an earshot of me. I’ve seen guys blow up at
women for rejecting them.
Hell – I’ve even witnessed a few female bitch slappings towards
men who just didn’t have a clue. To some guys out there, the social
scene is like a candy store, and they’re the greedy fat kids who can’t
wait to tear the place apart. More often than not, this behavior
backfires on them.
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Men and women are very different animals.
If you didn’t already know this, then consider their bedroom behaviors.
If a guy could have it his way, he’d get off in a matter of minutes during
sex. Women, on the other hand, require a full-body warm up from
steamy foreplay before the concept of an orgasm is even possible. And
if the guy gets off before she’s ready to launch, his chances of getting
laid by her again are slim.
What’s the point of this example? Put simply, there is a method to
gaining a girl’s interest, and the more you follow this method, the less
your chances are of being rejected.
Just like during sex, you can’t simply cut to the chase with women…you
have to slowly warm her up to the idea of being with you. You have to
establish rapport with her.
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Summed up, rapport is a feeling between two
people who have a connection with one
another.
You don’t have to be the girl’s soul mate in order to accomplish this;
anything from having similar interests to sharing a good laugh together
can create rapport. Only when she feels you’re on the same level as her
will she even entertain the idea of having sex with you.
So how do you establish rapport with a woman? The good news is that
it’s not hard, and SonicSeduction will teach you a no-nonsense
method of doing so that works fast.
Turn the page for a five-step method to getting her into bed…
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Step #1: Small talk.
Whenever you meet someone new for the first time, you introduce
yourself, and the same goes for landing hot women. Greet her, tell her
your name, and ask for hers. Ask her where she’s from, what she does
for
work,
and
other
getting-to-know-you
questions.
Use
the
environment around you to create chit chat.
Step #2: Create a bonding experience.
This step builds upon the first one, in that you try to establish a feeling
of trust between the two of you. Use what you’ve learned from the chit
chat to find common ground with her (interests, hobbies, etc.) You can
even notice something funny about your surroundings, and share a nice
laugh over it together.
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Step #3: Tap into her romantic side.
Once you two have bonded on some level, it’s now time to tap into her
sensual side. I’ll get more in depth about this later on in the book, but
for now, consider this step as the point where you ask her out.
Compliment her lightly, use body language to display your attraction,
and get those digits.
Step #4: Touch her.
If she agreed to a first date, then you’re officially in a position to touch
her. When, where, and how you touch her are subjected to a variety of
things, such as her personality, or the level of rapport between the two
of you. But generally speaking, there’s usually nothing wrong with
holding hands, and if she gives you the green light, kiss her.
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Step #5: Get laid.
Getting a woman into bed depends on a couple of things. Some women
require a few dates before having sex, while others are ready to sleep
with you after the first night. Read her body language to get a feel for
where she stands (I’ll get more into body language in later modules).
Take the Method with You…Everywhere.
Once you’ve learned this method of establishing rapport, you can use
it in every situation to effectively seduce a woman. In some cases, you
may find that you’ve already reached a certain point with a woman. For
example, if a buddy of yours introduced you to her a week ago, then
you’ve officially passed steps 1 and 2, and you’re well on your way to
getting her in the sack.
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More often than not, however, you’re going to have to
start from scratch when seducing a woman. It’s
important to take note of the circumstances when doing so, such as
how much time you have to approach and connect with her.
Generally, you’re going to be faced with one of three situations for
hitting on a girl, and you’re going to have to tweak the five-step method
to accommodate for each.
The principles remain the same, however, but I am going to
show you how to tackle each of these situations like a true
Sonic Seducer you are.
Turn the page…
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Scenario #1: Time is on your side.
In this case, you have days (maybe even weeks) to
approach the woman.
Maybe she goes to the same coffee shop as you, or you met her through
friends. Whatever the case, you know you’re going to see her again…it’s
just a matter of “bumping into” her.
This scenario is ideal, because not only does it provide you with the
least amount of pressure, but it also enables you plenty of time to
establish rapport with her.
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Scenario #2: You’re on a tight deadline.
Maybe you met her at a party, or were lucky enough to get seated next
to her on that flight to Chicago. Still, you only have a few hours to put
the moves on her.
Unlike our first scenario, this situation requires you move quickly
through the steps of seduction. While you are being rushed, you still
have some time to establish a connection with the woman prior to
asking for her digits.
Scenario #3: Seduction in a matter of seconds!
This may sound impossible to accomplish, but if you know what you’re
doing, it’s a piece of cake. Turn the page to find out just how…
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As you might imagine, this scenario involves a
woman who will soon be gone if you don’t put some
moves on her…fast.
Yes – it does involve the greatest risk of rejection, but just because
you’re working on the fly does not mean you should neglect the basic
principles of establishing rapport.
For example, let’s say you’re out shopping when you spot this gorgeous
girl. A good approach would be to ask for her opinion on something
before you buy it (establish rapport), thank her for her time, and then
ask if she’d like to go out sometime.
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When approaching a woman for the first time, the
biggest mistake you can make is rushing things.
Remember that if you want to get her into bed, you have to warm
her up properly, and the first step to doing this is to establish
rapport with her.
Follow my five-step model when approaching women, and learn
how to use it in every seduction situation. If you do, you’ll have the
sex life you’ve always wanted, and in no time at all.
Next, you will discover how to overcome the biggest obstacle in any
budding Sonic Seducer’s game – approach anxiety. Turn the
page…
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Dude, here’s the deal about approach anxiety…
If you think you’re the only one who gets nervous when approaching
women, you’re mistaken.
Truth be told, I used to be just like you. For me, hitting on women was
more nerve-wrecking than a visit to the dentist.
I was never quite sure of what to say or how to act, and the thought of
rejection felt like a life or death situation to me. In fact, I used to be so
anxious about approaching women that eventually, I just gave up.
Sound familiar?
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The problem with giving up is that eventually, you get horny;
and the only cure for horniness is getting laid. Don’t get me
wrong – approaching people (especially gorgeous women) whom
you’ve never met before is always going to be a bit uncomfortable, but if
you don’t get past that, you’re never going to have the sex life you want.
With that said, the only choice you’re left with is overcoming your fear
and getting out there. If you fall, pick yourself up and try again.
In this module of SonicSeduction, I’m going to share with you some
key points on approaching women effectively. You’re going to learn
what to do, and what not to do when going in for the kill. Put
these methods into practice, and you’ll soon become the seducer you’ve
always wanted to be. Turn the page…
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You’ll laugh at rejection if you know this. Read on.
If you’re like most men, you take rejection personally. You feel that
because one woman didn’t appreciate your efforts at seducing her, no
woman will. If I were to guess, I’d say that you also think being rejected
means you’re ugly, stupid, boring, and the like. Am I right?
If you said yes, then I’d like you to smack yourself right at the head.
When a woman rejects you, she’s actually rejecting your
approach, not your person. Think about it: She’s never even met
you before, so how would she have a clue as to your personality?
Consider anyone (male or female) that you truly disliked. Odds are you
got to know them prior to deciding that they repelled you.
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In other words, they gave you a reason to not like them.
When approaching women, this reason has nothing to do with your
value as a person, and everything to do with your method of
seduction.
That’s important for any Sonic Seducer to know!
It’s the first impression you’re giving off that’s not meshing
well with the women you’re trying to approach. But by the time
you finish with the SonicSeduction system, meeting and getting
women into bed will become second nature to you.
Don’t worry, buddy – I’ve got your back.
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Before you approach any girl…
…Take a Few “Practice Swings.”
Athletes do it before the big game; singers do it before stepping on
stage; and even your car does it before hitting the road for a long trip.
It’s called warming up, and it’s necessary in order to successfully
execute anything in life, especially seduction.
But how do you warm up for approaching women? For starters, don’t
be disappointed if your first couple of openers aren’t well received by
others. Instead, consider those failures as “practice swings” – merely a
warm up for the real deal. Just because some hot chick rejected your
efforts to approach her doesn’t mean you’ve lost. You’ve actually gained
from the experience.
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Warming up begins well before you hit the social scene. Turn
off your computer and television, and get pumped by listening to your
favourite CD.
Reread the list of affirmations I told you to make in last module,
carefully plan out what you’re going to wear, and enjoy a good look at
your reflection in the mirror before heading out.
And once you’re done with modules 4-7 later on in this course, you will
be able to use cutting-edge Mind Conditioning technology to “prep”
yourself for the big night out.
Personally, I also like to lift weights and take a brisk run before going
out on the prowl, but different things work for different people.
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Start With The “Infamous” Opinion Opener.
There’s nothing wrong with asking a question. With this approach,
you’re simply asking the woman for her opinion on something, and
launching the conversation from there.
This tactic works wonders over the cheesy pick-up lines used by so
many guys, because it hides the ulterior motive for sex very well. That,
and women love to give their opinions.
However, there is a catch to the effectiveness of this technique – it’s all
about your delivery. To illustrate, a girl friend of mine was at the
grocery store one day, when a man approached her asking if she had
any good apple-pie recipes.
Guess what happened?
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She told me he stood about two inches from her face, where
she got an excellent view of his “sex eyes.” He then proceeded to
tell her that she looked like “a piece of apple pie.”
She straight-lined it to the beer isle.
The point of that story is this: Had he remained more neutral in
his approach, she would’ve very well given him her number (more on
neutrality later in this module).
By delivering his opener in an obviously-horny fashion, he turned her
off before even finishing his question. He didn’t get any apple pie
either.
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Don’t Be Male Aggressive.
You’ve heard of women who are “female aggressive”. These are women
who practically foam at the mouth whenever another female is within
two feet of them, especially when a man is at stake.
Well, a lot of guys make the mistake of acting the same way when
pursuing a woman. Call it primal instincts, the “thrill of the chase,” or
whatever you want…just don’t go there.
In seduction, there are going to be times when the girl you want to
score is hanging out with other men. Unless one of these guys is her
boyfriend or husband, don’t let this deter you. In fact, approaching
groups that include men can actually make your job a lot
easier, since guys tend to be more laid back, and lack the “guard” that
so many women put up against getting hit on.
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With that said, try your opener on one or more of the men in the group
to get the ball rolling.
Once she sees that the group approves of you, the girl you’ve got your
eye on will quickly warm up and become more approachable. In
effect, you’ve used the men surrounding her to draw her into
your world.
Pour Out the “Liquid Confidence.”
Have you ever wondered why drunk drivers never get hurt or killed in a
car accident? This is more than mere coincidence, I assure you. In fact,
doctors everywhere have attributed their survival rate to the alcohol in
their system, which relaxes their muscles and enables them to survive
the impact of the crash. Sadly, it’s the sober people that end up
suffering the most.
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While alcohol may indeed relax you, it will not up your game
when it comes to seduction.
Most guys make the mistake of getting tanked on “liquid confidence”
before even thinking about approaching hot women. As a result, their
words are sloppy, their breath stinks, and a lot of them can’t help but
fall all over the girl…literally. Trust me – this behavior is not
going to get you laid.
If you want to be a master Sonic Seducer, you have to be on top of your
game at all times. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a social drink or
two, but drowning your brain in booze is only going to work against
you. In order to deliver effective openers and score phone
numbers, you need to be sharp, on your toes, and naturally
confident. And besides, you want to be able to pick up chicks outside
of bars sometimes too.
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The Importance of Neutrality
Just as it’s important to not be male aggressive, it’s also important not
to kiss ass when approaching a group (mixed or not).
Both behaviors – aggressiveness and fawning – are typical of someone
with a low level of confidence, eager to gain the approval of those
around him. Your aim in every interaction is to portray the selfassuredness that’s irresistible to hot women.
In order to accomplish this, you must remain neutral in
everything you say and do, until you reach the point where
rapport has been established.
Turn the page for an example…
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Let’s say you just met a girl for the first time. She’s hot, and you can’t
help but think how nice it would be to lay her, but the best thing you
can do at this point is keep that bit of information to yourself.
Warning! If you were to get straight to the point with her,
odds are you’d end things before they even began.
Instead, focus the conversation more on gray areas, and less on sexual
topics. Instead of telling her how beautiful she is, use your
surroundings to find something to comment on.
Make a joke about the dreadful shirt that guy in the corner is wearing.
Talk about the song that’s playing, and tell her about the time you saw
the artist in concert. Keep everything (from your words, to your
body language) neutral until you’ve established a level of
rapport with her.
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Approaching women is not a death sentence, and if
you’ve paid any attention, you should know this by
now.
Remember that rejection is not to be taken personally, and the more
you practice your approach, the more effective you’ll become at getting
what you want.
The key to seducing a woman for the first time is ease your way into her
world with neutral dialogue and body language. Ask for her opinion on
something, and chat up her entire group (even the males). Display a
level of confidence that she’ll find irresistible, and you’ll have her in
bed in no time.
Ж
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"Somebody better call God, because He’s missing an
angel!"
I could list off hundreds of these lines that guys use to pick up women,
but honestly, I don’t think I could stomach that.
The reason these lines fail miserably is because they position
men as the pursuer, not the prize. Besides, you’re probably the
fifth guy that night to try the same tactic, and women can’t stand it.
It doesn’t matter how you look, what you do for work, or how much
money you have; if your skills suck, you’re going to end up in the same
place you started…lonely and horny. An old fat guy who’s balding can
have great success with approaching women if he knows what he’s
doing.
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On that same note, you could look like you’ve just stepped off the pages
of GQ, but if your approach is off, you’ll end up looking like a fool.
Assume Attraction.
If you want to meet women minus the creepiness factor, you’re going to
have to start viewing yourself as the prize, and I will show you how. Old
tactics of tacky pick-up lines position women as the catch, not the other
way around.
If you go into an interaction prepared with a list of stories and oneliners, you’re placing yourself in a desperate state-of-mind…and it’s
going to show.
Instead, your goal should be to assume attraction.
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Assume Attraction … the heart of the SonicSeduction
system.
This concept can be hard to grasp for men who’ve never heard of it, but
with a little practice, it’s a no-brainer. In short, it involves drawing
women into your world, not invading theirs. The men who fail at
picking up women just can’t wrap their minds around this concept, and
until they do, they’re going to have to be content with their right hands.
To illustrate, consider how most men move in on a woman. They either
make the tragic mistake of reciting cheesy pick-up lines, or they
introduce themselves right off the bat. Some even comment about how
beautiful the woman is, expecting her to melt. When she moves to
another table instead, they’re at a loss.
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Why do these methods fail? For starters, most women wear an
invisible guard against men. They’re raised from a very early age to
behave like ladies, and are warned about the social damage of being
labelled a slut. To top things off, they’re all well aware of the fact that
most men are only interested in sex.
With that said, any attempt to directly pursue them (be it sexual or not)
will make you appear as a threat.
So how do you go about assuming attraction? What’s the best
way to draw a woman into your world, and get laid at the same time?
The following are some of the best SonicSeduction methods that aim
at doing just that.
Turn the page…
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Invade Her Space.
No – I don’t mean literally. Instead, this technique involves
“accidentally” touching a girl, giving you an excuse to talk to her.
For instance, if you’re standing in a crowd, bump into her. When she
notices (which she will), apologize, and start up a conversation about
how crowded the place is.
If you’re seated at a bar stand, mistakenly brush elbows with her, and
take it from there. You can even make a joke out of it by asking, “You
want to buy me a drink?” This technique is great, because in the
woman’s eyes, you aren’t trying to hit on her. Only you are aware of
your true intentions.
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Be Cool.
A man who successfully picks up women knows how to behave. Many
guys break a sweat when first talking to a girl. They act as though their
very existence depends upon her response to them, and if she shoots
them down, they take the blow personally. This is typical of a pursuer.
A successful pick-up artist, on the other hand, is of an entirely different
state-of-mind. Sure he wants to score, but at his very core, he’s
confident in and of himself. His value is not dependent on any
woman…they’re merely there for his amusement.
With a mental attitude such as this, he doesn’t have to act confident,
because he is confident. He has mastered the art of disguising his
motives for sex until getting exactly what he wants. He is laid back in
his approach, making him even more appealing to the opposite sex.
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Make Conversation.
As you can probably imagine, this involves talking to a woman. You
might be thinking this is easier said than done, but you couldn’t be
more wrong. In fact, if you know what you’re doing, it’s not that hard at
all.
As you already learned in chapter 6, one of the best ways to chat up a
girl is to get her opinion on something. Since I already covered what
the technique is, I’d like to focus now on how to properly execute it.
Believe it or not, there’s more involved than simply asking a girl where
you can get some good sushi.
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There are a number of topics you could choose as openers, so generally
speaking, there are very few rules for what to talk about.
The only rule you must abide by when first meeting a girl is to refrain from any
sexual questions. Sure you wouldn’t mind banging her right there on the table, but
once again, if she picks up on that, you’re immediately disqualified.
To get the ball rolling, here are a few of the openers I’ve successfully used to pick up
women:
The “What should I do?” Opener
This one involves somewhat of a lie (okay, it’s completely untrue), but it works
wonders for building rapport with a woman. Approach the girl you’ve got your eye
on, and tell her you need her opinion on something that is really bothering you.
Turn the page to know how to use this opener for maximum results…
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A good story to tell is that you caught your buddy’s girlfriend with another man,
and you don’t know if you should tell him, because you don’t want to hurt him (or
something like that). Women love this sort of gossip, because it feeds their
need for drama.
The “Puppy Love” Opener
Sounds silly, I know, but hear me out.
As we all know, most women love animals (especially dogs). Walk up to a group of
girls, tell them you just got a new dog from the pound, and ask them what you
should name it.
If you have a dog yourself, carry a picture of it around with you, and pull it out to
show the women what the dog looks like (of course, you’ve already named it, but
they don’t have to know that). While they’re busy cooing over how cute the pup is,
use the opportunity to make them laugh. Say you were thinking of naming the dog
Freeloader.
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I
n order to get you more comfortable talking to
women, I recommend you try out a few
openers at random. The next time you’re out with
your buddies, choose at least ten women to approach.
They can be attractive or not, but the point is simply to get you
loosened up and more confident. If you’re at a restaurant, try
asking her if she has any menu recommendations.
If you’re at a bar, ask her if she comes there a lot. Doing this
exercise should prove to you that talking to women is not a death
sentence; in fact, it can be a lot of fun!
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When approaching a woman for the first time, you have
to be in the right state-of-mind. See yourself as a prize that any
woman would be lucky to have, not the other way around.
Remember that women are clued into men’s desire for sex, so keep
your opener as neutral as possible.
Set up a situation to draw her into your world, and start a
conversation by innocently asking for her opinion. This is a perfect
way to establish rapport and get what you want at the same time ™
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