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TABLEOF
OFCONTENTS
CONTENTS
TABLE
Part1:
1:How
HowTo
ToThink
ThinkAbout
AboutSuccess
Success
Part
With Women
Women ............................10
.....10
With
.........
Chapter 1:
1: Women
Women Don't
Don’t Make
Make Sense
Chapter
Sense.......
....... 11
Where Our Desires
Desires Come
Come From.
From..............................12
..12
The First
FirstShift
Shift
Thinking.....................................14
....14
The
In In
Thinking........
It's AAGame
.. ...........................................16
It’s
GameToToThem
Them
.......16
WhyWomen
Women Are
Are Attracted
Attracted To
ToThings
Things Like
Like Fame,
Why
Money,
AndPower
Power
....17
Money, And
... ...............................................17
The Dark
Dark Side Of
...18
The
Of Beauty.......................................18
Beauty......
The Underlying Motives
..21
The
Motives ........................................21
.......
Key
Points
To
Remember
From
Chapter
1................23
..23
Key Points To Remember From Chapter 1........
Chapter 2:
2: How
How I Discovered
Discovered What Works
With Women
With
Women......................................
.................
.......26
26
It's
OK To
To Be
Be A
It’s OK
A Man
Man..
.............................................26
...26
MyStory
Story
............................................................31
....31
My
.................................
Do
....32
Do As
As Much
Much As
As You
You Can
Can To
To Improve
Improve .......................32
Self-Image, Self-Talk,
Self-Talk, And
And Other
Other Self Stuff..............35
Self-Image,
Stuff...... ... .....35
The Attitude.....
Attitude........................................................36
The
......36
AllComes
Comes Down
Down To Your Skills..
Skills............................38
ItItAll
....38
a ra
Internal States
States ....................................................42
Internal
..
....42
Find Others.........................................................43
Find
Others..........................
...43
What Outcome Are
Are You
You Looking
Looking For?
For? ......................44
....44
Key
...45
Key Points
Points To
To Remember
Remember From
From Chapter
Chapter 2................45
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Part 2: How To Communicate With
Women ...................................47
Women
...............
.47
Chapter 3: How To Develop A Personality
That Is
Is Irresistible To Women
Women .................
48
That
....
... .... 48
Be
Way...........................48
..48
Be Different
Different In
In An Attractive Way.
Enemies Are
Are Insecurity
Insecurityand
andNeediness...
Neediness.............49
....49
Your Enemies
ThinkingInIn
Time
Frames
..50
Thinking
Time
Frames
..... ......................................50
How Men
Women
...............................52
How
MenUsually
UsuallyFind
Find
Women
............................52
That Attract
AttractWomen...
Women........................54
......54
The Six Things That
Personality
Attract Women
Women ....................55
..55
Personality Traits
Traits That Attract
KeyPoints
Points To
To Remember
Remember
From
Chapter
3................61
Key
From
Chapter
3..............61
Chapter 4: How To
To Use
Use Communication
And Humor
Humor To
................
And
ToAttract
AttractWomen
Women
............... 64
How
WomenTest
TestMen
Men
And
Why.............................64
...........64
How Women
And
Why.....
The Very Attractive
Attractive Women
Women Are
Are Approached
Approached
The
All The
The Time...
Time........................................................69
All
...69
More
Things....................71
71
More On
On My
My Way
Way Of
Of Looking
Looking At Things
On
Being AAMan..
Man...................................................74
....74
On Being
How
....75
How To Tease (How To Speak Woman) ...................75
Humor ...............................................................79
Humor
.....
....79
How
Funny, The
The One
One Page
Page Course
Course .................81
.............81
How To Be Funny,
Let's Be Friends ...................................................83
Let’s
.....83
More Nuggets
.............84
More
Nuggets of
of Gold...........................................84
Gold.................
On
.....88
On Predictability ..................................................88
On Testing..
Testing..........................................................89
....89
On
Voice Tone.
Tone..........................................................90
Voice
.....90
Fear....................................................................91
Fear.....
.......91
On Persistence:
Persistence: ...................................................91
.....91
How
How To
To Answer Any Question That You Don’t
Don't
Want To
To Answer
Answer ..................................................92
Want
..
.....92
Key
4................95
...95
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 4.
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Looks
Body
Language
Chapter 5:5:
OnOn
Looks
andand
Body
Language
... 97 ... 97
97
Body
Body Language Basics ..........................................97
Signs That
That AA Woman
WomanIsIsInterested
Interested
100
.... 100
.. .......................
On
Cuddling......................................................
101
........ 101
On Cuddling...
Key Points
Points To Remember
Remember From
Key
FromChapter
Chapter5..............
5.............. 103
Part
Part 3:
3:Exactly
ExactlyWhat,
What,When,
When, And
And
How .....................................105
How
........ 000000.00...0..........105
Chapter 6:
6: The
The Basics
Basics of
of Style
Style and
and Class,
Class,
Plus More
More On
On How To Fascinate Women
Plus
Women ..
.. 106
Be Prepared!
Prepared! Expect...........................................
106
... 106
Be
Expect............
Learn To Cook A
A Few
Few Good
Good Meals
Meals .........................
.... 107
Learn A Few Cold Reading Methods ......................
... 107
Get A Few
Few Good
Good Props
Props ........................................
108
... 108
Chivalry ...........................................................
...... 109
Key
6..............111
111
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 6.
Chapter 7: Where And How To Meet
Women...........................................112
112
Women.....................................
Where To
To Meet
Meet Women.......................................
113
Where
Women........
...113
How
How To Meet Women .........................................
.. 115
The Initial
Approach ...........................................
116
...116
The
Initial Approach
Meeting
Women Online..
Online........................................
.... 118
Meeting Women
Meeting Women At
At Dance
Dance Lessons
Lessons .......................
... 120
120
Getting
ThemInterested
Interested
In You
.... 121
Getting Them
In You
.... ...........................
Getting
PhoneNumbers
NumbersAnd
And
E-mail
Addresses
122
Getting Phone
E-mail
Addresses
.... .......
... 122
Snappy
Responses To
ToCommon
CommonSituations....
Situations..............
124
.... 124
Snappy Responses
Key
PointsTo
ToRemember
Remember
From
Chapter
7...............
127
........ 127
Key Points
From
Chapter
7.......
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Chapter
How To
To Approach
Approach“Dating”....
"Dating"... 130
How
To Get
GetThe
TheFirst
FirstMeeting
Meeting
130
.... 130
How To
.. ..............................
About Men
Men And
And How
How You
You
Two Ways Women Think About
Can Control This
This ................................................
Can
...
.... 130
When You Meet .................................................
When
.....
....133
133
The First
NOT An
The
First Date
Date Is NOT
An Interview
Interview ......................
....135
135
Places To Go
Go .....................................................
Places
..
...138
138
10
....140
140
10 Steps
Steps To A Guaranteed Great Date ..................
Chapter
9:Getting
GettingPhysical..
Physical..................
142
...... 142
Chapter 9:
How To Take
TakeThe
TheNext
NextStep
Step. ................................
142
.... 142
Your 7-Step
7-Step Guide
Guide To
To Getting
Getting Physical
Physical ................... 145
145
Chapter
Chapter 10:
10: Keeping
Keeping Her
HerAttracted
Attracted To You,
"How To
Or “How
To Have
Have a Long Term
Relationship" ................
Relationship”
...................................
146
............ 146
The Beginning
Beginning of
of the
the End,
End, Or
Or the End
End of the
The
Beginning .........................................................
146
......... 146
Beginning
....
Interviews
WithDating
Dating
Gurus
148
............. 148
Interviews With
Gurus
... ..............................
Sexual Communication
148
Sexual
Communication.......................................
...........
...... 148
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
CD/DVD Program
148
Advanced
Program ......
...... 148
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Part 1: How To
Think About
Success With
Success
With
Women
Women
In this section, I'm
I’m going
going to
to teach
teach some
some interesting things
about how women
women think
think and how I’ve
I've used this
information to make
make myself
myself more
more successful
successful with them.
them.
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1:Women
WomenDon't
Don’tMake
MakeSense
Sense
Chapter
I’m
going to start
start off
off this
thiswhole
whole shebang
shebang by giving
giving you
you
I'm going
my take on women in general.
general.
I know,
know, II know.
know.Every
Every woman
woman is
is aa unique
unique creature.
creature.
But women have
have
have more commonalties than they have
differences. So
So let’s
let's start
start with
with what I think
differences.
think they
they have
have in
common and then we’ll
common
we'll move on
on to how
how they
they differ. (The
ideas
ideas that
that I’m
I'm about to share with you here are from my
own research,
world, and
and personal
personal
research, testing
testing in the real world,
analysis.)
For
is like
like aa Chinese
Chinese puzzle
puzzle inside
For most
most men, a woman is
of a
a brain twister.
of
twister.
Much
Much of
of their
their behavior makes no sense
sense at
at all
all (to
men).
men).
thing that I’m
I'm clear
it's that most
If there's
there’s one
one thing
clear about, it’s
women
women THINK
THINK differently
differently than most men, and most
women
men.
women want
want different things than most men.
This is
This
is hard
hard for
for many men to grasp or understand, but
it’s
true. And
And the
the sooner
sooner you
you get
get aa handle
handle on
on what's
what’s going
going
it's true.
on
successful with
with
on here, the
the sooner
sooner you’ll
you'llbecome
become more
more successful
women.
women.
Let’s
men and
and women are
Let's start by comparing what men
interested in.
interested
Have
Have you
you ever
ever stopped
stopped to
to think
think about what entertains
women as
men as
as a
as aa group
group compared
compared to
to what entertains men
group? Women buy Cosmopolitan magazines, watch soap
soap
operas, and read romance novels. Men buy Playboy,
watch sports,
sports, and
and read the paper.
watch
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Hey,
Hey, wait aa minute
minute here!
here! What’s
What's in
in those
thoseCosmos,
Cosmos,
soaps,
so
soaps, and romance novels?
novels? And why are women so
attracted to
to them?
them?
attracted
that when
when men try
try to
to watch
watch aa soap
soap
And why
why is
is it that
opera
novel all
all they
they can
can say
say is,
is, “I
"I don’t
don't
opera or
or read
read a
a romance
romance novel
getit...
it...”?
get
."?
I'll
tell
why.
It's
because
women's brains
brains are
are
I’ll
tell
youyou
why.
It’s
because
women’s
wired differently from men's
men’s brains. That's
That’s why.
why.
attracts women's
women’s
And by telling you about what attracts
attention, I've
I’ve also
also given you a clue about
about how
how to
to attract
them to
toYOU.
YOU.
them
Our Desires
Desires Come From
Where Our
years or so
so studying
After spending the last ten years
psychology
psychology and
and behavior,
behavior, I’ve
I've come
come to
to the opinion
opinion that
MOST
MOSTof
ofour
our desires,
desires, drives,
drives, preferences,
preferences, strengths,
weaknesses,
weaknesses, behaviors,
behaviors, and
and personality
personality traits
traits are
determined by our
our DNA
DNA and some by our
our social
social
conditioning. I’m
talking about
about both
both men
men and
and women
women
I'm talking
here.
here.
Even
Even differences
differences like
like whether a person prefers
adventure
adventure or couch
couch riding
riding are
are largely
largely aa matter
matter of
programming
(If you
you really
really disagree
disagree with me
programming from
from birth (If
on this one, read some books on the Myers-Briggs
Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator or try
try the
thebook
book Who
Who Am
Am I?
I? by
by Steven
Steven Reiss.)
Reiss.)
In any event,
event, HOWEVER
HOWEVER they
they got
got to
to be interested in
these common things, most women have a few main
interests, needs, desires,
call
desires, or whatever you want to call
them when it
it comes
comes to men,
men, relationships,
relationships, and
and romance.
romance.
Have
women’s pro
profiles?
Have you
you ever gone online and read women's
les?
Have
Have you
you ever
ever noticed
noticed how
how many women say things like
"princess
prince", “friends
"friends first”,
rst", and
“princess looking for prince”,
and "looking
“looking
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for my
my soulmate”?
soulmate"? Have
noticed how
how almost
almost NO
NO
for
Have you
you ever
ever noticed
men ever say these things?
What’s
on?
What's going on?
Have
Have you
you ever
ever listened
listened to
to a group of women talking
about
Evernotice
notice how
how they
they speak
speaklargely
largely in
about men?
men? Ever
insome
some
kind of
constantly make
big deal
deal out
of code
code language
language and
and constantly
make aa big
of
totally irrelevant?
of tiny
tiny details
details that
that seem
seem totally
irrelevant?
Have
you ever
ever noticed,
noticed, on
Have you
on the
theother
otherhand,
hand,how
how men
men
are direct
direct with
witheach
each other
other and
and have
have no interest in
are
bickering over small things?
What's going on?
What’s
on?
Have
Have you
you ever
ever noticed how many women are
attracted to
to drama?
drama?
Here’s
subject: Women
Women are
Here's my
my take on this whole subject:
playing
playing out
out aa role
role that
that hasn’t
hasn't changed
changed for
for thousands
thousands(or
or
millions?)
of
years.
These
days
the
language
and
clothing
millions? of years. These days the language and
are different. But it's
it’s the
the same
same that
that it's
it’salways
always been.
been.
There are
There
are many
many parts of human brains that create
drives and
these drives
and desires
desires for
for different
different things. Often, these
conflict
with each
each other.
con
ict with
For
For instance,
instance, aa woman
woman might
might want a strong man in
her
her life, but she might also want a feeling of
independence.
but she
she
independence. She
Shemight
might want
want to
to have
have attention,
attention, but
might also want to
to be
be seen
seen as above needing it.
(Men
it. (Men
have
thesetypes
typesofofconflicts
conflicts as
aswell,
well, but
but in
in different
different
have these
areas.)
areas.
So,
hear aa lot
lot of
sayingthings
thingslike,
like,
So, for
for example,
example, II hear
of men
men saying
“I hate
hate all
"I
allthe
thedrama
dramathat
thatwomen
women create.
create. Why
Why do
do they
create
create this stuff?"
stuff?”
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My
My answer:
answer: Drama accomplishes
accomplishes aa lot
lot of
of things
things at
once.
It gets
sends
once. It
gets attention,
attention,itit
sendsemotions
emotions through
through the
body
(emotionsare
arehighly
highlyaddictive
addictive chemicals),
chemicals), it's
it’s aa way
body (emotions
way
to
self-righteous, it's
it’s often
to be
be self-righteous,
often fun,
fun, it’s
it'sinteresting
interesting and
and
preventsboredom,
boredom,itit gives
gives things
prevents
things meaning...
meaning... and
and on
on and
and
on. There
There are
are aa lot of good reasons
reasons for
for drama. But most
men
because drama
men can’t
can't understand because
drama fulfills
ful lls needs
needs that
that
MOST MEN
MEN DONT
DON’T HAVE.
HAVE.
MOST
It’s
like women
women saying, "I
“I hate
hate itit when
when all
all aa guy
guy can
can
It's like
talk about is sports."
sports.” What
What needs to sports fulfill
for men?
men?
ful ll for
Competition, adrenaline,
adrenaline, power,
Competition,
power, domination...
domination... all
all the
the
typical guy
that ful
fulfills
needs that
guy stuff.
stuff. Incidentally, stuff that
lls needs
most women
women just plain don’t
most
don't have.
The First Shift In Thinking
So
thinking: Think
Think about
So let’s
let's start
start off with this shift in thinking:
what the woman who you're
you’re interested
interested in
in needs
needs and
and
wants and don’t
don't assume that these are the same things
thatYOU
YOU need
need and want.
that
assume that
And don’t
don't assume
that what women want is going to
make
because it
make any
any sense
sense at
at all
all to
to you, because
it probably won’t.
won't.
This
was a big one for me personally to
This shift
shift in thinking was
understand.Almost
Almost none
none of
of what
what II do
do to
to be
be successful
successful
understand.
with women makes any sense to me logically,
logically, because
because
I’mnot
notaawoman.
woman. But
But now that II see
see that what
I'm
what I do
works
works over
over and
and over
over again,
again, II realize
realize that
that itit doesn’t
doesn't matter
what makes
makes sense.
sense.
what
Allthat
thatmatters
mattersisisWHAT
WHATWORKS.
WORKS.
All
Let’s
female heart
heart and
and
Let's get
get aa little deeper into the female
mind.
mind.
Females select males
Females
males most
most of
of the
the time
time in nature... and
in modern human courtship. And
And even if the
the man
man selects
selects
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the woman, many if not most women still harbor the
secret fantasy
fantasy that
that they’re
they're ‘letting
'letting him do it’,
it', etc.
secret
etc.
Sooooooo.... It's
It’s good
good to
to address
address this issue and
Sooooooo....
and point
out when
talking to
to women
women
(even
youhint
hintatatit
it and
talk
when talking
(even
if ifyou
and talk
about
past experiences
to make
thepoint)
point) that
that you
about past
experiences to
make the
you are
the selector and not the selectee. This
This kind of thing is
very powerful, as
as itit does
does one
oneof
of my
my favorite
favorite things:
things: It
It
points
she’s most likely
points out something
something to the woman that she's
NEVER HEARD
NEVER
HEARD FROM
FROMAAMAN
MANIN
IN HER
HER ENTIFE
ENTIFELIFE.
LIFE.II
specialize
heard.
specialize in
in saying
saying things
things that women have never heard.
II also
say
that
she’s
never
heard
also like
liketoto
saythings
things
that
she's
never
heardthat
thatMAKE
MAKE
MEDIFFERENT
DIFFERENTIN
IN A DESIRABLE
ME
DESIRABLE WAY.
WAY.
I’d
tell you
you
I'd even say
say to women,
women, “I’m
"I'm about to tell
something
that no
no one
one has ever
something (or something about you) that
told you..."
you...” This
This really gets a woman on the edge of her
told
seat
(when
seat and
and puts
puts her
her into
into an
an instant state of attention (when
done
you
done in
in aa context that makes sense).
sense). And
And ifif the thing you
tell them is
is profound
profound enough,
enough, they'll
they’ll begin
begin to
to see
see you
you as
as a
a
sort of super psychic
psychic powerhouse (women are fascinated
fascinated
by these kinds of insights).
insights).
My
My personal
personal view
view is
is that
that if you help people to have
profound
realizations,
they’ll
profound realizations, they'll see you as
as aa guru
guru rather
than seeing
seeing the
themselves as
the information or themselves
as powerful.
powerful. It
It
doesn’t
from where
where the
the info
info came,
came, as
as long as it’s
doesn't matter from
it's
something
something that the person has never
never really thought about
in that way (that's
(that’s also
also profound to her).
her).
One
who’s
One good
good example
example is
is to
to say
say to
to a hot woman who's
acting arrogant, "You
“You don't
don’t have me fooled for a minute,
dear.”
dear.
When she
she says,
says, "What
“What are you talking about?",
about?”, you
When
"Well, I know that most men
men fall
fall for
for this
this ‘I’m
'I'm
say, “Well,
beautiful
beautiful and
and aloof
aloof and
and II get
get my
my way’
way' part of your
personality... but II know
know something
something that
that none
none of them
know...that
that there's
there’s really
really another
side of
of you.
know...
another side
you. A
A side that
that
none
none of
of THEM
THEMget
getto
tosee.
see.I’ll
I'll bet
bet you
you aa dollar
dollar right now
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that IIknow
knowsomething
something about
about you
you that
that no
no one
one who's
who’s only
that
known you
you for
for55minutes
minuteshas
hasEVER
EVERknown...
known...<bause
<pause
pause pause>... You
You may act tough, but you're
you’re actually
pause
actually
EXTREMELY sensitive
EXTREMELY
sensitiveon
onthe
theinside.
inside. IfIf someone
someone makes a
negative
doesn’t
negative comment
comment to
to you,
you, you
you might
might act like it doesn't
bother you...
you... but
but you'll
you’ll think
think about
about itit all
all the
the way
way home...
home...
bother
I know that
that secretly
secretlyyou're
you’reas
assensitive
sensitiveas
asaalittle
littlegirl...
girl...
it’s
that most
most people
people never
it's just that
never get
get to
to meet
meet that
that part of
you...”
you..
This messes
messes up
up aa cold
cold woman
woman soooo
soooo hard
hard that
that you
have
and a
a
have to
to be
be ready
ready for instant personality meltdown and
completely
completely different
different person
person to
to come
come out
out of
of her.
her. At this
point, it's
it’soften
ofteneasy
easy to
to start
start talking
talking about
about the
the whole
whole
point,
pickup scene
scene and how women
pickup
women play
play men,
men, etc.
etc. to
to let her
know
you’re an insider and not falling for
for her
her game.
game.
know that
that you're
If you drop two or
or three
three more
more profound
profound comments
comments during
this time,
time,you'll
you’llhave
haveaawoman
woman who
who won't
won’t leave
leave you
you alone
alone
this
(but keep acting like you want to
to be
be left
left alone
alone so
so she'll
she’ll
stay after you!).
you!). Nice.
Nice.
It's A
It’s
A Game
Game To Them
Women
Women often
often view men picking up on them as a sort
of game. They
they have
have
They talk
talk about
about itit with each other, they
standard
standard lines
lines that
that they learn when you
you ask
ask for
for their
"Why don't
number such as, “Why
don’t you
you give
give me
meYOUR
YOUR number
instead and I can call you...?"
you...?” and
and so
so on.
on.
I know that
that some,
some, maybe
maybe even
even most women
women go out on
on
weekends with the mindset
weekends
mindset of
of “I’m
"I'm never going to meet
Mr. Right at a club, but itit boosts
boosts my
my ego
ego to
to have
have men
men
paying
have
paying attention
attention to me by the dozens, and
and I like to have
free drinks...
drinks... and
and II love
love to
to dance
dance with my girlfriends and
free
beaatease...
tease...and
and IIlove
lovethe
thepower
power of
of shooting
shooting men
men down
be
while
pretending
to be
annoyed
byetc.
it... etc.”
while pretending
to be
annoyed
by it...
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To Things
Things Like
Like Fame,
Fame,
Why Women
Women Are
Are Attracted
Attracted To
Money, And Power
In my opinion, women are attracted to things like
fame, money,
money, and
and power
power because
because they are genetically
and socially programmed on an unconscious level to
believe
believe that
that these
these men
men are
are more
more intelligent,
intelligent, more fun,
more interesting,
more able
able to
togive
givethem
themthe
thelifestyle
lifestyle- –
interesting, more
and MOST
MOSTIMPORTANTLY
IMPORTANTLY– -more
moreable
ableto
to give
give them
them the
FEELINGS that
Influence,
FEELINGS
that they
they want. In his book In
uence, Robert
Cialdini
Cialdini talks about a psychological principle called the
‘Halo
assume that
'HaloEffect’.
Effect'. In
In aa nutshell,
nutshell, humans
humans naturally assume
attractive and
and powerful people
people are smarter and more
trustworthy
than average
average people.
people.
trustworthy than
A woman desires
desires aa man
man who
who fits
ts into her self-image
fantasies that have been forming
forming since
since she
she was very
young. And thanks to
to Disney
Disney these
these fantasies
fantasies were
imbedded
imbedded even
even further
further than her genetic wiring ever
intended.
intended.
Overall, the answer
answer is
is to
to realize
realize that
that rich, powerful,
famous guys
guys have
have the advantage
advantage at the beginning from
their
FAMILIARITYand
andASSUMED,
ASSUMED,PROJECTED
PROJECTED positive
their FAMILIARITY
positive
traits.But
Butififyou
youcan
can learn
learn to
to get
get aa woman's
woman’s attention and
traits.
then give her
her the
the FEELINGS
FEELINGS that
she’s always wanted,
that she's
she’ll
you’re famous,
famous, rich,
rich, and
and powerful
powerful as
as
she'll treat you like you're
well.
well.
tall,handsome
handsome man,
man,or
oraafamous
famous rich
rich man
man 'pushes
‘pushes a
a
AAtall,
button’
triggers certain
certain feelings
feelings inside
inside of
of aa woman.
woman.
button' and triggers
If you're
you’re not rich, famous,
famous, tall and/or super
super attractive,
you have
button’ so that when
when they
have to
to learn
learn to
to ‘install
'install the button'
see
automatically have
have those
those feelings.
feelings. The
The good
good
see you,
you, they automatically
news is that
that you
you can
can do this with most
most women,
women, whereas
whereas
news
you cannot with most men.
men.
While
to some
some degree,
While women
women are interested in looks to
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they are MORE
MORE interested
feel.
interested in
in how
how you make them feel.
Even
Even ifif you
you don’t
don't understand this concept, you have to
believe
true. You
You must
must behave
behave as
as
believe and
and start
start acting as
as ifif it’s
it's true.
if you con
confidently
dently believe
believe that
that you are the best thing for aa
woman
woman and
and that you are going to make her feel
wonderful.
wonderful.
Women
Women can
can pick
pick up
up this
this particular
particular belief, and they
respond
respond to
to it.
it.
Ask yourself:
yourself:
“How would
would II walk
walk ifif IIbelieved
believed that
that IIcould
could make
make any
any
"How
woman feel great
great inside?
inside?
“How
"Howwould
wouldI Italk
talkifif II believed
believed that
that I could make any
woman feel great
great inside?"
inside?”
“What
"Whatwould
wouldthe
the expression
expression be
be on
on my
my face
face ifif I
believed
could make any woman feel great inside?"
inside?”
believed that
that I could
“How
man
"Howwould
wouldI Iact
actdifferently
differently ifif II were the kind of man
that
thatwomen
women dreamed
dreamed about?"
about?”
Then start
When you’re
Then
start doing these
these things. When
you're talking to
a woman, imagine how good
good you’re
you're going to make her
feel. Fake
it. Just
Just do
do it.
it. Women
Women will
will notice.
notice.
Fake itit till you make it.
The Dark Side Of Beauty
Underneath
of these
these powerful
Underneath all
all of
of the
the beauty, most of
women
women have
have a
a 'shadow'
‘shadow’ or dark side.
This dark side is secretly wanting a man who is in
control of himself, his reality,
and them.
them.
reality, and
But
often not
not even
even to
But they’d
they'd never
never admit
admit itit –- often
themselves.
themselves.
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But their
unconscious knows and recognizes this
their unconscious
desire
want. They
They also
also hold a kind
desire as
as something
something that
that they want.
of inner
inner CONTEMPT
CONTEMPT for
forthe
the weak
weak people
people (especially
(especially men)
who give them everything they
they want,
want, as
as is
is evidenced
evidenced by
the "Oh,
“Oh, he's
he’s just a guy II use
use to
to buy
buy me
me things
things and
and "He's
“He’s
my ‘Boytoy’
'Boytoy' kind of comments that women often make to
their girlfriends.
girlfriends.
On
to women
women and
and buying
On the
the topic of men giving gifts to
themthings:
things:Many
Many women
women will
will take
take what
what is
is available
available to
them
them (even
(even ifif they
they have
have to do a
them
a little
little manipulation
manipulation for
for it),
it),
but they will ultimately
ultimately resent
resent and
and disrespect
disrespect a
a man
man who
who
gives
them.
gives too much to them.
As a
fact, to
to most
most hot
hotwomen,
women,THEIR
THEIR
As
a matter
matter of fact,
REALITY
REALITYisisthat
thatmen
menkiss
kissup
upto
to them
them and
and give
give them
them what
they ask for or demand (worst case, they have to get
upset
their way).
way).AGAIN,
AGAIN, THIS
THIS IS
upset or act bitchy to get their
THEIR
REALITY.Men
Menwho
whodon’t
don'tfit tthis
this mold
mold are
are often
often just
just
THEIR REALITY.
tuned out as
didn’t exist in order to
to keep
keep this
as if they didn't
reality as pure as possible for them.
them.
(Also,
that many
many women
women harbor contempt for
(Also, II think that
their beauty. At
At aa shadow
shadow level, they are kept from living
a real life and being closer
closer to
to the real world simply
because
fewer and
andfewer
fewerpeople
peoplecan
canrelate
relate to them
in
because fewer
them in
proportion to how ‘beautiful’
they are
are and
and make
make
'beautiful' they
themselves.
Addressing this
this topic
topic when
when speaking
speaking to
themselves. Addressing
women is VERY
VERY powerful.
powerful. More
More later.)
later.)
Men
ass kissers because they
Men are
are often
often behaving like ass
are afraid that a
a woman
woman might
might get
get upset
upset and
and leave.
leave. The
The
fact is that
that by
by acting
acting this
this way,
way,aawoman
womanisisMORE
MORE likely to
leave. It’s
It's one of those paradoxes
that's a self-fulfilling
self-ful lling
leave.
paradoxes that’s
prophesy. If a woman whines, a man might begin to
think, "Oh,
“Oh, no...
no... II need
think,
need to
to kiss
kissher
herass
assor
orshe
shemight
might
leave. Even
Eventhough
thoughshe's
she’sbeing
beingridiculous,
ridiculous, II have
leave.
have to go
go
along with
with it..
it...”
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This is
relationship
This
is bad
bad for
for her,
her, for you, and for the relationship
between
between you.
you. Learn
Learn to
to never
never let a woman act like a Brat
without
you calling
calling her
heron
onitit(AND
(ANDIN
INAACOOL,
COOL,ALMOST
ALMOST
without you
INDIFFERENT
INDIFFERENT WAY!)
WAY!)
This is
but again,
again, we're
we’re dealing
dealing
This
is very
very counter-intuitive,
counter-intuitive, but
with female human behavior, which
which has
has roots and drives
thatare
arecomplex
complex and
and often difficult
that
dif cult to trace.
The solution
solution is
is to
to NOT
NOT kiss ass
The
ass or
or do
do things
things for
for them
like everyone
everyone else.
else. Be
Be different.
different. Expect
Expect them
them to
to pull
pull their
own weight,
weight, call
call them
them on
on all
all of
of their
theirissues
issues and
and messedown
up behaviors
behaviors just
just like you would
would aa guy
guy friend or family
member (Use
(Use the
the same
same “you’re
"you're my
my friend and I’m
I'm saying
member
saying
this
t" tone that you'd
with aa friend),
friend),
this for
for your
your bene
benefit”
you’d use
use with
tease
tease and
and make
make fun
fun of
of their insecurities in a playful way,
reframe other men who kiss their ass, and put beauty in a
a
new
etc., how
how she
she can
can never have
new light
light (as a curse, etc.,
anyone see
see her for who
who she truly
is, how
how every
every man she
anyone
truly is,
knows
knows would
would sleep
sleep with
with her
her in
in aa minute,
minute, and how it often
leads
leads to
to less
less inner
inner fulfillment).
ful llment).
The fact
The
fact is that women will sleep with rich men who
kiss
asses and
kiss their asses
and model-handsome
model-handsome guys
guys who
who don’t
don't
treat
them well
well to
tosatisfy
satisfytheir
theirPHYSICAL
PHYSICAL drives.
drives.
treat them
But overall, an average looking man who
who takes
takes good
good
care
care of himself and makes enough money to live
comfortably who is cocky, direct, challenging,
challenging, con
confident,
dent,
funny,and
andin
incontrol
control--one
onewho
whochallenges
challenges her
her constantly
constantly
funny,
and never kisses her ass EVER
EVER -- will
will be
be FAR
FAR more
more fulfilling
ful lling
to a beautiful woman than the other types.
types.
This difference
This
difference isis not
not only
only interesting
interesting to
to her,
her, but it’s
it's
also
also challenging
challenging as
as well
well (something she doesn’t
doesn't
experience
experience often).
often). A man who does such
such will not only be
able
but also
also her interest
interest and
and
able to
to win her body, but
fascination. It
It will
will also
also keep
keep her
her messed
messed up behaviors
behaviors
more
more in check
check while
while allowing
allowing you
you to
to stay more in control
of the
the situation.
situation.
of
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***Note:
anyofofthis
thisstuff
stuffsounds
sounds too
too far
far out
out for you, I
***Note: If Ifany
recommend
yourself a
a
recommend that
that you go out to a mall and find
nd yourself
few really beautiful women. Then ask
ask them to read the
last few pages
pages of
of this
this book
book and
and to
to tell you the accuracy of
this material. If
If you're
you’re aa doubter,
doubter, you
you won't
won’t believe
believe the
responses you’ll
I’ve asked
asked many
many beautiful
beautiful women
women
responses
you'll get. I've
about these
EVERY
these ideas
ideasand
andalmost
almost
EVERYONE
ONE OF
OF THEM
THEM has
told
thatthis
this line
line of
is accurate.
told me
me that
of thinking
thinking is
accurate.
You’ll also
You'll
also notice
noticeout
out in
inthe
thereal
realworld
worldthat
thatsome
some
fortunate men
havethe
thelooks,
looks, fame,
fame,personality,
personality, or
men have
whatever that
that causes
causes women to act naturally
naturally open
open and
and
receptive to them.
them.
If you're
you’re one
one of these men, then congrats to you!
you!
If you're
you’re not one of these
these men
men (I’m
(I'm not, so I
understand
like) then
thenyou
youhave
haveto
toLEARN
LEARN how to
understand what it’s
it's like)
get inside of a woman's
woman’s mind
mind and
and heart
heartand
andCAUSE
CAUSE her to
start acting this way toward you. It
may take
take a
a few
It may
minutes of conversation,
conversation, or
oreven
evenup
uptotoan
anhour
hourororso...
so...
butififyou
youlearn
learn the
the skills
skills that
that I'm
I’mgoing
going to
to teach
teach you,
you, you
but
can
cause women
can learn
learn how
how to cause
women to
to act this way toward
you, too.
you,
Remember,
Remember, attraction
attraction has
has different
different roads that lead to
it.
are easy
easy shortcuts,
shortcuts, but
but some
some
take
little longer,
longer,
it.Some
Some are
take
a a
little
present
present more challenges,
challenges, and
and require
require more
more skill. But
there is a structure to the process
process and
and ifif you learn
learn that
structure,
you will
will be
be more
more successful.
successful.
structure, you
The Underlying Motives
I think that
that it's
it’s important
important to
tolook
look at
at the
the differences
differences
between
perspective.
between men
men and
and women
women from an objective perspective.
Remember
Remember that
that just
just about every thought and behavior
that a woman has, no
sense it may
no matter how little
little sense
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make
it.
make to
to you, has some
some positive
positive intention behind it.
Drama
attention. Jealousy
Jealousy is often a way of
Drama is
is often
often to
to get attention.
protecting a relationship. Games
Games are often used to make
sure that
that aa man
man is
is serious
serious and
sure
and willing
willing to
to invest
invest energy.
energy.
So
become more successful
successful with
So as
as you
you work to become
women,
Don’t
women, remember
remember not
not to take things personally. Don't
get discouraged
discouraged if you encounter games, drama, and
and
things that you don’t
understand. It’s
don't understand.
It's all part of the
game.
game.
II believe
it all,
all, men
are usually
usually trying
trying
believe that
that underneath
underneath it
men are
findwomen
womenwho
whowill
willgive
give them
them sex,
sex, and
and women
women are
toto nd
are
usually
loyalty and
and
usually trying
trying to find
nd men who will give them loyalty
commitment. This
This has evolved
evolved over
over many millions of
years, and these goals
goals contain
contain an obvious
obvious conflict
con ict of
interest.
interest.
So
conflict
and as you learn,
So just
just realize this con
ict exists, and
remember to
to take
take itit into
into consideration.
consideration.
remember
personally. Men
Men
And, of course, don’t
don't take any of itit personally.
have
these same
same issues
issues for a
a
have been
been dealing
dealing with all of these
long, long
long time.
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Key
Chapter 11
Key Points To Remember From Chapter
VDon't
Assume
Are
Don’t
AssumeAAWoman's
Woman’sWants
WantsAnd
And Needs
Needs Are
The Same
Same As Your Own.
The
Remember that
that there
there is
is an inherent biological
biological
Remember
difference in the way male and female brains are wired.
wired.
Instead of letting
letting itit confuse
confuse you
you (which
(which happens
happens to
99.9% of all men),
men), learn
learn to
to use
use itit to
to your
your advantage
advantage so
so
they will
will become
become interested
interested in
inYOU.
YOU.
WomenAre
AreFAR
FARMore
More Interested
Interested In
InThe
The Way
VWomen
YouMake
MakeThem
ThemFEEL
FEEL Rather Than Looks, Money,
You
Or Fame.
Fame.
Or
If you think
think about
about it,
it, we
we guys
guys have it pretty
pretty good.
good.
In most cases
cases when
when aa man
man is
is not physically attracted
to a woman, there is very little
she can do to turn his
little she
feelings around.
around.
Luckily for
forus,
us, women
women aren't
aren’t programmed
programmed the same
same
Luckily
way.
way.
It’s
very possible
possible for aa man
man who
who ISN'T
ISN’T tall,
tall, good
good
It's very
looking, or rich to
to make
make a
a woman
woman feel
feel the
the same
same powerful
feelings we do when we see a drop-dead gorgeous
woman.
woman.
Nice.
Nice.
 Communicate
CommunicateThat
ThatYou
YouAre
AreThe
TheSELECTOR
SELECTOR And
And
NotThe
TheSELECTEE.
SELECTEE.
Not
There
There is
is nothing
nothing you
you can
can do to stand
stand out in
in aa woman's
woman’s
mind faster than
than to
to let
lether
herknow
knowthat
thatyou
youare
areSELECTIVE
SELECTIVE
when itit comes
comes to women.
when
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Most
anything they
they can
can get.
get. When
When
Most guys
guys will
will ‘settle’
'settle' for anything
you let a woman know that
that you
you are
are actually
actuallysizing
sizingHER
HER
up, SHE’LL
you.
SHE'LLbe
bethe
the one
one trying
trying to impress you.
VDon't
Settle
For
Second-Class
Don’t
Settle
For
Second-Class Behavior
Behavior From
Women.
Women.
Women
their ass
ass
Women are
are accustomed
accustomed to
to having a guy kiss their
and
attempt to
to please
please
and do
do anything
anything and
and everything
everything to attempt
them… but
but all
all itit does
does is drive them nuts.
them...
When
be
When aa woman
woman meets
meets aa man she
she thinks
thinks she might be
interested in,
in, she
she wants
wants to
to know
know RIGHT
RIGHT AWAY
AWAY if he is one
"those guys"
of “those
guys” that
that she
she should stay away from.
from.
How does
does she
she do this?
How
By
she can
can go.
go.
By TESTING
TESTINGhim
him to
to see
see just
just how far she
Letting her get away with things like being
being rude,
whining, or complaining,
complaining, tells
tells her
her INSTANTLY
INSTANTLY that you
you
aren’t
the strong
strong man
man she
she wants
wants and
and needs.
needs.
aren't the
So
So stand
stand up
up for
for yourself and don’t
don't ever except
second-class
second-class behavior from a woman.
She’ll thank
thank you for
She'll
for it.
it.

Don’t Try To ‘Buy’ Her Affection With Presents,
/Gifts,
Don'tAnd
TryFavors.
To 'Buy' Her Affection With Presents,
And Favors.
Gifts,
When
nice dinners
dinners and
and
When aa man
man takes a woman out to nice
buys
woman will
buys her
her gifts
gifts too early in the relationship, the woman
begin
trying to
to'buy'
‘buy’HER.
HER.
begin to
to think the man is trying
Women see this as
as manipulation...
manipulation… and
andaaLACK
LACK OF
OF
CONFIDENCE.
CONFIDENCE.
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Think about it.
it.
Women want a man who has
has enough con
confidence
dence in
himself to know
know that
thathe
hecan
canplease
please her
herWITHOUT
WITHOUT having
to pull out his
his wallet.
wallet.
If you
you spend
spend too much money on a woman or do too
many
many favors
favors for
for her,
her, you
you are
are subtly
subtly telling
telling her
her that your
pocketbook
ALLYOU
YOUHAVE
HAVETO
TOOFFER.
OFFER.
pocketbook isisALL
Not good.
good.
Not
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Chapter 2: How
How I Discovered What
Women
Works With Women
It's OK
It’s
OK To
To Be
Be A
A Man
Man
After many years of studying, researching, and trying
many
I’ve now
now realized
realized that there
there is
is a
a
many different
different things, I've
conspiracy
women.
conspiracy against men being successful with women.
It’s
very real,
real, and
and it's
it’s very
very pervasive
pervasive in our culture.
culture.
It's very
Let me explain.
explain.
Most
that
some
kind
of of
'feeling'
that
Mostmen
men
thatI Iknow
knowhave
have
some
kind
‘feeling’ that
it’s
one
it's wrong in some way to sleep with more than one
woman
(I’m not
noteven
even referring
referringto
toaaMénage
Ménage à
à
woman at
at aa time. (I'm
Trois, either. I'm
I’m talking
talking about
about plain old run-of-the-mill
dating a couple
couple of
of women
women at
at aa time here.)
But
But most women
women that
that I know have more than just aa
‘feeling’
and
'feeling' about
about this idea. Most women are outspoken and
very forward about the
the idea
idea that
that it's
it’sWRONG
WRONG for most
men
than one
one woman.
woman.
men to date and sleep with more than
Youcan
cansee
seeititinintheir
theirfaces
faces and
and hear
hear it
it in
in their
their voices
voices
You
when
topic.
when they talk about this topic.
If you know what I’m
talking about,
about, give
give me a silent
I'm talking
nod here.
here.
nod
What
discovered by doing
What I’ve
I've discovered
doing my homework
homework is
is that
the moral idea of monogamy
monogamy (having only one
one partner at
a time)
has been
been formalized,
formalized, passed
passed down, and force-fed
time) has
to us culturally by rulers,
rulers, religions,
religions, and
and women for
thousands of years.
years.
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IIdon't
but II feel
feel that
that
don’tmean
mean to
to get
get too
too far out here, but
understanding from where
where these
these beliefs
beliefs came
came and how
they are promoted will liberate
liberate many
many readers.
readers.
Onward.
Onward.
Anywhere from
from hundreds
hundreds to
to thousands
thousands of years ago,
Anywhere
ago,
rulers of lands kept large harems
harems of
of women.
women. These
These
harems
males
harems were
were guarded
guarded carefully
carefully to prevent any males
except the rulers from
from having
having access
access to these
these women.
women.
The penalty
ruler’s women
women
The
penalty for sleeping with one of the ruler's
could be,
be, in
in an
an extreme
extreme case,
case, your own death and
could
and the
the
deaths
(Back then
deaths of everyone
everyone in
in your family and village. (Back
there were bigger risks involved!)
These rulers
These
rulers kept
kept so
so many
many women
women not
not just
just for the
sexual
also for the
sexual variety
variety that
that it provided them, but also
reproductive
gave them.
them. These
These rulers often
reproductive power
power that
that it gave
had
had detailed
detailed records
records kept
kept so
so they
they could copulate
copulate with only
the most
most fertile
fertile women
women and
and maximize the woman's
woman’s
the
chances
own genes.
genes.
chances of
of pregnancy
pregnancy and passing
passing on their own
So
So what
what do
do you
you think
think these
these rulers
rulers did
did to
to protect their
harems?
harems?
Right! They passed
passed laws
laws (from
(from which they were
exempt) to promote monogamy.
monogamy.
In these times there was
was a great shortage
shortage of women,
women,
so
so these
these laws
laws would
would discourage
discourage married
married men (those lucky
enough
seeking sex outside of
enough to
to find
nd a woman) from seeking
their marriage and
ruler’s
and therefore
therefore further
further protect the ruler's
harem.
harem.
Next, we have the church.
church.
Many religions
religions prohibit sex, make sex
Many
sex ‘wrong’,
'wrong', give
give itit
some
‘fornication’,
some name
name with
with a negative connotation like 'fornication',
or in one way or another discourage
discourage it.
it.
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I Ionce
onceheard
heard aa wise
wise man
man say,
say, "Religions
“Religions take
everything that your DNA
DNA naturally wants to do to survive
and procreate
procreate and makes it wrong."
wrong.” Why?
Why? Well,
and
Well, ifif you’re
you're
busy
internal drives,
drives, and
and you
you see
see God
God as the
busy fighting
ghting your internal
only way
way to
tocleanse
cleanse yourself of these ‘bad’
only
'bad' thoughts, then
you are a much
much better
betterSHEEP.
SHEEP.
If you want to
to get
get people
people to follow
follow you, first
confuse
rst confuse
them, then convince
convince them
them that you know the way to get
them out of
of their
their confused
confused state.
state. Easy.
Easy.
Finally, we have women. This is the interesting one.
one.
youlook
look at
at ititfrom
froman
an 'economic'
‘economic’ standpoint,
IfIfyou
standpoint, itit
doesn't benefit
bene t women
women at all to have their man running
doesn’t
around having sex with other
other women.
women. She
She can only be
pregnant with one child at a time,
time, and
and she
she can
can only raise
raise
a limited number at a time.
time. So
So having a man who's
who’s out
spreading his seed is BAD BAD
BAD BAD
BAD for
for business
business for
for her.
her.
When
When you’re
you're out spreading seed, you can’t
can't be working
or at home helping. Even
Even worse,
you
might
have other
worse, you
kids
kids with
with other women
women who
who will
will further divide your
attention and
and income.
income. (By
(By the
the way,
way, I’m
I'm not saying that
there's anything wrong with women's
I'm
there’s
women’s perspectives. I’m
just saying that if you look at it from their point of view,
there’s
of bene
benefitt to
to having
having aa man
man who
who likes to
there's not a lot of
sleep
sleep with
with a lot of women.)
So
So anything
anything that promotes monogamy like religion is
seen
seen as
as ‘right’
'right' to many women, as it goes along
along with what
they think
think and
and feel.
feel.
Now
men.
Now let's
let’s talk
talk about
about men.
My
My research
research leads
leads me
me to
to believe
believe that
that men are
‘naturally’inclined
inclinedtotohave
haveone
onemain
main woman
woman to
to whom
whom
'naturally'
they are devoted,
sleep with other
devoted, but
but that they like to sleep
women
arises. You can believe what
women as
as the
the opportunity arises.
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you want, but
but do
do yourself
yourself aa favor
favor and
and read
read Matt
Matt Ridley's
Ridley’s
book, The Red
speculating.
Red Queen,
Queen, before
before you
you start
start speculating.
There are major
major advantages
advantages to men
men
Think about it.
it. There
(or at least to their
their genes)
genes) to
to sleep
sleep with
with many
many women.
women.
First,
doesn’t take a lot of energy, and there's
there’s not
First, it doesn't
very much
much risk involved.
involved. (I
(I realize that there is risk of
disease,
disease, etc.,
etc., but
but for
for the moment
moment think about the fact
that a
a man
man could
could probably father
father dozens
dozens of children
children
before
before aa disease
diseasewould
wouldtake
takehim
him out,
out, making
making the tradeoff,
genetically
genetically speaking,
speaking, aa no-brainer.)
no-brainer.)
I personally believe
believe that
that men are hard-wired to look
for sexual opportunities and
and seek
seek out
out sexual
sexual variety.
variety. (Let
me
because you’re
me also
also add
add that
that just because
you're hard-wired
hard-wired to like
sweet
sweet foods
foods doesn’t
doesn't mean
mean that
that you should only eat sweet
foods. This
This will lead you to sickness and
and eventually to
disease
disease and
and death.)
With this in mind, I'd
I’d like
like you
you to
to ask
ask yourself:
yourself:
What are my
my beliefs
beliefs about
about monogamy?
monogamy?
Where
Where did they come from?
Do
my beliefs?
beliefs?
Do II like my
Do
inner drives?
drives?
Do my
my beliefs
beliefs conflict
con ict with my inner
Would
to change
change what II believe
believe based
based on this
Would II like to
new
new information?
In any event, from now forward, don't
don’t let
let anyone
anyone or
anything make
make you
you feel
feelbad
badbecause
because of
of your
yourNATURAL
NATURAL
desires
of course
course talking
desires and
and attraction
attraction to
to women.
women. (I’m
(I'm of
about reasonable
reasonable desires
about
desires and
and attractions.
attractions. IfIf you
you like
like to
think about hurting
hurting women,
women, underage
underage women, etc., then
do yourself a favor and get some help.)
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But if you're
you’re like
like me
me and
and you
you were
were given
given a
a set
set of
of ideas
ideas
about women that you are now realizing to
to be
be less
less than
useful,
useful, then move
move on
on and
and start
start thinking about the subject
differently.
differently.
My
women
My perspective
perspective is
is that
that sleeping
sleeping with
with different
different women
breaks
it's not an ethical
ethical
breaks no
no 'law
‘law of the universe',
universe’, and it’s
dilemma if you're
you’re single. Any objections that are in
existence
existence were
were created
created mostly
mostly to
to control and not to
liberate. My
be
My perspective
perspective is
is also
alsothat
that it’s
it's important to be
honest
And yes, this
this means
means
honest with
with people about your views. And
talking to women about
I’ve mostly
mostly had
had
about them.
them. In my life, I've
long-term girlfriends. And
And if
I’m going
going
if I tell aa woman that I'm
to be faithful, then II am.
am.
But when
when you’re
you're single,
single, then I see nothing wrong with
dating as
as many women
women as
as you
you want.
want. (Keep
(Keep in
in mind
mind that
there are
are some
some crazy
crazy viruses,
viruses, diseases,
diseases, and other scary
there
bugs
jump on
on your
your wiener.
wiener.So
So use
use good
good
bugs that
that want to jump
judgment.)
I’ve
you explain this topic like I just
just have
have
I've found that if you
to a woman, you'll
you’ll often show
show her a perspective that
she’s
considered. My
My experience
experienceis
is that
she's never
never even
even considered.
women
women actually
actually LOVE
LOVEtotohear
hearaaman
mantalking
talkingthis
this way.
way. It’s
It's
refreshing
refreshing to women to hear a man being open about this
controversial
controversial topic
topic rather
rather than hiding his ideas.
ideas. It’s
It's
important to remember what II said
above:
"It's
OK
said
“It’s OK To
To Be
Be
Man.”
AA Man."
If you
you are
are who
who you
you are
are and
and make no apologies for
yourself, you will be taken seriously.
seriously. But
But ifif you
you approach
approach
the topic cautiously
cautiously and
and act
act like
like you’re
you're trying
trying to see if
she’s
you’ll be
be seen
seen as
as weak
weak and
she's OK
OK with
with your views, you'll
insecure.
insecure.
I’ve
that most
most women
women will
will accept
accept you
you as
as you
you
I've found that
are. But if you try
try to
to act
act like
like someone
someone that you're
you’re not
not and
and
you’re
you will
will be
be treated
treated with
with disrespect
disrespect and
and
you're found out, you
ex-communicated.
ex-communicated.
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My Story
My
Story
I made the decision a few years
needed to
years ago
ago that
that I needed
get
get the
the area
area of
of my
my life
life 'handled'
‘handled’ called
called 'dealing
‘dealing with
women'.
and aa commitment
commitment to
women’. So
So II made
made aa decision
decision and
myself
myself and
and my
my best
best friend
friend that
that I would do whatever it
took to learn and '‘figure
this out'.
out’. (Read
(Read Chapter
Chapter 1 from
gure this
Think
Think and
and Grow
Grow Rich
Rich by
by Napoleon
Napoleon Hill
Hill for
for more
more on this
mindset.)
mindset.)
Some
Some background:
background: The
The girlfriends
girlfriends that
that I had in the
past
reflect
it. They
They
past were
were mostly
mostly from
from luck
luck now
now that
that I re
ect on it.
were
there,
and
I
felt
lucky
to
have
them
as
my
girlfriend
were there, and I
lucky to have
as
at the time.
at
But II never
didn’t
never knew
knew how
how to approach
approach women
women I Ididn't
know, and I could sit in a bar for
for three
three hours
hours making
making eye
eye
contact with a woman and never have the nerve to go
talk to her. Now,
Now, I'm
I’m about
about 5'10"
5’10” and
and 160 pounds.
pounds. II think
I’mreasonably
reasonably good
good looking, but I've
I’ve never
never been
been the
I'm
the kind
kind
of guy that women just walk
walk up and approach.
approach. (I say this
to give you a frame of reference in relationship to the
comments
I’ve made
made
comments II make
make relating to looks, etc.) I've
myself
learning, and
and
myself more
more attractive
attractive by paying attention,
attention, learning,
using what works.
works.
When
When II made
made the
the decision
decision to
to get
get this
this part
part of my life
handled,
with an
an
handled, II decided
decided that
that instead
instead of
of trying
trying to start with
angle
club, becoming
becoming famous for
angle (working
(working at a strip club,
something,
would like to learn in a way that
something, etc.)
etc.) that I would
gave
my personality
personality and
and
gave me
me power
power to
to act
act with just my
presentation. In
In other
other words,
words, I wanted to make
presentation.
make this
this part
part
of
than aa ‘trick’.
'trick'.
of who
who II was
was rather than
have aa rule
rule of
of thumb
thumb in
in life
life that
that II use...
use… it takes
IIhave
about
‘good’ at something. And I
about 2-4 years
years just
just to get 'good'
mean JUST
JUST TO
TOGET
GETGOOD.
GOOD.Think
Thinkmartial
martial arts,
arts, playing an
instrument…
anything. (Read
(Read Chapter 1 of Mastery by
instrument... anything.
Leonard
Leonard for
for more
more wisdom
wisdom on
on this
this topic.)
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Sure, you can have some success
success and
and fun while
learning, but
butexperience
experience has shown
learning,
shown me
methat
that to
to really
really ‘get’
'get'
something
something and
and to
to be able
able to
to use
use it in many contexts
successfully,
2-4 years.
years.
successfully, you
you need
need to
to apply yourself for 2-4
THEN, I think
think itit takes
takes another
another 2-4
2-4 years
years to
to become
become a
THEN,
a
‘master’of
ofwhatever
whatever you're
you’re doing.
'master'
10+ year
year level
level is
is usually
usually where
where the
the Genius
Genius level
At the 10+
really
kicksin...
in…
really kicks
My point
point here
here is
is to say
say that II applied
applied myself for years,
My
years,
and
where II feel
feel con
confident
and in
and I am now at the point where
dent and
control around women. I encourage
encourage you to make this a
a
long-term commitment
to get
get an
an
commitment rather than just trying to
instant cure.
in the
the long
long run.
run.
cure. It
It will be worth itit in
If you're
you’re just
just plain
plain lazy
lazy and
and want
want aa shortcut,
shortcut, go
go ahead
ahead
and
you’ll most likely find,
and try
try all of them. But you'll
nd, like most
others do, that
that massive
massive success
success with
with this material takes
practice,
commitment.
practice, effort, and a commitment.
Do
Do As
As Much
Much As
As You
You Can
Can To
To Improve
Improve
First,
looked at
were the type
First, II looked
at myself.
myself. II asked,
asked, “If
"If II were
of woman
like super
super hot,
woman who
who II would
would like
like to
to attract
attract (I
(I like
very intelligent women), what
what would
would make me want to be
with a man?"
man?”
So
listening to
to
So II started
started reading,
reading, listening
to tapes,
tapes, going
going to
seminars…
seminars...you
youname
nameit.
it. And
And II started
started to work on my
‘presentation’ of
of myself.
'presentation'
myself.
II now
important
to to
getget
EVERY
now think that
that it’s
it's
important
EVERYPOSSIBLE
POSSIBLE
thing going for you that
that you
you can.
can.
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Here’s
take: If
If you
upteeth,
teeth, for
for
Here's my
my take:
you have
have messed
messed up
instance,
shouldn’t prevent
prevent you
you from
from dressing
dressing
instance, that
that still shouldn't
well.
don't let it.
well. So
So don’t
Get aa cool
cool hair
hair style.
style. (It’s
(It's OK
Get
OK to ask a stylist what's
what’s
cool
cool and
and get
get help on this one.)
Buy
don’t have the
Buy nice
nice clothes
clothes(Don’t
(Don't tell
tell me
me that
that you don't
$$$. Get on eBay, or go to the
the Nordstrom
Nordstrom Rack
Rack and look
at
clearanceitems.
items.I Idid
diditit to
to start.).
start.). If
will do
at the
the clearance
If you
you will
do
just aa few
just
few key
key things,
things, they
they won’t
won't necessarily
necessarilyHELP
HELP you
you
attract
butthey'll
they’ll get
get rid
rid of
of things
attract women,
women, but
things that
that are
are
PREVENTING
youfrom
fromattracting
attracting women
that you
PREVENTING you
women that
you DON’T
DON'T
EVEN REALIZE.
REALIZE.
EVEN
Make
you’reinterested
interestedininATTRACTIVE
ATTRACTIVE
Make no
no mistake
mistake that ifif you're
women,
these things
women, you’d
you'd better realize right now that these
make aa difference.
difference. You don't
don’t have to work out ten times a
make
week, but get your body
body in
in at
at least
least OK
OK shape. You don’t
don't
have
they’re
have to
to have
have perfect
perfect teeth,
teeth, but make sure
sure that
that they're
clean
great.
clean and
and your
your breath is great.
My
you’re overweight, poorly
poorly groomed,
groomed,
My personal
personal view:
view: If
If you're
etc., these are
control. You
You
are all things that are within your control.
should get them handled
handled for
for YOURSELF.
YOURSELF. IfIf you
you don’t,
don't, then
I'm going to assume
I’m
assume that you don't
don’t have
have very much selfrespect, in which case almost NOTHING
NOTHING II tell you can
can
help.
help.
Women
Women notice
notice details
details that
that most
most men
men don’t.
don't. They notice
notice if
your belt and shoes match. They notice
notice what kinds of
foods
They notice all the details and then
foods you
you like to eat. They
make
make assumptions
assumptions about
about every
every other
other area
area of your life
based on these details.
based
So
nice.
So learn
learn what nice shoes
shoes are
are and
and how
how to keep them nice.
Figure
Figure out
out how
how colors
colors and
and clothing
clothing go
go together
together and what
isis cool.
It's worth it.
cool. It’s
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I wasn't
wasn’t 'cool'
‘cool’ when I started, but
but now
now I've
I’ve learned
learned
how
saying
how to become
become more
more so. Huge
Huge difference.
difference. (Am I saying
that you can't
can’t attract
attract women
women ififyou
youwear
wear Nikes
Nikes and
and have
have
messed
hair? No.
No.But
Butremember
remember
the
saying:
messed up hair?
the
oldold
saying:
"A “A
blind
pigcan
can find
occasional
blind pig
nd ananoccasional
truftruffle…”)
e...")
Ofcourse,
course, don't
don’t overdo
overdo it.
Of
it.
I’ve
the whole
whole dressing well
I've tried the
well bit
bit in the past to the
point of looking
trying too
too hard.
hard. Now
Now II dress
dress more
more
looking like
like I’m
I'm trying
‘casual nice'.
nice’. II wear
wear aa lot
lot of
of Calvin
Calvin Klein T-Shirts with
'casual
black
black jeans and nice
nice black shoes,
shoes, etc.
etc. This
This look with aa
nice leather
leather coat
coat works well in almost any situation. This
nice
is
for aa couple
couple or few
is aa look
look that you can put together for
hundred bucks
sets).
bucks (for several sets).
Here’s my
my mindset:
mindset:Keep
Keep improving
improving all the time,
time, even
even
Here's
it’sthe
theSMALLEST
SMALLEST DETAIL.
ififit's
I noticed that almost every
every time I went out, a girl
would ask
ask me
me for
for aa light.
light. I’d
I'd always
always just
just said,
said, “I
"I don't
would
don’t
smoke" or
or “No”.
"No". But finally,
nally, II said
smoke”
said "Ah-Ha"
“Ah-Ha” and went to
the lighter
lighter store
store SPECIFICALLY
SPECIFICALLY to
tofind
nd the
the coolest
coolest lighter
lighter
that anyone has
has ever
ever invented.
invented. II bought
bought this torch lighter
that make a huge flame.
It looked
looked like
like aa welding
welding flame.
ame. It
ame.
So
So what
what do
do you
you think
think happened
happenedthe
thefirst
rst time
time II went out
with it? Right...
Right… got asked for a light...
light… and got
got aa 'Wow'
‘wow’
reaction
which started
started aa conversation.
conversation.
reaction from her, which
improve:
A list of random things to improve:
Keep
nails
yourbody
bodyshort,
short,clean,
clean, and
and neat.
• Keep
allall
nails
ononyour


head.
•The
Theonly
onlyplace
placewhere
wherehair
hair isis good
good is
is on
on your head.
Keep
removed.
Keep all
all other
other hair
hair trimmed,
trimmed, or have itit removed.
Nose and
and ear
ear hairs
hairs are
are a
a no-no.
no-no. Bushy
Bushy eyebrows
eyebrows
Nose
are a no-no. Bushy pubic hairs are a no-no.
no-no.
Keep
• Keepthe
theteeth
teethclean.
clean.Get
Geta atongue
tonguescraper
scraper and
and use
use
it a lot.
lot. Floss.
Floss. Use mouthwash. Fix
Fix any
any blatantly
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wrong teeth. Do it.
it.

Wash
• Washyourself
yourselfthree
threetimes
timeswhen
whenyou
you shower.
shower. Dirt
Dirt
and
just aa rinse.
rinse.
and body
body odors
odors don’t
don't come
come off
off with just
Wash
Wash your
your body completely three times before you
meet aa woman.
woman.
meet
Use
a gooddeodorant
deodorant(I(Idon't
don’tlike
like antiperspirants,
antiperspirants,
• Use
a good
as
system).
as they
they block your lymph system).
Keep
feet,shoes,
shoes,and
andsocks
socksultra
ultra clean.
clean. No
foot
• Keep
feet,
No foot
odor is
is permitted,
permitted, period.
odor
a good
cologne.Try
TryDolce
Dolceand
andGabanna,
Gabanna,
• GetGet
a good
cologne.
Cerruti Image, or Gaultier for men. And don’t
don't
OVER-do
OVER-doit!
it! No
No cologne
cologneisisbetter
better than
than aa lot
lot of
cologne.
cologne. One
One or
or two
two squirts, applied an hour before
you’re
women, is
is best.
best.
you're going to be meeting women,
Remember, women notice the details
details and
and assume
assume you
handleeverything
everything else
else the same
same way.
handle
way.
Self-Image,
Self-Image, Self-Talk,
Self-Talk, And Other Self
Self Stuff
The way
see it,
The
way II see
it, underpinning all of these outer
details and techniques is your self-image,
self-image, con
confidence,
dence,
personality, and
and all
all of
of that
that other intangible
intangible stuff
stuff that
takes
a bit
me
takes a
bit to
toget
getunder
under control.
control.So
Solet
let
meaddress
address how
how II
got my
personalself-image
self-imagestuff
stuff together
together before
beforeII talk
talk
my personal
about
whatI Ido
dospecifically.
specifically. (By
this is
about what
(By the
the way,
way, this
isthe
themost
most
important part
part of
of this
this book.
book.All
Allof
ofmy
mysuccess
success has
has flowed
owed
from my
my attitude
attitudeand
and con
confidence
not the
the other
other way
from
dence –- not
around. So
So ifif you read
read nothing else,
else, read
read this
this part.)
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The Attitude
The
When
out learning
learning how
how to
to meet
meet women,
women,
When II first
rst started out
II remember
that
had
feelinginside
insidelike,
like, "I'm
“I’m afraid
afraid to
to
remember that
I Ihad
a a
feeling
just walk
andstart
starttalking.
talking.”
just
walk up
up to
to aa strange
strange woman
woman and
II thought
of all
thought of
allkinds
kinds of
ofthings
thingsthat
thatcould
couldgo
go wrong.
wrong.
“What
"Whatifif she
shehas
hasaaboyfriend
boyfriend nearby
nearby who easily gets
jealous and
and wants
wantsto
tobeat
beatme
meup?"
up?”
jealous
“What
"Whatififshe
shesays
sayssomething
something that
that puts me down and
makes
makes me
me feel
feel bad?"
bad?”
“What
"Whatifif she
she says
sayssomething
something to
to someone else
else about
me
to her?"
her?”
me being
being aa loser
loser because
becauseII tried
tried to talk to
different ideas
ideas combined inside of me to
All of these different
give me a general fear of meeting women.
women.
I've
of my
my worst
worst fears
fearswould
would
I’vesince
since learned
learned that none
none of
come
come true
true when
when meeting
meeting aa new
new woman.
woman. I’ve
I've met
hundreds
and
hundreds and
and hundreds
hundreds of
of women
women over
over the
the years
years –- and
none
happen
none (NONE!)
(NONE!) have
have reacted
reacted or caused
caused anything
anything to happen
that
that IIcouldn't
couldn’t handle
handle in the moment.
In the process
process I realized something
something very
very important:
important:
No
No tactic
tactic works on every woman. Some women are not
interested in meeting someone
someone right now.
now.
Some
Some women
women are lesbians
lesbians and
and have
have no
no interest
interest in
men.
men.
Some
Some women
women are
are happily
happily married
married or in a relationship
and don’t
don't want to meet
and
meet someone
someone new right now.
now.
Some
Some women
women are angry.
angry.
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Some are
are cold.
Some
My guess
guess is that in a random group
My
group of
of 100
100 women,
women,
only about 30 of them might
might be
be open
open to meeting
meeting
someone
someonenew
newright
rightnow
now(in
in a romantic
romantic sense).
sense.
What this means is that
that 70
70 AREN'T
AREN’T interested in
in
meeting someone new.
new.
And of the 30 who are interested in
in meeting
meeting someone
someone
new, maybe only 15 are nice, friendly,
friendly, happy
happy people.
people. Do
Do
you see where I'm
I’m going?
going?
youwant
wantto
tobe
besuccessful
successful at
at meeting
meeting women, you
IfIfyou
have
have to
to understand
understand that
that many of the women you
you talk to
aren’t
Most people take things like this
aren't interested. Most
PERSONALLY.
PERSONALLY.Instead
Insteadofofjust
justmoving
movingon
on to
to the
the next
woman,
woman, they
they get all uptight and feel
feel bad
bad about
about it.
it. I’ve
I've
now
way.
now learned
learned aa better
better way.
I also learned something else that helped
helped me
dramatically.
dramatically.
I learned that
that women
women are
are used
used to
to being
being approached,
approached,
flirted
with, and
and picked
picked up
up on
on in
in general
general by
by men.
men. Even
Even
irted with,
women who
who are
are what you might call 'average'
women
‘average’ are
approached
regular basis.
basis. So
So when
when
approached by
by men
men on
on aa pretty
pretty regular
you’re
approach a
you're about to approach
a woman,
woman, keep
keep in
in mind
mind that
that it’s
it's
not like you’re
try something
something that
that she's
she’s never
you're going to try
heard
heard of
of before
before and
and shock
shock her.
her. You
You may
may not
not be
be totally
comfortable
any woman, but she'll
she’ll
comfortable yet
yet just walking up to any
be
OK with
it.
be relatively
relatively OK
with it.
And remember, if she's
she’s not
And
not interested,
interested, it’s
it's most likely
that she’s
she's not
not interested
interested in
inanyone
anyone right
rightnow.
now. Of
Of course
course
it'strue
truethat
thatshe
shemight
might not
not be
be interested
your 'type'
it’s
interested in
in your
‘type’ or
you
mayhave
have
acted
way
thatshe
she
didn’tlike,
like, but
you may
acted
inina away
that
didn't
but the
fact is
is that
whathappens,
happens,
you’llfind
findthat
thatit's
it’s
fact
that no
no matter
matter what
you'll
no big deal.
deal.
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Just move
move on.
Just
When
journey, II realized
realized that
that some
some
When II first
rst started my journey,
of the greatest memories that my friends and II have
have are
are
when something bad happened to one of us.
us. Looking
Looking
back,
back, we
we usually
usually laugh about these things and make fun
ofeach
each other
other and
and ourselves.
ourselves.
of
So
realized that getting
So II thought about it, and II realized
rejected really harshly by a
a woman
woman would actually
actually be
be a
a
funny thing. II imagined
imagined my
my best
best friend and II saying,
saying,
“Hey,
"Hey,remember
rememberthat
thattime
time when
when II walked
walked up
up to
to that
that girl
ininthe
mall
and
said
'Hi',
but
she
told
me
that
she
the mall and said ‘Hi’, but she told me that she doesn't
doesn’t
date men who look like
like geeks?
geeks? ??Ha
Haha
haha
haha..
ha...”
you get
get shut
shut down
down really
really hard,
hard,
Think of
of it this way: IfIf you
tell aa couple
couple of friends. They
They may
just tell
may not
not let
let you
you live it
down, but at least you can laugh
you
laugh about
about it!
it! (And if you
have friends
friends that
that won't
won’t help
help you
you laugh
laugh about it, then you
have
need
need some new ones.)
equation that II realized
realized is
Another part of the attitude equation
that different
different women
women respond
respond to different
different looks,
looks,
personalities, etc.
etc. One
One woman might only like men who
personalities,
dress
dress in
in suits
suits and
and ties,
ties, while
while another
another might only like
women who dress
dress like bad boy rockers. Whatever style
you
develop,DONT
DON’TCHANGE
CHANGEITITJUST
JUSTBECAUSE
BECAUSE SOME
SOME
you develop,
WOMEN DON’T
WOMEN
DON'T LIKE
LIKE IT.
IT.
The price
price of
ofbig
bigsuccess
success is
is having
having some
some people
people dislike
The
you.So
So once
once you find
works for
you.
nd a style that works
for you,
you, stick
stick
withit,it,and
andonly
onlychange
changeititbecause
becauseYOU
YOU choose
with
choose to
to do
do so!
so!
AllComes
Comes Down
Down To Your Skills.
ItItAll
Having
skill.
Having a problem? You need a new skill.
If you have some
some area
isn’t working
area of
of your
your life
life that isn't
for you,
you, you
you probably
probably need
need aa new
new SKILL.
SKILL.
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II realized
look at
at
realizedaafew
fewyears
years ago
ago that
that most
most people
people look
themselves and
and say
say things
things like, "There
themselves
“There must be
something WRONG
WRONGWITH
WITHME.
ME.I Idon’t
don'tknow
knowwhy.
why. II just
just
can't
it.
can’t do it.”
But,
'wrong'
But,in
infact,
fact,the
the problem
problem wasn't
wasn’t something
something ‘wrong’
with them;
them; the
the problem
problem was
was that
that they
they needed
needed to
to learn
learn a
a
new skill
skill or
or a
a set of skills.
new
Meeting
Meeting women
women comes
comes down
down to
to SKILLS.
SKILLS. If
If you’re
you're
having
having aa problem
problem in
in a particular area, get new skills to
deal
For instance, if you have learned to meet
deal with
with it.
it. For
women
having
women and
and get
get phone
phone numbers,
numbers, you
you might
might start having
them flake
on you
you and
and not
not show
show up for
for planned
planned
ake out on
meetings.
You need to learn the
meetings. Solution: A new skill. You
skill of getting women to meet you after
after making
making plans.
plans.
There are
are many
many parts
parts to
to being
being successful
successful with women,
There
and
together. You
You may
may already
already know
know some
some
and they all work together.
of them, you might learn a few more from this book, but
if you're
you’re missing
missing a
how and
and when
when to
to kiss
kiss a
a
a key
key (like
like how
woman,
woman, for instance)
instance) you’ll
you'll still keep running into
challenges.
challenges.
Remember,
you’re having
having aa challenge,
challenge, you
you need
need a
a
Remember, if you're
skill. So remind yourself of this idea,
idea, come back to this
book
you
book to
to get the information, and then practice until you
have the
the SKILL!
SKILL!
have
I began by creating self-image exercises
exercises based
basedon
onNLP
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(Neuro
(Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy,
and doing them all the time.
time. (Read
(Read Frogs
Frogs Into
Into Princes
Princes by
Richard
Richard Bandler
Bandler and
and John
John Grinder
Grinder and
and The
The Secret
Secret of
of
Creating
James for
Creating Your
Your Future
Future by Tad James
for more info.)
Here's one
one exercise
exercise that’s
that's helped
helped me tremendously:
tremendously:
Here’s
First, I close my eyes and imagine
imagine aa picture of the
person
be
person that
that II want to become. I imagine how
how I’ll
I'll be
dressed, the expression on
on my
my face,
face,how
howI'm
I’mstanding...
standing...
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all the details.
details. Then,
Then, II throw that picture up into the air
and
copies of it all around
around me for
for as
as
and have
have itit start raining copies
faras
as IIcan
can see...
see... into
into my
my past
past and future... all around
far
me. Exercises
Exercises like
like these
these sometimes
sometimes sound
soundsilly,
silly, but
but they
help
help direct
direct your mind towards the person
person that
that you want
to become.
to
become.
One
areathat
thatI've
I’ve studies
studies extensively
extensively is
is what’s
One area
what's
commonly called
called ‘internal
'internal dialogue’
dialogue' or
or ‘self-talk’.
'self-talk'. This
commonly
This is
simply the way that you talk
talk to
to yourself
yourself inside
inside your
your head.
head.
Most
Most people
people are
are talking
talking to
to themselves
themselves all day long. But
most people are talking
talking NEGATIVELY
NEGATIVELY to
to themselves
instead
POSITIVELY. Negative
instead of talking POSITIVELY.
Negative self-talk
self-talk is,
is, in my
opinion, one of the primary
primary causes
causes of low self-esteem,
giving up, and a lack
lack of interest in even trying.
trying.
If you tell
tell yourself
yourself something
something enough times, you'll
you’ll
begin
BELIEVE it.
begin to BELIEVE
it. This
Thisnew
newbelief
beliefwill
will take
take on
on aa mind
mind of
its own and
self-talk.
and start creating its own self-talk.
Most
Most people
people who
who have
have negative beliefs also have
negative
negative self-talk
self-talk that
that creates
creates aa self-fulfilling
self-ful lling prophecy.
prophecy. If
If
this
is you,
you,STOP
STOP RIGHT
RIGHT NOW.
NOW.
this is
I may be the first
person that’s
rst person
that's ever pointed this out
to you, so it might sound
sound a
might be
be
a little
little strange. Or, I might
reminding
reminding you
you of something
something you
you already
already know.
know. In any
event, make
make aa commitment
commitment to yourself
yourself to start talking
positively to yourself and to be
be encouraging
encouraging from now
now on.
on.
Put
Do
Put itit on your calendar. Send yourself e-mails. Do
whatever you have to do so you remember to be nice to
yourself when you talk to yourself.
yourself.
If you're
you’re one
one of those
those people that likes
likes being
being negative,
arguing
things can
can never
arguing with everything, finding
nding why things
work for
foryou,
you,and
and why
why everyone
everyone is wrong, then do me
work
and
and yourself
yourself aa favor and delete
delete this book from your hard
drive and
and e-mail
e-mail me
me to
to ask
ask for
for aa refund.
refund. You've
You’ve made a
drive
choice
not even
even
choice to
to be
be negative
negative with
with yourself, and I’m
I'm not
interested in helping you see a better
better way.
way. People
People who
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have
have made
made the
the choice
choice to
to be
be negative
negative about everything
are usually
usually playing
playing out
out aa drama
drama that’s
that's beyond
beyond what
what I’m
I'm
interested in addressing and probably beyond the power
of this book to
to change.
change.
If,
on the
the other
other hand,
hand, you
you are
are one
one of
of the
the people
people who
If, on
is
try and
and agree
agree to
to begin
begin
is willing to give new things a try
saying things like, "I
“I can
can do
do something
something if II choose
choose to”
saying
to" and
“I"Ican
think you
you will
will be
be
canchange
changeif ifI Ireally
reallywant
wantto”,
to" then I think
successful.
successful.
The key here is to begin taking a positive mindset
mindset and
and
The
talking to yourself in a positive way.
way.
Here’s
Here's an
an exercise
exercisefor
for you
you to
to do:
do: Take out a piece of
paper
have
paper and
and write
write down all the negative thoughts you have
about yourself, all the negative things you say to
yourself, and
and all
all the
the areas
areas where a ‘positive’
yourself,
'positive' outlook
would
help
you.
Then,
start
writing
down positive things
would help you. Then, start
down
you can say
them.
say to yourself instead and begin saying them.
Keep
stop saying
saying
Keep working
working on
on this exercise
exercise until you stop
negative
This could take you years like
negative things to yourself. This
didfor
forme.
me. But
But it's
it’s worth
worth it,
it,so
so trust
trustme.
me.This
This one
one
ititdid
process
will
improve
all
areas
of
your
life,
so
use
process will improve all areas of your
use it
everywhere.
everywhere.
It’s
also important
important to
to make
make mental
mental pictures
pictures and
and
It's also
rehearse the
the success
successthat
that you’d
you'd like
like to have. As you're
rehearse
you’re
going to sleep, create mental movies of yourself being
being
successful
successful in
in different
different kinds of situations and with
different types of women.
women. Mental rehearsal is
is the next
best
as often
best thing to actually doing something, so do it as
as you can.
can.
If you make
make a mental movie
movie of the
the ideal
ideal you
you doing
doing
the things that I'm
I’m going
going to
to teach
teach you
you and review in your
mind
see improvement
mind every
every day, you will see
improvement and
and results.
results. If
If
youdon't
don’tdo
do this
this part,
part,you'll
you’llbe
be wondering
wondering why you
you
you can’t
can't
seem
right when
when the
the opportunity
opportunitycomes
comes along.
along.
seem to
to get it right
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Internal
States
Internal States
Finally,I'm
I’mgoing
goingto
toaddress
address the
the idea
idea of your ‘states’.
Finally,
'states'
By
body.
By ‘state’
'state' I mean the feeling that you have in your body.
Can
happy and
and
Can you
you remember
remember aa time
time when you felt happy
excited?
excited?
Can
and
Can you
you remember
remember aa time
time when you felt powerful and
energetic?
energetic?
If
you can,
can,then
thenyou
youcan
canHAVE
HAVETHESE
THESEFEELINGS
FEELINGS ANY
ANY
If you
TIME YOU
TIME
YOU WANT
WANTTHEM.
THEM.Most
Mostpeople
peopledon’t
don't use
use their
their
memories
good because
because they say,
memories to help them feel good
"Well,that’s
that'snot
notreally
really
how I’m
I'm feeling;
feeling;I’m
I'm just
justimagining
imagining
“Well,
how
it.” Well,
have
just
it."
Well,I I
havenews
news for
foryou:
you:You’re
You'reALWAYS
ALWAYS just
imagining
as well imagine it at
at times
times when
when
imagining it. You might as
you need
happen on
on accident!
accident!
need it instead of having itit happen
Here’s
idea:
Here's how
how to
to apply this idea:
Write down
you’d like to be
be able to
down three states
states that you'd
put yourself into anytime you'd
you’d like.
like. Then,
Then, write
write down
down
three times in your life
life when
when you felt
felt each
each of those
states.Finally,
Finally,close
close your
your eyes
eyes and
and put
put yourself
yourself into
into each
each
states.
of
youfeel
feel the
the state
state that
of the
the three
three situations
situations that
thatmade
made you
that
you
with your body
you want.
want. Also,
Also,dodoSOMETHING
SOMETHING UNIQUE
UNIQUE with
body
asyou're
you’reremembering.
remembering.
instance,
you’dlike
like to
to feel
feel
as
ForFor
instance,
if ifyou'd
powerful and
and confident,
con dent, while you’re
you're remembering times
when
quickly while
when you
you felt
felt this way, breathe out quickly
puckering your lips.
lips.
If you
you do
do this
this process
process of remembering the states
states and
and
exhaling
do in
exhaling quickly
quickly at the same time, all you have to do
the future
future is
is close
close your eyes, breathe out quickly while
remembering
remembering the
the feelings,
feelings, and
and you’ll
you'll have
have the
the states
states that
youwant.
want.It's
It’slike
likehaving
having aa 'push'
‘push’ button
button for
for feeling
feeling good
you
about yourself.
yourself.
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Next, you
you have
have to
to practice
practice putting
putting yourself
yourself into your
three powerful states when
when you’re
you're in different
environments. So go to different
different places
places and
and practice
getting yourself into your states with distractions,
distractions, etc.
etc.
This might take some doing, but once you have
This
have it
mastered,
mastered, you’ll
you'll be able
able to get yourself into a positive
state when
(Could this
when you’re
you're not feeling it to begin with (Could
exercise
exercise be
be useful
useful when
when you’re
you're feeling
feeling shy
shy or
or afraid to
meet
Maybe!)
meet someone?
someone? Maybe!)
II also
also started
started keeping
keeping a
a personal
personal journal
journal of
of everything
everything
thatI Iwas
waslearning
learningand
and doing,
doing, so
so II could
could reflect
that
re ect on
on it.
it.
Find Others
MOST
MOSTIMPORTANTLY
IMPORTANTLYI Ifound
foundand
andstarted
started to hang
aroundguys
guyswho
whoWERE
WERESUCCESSFUL
SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN. This
around
This
was
owe much of my
my success
success to the guys
was the
the biggie. II owe
who
wasn’t
who showed
showed me
me in
in the
the real
real world
world what
what they
they did.
did. It
It wasn't
the books and the people selling
selling tapes
tapes and
and seminars.
seminars. It
It
was
was the
the guys who were successful
successful in
in the
the real world. What
I do now resembles
read in a book
resembles nothing
nothing that
that I’ve
I've really read
or learned
learned from an
or
an author.
Sothe
theBEST
BESTadvice
adviceI Ican
cangive
give you
you is
is to
So
to find
findabout
about5 5
guys
in your
what they're
they’re doing
say,
guys in
your area
area that
that know
know what
doing and
and say,
“Hey,II really
really want
to get
get this
this part
life handled…
"Hey,
want to
part of
of my
my life
handled..
can
I take
to dinner
(no kissing)
kissing) and
pick your
brain
can I
take you
you to
dinner (no
and pick
your brain
man?" Be
Be humble
humble and
and cool,
cool, and
and you’ll
you'll make some friends.
man?”
friends.
Like
different guys
guys so
so you can get
Like II said, find
nd about 5 different
different perspectives and
and see
see how
how itit all
all fits
ts together.
together.
By
Think and
and Grow
By the way, go read Chapter 10 in Think
Rich about
aboutthe
the'Master
‘MasterMind'
Mind’group.
group.IFIFYOU
YOUDO
DONOTHING
NOTHING
Rich
ELSE, DO
DO THIS
THIS ONE
ONE THING. IT
IT WILL
WILLMAKE
MAKE THE
THE
ELSE,
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You Looking
Looking For?
For?
What Outcome Are You
Most
men
thatI Italk
talkto
toabout
aboutthis
thistopic
topic really
really can't
can’t
Most men
that
explain the EXACT
EXACT outcome
outcomethat
that they’re
they're looking for.
for.
So
let me
meask
askyou...
you...
So let
night stand?
stand?
Are you looking for a one night
Are you looking for a girlfriend?
Are you looking for
for aa wife?
wife?
my life
life called
called
Are you looking
looking to
to get this part of my
‘confidence
with women'
women’ handled?
handled?
'con
dence with
What
you’d like
like to
to do?
do?
What is
is itit that you'd
Once
you can
can
Once you
you choose
choose an
an outcome
outcome for
for yourself, you
apply
If you
you have
have
apply what
what you’re
you're learning
learning to
to that outcome. If
no
no outcome,
outcome, then
then you’re
you're going to be like a ship in the
ocean
ocean with
with no
no particular
particular port as your destination. With no
target, there
there is
is a
a very
very small
small chance
chance that you'll
you’ll ever
ever be
be
successful.
successful.
Takeaamoment
momentand
and write
write down
down your
your goal
goal as it relates
relates
Take
to women. Then think about that
that goal
goal as
as you read the
rest of
of this
this book.
rest
The idea
The
idea here
here is
is to
to give
give yourself
yourself aa framework
framework to work
within and one to plan around. Failing
Failing to plan
plan is
is planning
planning
to fail.
fail.
to
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Key
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 2
VIt's
OK
It’s
OKtotobe
beaaMAN.
MAN.
Remember, women
women are turned on by 'masculine'
‘masculine’ men.
Remember,
Don’t
Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your natural
desires
women.
desires and
and attraction
attraction to women.

Make A Long-Term Commitment To Practice And
V Make A Long-Term Commitment To Practice And
Learn This
This Material.
Learn
Learning
Learning to
to be successful
successful with
with women
women isn’t
isn't something
you can do overnight.
overnight.
It
takes practice to get this
this stuff
stuff down...
down… but the reward
reward is
It takes
more than
than worth it.
more
it.
Don’t
ANYTHING stop
Don't let ANYTHING
stopyou
you from
from reaching
reaching the
the level of
success
deserve.
success you
you deserve.
 Never
NeverStop
Stop Improving
Improving Your
Your Physical
Physical
Appearance.
Appearance.
Stack
Stack the
the odds
odds in
in your favor by constantly improving
your personal appearance.
appearance.
When
When you
you make
make an
an effort
effort to get in shape, maintain great
hygiene,and
andkeep
keepyour
yourwardrobe
wardrobe and
and hairstyle
hairstyle updated,
updated,
hygiene,
looking
benefit.
looking great
great is
is only half of the bene
t.
You’ll also quickly build your con
confidence
You'll
dence to powerful new
levels all
all women
women will notice.
levels
 Talk
TalkPOSITIVELY
POSITIVELY To
To Yourself.
Yourself.
If you're
you’re not
not currently
currently enjoying
enjoying the
thekind
kindof
ofsuccess
success with
women you
you desire,
desire, IT'S
IT’SNOT
NOTYOU.
YOU.
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attracting women.
women.
You simply
simply need
need to
to learn
learn the
the ‘skill’
'skill' of attracting
Take a positive mindset when you are learning this new
skill. Give yourself permission to make mistakes,
mistakes, so
so long
long as
as
you learn from them.
to yourself
yourself in
in aa positive
positive way
way and
and coach
coach yourself to
Talk to
success.
With
practice
and
dedication,
you
WILL
success.
WILL get
get this
down.
down.
It's only a matter of time.
It’s
Find
And
LearnFrom
FromOthers
Others Who
Who Are Already
VFind
And
Learn
Successful With Women.
Successful
This is
be
This
is no
no better
better or faster way for you to learn to be
successful
successful with
with women
women than
than meeting and learning from guys
who already have it down.
If you're
you’re serious about
about getting this part of your life
handled,
this
is
a
MUST.
handled, this is a MUST.
Make
Make itit your
your goal
goal from
from now
now on
on to track down a few of
these guys and watch them in action.
action.
Pay
they do...
do… and more
Pay close
closeattention
attention to
to what they
importantly,
what they
they DONT
DON’T do.
do.
importantly, what
Now that
that you
you know
know what
what to look
look for,
for, you'll
you’ll be
be amazed
amazed at
Now
at
whatyou
you learn.
learn.
what
TheOutcome
OutcomeYou
YouDesire
Desire With Women.
Women.
YDeDefine
ne The
Do
confidence
Do you
you want to gain more con
dence around women,
have
or wife?
wife?
have one-night
one-night stands,
stands, or find
nd a girlfriend or
without knowing
knowing where
where
You can’t
can't get to where you want without
you want to go. Set a goal for yourself and make
make it
happen.
happen.
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2: How
How To
Part
Communicate With
Women
Women
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Chapter 3: How To Develop A
Personality
Personality That Is
Is Irresistible
Irresistible To
Women
Women
In my
my experience,
experience, it's
it’s far
farbetter
bettertotoATTRACT
ATTRACT aa woman
woman
thantotoCHASE
CHASE one.
than
If aa woman
woman is
is ATTRACTED
ATTRACTED to
to you,
you, half
half the game is
over.
over.
In sales, it’s
it's much easier to sell your product to
someone
who's
"Can you
you help
help me?”
me?"
someone who’s called you and said, “Can
than to try
try to
tosell
sell to
topeople
people who
who you've
you’ve cold
cold called.
called.
Here’s
Here's my
my premise:
premise: Women
Women are
are attracted
attracted to
to men for
certain reasons. When
When these
these reasons
reasons are
are met,
met, they
trigger
specific
sequence internally.
There is a system, a
a
trigger aa speci
c sequence
internally. There
sequence,
sequence, or
or aa code,
code, ifif you
you will.
will. And once you know what
it is, you
you can
can develop a method to
to follow
follow this
this sequence.
sequence.
Youcan
can use
use the
the fact
fact that
that there
there is
is aa 'genetic
‘genetic mating
You
sequence’
you.
sequence' to help you.
Be
Way
Be Different
Different In An Attractive
Attractive Way
By
By studying
studying marketing and sales,
sales, I’ve
I've learned
learned that
humans
that are
are unique.
unique. They
They are
humans are
are attracted
attracted to things that
also
are superior.
superior. So
So II have
have a
a
also attracted
attracted to things that are
phrase
phrase that
that II use: “Different
"Different in a preferential
preferential way.”
way." In the
mating game, itit pays
pays to
to be
be different
differentininan
anATTRACTIVE
ATTRACTIVE
way.
way.
What
What I’m
I'm about to share with you is a group of
ingredients. These
These are
to which
which
are the
the different
different ingredients to
women
you to
to take
take what
what you
you
women are
are attracted.
attracted. It’s
It's up to you
have
have and
and to
to use
use this
this list
list to augment your personality in
such
becomes attractive
such aa way
way that
that itit becomes
attractive to
to the type of
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women with
with whom you’re
you're interested. The
women
The key is to be
be
different in an attractive way.
way.
But
But make
make sure
sure that
that you’re
you're not
not too
too different!
different! If you get
too carried away
you’ll be outside of the
away with this idea, you'll
realm
yourself.
realm of ‘normal’
'normal' and you will wind up hurting yourself.
So
you.
So experiment
experiment and
and test
test to see what works for you.
Enemies Are Insecurity
Insecurity and
and Neediness
Neediness
Your Enemies
Insecurity and neediness
neediness are
are two
two of the biggest
obstacles
and
obstacles to
to success
success with
with women.
women. Insecurity and
neediness
needinessare
arelike
like hemlock
hemlockand
andarsenic
arsenic–- either
either will kill
your attractiveness when dealing with women.
women.
A man is needy when he
he craves
craves attention
attention or
recognition.He
He shows
shows that
thathe's
he’sinsecure
insecure when
when he
he ACTS
ACTS
recognition.
on these
these needs.
on
Insecurity shows
shows up when a man does not feel
comfortable with who he is or comfortable in a
a given
given
situation. He acts
acts tentative, weak, and unsure. He tries to
put on a show of con
confidence
fake. He
He
dence which is obviously fake.
says
says things
things that
that are
are out of place
place in
in an
an attempt
attempt to get
approval.
approval.
Women detect insecurity
insecurity and
and neediness
neediness INSTANTLY.
INSTANTLY.
Here
examplesofofinsecurity
insecurity and
neediness to
to
Here are some
some examples
and neediness
avoid:
avoid:
Hanging
woman.Don't
Don’ttouch
touch aa woman
woman or
•Hanging
onona awoman.
crowd her too much in the beginning.
beginning. Women
Women take
it as a sign of neediness
neediness and
and insecurity.
insecurity. Instead,
lean
being
lean back
back and
and let her become comfortable being
around you.
you.

•Talking
Talkingororsaying
sayingnegative
negativethings
things about
about women or
past
talk too
too much
much about past
past girlfriends.
girlfriends. If you talk
girlfriends or other women,
women, or say
say negative things
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about
will judge
judge you
you to
to be
about them,
them, aa woman
woman will
insecure.
insecure.

Having
• Havingemotional
emotionalresponses
responsestotothings.
things.IfIf it’s
it's
obvious
obvious to
to a woman
woman that you easily get upset
about things, then she will judge you to be
be
insecure.
insecure.

Looking
• Lookingtotoothers
otherstotomake
makedecisions.
decisions. Women
Women like
like it
it
when you decide
decide what’s
what's going to happen and then
do
you are
are always
always asking,
asking, "Well,
“Well, what
what do
do you
you
do it. IfIf you
think IIshould
should do?"
do?”,"Where
“Where do
do you want to go
think
tonight?",
tonight?”,and
and"What
“What do
do you
you want?",
want?”, you'll
you’ll come
come
off as needy. Just
Just make
make decisions
decisionsand
andgo
gowith
withit.
it. If
If
she
know.
she has
has aa different
different idea, she’ll
she'll let you know.

Saying
• Sayingorordoing
doingthings
thingsjust
justto
to be
be noticed
noticed or
or to
to get
compliments.
compliments. I’ve
I've known
known aa lot
lot of men who
who try
try to
act cool
attention.This
This approach
approach
cool or show
show off
off to get attention.
telegraphs to a woman that
that you're
you’re insecure
insecure and
and
needy.
you’re cool, she’ll
needy. Don’t
Don't do
do it.
it. If you're
she'll figure
gure it out
without you telling her.
her.

•Arguing.
Arguing.This
Thisisismy
myfavorite.
favorite. Some
Some people
people feel like
they need to
to argue
argue with
withEVERYTHING.
EVERYTHING. If
If you’re
you're one
of these
these people,
people, just
just realize
realize that this is a clear
demonstration that you're
you’re insecure
insecure and needy.
needy. You
You
may
may always
always be
be right,
right, but being overly
argumentative is bad
it.
bad for your sex life. Deal with it.
If you really want to argue with something, do it in
a funny way and not in a
a serious way.
way.
Time Frames
Frames
Thinking In Time
Here’s
to impress
impress a
a
Here's aa common
common problem:
problem: A man tries to
woman by doing things that
that show
show that
thathe's
he’saagood
goodLONGLONGTERM RELATIONSHIP
TERM
RELATIONSHIPkind
kindofofguy,
guy, but
but the woman
responds
responds by
by being stand-offish.
stand-of sh.
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I have read some interesting research
research that shows
shows that
women have
have aa few main categories
categories in their minds in
which they slot men.
men.
These are:
are:
1)Not
Notinterested
interestedat
at all.
all.
1)
2)
as aa friend.
friend.
2) Interested
Interested as
3)
in aa long-term
relationship.
3) Interested
Interested in
long-term relationship.
4) Interested
Interestedin
in aa sexual
sexual relationship.
relationship.
4)
Here’s
a woman
Here's the
the interesting
interestingpart:
part:If If
a woman sees
sees aaman
man as
aa good
good potential
potential 'long-term'
‘long-term’ mate,
mate, she'll
she’ll usually
usually hold back
back
the sex.
sex.
the
On
she gets sexually involved with a
a
On the
the other hand, if she
man, she’ll
she'll usually
usually still be open
open to a long-term
relationship.
relationship.
Most
doing
Most men
men who
who want
want sex
sex make the mistake of doing
things like taking women
women to
to dinner, buying them gifts,
and
and being
being romantic.
romantic. This
This behavior
behavior triggers
triggers the
the “Hey,
"Hey, this
guy is good
material” category in the
the woman's
woman’s
good long-term
long-term material"
mind, and they hold
hold back
back sex.
sex.
But if a man does
does things
woman on earlier in
things to turn
turn aa woman
thegame
gameand
and she
she gets
gets sexually
sexually involved,
involved, he
he can
can choose
choose
the
where
where he
he wants
wants the
the relationship
relationship to go. Are you with me
on this one?
one?
Go
They’ll
Go ask
ask some
some men
men and
and women
women about
about this idea. They'll
report back
telling you.
you. Women
Women know
know
back to you what I’m
I'm telling
that if
if aa man
man is doing all the big romantic things like
buying
out, he
he is
is displaying
displaying
buying her gifts and taking her out,
‘courtship’ types
types of
of behavior.
behavior. II mentioned
mentioned earlier
'courtship'
earlier that
women take hints very well and read into things much
women
much
more
more than men. Unfortunately, men have no idea
idea that
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their good deeds
deeds are
are being
being interpreted
interpreted as long-term
long-term
courtship demonstrations. Ahhhh!
Ahhhh!
So what’s
what's the solution?
So
The
solution is
is to
to stop
stop doing
doing the
the ‘I’m
'I'm courting you’
you'
The solution
things early on, and
and start by being attractive, interesting,
and sexy. This puts the balance
balance of power in your
your hands
hands
and
control.
and puts you more in control.
I’m
A woman
woman will get into
into a
a
I'm going to say it again: A
long-term relationship with
with aa man
man who
who she's
she’s sleeping
sleeping
with,but
butshe
shewon't
won’tbe
beas
as likely
likely to
to sleep
sleep with
with aa man
man who's
who’s
with,
courting her. Get
Get it?
How Men
Men Usually Find Women
I’ve
read several books on mating and courtship
I've read
behavior
species of animals (including
behavior among
among different species
humans!). The
The funny
funny thing is that humans do just about
the same things as
as most
most other animals
animals with
with slight
variations.
variations.
Here
Here are
are the
the main ways male animals (humans
included) find
females:
nd females:

Staking
• Stakingout
outaasmall
smallterritory
territory among other males
where females come speci
specifically
cally to select between
males
(called Lekking
Lekking
males who
who are
are displaying
displaying for them (called
in the animal kingdom).
kingdom).

Staking
• Stakingout
outaalarger
largerterritory
territory where other males
aren’t
they can
can provide
aren't allowed and showing that they
for a female because
because they
they control
control aa large
large territory.
territory.

•Visiting
Visitingplaces
placeswhere
wherefemales
femalesgather
gatheror
or are
are likely
likely to
be
them.
be and
and displaying
displaying for them.
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Choosinga aspot
spotwhere
wherethey
theyare
arevery
veryvisible
visible and
and
•Choosing
displaying in hopes that a
a passing
passing female will
will show
show
interest.
interest.
Some
are:
Some human equivalents are:

Hanging
• Hangingout
outatataagym
gymor
orspending
spending time
time on the
beach
for women.
women.
beach with
with other guys to show off for

Buying
to see
see
Buying aa big house
house and
and inviting
inviting women over to
how successful
successful and
and rich
rich you
you are, demonstrating
that you
you can
can provide for them.
them.

Going
• GoingtotoaaYoga
Yogaclass
classwhere
whereyou
youknow
know there
there will be
10
man.
10 women
women for every man.

Becoming
• Becomingfamous
famousororpopular,
popular,thus
thus placing
placing yourself
yourself
in the path of many
many women.
women.
The point
The
point is
is that
that there’s
there's nothing new
new under
under the
the sun.
sun. If
If
you want to meet women, you have to:
to:
1)
you want.
want.
1) Decide
Decide what
what kind
kind of
ofwoman
woman you
2) Find
Find out what is attractive to
to her
her and
and be it.
it.
3) Go
Go where these women are
set up
up a
a
are likely to be (or set
situation where they come to you).
you).
4) Approach
Approach and engage
engage them
you can
can figure
them (or,
(or, ifif you
gure
out how
to get
get them
to approach
approachyou,
you,do
dothat).
that).
how to
them to
It’s
thethe
same
whoare
arefailures
failures
It'sall
all
samegame.
game. Most
Most men
men who
with women aren’t
takes to be
be
aren't willing to do what it takes
successful.
give you
you
successful. That’s
That's the
the bottom
bottom line.
line. I’m
I'm going to give
the secret ingredients
attract women
women and invite you
you
ingredients that attract
to combine some
some of
of them
them with your personality in order
to attract
attract the
the kind
kind of
of women
women you're
you’re interested
interested in.
in. The
The
question is,
is, “Are
"Are you
you willing
willing to
to do
do the
the work
work that
that it will
question
take
take to
tobe
be successful?"
successful?”
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Women
The Six
Six Things
Things That
That Attract
Attract Women
I’ve
research on this topic, and II believe
believe
I've done a lot of research
that women are most attracted to these
these six things:
things:
1)
Means (Wealth, possessions,
possessions, gifts
1) Means
gifts to
to them,
them, or
providing for them)
2) Power
Power (In
(Influence,
provide
uence, leadership, ability to provide
safety)
safety)
Fame
3)3)Fame
4) Looks
Looks (Including height)
5) Exclusivity
Exclusivity (Royalty, already
already married, hard to get,
affiliation)
af liation)
6)Personality
Personality (Humor,
(Humor, creativity,
creativity, romance,
romance,
6)
intelligence, mystique, etc.)
Now,
Now, numbers
numbers one
one through
through five
ve are
are largely
largely out of your
immediate
you’re not rich, you're
you’re probably not
immediate control.
control. If you're
going
you’re not famous or tall,
going to get rich this week.
week. If you're
you’re
you're probably not going to be in a hit movie or grow 6
inches in
in the
the next
next 24
24 hours.
inches
So that
thatleaves
leavesus
uswith
withnumber
numbersix:
six:PERSONALITY.
PERSONALITY.
So
The good
The
good news
news isis that
that as
as far
far as
as I’m
I'm concerned, your
personality
is your
yourGREATEST
GREATEST ASSET
personality is
ASSETin
in the
the success-withwomen game.
women
Fortunately, it's
it’s the
the one
one thing
thing you
you can
can change. And it’s
it's
the one thing
thing that
thatcan
canOVERCOME
OVERCOME all
allthe
the rest.
rest. After
you’ve
you
you've done what you can to look your best, etc. you
have
absolutely magnetic.
magnetic.
have to develop
develop aa personality that’s
that's absolutely
Now
Now let’s
let's talk
talk about how you can
can do
do just
just that.
that.
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attracts women
women the
By the
the way, the one quality that attracts
most
most (and
(and keeps
keeps them
them attracted)
attracted) is not something that
they can initially 'look'
‘look’ for.
for.It's
It’sthe
theway
waythey
theyFEEL
FEEL when
when
they are with you or thinking of you. If
If you
you don't
don’t have
have
wealth, power, fame, or looks, you're
you’re going to have to
use
make them
them FEEL
FEEL good.
use your
your personality to make
good. In
In the
end, your personality is the most
most powerful
powerful asset
asset you
you
have.
have.
Personality
Attract Women
Women
Personality Traits
Traits That Attract
the
next
chapter,I'm
I’m
goingtotodescribe
describeMY
MY
InIn
the
next
chapter,
going
particular unique
unique personality
personality and
and the
the ‘character’
'character' that
that I
become
women.
become when
when I’m
I'm meeting women.
But
I’d like
like to
to talk
talk about
about some
some of the
But before
before II do
do that,
that, I'd
different personality traits that women
women find
nd most
attractive.
Some are better when
when used with others, and
and
attractive. Some
some don’t
don't work
work well
well together.
together. Here
Here is
is the
the list
list with brief
some
descriptions.
talk more
more about
about combining
combining these later.
descriptions. I’ll
I'll talk
later.


Funny.
women.
• Funny.Humor
Humorisisjust
just plain
plain powerful with women.
If you
you can
can keep her laughing, you will go far.
far.
Intelligent
and Creative.
Creative.Intelligence
Intelligence is
is sexy
sexy IF
• Intelligent and
it's
it’sused
used in
in aa way
way that's
that’s interesting
interesting to her.
her. Use
Use your
creativity and intelligence to surprise her with
ideas,
ideas, fantasies,
fantasies, and
and unexpected
unexpected things
things that charm
her.
her.
Educated.
Educationisisattractive
attractiveto
towomen
women as
• Educated.
Education
long
used in an interesting way.
way. Some
Some
long as
as it’s
it's used
women
education,
women are actually intimidated by education,
which usually
favor.
usually works
works in your favor.

Classy
you have
have class,
class, women
women
• Classyand
andCultured.
Cultured. IfIf you
pick up on it.
Do your
your shoes
shoes and belt
belt match?
match? Do
Do
it. Do
you understand interior
interior design
design and
and color contrast?
Do
types of
of wine?
wine? Do
Do you
Do you
you know about different
different types
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like foreign movies? Do you understand
understand fashion?
fashion?
Do
Do you
you like Frank Sinatra?
Sinatra? Do
Do you
you enjoy exotic
foods?
d’oeuvres and a
a glass
glass
foods? Do
Do you
you serve her Hors d'oeuvres
of wine when she visits? Do
Do you open
open all doors for
her?Women
Women notice
notice this
this stuff
stuff BIG
BIG TIME.
TIME.
her?
Dominant.
Women
have
unconscious attraction
attraction
•Dominant.
Women
have
ananunconscious
to dominant
dominant men.
men. The
The dominant
dominant males
males in some
to
primate groups
groups account
account for
for up
up to
to 75% of all the
matings, while the less dominant males
males go
go without
any. Same
Same goes for humans.
humans.
Thoughtful.
Womendon't
don’tjust
justlike
likegifts;
gifts; they
they like
• Thoughtful.
Women
knowing
THINKING of
knowing that you were THINKING
of them.
them. The
The gift
is aa SYMBOL.
SYMBOL. Women
is
Womenfeel
feel the
the same
same amount
amount of
of
good
good inside
inside whether
whether it’s
it's a card
card or a diamond
diamond (of
course,
course, the diamond lasts longer, so there are
more
more ‘times
'times of
of feeling
feeling good’!).
good'!). But
But the fact is that
women
women like
like to
to know
know that
that you’re
you're thinking about
them. Even
Even ifif you’re
you're telling a woman
woman that
that you don’t
don't
like
like it that she was
was out
out with
with another
another guy,
guy, she’ll
shell like
it because
because it
her!
it means
means you
you were
were thinking about her!

Notices
Women don’t
• NoticesSignificant
Signi cant Details.
Details. Women
don't just
notice
USE them
be
notice details;
details; they USE
them to
to try
try to be
attractive and
and attentive.
attentive. IfIfshe
she is
is wearing
wearing a sexy
attractive
outfit,
didn’t put itit on
on by
by accident.
accident. If
her hair is
out t, she didn't
If her
done
wasn’t a fluke.
Women are very
done nicely,
nicely, it wasn't
uke. Women
impressed
impressed and
and attracted
attracted to men who notice these
details.
details.

Unpredictable/Predictable.
Here’saa paradox.
paradox.
• Unpredictable/Predictable. Here's
Women are drawn to men who they can't
can’t control or
Women
predict. They obsess
obsess over
over guys
guys who
who flirt,
irt, give them
attention, and then don't
don’t call the next day.
day.
Predictability
comes to
Predictability is
is only
only attractive when it comes
choosing a HUSBAND.
HUSBAND. Then
Then aa woman
woman usually
usually wants
a man who's
who’s VERY
VERY predictable.
predictable.
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Fun,
Happy.
Nothingisisaabigger
bigger
•Enthusiastic,
Fun,
Happy.
Nothing
turn-off
than aa killjoy.
killjoy.Some
Some men
men get
get upset
upset and
and
turn-off than
pout when a woman
put down
down
woman is
is happy
happy and
and try
try to put
the things that
that she
she enjoys
enjoys to
to sound
sound superior,
superior, which
which
is usually a HUGE
HUGE mistake.
mistake. Enthusiasm is infectious
and attractive.
attractive.
and

Women are
•Adventurous.
Adventurous. Women
are instantly
instantly attracted to
men who
who like
like to
to do
do extreme,
extreme, adventurous,
adventurous, unusual,
unusual,
men
and even
exciting.
even dangerous
dangerous things.
things. It’s
It's exciting.
sexy.
Adventurism is sexy.

•Aggressive.
Aggressive. Women
Women love
love men
men that
that know what
they want and
and go after
after it.
it.Passion
Passion is a sign of life.
life.
I’m
not talking
talking about
about the
the kind
kind of
of aggressive
aggressive that
I'm not
turns into date rape.
rape. I’m
I'm talking about the kind of
aggressive
setting aa goal
goal and
and then
aggressive that
that turns into setting
going
passion and
going after
after it with passion
and getting
getting itit no matter
what.
what.

Confident/Cocky.
Women are
are magnetically
magnetically
• Con dent/Cocky. Women
attracted to men who
bit too
too cocky.
cocky.
who are
are just
just a little bit
Just
bit. This
This is
is aa tough
tough one
one to
to explain.
explain. Many
Many
Just aa little bit.
men
arrogant’, which
which is
men take
take this to mean ‘overly
'overly arrogant',
not
not what
what IImean.
mean. IfIfyou
youwatch
watch some
some "classic
“classic
movies" and pay attention
movies”
attention to
to Pierce
Pierce Brosnan
Brosnan in 'The
‘The
Thomas
Thomas Crown Affair',
Affair’, Clarke
Clarke Gable
Gable in 'Gone
‘Gone With
The Wind',
Wind’, or Tom Cruise
The
Cruiseinin‘Top
'TopGun’,
Gun', you’ll
you'll get
get
an idea
idea of
of what
what I’m
I'm talking
an
talking about.
about. The
The
confident/cocky
is mild
mild overcon
overconfidence
con dent/cocky trait
trait is
dence
combined with
with humor.
humor.Drives
Drives women
women wild.
combined

Expertise.
• Expertise. IfIf you’re
you're an
an expert in an area that is
interesting to your kind
kind of
of woman,
woman, this
this can
can be
be
attractive. It
It needs
needs to be
be presented from a “I
know
"I know
lotabout
aboutthis,
this,let
letme
meshow
show you"
you” perspective
perspective and
aa lot
not
notaa"I'm
“I’mcool
cooland
and you're
you’re not"
not” angle.
angle.

And interestingly
•Attention.
Attention. Women like attention. And
enough,
enough, it’s
it's better
better to
to hint
hint at the attention that
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you're giving
giving them
them than
than to
to be
be too
too overt
overt about
about it.
it. If
If
you say, “I
was thinking about you earlier today,
"I was
and
really like the
and II just wanted to mention
mention that I really
sound of your voice..."
voice...” it's
it’s much
much more powerful
sound
than listening to them
them complain
complain about
about something
something
so
think you're
you’re paying
paying attention.
attention. Get
Get it?
it?
so they
they think
Disinterest,Indifference,
Indifference, a Challenge.
• Disinterest,
Challenge. Most
Most
women are used
one
used to being pursued by men in one
way
you are
are indifferent
indifferent to
to aa woman,
woman,
way or another. If
If you
make her
her think
think that
thatyou're
you’reonly
only calling
calling because
because
make
you’re
you're bored and act almost disinterested sexually,
they’ll
they'll often do their very best to get your
attention. Different
Different is
is good
good in this
this case.
case. Again, this
drives most women crazy, and even though they'd
they’d
hate
it’s ultra
ultra interesting
interesting to them.
them.
hate to
to admit
admit it,
it, it's
Charm
(attention
with
polished,smooth
smooth
•Charm
(attention
with
a apolished,
approach). This is hard to describe. Like I said,
said,
watch any James
James Bond
And
Bond movie
movie to
to get the idea. And
watch 'Dirty
‘DirtyRotten
Rotten Scoundrels'.
Scoundrels’. Pay
Pay attention
watch
attention to
Michael Caine’s
Caine's character.
character. Charm is powerful
Michael
because
a certain
certain ‘prince
'prince on
onaawhite
whitehorse’
horse
because it has a
aspect
aspect to
to it.
it.

Romantic
Perspective.Watch
Watch
• RomanticImagination
Imagination and Perspective.
the
the movie
movie'Don
‘DonJuan
Juan DeMarco'
DeMarco’ and listen to how
how
Don
Don Juan
Juaninterprets
interprets the
the world.
world. Instead
Instead of
of just
looking
looking at the surface of a woman, he looks within
her
her to
to find
nd the beautiful part. A romantic
imagination sees
sees opportunities
opportunities for poetic
comments,
comments, interesting stories, fascinating
fascinating history,
and
everything.
and emotional
emotional interpretation
interpretation in everything.
Expert
Body
Language.
Thisisisimportant,
important, as
as
• Expert
in in
Body
Language.
This
women
women are
are constantly
constantly sending
sending signals.
signals. I’ll
I'll talk
more
chapter.
more about
about this in a later chapter.

Sexual
Women love sex just
just as
as much
much as
as
• SexualMastery.
Mastery. Women
men
men do.
do. But
But just
just like everything else in life, a great
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Women become instantly
nd. Women
addicted
addicted to skillful lovers who know how to make
them feel ecstasy and teach
teach them new ways of
feeling incredible.
incredible.
Every
There is
is no
no one
one
Every woman
woman is
is slightly
slightly different.
different. There
magic
magic system
system to
to which
which every woman
woman responds.
responds. If
If what
you’re
doesn’t work,
work, don't
don’tthrow
throwout
outthe
thesystem...
system...
you're doing doesn't
try itit on
on aa different
different woman.
woman.
The most
The
most successful
successfulmen
menII know
know will
will tell
tell you
you that they
are
they are able
able to
to accept
accept ‘no’
'no'
areonly
onlysuccessful
successful because
because they
and
personally.Again,
Again, unsuccessful
unsuccessful men take
and not take itit personally.
‘rejection’ as
assault on
on their
their inner
inner child.
child.
aa 'rejection'
as aa personal
personal assault
Don't
Don’t make
make this
this mistake.
mistake.
So
now. Take
Take aa moment
moment and
and describe
describe the
So start
start right now.
type of woman you’d
down the
you'd like to attract and write down
qualities
her. Then
Then go to work
qualities that
that you
you think will attract her.
cultivating these
these qualities.
cultivating
The idea
The
idea is
is to create your own winning combination
and
and then
then find
nd a place
place to
to use
use itit that
that offers the best
chances for
for success.
success. You want to
to come
come across
across as
chances
interesting, unique, original,
original, and
and desirable.
desirable.
By
don’t know
know what
what the
the women
women who
who
By the
the way, if you don't
you’re
ASK! That's
That’s right,
you're interested in are attracted to, ASK!
just walk
walk up
up to
to them
them whenever
whenever you
you see
see one
one and say,
just
“Can
"CanI Iask
askyou
youaaquestion?
question?I’m
I'm sure
sure that
that you’re
you're probably
in a relationship
me
relationship right
right now, but will you tell me
something...
attracts a
a
something... I want to know what it is that attracts
woman like you to a man. What do you look for?"
woman
for?”
You’ll find
that most
most of
of the
the women
women you
you pose
pose this
You'll
nd that
question
question to
to will be
be glad
glad to
to tell you. As aa matter of fact,
you’ll
you'll even find
nd that some will help you in other ways if
you ask. They'll
They’ll go shopping with you, help
help you
you decorate
decorate
yourhouse,
house,help
helpyou
youchoose
choosea ahairstyle...
hairstyle... everything.
your
everything.
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mostguys
guysare
areafraid
afraidtotoask,
ask,ororthey
theyfeel
feel like
like a
But most
a
puss because
they are asking
for help.
help. Do
because they
asking aa woman
woman for
Do
yourself
trouble, get
get help.
help.
yourself a
a favor.
favor. If
Ifyou
you are
are having
having trouble,
Women
Women are
are amazingly generous
generous when
when they are helping aa
man get his
his ‘attractiveness’
'attractiveness' together.
together.
man
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Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 3
Learn
ATTRACT Women
Women Instead Of Pursuing
VLearn
ToTo
ATTRACT
Pursuing
Them.
Them.
Most
Most guys
guys feel
feel you
you have
have to
to ‘chase’
'chase' a woman
woman in order
make her
her yours.
yours.
totomake
The big
The
big problem
problem here
here is
is that we humans are naturally
programmed to RUN
RUN from
which pursues
pursues us.
us.
from that
that which
better idea
idea is
is to
tolearn
learnthe
theskill
skillofofATTRACTING
ATTRACTING
A much better
women to you.
you.
Not
Not only
only will you save
save time,
time, energy, and money in the
long-run... but
but it’s
it's a lot more fun!
long-run…
fun!

Insecurity
And Neediness
Neediness Are Your Two Worst
Insecurity And
Enemies.
Enemies.
Nothing scares
scares aa woman
woman off
off faster
faster than a guy who
‘leans’… physically
physically or emotionally.
'leans'...
Don’t
Don't ever say
say or do anything a woman might find
nd
needy or
or insecure.
insecure. Avoid
Avoid being ‘clingy’,
needy
'clingy', showing off,
arguing, and getting emotional and worked up over minor
things (like
(like an
an unreturned
unreturned phone
phone call, for instance).
things
Most importantly,
importantly,develop
develop your life and build your
Most
your
self-confidence
self-con dence to
to rid yourself of these deadly enemies for
good.
good.

Avoid “Relationship”
"Relationship" Type
Type Behavior.
If you start
start buying
buying a
a woman gifts, kissing up to her,
and displaying
displaying "relationship"
“relationship” type
type behaviors,
behaviors, she will
and
naturally see
see you as
as "relationship
“relationship material".
material”.
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Even ifif you
you WANT
WANTaalong-term
long-term relationship,
relationship, it’s
it's
important that
that you
you stop
stop doing
doing anything that
that could
could be
be
regarded at
at “courtship”
"courtship" behavior early on.
regarded
on.
Remember…
Remember...aawoman
womanwill
will get
get into
into a long-term
relationship
she’s sleeping
relationship with a man she's
sleeping with.
with. But she won’t
won't
be
her.
be as
as likely
likely to sleep
sleep with
with a man who is courting her.
Be
interesting, and
and sexy.
sexy.And
Andlet
letHER
HER do
do
Be attractive,
attractive, interesting,
the
the 'courting'.
‘courting’.
 Go
Go To The Type Of Places That Attract The
To The Type Of Places That Attract The
Women You Want.
Women
Want.
If you want to find
woman for you, think
nd the right woman
about what kind
kind of
of places
places she
she would go.
go.
If you like 'party
‘party girls',
girls’, start
startfrequenting
frequenting bars
bars and
and
nightclubs.
nightclubs.
If you want to
to meet
meet aa classy,
classy, 'business-like'
‘business-like’ babe that
likes
check out the trendy happy-hour spots
spots
likes to
to have
have fun, check
your town.
town.
ininyour
you’relooking
looking for
for the
the more
more 'down
‘down to earth'
earth’ type, try
IfIfyou're
taking
some yoga
yoga classes.
classes.
taking some
If you do a bit of thinking,
thinking, you'll
you’ll have
have no
no problem
problem
finding
for you.
you.
nding the type of girl that’s
that's right for
 Focus
Focus On Developing
Developing Personality
Personality Traits
Traits That
That
Attract Women.
Women.
Attract
Now
Now that
that you know
know what kinds
kinds of personality
personality traits
attract women, focus on
on cultivating those traits in
yourself.
yourself.
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your adventurous
adventurous side
side and
and make
make an
an
Get in touch with your
effort to
to develop
develop your
your sense
sense of humor.
humor. The
The more you
you
improve yourself,
yourself, the more
more women will take notice
improve
notice of
of
you.
you.
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How To
To Use
Use
Communication
Communication And
And Humor
HumorTo
To Attract
Attract
Women
Women
Now
some of
of the
the ‘inner’
'inner' game,
game, I’d
I'd
Now that
that we've
we’ve covered
covered some
like to share
share with you some
I’ve learned
learned
some of
of the
the things that I've
about the
the 'outer'
‘outer’ game.
game. In later chapters,
chapters, I’m
about
I'm going
going to
to
teach you the speci
specifics
cs of
of exactly
exactly what
what to say and what to
do
I’d like
like to
to teach
teach you
you
do in different situations, but here I'd
some
some basics
basicsabout
aboutcommunication
communicationthat
thatII think
think will really
help
mind.
help you
you get
get the
the right frame of mind.
How Women
Women Test Men And Why
Inmy
myopinion,
opinion,most
mostwomen,
women,especially
especially the
the 'hotties',
‘hotties’,
In
have
western
have gone
gone through
through a learning curve here in our western
culture that has on average
average given
given them
them aa sort of
‘predictable psychological
psychological makeup'.
makeup’. Now, there are
'predictable
differences between these women...
women… some
some are smart,
some
arenot...
not… some
aretall,
tall, some
are short...
short… some
some are
some are
some are
some are
cerebral, some are physical…
physical... etc.
etc. etc.
etc. etc…
etc... but
but there are
things that most of them
them have
have in
in common.
common. I've
I’ve made
made a
a
study of these things...
things… because
because this
me.
this is
is what interests me.
lives, hotties
hotties began
began to be
be
At some point in their lives,
treated differently because
because they
they were
were attractive.
attractive. I
mentioned the social psychology concept earlier called
called
‘TheHalo
HaloEffect'.
Effect’. Simply
stated, attractive
attractive people
'The
Simply stated,
people are
are
assumed
assumed to
to be
be smarter,
smarter, more
more honest,
honest, more
more trustworthy,
trustworthy,
etc. than others. The fact that
that people
people do whatever the
hottie wants begins to blur their
their sense
sense of reality
reality and
and
makes
makes them
them believe
believe that
that they can have whatever they
want whenever
whenever they
theywant
wantit...
it…AND
ANDTHAT'S
THAT’SJUST
JUST THE
THE WAY
WAY
LIFE
IS.
(This
applies
in
general.)
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You’ll notice that many super-hotties will throw
aren't
tantrums if they don't
don’t like
like what's
what’s going on or aren’t
getting their way...
way… this is a sure sign
sign that
that they are not
living in the same
same reality
reality as
as most
most people...
people… when they
don’t
they want,
want, they
theyget
getupset
upsetbecause
because this
this has
has
don't get what they
worked since
since they
theywere
werelittle...
little…
Now,on
onaasubconscious
subconscious level,
Now,
level, I’ve
I've noticed
noticed that
that most
most
hot women realize
they are
are being
being ridiculous
ridiculous when
when
realize that they
they act like bitches,
doesn’t
bitches, throw
throw tantrums,
tantrums, etc. but it doesn't
really matter
because it still
still WORKS
WORKS for
matter because
for them
them when they
want what they want...
want… are you with
with me?
me?
Underneath all of this
this behavior,
behavior,they
theyare
arestill
stillFEMALE
FEMALE
and
what other
other females
females are
are also
also
and they are looking for what
looking for...
for…
looking
What are women looking for?
Well,
Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of
studying people, Freud said that there
there was
was one
one question
question
thathe
hedidn't
didn’thave
havethe
theanswer
answer to...
to… "What
“What do
do women
women
that
want?"
want?” Nice.
BUT, here's
here’s my take on it:
it: First
First and
and foremost, they
BUT,
want a man who is in
in CONTROL
CONTROL (of
(of the
the situation,
situation, himself,
his
his emotions,
emotions, other people,
people, her…
her... control
control of the entire
reality that they
they share).
share).
Let
Let me
me ask
ask you,
you, if you were a woman who wanted to
test a man to see if he will stay in control,
control, how
how would
would you
you
do it?
it? Would
Would you
you ask
askthe
the man,
man, “If
"If I get out of hand, will
do
you spank me and
my place?"
place?”
and put me in my
NO WAY!!!
WAY!!!
NO
So
they test
test us
see
we’ll
So they
us by
by CHALLENGING
CHALLENGING us us
to to
see
ififwe'll
stay
in control.
do all
all of
stay in
control. The
The reason
reason II do
of this
this“Never
"Never give
give a
a
woman a direct
direct answer...
answer… unless
unless it's
it’s NO...
NO… Never give a
a
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woman exactly
exactly what
what she
she wants..."
wants…” etc.
woman
etc. is,
is, ironically,
ironically, to
wants... aa man
man who’s
who's in
in control.
control.
give her what
what she
she REALLY
REALLY wants…
Women
Women want a challenge. Think romance novel
themes... ifif you
you don’t
don't know
know what
what I’m
I'm talking about, sit
themes…
yourself down for
for aa week
week and
and read
read Dangerous
Dangerous Men and
Women by
by Jayne
Jayne Krentz...
Krentz… How to
to Succeed
Succeed
Adventurous Women
With
by F.J.
F.J. Shark...
Shark… Endless
Endless
With Women By Being A Jerk by
Rapture by Helen
Helen Hazen...
Hazen… and Bad Boys by Margie
Palatini… and
Palatini...
and think
think about
about it.
it.
Most
of the time,
Most of
time, I’m
I'm enjoying
enjoying myself,
myself, talking
talking about
about
whatever comes
comes up, making jokes, and generally
behaving like a normal person.
person.
But, like anything
anything else,
else, ifif these
these techniques
techniques are
are used
used
too much, they
they become
become worthless...
worthless… so they must
must be
be used
used
with precision and
right moments.
moments.
and at
at the right
What’s
because II usually
What's interesting
interesting is
is that because
usually (but
(but not
always) do these teasing and
and seemingly
seemingly controlling things
with a bit of a dry humor
humor spin,
spin, II believe
believe that
that the
the woman
woman
who I’m
I'm with
"Wow, this
who
with has
has an internal response
response like, “Wow,
guy is cocky, but I can't
can’t tell
tell ifif he's
he’s serious
serious or not...
not… and I
nd out...
want to find
out… but either way,
way, he's
he’s funny
funny and
and he's
he’s
staying interested in me and not being flagrantly
agrantly
abusive… so
so he must
must be
be interested
interested at
at SOME
SOME level…”
abusive...
level..."
key is
is to
toWATCH
WATCH FOR
FOR THE TESTS
TESTS and
The key
and be
be ready
when they come.
come.
Most
Most guys
guys screw
screw up
up when
when aa woman
woman acts
acts bratty…
bratty... or
when aa woman
woman gets
gets upset,
upset, they
they say,
say, “Oh,
"Oh, I’m
I'm sorry"
when
sorry” and
and
mess
mess itit up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay in
control…
control... IfIf a woman
woman starts
starts getting
getting angry, instead of
getting nervous
nervous say,
say, "Oh,
“Oh, poor
poor baby is throwing a
getting
tantrum…
You’ve been doing the same thing
tantrum... So what. You've
since
way.”
since you
you were
were 2,
2, and
and you
you didn’t
didn't get your way.
SPANK!
SPANK!
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fl
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Another realization I’ve
I've had is that
that most
most women
women are
totally
intrigued by
by men
men who
who seem
seem uninterested
uninterested and
and
totally intrigued
crass… it’s
crass...
it's almost like they say to themselves, “Wow,
"Wow, this
seems kind
kind of cocky…
cocky... and
and II can’t
can't believe that he's
guy seems
he’s
not interested in having
having sex
sex with
with me
me like all the other
dumb pussies
meet… He's
He’s funny and smart...
smart… I
pussies that
that I meet...
wonder
can get him interested
interested in
in me...
me… and when I do,
wonder if I can
I’ll
just dump
dump him
him like
like the
the other
other losers...
losers… but this might be
be
I'll just
fun…”
fun...
Getit?
it?
Get
But
But if
ifyou
you are
are going
going to
to act
actthis
thisway,
way,you
you have
have to
to keep
keep
it
and
itup
up until
untilthe
theend…
end...
andI Imean
mean to
to the
the end.
end.
I'm going
going to address
address the
women well'
I’m
the 'treating
‘treating women
well’ issue
again.
again.
II treat
verywell...
well… they
tell me
treatwomen
women very
they always
always tell
me that
that
they’ve
manwho
who
treatsthem
them
well,etc.
etc.
they've never
never met
met aa man
treats
soso
well,
How can
can this
this be
be when
when II seem
seem like
like such
such a ball buster?
How
Well, it’s
really… II do
do nice
nice things for
for them
them ON
ON
it's simple really...
MY
MYOWN
OWNTERMS.
TERMS.I will
I willsurprise
surprisethem
themwith
with aa thoughtful
thoughtful
email or
or aa card...
card… or
orI Imight
mightgive
give
them
a nice
massage…
them
a nice
massage...
I I
open
curb… But part
open doors
doors and
and walk
walk on
on the
the outside
outside of the curb...
of most women’s
women's romantic
romantic fantasy
fantasy (in my opinion) is the
man
situation and
and doing
doing things on
on
man taking control of the situation
HIS
for yourself...
yourself… next time you're
you’re going to
HIS terms.
terms. Try it for
meet aa woman,
woman, tell
tell her
her what
what to
towear...
wear… choose
choose the food
meet
and
trust you...
you… ifif she
she asks for a kiss, say,
and tell her to trust
“No”… but
but kiss
kiss her
her later
later when
whenYOU
YOU
feel
like
it… if
"No"...
feel
like
it...
ifyou
you
know that
that she
she likes
likeschocolate,
chocolate,and
andshe
sheasks
asksfor
forsome...
some…
don’t
to her...
her… but
but surprise
surprise her with some
some next time
don't give it to
you see her…
her... get it?
Here
use:
Here are
are aa couple
couple of
of rules
rules of
of thumb
thumb that
that II use:
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1.
Never give
give aa woman
woman aa direct
direct answer...
answer… unless
unless the
1. Never
NO. This
This is
is aa big one. If
answer is NO.
If she
she says,
says, "Can
“Can
we sit here?”
here?" II say, “No,
"No, let’s
let's sit in this one next to
we
it.”…..or
orififshe
she says,
says, "How
“How do
do you like my dress?”
dress?"II
say, “Well,
that II like
like it...
it… just
just give
give me
me a
a few
"Well, I think that
minutes
minutes to
to see
see itit on
on you."...
you.”… or
or ifif she
she says,
says, "Call
“Call me
tomorrow."
tomorrow.”I Isay,
say,"No.
“No.You
Youcall
call me
me tomorrow...
tomorrow…
cummon, you
you want me and you know
cummon,
know it.”
it." Get it?
it...
2. IfIfshe
shecomplains
complains about
about you
you or doesn't
doesn’t like
something, turn
turn itit up
up aa notch
notch and
and do it more. If
If she
she
something,
says to
to me,
me, “I
"I don't
says
don’t really
really like
like itit when
when you
you say
say
that.”,I Isay,
say,"Well
“Wellthen
thenyou
you might
might want
want to
to leave,
leave,
that.",
because
Get it?
becauseII say
sayitit aalot.”
lot." Get
3. Women
Women are
areCONSTANTLY
CONSTANTLY testing
can
testing to
to see
see if they can
get you to comply with
with them.
them.As
As soon
soon as
as you do,
they hit the
the road
road (or
(or marry
marry you).
you). This
This idea
idea took me
years to
to see
see and
years
and understand,
understand, but
but the
the fact
fact isis that
that
when you’re
hot woman
woman
you're dealing with a powerful, hot
she
make
she will
will do
do all
all different kinds of things that make
no
the sense
sense in the
no sense
sense at
at all
all logically...
logically... but all the
world when you understand her mindset.
mindset.
Hot women
women can
can have
have anything
anything they
they want. What
they want
want is
is aa challenge...
challenge… something that
that keeps
keeps
their interest.
interest. IfIfaawoman
woman can
can have
have anything
anything she
she
wants anytime
anytime she
she wants
wantsit,
it,then
thenWHY
WHYTHE
THE HELL
HELL
DO
DOGUYS
GUYS THINK
THINK THAT
THAT THEY'RE
THEY’RE GOING TO BE
INTERESTING
INTERESTING BY
BY DOING
DOING THE SAME
SAME THING
THING THAT
THAT
EVERY OTHER
OTHER GUY
GUY HAS
EVERY
HAS DONE?
DONE? Duh.
Duh.
4. Hey,
Hey, IIused
used to
to think
think this
this way...
way… but then II got
got a
a
clue. Now,
Now, I pay very careful attention and never
let her have what she wants. If
If she
she says,
says, "Kiss
“Kiss
me."
me.”IIsay,
say,"No."
“No.” IfIfshe
she says,
says, "Come
“Come over to my
house.”
I’ll come
come over
house." II say, “I’m
"I'm busy right now, I'll
later.”
she says,
says, "I
“I want
wantyou
you so
so bad,
bad, please
please
later." IfIf she
make
make love
love to me."
me.” I say, "Well,
“Well, I think that you
need
And besides,
besides, I’m
need to
to wait
wait aa little
little longer. And
I'm not
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finished
you.” Get
Get it?
it?IINEVER
NEVER give a
nished kissing you."
womanexactly
exactly what
what she
she asks
asks for..
for…
EVER!
woman
.. EVER!
Always send
be
Always
send mixed
mixed signals.
signals. Tell
Tell her
her II want to be
friends and
she just
just did
did was
was
and kiss
kiss her.
her. Tell her what she
unacceptable
unacceptable and
and then
then go
go kiss
kiss her.
her. Spank
Spank her
her if
she
she does
does something
something nice.
nice. Also,
Also, respond
respond differently
differently
to the
thing. For example,
onetime
timeif
if she
the same
same thing.
example, one
she
comes
comes over
over and
and sits
sits on
on my
my lap,
lap, II kiss
kiss her.
her. Another
time
pushher
heroff...
off…get
getit?
it?Never
Neverbe
bepredictable...
predictable…
time II push
NEVER.
NEVER.
For
and “never”,
"never", II
For the
the record,
record, when I say, "always"
“always” and
don't really
don’t
reallymean
mean"ALWAYS
“ALWAYS100%
100%WITHOUT
WITHOUTEXCEPTION
EXCEPTION
EVER.”
EVER."II mean
mean that
that you should do these as much as you
possibly
possibly can,
can, because
because you
you really
really can’t
can't overdo any of them
as
you’re doing
doing
as long
long as
as you
you stay cocky
cocky and
and funny while you're
them.
them.
The test
test is
is always,
always, "Is
“Is she
she laughing, smiling, having
The
fun
these four
four
fun most
most of
of the
the time?"
time?” IfIf so,
so, you
you can't
can’t overdo
overdo these
rules.
rules.
The Very Attractive
Attractive Women
Women Are
Are Approached
Approached All
The Time
I’m
something that I talked
talked
I'm going to remind you of something
about earlier
earlier in
in this
this book:
book: Most
Most attractive women
women are
about
approached
men.
approached in
in one
one way
way or
or another
another all
all the time by men.
I was watching one of Chris Rock's
Rock’s stand-up routines
recently; Chris was telling the women
women in
in the
the audience
audience
thatanytime
anytimeaaman
manisisbeing
beingnice,
nice, it's
it’sbecause
because he's
he’s
that
offering sex
sex (or
(or ‘dick’
'dick' as he
he put
put it).
it).
So ifif aa guy
guy says,
says, "Wow,
“Wow, you look great!”,
So
great!", what he
really means
would you
you
means is,
is, “Wow,
"Wow, you really look great, would
like
likesome
some dick?"
dick?”
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And remember that 'desirable'
‘desirable’ women
women including rich
women, beautiful women,
women, and
and famous
famous women,
women, are
are used
used
to being treated like queens.
theirs;
queens. (It’s
(It's really no fault of theirs;
even
handsome men are notorious for acting
even very handsome
arrogant. It's
It’s part
partof
ofbeing
beinghuman.
human.We
We can
can all
all become
become
spoiled
right combination
combination of
of circumstances
circumstances
spoiled easily
easily ifif the right
arises.
it’s good
good to
to keep
keep a
a "You're
“You’re spoiled,
spoiled,
arises. By
By the
the way, it's
and
blame you
and II don’t
don't really blame
you for
for it...
it... you were just lucky
to be born beautiful
beautiful and
and have
have everyone
everyone kiss
kiss your
your ass"
ass”
attitude...)
Being
Being spoiled,
spoiled, these
thesewomen
womenact
actbratty
bratty to
to get
get their
way. However, the ass kissing
kissing and
and always
always getting
getting their
way also
also has
has another
another effect. Since they are so used to
being
their ass,
ass, when
when you
being courted and having a man kiss their
show
show up,
up, act
act funny and charming, and
and don’t
don't play into any
of their games (make fun of them,
them, do
do the
the pretend
pretend assasskisser
that they
they want
want you,
you, tease
tease
kisser imitation,
imitation, tell them that
them, don't
don’t answer
answer ANY
ANY of
of their questions about
about job, car,
home,
home, social
social life,
life, where
where you
you go, etc. and even label
label all of
those questions
of these
these questions
questions
questions as,
as, “Did
"Did you get a list of
women around
around here?”
here?" etc.)
etc.) it
like all the other shallow women
often has
“Wow, this
this is
is sure
sure
has the
the effect
effect of them thinking, "Wow,
DIFFERENT" which
, whichgets
getstheir
theirattention.
attention. The
The humor and
DIFFERENT”,
arrogance (arrogance
(arrogance based on
arrogance
on self-knowing, not on
outer
keepstheir
their attention.
attention.
outer success)
success) keeps
I think that
that it's
it’s all
all about
about interrupting the
the current
current train
of thought
thought with
withsome
sometype
typeofofDIFFERENT
DIFFERENT AND
AND
INTERESTING
INTERESTINGbehavior.
behavior.You
Youcan
canuse
usetricks,
tricks, props,
props, or
whatever, but you have
have to interrupt the woman and
and first
rst
get her
her attention...
attention... then
then you
you can
can get to the good
good part
get
part of
of
doing the things
things that
that give
giveher
herthe
theFEELINGS
FEELINGS that she
she
wants and
MAN that
and playing
playing the part of the MAN
that her
unconscious wants.
unconscious
Many
Many experts
experts talk
talk of establishing
establishing rapport,
rapport, acting like
them, etc. initially...
I’ve found
found that
that breaking
breaking rapport
initially... I've
usually
usually works
works better
better for me. (Rapport is the concept of
fi
fi
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breathing, moving, and talking like
like another
another person
person so
so
they feel a connection
connection with you.)
But
special kind
But it’s
it's a special
kind of
of breaking
breaking rapport
rapport that
that I
practice.
practice. II break rapport in a funny and charming way,
which actually ASSUMES
ASSUMES rapport
rapportfrom
from the
the beginning.
beginning. (I
(I
insult women
don’t know
know in a playful way all the
women that
that I don't
time. Her
Her only real
real choices
choices with which to
to respond
respond
internally and
and externally
externally are,
are, “This
"This guy
guy is
is aa jerk
jerk -- I’m
I'm
here" or
or “You’ve
"You've got
got some
some balls
butyou’re
you'redamn
damn
outta here”
balls --but
funny
andfor
forsome
somereason,
reason,I feel
I feel
like
I know
you...”)
funny -- and
like
I know
you...")
When
woman’s quirks or insecurities in a
a
When you
you point
point out a woman's
way that makes
makes her laugh, you do so many positive
things at once. She
you’re
She can’t
can't deny
deny that
that the things you're
saying are
are true,
true,BECAUSE
BECAUSE SHE'S
SHE’S LAUGHING. And she
can’t
because it’s
fun.
can't really hate you too much, because
it's kind of fun.
More On My
My Way
Way Of
Of Looking
Looking At Things
I don't
don’t ask
ask women for permission to do things, and I
don’t
lead what's
what’s going to happen
happen next.
don't look to them to lead
next. I
used
they were
were doing
doing and
and take
take cues
cues
used to
to kind of watch what they
on how
how to
to act. Now
Now II do and
and say
say what
what II want and look for
cues from
from her
her so
so II know
know when
when to bust her balls.
cues
II spent
spent aa long
long time
time learning
learninghow
how to
to get
get phone
phone
numbers
wasn’t the
numbers from
from women
women only
only to
to realize
realize that
that this wasn't
same as
as success.
success. Then,
same
Then, II learned
learned how
how to
to get
get women
women to
to
come
wasn’t the
come over
over to
to my house
house only
only to
to realize
realize that
that this wasn't
same as
as success.
success. II finally
same
nally realized
realized that
that I have to lead the
way
just like
like in
inballroom
ballroom dancing.
dancing. II have
have
way the
the entire
entire time –
- just
to know where we're
we’re going and lead
lead the way the entire
time.
time.
But my most important
important realization
realization is
is that
thatTHIS
THIS IS
IS MY
MY
REALITY,
REALITY,AND
ANDSHE
SHEIS
ISAAGUEST
GUEST– -not
not the
the other
other way
around. IfIfaa woman
woman tried
tried to
to play
play aa game
game with me, put me
around.
off, give me an excuse,
excuse, etc.
etc. I’d
I'd start laughing out loud at
her. At
At first,
first, she
going on...
on... but
her.
shedoesn’t
doesn'tknow
know what’s
what's going
but then
then
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fi
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I’dsaid
saidsomething
something like,
like, "Cummon...
“Cummon... what,
what, are
are you
you
I'd
kidding? Give
Give me
me aabreak."
break.”
This tells
little ploys
ploys aren't
aren’t going
going
This
tells them
them that even their little
to get
get by
by my
my radar –
never mind into my reality. I never
to
- never
get upset
upset at
at them or let them get to me emotionally (this
is
because ifif they sense
is key, because
sense that
that they’ve
they've found a button,
they’ll
use it
it over
over and
and over
over again).
again). As
As my
my friend
friend Eric
Eric once
once
they'll use
said,
said,"YOU'RE
“YOU’RE IN
INMY
MY REALITY
REALITY NOW.
NOW.”
Let
out that
thatwhen
whenmeeting
meetingwomen,
women,NEVER
NEVER
Let me point out
think
thinkabout
aboutaa'long-term
‘long-termrelationship'
relationship’ with
with them
them in the
beginning.
be
beginning. If
If you like them and later they prove to be
someone that
that really
really amazes
amazes you, then this will be a
someone
possibility.
possibility.
My
men
My guess
guess isis that
that strong,
strong, exceptional, interesting men
who are in control of themselves and their realities
realities are
are as
as
rare for
forwomen
women as
as super-hot
super-hot women
women are rare for men.
rare
See
whereI'm
I’mgoing?
going?Said
Saidin
in aa different
See where
differentway,
way,“Why
"Why do
do so
many men settle for average
average or worse
worse looking women?"
women?”
I think
think the
the logic
logic goes both ways.
ways. I mean, I know quite
aa few
- but
this
I've
fewass-kicking
ass-kickingmen
men
– but
thisisisbecause
because
I’veliterally
literally
spent years
Most
years finding
nding and
and making
making friends
friends with them. Most
women aren’t
lucky enough
enough to
to run
run across
across one.
one. And
And when
when
aren't lucky
they do, they usually mess it up by being a bitch or
uninteresting. So
So they
they just
just settle for whatever the best
option is at the moment. And they often wind up getting
comfortable in the
the process.
process.
There's
another interesting
interesting point
point that
that I’ve
I've noticed:
There’s another
noticed:
Many
that have
have lasted
lasted
Many of
of the
the marriages
marriages that
that I know of that
for many years (10+)
have something
something in common:
common: a
a
(10+) have
woman
woman that
that subtly controls
controls the
the man.
man. I mean, think about
the plot of
of most
most romance
romance novels:
novels: Woman
Woman meets wild
man, woman
woman tames
tames man and lives happily
man,
happily ever
ever after with
her new
new well-behaved
well-behaved BOY.
BOY.
her
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may be
be coming off a bit harshly here, I
want to mention something. If
If you
you could
could be in the room
with me during my interactions with a new woman
woman that
that I
find
you’d most likely be thinking,
thinking, "This
“This guy is
nd interesting, you'd
funny as hell... but he's
he’s really pushing it. II mean,
mean, he's
he’s on
on
the borderline of saying something
too damn
damn
something that’s
that's just too
arrogant. But wow, the woman
woman just
just seems
seems to get more
and more
more into
into him
him as
as this goes on... interesting.”
and
interesting." You
would NOT
NOTbe
bethinking,
thinking, “Wow,
"Wow, this guy seems to me like
aa womanizer
women."
womanizer who's
who’s mean to women.”
I say this so that you understand
understand that all of the
techniques
techniques that
that II want you to employ are
are part of the allimportant 'Character'
‘Character’ that
that II discussed
discussed earlier.
earlier.
By
By staying
staying cocky
cocky and
and funny,
funny, women
women will
will laugh
laugh their
asses
assesoff,
off, get
get frustrated
frustrated that
that you’re
you're not playing to them,
and
you.
and finally
nally crack and show
show that
that they like you.
If you're
you’re just
just a
a plain
plain old run of the mill jerk,
jerk, then
then none
none
of this will work.
work. The
The 'assholes'
‘assholes’ who get laid usually
usually have
an
an angle
angle (money,
(money, fame,
fame, whatever)
whatever) that
that they mix with the
asshole-ness.
asshole-ness.
Mean,
no social
social
Mean, self-centered
self-centered people with no
attractiveness are usually out of luck.
luck.
So
Humor.
So keep
keep in
in mind
mind the
the all-important
all-important ingredient: Humor.
NOTHING works for me like humor mixed with
NOTHING
arrogance.
arrogance.
I also want to mention again that
that you
you need
need to be
be
flexible.
many situations,
situations, you
you can
can begin to do very
exible. In many
sweet
sweet and
and thoughtful
thoughtful things
things for
for aa woman
woman–- just on your
own terms.
own
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keep this
this in
in mind
mind when
when you’re
you're interacting with
women.
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sex(***big
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key here***)
here***) pay
attention and learn what a woman likes. Your goal is to
be
that she's
she’s ever had. Mix all this
be the
the most
most fulfilling
ful lling lover that
up with some special sauce,
sauce, and
and you
you have
have the
the recipe for
hot women who love to have sex with you and
and love you
as
them.
as aa person
person as
as well
well because
becauseyou’re
you're interesting
interesting to them.
Remember,
Remember, women
women are
are not
not linear,
linear, logical
logical creatures.
creatures. If
If
you do things that make sense,
sense, they
they will
will do
do things
things that
don’t
sense at all.
all.
don't make any sense
If you do things that
that don't
don’t make
make any
any sense
sense at all, then
women
do.
women will
will often do what you want them to do.
It’s
just that
thatyou
youhave
have to
toknow
knowexactly
exactlyWHICH
WHICH things
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totodo
dothat
thatdon't
don’tmake
make sense.
sense.
Make sense?
sense?
Make
On
A Man
Man
On Being
Being A
differences
There is
is aa lot controversy around the differences
between
between men
men and
and women. My
My perspective
perspective is
is that men
and
and women
women are
are different
different in many ways and
and that they
usually
usually respond
respond differently
differently to various types of
communication.
communication.
And as
as politically
politically incorrect
incorrect as
as this
this might sound, I
believe
believe that
that most women respond
respond very
very strongly to
‘masculine’
and
'masculine'men.
men. The
The more
more confident,
con dent, arrogant, and
dominant I’ve
acted, the
the more
more women
women have
have responded
responded to
I've acted,
me
me emotionally
emotionally and
and sexually.
sexually. (I’m
(I'm not talking about
hitting a woman over the head and dragging
dragging her
her to your
cave, Bubba.)
And
now that
that I’ve
I've thought about it aa lot
And now
lot and
and
interviewed dozens
dozens of women
interviewed
women about
about this
this topic,
topic, I’ve
I've
realized
realized that
that weak
weak men
men are
are generally
generally not
not attractive
attractive to
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Women may
may demand
demand things,
things, whine, and act like
a pain, but it’s
another.
it's usually all a test of one sort or another.
If you're
you’re weak, shy, or submissive,
submissive, get
get over
over it.
it. Start
walking
taller, acting
acting a
a little
little more
more self-centered,
self-centered,
walking aa little
little taller,
and
want.
and taking what you want.
Now,I Ihave
haveto
tobe
becareful
careful here.
here. II want
want to
to make
make sure
Now,
don't start
you don’t
start acting
acting like
like an
an 'asshole'
‘asshole’ to
to women.
women. The
The
masculine man
man says,
says, “No”
"No" to a woman calmly.
calmly. The
masculine
The
Asshole
Asshole says,
says, "No"
“No” to
to aa woman
woman in an angry tone. Get
Get it?
How To Tease (How To
To Speak
Speak Woman)
When
took her
her hand
hand
When II first
rst met one particular girl, II took
when she got into
into the
thecar
carand
andheld
heldititfor
fora afew
fewseconds...
seconds...
then took it
it away
away saying,
saying, "No
“No hand holding this early",
early”, as
as
were her
her idea...
idea... then
then at
at lunch,
lunch, II put
put out
out my
my hand
hand for
ififititwere
her to
to take
take ititand
and then
then when
when she
she went
moved
her
went to
to take
take it,
it, I moved
beforeshe
she touched
touched me...
me... then
then did
did itit again...
again... and
and again
again
ititbefore
saying, "No,
“No, really..."
really...”
saying,
Finally, after the meal was finished,
nished, I reached out for
her hand, and she wouldn’t
mine because
because I had
had
wouldn't take mine
teased
grabbed her hand
hand and
and
teased her so
so much. So
So I actually grabbed
held it
and massaged
massaged it.
it.This
Thiswas
wasteasing
teasingand
andteasing...
teasing...
it and
and
her.
and when
when she
she finally
nally gave
gave up,
up, II gave
gave itit to her.
later on,
on, she
she kissed
kissed me
Then, when
when I gave her a hug later
on
the cheek
or neck
couple of times,
on the
cheek or
neck aa couple
times, and
and II accused
accused her
her
of
lot, etc.
of kissing
kissing me
me aa lot,
etc. (The
(The idea
idea is
is that
that she’s
she's into
intome
me
and she’s
One part
doing
she's the
the aggressor.) One
part of this is me doing
something (holding her hand) and then accusing her of
doing itit ("no
doing
(“no hand holding this early").
early”).
behavior, sending
sending mixed
mixed messages,
messages, and
and
This kind of behavior,
flirting
doesn’t really
really make
make sense
sense to
irting doesn't
to most men, but to
women it's
it’s magic.
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Also, some
some women
women really
really get
get intrigued
intrigued if you ‘figure
' gure
them out'
out’ early
early on
on in
inthe
thegame
gameand
andhave
havetheir
theirnumber...
number...
and
when they do
and then
then just
just ‘laugh
'laugh at how cute
cute they are’
are when
things. This gets them all freaked out, as they feel like
you're in control,
you’re
control, and
and they
they don't
don’t know
know what
whatto
todo
donext..
next...
like you know all the games
games they’re
they're playing and won’t
won't fall
forany
any of
of their
theirold
old tricks...
tricks...this
thismakes
makes them
them nervous
nervous as
for
they
don’thave
haveany
anyPOWER
POWER OR
OR AMMO!
AMMO!
they don't
And
They love
love this, as men are hardly ever in control. And
they secretly want someone
someone who is. (It's
(It’s VERY
VERY important
important
become the
the ‘friend/therapist’
'friend/therapist' with this
not to become
information...
andstart
startkissing
kissingtheir
theirass!
ass!The
The idea
idea is to
information.
and
use
use it
itto
tobust
buston
onthem
them and
and not
not to
to be
be understanding.)
understanding.)
I'd also
alsotell
tell
women early
early on
on that
that IIthink
thinkthey’d
they'dmake
make a
I’d
women
nice
nice 'friend'.
‘friend’.
It’s
funny to
to see
see how the friendship frame works with
It's funny
them, because
because this
this gets
gets them
them thinking
thinking often
often for
for the first
rst
time, "Wow,
“Wow, maybe I just
just found
found aa man
man who is smarter
than me, knows my little
little games,
games, and
and has higher
standards
and now
now he’s
he's talking
talking about
about
standards than ME
ME for once... and
being ‘just
'just friends'!
being
friends’! Oh
Oh no!
no! Doesn't
Doesn’t he
he like
like me?
me? Doesn't
Doesn’t he
want me like all the other
other guys?"
guys?” A
A key
key here
here is
is to
to always
always
keepthem
them
guessing...never
neverget
gettoo
toointo
into them
themororthey'll
they’ll
keep
guessing...
get
right into
etc.
get right
into their
theirold
oldgames,
games, etc.
Another interesting observation
observation that
that I’ve
I've made is that
women only understand
understand CODE,
CODE, not
language.
not direct language.
Little boys tease
they’re 8,
8, and
and
tease little
little girls when they're
women
women still
still love
love itit when
when they’re
they're 28 and
and 48.
48. I like to find
nd
something
little insecure
insecure
something about
about them
them that
that they’re
they're just aa little
about and
and make
make fun
fun of it in a way makes them wonder
whether
whether or
or not
not I'm
I’m serious.
serious.
The way I see it,
women are
are like
like the
the Enigma
Enigma machines
machines
The
it, women
that
-boats used
War II.
II. These
that German
German U-boats
used in
in World
World War
These
machines
messages to each
machines were
were able
able to
to transmit
transmit messages
each other,
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time.
also able
able to
tochange
change the
the codes
codes they
they used
used each
each time.
Women
Women are
are much
much more
more interested
interested in giving and getting
subtle hints.
subtle
Telling a woman,
woman, “I
"I really like you",
you”, won't
won’t be
be as
as
effective as saying,
way.
saying, “You
"You really like me”
me" in a teasing way.
Do
Do you understand?
I speak in metaphor and story,
talk about
about feelings
feelings and
and
story, talk
longings,
longings, speak
speak code,
code, and
and try
try to never speak directly.
directly.
Let
examples:
Let me give you a few more examples:
If you want to
to have
have sex
sex with
with aa woman,
woman, you
you could
could say,
"Hey,
and try
try that one
“Hey,why
whydon't
don’twe
wehave
havesex?"
sex?” Go
Go ahead
ahead and
sometime and
and let
let me
me know how it works for you.
sometime
Or,you
youcould
couldtry
trythis...
this... Next
Or,
Next time
time you’re
you're alone
alone with a
new
woman,
stand
up,
take
her
hand,
and
pull
her up to
new woman, stand up,
her feet. Then give her a hug, let go,
go, and
and sit
sit back
back down.
down.
just wanted
wanted to
to hug
hug you.
you.”
After she sits
sits again,
again, say,
say, “I
"I just
Later
While cuddling,
Later hug her again and cuddle
cuddle with
with her.
her. While
smell her
her neck
neck and
and tell
tell her
her how
how good
good she smells... and
smell
don’t
she’ll be telling you how
don't stop. Within a few minutes she'll
hot
hotshe's
she’s getting.
getting.
Two different paths to the same outcome…
outcome... It’s
It's just
that one happens
happens to
to work about a hundred
hundred times
times better
than the
the other.
than
Men
laid’. Women
Women like the
Men like
like to
to go
go out
out hoping
hoping to
to ‘get
'get laid'.
idea
moment… especially
especially
idea of being swept away by the moment...
when
shouldn’t be doing it,
when it’s
it's a taboo thing and they shouldn't
etc. The more unplanned
unplanned things
things seem,
seem, the
the better.
better. For
instance, if she happens
bedroom and
and
happens to
to wind up in your bedroom
you happen
happen to
to be
be massaging
massagingher,
her, smelling
smelling her,
her, etc. it’s
it's
seen as ‘meant
be’ or something that happened
happened in
seen
'meant to be'
in an
an
unplanned
unplanned romantic
romantic way,
way, and therefore a good
good thing to
get swept
by.
swept away
away by.
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If you
you want
want to
toincrease
increase your
yourchances
chances of
of success
success with
women, create scenarios
scenarios that
situations.
that lead to these situations.
Ask
"What situation would facilitate the outcome
Ask yourself, “What
outcome
that I'm
I’m looking
looking for
for naturally?"
naturally?” Remember
Remember that
that women
women
like
like to be
be swept
swept away
away by
by the
the moment;
moment; they don’t
don't like to
think that
that they're
they’re being
being used.
used.
Another fun
fun thing
thing II do
do to
to demonstrate
demonstrate to women that
Another
I’m
savvy and know the language is to interpret
interpret gestures
gestures
I'm savvy
and expressions
had
expressions and
and then
then comment back as
as if they had
said something.
something.
Sofor
forinstance,
instance,ififaawoman
woman looks
looks at
at someone
someone walking
So
walking
by,then
thenwrinkles
wrinklesup
upher
hernose
nose and
and gets
gets that
that 'Gross'
‘Gross’ look
by,
look
face, II might respond with, "That's
on her face,
“That’s what II was
was
thinking.”
thinking."
Get it? I’m
I'm pretending
Get
pretending like
like she
she actually
actually said,
said, "Gross"
“Gross”
to me.
to
me.
Or
takes my
hand,II might
might say,
say, “Oh,
Or if
ifa awoman
woman takes
my hand,
"Oh,
really?”
really?"
I’mpretending
pretendinglike
like she
she said, “I’m
attracted to
I'm
"I'm attracted
to you.”
you."
Women
are
very
expressive
with
their
body
language
and
Women are very expressive
their body language and
facial expressions,
often express
express themselves in
expressions, but
but they often
very subtle ways.
ways.
If you can
can tune into
into these
these little
littlecues
cues and
and then
then respond
respond
with fun remarks that
that show
show you're
you’re clued in, you'll
you’ll be
be
rewarded. (Notice: Do
Do not
not start
startACTING
ACTING like a
a woman
woman
now
tip. This
This technique
technique is
is to
to be
be used
used
now that
that you know this tip.
sparingly
know’
sparingly and
and only
only to
to let a woman
woman ‘know
'know that you know'
and
and not as your main approach when
when interacting with
women. Many
Many men
men make
make the
the mistake of learning how
women act
act and
and then
then IMITATING
IMITATING them all the time.
time. This
This is
women
not what you
me.)
you want
want to do, trust me.)
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Here’s how
how I'd
I’d mentally
mentallyapproach
approach meeting
meeting a
a new
new
Here's
woman: I’d
cocky and
I'd be cocky
and funny,
funny, I’d
I'd steal their lines, I’d
I'd
tease
wouldn’t ever
ever give
give them
them aa break.
break.
tease them,
them, and I wouldn't
In my opinion, your most valuable asset, no
no matter
your looks,
humor.
looks, height, age,
age, or income
income –- is humor.
one eye.
eye. If
If
I don't
don’t care if you're
you’re four feet tall
tall and
and have one
you can make women laugh consistently and get those
good
they’ll love
love you.
you.
good feelings
feelings flowing
owing through
through them,
them, they'll
I decided a few years ago
ago to
to start
startactually
actuallySTUDYING
STUDYING
comedy, as
respond to
as I’d
I'd found that people (women) respond
to it
better than any other thing in
in the
the whole
whole entire
entire universe.
universe.
So
So II did a bunch
bunch of
of research
research on
onthe
the Internet
Internet to find
nd the
best
them.
best books,
books, and
and II bought about 5 or 6 of them.
One
read called
called Comedy
Comedy Writing
Writing Secrets
Secrets
One book
book that
that II read
by Melvin
Melvin Helitzer
Helitzer made
made aa great
great point. He said
said that
that the
majority
ofhumor
humorrevolves
revolvesaround
aroundthe
theCHARACTER
CHARACTER and
majority of
not the jokes.
jokes.
Most
Most of
of the
the guys
guys that
that II meet who want to learn to
meet women
women are
are working
working on
on the
the ‘jokes’
'jokes' in their life
meet
life and
and
not the ‘character’.
for about
about two years
years myself. I
'character'. I did it for
triedto
tolearn
learnall
allkinds
kinds of
of lines
lines and
and B.S.
tried
It
dawned on me that women
women were not really
It finally
nally dawned
that concerned
concerned with
that… they wanted a particular
with all of that...
CHARACTER.
CHARACTER.The
Thelines
linesdidn’t
didn'tmatter
matteras
aslong
long as
asthey
they fitt in
withthe
thecharacter.
character.Once
OnceI Icreated
createdthis
thisCHARACTER
CHARACTER for
with
for
myself, things were different.
different. Women
Women now
now called
called me.
me.
They pursued
was
They
pursued me.
me. They
They wanted
wanted to
to be
be around
around me.
me. It
It was
strange, magical, and weird.
weird.
So
that they
they want?
want? Good
Good
So what’s
what's the character that
question.
question.
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who's the best I’ve
I've ever seen at
I have a good friend who’s
picking
picking up
up women
women in
in bars
bars and
and having
having sex
sex with
with them
them that
night. Now, I do
do better
better getting
getting numbers
numbers and
and following
following up.
up.
But
machine. And
And his whole mindset
But this guy is just aa machine.
"cocky and
and funny”
funny" (his
towards meeting women is to be “cocky
words). My opinion
opinion is
is that
that women
women are
are turned off by
arrogant
men… UNLESS...
UNLESS… they’re
DAMN FUNNY.
FUNNY. This
arrogant men...
they're DAMN
combination attracts women
women like MAGIC,
MAGIC, so
so I’m
I'm following
in my buddy's
buddy’s footsteps.
footsteps.
I'll try
that I’ve
I've
I’ll
try to
to summarize
summarize the character
character that
developed:
developed:
“I"Iknow
girl is
is secretly
secretly trying
tryingtotopick
pickme
meup...
up…
know that
that this girl
I’m
be
I'm going to play hard to get, make fun of her, be
indifferent towards her,
her, and
and generally
generally bust
bust her
her balls
balls as
as
much as
as possible.
possible. I know
know that
that she
she loves a guy that is so
much
sarcastic
sarcastic that
that it makes her nervous,
nervous, so
so I’m
I'm going to really
keep
on… and
keep the
the heat on...
and when
when she
she starts
starts to show any
interest at all on the outside,
outside, I’m
I'm going to blow her off
and make her prove to me that
that she
she wants
wants me...
me… so II can
can
reject her again.
again.”
I’d
was standing next to a girl
I'd do crazy things, like if II was
at a bar, I'd
I’d turn
turnto
toher
herand
andsay
say in
inaa completely
completely serious
serious
voice, "Will
“Will you
you PLEASE
PLEASE stop
stoptouching
touching me?”
me?" And
And then
then look
them right in
in the
the eye.
eye.
Or say, "What
“What are you doing
doing at
at aa bar
bar for
forgodsakes?
godsakes?
Can’t
nice normal
normal guy?
guy? Or
Or are
are you
you desperate?"
desperate?”
Can't you find
nd aa nice
straight face.
face.
All with a completely straight
I’d
I'd say things that make them
them actually
actually think
think that
that I’m
I'm
serious, but
but leave
leave aa shadow
shadow of a doubt.
serious,
Here’s
they respond
respond in an
an
Here's what
what I’m
I'm looking
looking for: IfIf they
insecure way
wayand
andsay,
say,“Oh,
"Oh,I’m
I'm sorry…
sorry... II didn’t
didn't know that
insecure
you", I'd
I was touching you”,
I’d keep
keep itit going...
going… and say, "Well,
“Well,
you did. And if you’re
you're going to keep
keep doing
doing it,
it, I’d
I'd
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appreciate itit if you’d
you'd touch a little higher."
appreciate
higher.” They'd
They’d crack
crack
up.
up.
If they'd
they’d shoot
shoot something
something funny back like, "Well,
“Well,
touchy-touchy" and
and they
they knew
knew that
that II was
was kidding,
kidding, I’d
I'd just
touchy-touchy”
stayed in character
character and
and say,
say, “Yes,
"Yes, I don't
stayed
don’t like
like being
being
touched. So keep a foot or
or so
so between
between us
us please"
please” and
keep
going.
keep it
it going.
I’d meet
meet aa cold
cold one
one
And yes,
yes, sometimes
sometimes (not
(not often) I'd
and
just walk
walk away.
away.
and she’d
she'd get
get uptight
uptight –- so I’d
I'd just
If you're
you’re going to do this, you
you have
have to remember to
keep
keep itit going
going for
for the entire time…
time... don’t
don't turn into aa dumb
ass
you. Keep
Keep up the
ass at
at the
the first
rst sign of her liking you.
character, play hard
forever!
hard to get, etc. forever!
How To Be Funny,
Funny,The
TheOne
OnePage
Page Course
Course
Here’s
funny:
Here's aa little
little mini-course on how to be funny:
First, go read Comedy Writing Secrets
Secrets by Melvin
Melvin
Helitzer. And while you’re
it, watch
watch some
some good
good standyou're at it,
up classic
Chris Rock, Eddie Murphy,
classic comedy
comedy routines
routines like Chris
and
and Steve
Steve Martin.
Martin. Listen
Listen to
to how they use word play,
double
double meanings,
meanings, exaggeration,
exaggeration, and
and misinterpretation
misinterpretation to
create humor.
create
It’s
time to
to get
get yourself
yourself a
a set of standard things that
It's time
you can say
situations.
say in some
some of the most common situations.
Here’s
use personally
personally and examples of
Here's aa list
list that II use
instances
instances when
when you can use
use them:
them:
1.
someonehas
hasan
anemotional
emotional response
response to
to
1. Whenever
Whenever someone
something, say,
say, "How
“How do
do you
youREALLY
REALLY feel about
it?" For instance,
instance, ifif a woman
woman says
says,, “I
"I just
just HATE
HATE it
it?”
people smoke
smoke around
around me!”
me!" say, "How
when people
“How do you
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feelabout
aboutit?”
it?" The
The sarcasm
sarcasmisisthat
that they’ve
they've
REALLY
shown
they have
have VERY
VERY strong
shown that they
strong feelings, so the
“How
"Howdo
doyou
youREALLY
REALLYfeel”
feel"creates
createsaajoke
joke on
on them
that they're
they’re overly
overly emotional.
emotional.
2. Say,
Say, "Anyway"
“Anyway” and
and look
look away
away quickly after
after making
making
a wisecrack. For
For instance, if someone says, “That
"That
girl over
over there
there is
is ugly"
ugly” say,
say, "Oh,
“Oh, II thought
thought she
she was
was
girl
you-–anyway"
anyway”(look
(lookaway
awayquickly).
quickly).The
The looking
looking
you
away
away and
and quick
quick “Anyway”
"Anyway" (trying
(trying to get off the
topic) creates a funny moment.
moment.
Misinterpretwhat
whatwomen
women say.
say.Always
Always listen for
3.3.Misinterpret
opportunities
opportunities to
to misinterpret words. If you say,
"Let'sgo
goover
overto
tothe
thebar
barto
tohave
have aa drink”
drink" and
and the
“Let’s
woman says,
says, “Let’s
"Let's do
do it”,
it", turn to her and say,
woman
“Let’s
"Let'sdo
doit?
it?You
Youmean
meanright
right here?
here?II think
think the line
for a bathroom stall is too long, and I’d
rather have
have
I'd rather
drink.”
aa drink."
4. Look
Look for
for sexual
sexual innuendo
innuendo in everything and use it
to accuse
accuse her
of
to seduce
seduce you before
before you
you
her trying
trying to
even know
know her.
her. If she says,
says, “Well,
"Well, I’m
I'm getting
even
tired, and I think it's
it’s time
time for
for bed",
bed”, say,
say, "Bed?
“Bed? I
mean, I don't
don’t even
even know
knowififyou
youknow
knowhow
howtotokiss...
kiss...
and
to get
get me
me into
into bed?
bed? What
and you’re
you're trying to
happened
happened to
to the old days when you could be
friends
rst?"
friends first?”
5. Exaggerate.
Exaggerate. If
If an
an overweight
overweight woman walks by, say,
“What
"Whatwould
would you
you guess?
guess? 900
900 pounds?”
pounds?" Or if a
woman
woman complains
complains about
about aa part
part of her body or her
clothing (I
love these opportunities), exaggerate
exaggerate it.
it.
(I love
For
For instance,
instance, ifif she
she says,
says, “My
"My hair looks like hell
today",
today”, you
you say,
say, "I
“I didn't
didn’t want
want to
to say
say anything."
anything.”
Ohhhh
You’ll usually get a hit on
on
Ohhhh this
this is
is funny
funny stuff.
stuff. You'll
the arm (in
(in which
which case
case you can spank her on the
ass). Then
Then you
you can
can go
go on
on all
all night
night making
making fun of
her
talking about
about how
how everyone
everyone is looking at
her hair, talking
it, how you're
you’re embarrassed
embarrassed to be seen
seen with
with her
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it, etc.
etc.
because ofofit,
6. Connect
Connectthings
thingsaround
aroundyou
you
currentaffairs
affairs in
in a
toto
current
funny way. If
If aa woman
woman with a huge butt walks by,
say, "Hey,
“Hey, Jennifer
Jennifer Lopez
Lopez is
is in
in the house.”
house." If aa
woman
woman starts
starts talking about how she
she just bought
herself
herself aa new
new car,
car, say,
say, “I
"I like the effect that the
Independent Woman song is having on you.
you.”
(These
(These are,
are, of
of course,
course,currently
currently funny.
funny. Next
Next year,
year, it
will be
be aa different
different set of things.)
will
things.)
7. Don't
Don’t smile
smile too
too much
much and
and don't
don’t laugh
laugh at
at your
your own
own
When you smile
jokes very often. When
smile or laugh,
laugh, it
releases
releases the
the tension.
tension. If
If you can keep
keep aa straight
face, the joke stays funnier longer.
longer.
OK,
there’s aa list
list of
OK, there's
of basic
basic things
things that
that I’ve
I've learned
learned
regarding
studying
regarding humor.
humor. I’d
I'd recommend that you start studying
humor, read books about it,
go
to
comedy
clubs,
and
it, go to comedy clubs, and
learnmore
more advanced
advanced skills.
learn
reading Maxim
Maxim and
and Stuff
Stuffmagazines.
magazines. Read
Read
Also, start
start reading
how
humor. This
This is
is some
some good
good
how they always use reversal humor.
funny stuff.
stuff.
Let's Be Friends
Let’s
Have
Have you
you ever
ever noticed
noticed how
how women
womenwill
will say,
say, “I
"I like
him,but
butonly
onlyas
asaaFRIEND."
FRIEND.”
him,
Don't you hate that?
Don’t
I thought about
about that
that one
one for
for aa long
long time,
time, and
and a
a friend
of mine and
turn this
this one
one around
around by
and II figured
gured out how to turn
always making
making references
references to
to ‘making
'making friends’
friends' and ‘let’s
'let's
always
get together
together and
andmake
make
friends’and
and'if
‘if nothing
get
friends'
nothing else,
else, we
we
can
conversation and when setting
can be
be friends’
friends' in the first
rst conversation
up
coffee date.
date.
up the first
rst coffee
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Then
when on
on the
the date,
date, talk
talk about why you like to
'friends' first
rst totoget
other
person.
"I “I
make ‘friends’
gettotoknow
knowthe
the
other
person.
think that
that you're
you’re going
going to
to make
make aa nice
nice friend.
friend.”
Then, after the friendship frame is established,
Then,
established, flirt
irt
like hell and make sexual innuendoes and jokes. This
This
immediately
immediately sets
sets up
up the
the idea
idea that
that you’re
you're very in control of
yourself, and that
that you're
you’regoing
goingto
toJUDGE
JUDGE whether you
want to be more than
than friends
friends based
based on something more
thanJUST
JUST HER
HER LOOKS.
LOOKS.
than
This is
This
is something
something that a woman has
has most likely
NEVER encountered
NEVER
encountered(as
(asyou
you know,
know, this
this is
is aa favorite
favorite of
mine).
mine.
By
By the
the way,
way, if you talk about being
being friends
friends first,
rst, it
makes
makes you
you remember
remember to
to look past the looks and
and find
nd out
what kind of person
had a dollar
person you’re
you're dealing
dealing with
with (If
(If I had
for every guy II know,
know, including
including myself,
myself, that
that screwed
screwed his
his
life up by getting
getting too
too involved
involved with
withaawoman
womanbecause
because she
she
was
to be
be a
a
was attractive
attractive on the outside, but turned out to
horrible person...)
You can
can keep
keep up
up this
this ‘let’s
'let's be friends’
friends' fun forever.
forever.
Even
It’s easy
easy to
Evenafter
after you
you start
start dating,
dating, still
still talk
talk about
about it.
it. It's
have
have fun
fun with
with it.
it. You'll
You’ll see.
see.
More Nuggets of Gold
and phone
phone calls
calls
Always end conversations, meetings, and
first.
rst.
I got
got this
this idea
idea from
fromthe
thebook
bookThe
TheRules
Rules by
by Ellen
Ellen Fein
Fein
and Sherrie
Sherrie Schneider...You
Schneider...You remember
and
remember that
that book
book that
that
was
to marry
marry you?
you? Well,
Well,
was written
written about how to get a man to
it's a great book. But I don't
it’s
don’t think
think the
the authors
authors would
would like
reasonswhy
whyII think
think it’s
it's great.
great. I take all of 'the
the reasons
‘the rules'
rules’
and
games that
and turn them around. When you play the games
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women
you will
will not
not believe
believe the
the responses
responses
women often play, you
you'll
you’ll get.
Now, IIused
used to
to be
be against
against any kind of 'game
‘game playing’.
Now,
playing'
I still don't
don’t like
like lies,
lies, cheating,
cheating, general
general dishonesty, or
manipulation. BUT,
BUT, when
when you
you use
use these
these things
things in
in the
the right
right
way,ititbecomes
becomes kind
kind of
ofaa 'game'
‘game’that
thatwomen
womenLOVE
LOVE to
way,
play. It's
It’s strange,
strange, but
but women
women love
love to
to tease
tease and
and be
be
teased.
seriously, you
you
teased. And
And ifif you
you don’t
don't take this stuff too seriously,
can have
have some
some real fun.
can
But, I digress...
digress... The
The reason
reason to
to end
end conversations,
conversations,
calls,
calls, and
and meetings
meetingsfirst
rst is
is that
that itit does
does two
two things:
things: First, it
says,
needy guy,
says, “I’m
"I'm not a needy
guy, and I have things
things to do. I’m
I'm
busy
busy and
and ifif you
you want
want me, you’re
you're going
going to have
have to work to
get me.”
get
me."
Second,
situation where
where YOU
YOU are in control
Second, itit sets up a situation
of the situation.
situation. IfIfyou
youstart
startdoing
doingthis
thiswith
withEVERY
EVERY call,
EVERY
EVERYmeeting,
meeting, and
and EVERY
EVERYconversation,
conversation, you
you will
will be
blown
responses you’ll
get.
blown away by the responses
you'll get.
You'll
You’llhave
have women
women say,
say, "What?
“What? But
But we're
we’re having
having so
much fun...!”,
“Well, when
whencan
canII see
see you
or
much
fun...!","Well,
you again?”,
again?", Or
"Don't
“Don’t you
you like
like me?"
me?”
By
don’t take the
the bait
bait when
when they
they say
say these
these
By the
the way, don't
things! Say, "Of
“Of course I like you, and
and of course I’m
I'm
having fun
fun -–but
butI'm
I’mbusy
busyand
andIIhave
have things
things to
to do.
do. So
So call
having
me tomorrow
tomorrow and
and maybe I can get together with you at
me
the end
end of
of the
the week.
week.”
the
I LOVETHIS!!!
THIS!!!Love
Love it!
it! Love
Love it!
Love it!
I LOVE
it! Love
it!
And women
women love
love itit too. As much
much as
as you
you might
might think
it’s
it's cruel and unusual punishment, women love nothing
more than to go
go home
home wondering,
wondering, "Does
“Does he
he love
love me?
me?
Doeshe
helike
like me?
Will he
Does
me? Will
he call
callme?
me? Did
Did he
he have
have fun?”
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know,I Iknow...
know...sounds
sounds too
too bizarre
bizarre to be
IIknow,
be true,
true, but
trust me. Tease
Tease and do
do these
these things,
things, and
and you’ll
you'll find
nd that
they’llwork
worklike
likeaa charm...
charm...plus
plus have
have the
the added
added bonus
they'll
bonus of
of
being damn fun!
fun!
***I have
***I
haveto
toinsert
inserthere
here that
thatI've
I’vegiven
given this
this advice
advice to
many needy
needy man
man who
who have
have rejected
rejected itit whole heartedly.
heartedly.
They continue
They
continue to
to act needy
needy and
and not
not let women go at the
end
end of
of the night, when talking on the phone, etc. By not
making themselves scarce
scarce and
and unusual, they make
themselves valueless.
valueless. Don't
Don’t make the same mistake
themselves
yourself.
yourself.
Another
Another one
one that
that I've
I’veused
used often
often is
is 'Don't
‘Don’t say
say caring
caring
and
but say
say them
them indirectly'.
indirectly’.
and affectionate
affectionate things
things directly
directly –- but
Women
Women have
have aa love
love for
for metaphors, demonstrations,
stories, gifts, etc.
etc.
For
For instance,
instance, saying, "You're
“You’re beautiful"
beautiful” 12 times a day
isn’t
but writing
writing aa poem
poem that
that says
says it
it and
and
isn't attractive, but
leaving
leaving it somewhere as
as aa surprise
surprise is
is very
very attractive.
attractive.
Also, if I’m
appreciating something about a woman, I
Also,
I'm appreciating
point to a speci
specificc part
part or thing or detail. Women love it
when you
you NOTICE
NOTICE things.
things.
This reminds
point: Women
Women
This
reminds me
me of
of aa very
very important point:
LOVE
was
LOVEititwhen
whenyou
youTHINK
THINKabout
aboutthem.
them.IfIf you
you say,
say, “I
"I was
thinking about
about you,
you, so
so II wrote
wrote you"
you” the
the woman
woman will
will have
have
thinking
something
something inside
inside go
go ‘click’!
'click'! I believe that women like gifts
not
they have
havevalue,
value,but
butbecause
becausethey
they
say,
not because they
say,
"I “I
was
have these
these feelings for you, and
and
was thinking
thinking about you, II have
this gift
gift is
is aa symbol
symbol for
forthem."
them.”
Does
Does this
this make sense to you?
IIdidn't
didn’tthink
thinkso.
so. ItItdidn't
didn’tto
tome,
me, either.
either. But
But IT'S
IT’S
TRUE. So
TRUE.
Sostart
starttelling
telling women
women that
that you were thinking
about them, that you
you were
were remembering times with
them, and that something reminded
you
reminded you
you of
of them. If
If you
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do
don’t have to buy gifts
gifts anymore!
anymore! They
They know
do this, you don't
you’re
about them!
them! Nice.
Nice.
you're thinking about
Here’s
Here's something
something else
elsethat
that I’ve
I've figured
gured out
out that
doesn't make any sense at all:
doesn’t
all: Women
Women love
love 'Mismatched
‘Mismatched
Communication’.
women like
Communication'. What
What II mean
mean by this is that women
it when you're
you’re doing one thing
thing serious
serious and one thing
jokingly, or
or being
being verbally
verbally tough,
tough, but
but physically
physically
jokingly,
affectionate.
affectionate.
Let me give you a couple
couple of examples.
examples.
If you're
you’re talking to
to aa woman
woman and telling her that
that you
you
think
she’s beautiful,
beautiful, keep
keep aa very
verySERIOUS
SERIOUS look on your
think she's
face. This
This adds
adds all kinds of drama
face.
drama to the situation and
gives
kinds of
of deep
deep
gives the woman something to imagine all kinds
meanings.
Smile
meanings. (By
(By the
the way, most men smile too much. Smile
less
It will
keep
less when
when talking
talking to
towomen.
women. It
will
keepthem
them wondering
wondering
what you’re
you're thinking and it will help you.)
Or while kissing a woman, reach down and bite her on
on
the neck, just a tiny
tiny bit
bit too
too hard
hard (no
(no blood
blood please).
please).
One
violent.
One thing
thing tender,
tender, one thing slightly violent.
Or maybe
her hand
hand and
and
maybe you’ve
you've just finished
nished holding her
kissing
kissing her. When she
she stands
stands up,
up, give her a spank on the
ass
was because
because she's
she’s such a good kisser.
kisser.
ass and
and tell
tell her itit was
The idea
idea here
here is
is that
that what
what you're
you’re feeling
feeling is
is causing
causing
The
you to do
do something
something IRRATIONAL.
IRRATIONAL. You’ve
You've being swept
away
Or you're
you’re experiencing
experiencing con
conflicting
away by the moment. Or
icting
feelings.
This leaves
leaves it
you’re
feelings. This
it to her to figure
gure out what you're
‘REALLY’ feeling, which women
'REALLY'
women love
love to do.
It
also makes you the most interesting,
interesting, unpredictable
unpredictable
It also
guy she's
she’s ever met.
met.
You know, another
I’ve noticed is that
You
another thing
thing that I've
women LOVE
LOVE to
women
to talk about sex. Most men are not
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comfortable bringing up the subject with women they
don’t
don't know. But try telling aa couple of
of dirty jokes, or
talking about a sex program you saw on T.V.
T.V. Most
Most women
women
will jump right in
in and
and start
start giving
giving their
their take
take on
on the
the topic.
topic.
It's amazing. Try it.
It’s
it.
On
On Predictability
Predictability
Don’t
Don't be predictable. Do the unexpected when they
LEAST expect
LEAST
expect it.
it.
But
If you
you
But don’t
don't overdo
overdo itit by acting extreme too often. If
do the unexpected
will come
come off
off as
as unstable,
unstable,
unexpected too
too much, it will
etc.
etc.
People
Peoplein
in general,
general, including
including women,
women, are
are attracted
attracted to
thenovel...
novel... the
the unusual...
unusual... the different.
the
Predictability
interesting.
Predictability is the enemy of interesting.
If you
you always
always act
act predictable,
predictable, then
thenby
byDEFINITION
DEFINITION
you’re not
not interesting.
interesting.
you're
So
interesting and
and
So keep
keep doing
doing things
things that
that are interesting
unexpected.
unexpected.
If she wants a kiss, say, "No."
“No.” But
But kiss
kiss her later
later when
when
YOU feel
YOU
feellike
likeit.
it. If
If she
she sits
sits on
on your lap, push
push her
her off. But
give her a hug later
later when
when YOU
YOU feel
feel like it.
it.
The Dark
The
Dark Side:
Side: Don’t
Don't do
do things
things that
that are too far out in
order to be unpredictable. I said be unpredictable, not
UNSTABLE.
you’ll come
come across
across as
UNSTABLE.Don’t
Don'tget
gettoo
too wild,
wild, or you'll
being
being loopy.
loopy.
Another facet
facet of
of this mindset: Don't
Don’t be too friendly
too early.
early.
too
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This includes
includes touching
This
touching and
and smiling.
smiling. If
If you do
do either
too much, you'll
you’ll mess it up for yourself.
yourself.
If you act too interested
interested too
too early,
early, you'll
you’llcome
come across
across
as
as needy.
needy. By leaning back
back and
and keeping
keeping aa calm,
calm, indifferent
indifferent
attitude you'll
you’ll be
be more interesting.
interesting.
I like to
to take
take this
this idea
idea to
to its
its extreme
extreme by
by teasing
teasing and
and
making a woman
that she
she wants
wants and
and
woman beg
beg me
me for things that
commit
fun
commit to things
things during
during times
times when
whenit’s
it's unfair
unfair(in
in aa fun
way, of course).
course).
For instance,
instance, ifif she
she wants a kiss,
you’ll
For
kiss, tell
tell her that you'll
only give her one if she rubs your back, etc.
etc.
Use
Use your
your imagination
imagination here. The idea
idea is
is to do things
that are unexpected and different.
different.
you become
become too predictable, you will
To summarize, if you
become
We humans are
become uninteresting
uninteresting to a woman. We
naturally drawn to things that
that we
we cannot
cannot completely
completely
figure
out.
So
keep
some
things
a
mystery.
Do some
some
gure out. So
mystery. Do
things that
that don't
don’t make
make sense.
sense. Don't
Don’t be
be predictable.
predictable.
On
On Testing
Testing
The way
see it, women are constantly testing men.
men.
The
way II see
They do
making demands,
demands,
They
do itit by acting bratty,
bratty, making
complaining, commanding,
commanding, being emotional, etc.
complaining,
Know
talking about?
about?
Know what
what I’m
I'm talking
Here's what
what I’d
I'd do:
Here’s
do:
When
for instance,
instance, ifif she
she
When aa woman
womantries
tries to
to test
test me
me –- for
says,
says,"I“Idon't
don’tlike
likethat
thatheavy
heavy metal
metal that
that you
you were
were
listening to"
to” -–I'd
I’dturn
turnititup
upaanotch
notchand
and send
send it
it back
back to
listening
her
might also
also say,
say, "Well,
“Well, then you might want to not
her –- II might
get in my car anymore, because
because it’s
it's all
all I’m
I'm going to play
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now
it.” (Said
(Said in
in aa half
half serious
serious
now that
that you’re
you're whining about it."
so she
she can’t
can't tell
tell ifif I’m
I'm kidding)
tone so
This sends
sends the
the message
messagethat
that ifif she
she tries
tries to act
controlling, I’m
just going
going to
to turn
turnwhatever
whatevershe's
she’s being
being a
a
I'm just
pain
to her
her again.
again. Women
Women
pain about up one
one notch and
and give it to
get the message loud
way.
loud and
and clear
clear when
when you
you act this way.
It
may be
be hard
hard to
to believe,
believe, but
butI've
I’veheard
heardMANY
MANY
It may
women say
“I HATE
HATE IT when a man does what
say things like, "I
I Itell
", or
or “I
"I just walk
tellhim
him to
to do"
do”,
walk all over him, and it's
it’s so
so
annoying to me.
me.”
Some
Some women
women actually
actually have
have standard
standard tests
tests that
that they
give to new guys
guys to
to see
see ifif the
the guy will do what they tell
him to do.
do. I've
I’venow
nowlearned
learnedNEVER
NEVER to accept demanding
or controlling behavior. I usually
usually just
just laugh
laugh and say,
“Cute.”" By
“Cute”,II short-circuit
short-circuit
"Cute.
By laughing
laughing and
and saying, "Cute",
their
I'm
theirtesting
testingmechanism
mechanism and
and let them know that I’m
going
challenge than
thought.
going to be more of a challenge
than they thought.
Voice Tone
Voice
VERY important.
Voice tone is VERY
important.
If you want
want to
to be
be more
more successful
successful with women, work
on developing
voice
developing aa deep,
deep, resonant, musical, articulate voice
tone.
tone.
And I don't
don’t care if you have the whiniest, highest
And
pitched voice anyone’s
heard.
anyone's ever heard.
You can
You
can improve
improve itit ifif you
you try.
try.
First
talking slower
slower and
and deeper.
deeper.
First of all, practice talking
You should be
be able
able to feel your voice resonating in
your chest when you talk.
talk.
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Keep
can.
Keep practicing
practicing until you can.
I highly recommend that you go out and buy the
audio series: The
The Sound Of Your Voice
Voice by
by Carol
Carol
Flemming.
Flemming.
Also, get on eBay or Amazon.com
Amazon.com and look for some
some
voice-training
tapes.
voice-training tapes.
They’re well worth the investment
investment and
and practice.
practice.
They're
Women
This is a big one,
Women find
nd a sexy voice irresistible. This
so
it.
so get
get to work on it.
Fear
Fear
If you need
need to get 'fear'
‘fear’ handled,
handled, read
read the
the book,
book, Feel
Feel
The
by Susan
Susan Jeffers. This
This is an
an
The Fear
Fear And
And Do
Do It
It Anyway by
AWESOME book
handled.
AWESOME
bookon
ongetting
getting fear handled.
On Persistence:
Persistence:
On
hear:
A common theme I hear:
“NO
"NO
No
No
No
No
No
No
No
No
NO
NO
NOOO
NOOO
Noooo
Noooo
Make love to me right now!”
Make
now!"
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Persistence
up… if a woman says,
says,
Persistence isis key.
key. Never give up...
"We're not
not going
going to
to have
have sex
sex tonight”,
tonight", IIimmediately
immediately
“We’re
think to myself,
myself, "Ohhh,
“Ohhh, she just let
let me
me know
know that
that she's
she’s
feeling some
some temptation
temptation and wants
wants to get the
responsibility off herself...
herself… this is going to be fun and
and
easy.”
easy."
Trustme
me on
on this
this one.
Trust
words are
are usually
usuallyhollow
hollowand
andmeaningless...
meaningless…
Their words
watchtheir
theirBEHAVIOR...
BEHAVIOR…
watch
***Now,
***Now,DON'T
DON’Ttake
takethis
this to
tomean
mean that
that ifif aa woman
woman
"STOP"when
whenyou’re
you're touching
touching her
her that she wants
says, “STOP”
you to rape her...
her… this kind of dumb-ass thinking will
result in jail time
time and
and your getting
getting aa large
large new
new boyfriend
boyfriend
named
***
named Otis.
Otis.***
Just
Just realize
realize that
that aa "No"
“No” said
said with longing
longing in her eyes
or passion
passion in her kiss usually means, "Get
“Get me more
turned on by kissing my
my neck,
neck, caressing
caressing me, smelling me,
and saying romantic and sexy things.
things.”
I’ve
time and
and
I've realized that women shift gears all the time
next time you talk to
to her
her she
she might
might be
be in
in a
a completely
completely
different mood, etc. so
don’t give
so if you really want her, don't
up
time something
something weird
weird happens.
happens.
up the first
rst time
How
How To
To Answer Any Question
Question That
That You
You Don’t
Don't
Answer
Want To Answer
Women
questions.
Women have
have a way with questions.
They seem
seem to
to always
always ask
ask questions
questions that
that men don’t
don't
want to
to answer.
answer.
want
Questions
Ouestions like:
like:
“Are
now?”
"Areyou
you seeing
seeing anyone
anyone else
else right
right now?"
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"How
“Howdo
doyou
you feel
feel about
about marriage?"
marriage?”
"Doyou
youwant
want kids?”
kids?"
“Do
"How
me?"
“Howdo
do you
you feel
feel about me?”
“DoI Ilook
lookfat
fatin
inthese
these pants?"
pants?”
"Do
Know what
what I’m
I'm talking
Know
talking about?
about?
Well,itittook
tookme
meawhile,
awhile,but
butI Ifinally
finally figured
to
Well,
figured out
out how
how to
deal
questions: Evasive
Evasive Action.
Action.
deal with tough questions:
Here’s
If she
she asks
asks you a tough question,
Here's how
how itit works. If
don’t miss
miss aa beat
beat -–respond
respond with
withthe
theanswer
answer she
she wants to
don't
hear. Then throw in aa slapstick
slapstick comedy
comedy line.
line.
For instance:
instance:
For
Say
Sayshe
she asks:
asks: "Are
“Are you
you seeing
seeing other women?"
women?”
Youanswer:
answer: "No...
“No... other
other men."
men.”
You
Get
it?
Get it?
Here's another
another one:
one:
Here’s
She
She asks:
asks: "Do
“Do you
you love me?"
me?”
Youanswer:
answer: "Of
“Of course...
course... as a
You
a friend.”
friend."
And another:
another:
She
“Where were you
you last
last night?
night?I Icalled."
called.”
She asks: "Where
You
was
home
thinking
about
you...you...
but but
You answer:
answer:"I“I
was
home
thinking
about
since you
you didn't
didn’t call
call early enough, I went out and hired
since
hired
ten strippers.
strippers.”
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At first,
rst, II figured
gured that
that this
this tactic
tactic wouldn't
wouldn’t work. But
then I tried
tried using
using itit aa few
few times,
times, and
and behold,
behold, it
it worked
worked in
almost every situation.
situation.
Andififshe
shepushes
pushes and asks
asks again:
And
again: “Cummon,
"Cummon, seriously...”
seriously..."
Yousay:
say:"No,
“No,seriously.
seriously. IIwas
was home
home thinking about you...
You
OK,
OK, OK,
OK,you
yougot
gotme.
me. II really
really went
went out
out with
with ten other
women. Are you happy? What, are you feeling insecure?"
insecure?”
youkeep
keep itit up,
up, they'll
they’ll give
give up.
IfIfyou
Make
Make sure
sure you
you don’t
don't act
act busted
busted or nervous
nervous and
and it will
work for you, too.
too. Remember,
Remember, women
women can take hints very
well, and
that there's
there’s an
an answer that they
and ifif they think that
don’t
hear, they'll
they’ll give
give up
up and
and stop
stop asking.
asking.
don't want to hear,
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Key
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 4
Stay
Stay
ControlBy
ByPassing
Passing Her
Her Tests.
InInControl
Remember
women are
are accustomed
accustomed to
Remember that
that attractive
attractive women
getting anything they want and often get upset if they
don’t
way.
don't get things their way.
Women
see how much they
Women will
will constantly test you to see
can
most guys
guys cave
cave and
and
can get away with…
with... and this is where most
lose
situation as
as an
an
lose their
their personal power. Use this situation
opportunity to
to stand
stand out...
out… watch for her tests and
and stay in
control.
control.
Remind
GUEST in
Remind yourself
yourself that she is a GUEST
in your
your reality,
reality,
not the other way
way around.
around.
BeBeThe
TheFirst
FirstTo
To End
End The
The Interaction.
Interaction.
Most
around a
a
Most guys
guys make
make the
the mistake of lingering around
woman
spend as much time with
with her
her as
as she
she
woman and
and trying
trying to spend
will allow...
allow… whether
on the
the phone
phone
whether they are talking to her on
or hanging out with her
her in
in person.
person.
By
you show
show her
By being
being the
the first
rst to end the interaction, you
that you're
you’re not
not needy
needy and
and you have a life of your own.
own.
And… you’ll
And...
you'll INSTANTLY
INSTANTLYseparate
separateyourself
yourself from
from all
all of
the lame, wussy guys she's
she’s dated in the past.
past.
Build
HerCuriosity
CuriosityBy
ByBeing
Being Mysterious.
Mysterious.
VBuild
Her
Most
Most guys
guys make
make the
the mistake
mistake of
of trying
trying to force
force their
life story down
down aa woman’s
woman's throat
throat the
the first
rst night they meet
her.
her.
Baaad move.
Baaad
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It's
farbetter
bettertotohold
holdback
backsome
some of
details about
about
It’s far
of the details
you
andyour
yourlife
life and
andlet
let her
herimagination
imaginationfill
fill in
you and
in the
the blanks.
blanks.
ESPECIALLY true
This holds ESPECIALLY
truewhen
when itit comes to
discussing
guys brag
brag about...
about… like
discussing the
the things
things that most guys
their jobs,
jobs, connections,
connections, or
or material
materialpossessions.
possessions.
I’ve
that things
things that
that you
youTHINK
THINK might
might impress
impress a
a
I've found that
woman and
impressive
and make
make her like you are really only impressive
when
whenshe
she 'discovers'
‘discovers’them
themON
ONHER
HER OWN.
OWN.
Not
Not only that…
that... when
when you
you hold
hold back
back information
information about
yourself, ititmakes
makes aa woman
woman eager to 'dig'
‘dig’ for more...
more…
yourself,
which puts YOU
YOU in
seat.
in the
the driver seat.
Use
UseCocky
Cocky&&Funny
Funny Humor
Humor To Keep
V
Keep Her
HerInterest
Interest
And Attention.
Attention.
And
Remember…
Remember..
Never
answer… unless it’s
no.
Never give
give a woman a direct answer...
it's no.
If a woman complains about something you do, say,
“I’m
"I'm glad
glad you
you like
like it”
it" and keep doing it.
it.
Deliberately
exaggerate what
what aa woman
woman
Deliberately misinterpret or exaggerate
says…
conversation.
says... and
and look
look for
for sexual innuendos in conversation.
Don’t
own jokes.
jokes.
Don't smile too much or laugh at your own

Develop A Deep, Resonating Voice That Women
V Develop A Deep, Resonating Voice That Women
Are Drawn
Drawn To.
Are
To.
Women LOVE
LOVE aa man
powerfulcommanding
commandingvoice...
voice…
man with
with aa powerful
and ANY
ANY guy
guy can
can develop
develop this
this powerful
powerful characteristic with
small amount
amount of
of effort.
effort.Spend
Spend a small amount of time
aasmall
working on this skill and you'll
you’ll reap the rewards forever.
forever.
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Chapter 5:
5: On
On Looks
Looks and Body
Language
Language
Most
learn how to be
be
Most of
of the
the men
men II talk to who want to learn
successful
“What’s aa good
good
successful with
with women
women ask
ask me
me things like, "What's
line?" or “What
"What do you say when they
line?”
they say
say this?"
this?”
For
language is
For some
some reason,
reason, most
most people
people forget
forget that language
a SECONDARY
used
SECONDARYway
wayofofcommunicating.
communicating. It’s
It's to be used
when
faster way.
way.
when there's
there’s no faster
When
When two
two people
people are
are communicating face-to-face,
most of the communication is happening through body
language
language and
and voice
voicetone,
tone, while
while very
very little
little through the
actual words.
words.
actual
I've seen studies
studies that
that show
show that
that as
as little
little as
as 7% of
I’ve
what you communicate is
is done
done verbally,
verbally, while your body
language
93%.
language and
and voice
voice tone
tone make
make up
up the
the other 93%.
So
powerful when
when dealing
dealing
So which
which do
do you
you think is more powerful
with women?
women?
Right, right...
your body
body language
language and
and voice
voice tone.
tone.
right... your
Body
Language Basics
Basics
Body Language
Many
Many people
people agree
agree that
that women
women are
are far more sensitive
to body language than men are.
are.
I have to say
say that
that in
in my
myexperience,
experience, women
women can
can
detect all kinds of things from
from body
body language.
language. Ask
Ask a
female friend
friend to
to describe
describe what's
what’s going
going on with
with aa person
person
female
by looking
you’ll be surprised at all the
looking at them, and you'll
information they'll
they’ll give
give you.
information
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it follows
women
So it
followsthat
thatif if
women are
are so
so in
intune
tune with
with body
body
language,you
youmight
mightasaswell
well get
get some
someof
of the
the basics
language,
together so you’re
transmitting the
the right
rightmessages.
messages.
you're transmitting
My
My opinion
opinion is
is that
that women prefer men who are
confident,
arrogant.
con dent, bordering on arrogant.
Most
Most women
women will
will tell
tell you
you that
that arrogant men turn them
off, but I've
I’ve found that if you mix humor with a little
arrogance,
arrogance, it’s
it's a killer.
killer.
So
to telegraph
telegraph con
confidence?
So how
how do
do you use
use your body to
dence?
Well, first
upright, hold
hold your
your head
head up,
up, and
and
rst of all walk upright,
hold your shoulders back.
back.
Next, SLOW
SLOW DOWN
DOWNyour
your movements
movements and make
slower, calculated gestures.
gestures.
when you
you see
see
Then, make eye contact and keep it when
women. Don’t
Don't look away
away until
until they do and kind of squint
while raising an eyebrow.
eyebrow.
I've done a lot of work in this area,
I’ve
area, and I've
I’ve found
found
that by
by SLOWING
SLOWING DOWN,
I
create
mystery
and
intrigue.
DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I
literally practice slowing down my walk, my
my gestures,
gestures, how
how
fast I turn
turn my
my head,
head, how fast I talk,
talk, and
and even
even how fast I
blink.
blink.
taking up
up more
more space
space and opening up your
Also, start taking
physiology. If
you’re seated,
seated, keep
keep your
your legs
legs and arms
If you're
uncrossed.
shoulders
uncrossed. Keep
Keep your
your legs
legs far
far apart and your shoulders
back.
back. Don't
Don’t lean
lean forward;
forward; lean
lean back.
This might
to some
some people, but
This
might sound
sound aa little
little far out to
these LITTLE
LITTLE details
details make
make all
all the difference when dealing
with aa woman.
woman.
with
It's amazing
It’s
amazing how fast most women
women can detect
insecurity,
neediness, and low self-esteem.
self-esteem.
insecurity, neediness,
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I personally believe that when a man is self-con
self-confident
dent
(or more speci
specifically,
woman BELIEVES
BELIEVES that
cally, aa woman
that he is),
women are
are attracted
attractedto
tohim
himon
onan
anUNCONSCIOUS
UNCONSCIOUS level.
women
What
think this
this behavior
behavior activates a part
What II mean
mean is
is that
that I think
woman's brain
brain that
that can't
of a woman’s
can’t help but feel an attraction.
attraction.
If you'd
you’d like
like aa model
model of
of con
confidence,
watch some
some James
James
dence, watch
Bond
almost never
never
Bond movies. You'll
You’ll notice that
that James
James almost
smiles, and
and II can't
smiles,
can’t remember when I've
I’ve ever
ever seen
seen him
laugh.
laugh.
But James
adventure.
James is
is the
the sex
sex symbol of masculine adventure.
Does
he do
do the
the things that
Does he
that I Imentioned
mentioned above?
above? Of
Of
course.
course.That's
That’s where
where II learned
learned a lot of them. Ha!
and project
project con
confidence
Another way to demonstrate and
dence is
to PAUSE
PAUSE while
Pausing on purpose creates
while you’re
you're talking.
talking. Pausing
suspense
suspense and tension.
tension.
It’s
great. IfIfyou
youcombine
combine pauses
pauses with
with serious
serious looks,
looks,
It's great.
you will create an air
air of
of power
power and
and con
confidence.
dence.
For
For example,
example, you
youmight
might say,
say, “Well,
"Well, ifif II were you, I’d
I'd
justtell
tellher
herwhat
what you
you think"
think” like
like so...
so... "Well...
“Well... (pause)
(pause) ifif II
just
were you...
you... (pause
(pause and
and look
look into
into eyes
eyes with serious
serious look)
were
I’d
tell her
her what
what you
you think.
think.”
I'd just tell
This
creates what’s
what's known
known as
as aa ‘subtext’
'subtext' to the
This creates
communication. On
On the
the surface
surface you’re
you're talking about the
normal conversation. But underneath, you're
you’re
communicating suspense,
suspense, confidence,
communicating
con dence, and
and mystery.
mystery.
If you learn
learn how
how to
to mix
mix aa seductive
seductive voice
voice tone
tone and
and
body
body language
language with
with regular
regular conversation,
conversation, you’ll
you'll find
nd that
you can get women turned on talking about
about random
random
things like the weather.
weather.
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Pause
Pauseoften.
often. ItIt will do wonders
wonders for your
communication style.
style.
Signs
Signs That
That A
A Woman
Woman Is
Is Interested
Interested
I've read all the books
books that
that say,
say, “If
"If a woman tilts her
I’ve
head
and looks
looks
head to
to the side, licks her lips, fondles her hair,
hair, and
over her
her shoulder
shoulder at
at you,
you, there's
there’s aa 67%
67% chance
chance that
that she's
she’s
over
interested in you.
you.”
Here's what
what I’ve
I've found:
Here’s
found:
The main
‘Is she
she acting
The
main sign
sign signal
signal to
to look
look for is, 'Is
friendly to
to me?'
me?’
That’s it.
Now, of
of course
course some
some women are more
That's
it. Now,
forward than others; but
but overall,
overall, ifif aa woman
woman is
is acting
acting
friendly and
and keeping
keeping up
up an interesting conversation,
friendly
you’re
well.
you're usually doing pretty well.
key is
is to
toKEEP
KEEP GOING
GOING AND
AND CONTINUE
CONTINUE TO
TO THE
THE
The key
NEXT STEP
STEP ALWAYS.
NEXT
I have to stop and explain this point.
point.
Most men don't
don’trealize
realizethat
thatTHEY
THEYNEED
NEEDTO
TOKEEP
KEEP
ADVANCING.
ADVANCING.
yourconversation
conversationisisgoing
going well,
well, ask
ask for
for aa phone
phone
IfIfyour
number.
number.
If you're
you’re out
out for
for aa walk
walk and
and the
the conversation
conversation seems
seems to
be
her.
be going
going well, reach over and kiss her.
If you're
you’re at
at your
your house
house watching a movie and
and start
kissing, take her
her hand
hand and
and lead
lead her
herto
toyour
yourbedroom...
bedroom...
get
get the
the idea?
idea?
Keep
Keep advancing.
advancing.
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Women like
like this
this and
and expect
expectit.
it. IfIf they’re
they're not
Women
comfortable,
worry. Just
Just
comfortable, they’ll
they'll let you know. But don’t
don't worry.
keep
keep going
going and
and advance
advanceagain
againat
at the
the next
next opportunity.
opportunity.
Don’t
advance.
Don't push –
- advance.
More on
on this stuff:
More
Read
ofBody
BodyLanguage
Language
Julius
Fast
Read Chapter
Chapter 77of
byby
Julius
Fast
... …
about Mike.
chapter about 50 times.
times. You
You
Mike. I’ve
I've read that chapter
may
but keep
keep reading
reading it until
until you
you do.
do.
may not
not get
get it at first,
rst, but
The more
it.
The
more you
you learn,
learn, the
the more
more you’ll
you'll get it.
Also, read The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie
Schneider…
Schneider...yea,
yea, the
the one
one for
for women.
women. Do
Do that
that stuff…
stuff... it
works…
etc.
works... end
end all
all conversations
conversations first,
rst, etc.
Make Love to aa Woman
Woman by
by Michael
Michael
And read How to Make
Morganstern.
be
Morganstern. Good
Goodstuff
stuff in
in there
there too. And learn how to be
funny…
magic
funny... do
do whatever
whatever you
you have
have to
to do.
do. It’s
It's the magic
ingredient to add to your cockiness
cockiness that
that sets
sets the mixture
ablaze.
ablaze.
On
On Cuddling
Cuddling
I personally love to cuddle.
cuddle. II discovered
discovered something
something
almost entirely by accident one
one time when I was talking
to a girl on
on the
the phone
phone one
one night.
night. We
We were
were having
having a
a
discussion
and
discussion about
about the differences between men and
women
effect:
women and
and II said
said something
something to
to this effect:
“Do
to cuddle...
cuddle… as
as a
"Doyou
youlike
liketo
to cuddle?
cuddle? II really
really like to
matter of fact,
fact, ifif IIhad
hadto
tochoose
choose between
between cuddling
cuddling and
and
sex, I’d
choose cuddling.
I'd choose
cuddling. Now
Now don’t
don't get
get me wrong, I love
sex…
best… can you cuddle all night?"
night?”
sex... but
but cuddling is the best...
Then II said,
kiss, and II can
can just
just kiss
kiss
Then
said, “I
"I really like to kiss,
and cuddle...
cuddle... and
and touch someone
someone all
and
all night...
night... and feel
feel
wonderful...”
wonderful...
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By
By the
the time I was finished,
nished, she
she started
started saying,
saying, “I’m
"I'm
reallygetting
gettingturned
turnedon
onright
rightnow"…..
now”... she
she actually asked
really
me
her!
me to have phone sex
sex with her!
I’vehad
hadthis
thishappen
happenon
on the
thephone
phone several
several times since,
I've
and
and it's
it’s not
notaa coincidence.
coincidence.
When
When you’re
you're talking
talking to
to a woman,
woman, ifif you start talking
about kissing,
kissing, cuddling, touching... and
about
and you
you are
are very
very
specific about
aboutit...
it... “I
my
specific
"Ilike
liketotorun
runthe
thetips
tipsofof
my fingers
fingers over
over
the part of
it touches
of your
your shoulder
shoulder where
where it
touches your
your neck”
neck" ...
a woman
to actually
actually experience
experience it.
it.
woman will
will start to
this one!
one!
Try this
If you can learn how
how to
to talk to women in a way
way that
stimulates their imagination, you can get them turned
turned on
on
over the phone.
phone.
I’m
sure you can imagine the bene
benefits
I'm sure
ts of having this
skill. If
If you
you don't
don’t have
have any idea how
how to talk romantically,
just read
read a couple of romance
just
romance novels.
novels. II know
know that they
make
works!
make no
no sense,
sense,but
but use
usethe
the stuff
stuff anyway.
anyway. It
It works!
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Key
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 5
93%
Our
CommunicationComes
Comes From
From Body
~93%
OfOf
Our
Communication
Language
Language And Voice Tone.
Remember that
thatwomen
women are
are ALWAYS
ALWAYS watching
Remember
watching you
you for
for
like.
clues on what
what you're
you’reREALLY
REALLY like.
Make
Keep your shoulders
shoulders
Make sure
sure you
you always
always walk
walk tall. Keep
back
back and
and your
your head
head high
high at
at all times. Slow down your
physical
pauses to your speech to
physical movements and add pauses
create an
an aura
aura of
of con
confidence
create
dence that women can’t
can't resist.
vEye Contact Is Key.
Eye Contact Is Key.
When
When you
you make
make eye
eye contact
contact with
with aa woman,
woman, hold
hold it
and
instead of looking away.
away.
and squint your eyes
eyes aa tiny
tiny bit instead
Slightly raise an eyebrow.
eyebrow. This
This lets
lets aa woman
woman know
know RIGHT
RIGHT
AWAY that
confident
AWAY
that she’s
she's dealing
dealing with a con
dent and powerful
man.
man.
VDon't
Waste
Don’t
WasteTime
TimeTrving
TryingTo
To'Read'
‘Read’ Women...
Women…
Just Keep Advancing.
I've found that
I’ve
that trying
tryingto
to'read'
‘read’women
womenisisaaHUGE
HUGE
wasteof
of time.
time.
waste
If
is acting
acting friendly
friendly towards
just ask
If aawoman
woman is
towards you,
you, just
ask her
her
for
for her
here-mail
e-mailaddress
addressand
andphone
phone number.
number.
If
going well,
well,
If you’re
you're out
out for
foraawalk
walk and
and things
things are
are going
reachover
over and
and give
give her
her a kiss.
reach
You have
The key is to always be advancing. You
NOTHING
do
NOTHINGto
tolose.
lose.And
Anditit will
will get easier each
each time you do
it.
it.
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LearnTo
ToTalk
TalkTo
ToAAWoman
Woman In
InA
A Way
Way That
That
VLearn
Stimulates Her
Her Imagination.
Imagination.
When
woman about
about cuddling
cuddling and
and kissing
kissing
When you
you talk to aa woman
in a descriptive
imagine
descriptive way,
way, she
she will actually start to imagine
these things happening between you and her!
her!
Read
Read aa couple
couple of
of romance
romance novels
novels and
and pay
pay attention
attention to
the descriptions
descriptions used
might sound
sound a
a
used by
by the
the author.
author. It
It might
little
buy this
this stuff
little'off'
‘off’totoyou...
you…but
butremember...
remember… women buy
like crazy…
crazy... so use it!
it!
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Part 3: Exactly
What, When,
When, And
And
What,
How
How
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Chapter 6:
6: The
The Basics
Basics of Style and
Class,
Class, Plus
Plus More
More On
On How
How To
To Fascinate
Women
Women
Be
Expect...
Be Prepared!
Prepared! Expect...
It’s
funny to
to me
me that
that so
so many
many people
people expect to fail.
fail.
It's funny
For instance,
instance, II once
once heard
heard someone
someone say,
say, “A
"A woman
woman won’t
won't
For
get into an unmade bed.”
This is
bed." This
is actually
actually pretty
interesting if you think about it.
it. My
My point here is to
encourage you to not
not only
only expect
expect success
success in
encourage
in your mind,
but also expect success
success in
world.
in the
the real world.
Here
Here are
are aa couple
couple of
of ways
ways to
to expect
expect and
and plan
plan for
success:
success:
1.
Keep your
your house
house organized
organized and
and clean.
clean.
1. Keep
2. Keep
Keep your
your bed
bed made
made with
with clean
clean sheets.
sheets.
3. Keep
Keep a
a few
few nice
nice things to
to drink
drink in
in the
the house
house so
so you
you
can
to guests.
guests.
can offer them to
4. Keep
Keep some
some 'protection'
‘protection’ in
in the
the house.
house.
See
whereI'm
I’mgoing
goingwith
with this?
this?
See where
If you’re
If
you're not
not prepared
prepared to have
have a guest, then
then you’re
you're
going to do all kinds of things to
to screw
screw up your
your chances
chances of
success with women.
success
Right
the things
things you
you need
need to
to do
do so
so
Right now,
now, think of all the
that there
there are
are NO
NO obstacles
obstacles preventing
preventing you
you from
from success
success
your car,
car, house,
house, etc.
ininyour
Now
talk about
about aa few
fewways
waysto
toREALLY
REALLY separate
Now let’s
let's talk
yourself from most other men.
men.
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Learn To
To Cook
Cook A
A Few
Few Good
Good Meals
Meals
Cooking
advantages.
Cooking has
has all
all kinds of major
major advantages.
It
costs less money, you get to
to eat
eat something
something you
you
It costs
like, it often takes less
less time,
time, you
you don’t
don't have
have to
to try
try to get
a woman to come back to your house
house (she's
(she’s already
there), it's
it’sromantic,
romantic, ititshows
shows that you have
have taste...
there),
taste... and
and
the list just
just goes
goes on.
on.
Get
Get yourself
yourself an
an unusual
unusual apron
apron (I
(I have a cow
cow print
one) and get yourself a cookbook
or
two
(or
find
cookbook or two
nd a few
good
good recipes
recipes on
on the
the Internet).
Internet).
Things like pasta are always easy, and they go well
with wine and candles... just put her
her on
on the
the couch
couch with a
a
glass of wine and a funny ‘chick
or have
have her keep
keep
glass
'chick flick’...
ick'... or
youcompany
company on
on a stool in the kitchen.
you
Oh, and get a few chocolate covered
covered strawberries
strawberries for
dessert... perfect feed material. (Bonus if you make them
yourself... even
even ifif they don’t
don't turn out perfect, you get
MAJOR
MAJORpoints.)
points.)
The rap
I’ve got
got aa great
great idea.
idea.
The
rap goes
goes like
like this:
this: “Hey,
"Hey, I've
I’ve
love.
I've been dying to cook this great pasta dish
dish that II love.
Why
come over
make you
you
Why don’t
don't you come
over here, and
and I’ll
I'll make
dinner...”
dinner...
It's aa no-brainer,
you've just
It’s
no-brainer, even
even for women
women who you’ve
met.
met.
Learn A Few
Few Cold
Cold Reading
Reading Methods
Women
Tarot Cards,
Cards,
Women love
love things
things like
like Astrology, Tarot
Palmistry, Handwriting
Handwriting Analysis,
Analysis, Psychics,
Psychics, and anything
else
in.
else you
you can
can think
think of
of that
that most men aren’t
aren't interested in.
Here's what
what to do:
Here’s
do:
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Go
Analysis by
by Karen
Karen
Go get
get the books Handwriting Analysis
Guide To Life's
Life’s Secrets by
Amend, Palm
Palm Reading:
Reading: A
A Little Guide
Dennis
to Hand
Hand Re
Reflexology
Dennis Fairchild,
Fairchild, and
and An
An Introduction
Introduction to
exology
by Denise
Denise Brown.
Brown. You
You can
can order
order all
all of
of them
them at
Amazon.com.
Amazon.com.
Then sit down for an evening and read them.
them. Learn
Learn
Then
some
some basics
basics about
about how
how to
to tell
tell people
people what
what they’re
they're like
from studying handwriting samples, looking
looking at
at their
palms,
bodies, etc.
etc.
palms, feeling tension in their bodies,
Thisstuff
stuffisisABSOLUTELY
ABSOLUTELY FASCINATING
FASCINATING to
This
to women.
All you have to do is take a woman’s
woman's hand,
hand, look
look at it,
and
you’re a very interesting
interesting person.
person.”
and say, “Well,
"Well, you're
That’s it...
it...it's
it’salmost
almost like
like magic.
magic.
That's
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revealing to
to her
her all
all of
of her
her secret
secret desires,
desires, you
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into your
your hand
hand massage
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and
can move
move directly into
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hoping that
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these techniques speak for themselves.
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know aa few
few advanced
advanced or
By the
the way, it doesn't
unusual
massage
moves
either.
So
you
might
unusual massage moves either. So you might want to
check
check out
out a couple of books on massage
massage while
while you’re
you're at
it.
it.
Get A Few
Few Good
Good Props
Props
Props are
are things
things that
that give
give aa woman
woman something
something to
to talk
about.
about.
your house
house might
might be
be a
a prop.
prop.
A big stuffed animal in your
Your dog might be
be a
a prop.
prop.
might be
be a
a prop.
prop.
A picture of you and your mom might
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Coloring
Coloring books
books and
and crayons
crayons are
are aa great
great prop that a
friend of mine
mine has
has used for years.
years.
The idea
The
idea here
here is
is to
to have
have things
things in your house that are
unusual,
unusual, interesting,
interesting, and
and fascinating
fascinating to
to play
play with,
with, talk
about, watch, whatever.
whatever.
Books
Books and
and magazines
magazines about
about interesting
interesting topics make
great props. II have
have aa big
big book
book called
called Sexual
Sexual Secrets by
Nik
Nik Douglas
Douglas and
and Penny
PennySlinger
Slingeron
onmy
my bookshelf.
bookshelf. II didn’t
didn't
realize
realize that
that it was such
such an
an attention
attention magnet, but
whenever anyone
anyone male
male or female sees
sees my
my bookshelf, they
instantly go for that book.
book. It's
It’s big,
big, bold,
bold, and
and provocative.
provocative.
Keep
Keep aa few
few good
good books
books like
like this
this one
one around for
discussion. The
discussion.
The book
book that
that II mentioned
mentioned earlier
earlier about
about
Palmistry
Palmistry is
is aa GREAT
GREATprop.
prop.It’s
It's aa tiny
tiny book about three
inches
inches square.
square. Just
Just leave
leave itit on
on your coffee table so that aa
woman
woman can
can find
nd it on her own, which leads to the
discussion,
etc.
discussion, the
the palmistry,
palmistry, the touching, etc.
Magic
easy
Magic is
is another
another great
great prop. You can learn a few easy
coin
afternoon. These
These work great as
as
coin magic
magic tricks in an afternoon.
conversation starters, for fun
fun with
with waitresses,
waitresses, etc. Magic
Magic
conversation
is
props department.
department.
is just an all-around winner in the props
If you play a musical instrument, make sure
sure it’s
it's out
and about and ready for playing.
playing. Unless,
Unless, of course,
course, you
play the accordion or tuba.
tuba.
Take a minute and think about what kinds of things
the women you are interested in would find
nd fascinating,
interesting, and irresistible. Then
Then scatter them around
around
your house.
house.
Chivalry
My
My experience
experience is
is that
that women love chivalry.
chivalry.
I personally like to
to open
open doors for women,
women, etc.
etc.
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open all
all doors.
doors. Car
Car doors,
Open doors
doors for
for them. II open
house doors,
doors, restaurant
restaurant doors...
doors... any
any door that shows
shows up.
house
If you step just
just aa little
littleahead
ahead and
and open
open each door, this
will create an impression.
impression.
Pull
makes sense
sense and
and
Pull out
out their chairs. Only do this ifif ititmakes
it’s
reasonable. But if you can, do it.
Women love to feel
feel
it's reasonable.
it. Women
like a man is watching over them and making sure they
are taken care
care of.
of. This
This is
is another
another little
little way to show it.
it.
Walkon
onthe
theoutside
outsideof
ofthe
thesidewalk.
sidewalk. Most
Most men, and
Walk
even
even many
many women,
women, don't
don’t know
know that
that men
men are
are 'supposed'
‘supposed’
to walk on the outside of the sidewalk
sidewalk (closest to the
traffic)
just in
incase
case aa car
car jumps
jumps the
the curb,
curb, so
so she'll
she’ll be
be safe
safe
traf c) just
and he’ll
he'll instead
instead be
be hit.
hit. Do
Do this,
this, and
and if they don't
and
don’t know
why you’re
it, explain
explain the
the reason.
reason. Nice
Nice touch.
touch.
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Here are
are aa few
few things
things that
that you can do that women will
find
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Key
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 6
 Plan
PlanFor
For Success
Success
Keep
your
houselooking
lookingclean
cleanand
and presentable,
presentable,
•Keep
your
house
which includes
day.
includes making
making your bed every single day.
You'll
doing the
the ‘little
'little things’
things'
You’ll be
be surprised
surprised at how doing
will signi
significantly
boost your
your overall
overall con
confidence.
And
cantly boost
dence. And
when
when it's
it’s time
time to
tohave
have her
her come
come over, you'll
you’ll be
ready.
ready.

Learn
anddelicious
deliciousmeals...
meals…
• Learntotocook
cookaa few
few simple
simple and
it’s
romanticthan
thana atraditional
traditional
it'scheaper
cheaper and
and more
more romantic
date, and women love it.
it.

Learn
• Learnthings
thingslike
likeastrology,
astrology,palmistry,
palmistry, handwriting
analysis, or massage techniques
techniques to keep things
running smoothly.
smoothly.
Keep
a few
‘props’lying
lyingaround.
around.Things
Things like
like stuffed
• Keep
a few
'props'
animals, aa pet,
pet, or
or pictures
pictures of
of you
you and
and your friends
animals,
and family make great conversation
conversation starters.
starters.
Chivalrous
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
•The
Thecombination
combinationofofchivalry
chivalry and
and cocky comedy is
an INCREDIBLE
INCREDIBLEturn-on
turn-onto
to women.
women. Done
Doneright,
right, it
has
an
almost
magical
effect.
has an
effect.

When
• Whenyou’re
vou'reout
outwith
withaa woman
woman you
vou are
are interested
in, open
open the doors
for
her,
pull
out
her
chair and
and
doors for
out her chair
walk on the outside of the curb when you're
you’re
walking down
you are
are dropping her
down the
the street.
street. If
If you
off at her place, be sure
door.
sure to walk her to the door.
a wuss,but
butyou
youshould
shouldalways
always be
be
• It'sIt’s
notnot
OKOK
to to
bebe
a wuss,
a gentleman.
gentleman.
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Chapter 7: Where And How To Meet
Women
Women
I intuitively
intuitively determined
determined that there
there are
are certain major
steps to 'meeting
‘meeting women',
women’, if you
you will.
will. This
This is how my
steps
mind naturally thinks.
thinks.
I’ve
chunks like
I've now broken these down in my mind to chunks
'Approaching Women’,
Women', ‘Getting
'Getting Phone Numbers’,
Numbers', etc.
‘Approaching
etc.
which
explain here and in future
future chapters.
chapters.
which I’ll
I'll explain
I’d
to add
add here that different
different people
people have different
I'd like to
personal
‘getting laid',
laid’,
personal views
views regarding
regarding meeting women, 'getting
relationships, etc.
etc.
I’m
going to try
try to
to convince
convince you that my
my way
way is
I'm not going
the best, but
share
some
but I’ll
I'll
share
some of
ofmy
my personal
personal values
values with
you. I’m
I'm in
in aa ‘relationship’
'relationship'
with
a woman, and
and we’ve
we've
you.
with
a woman,
agreed to
I'm faithful
faithfultotothat
that
woman.
agreed
to be
be 'exclusive'.
‘exclusive’. I’m
woman.
But when
was single,
single, IIdated
when II was
dated whoever
whoever II wanted,
wanted,
whenever I wanted, and
and had
had no problems or hang
hang ups
ups
with sex, seeing more than one woman
etc.
woman at a time, etc.
Some
Some people
peoplesee
seethings
thingsdifferently,
differently, which
which is
is fine,
ne, but
but I
wanted
wanted you to know where I was coming from on this
issue.
issue.
Bythe
theway,
way,the
thethings
things that
that I'm
I’msharing
sharing with you work
By
whether you’re
meeting a
a woman
woman or if
if you've
you’ve known
known
you're just meeting
her for
for years...
years... or
forever.
her
or even
even if
ifyou’ve
you'vebeen
been married
married forever.
think, women
women usually
usually
And contrary to what many men think,
love it
to learn things
itthat
thatyou’ve
you've taken
taken the
the time
time to
things like
likewhat
what
I’m
It makes
makes things
things more
more fun
fun and
and
I'm teaching you. It
interesting for them.
them.
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To Meet
Meet Women
Women
Where To
Here’s the
the deal:
deal: If
If you
you want
want to
to meet
meet more
more women,
Here's
you have to go to the
the places
places where they go.
go.
If
you like
like athletic
athletic women,
women, go
go to
to the
the gym
gym or
or spend
spend
if you
time at the coffee
coffee shop or juice bar next to a gym.
gym.
If you like spiritual
spiritual women,
women, take yoga
yoga or meditation
classes.
classes.
If you like
like large
large women,
women, hang
hang out
out at
at Weight
Weight Watchers.
Watchers.
me here?
here?
Are you with me
The point
‘high
The
point is
is that you have to put yourself in a 'high
probability’ situation
situation to
to meet
meet women.
women.
probability'
single women
women is
is bars
bars and
and
A sure place to find
nd single
nightclubs.
nightclubs. But this is also
also aa sure
sure place
place to
to find
nd aa lot
lot of
horny guys
trying to
to pick
pick up
up these
these women.
women.
guys that are trying
I’ll
talk later
later about
about how
how to
to be
be successful
successful in different
I'll talk
situations, but for now I’d
you to think
think about
about where
where
I'd like you
women
women that
that you’d
you'd like to meet hang
hang out. And then start
going there yourself.
yourself.
meet women
women is
is ONLINE.
ONLINE. The
A great place to meet
The internet
internet
is like a dating "simulator"
is
“simulator” where
where you
you can
can practice
practice having
conversations
without nervousness
nervousness or
conversations with
with great women without
fear of painful, face-to-face rejection.
rejection.
successful “meeting”
The most popular, successful
"meeting" sites include
eHarmony.com and Match.com, and these days
days you
you can
can
review
talking using
using
review matches
matches for
for free. So
So get on and
and start talking
these dating “simulators.”
"simulators." They're
these
They’re an amazing, lowpressure
with the
the added
added bonus
bonus
pressure way
way to
to learn what works, with
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But my point is simply
simply this: you need to put on your
thinking cap
cap and
and ask yourself
were the
thinking
yourself the
the question:
question: “If
"If I were
kind of woman
where would II hang
hang
woman who
who I’d
I'd like to meet, where
out?"
out?”
Then start going to
to these
these places
places on different
different days
days and
and
Then
at different times to
to find
when the
the best
best opportunities
opportunities are.
are.
nd when
I have a good friend that used to go to airports
airports when
when
flightswere
werearriving
arrivingfrom
fromdifferent
differentplaces,
places,because
because some
ights
of the flights
to have
have attractive
attractive women
women
ights were more likely to
on them.
on
I know one guy that loves to go to bookstores
bookstores to meet
women.
women.
knowaaguy
guythat
thatlikes
likesto
togo
goto
to'Asian
‘Asian Dances'
Dances’ to
IIknow
meetwomen
women (and
(and he's
he’s not Asian).
meet
Here are
are aa few
few good
good general
general places:
places: Dance
Dance lessons,
lessons,
Here
gyms, bookstores, coffee shops,
shops, supermarkets, healthy
food restaurants, yogurt
yogurt shops,
shops, and
and anything
anything near
near salons
salons
and beauty supply stores.
stores.
If you start
start paying
paying attention,
attention, you'll
you’ll find
places where
where
nd places
women are more likely to be.
be.
As aa side
place,
As
side note,
note, ifif you live in an out-of-the-way
out-of-the-way place,
and
and you’d
you'd like
like to start meeting a lot of fantastically
beautiful women, you might consider a
a move
move to
to a big city.
city.
I’ve
the difference
difference between
between big cities like New
New York,
I've found the
Chicago,
dramatic.
Chicago, L.A.,
L.A., etc.,
etc., and small towns is dramatic.
women flock
to the
the large
large cities
cities because
because this
Attractive women
ock to
is
for them.
them. This
This is
is also
also where
is where
where the
the opportunity is for
they’re
likely to
to meet
meet aa rich,
rich,famous,
famous,or
orsuccessful
successful
they're more likely
man.
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is that
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woman turns
turns out
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to be
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you can
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I've been
been to
places in
big cities
citiesthat
thathad
hadmore
more
I’ve
to places
in big
beautiful
in one
onerestaurant
restaurantthan
thana aperson
personliving
living in
in
beautiful women
women in
a small town might see
see all year.
year.
So
So think
think about where you live and how
how it relates to
meeting
you’re
meeting the kind of woman or women
women that you're
interested in finding.
interested
nding.
I’ve
I've also found that many women love the fantasy of
‘accidentally’
meeting
a man
'accidentally'
meeting
a mansomewhere
somewhere normal,
normal, but
unexpected. This
This is
is aa common
common female fantasy.
fantasy.
Women like
like the
the idea
idea of
of accidental
accidental romance.
Women
And the best
best part of meeting a woman
woman in a ‘normal’
'normal'
place
place is
is the
the fact
fact that there are usually minimal
distractions and no one
one else
else competing
competing for
for her attention.
attention.
So
keep this
this in
you’re out
out looking
looking for
for
So keep
in mind
mind when
when you're
potential mates.
mates.
How To Meet Women
OK,
OK, now
now let’s
let's talk
talk about the nuts and bolts of how to
meet women.
women.
meet
Guys
new 'angles'
‘angles’ and
and
Guys are
are constantly
constantly trying
trying to find
nd new
‘lines’
'lines'so
sothat
that itit can
can ‘appear
'appear natural’
natural' when
when they
they talk to aa
woman.
meet
woman. IImean,
mean, hell...
hell...most
most women's
women’s fantasy is to meet
a guy in a charming place
place and have this
this whole
whole unplanned
unplanned
romantic
romantic thing happen
happen right
right out of a movie (irony:
(irony:
unplanned
movie).
unplanned and
and right
right out of a movie).
II really
reallythink
thinkthat
thatinstead
instead of
oftrying
tryingtotomask
mask a
a pick-up,
pick-up,
just make
it damn
good.IfIf you
you can
canjust
just be
be in
in the
just
make it
damn good.
the ‘more
'more
interesting’ category,
category, you'll
you’ll get
get her
her attention,
attention, which
which is a
interesting'
major step. Then you can lean
lean into the cocky and funny
routine and
and take it from there.
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Don't try to
Don’t
to hide
hide the fact
fact that
that you're
you’re picking
picking aa woman
woman
up
begreat
greatat
atit,
it,then
thenget
getinto
intococky
cocky and
and funny
funny (and
(and
up —
- be
reframe as
Ha).
as them picking you up! Ha).
Approach
The Initial
Initial Approach
simple.
This one is simple.
I've tried
I’ve
tried probably
probably 50 different
different types
types of
of 'lines'
‘lines’ and
and
techniques
techniques for
for meeting
meeting women,
women, and
and I’ve
I've found that the
simple ones
best.
ones work the best.
If I'm
I’m in
in an
an environment
environment that
thathas
has aa lot
lot of
of people,
people, and
and
I’m
I’d start
startby
by asking
asking aa woman
woman for her
I'm with aa friend, I'd
‘opinion’on
onsomething.
something.Here's
Here’s how
how it
it happens...
happens… first
'opinion'
rst of
of
all, II keep
keep my
my eyes
eyes open for current affairs
affairs and
and
interesting trivia
trivia that
that involves
involves gender
gender differences
differences and
and
tension. This makes for amazing
amazing conversation openers
openers
with hot, intelligent
intelligent women.
women.
My
My
My favorite:
favorite: “Hey,
"Hey, let me ask you aa question.
question. My
friend and I were talking about something, and I think
think we
we
need
femaleperspective...
perspective…” (This
(This is a killer, by the way.
need a female
It took
took me
me a long time to
to figure
this one
one out...
out… but it kicks
kicks
gure this
ass). Then
Then I'd
I’d say,
say, "I
“Iwas
was just
just looking
looking on the Internet...
Internet…
ass).
and
the average
average woman in America
America is
and did you know that the
5' 4",
5’
4”, weighs
weighs 150
150 pounds,
pounds, and
and wears
wears aa size
size
14?"
14?” Ohhhhhhhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhhh DAMMIT...
DAMMIT...
LOVE THIS
THIS ONE!
ONE!
I ILOVE
They usually
They
usually grab
grab the
the ball
ball and
and take
take off into the
conversation
that question.
question.
conversation with
with just that
Others include,
include, "Do
“Do you
understand
Others
you think that men understand
what women really want
want and
and need?"
need?” and "What
“What do you
think of this new trend of women wanting to pay their
own way?"
way?”
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me here?
here?
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starting aa conversation,
conversation, get
get into
into Mr.
Mr. Cocky
Cocky and
and
After starting
Funnymode,
mode, and
and you'll
you’ll do
do some
some good work.
Funny
If you're
you’re alone,
alone, and
and the woman
woman is alone or with
friends, start
start with
with aa compliment
complimentopener...
opener… depending
depending on
on
the situation.
situation.
the
I’d
always try
into the
the situation,
situation, so
so it
it doesn't
doesn’t
I'd always
try to tie itit into
sound
sound canned. Women
Women can
can smell
smell canned
canned openers…
openers... II think
think
that they're
they’re getting
gettingpopular
popularagain
againor
orsomething...
something… because
because
women can
can sense
sense them
them like a dog sensing kitties.
kitties.
I might
might say,
say,"Excuse
“Excuse me...
me… <Pause
<Pause pause pause for
effect> II noticed
noticed you when I walked in, and I had to take
a second
were like.
like…”
second to
to find
nd out what you were
.." or something
equally plausible sounding.
sounding.
What I’ve
realized is...
is… if you're
you’re going
going to
to approach
approach a
a
I've realized
woman, what you say doesn't
doesn’t much matter
matter as
as much
much as
as
HOW
thing?). So
So
HOWyou
yousay
sayitit (remember
(remember the character thing?).
keep
big cheesy
cheesy smiles)
keep aa serious
serious look
look on your face (no big
as
as this
this approach
approach creates
creates the
the feeling
feeling that
that you’re
you're not overly
excited. Then speak
slow, mysterious
mysterious con
confidence.
speak with a slow,
dence.
I’ve
met many
many men
men who
who have
have big problems getting
I've met
past the
women
they don't
don’t
the idea
ideaof
ofwalking
walkingup
uptoto
women who
who they
know
had aa huge
huge
know and
and starting
starting a conversation.
conversation. In
In fact, II had
issue
issue too
too when
when II started learning about how to deal with
women. My
and keep
keep doing
doing
My best
best advice
advice is
is to
to just
just go for itit and
until you
you finally
itituntil
nally get
getover
overit.it.
One
mall one
one day
day and
and walked up
One guy
guy II know went to aa mall
to every woman he saw
saw to
to get over his fear. He said
said that
he
he felt
felt sick
sick in the beginning, but the fear eventually went
away. And then he did it again another day, and the fear
went away
faster. And
And now
now he
he can walk up to any
away aa little faster.
woman anywhere
anywhere and
woman
and start
start talking.
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Just remember,
remember, the
the only
only power
power any
any woman
woman has in
Just
your life
life is
isTHAT
THAT WHICH
WHICH YOU
YOU GIVE HER.
HER. So
So don’t
don't give
away
Keep your power for you.
you.
away any
any of your power. Keep
If you are turned away by her, or you
you get a
a rude
person,
the next
next one.
one. Persistence
Persistence is the
person, just
just move on to the
price of success.
success.
Meeting Women Online
America Online
lazy men who
America
Online is
is the
the greatest
greatest gift to lazy
wanttotomeet
meetwomen
womenthat
thathas
hasever
ever been
been created.
created.
want
Think of it!
Think
it!
An environment where
where you
you get
get to lead
lead with your
personality and
and not
not your
your looks...
looks... aa place
place where
where there is a
personality
level playing
playing field...
place where you can
level
eld... aa place
can think
think about
about
what you
you want
want to
to say
say before
before saying
saying it...
it... aa place
place where
what
you can
motion!
can actually practice
practice everything in slow motion!
Ahhh.
Ahhh.
Step 1:
1: Figure
Figure out which Internet
dating sites will work
Internet dating
best
Today’s top sites
sites go about connecting you to
best for you. Today's
your "matches"
“matches” in different
different ways,
ways, so
so you'll
you’ll need
need to
to decide
decide
right up front what
what your
your goals
goals are, and exactly what
you’re looking
looking for.
for. For
For example,
example, sites
you're
sites like
likeeHarmony.com
Harmony.com
Match.com both
both use
use complicated
complicated “secret
"secret formulas”
formulas" to
and Match.com
determine
is more
more about
determine compatibility…
compatibility... but
but eHarmony
Harmony is
finding
nding “quality”
"quality" matches that are likely to translate into
long-term
RELATIONSHIPS for
long-term RELATIONSHIPS
for its
its members,
members, while
Match.com is more about "quantity"
“quantity”…
getting you
you LOTS
LOTS
Match.com
... getting
of dates
there.
dates and
and letting
letting you
you take
take it from there.
matches
You can
can also
also join
join sites that focus on finding
nding matches
based
based on
on interests
interests and
and traits
traits you have in common with aa
woman, like religion (Christian Mingle,
Mingle, J-Date),
J-Date), age,
age, even
even
ethnicity.
ethnicity.
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Finally, you need
that some
some sites
need to understand going in that
are completely free, some will only show
show your matches
matches
for free, and
and some require full
full paid
paid membership.
membership. While
While
cost doesn't
doesn’t always
always determine
determine your
your chances
chances of success,
success,
cost
online
anything else...
else… you often get
online dating is just like anything
what you pay for.
for.
Step 2:
2: Test
Test your
your pro
profile
picture.That
That means
means taking
le picture.
several
picturesof
ofyourself...
yourself… then
then asking
asking some
some
several different
different pictures
WOMEN
opinions on
on
WOMENfriends
friendsfor
fortheir
their brutally
brutally honest opinions
them. II personally
personally tried this
this with
with several
several pictures
pictures and got
VASTLY different
would have
have guessed.
guessed.
VASTLY
different opinions than II would
Thinkabout
aboutthat...
that…I Ihad
hadno
noclue
cluewhat
whatwomen
womenREALLY
REALLY
Think
thoughtof
ofmy
myphoto,
photo,and
and small
small variations
variations in lighting...
lighting…
thought
expression…
was wearing...
wearing… all
all made
madeaaHUGE
HUGE
expression... what II was
difference.
difference.
In other words, even though I'm
I’m basically
basically the
the same
same guy
in each photo,
my chances
chances of
of success
success changed
changed
photo, my
DRASTICALLY
DRASTICALLYbased
basedon
onmy
mychoice
choiceof
of picture
picture alone. (And
guess
that women
women liked
liked the
the best
best was
was
guess what:
what: the picture that
NOT
have picked.
picked. Go
Go figure…)
NOTthe
the one
one that
that I would have
gure...)
Step
3: Write
Writeaapro
profile
thatinstantly
instantlyHOOKS
HOOKS aa woman's
woman’s
Step 3:
le that
interest. You do it with
with the
the same
same concepts
concepts that we've
we’ve
already discussed
discussed in
from using
using Cocky
Cocky Comedy
Comedy
in this book, from
to being unpredictable. Communicate
Communicate these qualities in
your pro
profile,
andyou'll
you’llimmediately
immediatelySTAND
STANDOUT
OUTFROM
FROM
le, and
THE CROWD
THE
CROWDthe
themoment
momentaawoman
womanclicks.
clicks.Do
Dojust
just that
that
much, and trust
me… you're
you’re already
already WAY
WAY ahead of the
trust me...
game.
game.
Step 4:
4: Practice
Practice the “Art
IM” by
by visiting
visiting non-dating
non-dating
"Art of the IM"
chat rooms first.
Basically, conversation
conversation via IM has
has both
rst. Basically,
advantages AND
AND disadvantages.
disadvantages. You
You have
have time
time to plan
what you’re
say… but, if you're
you’re slow,
slow, you
you come
come
you're going to say...
across
across as
as flaky
aky or
or distracted.
distracted. You
You don’t
don't have
have to worry
about "blowing
“blowing it"
it”with
withaawoman
womanface-to-face
face-to-faceusing
usingIM...
IM…
but you don't
don’t have
have facial
facial expression
expression and
and body
body language
language
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to help you communicate. So log on and practice...
practice… it’s
it's the
only way
it.
way to
to get
get better at it.
Step5:5:After
After making
making aa connection
connection with aa woman
online,
Step
woman online,
make
sureto
to get
get her
her on
on the
the phone
phoneas
as soon
soonas
aspossible.
possible.
make sure
You do
do NOT
NOTwant
wanttotobecome
become
just
another
onlinepal...
pal… and
You
just
another
online
and
the longer
things, the
the greater your
longer you
you wait
wait to
toADVANCE
ADVANCE things,
your
chances
chances of
of becoming
becoming just
just another boring loser who pings
her all
all the
the time.
her
Bottom
stuff.
Bottom line:
line: get out there and
and start
start trying this stuff.
Learning
Learning the
the online
onlineworld
worldtakes
takesaawhile,
while,but
butit’s
it's worth
worth itit if
you like to meet women anytime you feel like it.
it.
Women At
AtDance
Dance Lessons
Lessons
Meeting Women
Another good place
place to
to meet tons of single women is at
dance
dance lessons.
lessons.II know,
know, II know…sounds
know...soundskind
kindof
of fruity.
fruity. But
dance classes
LOADED with
women who
who LOVE
LOVE
classes are LOADED
with single women
GUYS
GUYSWHO
WHOCAN
CANDANCE.
DANCE.Heck,
Heck,they
theyeven
even love
love guys
guys who
who
want to
toLEARN
LEARN to dance.
want
Here's
breakdown:
Here’s the breakdown:
Most
rudimentarydance
dancelessons
lessonsare
areset
set up
up in
in the
Most rudimentary
same format.
format. You
You have
have limited
limited dance
dance time with numerous
same
partners. This is perfect.
perfect.
Here
Here are
are aa few
few ideas
ideas for
for being
being cocky/funny
cocky/funny on the
ballroom dance
dance floor...
ballroom
oor...
“Hi,
"Hi,I’ll
I'llbe
beyour
yourhost
hostfor
for the
the next
next three
three minutes.
minutes. If
If
you can
can dance
dance well,
well, have
have aa nice
nice personality,
personality, and don’t
don't
step
let you
you
step on
on my
my feet
feet more
more than
than forty-seven
forty-seven times,
times, I’ll
I'll let
be
friend.”
be my friend.
“OK, impress
impress me.”
"OK,
me."
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justwant
wantyou
youto
toknow,
know,I Idon't
don’tthink
thinkany
anyless
less of
of you
you
"I“Ijust
just because
because you’re
just
you're so bad at ballroom dancing that you
need lessons.
lessons.”
need
...just
take
outout
a piece
of paper
and
spend
...just
take
a piece
of paper
and
spend55minutes
minutes
on
onthis
thisone.
one. You'll
You’ll be
be set for life.
Getting Them Interested In You
I’ve made
made which
which attracts
An important distinction that I've
women
happy.
women is
is to never act too happy.
Women
who are
are calm
calm and
and
Women are
are intrigued by men who
almost unaffected. The real hotties are used to having
men
them, and
and they
they can
can
men get nervous
nervous when
when talking
talking to them,
sense
when you stay very
very cool
cool and
and
sense that
that you’re
you're different when
calmly talk to them.
them.
NEVERlet
letthem
themsense
sensethat
thatyou’re
you're too
too interested
interested in the
NEVER
beginning.
beginning.
I just
just read
read in
in aa book
book about cats that a cat will
approach
approach the
the person
person in
in the
the room that is least interested
in it.
Somehow, cats
cats can
can detect
detect when
when someone
someone is paying
it. Somehow,
no
which is
is what
whatattracts
attractsthem.
them.WOMEN
WOMENARE
ARE
no attention,
attention, which
THE SAME.
SAME.
THE
I know that
that this
this one
one doesn't
doesn’t make any sense,
sense, but
but if
you start acting uninterested, you'll
you’ll see
see that women
women will
don't like me?"
start giving you the "What's
“What’s wrong?
wrong? You don’t
me?”
response.
response. Now,
Now, you
you may
may think
think this
this is
is manipulation,
manipulation, but
but I
think of itit as
as having
having fun,
fun, teasing,
teasing, and
and being
being challenging.
challenging.
And by
told several
several women about
And
by the
the way, I’ve
I've told
about this
this stuff
lateron
on after
after IIgot
gotto
toknow
know them
them better...
better...and
and they
they ALL
ALL
later
told
that it
it worked,
andthey're
they’reglad
gladthat
thatI Idid
diditit in
in
told me
me that
worked, and
one
way
or
another.
one way or
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Getting Phone
Phone Numbers And
And E-mail
E-mail Addresses
Addresses
Stop
Stop focusing
focusing on
on just
just getting phone numbers.
numbers. I’ve
I've
found that
that e-mail
e-mail addresses
addresses are
found
are far
far better.
better.
Let me explain.
explain.
I perfected the art
art of
of getting
gettingphone
phone numbers
numbers aa couple
couple
of years
years ago.
ago. If
If a woman is single,
single, I could walk up to her
and
and get
get her
her number
number in
in about
about aa minute.
minute. II found out later,
after working like a mad scientist
scientist on
on this
this skill,
skill, that
numbers don't
don’t equal
equal success.
success.
You see,
see, women
women have
have many
many different reasons for
giving out their
their phone
phone numbers. Some love
love the attention
of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys
guys
down. Some
based on the
Some are
are actually interested. But based
universal
from men
men and
and my
my personal
personal
universal feedback
feedback that
that II get from
experience,
experience, women
women act
act differently
differently on the phone than they
do in person.
person.
When
she’ll often
When you
you call
call aa woman
woman for
for the
the first
rst time, she'll
start acting stand of
offish
plain rude.
rude.
sh or even worse, just plain
I’ve
that getting
getting an
an e-mail
e-mail address
address is not only
I've found that
easier, but it
it gets
gets more
more positive
positive responses
responses later on.
on.
It’s
almost like women
women appreciate
appreciate it
you’ve taken
taken
It's almost
it that you've
the time to think
think about
about what
what you're
you’re going
going to
to say
say when
when
you write an e-mail to them.
them.
The other
can be written
The
other benefit
bene t of
of e-mail is
is that it can
and answered anytime.
anytime.
If you call, you
you have
have to actually
actually reach
reach them.
them.
But an e-mail can be answered anytime.
anytime.
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And
And I've
I’vefound
found that
thate-mails
e-mails are
are answered
answered far more
often than
than voicemail
voicemail messages.
messages.
Here's
Here’s the how-to:
talked to
to a
a woman
woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’d
After I talked
I'd
often say
say something
something like,
was nice
nice meeting you.
often
like,'"“Well,
Well, itit was
I’m
back to my friends."
friends.” They
They usually don’t
I'm going to get back
don't
know
they’re used
used to guys
guys clinging.
clinging. Then,
Then,
know what to do, as they're
just as
as II was
was turning
turning to
to walk
walk away...
away… and we’d
just
we'd kind of
disconnect…
“Hey, do
do you have
have
disconnect...I’d
I'd turn
turn back and
and say, "Hey,
email?"
email?”
If they
they said
said 'yes',
‘yes’, I'd
I’d take
take out
outaapen
pen and
and paper
paper and
and
have
have them
them write
write it down. (This
(This is
is great,
great, as
as II just treated
the ‘yes’
'yes' that
thatthey
they gave
gave me
me as
to get
get ititfrom
fromthem
them
the
as aa 'yes'
‘yes’ to
as well.
well.
as
And they’ve
ALL gone
And
they've ALL
gone along
alongwith
with itit so
so far.)
far.) Then I’d
I'd
say,
too." I won't
say,"Write
“Writeyour
your number
number down
down there too.”
won’t go into
all of it,
it, but
but this
this move
move is
is aa powerhouse.
powerhouse. When
When you ask for
it's very low risk for them...
so they
they think,
think, "Fine,
I'll
email, it’s
them… so
“Fine, I’ll
do that"...
that”… and then
do
then when
when they’re
they're already
alreadywriting,
writing,I’d
I'd get
get
the phone number too...
too… which is more natural.
natural.
If they said
said no, then I'd
I’d bust
bust on
on them
them and
and say, "Well,
“Well,
do
I'd say, "Well,
then...II
do you
you have
have electricity?"
electricity?” Then
Then I’d
“Well, OK
OK then…
like
I’ll take
take your
your regular
regular phone
phone
like e-mail
e-mail better, but I'll
number…
reach people on the phone
phone
number... it’s
it's so damn hard to reach
these days."
days.”
these
I hope you get what
what just
justhappened...
happened… OK,
OK, then, as
as
they're writing I'd
they’re
I’d say,
say, "Is
“Is this
this aa number
number that
that you
you actually
actually
answer?" IfIf not,
not, then I’d
I'd say,
answer?”
say, "Look,
“Look, write your
your real
real
number down…
OK… I’ll
down... it’s
it's going to be OK...
I'll only call you nine
times a day.”
They’d laugh and give me their real
real
day." They'd
number.
number.
Just realize
realize that
that all
all you
you have
have to do is ask.
Just
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Like IIsaid,
said, I've
I’vetried
triedall
allkinds
kindsof
ofthings.
things. Many
Many guys
Like
"But what do I tell
why II want her
say, “But
tell her
her as
as a reason
reason why
number
woman ask
askme.
me.IfIf
number or
or e-mail?"
e-mail?” I've
I’ve never
never had a woman
you ask and they give it,
it, then
then she
she knows
knows why
why you
you asked.
asked.
If she doesn't
doesn’t give it to
to you,
you, then
then she
she also
also knew
knew why you
you
asked. Just
Just assume
assume that this is
is the
the case.
case.
asked.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a
a smooth,
smooth,
assuming,
lot of
of e-mails
e-mails and
and phone
phone
assuming, calm
calm way,
way, you’ll
you'll get a lot
numbers.
numbers.
Note: Carry a pen
times.
pen with you at all times.
Snappy
Snappy Responses
ResponsesTo
To Common
Common Situations
Situations
Ever
attractive women
women
Ever been
been sitting
sitting with
with a group of attractive
and your buddies when out of nowhere one of the women
women
says,
says, “You
"You guys
guys are
are lucky
lucky to
to be at the same table with
us.”
US.
Well
Well I have. So I came up with a few zingers to throw
out should this happen again:
again:

“Yea,we
we are
are lucky.
lucky. II can't
can’t remember
remember the last time
"Yea,
I had the opportunity to sit next
next to
to this
this many
many bored
bored
women who can’t
any guys
guys to
to talk
talkto
tothem."
them.”
can't find
nd any
“Luck
has
nothingtotodo
dowith
withit,it,my
mydear.
dear.We
Wechose
chose
• "Luck
has
nothing
to talk
talk to
to you
you because
because you looked like you'd
you’d be
be
easy.”
easy."

“Wow,
so
"Wow,ififII get
get any
any luckier
luckier tonight,
tonight, maybe
maybe I’ll
I'll get so
drunk that II throw
throw up
up and
and can't
can’t remember
remember anything
that happened
happened to
that
to me.”
me."
“Oh,
modesty.How
How attractive."
attractive.”
•"Oh,
modesty.
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Also,
to“pick
"pick up
up girls”
girls" and instead go
Also, quit
quit EXPECTING
EXPECTING to
make
make friends
friends and
and give
give the
the women
women the
the opportunity
opportunity to get
to know you. A
A couple
couple more ideas
situations:
ideas for
for different situations:
a woman
gets
andisisabout
aboutto
toleave,
leave, that's
that’s a
a
• If aIfwoman
gets
upupand
GREAT
GREATtime
timeto
to get
get her
her info.
info. Just walk up and say,
“Hi,
"Hi,I Iwas
wasgoing
goingto
tocome
cometalk
talk to
to you
you earlier
earlier but
but I
got busy...
busy...what's
what’syour
yourname?
name? Do
Do you
you have email?"
email?”
got
Easy. And
And it’s
it's so natural to
Easy.
to ask,
ask, since
since she's
she’s
obviously
on her
herway
wayout...
out...
obviously on
• If the
"How
oldold
are
you?"
up, just
just
If the
“How
are
you?”question
questioncomes
comes up,
say,
say,"I'm
“I’m17"
17”and
and "No,
“No, really.
really.”

If
• Ifyou’re
you'reinviting
inviting aa woman
woman over
over to
to your house
house for
the first
time by
by e-mail,
e-mail, you
you can
can say,
say, "Look,
“Look, as
as
rst time
much
of the
the women
women
much as
as I’d
I'd like you to meet the rest of
I have tied up in my basement,
basement, II prefer to wait
until I'm
I’m actually
actually going
going on
on aa date
date with
with someone
someone
before
group. Since
Since we're
we’re
before introducing them to our group.
meeting for drinks, this doesn't
doesn’t apply. If
you’re
just meeting
If you're
really that paranoid, just stay
stay in
in your
your car
car and
and give
give
the horn a quick tap. Don’t
Don't worry about my
neighbors... I’ve
So
neighbors….
I've already taken care of them. So
meet me
me here
here at 7.”
meet
7."

I• Ihave
haveaafriend
friendwho
whodoes
doessomething
something interesting
interesting in aa
restaurant. He'll
call
the
waiter
over
and
He’ll
waiter over and say,
say, "Can
“Can
you deliver this napkin to that girl
girl over
over there?
there? But
don't tell her who it's
don’t
it’s from."
from.” Then,
Then, he'll
he’ll draw
draw a
a
tic-tac-toe
game and put an
an X in one of the
tic-tac-toe game
squares.
(Always tip the waiter a dollar!)
squares. (Always
(The
(The napkin almost always comes back, and the
game is
is on...
on... It's
It’sfun,
fun,mysterious,
mysterious, and
and the
the girl
girl always
always
game
wants
I’ve used
used this
wants to know who’s
who's playing
playing with
with her. I've
before,
At some
some point,
point, depending
depending on
on
before, and
and it’s
it's great fun. At
whether you're
you’re winning or losing,
losing, you
you can
can come over to
her
her table
table and
and say
say something
something like,
like, “Well,
"Well, II had to meet my
fi
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"I hope you talk better than
worthy opponent"
opponent” or “I
than you
you
play”,, etc.)
play"
One
you can
can do
do when
when a
a
One of
of the most amazing things you
woman
woman brings
brings up sex
sex is
is to
to tease
tease her
her about
about it, ask her why
she’s
accuse her
she's bringing
bringing it up, and accuse
her of
of having
having aa dirty
mind, etc. It’s
great! You
You must realize that this is one of
It's great!
the very best ways to tease an attractive
woman. They
They
attractive woman.
usually
usually love
love it.
it. Attractive women often bring up the topic
tosee
see ifif you're
you’re comfortable... or to test you
to
you to
to find
nd out
out ifif
you’ll
get nervous
nervous or
or insecure.
insecure.
you'll get
The best
do in
in these
these situations
situations is
is to
to accuse
accuse
The
best thing to do
her
sexual too
you’re not
her of
of trying
trying to get sexual
too fast, tell her you're
interested, and
all kinds
kinds of
of good
good fun.
fun. And
And
and bust
bust on
on her.
her. It’s
It's all
the added
added benefit
makes her more
more and
and more
bene t is that itit makes
curious
curious about
about you
you and
and why
why you don’t
don't seem like all the
other losers
losers who roll over and act stupid.
other
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Key
Key Points
Points To Remember From Chapter 7
WhereThe
TheWomen
Women Are.
~GoGoToToWhere
If you want to
to meet
meet more
more women,
women, you need to go to
the places
places that
frequent.
that they frequent.
Think about the places a woman you would like to
meet would hang
places on
hang out and go to those places
on different
different
days
to see
see when the most
most women
women
days and
and at
at different times to
seemtoto be
be there.
there.
seem
Practice
women online.
online.
Practice your
your skills
skills by
by chatting with women
‘simulator’ where
where you can chat with real
real
Think of it as a 'simulator'
live women 24 hours a day. Use it!
it!
Big
ALWAYS have
Big cities almost ALWAYS
have many
many more beautiful
women
and
women than small ones,
ones, so
so ifif you’re
you're in a small town and
you think
think your
yourlocation
locationisisholding
holdingyou
youback,
back,remember...
remember…
it’s
better.
it's not going to get any better.
Consider
In cities
cities like
like New
New
Consider moving
moving to
to aa bigger
bigger city.
city. In
York, L.A., and Chicago,
Chicago, the
opportunities
to
meet
women
the
meet women
are literally endless. Most
Most suburbs
suburbs of
of big
big cities
cities aren’t
aren't halfbad either.
bad
dance classes
classes too.
Try ballroom dance
too. There
There are
are plenty
plenty of
single
single women
women who
who are
are looking
looking to
to meet men interested in
learning how to dance. You also have the additional
benefit
bene t of practicing
practicing your cocky/funny skills with many
different partners.
partners.
v What To Say... And How To Say It.
What To Say… And How To Say It.
One
approach a woman is to
One of
of my
my favorite ways to approach
ask her for a "female
ask
“female perspective"
perspective” on something
controversial… especially
controversial...
especially something
somethingrelated
relatedto
to dating.
dating.
fi
fi
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(For instance…
instance... her
her opinion
opinion on older women dating
younger men.)
men.)
Another one
Another
one of
of my
my favorites
favorites is
is to
to simply
simply tell
tell her
her that
that I
noticedher
herand
and wanted
wanted to
to find
out what
what she
she was like.
noticed
nd out
I’vefound
foundthese
these two
two approaches
approaches to work well
I've
well for me,
but the most
remember is
most important thing to remember
is that
that it’s
it's not
what you say, but how you say it.
it.
Make sure
sure you
you don’t
don't act
act “too
"too happy”
happy" or overly excited
Make
excited
when approaching
approaching aa woman. Keep
Keep aa serious
serious look
look on
on your
face,and
and speak
speak with
with aa slow,
slow, mysterious
mysterious con
confidence.
face,
dence.
calmness and
put her
her at
at ease
ease and
and
Your calmness
and comfort
comfort will put
makethe
theconversation
conversation flow
make
ow smoothly.

Starting
Conversations With
With Women
Women Is
Is No
No Big
Starting Conversations
Deal.
Deal.
Don’t
making your
your approach
approach appear
Don't worry about making
‘natural’
‘sneak’ your way
way into
into aa conversation
conversation
'natural' or
or try
try to 'sneak'
with a woman.
better to
to just
just be
be interesting
interesting and
and
woman. It’s
It's far better
get her attention.
attention.
Many
woman
Many men
men have
have aa hard
hard time
time walking up to aa woman
they don't
don’t know and starting up a conversation.
conversation. II know I
sure did
did when
when I was first
sure
rst started out.
to GO
GO FOR
FOR IT…
The only sure cure is to
IT... and
and keep
keep doing
doing it
until you finally
get
over
it.
It
will
happen
a
lot
faster
than
nally
over It will happen a lot faster than
you think.
think.
Remember,
Remember, the only power a woman has over you is
THATWHICH
WHICHYOU
YOU GIVE
GIVE HER.
THAT
Keep
Keep your
your power
power for
for yourself.
yourself. If a woman is rude to
you or turns you away, just
just move
move on to the
the next
next one.
one.
Persistence is the price of success.
success.
Persistence
fi
fi
fi
fi
fl
fi
fi
fl
fi
fi
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Act
Act'Uninterested'.
‘Uninterested’.
Attractive women are used to having men get
nervous,excited,
excited, and
and 'interested'
‘interested’ when they talk to them.
nervous,
the beginning
beginning
An easy
easy way
way to
to set yourself apart from the
is to simply appear uninterested.
uninterested.
off… and of course, her
This really throws a woman off...
reaction
WHY you
her.
reaction is
is to wonder WHY
you aren’t
aren't interested
interested in her.
that… her next step
step will
will be
be to
to try
tryto
toMAKE
MAKE
And after that...
YOU INTERESTED.
INTERESTED.
YOU
In other words,
words, you've
you’ve just
just turned
turned the
thetables...
tables… and
and
now SHE
attractYOU.
YOU.
SHE isis trying
trying to attract
And guess what?
Women LOVE
LOVE this.
Women
this.
It's
It’scalled
called 'the
‘the chase'
chase’.
Keep
up.
Keep it
it up.
Practice
GettingE-mails
E-mailsAnd
AndPhone
Phone Numbers.
Numbers.
VPractice
Getting
Ending
as
Ending the
the conversation
conversation right
right is
is just as important
important as
starting it up.
up.
Practice the
the 3-minute
3-minute e-mail and phone number
Practice
technique on every woman you meet. You'll
You’ll be
be amazed at
how
how many e-mail address and phone numbers you get,
and
each time you do it.
it.
and you’ll
you'll get better at itit each
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Chapter
"Dating"
Chapter 8:
8: How To Approach
Approach “Dating”
How
How To
To Get The First Meeting
First
going to explain
explain my mindset:
mindset: II decided
decided
First of
of all,
all, I’m
I'm going
that II needed
needed about 20-30 minutes to get to
to know
know a
a
woman before I decided
decided to
woman
to invest
invest in
in getting
getting to
to ‘really’
'really'
know her.
know
I actually like women for their company, and who I’d
I'd
enjoy seeing
seeing for
just one
one 'get
‘get laid'
laid’ session.
session.
for more than just
So
So II liked to meet a woman for a cup of tea and talk
for a bit, or
or even
even let that
that lead
lead to
to aa bite
bite to
to eat
eat sometimes.
sometimes.
So
mindset isisthat
thatI'M
I’MTHERE
THERETO
TOQUALIFY
QUALIFY THEM.
THEM. Not
So my mindset
the other way around. They picked
picked up
up on
on this
this mentality
and responded accordingly.
accordingly.
About Men
Men And
And How
How
Two Ways Women
Women Think About
You Can
Can Control
Control This
This
You
II believe
women
they get
believethat
that
women see
seemen
men with
with whom
whom they
involved
involved as
as either
either 'long-term
‘long-term relationship'
relationship’ material or
‘sex’material.
material.You
Youhave
have to
tomake
make the
thechoice
choice about
about which
which
'sex'
category you'd
you’d like to be
category
be in.
in. By
By the
the way,
way, ifif you
you get
get
involved sexually, you can usually extend that for
for as
as long
long
as you’d
you'd like.
as
like.
If,
on the
the other
other hand,
hand, you
you don't
don’t get
get involved
involved sexually
sexually
If, on
but you still buy her dinner, call her all the time,
time, and
and
pursue
there’s aa good
good chance
chance that
that you'll
you’llNEVER
NEVER get
pursue her, there's
involved with her sexually.
sexually.
Many,
Many, ifif not most
most guys,
guys, think
think that if they play the
game that
that they’ll
they'll wind up 'getting
dating game
‘getting some'
some’
eventually. This just isn't
isn’t so.
so. I've
I’ve met
met so
so many
many women
women
who
let buy
buy me
me things
who say,
say, “Well,
"Well, II have this guy
guy that I let
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and take
take me
me out,
out, and I have this other one that’s
that's my sex
and
sex
toy.”
toy.
Now,
isn’t all
all women.
women. But
But believe
believe me
Now, admittedly this isn't
when II tell
tell you
you that
that ififyou
you get
get on
on the
the 'friendship'
‘friendship’ program,
when
you’re
stay there.
there. And
And the
the friendship
friendship road
road is
you're very likely to stay
paved
and dinners.
dinners.
paved with
with gifts and
you do too many things for her, you're
you’re
Trust me. If
If you
going
going to spend
spend aa lot
lot of time and $$$ and most likely
never
show for
never wind
wind up
up with
with anything to show
for it other than aa
curious
just below
below your
your abdomen.
abdomen.
curious dry feeling just
For
e-mail communication
communication
For the
the record,
record, I really like e-mail
better than phone communication.
communication. II got probably
probably 4 out of
5 women
thatII e-mailed
e-mailed to
to write
write back,
women that
back, as
as opposed
opposed to
maybe
outofof2 2oror3 3calls
calls returned
returnedthe
thefirst
first time.
maybe 1 1out
time.
I'd write
writeand
and say,
say, “Hey,
"Hey, it
itwas
was nice
nice meeting
meeting you
I’d
you last
last
night…
week? Would you like to
night... what
what are you up to this week?
me for
for aa cup
cup of
of something
something wonderful
wonderful and
and some
some
join me
stimulating conversation? Talk to me.
me.”
If they don't
don’t answer
answer that
that one,
one, I'd
I’d write
writeback
back aa couple
couple
of days
later
with,
“What,
playing
hard
to
get
already?
days
with, "What, playing hard to get already?
Nice. Talk
Talk to me.
me.”
Nice.
I’d
them e-mailing
e-mailing me
me back
back by this point.
point.
I'd get most of them
When they
they did,
did, I’d
I'd say, "What's
When
“What’s your #
# and
and when's
when’s a
a
good
good time to
to reach
reach you?"
you?”
here's why I did this...
Now, here’s
this… Duh! When
When you e-mail
them, for
for some
some reason they feel like you're
you’re friends
because you’ve
you've e-mailed
e-mailed back
back and
and forth…
forth... don’t
don't ask me to
because
explain
explain it…
it... itit took me two and aa half
half years
years to
to figure
gure it
out.
out.
They also
you’ve e-mailed them
They
also return
return your calls after you've
couple of
of times...
times… again, don’t
aa couple
don't ask me why, some freaky
chick thing.
thing.
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OK…
OK...so
sonow
nowI’m
I'm on
on the
the phone
phone with
with them
them (either
because
because II just got a
a
becauseI’ve
I've e-mailed
e-mailed them,
them, or because
number
number and
and called).
called). II want
want to
to get
get together
together with
with them for
about 30 minutes and see what they're
they’re like
like as
as aa person
person
and decide
decide ifif they’re
they're someone
someone who
who I’d
I'd like
like to know better.
better.
and
I’d
them that
that IIwas
was about
about to
to go
go do
do something
something (to
I'd tell them
remind
have a life)
life) and
and
remind myself
myself and
and let
let them know
know that I have
then say, "Well,
“Well, let's
let’s see...
see… what's
what’s your schedule
schedule for the
next few days?
days? (I choose
choose a time based on her reply...)
reply…)
Why
four. Do
Do
Why don’t
don't we
we get
get together tomorrow at about four.
you know
know where
where the
theblah
blahblah
blahblah
blahcoffee
coffeeshop
shopis?
is?Great...
Great…
if we get along,
along, then
then maybe
maybewe
wecan
cango
gofor
foraabite
bitetotoeat...
eat…
but you know, coffee is a safe
you’re
safe bet…
bet... this
this way,
way, if you're
scary
scary in
in person,
person, II can
can say, “Oh,
"Oh, hey…
hey... um…
um... II just
remembered
cat… it’s
remembered that
that I have to go floss
oss my cat...
it's really
important…”
and then we can call
" and
call itit aa night.”
night.
important...
This makes
This
makes them
them laugh,
laugh, but
but it also gets them thinking,
“Who
me?” which is
"Whothe
thehell
hellisisthis
this guy
guy to
to be
be qualifying me?"
perfect.
perfect.
Next, tell them,
them, "The
“The coffee
coffee place
place is close
close to my
my house
house
so
why
don’t
you
just
meet
me
at
my
place,
ring
the
so why don't you just meet
place, ring the bell,
bell,
and
come out and
and we can go...
go… this
you’re a few
and I’ll
I'll come
this way
way if you're
minutes
minutes early
early or
or late,
late, II don’t
don't have
have to
to be
be waiting.”
waiting." (I
(I got
this idea from a friend of mine.)
Then
I'd say,
say,"“Now,
Now. let
Then I’d
letme
meask
ask you
you this...
this… what are the
chances
chances that
that you’re
you're not going to show up tomorrow?
tomorrow? <Let
her answer> Because
Because one
one of
of my
my pet peeves is
is people
people that
that
are late
late or
or flaky.
can deal
deal with a lot of things,
are
aky. IIcan
things, but
but I’m
I'm
always on time where I say I’m
always
I'm going to be, and I never
have
have an
an excuse
excuse or
or don’t
don't show
show up…
up... so
soII just
just wanted to
make
could end
end
make sure…
sure... because
becauseifif there’s
there's one
one thing
thing that
that could
our friendship
friendship before
before it
it starts,
starts, it's
it’s flakiness.”
This sets the
our
akiness." This
right tone for
for flaking,
as you
you can
can see.
see.
aking, as
fl
fl
fl
fl
fl
fl
fl
fl
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***HERE
***HERECOMES
COMESTHE
THE KILLER!
KILLER!
Next, when
say
when we’re
we're getting
getting ready
ready to hang up, I’d
I'd say
something like,
“Great, it's
it’s going
going to
to be
be nice to get to
something
like,"Great,
know
And if nothing
nothing else,
else, we can just be
know you
you better.
better. And
FRIENDS.”
FRIENDS.
It
took me
me and
and a good friend of mine a long time to
It took
get this piece. From
From here
here on
on out,
out, I’d
I'd constantly drop hints
about
about just
just'being
‘being friends'
friends’ and
and how
how II really
really 'liked
‘liked her
her as
as a
friend'
friend’and
and how
how 'it's
‘it’s nice
nice to
to meet
meet someone
someone that II like
like as
as a
friend'.
friend’.
on this
this one...
one… this
this messes
messes them
them up
up soooooo
soooooo
Trust me on
hard
don’t know
know what to
to do.
do.
hard that
that they literally don't
likely the
the first
timeININTHEIR
THEIRENTIRE
ENTIRE LIFE
LIFE
This is most likely
rst time
that this has happened
happened to
to them.
them. It continually triggers
their insecurity and makes them wonder
wonder why
why they’re
they're not
attractive enough to you. It
It also
also disarms
disarms them
completely. (You have to really possess
possess the
the mindset
mindset that
you are
qualifying
them
and
that
they’re
going
to be your
are qualifying
and that they're
friend for this to work)
I personally used the friendship jargon
jargon because
because it’s
it's
better to
to enter
enter any
anynew
newrelationship
relationshipininaa'NOT
‘NOTNEEDY'
NEEDY’
frame of mind. Talking
Talking about
about being
being friends
friends reminds
reminds ME
ME to
pay
don’t need
need
pay more
more attention
attention and
and to remember
remember that II don't
anything and to stay
stay focused
focused on learning.
learning.
When You Meet
When
and invite
When they
they arrive
arrive at
at your
your place,
place,say
say‘hi’
hi and
them in for aa minute
minute while
while you
you get
get your
your coat
coat or
or shoes.
shoes.
out and
andseem
seemlike
likeYOU'RE
YOU’RE IN
INAAHURRY
HURRY TO
TO
Then walk out
LEAVE.
LEAVE.Most
Mostguys
guyswould
wouldtry
tryto
to get
get them
them to
to stay and get
cozy
you’re not
cozy with
with them.
them. You
You want
want them
them to
to think
think that you're
overly interested and that
that you
you want
want some
some coffee.
coffee.
Total indifference.
indifference.
Total
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sit and
and be
be the
the funny
funny and
and cocky
cocky self,
At coffee, just sit
make jokes, and in general
general lean
lean back
back and
and make
make 'friends'.
‘friends’.
I used to analyze
analyze handwriting,
and do
do
handwriting, do palmistry,
palmistry, and
hand
them.
hand massages
massageswhen
whenII first
rst met them.
Also, I used
used to be
Also,
be more
more ‘touchy
'touchy feely’
feely' with women at
the very beginning. As I mentioned, I'd
I’d massage
massage their
hands
etc.
hands and
and touch
touch them
them aa lot,
lot, etc. leading to kissing, etc.
early on.
on.
I eventually learned that ifif II leaned
leaned back
back and
and almost
didn’ttouch
touchthem
themat
atall
allon
onpurpose,
purpose, itit created
created this
this tension
tension
didn't
so
they’d respond
respond
so that
that when I did actually touch them, they'd
powerfully. In
In communication
communication they call
call this 'Building
‘Building
Potential'.
Response Potential’.
Sometimes
Sometimes I’d
I'd massage
massage hands
handsor
ortouch,
touch, but
but II didn’t
didn't
overdo it.
overdo
it.
I’m
justsitting
sittingthere
there
ACTINGLIKE
LIKEWE'RE
WE’RE BEST
BEST
I'm just
ACTING
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS.When
Whenyou
youact
actlike
likethey’re
they're aa best
best friend,
friend, they
will rapidly get comfortable
comfortable with
with you. I made fun of
people,
just totally
totallyleaned
leaned back
back and
and relaxed.
relaxed.
people, whatever.
whatever. I just
I’m
cool, relaxed, and constantly making comments about
I'm cool,
how we're
we’re going
going to be
be friends, etc.
how
I’ve
I've learned never to compliment a hot woman on her
looks,
mess up and forget, and I'd
I’d always
always
looks, period.
period. I’d
I'd still mess
be
to find
one thing
be reminded
reminded why
whynot
not to
to do
do it.
it. I’d
I'd try to
nd one
that she's
she’s insecure
insecure about
that
about and
and talk
talk to
to her
her about
about itit like ‘a
'a
friend’… not overly critical, but not saying,
saying, 'No,
‘No, you
friend'...
shouldn’t be
be insecure'...
insecure’… I’d
keep bringing it up and
shouldn't
I'd just keep
even
it.
even make
make jokes about it.
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The First Date Is NOT
NOTAn
An Interview
Interview
I have had so many readers write and ask me, "How
“How
should II act
act on
on the
the first
date? What
What should
should we talk about?
should
rst date?
How do
do you keep the conversation
How
conversation interesting?”,
interesting?",that
that II
felt II should
should address these
these points
points aa bit
bit further.
further.
The first
to remember
remember when
when you're
you’re meeting up
The
rst thing to
with a girl
girl for
for 'a
‘adate'
date’isisthat
thatit's
it’sNOT
NOTan
anINTERVIEW.
INTERVIEW.
You’re not applying
You're
applying for a job (and neither is she), so don’t
don't
act like
like it.
act
It’s
down in a restaurant
It's so funny to me when I sit down
and
and II hear a couple
couple that’s
that's obviously
obviously out
out on
on their
their first
rst
date... and
and the
the guy
guy has
has no idea
idea what
sounds
date...
what to
to do.
do. It sounds
something like this:
this:
“So,did
didyou
you grow
grow up
up around
around here?"
here?”
"So,
"Where
“Wheredid
didyou
yougo
goto
to school?"
school?”
"Do you
you have
have brothers
“Do
brothers and
andsisters?"
sisters?”
“What
for fun?"
fun?”
"Whatkinds
kindsof
ofthings
things do
do you
you like
like to do for
Painful.
Painful. Why
Why isis itit that
that people
people tend
tend to
to act like they’re
they're
on job interviews when they go out
out on
on dates?
dates? It's
It’s such
such a
a
not-right thing to
to do.
do. II mean,
mean, no
no wonder
wonder women sit
around
around with each other and complain
complain about how hard it is
to find
world.
nd an interesting guy in this world.
Here’s
rule of
of thumb:
thumb:ONLY
ONLYASK
ASKQUESTIONS
QUESTIONS
Here's a good rule
OR TALK
TALK ABOUT
ABOUT COMMON,
COMMON, BORING,
BORING, PREDICTABLE
PREDICTABLE
OR
TOPICS LIKE
SCHOOL, WORK
IF YOU
YOU HAVE
TOPICS
LIKE SCHOOL,
WORK AND
AND FAMILY
FAMILY IF
ABSOLUTELY RUN
RUN OUT
OUT OF
OF ALL
ALL OTHER
OTHER OPTIONS.
OPTIONS.
ABSOLUTELY
Good question.
And why is this? Good
question. And
And I’m
I'm glad you
asked.
asked.
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fi
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First,let's
let’stalk
talkabout
aboutWHY
WHY most guys allow the
First,
conversation to turn
turn to
tothese
theseultra-boring
ultra-boringtopics...
topics...
Most
perspective
Most guys
guys approach
approach aa first
rst date from the perspective
'I don't
up'. In other words, they try
of ‘I
don’t want
want to screw
screw this up’.
to play it safe
safe and not do anything or say anything that
the girl might not like.
like.
to present
present themselves
themselves as
as 'nice
‘nice guys'
guys’ who love
They try to
mom, have a good job, and are stable.
stable.
Somehow, guys
guys have gotten
Somehow,
gotten the idea
idea that
that ifif they act
nice,
nice, buy
buy dinner,
dinner, and talk about the same old
old things that
everyone
everyone else
else uses
usesto
to bore
bore women
women to
to tears
tears that
that they
might get lucky and score (or at
at least
least get
get aa kiss
kiss and
and a
a
second
don’t know
know where
where
second opportunity
opportunity to
to buy
buy dinner).
dinner). I don't
this concept
concept came
came from,
from, but
but it’s
it's just not a very effective
approach.
approach.
WOMEN
AREN’T ATTRACTED
ATTRACTED TO
TO THE
THE SAME
SAME OLD
OLD SAME
SAME
WOMEN AREN'T
OLD, BORING,
BORING, PREDICTABLE
PREDICTABLE CONVERSATION.
OLD,
CONVERSATION.Attraction
Attraction
happens
energy, spice,
spice, humor,
humor,mystery...
mystery...
happens when
when there
there is energy,
COCKY
ANDFUNNY…..
FUNNY...and
andsaucy
saucyconversation.
conversation.
COCKY AND
So
if you
instead of
of
So if
youwant
want to
tocreate
createATTRACTION
ATTRACTION instead
BOREDOM,
you’regoing
goingtoto have
haveto
to learn
learn aa new
BOREDOM, you're
new way.
way.
You’re going
to have
to learn
You're
going to
have to
learn to
to talk
talkabout
aboutsomething
something
else.
else.
The
trick to not talking about
about the
the ‘usual’
usual' things is to
The trick
knowhow
howtotomake
makeconversation
conversationINTERESTING.
INTERESTING.
know
Let me ask you,
you, what
what are
arethe
themost
mostINTERESTING
INTERESTING
topics to humans in general?
general? Right
drama, violence,
violence,
Right –- drama,
scandal,
scandal, and
and comedy
comedy that
that is
is painful
painful to one of the parties
involved. Here are a few good
good ideas
ideas for
for conversation
conversation that
that
come
come to
to mind:
mind:
“Sowhat's
what’swith
withThe
TheReal
RealHousewives
Housewives being so
"So
popular?
I
guess
people
just
can’t
popular? I guess people just can't get enough of
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dysfunctional rich
rich people...
people... they
they have
have to watch
watch itit on
on TV
TV
dysfunctional
too.”
too."
"I'm
"I'm so
sobummed
bummedthat
that [celebrity
[celebrity A] broke up with
[celebrityB]...
B]...they
theywere
wereso
so cute
cute together"
together" --- stay
stay in
in loop
loop
[celebrity
about pop culture references, so you always have
something
talking.
something current
current to bring up and get her talking.
Maybe
Maybe even
even add
add some
some quick
quick teasing
teasing to
to the
the topic by
saying
saying "It's
"It's really a shame they are not together
anymore...II bet
bet they
havereally
really good
looking
anymore...
they would
would have
good looking
children - well,
well, maybe
maybe not
notas
as good
good looking
lookingas
as OUR
OUR
CHILDREN would
but quickly
quickly go
go back to talking
CHILDREN
would be..."
be. .." - but
about the celebrity couple. Giving
Giving that mix signal will
make her
her very
very intrigued,
intrigued, confused
confused and ultimately
make
ATTRACTED to
ATTRACTED
to you.
you.
These topics
nobody’s
These
topics will
will light up a conversation like nobody's
business.
be
business. And
And they
they create
create all
all kinds
kinds of opportunities to be
cocky
and
cocky and
and funny
funny while talking about the misfortunes and
neurotic
neurotic behavior
behavior of
of others.
others. The
The trick
trick is
is that
that you must
remember
impress her, and you’re
remember you’re
you're not
not there to impress
you're not
on a
job
interview.
The
more
you
act
nervous,
stilted,
and
a
interview. The
stilted, and
uncomfortable... like
impress her
uncomfortable….
like you’re
you're trying
trying to impress
her and
and get
get
herapproval...
approval...and
and like
like you
you don't
don’t want
want to
to say
say anything
anything
her
that might
might make
make her
her disapprove
disapprove of you, the
the less
less likely
you are to trigger
trigger that
thatall-important
all-importantATTRACTION
ATTRACTION inside
inside
of her.
of
And here’s
here's aa real
real twist
twist on this theme: IfIf SHE
SHE starts
asking the
the'normal'
‘normal’questions
questions about
about school,
school, job,
asking
job, family,
family,
etc. this is a perfect opportunity to bust
bust on
on her and say,
"What,isisthis
thisaajob
jobinterview?”
interview?" or
or “Can’t
"Can't you
you think
think of
“What,
something interesting to
to talk
talkabout?
about? Please,
Please, spare me the
pain
Let’s
pain of the usual school-job-family conversation. Let's
save
we’re picking
picking names
names for our kids.
kids.”
save that
that until we're
Here
conversation:
Here are
are aa few
few other good ideas for conversation:
1)
History. Women
Women love to hear
hear stories about the
1) History.
history of places.
places. IfIf you’re
you're in an
an interesting
interesting part of
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town, tell her
her the
the story
story of
of how
how the
the area
area came
came to be
be
named,
named, or
or why
why the
the city
city was
was built
built where
where itit is. And if
the story involves a tale of love and/or
and/or scandal,
scandal, all
the better.
the
2) Anything
Anything super
superficial,
classy, and
and basically
basically
cial, classy,
meaningless.
fashion, so
so
meaningless. Try
Try learning
learning aa little
little about fashion,
this way you can
can make
make fun
fun of it while acting like
you're talking about. "Didn't
you know what you’re
“Didn’t Lady
Lady
GaGa
GaGareally
really improve
improve the
the fashion
fashion world
world with
with her
meat-dress thing?"
thing?”
meat-dress
3)Comedy
ComedyPsychological
Psychological Analysis.
Analysis. Have fun by giving
3)
your
others. “You
"You know,
know, I’ve
I've
your wild
wild perspective
perspective on others.
been
out why
why so
so many
many people
people these
these
been trying
trying to figure
gure out
days
are
going
postal
and
shooting
everyone.
I
days are going postal and shooting
think
mightbe
bebecause
because of
ofThe
The Jersey
Jersey Shore
Shore on
on
think itit might
MTV.” This
This one
one can be
MTV."
be aa lot
lot of fun... be creative.
Do
Do you
you see
see where
whereI’m
I'm going
going with
with this?
this? If
If you want to
keep
interest, then
thenyou
youhave
havetotobe
beINTERESTING.
INTERESTING. The
The
keep her interest,
old-fashioned act-like-you’re-on-a-job
act-like-you're-on-a-job interview rap just
old-fashioned
doesn’t
doesn't cut
cut it. Now, for some guys, the ideas
ideas that
that I’ve
I've
just talked
talked about
about will
will make
make sense
sense but won't
won’t come
come
just
naturally. That's
That’s OK. You
You may
may have
have to
to work on
on this for
awhile, especially
or so
so years
years
especially ifif you’ve
you've spent the last 25 or
doing
doing the wrong
wrong thing. Old Proverb: “No
"No matter
matter how far
down the wrong
wrong road
roadyou've
you’vegone,
gone,TURN
TURNBACK.
BACK.”
So
remember,
attractionisn't
isn’t aa choice.
choice. And
attraction
So remember,
attraction
And attraction
doesn’t
doesn't make
make logical
logical sense.
sense.IfIf you
you want
want to
to create
create that
magical “chemistry”,
"chemistry", then
magical
then you're
you’regoing
goingto
tohave
havetotoLEARN
LEARN
andPRACTICE
PRACTICE it.
and
it.
Places To Go
Go
I’ve
it’s more
more interesting
interesting to
to GO
GO
I've learned that it's
somewhere
somewhere and
and DO
DOsomething
somethingwith
with aa woman
woman than
than itit is to
go
go on
on a 'date'.
‘date’.
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If you want to
to do
do more
more than just
just have
have coffee
coffee with a
a
woman, consider
consider going
going somewhere
somewhere fun
fun to
to shop.
shop. II prefer
funky,
eclectic neighborhoods
neighborhoods and
and shops.
shops. These
These are
funky, eclectic
places
give you
you an
an
places full
full of
of wacky
wacky and
and fun
fun items.
items. It
It will give
ongoing, changing
about.
changing set
set of
of things
things to talk about.
And the best
don’t have to buy
And
best part is that you don't
anything.
anything.
When
When you
you go
go to
to these types of places, you can
can just
have
have fun
fun and
and talk. Make sure you wander
wander away
away from her
aa few
keeps the
not
few times
timeswhile
while you're
you’re out.
out. This keeps
the 'I'm
‘I’m not
needy’ thing
thing going
going on.
needy'
Remember,
have
Remember, you
you don’t
don't have to spend money to have
fun.
fun.
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10
10 Steps
Steps To
To AA Guaranteed
Guaranteed Great
Great Date
Date
1.
thatYOU
YOU
are
qualifyingHER
HERtotosee
seeif
if
1. Remember
Remember that
are
qualifying
she
she is
is someone
someone you
you want
want to spend more time
with…
way around.
around.
with... and
and not the other way
2. Too
Too many
many dinners
dinners and
and gifts
gifts early
early on
on will
will lead
lead you
you
into 'the
‘the friendship zone'.
zone’. Impress her with
YOURSELF instead.
YOURSELF
instead.
3. E-mail
E-mail her first
to build
build to
to build
build familiarity.
familiarity. Call
Call her
rst to
on the phone to set up the date after
after she
she emails
emails
you back.
back.
4. On
On the
the phone,
phone, joke that
that SHE
SHE might turn out to
to be
be
weird. This subtlety lets
lets her
her know
know that
thatYOU
YOU are
normal and
and fun.
normal
5.
her meet
meetyou
youat
at your
your place
place so
so you
you don't
don’t end
5. Have
Have her
end
up
waiting around…
up waiting
around... and
and so
so she
she will
willbe
becoming
coming back
back
to
to your
your place
place afterwards.
afterwards.
6.
Ask her
her what
what the
the chances
chances
6. Use
Use'The
‘The Flake
Flake Test'
Test’ –- Ask
are that she won’t
won't show to set the tone up front.
front.
7.Be
Bethe
the first
say "friends"
“friends” -–let
lether
herknow
know that
that you
you
7.
rst totosay
are looking
looking forward to making a friend if nothing
else…
else... this
this lets
lets her know you have no expectations
and
aren’t
needy or desperate.
Mention this during
during
and aren't needy
desperate. Mention
the date!
date!
the
8. Show
Show her that
that you
you aren't
aren’t overly
overly interested
interested by
heading
heading to
to the coffee shop
shop quickly instead of
lingering around at your
your place.
place.
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9. At
Atthe
thecoffee
coffeeshop,
shop,RELAX
RELAX and
and treat
treat her like your
best friend.
friend. Lean
Lean back,
back, talk
talkabout
aboutINTERESTING
INTERESTING
topics like drama, violence, scandal, or comedy,
and make cocky/funny jokes.
jokes. You
You can
can save the
compliments for another time.
time.
10.If
go
10.If you want to spend more
more time with her, go
someplace
someplace where
where the
the conversation
conversation is
is built-in,
built-in, like a
place
Wander
place with
with fun
fun shops
shops and
and things
things to
to do.
do. Wander
away
away from her a few times to communicate that
aren't 'needy'
you aren’t
‘needy’ or clingy.
clingy.
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Chapter 9: Getting
Getting Physical
Physical
How
Next Step
Step
How To Take The Next
OK,
OK, so
so we’re
we're on
on the
the way home from coffee (because I
"OK, let’s
let's go...")
said, “OK,
go…”) and we're
we’re back at my
my house.
house. Here's
Here’s
one that
that II love...
love… If it's
it’s at
at night,
night, look
look at
at your
your watch
watch and
one
say, "Well,
“Well, II have
have to
toget
getup
upearly
earlyininthe
themorning...
morning…but...
but…
OK, you
you can
can come
come in for
for aa few
few minutes...
minutes…”
OK,
This is
she’s trying
This
is perfect!
perfect! You’re
You're talking
talking to her like she's
trying to
convince
hasn’t said anything!
anything!
convince you
you to
to let her in, and she hasn't
Nice.
Nice. (Read
(Readitit again
again ifif you
you didn’t
didn't pick
pick up
up what I said.)
Then just
just walk
walk in
in and
and let her
her follow. (By the way,
Then
again, I always open doors
doors for women, walk on the
outside
outside of
of the
the curb,
curb, and
and pull
pull chairs
chairs out,
out, etc.)
etc.) If you act
chivalrous
you’ll be
be
chivalrous and
and bust
bust her
her balls
balls at
at the same
same time,
time, you'll
rewarded
from Santa.
Santa.
rewarded with good things from
So,
house… take her for a tour...
tour… and
and
So, now
now you’re
you're in the house...
either sit
sit down
down on
on the
the bed
bed to talk
talk to
to her
her or
or on
on the
the couch...
couch…
either
wherever you wind up.
up.
I’d
just kind
kind of
of get
get a
a little
little quieter
quieter and
and let her
her talk
talk while
while
I'd just
I lookedatather.
her.I'dI’d
leanaway
awayfrom
fromher
herand
andkeep
keeplooking...
looking…
I looked
lean
sometimes
sometimes looking
looking away
away as
as ifif II was
was thinking about
something.
something.
Then, I’d
Then,
I'd reach over and
and start stroking her hair while
she's talking.
talking. I’d
I'd stroke down
down at
at the
the bottom first.
rst. IfIf she's
she’s
she’s
OK
this, I'd
I’dtake
takeititas
asaasign
signthat
thatshe
shewas
wasWAAYYYYY
WAAYYYYY
OK with
with this,
into me and is probably going to be wanting sex within 60
minutes
minutes (if you have any doubts, ask a woman
woman ifif she’ll
she'll let
a guy stroke her hair while she's
she’s on
on his
his bed
bed on
on the
the first
rst
date if she's
she’s not into him).
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the puzzle
puzzle that
thatI I figured
out…
This is a big piece of the
gured out...
I used to do all kinds of massages
massages and
and other
other stuff,
stuff, but
then discovered
liked
discovered the
the simple
simple hair
hair stroke
stroke test.
test. If they liked
their
hair stroked,
stroked,they
theywere
wereatatthe
theVERY
VERY LEAST
LEAST going to
their hair
be
be making
making out
out with
with me
me in
in short
short order, period. I’d
I'd
occasionally
occasionally do
do aa hand
hand massage
massage here
here or
or aa little
little neck
massage, but next
next I'd
I’d pull
pullher
her close
close to
to me
me and
and cuddle
massage,
withher...
her… and
and then land the
with
the killer.
killer.
I have personally always liked the way
way women
women smell.
smell…
so
so when
when she
she was
waslaying
layingnext
next to
to me
me with
with my
my stroking her
hair, II began
began to smell her shoulders...
shoulders… just
just aa little
little at first,
rst,
and
and then more and more…
more... while
while stroking
stroking her
her hair. Within
about 55 or
or 10
10 minutes,
minutes, I'm
I’msmelling
smellingher
herneck
neck and
and ears...
ears…
about
no
smelling,
no kissing,
kissing, and
and no
no groping
groping at
at all.
all. Never!
Never! I’m
I'm just smelling,
then leaning back
back and
and acting
acting like
like I’m
I'm completely enjoying
the smelling, and
friends… if
and it’s
it's relaxing me. Try this, my friends...
you can keep
keep on
on smelling…
smelling... she’ll
she'll get
get so
so turned
turned on
on that
you won't
won’t believe
believe it!
it!At
Atsome
somepoint
pointshe'd
she’dtry
trytotokiss
kissme...
me…
which
her lips get
which is
is just
just what
what II was
was waiting
waiting for.
for. I’d
I'd let her
close
close to
to mine…
mine... even
even touch
touch just
just a teensy bit…
bit... and
and then I’d
I'd
back
“Oh, you're
you’re
back away
away and
and keep
keepsmelling.
smelling.II might
might say, "Oh,
kind
forward"..…..love
kind of forward”
of these,
these,I'll
I’ll kiss
love it.
it.After
Afteraa few
few of
kiss
her…
hair… the whole
whole
her... and
and run
run my hands
hands through her hair...
romantic kiss
This kind of
kiss thing…
thing... then,
then, again, stop. This
teasing and
women. They
They
and teasing
teasing is
is very
very stimulating to women.
love it.
love
I’m
her to
to start
start doing
doing something
something that is
I'm waiting for her
sexual...
forinstance
instance
grinding
on me...
sexual... for
grinding
herher
hipships
on me...
or or
grabbing my
grabbing
my ass...
ass.. whatever.
whatever.
When you're
you’re patient,
patient, the
the woman
woman will usually
usually do
When
something that is
is subtly
subtly sexual
sexual FIRST.
FIRST. This is key,
as
key, as
she’s
then the
theaggressor...
aggressor...
she's then
Then do
“All you
you have
have
Then
do aa little
little verbal move and say, "All
to
do is
issay
sayPLEASE.
PLEASE.”
to do
I’mlaughing
laughing as
as II write
write this...
this... damn
damn this
this is great.
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So the
the first
time, she'll
she’ll say,
say, "No
“No no no... I’m
not going
going
So
rst time,
I'm not
" and
beg you...
you...”
and you just say, "OK"
“OK”...
totobeg
Then roll
rollover
over
lay back
andup...
lookaway
up... away
Then
or or
justjust
lay back
and look
from her.
her. This
This usually
usually makes the woman begin to wonder
what the heck is going on and come
come over and
and start
cuddling, kissing, etc. me
me again.
again.
Keep on
on with
with the
the sensual
sensual kissing,
Keep
kissing, breathing
breathing in
in her
her
ears...
all
that
good
stuff...
and
when
she
gets
worked
up
ears... all that good stuff... and when she gets worked up
again
again and
and you
you hear
hear her
her breathing
breathing getting
getting faster,
faster, heart
rateincreasing,
increasing, etc.,
etc., just
justsay,
say,"All
“Allyou
you have
have to
to do
do is
is say
say
rate
PLEASE...”
PLEASE.
OK, you
you get
get the
the idea...
idea... II keep
keep doing
doing this until she
OK,
says,"OK
“OK OK,
OK, please...
please... please...
please...”
says,
If you need help on what to do after this step, buy
buy a
a
copy
Bed by
copy of How
How To Drive Your Woman Wild In Bed
Graham Masterson and Sexational Secrets by
by Susan
Susan
Bakos. Do
Bakos.
Do it.
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Getting Physical
Physical
Your 7-Step Guide To Getting
1.When
Whenyou
youget
getback
back to
to the
the house,
house, say, "Well,
“Well, I have
1.
to get up early in the morning...but...OK,
morning...but...OK, you
you can
can
come in for a
a few minutes..."
minutes...” Take
Take her on a quick
come
quick
tourand
andthen
thensit
sitdown
downon
on aa bed
bed or
or on
on the
the couch.
couch.
tour
KissTest’
Test' –- Start stroking the bottom of
2. Use
Use 'The
‘The Kiss
her hair while
while you
you are
are talking.
talking. If she enjoys it,
she's into you!
she’s
you!
3. Lean
Lean in
in and
and lightly
lightlysmell
smell her
hershoulders...
shoulders… then
pullback…
pullback... then
then do
do itit again. Slowly work your way
up to smelling her
her neck
neck and
and ears.
ears.
4. Keep
Keep building
building up
up tension...
tension… and finally
nally give her aa
kiss…
back. Accuse
Accuse HER
HER of being
kiss... then
then pull back.
"forward"
“forward”.
5. Wait
Wait for
for her
her to
tomake
make the
the first
sexuallyaggressive
aggressive
rst sexually
move...
move… then say,
say, "All
“All you
you have
have to
to do
do is
is say
say please"
please”.
6.
no....", just roll
6. IfIfshe
shesays,
says, "No
“No no no...”,
roll over
over and
and look up
away from her,
her, which
which will
will make
make her
her curious.
curious. Pull
Pull
back
you.
back again
again and
and wait
wait for her to come to you.
7. Turn
Turn up
up the
the heat
heat with
withthe
thesensual
sensual kissing,
kissing,
breathing in her ears, etc. until
until she
she gets more
excited
faster, heart
heart race
race
excited (i.e. breathing getting faster,
starts increasing, etc.)...
etc.)… then make her say
"please"
“please” again!
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Chapter
Chapter 10:
10: Keeping
Keeping Her
HerAttracted
Attracted To
You,
Term
You,Or
Or"How
“HowTo
ToHave
Have aa Long
Long Term
Relationship"
Relationship”
End of
The Beginning
Beginning of
of the
the End, Or
Or the
the End
of the
Beginning
Beginning
Once
you’re
Once you’ve
you've figured
gured out
out how
how to
to attract women, you're
boundto
to find
one who's
who’s particularly
particularly interesting to you.
bound
nd one
One
um, love.
love.
One that
that you
you might actually, um,
One
bit.
One that
that you
you might want to keep around for a bit.
Hey, you might even meet someone
someone that
that you want to
spend
with.
spend the
the rest
rest of your life with.
Even
Even though
though I’ve
I've made most of this book about
meeting
that itit would
would be
be complete
complete
meeting women,
women, II don’t
don't feel that
without
at
least
a
few
ideas
on
how
to
keep
a
woman
without at least a few ideas on how to keep a woman
attracted to you for the
the long
long haul.
haul.
But
all, here's
here’s my
my take
take on
on why
why relationships
relationships
But first
rst of all,
fail:
fail:
When
dating someone
someone you really like,
When you
you first
rst start dating
the body releases a
chemicals that are
a combination of chemicals
quite literally
literally intoxicating.
intoxicating.These
These chemicals
chemicals cause
cause you to
want to be with that person all the time, stay up all night
talking to them,
them, and
and have
have sex with them three times
times a
a
day.
day.
But twelve
later, the
twelve to eighteen
eighteen months
months later,
the chemicals
chemicals
change.
change. The
The intoxicating
intoxicating chemicals are replaced by
'stability' chemicals.
chemicals. The
The‘stay-up-all-night-can’t-be-away'stay-up-all-night-can't-be-away‘stability’
from-her-have-sex-three-times-a-day' feeling
from-her-have-sex-three-times-a-day’
feeling goes
goes away
and the
the ‘let’s-settle-down-and-have-two-kids-and-buy-a
'let's-settle-down-and-have-two-kids-and-buy-a
and
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minivan' chemicals
chemicalstake
takeover.
over. Deal
Dealwith
withit.
it. (If
(If you want to
minivan’
understand this process
process better,
read The
The Alchemy
Alchemy of
of Love
Love
better, read
Theresa Crenshaw.)
and Lust by Theresa
So
now that
that you
you know
knowthis,
this, how
do you
you keep
keepthis
this
So now
how do
whole
into an
an episode
episode of “All
whole thing
thing from turning into
"All in the
Family"?
Family”?
Well, the short answer is, keep
keep up
up the
the fun, interesting,
unpredictable
unpredictable behavior.
behavior. Notice
Notice the details. Do thoughtful
things.
things.
Here's something
somethingthat
that I’ve
I've learned
learned in
in life:
life: If you want
Here’s
to get back more than you give, then play the stock
market. It’s
not gonna
gonna happen
happen in
It's not
in relationships.
relationships. In
In fact,
fact, if
you want
want to
to get
get aa lot
lot back,
back, you're
you’re probably
probably going to have
have
you
to give even more.
more.
Most
Most people
people are
are selfish
sel shand
andsay,
say,“I’m
"I'm not going to give
more than
than II get."
get.” But
But instead
instead of getting a
more
a lot,
lot, all they
they get
get
is
is old
old and
and unhappy.
unhappy. I’ve
I've found
found that
that it’s
it's much better to
give a
caring about
a ton and
and get back
back aa lot
lot in return, not caring
the fact that II didn't
didn’t get
get as
as much
much as
as II gave
gave than to give
little or none
none and get back little
or none.
none.
little or
Relationships
Relationshipsaren’t
aren't like
like investing.
investing. If
If you want a lot,
get used
the end,
end,
used to
to giving
giving more.
more. But
But it’s
it's worth it in the
because
becauselove,
love,attention,
attention, humor,
humor, and
and fun
fun aren’t
aren't like
money. If
you give
give them
them out,
out, you
you don't
don’t have
have less.
less. You
You
If you
haveMORE.
MORE. Get it?
have
Now
probably have
have
Now that
that you’ve
you've read this book, you probably
that
feelingthat
thatII had
hadwhen
when
I firstlearned
learnedall
all of
of this
this
that same
same feeling
I first
amazing
You’re probably excited.
excited.
amazing material.
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