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An “Interviews With Dating Gurus” Special Report…
“How To Overcome Fear,
Approach Women, And
Set Up Fun Dates That
Lead To Natural Success”
Tips From The “Alex”
Monthly Interview
David DeAngelo
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“How To Overcome Fear,
Approach Women, And Set Up
Fun Dates That Lead To
Natural Success”
This month I had the pleasure of interviewing a gentleman
named Alex, who shared some killer insights about how to
become more attractive to women, how to overcome fear of
approaching women, what turns women on sexually, how to set
up dates quickly and easily, and how to give yourself an
advantage with women.
I’ve put together this special report to outline some of the
awesome techniques he shared. Get ready… because this one was
top notch!
Let’s get started…
1. Use Fear To Your Advantage
Can you remember the last time you approached an attractive
woman you wanted to meet?
Can you remember how just thinking about it sent a SURGE
of fear and excitement all throughout your body?
Well guess what?
ALL men feel this same fear when they approach a woman!
The difference between guys that are amazing at approaching
women and guys that can’t approach women at all is WHAT
THEY DO WITH THIS FEAR.
If you think about it, you really only have two choices:
1.
You can let it DESTROY you… and your chances of
meeting a woman and having a great relationship.
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2.
You can let it MOTIVATE you… and increase your
chances of meeting the women you desire
What I’m trying to say here is that guys that are GREAT at
approaching women and starting up conversations use this fear to
their advantage.
Think about it this way…
People spend TONS of money on things like bungee jumping,
roller coasters, and jumping out of airplanes.
Isn’t it great that you can get that same rush of excitement by
simply going to the bar tonight and approaching some attractive
women? And… have the chance at an AMAZING payoff (dates
with women) that you just can’t get doing ANY of these other
things?
Alex pointed out that Hunter S. Thompson said, “Anything
that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.”
So the next time you see an attractive woman you want to
meet and you feel that nervous excitement creeping up… ENJOY
IT… and make something happen!
2. Trust Your Instincts And Be Yourself
Another thing Alex pointed out in this interview that I
thought was VERY interesting is that many men will put on an
“act” when they approach a woman as an EGO-DEFENSE
mechanism.
That way if the woman happens to reject them, they can
blame their rejection on the “act” or the “line”… instead of placing
the blame where it should be… on themselves.
Now, what these guys FAIL to realize is that the very act of
“putting on an act” is often the CAUSE of their rejection in the
first place.
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It’s no secret that women are very perceptive… especially
attractive women who get hit on DOZENS of times each day.
They can smell a fraud from a mile away… and if that fraud is
YOU… you’re going down.
Now, here’s a secret that woman know but men don’t:
It takes A LOT more courage to be YOURSELF than it does to
approach a woman with an “act” or a “line” that ISN’T you.
And if you do approach a woman as YOURSELF and in a
genuine and confident way, you will almost NEVER get rejected,
because she will see the courage and confidence behind it.
Now… this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use a great line that
you learned somewhere else.
As a matter of fact… you should… especially when you’re first
getting started.
But think of the lines and techniques you learn as “training
wheels”… and make it your goal to come up with some of your
very own techniques that work for YOU and fit your personality to
a “t”.
3. Power Through “False” Rejection
Another interesting point Alex made is that women are often
“programmed” to reject men.
Think about it.
An attractive woman gets hit on by losers day in and day out.
Pretty soon “rejection” becomes an automatic response.
It turns into a screening system… with the initial rejection as
a test. Only guys who can GET PAST the initial rejection survive.
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Now… not ALL women are like this. But here’s a little secret
about those who are:
These women are used to meeting guys who “can’t take the
heat”. They meet HUNDREDS of men who “wuss out” to every
ONE that “makes the cut.”
And because of this… once you get past her initial rejection,
she will see you as a RARE commodity.
To put it simply… YOU ARE IN.
A great example of this took place in the movie “Gone With
The Wind” (Go rent this NOW if you haven’t seen it already).
In it, Scarlet was anything but nice to Rhett Butler… but he
took it all in stride… because he KNEW it was just an act… and
that deep down she was totally in love with him.
Take this same stance when you meet a woman with
“attitude”.
Come from the position that you KNOW what it’s like to be
her… and that you know she has to weed out the losers
somehow… AND that you know if she opened her eyes she’d fall
for you in a second.
Don’t actually voice this to her… but let it shine through in
your actions.
Give her a second chance to give you a second chance… and
soon YOU… being the RARE find that you are… will be the one in
control.
4. Become An Interesting Guy
In our interview, Alex made the point that the single most
important thing you can do in your life—both for yourself, and
when it comes to attracting women—is to become an interesting
guy.
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The easiest way to do this is to “err on the side of action”.
What that means is to take advantage of every opportunity
that comes your way.
If you come to a fork in the road, take it.
If you are deciding whether or not to take a trip, go!
Deciding whether to eat somewhere new or go to your same
old favorite spot? Try something new!
The more you do this the more you will enrich your life with
experiences… and gain wisdom and knowledge that make women
want to know more about you.
And the more experiences you have, the more interesting
things you will have to talk about with women… and the more
likely you will be to relate to something they have done.
For example, when she says, “That reminds me of a place in
Europe” you can say, “Oh yeah… I know what you mean”.
When she tells you she loves Greek food you can tell her
about that wonderful little place you discovered that day when
you decided to drive PAST your favorite spot and find something
new.
Remember… we never regret the things we do… only the
things we haven’t done.
Start to live this every single day, and you’ll be amazed at just
how quickly women notice.
5. Lead The Way
Here’s another newsflash for you: Women HATE to make
decisions.
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You know how they say that women constantly change their
minds about everything?
Well it’s absolutely true.
Women can make decisions… but they don’t like to… which is
exactly why women LOVE a man who is decisive.
Decisiveness is a MALE trait. And to a woman, there is
nothing more manly than a guy who knows what he wants… and
is confident enough to BE A MAN and lead her to do things and
go places he knows are fun and exciting.
When a man does this, it gives her a sense of stability and
security that she longs for… and puts her at ease by taking the
burden of making a decision off of her plate.
Unfortunately, many men are AFRAID to do this, because
they fear that a woman won’t be happy with the decisions they
make.
We’ve all made this mistake at one time or another… and
gotten into one of those, “I don’t know… what do YOU want to
do?” conversations that woman HATE.
But as Alex says… in romance, as in dancing, a man must lead
with a firm and gentle hand.
Remember this every time you are talking to a woman from
now on.
If you’re going somewhere to eat, tell her you know of a great
such and such restaurant. If she objects, don’t say, “Well where do
you want to go?” …simply suggest another one.
Your decisiveness—which translates into “manliness”—plays
a HUGE role in whether or not SHE decides to sleep with you. So
give her what she wants by gently leading her where you want.
She’ll thank you for it.
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6. Never Be Afraid To “Walk”
One of the biggest differences between guys who are REALLY
successful with women and guys who are just moderately
successful is that the “pros” are ALWAYS willing to “walk away”.
People don’t value what they don’t have to work for… and if a
woman knows that you will be around and willing no matter what
she does, then SHE has the power and control.
This “exchange of power” starts from the moment you meet a
woman.
A woman can tell as soon as you walk up to her whether you
“care” or not if it goes well.
If she can sense that you “only have eyes for her”, she won’t
have any reason to try to impress you… because she knows that
you have already made up your mind about her…
On the other hand, if she senses that you are just out having
fun and will leave in an instant if she says or does something you
don’t agree with, she will be on her best behavior to try and
impress YOU and keep you around.
It’s ironic in how it works… but it’s absolutely true.
So the key here is to avoid the “scarcity” mindset at all costs.
Know that there is ALWAYS another hot woman waiting
around the corner… and be selective when deciding to stick with
the one you’re with, or move on.
When you really internalize the attitude that YOU are the
selector, it will come across in everything you do… AND… cause
every woman you meet to WORK to hold your attention.
7. Protect Your Woman
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A very simple way to let your woman know that she is in the
hands of a real man is to be chivalrous when you are out on the
town.
Hold doors open for her, and always be sure to walk on the
outside of the curb.
If some shady people come across your path, position
yourself between them and her.
This is all simple stuff… but you’d be surprised at how many
men forget it completely.
But this is… of course… good news for you because guys who
DO remember this stuff and practice it are handsomely rewarded.
8. Make Your Move
Did you know that women HATE when a guy they are
attracted to DOESN’T make a move?
Yes… in some cases you can use this to build anticipation and
make her want you more… but eventually you MUST take the
initiative and make something happen.
When a woman is really into a guy and he doesn’t try to sleep
with her, it makes her feel LESS ATTRACTIVE.
She also worries that YOU might not have the confidence to
make a move… which makes YOU look less attractive.
Combine these two things together and the result is not good.
Remember this:
She IS NOT going to do it for you.
Alex put it very well when he said, “If YOU take off a woman’s
pants, she feels sexy… but if she has to take off HER OWN pants,
she feels like a slut.”
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Which option do you think a woman would rather take?
Now… just because you make a move does not mean she’s
going to give in and sleep with you on the first night.
But she definitely wants you to TRY.
So don’t let her down. Don’t be a wuss. Make a move!
9. Alex’s Dating System
My very favorite part of my interview with Alex was when he
described his unique system for setting up dates with women.
The best part about it is how he actually gets women to ASK
HIM OUT when he is talking to them on the phone!
Here’s how he does it:
He simply calls a woman up and talks in detail about an
interesting and exciting thing he’s planning on doing.
A few examples he gave were rollerblading by the beach,
boxing in the park, going to happy hour with friends, and going to
a “secret” restaurant where they make awesome deserts.
Somewhere along the way the woman will say, “That sounds
fun”… or even better… “Can I come?” or “I want to go!”
And what kind of man would Alex be to turn her down?
Another great thing about this system is what he does if they
DON’T hint or ask to join him.
He simply says “bye” and that he’ll talk to them later.
This seems simple… but in reality it’s VITALLY important.
Because he didn’t end the conversation with a “next step”…
like “I’ll call you later this week” or “call me when you want to
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hang out”… either person can call the other WITHOUT giving up
their power.
Think about it…
If at the end of a phone call you say to a woman, “Call me this
Saturday” and she DOESN’T call… then you are giving up your
power if you call her again.
Along those same lines, if you end a call with “I’ll give YOU a
call on Saturday”, she can’t call you until you call her first without
giving up HER power.
On the other hand, if you end the call with “I’ll talk to you
later” and later that night she happens to feel like getting
together, she is totally free to call you up.
And… if you end a call with “I’ll talk to you later” you can call
her again whenever YOU feel like it without looking like a wuss.
And if the next time you call her it doesn’t go anywhere… but
you end that call without a “next step”… you can call her again
whenever you want.
Here’s the bottom line:
If you end every call like this, you can KEEP ON calling her
until she asks you out.
But based on my experiences, after you call a woman a couple
of times and tell her about interesting things you are doing, even
if she can’t meet with you that day, she will call you when she
can… because she’ll assume you’ll be doing something fun.
In fact, if you just remember these two keys to phone
conversations, you’ll be amazed at how often women CALL YOU
UP to ask you to hang out.
Here they are again:
1. Talk about interesting things you are doing
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2. Don’t end the call with a “next step”… simply say “I’ll talk
to you later”.
Be sure to write these down somewhere. This is important
stuff.
A Few Other Quick Points…
Another great point Alex made was to tell a woman what to
wear when she is meeting up with you.
I do this myself, and I highly recommend it. Women find it to
be a huge turn on… and it will get her thinking about you all day!
Alex also mentioned how he likes to take a woman on a date
where they will get dirty or sweaty so he can invite them back to
his place to take a shower. I love it!
This interview certainly turned out to be amazing. Alex
shared some phenomenal real-world tips that WORK. I hope you
enjoyed them… and most of all… I hope you USE THEM.
Be sure to listen to the section on setting up dates several
times (It starts at Track # 14).
There are a lot of little subtleties in that section that are very
important… and while I tried to point them all out in this report,
it would definitely be worth your time to listen to it again and take
some notes. His insights in that particular area are truly
awesome… and will make your life a whole lot easier.
I’ll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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