What are your short-term and long-term goals?
How would you describe yourself?
What is an obstacle you’ve had to overcome?
Was there an embarrassing fashion moment in your adolescence?
Have you ever ridden a camel, a donkey, or an elephant? Tell me the story! If
not, which of those three would you like to ride?
What were your first words as a child?
How do you hide anger when you don't want it to show?
What do you personally want to achieve during the next five to ten years?
What is the hardest thing you ever had to experience in your life? Are you
satisfied with the place you live?
What does your perfect life consist of? What is one memory you wish you could
revisit?
What are the greatest strengths in our relationship?
How does your life compare to how you imagined it growing up?
What’s my best quality?
Is there anything you feel like you’d be giving up to be in a relationship with
me?
Do you care what strangers think of you?
Describe your ideal weekend.
Will you be open to returning to your previous job if given a chance?
Are you an optimist, pessimist or realist?
What impression do you give someone when your first meet them?
Has there been anything I said or done in the past that really hurt you and I didn’t
know?
What sort of emotions (rage, anger, sorrow, etc.) do you think are inappropriate
for people to express publicly?
Do you feel insecure with me?
Was there any sport you were fond of while growing up?
How often do you go out of your way to help someone?
Do you like to be the life of the party or do you prefer intimate, one on one
conversation?
What is your dearest memory about us?
What untrue thing did you believe for an incredibly long time? What were the
three most important turning points in your life? What animal are you most
afraid of?
How well do you think you would handle prison?
Which of the wonders of the world have you always wanted to see?
Have you seen any of them already?
What are some of the most important things in your life right now?
Are you struggling with anything lately? Is there anything bothering you that you
want to talk about? What’s really bothering you?
What is something many people don’t know about you? What are you most
thankful for? When are you the most confident? Is there something you
stopped doing even though you loved it? What is something you’ve never done
that you’ve always wanted to do?
What is your dream job?
In what areas do you think parents should sacrifice for their children and which
areas should they not?
Are you an introvert or extrovert?
If there was a clone of you who had a completely opposite personality, what
would they be like?
What’s your go-to party story? (if you don’t already know it)
What helps you get a good night's sleep?
What is the longest distance you’ve traveled by car without sleeping?
If you had your own butler, what would you make him do?
What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or 50 emperor penguins?
How would you finish this sentence if you were directing these words at me: “I
wholeheartedly believe that you would make a great ______” or “I hope with all
my heart that you finally _______”?
When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?
How do we handle disagreements related to parenting our children effectively?
What is the best gift you've ever received?
When you wake up in the morning, what’s your first thought?
What are the top five qualities that you hope your children will have?
What TV show did you look forward to watching when you were a child?
What are your favorite ways to learn new skills or knowledge?
How do typically handle the trauma from a big loss whether it is from the death of
a loved one, getting fired or some other big disappointment?
What was the weirdest situation where you had to be polite when you didn’t
want to be?
When’s the last time you pushed out of your comfort zone? How did it make you
feel?
What is the one thing that could make you quit your present job?
What was the biggest mistake that impacted you the most in your life?
If you found out today was your last day on Earth, what would you do?
If you could remain one age forever, how old would you be?
What do we argue about the most?
What or who has influenced your life decisions the most?
Do you think you read too much or too little?
What does a typical work day look like for you?
What’s the meaning of life?
If you came over, and I was in a terrible mood and not really up for conversation,
what would you do?
How do you handle stress, and what can I do to support you?
If you are hurt or crying, how can I comfort you or what do you need?
Have you ever traveled out of the country?
Do you have a passport? When does it expire?
Would you ever take dance lessons with me?
Are there any skills you'd like to learn someday?
What do you feel is your greatest accomplishment in your life?
Does your name have a specific meaning to you and the people around you?
What do you like that most people find strange?
What do you like to do when you are sad?
What one major life regret do you have?
Why did your last relationship end?
Did your family tend to share feelings and emotions when you were growing up?
If you could win a lifetime supply of anything, what would it be?
What is your most treasured memory?
Do you have a bucket list?
How do I make you feel about yourself?
What according to you is your biggest accomplishment?
What’s one of your saddest childhood memories?
At what age do you think you would be too old to have children to really enjoy
them?
Is there anything you consider absolutely unforgivable?
Do you find me sensitive and caring?
What is one thing you would like to change about our friendship (if any)? Why?
What are your favorite foods?
What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?
What do you most wish you’d learned from your mother/father?
If you have something that you really need to do, but you keep forgetting about it,
how should I remind you without being a nag?
What have your friends taught you?
If you could go on any reality competition show, which one would you pick?
Describe a spontaneous and weird thing you’ve done out of sheer boredom.
Is there anything you hope to achieve in your lifetime?
What purchase has meant the most to me recent?
Would you rather take a trip to the beach, the mountains, or an amusement
park?
What's a Jeopardy category you could sweep?
What’s your go-to Netflix recommendation?
What gets you out of bed every morning?
What are your favorite things to do?
What is your number one flaw?
Do you enjoy hugging people? Do you like receiving hugs?
What relationships do you admire?
Do you feel safe in our relationship?
How would you react if I forgot your birthday?
Who was your favorite teacher when you were a child?
What are your strongest personal attributes?
What’s one thing you think I don’t understand about you, and why?
What is an unforgivable action?
What role does your family expect you to play? Do you feel hurt or limited by
that?
If you could go back in time to your teenage self, what would you say?
Do you think I can usually read your body language? Where am I good at it and
what do I usually get wrong?
What did you most enjoy doing with your family when you were a kid?
What’s a skill you want to learn? Can we learn together?
If you could create the perfect job and get paid well for it, what would it be?
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone,
what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told
them yet?
What is a present that you have always wanted?
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved
ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item.
What would it be? Why?
What’s your greatest fear?
What are three goals you have for this year?
What are your top ten goals for your lifetime?
If you had to choose between living in a fully modernized castle (air conditioning,
adequate heating, plumbing, wifi, etc.) by a waterfront and living in a spacious,
light-filled, and beautifully furnished downtown apartment, so you could walk
everywhere, which would you choose?
What’s your pet peeve?
Do you think I am a lot like the other members of my family? How am I like them?
What type of relationship did/do you have with your parents?
What is the worst thing about being a parent (if relevant)?
What’s one thing your friends think is fun that you don’t?
Tell me what you know about your birth story
What’s something I could do that would be embarrassing to me but would make
you feel loved?
How can you let you know you need alone time without hurting my feelings?
What’s your favourite bird?
Is there a smell that instantly relaxes you?
What kind of animal do you see yourself as?
What's the best relationship advice you've ever given?
How have you been feeling about ___ negative situation?
If you had to get a tattoo, what would you get and where would it go?
Did I do anything recently that hurt your feelings?
What do you think about using population control to prevent overcrowding our
planet?
What’s your happiest memory?
How did your family resolve conflicts growing up?
Where do you see yourself in 15 years?
Can you think of anything that would make our life more fun?
What three things are you grateful for today?
What's something you'd like to try doing, but haven't worked up the nerve yet?
How have your past experiences shaped your view of the future?
Are you afraid to grow older or excited?
Are you happy where you’re living now, or do you plan to move?
Name 3 things that most excite your imagination when you imagine doing them?
What’s your favorite memory of us?
What are your career goals 1, 5 and 20 years from now? On average, how many
hours do you work in a given week?
What helps you feel more "you"?
Do you like to be alone most of the time or do you like company always?
What are some of your biggest professional goals?
Do you like roller coasters?
9. When did you realize that your spouse was "the one"?
What are three things you like about yourself?
Are you a balanced person?
If you could go back in time, what age would you be again?
What do you like to do with your friends?
Do you think you would ever have interest in running for a political office?
What is your plan should you decide to leave your job?
Do you sleep with a fan on year-round?
What makes you laugh?
Do you think you could function without a credit card? Have you ever tried?
How do you find balance in your life?
Are you still in touch with your childhood friends?
Do you have any strong preferences on naming your children?
What are the top three things that you love about your present job?
What are a couple of things that you appreciate about our friendship and why do
these things seem significant?
When do you feel most free? When do you feel most joyful?
When do you feel most fulfilled?
When do you feel at peace?
What do you hope to achieve by 50, 60, 70, etc.?
Do you think your pet can also be your friend?
What is the biggest challenge you have faced in your job?
Do you think the best is yet to come for us?
What’s a lesson you learned the hard way, but you’re grateful for?
What's something you're passionate about that you never get to discuss?
If you could go back in time and relive one day in high school, would you?
Cats or dogs?
What was your first thought when we met?
What is your biggest fear? Why?
What could I do that would cause you to pull away from me?
What will you fight for until the day that you die? Would you rather own your
dream home but never be able to travel, or travel but never own your dream
home? What is something you saw someone do that changed the way you
think on a certain subject? What is the craziest dream you’ve had? Apart from
school, what is the best way to get an education? If you were the leader of a
country, what laws would you like to change? What is something weird that you
recommend everyone trying at least once? What is something terrible humans
do that you wish you could change? What do you like to do that is traditionally
considered masculine? When was the last time you had a gut feeling about
something that turned out to be correct? Would you rather constantly hear
others’ opinions of you, or constantly tell others your opinion of them? What
would you do if one day you woke up and you were the last person on Earth? If
you only had one hour left on earth, who would you want to spend it with? If you
could pick how you die, what would it be? What are you most afraid of?
1. When’s the last time you felt vulnerable? How did you cope?
Do you think there are any books or movies I should read or see? Why these?
Do you generally make to do lists? Would you like it or be offended if your mate
helped you make a to do list?
Do you think you are a good influence on your friends or do you think they need
you to be a good influence on them? How are they a bad influence?
Are there any concerns you have about our future together?
Is your business/line of work seasonal? What do you do during the slow periods?
What friends have shaped your life the most?
How do you approach personal challenges?
Do you like to shop online or visit shopping malls?
How have your parents and their relationship impacted your expectations or
needs in our relationship?
If you started a podcast, what would the subject be?
What is one of your greatest fears?
What’s a guilty pleasure that people always misunderstand about you?
When was the last time you called your Mom, just to tell her you love her? Your
Dad?
Do you think it’s better to save money or invest?
How many times a day/week do you take a shower or bath? Do you bathe in the
morning or night?
18. When you just want something easy and comforting to make for dinner, what
do you choose?
Do you think we are made for each other?
What's something surprising that you were afraid of as a child?
Do you have any rooms that are off limits for bringing in food?
Do you have money invested in the stock market? Do you check your stocks
every day? How often do you make trades?
Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner
guest? Would you like to be famous? In what way? Before making a
telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
How do I make you feel when we hang out with my friends?
What would you do if money weren’t an issue?
What would make you feel loved and cared?
You’re going to outer space — what planet do you want to see?
5. How can I be a better friend to you?
Do you feel comfortable sharing your problems with me?
81.Would you like to be an advocate for a certain cause? 82.Upon reflection,
what type of discipline do you believe in (time-out, standing in the corner,
What's your favorite movie of all time?
If you could have one magical power, what would it be?
If your employer saw everything you did at work, what grade would he or she
give you? A B C D or F?
3. Do you think we’ll always be friends?
What luxury do you enjoy treating yourself to?
How often do you think your gut feeling is correct? When can you remember that
it was incorrect?
Do you think it is wise to lend significant amounts of money to
boyfriends/girlfriends? Could it cloud the relationship?
What inspires you to grow and learn?
Is there enough passion in our relationship?
How would you want to decide on what gifts to purchase for your children?
What would you do if your parents raised concerns about your partner?
Do you feel more fulfilled when you're around others, or spending time alone?
If you could change one thing about me, what would that be?
What is your advice for long-distance friendships?
Do you think a couple should split costs?
What makes you feel important?
What’s your favourite candy?
Do you like to have chores scheduled or just do them when they need it (or you
feel like it)?
What music or film genres bring you joy?
19. Has anyone ever mistaken you for someone else — and did they do
something either of you regret?
5. What is your happiest memory?
What is the minimum amount you think you could spend on a wedding and be
happy with it?
20. If you could be driven around everywhere by a chauffeur, what vehicle would
you want that chauffeur to drive?
Is there anything you need help with right now?
What makes you feel gratitude?
How do you show appreciation for people?
4. What is your weirdest fantasy, and what would you do if it came true?
Is there something you’re hoping to achieve in life, and how can I help?
What are ten things on your bucket list?
4. Your spouse takes your hand and pulls you to the dance floor. They say that
the DJ is playing your song. What song is it?
How can we have more intimate conversations?
Do you see yourself having kids? If so, how many?
What is the most thoughtful, caring thing you have ever done?
If you had three wishes, what would you wish for? (excluding more wishes)
25. Based on what you know about me, what do you think would make my life
easier or more fun?
16. Can we talk about our health histories?
Do you usually ask for help or support or do you prefer to fail all on your own?
What is your biggest regret?
Do you consider yourself good with money?
69. What’s your biggest regret? 70. What’s the best thing about your life right
now?
Did you have a pet while growing up?
What makes you lose faith in humanity when you think about it?
What's your love language?
What character quality have you lost as an adult that you wish you still had?
How can you manage stress from your job, so it doesn’t impact our life at home?
39. When you make a resolution, do you stick to it? 41. Would you ever change
careers? 42. Would you ever move out of state? 43. What qualities would you
like in a future partner? 44. Which decade to come do you think will be your
favorite, and why? 45. Would you ever return to school to get a degree?
10. How can we adopt a “growth mindset” when a big life crisis occurs?
11. What’s your favorite karaoke song? 12. What is your go-to Halloween
costume? 13. Who is your big celebrity crush?
What are the top three places that you have traveled to before? Which of these
places would you love to visit again?
What belonging of yours do you think I’d get rid of if I had the opportunity?
What has excited you recently?
Do you believe in soulmates?
Who is your best friend? What about this person makes them so special?
10. If you could live in a TV show, which one would you choose? 11. Do you
have a favorite holiday? 12. What do you think should be a holiday that
currently isn’t? 13. Could you set a world record for anything?
What are some of your current stresses?
If you had to pick a different city to live in with your sweetheart and proximity to
family and friends didn't matter, which city would it be?
Would you make a serious attempt to lose weight if your partner asked you to?
Do you think there's such a thing as "luck," or do we create our own outcomes?
What two things should NEVER go together?
Do you think you could learn some important things from a parenting class?
Would you be willing to go?
Someone once said "A women who does not feel loved needs jewelry, gold and
dazzling gifts to be happy. A woman who truly feels loved finds those gifts to be
superfluous (nice, but not necessary)". Do you agree?
Is there anything you would physically fight for?
Would you let your teenager drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs? If not, how would
you try to keep him or her from doing so?
How do you maintain positive mental health?
What are your biggest worries?
25. If I asked you for an honest opinion that might hurt me, would you tell me the
truth?
What has this friendship taught you about yourself?
What are your favorite songs, books, or movies of all time, and why did they
speak to you so much?
What’s your earliest memory?
9. What do you dislike the most in people? 10. What would be a perfect life for
you?
Can you live in a place that has junk in the yard (broken down vehicles, old
appliances, ratty furniture, etc.)? Does your yard currently have junk in it? What
are your plans for the junk? Would you do everyone a favor and haul it to the
dump this week?
How long do you think you could stay with my parents before you became
unhappy or resentful?
What are the best things about being a parent? (if relevant)
What’s the first thing you noticed about me?
Is there anything you would like to change about yourself?
What do I do that makes you laugh?
If you are stressed, what do you do to destress? If you were to start a business
today, which one would it be?
6. What’s your favorite quality of mine?
48. How would you describe the feeling you get when you share your food with
someone?
10. What do you think my love language is?
How many hours a day is enough for you to spend at work?
17. What do you think about abiding the law vs. following your own moral code?
Do you like planned or spontaneous date nights?
How do you prefer to spend your pastime when you want to refresh yourself?
What are some specific ways we can put our relationship first so our household
isn’t “child centered”?
How often do you feel comfortable having friends in our home?
21. Is there anything more I could do to make sure you know how much I
appreciate having you as a friend?
1. What was your first impression of me when we met?
How many children are you open to having? 60.
9. What’s your all-time favorite memory of us?
Are you terrified of anything fictional? For example, the supernatural or
zombies.
What do you imagine our future house looking like?
Would you ever give up career goals or dreams for love?
450. What does your ideal retirement look like? 451. How do you feel about
taking risks to pursue your dreams? 452. What’s the most important thing you
want to achieve in your lifetime? 453. How do you prioritize different areas of
your life? 454. What are your educational goals? 455. How do you approach
setbacks or failures? 456. What does success look like to you? 457. How do
you feel about the concept of work-life balance?
10. What should we do if we start to lose our emotional closeness?
Do you think we know each other well enough to complete each other’s
sentences?
Do you think I'm living up to my potential?
How could I make your life easier or more comfortable?
What signs should I look for to notice when you're not okay?
Have you ever had to deal with conflict in you family? How did you do it?
What's a song you could sing by heart to me, right now?
Do you have an idol? Do you try to model yourself after him or her in some way?
What makes you feel the most fulfilled? What does your perfect day look like?
What’s the best burger you’ve ever had?
57. What is your long-term goal? 58. What is your biggest regret? 59. What
mistake did you learn the most from? 60. What are you most ashamed of? 61.
Is failing less, equal or more important than succeeding?
When you get married, do you think there would be any changes in your social
circle? Which friendships do you think you would let go and which ones would
you add?
If you could have one human talent that you don’t currently have, what would it
be?
Am I responsive enough to your emotional needs?
When was a time that you felt lonely? What was that like for you? What could
have helped?
Has anything weird happened to you lately?
What are your favorite holidays and why?
How many times during the year do you travel? How many times for business
and how many pleasure vacations?
Has your outlook changed regarding our relationship? If yes, how?
14. What are signs I can look for to know when you aren’t OK?
True or false: My partner really enjoys my achievements and accomplishments
Do you have different advice for nearby relationships?
If you could be any fictional character, who would you be and why?
19. If you could change one thing about our relationship what would it be?
Have you ever had to give up on a dream?
3. Do you have any weird habits that I don’t know about? 4. What was your
favorite part of your day when you were a kid? 5. What was your favorite meal
as a kid? 6. What song reminds you of your childhood? 7. What was your
favorite subject in school? 8. Did you play any sports growing up? 9. What
cultural traditions did you learn as a kid? 10. Who was your best friend as a
child? 11. What was your least favorite book growing up? 12. Did you have an
imaginary friend as a child? 13. What was your favorite snack as a child? 14.
Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? 15. Where is your favorite
place to shop right now? 16. What book(s) are you currently reading? 17.
What TV show are you in the middle of watching? 18. What’s your favorite item
in your wardrobe right now? 19. What message would you put on a billboard
right now, if you could? 20. What’s the coziest thing you own?
Which song describes our love story best?
Who looks after your home when you are away on vacation?
Your house is on fire and you can save 1 of 3 things. Your favorite book, your
good tweezers, or your favorite mug. Which would you choose and why?
Do you have any regrets about any decisions we’ve made?
How often do you see your family? Do you think that's enough or too much?
19. What’s a personality trait you think I could work on?
What makes you feel loved?
Tell me about any famous or interesting people in your family history.
8. What’s the one thing you want to achieve the most before you die?
4. Would you ever consider running for public office?
How much space/time do you need for yourself?
38. What kind of classes do you wish existed when you were going to school?
What do you want to learn more about?
Are there parts of our relationship where you feel neglected or overlooked?
What’s your favorite memory with your dad? How did he make you feel about
yourself?
51. What was your loneliest moment?
Who was your crush as a kid?
Who are you closest to? Your mom or dad? Did you feel loved and accepted by
your parents?
What’s the best way for you to learn new things?
How many hours a week do you usually spend taking care of your yard?
What's your favorite date we've been on?
What is something we should enjoy more because it won't be around for long?
What's a question you wish people would ask more often? What is the saddest
thing about your life that nobody knows? What are you most sentimental
about?
What are your biggest frustrations with me?
If you were married, how would you like to meet new people to socialize with?
If you suddenly became blind, how would your idea of the perfect mate
change?
Is there something about me that you wish you could change?
12. If you were traveling by yourself, where would you go and what would you
do?
What causes you the most worry or frustration about money right now?
359. How do you feel about family gatherings and reunions? 360. What are your
thoughts on parenting styles?
How would you describe yourself?
Do you feel like you waste a lot of time? Do you wish you didn't? Do you feel that
your partner wastes a lot of time? Does that bother you?
What do you find exciting in your life right now?
What’s something that you used to believe about relationships, but no longer do?
How would you like to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
If you are having a hard day, how will you let me know, and how would you like
me to respond?
Who are you closest to?
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner
guest?
How do i show that I care about you without telling you?
40. What would you be willing to give up to achieve your dreams? 41. What’s
the best way to support you when you’re having a hard time? 42. What would
you eat for your last meal? 43. If you had the opportunity to be immortal, would
you take it? 44. What’s one cultural tradition you want to pass on to your kids?
45. What do you hope will change in society down the line? 46. What fear
would you like to overcome? 47. In three words, how would you describe your
future self? 48. If your home caught on fire, what would you try to save?
How should we communicate to the extended family about our new family
traditions and create our family boundaries?
How often do you balance your checkbook?
18. What are your political views and ideals?
381. What is your dream job and why? 382. How do you handle work-related
stress? 383. What are your long-term career goals? 384. How do you define
success in your profession? 385. What do you enjoy most about your current
job? 386. How do you balance work and personal life? 387. What professional
accomplishment are you most proud of? 388. How would you handle a
disagreement with a coworker? 389. What skills would you like to develop or
improve for your career? 390. Have you ever considered starting your own
business? 391. What motivates you to work hard? 392. How do you feel
about continuous learning in your field? 393. What’s your ideal work
environment? 394. How do you approach teamwork and collaboration?
What is the weirdest fact you know?
How do you feel about eco-friendly travel?
What is something you learned early that your friends didn’t?
Would you rather be the damsel in distress or the hero to save the day?
What song would you want to be played at your funeral?
Do you tend to buy luxury items or are you frugal with your money?
Do you show up at the airport early or right before boarding time? What's one
hobby you've never tried but would like to?
What does my family do that annoys you?
Are you confrontational?
Do you think you have ever been "used" for money?
4. Have you ever cheated on a partner?
What makes you feel fulfilled and gives you purpose?
What steps are you willing to take to heal from the past?
Which color would you use if you were to dye your entire hair?
Would you rather take a one-week $5000 vacation or would you rather go on
three different one-week vacations that cost $1700 each?
23. What relationship shaped you the most when you were growing up?
Look in your wallet. How many credit cards do you have? Do you need that
many?
18. What’s your biggest fear now? 19. How would you describe your current
emotional state? 20. What are you grateful for today? 21. What’s your biggest
insecurity? 22. What’s been occupying your mind the most lately? 23. What’s
your current relationship with your siblings? 24. What’s something that reminds
you of home? 25. What is something you need more of in your life right now?
26. What do you think would make your life better? 27. Do you believe we all
have a purpose? 28. Do you believe in a higher power? 29. What qualities do
you value most in a friend? 30. What value does friendship have in your life?
31. Do you worry about your future, or take things as they come?
Will robots take over our jobs in the future?
Who's your favorite person in your life?
Am I free to talk with you about anything?
14, If you had the chance to play a role in a movie with one of your favorite
actors, but it involved a kissing scene, would you say “Yes.” Or would you rather
just sit down with this actor and chat for half an hour over coffee (or something
else)?
20. Do you consciously give preference to what’s trendy and fashionable, or to
what’s obscure and rather unknown?
14. Do you usually follow your head or your heart when making decisions?
What is your least favorite color?
13. Who was the last person to make you cry? What do you wish this person
would have said to you?
What does your dream date night look like?
How do you approach lifelong learning or self-education?
31. Could you bring yourself to kill someone to save a friend’s life? What if the
person you had to kill was innocent?
If you and your mate have significantly different levels of education, do you feel
that it is hard to have a conversation on a level that is interesting and stimulating
to you?
What makes you feel most fulfilled in our relationship?
What are your favorite things to spend money on?
23. When was the last time you tried to talk to me about something that was
bothering you, and I did or said something that made you decide not to?
Do you see yourself getting married? What is one thing about your life you
would never change for someone else, including me? What about us do you
think works well together? How do we balance each other out?
Overall, how satisfied are you with your boss? Do you always seem to have
"bad" bosses?
50. Do you ever imagine yourself in very negative, but unlikely scenarios? For
example in prison, or severely disabled, or maybe doing things you would never
actually do in reality.
How were you shown affection as a child? Do you think you will show your
children affection the same way or differently? What do you think is the best
way?
What’s your favourite type of tree?
Are there duties or chores that you don't think you would do in a marriage? (take
out the trash, mow the lawn, clean bathrooms, iron, etc)
2. What have you accomplished in the past year that you are most proud of?
Is it stealing if you keep someone’s pen?
What is one thing I do that makes you happy? What does a happy life look like to
you?
How do you see yourself in five years? What’s your job? Where do we live?
Is there anything that makes you feel homesick, nostalgic or sentimental?
Are you more of a morning or night person?
What is the longest road trip that you have ever been on?
What do you think is the most romantic thing you've ever done in our
relationship?
7. What is on your bucket list that we can do together this year?
How do you typically cope with grief or loss?
If we didn’t live in this city, where would you like to live?
10. What's one of your happiest childhood memories? 11. What brought you
happiness as a child? 12. What brought you happiness in your teenage years?
13. What are some places that make you feel relaxed and calm? 14. When
was a time you felt truly appreciated by a friend?
Do you think you are a fairly typical man/woman in the way you think, act and
believe?
21. Could you commit suicide if you knew it would save the lives of 100 other
people? 200 people? 5000? 100000?
How can we become better friends to each other?
Do you take your pets with you on short trips? Long vacations? Do you put them
in a kennel or have a friend watch them?
How would you spend $50,000 (fifty thousand dollars)? What’s draining your
energy at the moment? What important lesson did you learn recently? What’s
your least favourite chore? What (semi-realistic) car would you love to buy
next?
Have you ever saved for a major expense or purchase or have you always put it
on credit?
Who do you think should go to parent/teacher conferences?
Do you like to throw holiday parties or dinners? What do you usually do?
Do you find it difficult to compromise on things?
What temperature do you like it in the house during the winter? Summer?
What was the fondest memory you had while growing up as a child?
You’ve been through a lot lately, what can I do to pamper you this weekend? Spa
day? Picnic? Takeout and movies? Day trip to your favorite art museum?
what age would you be? And yes, I mean any age. 2. If you could choose
between living for 1,000 years and living for only 50,
Would you consider yourself a pessimist or an optimist?
What is the craziest thing you've ever done?
What is on your bucket list this year?
Do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one that
was full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?
Could you be in a long distance relationship?
What's the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for you?
What do you think makes me smile?
Do you think I'm your end game?
If you and your spouse worked, who would take care of any children you had?
Have I ever behaved in such a way around someone that made you feel
uncomfortable?
What do you think about balancing work and family life?
1. What’s your favorite childhood memory? 2. How would you describe your
childhood home? 3. Who was your first celebrity crush? 4. What was your first
dream job, and is it still your dream job? 5. What’s your earliest memory? 6.
Have you ever had a “life-changing” moment? If so, what was it? 7. What was the
first concert you ever went to?
What’s a song you like from a genre or band you don’t like?
What do I say or do that really pushes your buttons?
If you could change anything about your past, what would it be?
Do you like getting breakfast in bed?
What do you wish I did differently during arguments?
22. If you could go back and tell your childhood self something, what would it
be?
Do you think you want any (more) children? How soon?
31. If you were to invent a new word, what would it be and what would it mean?
Do you sing in the shower?
39. What do you think about the current younger generation? 40. Do you have
a hard time giving honest critique to someone you love?
What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
What are some things you learned about marriage from your parents?
9. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
On weekends how late do you like to stay out? On work nights?
If you were paid a salary to work for any one charity for an entire year, which
charity would you choose?
Have your grandparents taught you anything really important or profound?
What was your nickname as a kid?
5. Where do you see yourself living when you retire?
Who has been the most positive influence on you thus far? How did they change
the course of your life?
5. What’s one difference between us that you absolutely love?
When last did you feel awe and what happened? If you could have dinner with
any celebrity, dead or alive, who would it be? If you could teleport anywhere in
the world right now, where would you go? What social norms do you wish
would disappear? If you could take one photo of your life, what would it look
like? What would be the top 10 items on your bucket list?
If you get a pet for your children and they don't take care of it, who will be
responsible for cleaning up after it, feeding it and walking it?
When you're gone when you want to be remembered for?
If you didn't receive any gifts for Christmas (or the major holiday you celebrate)
how would you feel?
24. What stops you from lying and stealing? Would you do it if you knew for sure
you’d never get caught?
2. If you could steal one thing from my closet for yourself, what would it be?
What are your beliefs about God or a higher power?
What’s your favourite drink? Where do you see yourself in five years? 236.
What’s your favourite channel?
What is the one superpower you would love to have?
Which of your personality traits do you wish you could change?
How important is it that you spend the holidays with your spouse and young
children?
What's something I could do to be a better spouse?
How do you think other people perceive you?
65. Do you ever feel like a child?
Describe your getting ready for work/getting ready for bed ritual.
Have I ever made you feel less for being a woman? How?
If someone decided that they really don't see a happy long-term relationship with
you, how would you want them to end it?
What do your parents do for a living?
What is your ultimate goal?
Who is the sacrificing partner?
20. Who is your favorite fictional character and why?
If you were an animal what animal would you be?
If you could make any three changes to our school systems, what would they be?
What do you think is the common link among all (or at least most) of your
friends? (School, Work, Personality, Hobbies, etc.)
What's your favorite chain restaurant?
Have you ever performed on stage in a band, a play or other performance? How
did it make you feel?
Are you satisfied with what you do for a living?
What are your deepest dreams and desires for yourself and for us?
14. What do you consider your greatest accomplishment so far? 15. What do you
wish people knew about you? 16. What do you think love is? 17. Is there a
question you’ve always wanted to ask me?
What made you realize that your parents were just human like everyone else?
Are you friends with your coworkers?
How do you prioritize personal growth alongside other life responsibilities?
361. How would you describe our communication style? 362. What are your
love languages, and how do you express them? 363. How do you handle
conflicts or disagreements?
How are our spending and saving habits complementary?
What is your favourite personality trait of yours?
What's the most romantic thing I've ever said to you?
What's your least favorite type of food?
27. Is it more important to believe or to know?
9. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done?
1. Who would your spouse say is the “better catch”?
1. If you could pick an age and just stay that age for as long as you’re alive,
What school subjects did you like and hate most when you were in school? What
unique game of pretend did you frequently play as a child? What movie
seriously scarred you as a child or as an adult? What irrational fears did you
have as a child?
What is the one thing that you are looking forward to, of which I am a part?
What do you think has been my go-to snack during this time?
Have you changed your mind about anything recently? What has been your
earliest recollection of happiness? What lesson took you the longest to un-learn?
Are you lying to yourself about anything?
32. Is there anything you’d wait in line for over 10 hours to see or get?
What are your worst nightmares?
If your great uncle left you $100,000 in his will with the stipulation that you had to
invest it for 15 years before you could touch it, what would you do with the
money? Be as specific as possible.
What is something small that we can do daily for each other to make our lives
better? How much space / alone time should people in a relationship give each
other? What questions should partners ask each other before getting married?
What do I do that makes you the happiest?
When is the best time for us to resolve conflict?
12. What was your best birthday and how did you celebrate?
If you could be skilled at any art form, what would it be?
How do you define a loving relationship?
What do you do when you're bored?
What are the top three things on your bucket list?
Have you ever gone scuba diving? If not, would you want to and where?
Do you remember your dreams when you wake up?
What triggers you to crave alone time?
Do you enjoy hosting out of town guests in your home? If so, how long?
23. If you only had those two options, would you rather make all drugs illegal, or
make all of them made legal?
Why did your last romantic relationship end and what did this relationship teach
you?
16. What’s one secret you’ve wanted to tell me, but haven’t?
What's the most awkward social situation you've been in? What is something
that scares you on a daily basis? When was the last time you cried? What's
the most peaceful/restful night of sleep you've had? What's the most
dangerous, thrill-seeking thing you would consider doing? What's your biggest
regret?
37. How do you plan to spend your retirement? 38. What’s one dish you really
want to learn how to make? 39. What skill would you like to improve as you get
older?
What do you think we have in common?
18. What song do you listen to the most often? 19. What’s something your
friends think is fun but you really don’t? 20. Indoor or outdoor activities? 21. Do
you have a favorite scent? 22. Who do you think your celebrity doppelganger
is? 23. Do you have a favorite nickname? 24. What was your worst haircut?
If you would earn only 70% of your current wages, would you take a job that gave
you 100% professional fulfillment?
Have friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
If I thought we needed help keeping our finances under control and suggested a
“debt counselor” would you go with me?
What assumption did you make about me that turned out to be false?
How do you feel about friends, relatives or people in need living in your house for
a year?
Do you like celebrating your birthday?
15. When was a time you felt truly appreciated by a boss or coworker? 16. What
kinds of activities bring you joy?
What was the biggest lesson from your worst breakup?
Do you think that luck has much to play in your life?
What is an unforgivable action?
Do you see yourself as worthy of love? Why or why not? What is your greatest
disappointment?
Are you allergic to animals? If your fiancé was allergic to your pets, would you be
willing to give them away to a good home?
What’s an unpopular opinion of mine that I hesitate to share with others?
Would you rather be a vampire or a werewolf?
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
What was your childhood like?
31. If you could trade places with one celebrity for a day, who would it be and
why?
2. What’s the worst advice? 3. Who was your role model growing up? 4.
What’s your proudest moment? 5. When have you felt the most challenged?
6. Who has been a big influence on you? 7. What’s the hardest lesson you’ve
ever had to learn? 8. Who was your first kiss with, and did you enjoy it? 9.
Who was your first love, and why did you love them? 10. What was your first
heartbreak, and what happened? 11. What’s been your greatest
accomplishment in life? 12. What was your experience in high school like? 13.
How did your parents meet? 14. What did you think adulthood was like in your
teens? 15. What’s something you’ve done that you didn’t expect to do at this
age? 16. What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned on your own? 17. What
rating would you give your current job, on a scale of one to 10? 18. Who was the
last person you talked to on the phone? 19. Tell me about the last date you
went on. How did it go?
When did you last cry in front of another person or by yourself?
If you could create a non-profit, what cause would you support?
What are your thoughts on adopting children if you were unable to have children
of our own? Would you adopt even if you could have children? Would you prefer
surrogate motherhood or fatherhood to adoption?
Do you talk to yourself?
What does your ideal birthday celebration look like?
What's on your bucket list?
What type of social situation makes
Do you ever wish I could read your mind? When?
Would you prefer to live all around the world, or stay in one place?
What’s your least favourite animal?
If you were given $50,000 to throw a party for all of your friends, what sort of
party would you put together?
Serious Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
What do you wish was different about our relationship?
like your hobby would you cut back significantly so you could enjoy more
things together?
What role do you think our families should play in our lives?
10. What do you believe will happen to you when you die?
What's your biggest fear? Could you ever face it?
Who is your least favorite relative? Do you try to avoid him or her?
If you could eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
28. Do you believe in monogamy?
What toy played the most significant part in your childhood? What are some of
your earliest memories?
What are you really good at?
How much debt do you think a couple should shoulder themselves with the first
year or two of marriage given that financial problems early in a marriage is one of
the leading causes of divorce?
True or false: My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship
11. If you could instantly speak any second (or third, etc.) language as fluently as
your first, what would that language be and why?
What do you like the most about my personality?
Were you always getting in trouble for a particular thing when you were a child?
What part of yourself are you working on at the moment?
What is something you did as a teenager that your parents never learned
about?
How often do you think a bathroom needs to be cleaned? Have you ever cleaned
a toilet?
If you could take any kind of class, what would it be?
What do you do to take care of yourself?
Do you think you have dated/have seriously known enough people to know for
certain when a great match comes along?
If you could open a business what type of business would you open?
Do you like your last name? If you don't like it, would you consider changing it?
What gets you out of bed in the morning?
Is there anything I do that makes you feel I don’t put you ahead of my extended
family?
What’s the first thing you do when you have the house all to yourself?
Do you like it when friends feel comfortable enough to drop by unexpectedly?
Where do you think you will be ten years from now?
How clean do you keep your house?
If you were given a chance to choose a superpower, which would it be?
Do you love watching documentaries? What is your preferred one?
3. If you had one word to describe our friendship what would it be?
After you have used a towel, where do you put it? How often do you feel that
towels should be replaced with fresh ones? Would you want to share your mate's
towel or have your own?
What do you think [insert country here] should change about its foreign policy?
After a horrible day, would you prefer a nice dinner out or a cozy movie night?
True or false: I am really proud of my partner
What’s the best relationship advice you’ve been given?
23. Do you believe in karma? If so, how do you think it works?
If you just found out that you and your mate were expecting a child, how would it
make you feel? How do you think your relationship would change as a result?
Where would you like to be in five years?
17. If you had to wear one outfit every day for the rest of your life, what would it
be?
Where do you want to travel next? Where’s your favourite place to walk? How
do you deal with conflict and how do I deal with conflict?
Who is your favourite relative?
1. What’s the weirdest thing you believed as a kid? 2. If you could relive any
moment in your life, would you? Which one?
What are our priorities?
5. What did you dream about last night? Or what is the weirdest, most
memorable dream you’ve ever had?
In what ways do you feel really blessed?
4. Have you ever been caught in a compromising situation?
12. If you could change one thing in history, what would it be?
How do you compare yourself to your mother/father/caregiver?
What were you teased about when you were younger? How did that make you
feel? Did you tease others?
13. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?
26. If you knew that you were to die soon, what would you do?
How old do you feel?
Do you feel completely free to talk with me about anything?
10. What do we agree we will never say or do in front of our children?
Do you allow anyone to smoke in your house?
What goals do you have for our relationship?
Have you ever been camping? What was your favorite part?
How long was your longest relationship? Do you regret staying in it that long?
Do you think of yourself more as a leader or a follower?
17. What family member did you most admire when you were a child?
Are you a coupon collector? Do you sometimes get fanatical about saving money
on groceries?
What is one phrase you wish people would stop using?
24. Do you have a favorite sibling?
If you partner started breaking things or hitting walls because he or she lost their
temper, what would you do? What if your partner hit or verbally abused you?
What are your thoughts on crying?
45. Do you think bullies often see themselves as bullies? 46. What was the
most recent moment that changed your life in a major way?
What gave you the most joy when you were young?
What is your favourite smell?
What is your favorite genre of music, and which singer do you like the most?
Can you have good conversations with someone you were just introduced to?
Are you able to fall asleep with the lights on? TV on?
How have I changed since we started dating?
7. If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first?
10. How can I help and support you to achieve that one thing?
1. If you were an animal, what kind of animal would you be?
Is there a place that you love that you'd like to show me one day?
Were you lying to yourself about anything during your last relationships? If so,
what was it?
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What's the most memorable conversation you ever had with a stranger? What's
the most bizarre conversation you've overheard?
17. If you had to choose between a celebrity and a robot or your favorite book,
what would you choose?
Do you think we have changed as individuals over the years?
7. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t
you done it?
If money weren't a concern, what kind of house or apartment would you love to
buy?
When you travel, what is your usual goal (relax, sight see, see friends/family, do
culture things, eat at new restaurants, etc.)?
Who was your best childhood friend while growing up?
What do I do that makes you feel loved?
What small pleasures do you enjoy the most? Who is the most irritating person
you know? What has been your biggest screw up so far? What have you
struggled with your entire life? What is the most significant change you would
like to make in your life? What do you want out of life?
How do you like to show up for your friends?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
What is one secret you've never told anyone?
6. Do you ever wish you’d handled a situation differently? How do you wish you’d
handled it?
What colors have you dyed your hair?
What do you look forward to experiencing with me?
30. What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled on someone?
2. What do you most want to accomplish in your life? 3. What do you see in
yourself that you dislike when you see it in other
If you could change one thing about the way you look, what would it be?
What bad habits do you lie about or omit most often?
What is your favorite memory with me?
If you were given three things to make you happy, what would these be?
What seems to be the recurring theme or themes in our conflict?
What food or drink could you never live without?
What are some qualities you love in your friends and family?
How important is it for individuals in a relationship to maintain their own separate
identity? What makes our relationship better than other relationships? What do
you think our life will look like in 10 years? What do you think would bring us
closer together as a couple?
What's been your happiest memory this past year?
If you had a million dollars to give to any charity, what type of charity would you
give it to?
If you could name the title of a book or movie about your life, what would it be?
Do you feel free to express your emotions with me?
Have you ever felt that a promotion has been given to someone else when you
were much more deserving? How did you handle it?
What do you think could be the greatest weakness in a relationship that partners
have to combat?
When did you last belly laugh?
Complete this statement: Thank you for...
Where should our next trip be?
What is your definition of making a clear difference in your career path?
13. What is something irrational that you’ve wanted to do but never done? 14.
What magical power would you like to possess? 15. Where are you when you
feel the most safe and comfortable? 16. Would you donate an organ to
someone you love?
If you had to be famous, what would you want to be famous for? Do you think
fame would be a good thing or a bad thing for your relationship?
What do you think strangers think about you just by looking at you?
If you had to select three possessions to represent your personality what would
they be?
Would you rather be mute, blind or deaf? Which of the three would be the
worst?
If you and your mate decide to get a hot tub or a pool in the future, who would be
responsible for cleaning it?
How do we decide how to spend our money? Do we have free reign to spend
whatever we want as long as it is "my money" or is there an amount ($100, $500,
$5,000) at which we need to discuss before making a purchase?
Do you feel free to be yourself and express yourself with me? If not, why?
What world record do you think you could set?
395. What’s the most exciting place you’ve ever been to? 396. If you could
travel anywhere in the world, where would it be? 397. What are the top three
places on your travel bucket list? 398. Do you prefer traveling alone or with
others? 399. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done while traveling?
400. How do you feel about spontaneous trips?
13. Your spouse asks you to grab them a treat from the store on your way home.
What do you buy?
Is it better to trust people or not trust people? And why?
If you had huge financial losses and had to liquidate all of your possessions
including your car and home, what would that do to your self-esteem?
True or false: My partner really enjoys my achievements and accomplishments
When was the last time I remember being mean to someone? Why did I act this
way?
What is your first childhood memory?
What do you dream of owning?
What's your dream job?
What is the one thing you would not change about yourself?
7. What was your favorite book in high school? What’s your favorite book now?
Do you enjoy attending workshops, conferences, or seminars?
How did you choose your major in college?
What if you were offered $10 million dollars to break up with me? Would you take
it? If not, is there an amount you would take?
Have you made any decisions that will shape the rest of your life?
What lies do you most often tell yourself?
Haveyoueverhadacrushonsomeoneyoushouldn’thaveieaTeacher,afriend?
Do you think people are made for each other?
27. Is there ANYTHING that’s too serious to joke about? What would that be?
What should I do if I need you to talk more to me?
Are you comfortable with my parents?
Do you like sentimental gifts or practical ones?
When you really don't feel like talking to me, why is that?
What about me suprised you the most?
What’s your favourite outfit on me?
1. Where do you see yourself in five years?
How much do you think a spouse should inform his or her mate regarding their
schedule and whereabouts?
6. What’s your favorite special occasion meal? 7. If you wrote a book, what
would the topic be? 8. Are there any songs you know every single word to? 9.
Cats or dogs?
What’s one of your biggest worries about our future?
If you had an ice cream flavor for a name, what would it be?
What if you could relive one day in your life? Which would it be and why?
Did you go to college? Where? What degree(s) did you get, if any? Do you think
your education has paid off? How?
20. If you had to choose, would you rather harm yourself, or others around you?
If you could choose one superpower, what would it be and why?
Complete this statement: I’m proud of you because...
Do you consider yourself successful?
What was the most important lesson of your life?
26. What’s your favorite and least favorite genre of music?
If you had three pieces of advice for your current employer, what would they
be?
15. What would you like to do outdoors that you have not done before? Are there
any extreme sports that you’d like to try?
Do you enjoy doing yard work? Do you expect your mate to help you with the
yard work? Or for them to do it without you?
What does your ideal weekend look like?
Do you have a "special place"? Why is it so meaningful to you? Why do you feel
that you are trustworthy?
Do you believe in soulmates?
Where do you really want to live?
How would you spend $500,000 (five hundred thousand dollars)?
What is your ideal wedding ceremony?
What do you want people to feel when they’re around you?
How can I support you in taking care of yourself?
Which of us has the best skills at paying the bills and keeping track of our
expenses? Which of us has the best skills for investing our money?
What is the worst decision you ever made?
If you had children, what role would you want the stepparent to play? If you were
a stepparent, what role would you like to play?
What's something your family thinks is normal that everyone else thinks is weird?
How would you describe falling in love?
What do you think makes the difference between a good parent and a great
parent?
How important is it for you to pursue your individual passions and hobbies?
6. Have you ever given up on a dream? What was it? 7. How has your
relationship with your parents changed? 8. Have your values changed over
time? 9. Would your younger self be proud of where you are in life now? 10.
Have you ever been bullied? 11. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve ever
made? 12. If you could change one thing about yourself, would you? 13. Have
you ever had to break up with a friend? What was it like?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might
handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be
feeling about the problem you have chosen.
How soon would you like to move out of our first (or current) home? Next year?
Five years? After the kids move out? Never?
10. How have you been feeling lately?
What are your thoughts on online dating apps?
What’s the most fascinating thing you’ve learned recently?
429. What hobbies do you enjoy the most? 430. How did you discover your
favorite hobbies? 431. Are there any hobbies you’d like to try together? 432.
What do you like to do to relax and unwind? 433. How do you stay motivated to
pursue your interests? 434. What’s your favorite way to be creative? 435.
How do you feel about trying new and unfamiliar hobbies? 436. What books,
shows, or movies are you currently into? 437. How do you balance your
hobbies with other responsibilities? 438. What’s something you loved doing as a
child that you still enjoy? 439. How do you discover new hobbies or interests?
440. What hobbies do you think are underrated or overlooked? 441. How do
you feel about competitive hobbies? 442. Do you have any hobbies that you
like to share with friends?
What’s on your bucket list?
What’s your favourite colour?
Tell me about the most emotional cry that you can recall.
Would you rather have a private island or private jet?
Which of your parents are you most like and in what ways?
Do you like any activities that are daring or risky?
If you and your mate each have an income and maintain separate accounts, how
do you split the costs of a vacation?
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22. What are your favorite things to spend money on? 23. Who are you most
envious of?
20. What family member do you feel closest to?
What’s your favourite thing that I wear to bed?
If you were given an all-expense paid ticket to anywhere in the world, where
would you go to?
Would you go out of the way to help someone?
2. How have your parents impacted your view of love and relationships?
What's your ideal way to spend a vacation? What makes you dislike a person?
Do you think you are a confident person? Why or why not? What about
yourself are you most proud of? What would the best version of you be like?
What life experiences did you miss out on? When are you the most "you"?
How did you fall out with some of your previously close friends? Are you happy
with the people you surround yourself with? Why or why not? What musical
instrument do you wish you could play? When has a mundane occurrence or
chance completely changed the course of your life? What is the nicest
compliment you've received? What age would you like to live to? If you could
travel to any country in the world for one month, where would you go? What is
your favorite memory of someone who isn't in your life anymore? How
superstitious are you? What has been a recurring theme in your life? What
was your most inappropriate or embarrassing fart? What do you think happens
after death? What are your top 5 rules for life? What's your favorite thing in
your / our house?
What was your worst job?
How do you usually spend the "big" holidays? Do you do so mainly out of
tradition or because you really enjoy celebrating it that way?
What’s the most extreme example of poverty you have ever seen?
15. What’s something you’d do if you know you’d get away with it and no one
would never know that it was you?
What’s your philosophy on money, and how should we manage it as a couple?
If you wanted to become a one-income household after the birth of your child,
what lifestyle changes would need to take place?
What are you most grateful for in your life?
Where do you want to live when we retire?
When you are out of balance, what do you need from me?
What do we need to do to plan and prepare should one of us die unexpectedly?
What makes you feel empowered?
14. How do you want to be remembered?
What would you like to buy next for your home?
Do you enjoy traveling with groups or a more intimate setting?
What's a movie or book that always brings you joy?
How should we tackle disagreements about faith or spirituality?
Second hand smoke is one of the leading causes of cancer and breathing related
illnesses. Will you allow anyone to smoke around your children? If you smoke
now would you make a serious attempt to quit before having children?
Who is someone in your life that you want to be like when you are older? What
is the earliest memory that you have? What does happiness mean to you?
What is your ideal night?
Who in your family tends to dismiss or belittle you? What do you do when that
happens?
What did you learn from your last relationship? What was the hardest thing that
you ever had to get through as a kid? Have you ever felt like giving up in the
past? What is an innocent mistake you made that had dramatic consequences?
Has anyone ever broken your trust beyond repair? Looking back on your life,
what have you done that has given you the most satisfaction? Is there
someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time that you miss? How do you
measure success? If our relationship ended, what is the one thing about it you
would miss the most? What do you think was your most vulnerable moment in
our relationship? What is the most courageous thing you have ever done?
What is your biggest passion? Do you find it hard to trust people? Is there
ever a good excuse to tell a lie? What is one thing you want to accomplish
together by this time next year? What is something you failed badly at? Would
your younger self be proud of what you’ve achieved so far? What was an
aspiration you had when you were younger that you no longer want to achieve?
What do you do when heartbroken? What do you think is your biggest
strength in this relationship? What is one thing about your parents’ relationship
that you seek to emulate? Have you ever loved someone who didn’t love you
back? Are relationships meant to last forever? What is one thing you think
makes our relationship unique from everyone else’s?
Have you ever been fired before, and how was the experience like?
Do you think your parents are/were racist? How did that affect the way you think
about people of other races?
8. When I’m sad, what makes me feel better?
What’s your favourite place abroad?
Do you wish I was more affectionate?
34. If you could legally marry an inanimate object, what would it be and why?
Would you rather spend a week in New York City or Los Angeles?
Which of your personality traits do you wish you could change?
3. If your significant other lost his/her job and decided to just not work anymore,
what would you do?
What if we were stranded on a desert island together? How do you think we’d
fare?
How do you feel about pets being in the bedroom or sleeping on your bed?
If you didn’t have the job you have now, what would be your dream career?
When, where, and how long was the best road trip you’ve ever taken?
Do you collect anything? How long have you been collecting? Why do you
collect?
What would be your approach if one of us fell seriously ill?
21. What’s one thing about your life you would never change for someone else,
including me?
Who is more likely to survive the Hunger Games—me or you?
Do you think we're good at apologizing after arguments?
Did their love leave you feeling good most of the time? if not, what was the
dominant feeling they left you with?
What dating advice would you give to somebody about to enter their first
relationship?
How often should a couple argue or fight to maintain a healthy relationship?
2. If you could change anything about your past, would you and what would it
be?
If we could go on a date anywhere in the world, where would you pick and what
would we do?
What qualities do I admire in others?
7. Have you ever been arrested for anything? 8. Are you afraid of dying? 9. If
you could change one thing about your body, what would it be? 10. Do you have
a bad habit you wish you could change?
Should Pluto still be considered a planet?
What emotion do you experience most frequently?
294. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to? 295. Do you enjoy alone
time?
What's the best trip you've ever taken?
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your travels?
If you had a day to yourself with nothing that had to be done, how would you
pamper yourself?
What was your bravest moment?
How do you keep a positive attitude during tough times?
Does your family have any cultural or religious beliefs/traditions I should know
about?
Do you keep things that have no real use and will probably never been used
again (old newspapers, magazines, broken appliances, etc.)? Would you be
willing to throw out or let your mate help you go through your "junk" if the clutter
began to affect your relationship?
Is there something you need to talk about? 7. If something was wrong between
us, would you tell me?
9. Have you been happy with life lately?
Have you ever considered going back to school or taking up additional studies?
1. What does your perfect day look like? 2. If you could swap lives with anyone,
who would it be and why? 3. What does your dream home look like? 4. If you
could paint a room any color, which one would you choose? 5. What’s your
coffee order? 6. How would you spend a million dollars? 7. What is on your
bucket list? 8. What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken? 9. What’s the best
compliment you’ve ever received?
If you had a son, would you want him to be circumcised? Why? Have you read
any literature on the pros/cons of circumcision?
What kind of parent do you think you will be?
What's your favorite holiday food?
Tell me about your friends. What are they like? Do you have a BFF?
Do you believe in heaven and hell?
Do you think we share the same love languages?
hy or why not? How should we do it? .What is one thing that I do that makes
you crazy? .What did I do today that made you feel appreciated? .If we
eliminated physical attraction from our relationship, what would be left? 67.When
are you proud of me? .What do you like most about my body? .How should I
bring concerns about our relationship to your attention from now on? 70.How do
you know when I’m mad? What is the best way for me to show that I love you?
.Who are you most like in your family? .What family member (outside your
nuclear family) were you closest to growing up? 74.What did your family teach
you about relationships? .What did your family teach you about love? .What
core values did your family espouse?
What one skill do you wish you had learned but haven't yet (Play the piano?
Learn a foreign language? Fly a plane? Etc.)?
What mode of transportation do you prefer to travel by? A plane, private car, or a
train?
Are you a night owl or an early bird?
Do you write important dates such as birthdays and anniversaries in your
calendar? Do you use a calendar? Do you usually remember those dates?
Would you like to enroll in a couple’s dance class?
How would you react if a stranger whispered in your ear?
Do you have the self-control to only spend each month what you can pay off? Or
do you always carry balances on your credit cards?
32. What do you think about veganism as a moral movement?
6. What do you do when no one else is around that you’d rather most people
didn’t know about?
Have you ever worked really hard at something but it didn't pay off in the end?
Do you usually follow your head or your heart?
7. Have you ever been caught cheating on a test or in a game? 8. What’s the
most outrageous thing you’ve done to get someone’s attention? 9. What’s the
riskiest thing you’ve ever done on a first date? 10. What’s the most seductive
thing you’ve ever worn to a party? 11. Have you ever been caught in a lie by
someone important to you? 12. What’s the craziest moment of jealousy you’ve
had?
10. What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned from past partners?
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What acts of kindness from me mean the most to you?
Have you ever felt like giving up on our relationship? What made you stay?
13. What talent or skill do you have that you wish paid really well?
Which significant other before me bad the biggest impact on you?
How well do you think we communicate? What adventure would you like to go
on with me? What's the best relationship advice you've received? What are
some things you really like about me? What do you think the hardest thing
about marriage/being in a relationship is? What can I do to most help us? What
do you see as your role in our relationship? What would be a deal breaker for
our relationship, something you couldn't forgive?
Complete this statement: You show that you put me first when you...
When we have enough money, would you like to buy possessions or travel?
What does friendship mean to you?
What's something you never realized about yourself until someone else told you?
If you could live in any historical era, which would you pick?
29. Have you ever had a crush on a cartoon character, and, if so, who?
What are you most thankful for?
How would you rank the following in importance: family, career, love life?
Do you make your bed every morning?
On a typical day/night out with your friends, what do you do?
What things about me make you know I’m the one for you?
Is there a fantasy of yours that you would like me to fulfill?
10. What’s your favorite karaoke song? 11. What are your favorite things to do
with friends? 12. Which animal would you be? 13. Have you ever faked sick
and stayed home from school? 14. Do you have a middle name and is there a
story behind it? 15. How do you like to relax at night? 16. Night owl or early
bird? 17. What is your ideal breakfast order?
How many siblings do you have, and what are their names?
Do you think your partner can listen to you and do something else (like watch TV
or read the paper) at the same time? Can you?
Are there things that are easier to discuss with your friends than your partner?
If you were on a dating game show, what questions would you ask?
1. What’s your favorite memory of us together? 2. Have we ever had a
heart-to-heart talk before? 3. How was today for you work-wise? 4. What was
your favorite part about today? 5. Why did you choose this color to paint your
nails? 6. What’s your favorite season and why? 7. What’s your favorite
perfume? 8. Why did you choose to wear your hair this way? 9. Do you collect
anything? If so, why?
If we hadn’t met each other, where would you be right now?
18. What are you most proud of? Or when did you last feel overwhelmed with
pride in yourself or in someone else?
What's the best gift you've ever received?
Do you believe that life after death is possible?
What is the bare minimum you expect in a home?
17. What was your first or most memorable thought when you first met me? 18.
When we met, what made you think I’d be a good friend?
What are our family priorities?
33. What does love mean to you?
7. What’s the worst heartbreak I’ve ever experienced in your opinion?
I love when you wear __. Will you wear that to our date tonight?
How do you feel about online courses or virtual learning?
Do you ever imagine what our life would look like together in the future?
56. How would you deal with betrayal?
What’s your favorite music station?
If you could choose, would you be shorter or taller?
17. What’s your favorite way to receive affection?
If you were to switch career paths, which one would you consider moving to?
How can I best support you in your work?
What are some of the biggest lessons you’ve learned from previous
relationships?
Do you think you’ve made your parents proud?
Do you have a favorite relative? What makes them so special?
If the doctors detected that your unborn child had a severe birth defect and they
could easily abort it, would you still have the baby?
What makes you most happy and unhappy with your job?
Is there anything in our relationship that makes you feel insecure?
Which animal would be the most useless pet in your opinion?
Do you save up for a vacation or do you put it all on credit and pay it off as you
can?
What is your favorite childhood memory?
What’s your biggest dream for the future? Who was your first celebrity crush?
What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?
What superpower do you wish you could have?
How are we prioritizing our values in our life and family?
How much time do we need to spend talking about our relationship?
Do you think your dream job is attainable?
16. If you were to go (back) to college, what major would you choose?
What can we promise each other that we will never say or do during times of
conflict?
3. What would you do with your life if you were suddenly awarded a billion
dollars?
15. If you could be close friends with any celebrity, who would it be?
Which is your dream city to live in?
How do you practice self-care?
Do you enjoy camping? What eating/sleeping arrangements are tolerable?
How many hours a day on average do you spend on the computer/Internet (not
counting time spent for work)?
24. If someone were to tell you, “Congratulations, you just won a lifetime supply
of ______!” what would you want to hear in that blank?
What kind of books do you like to read on vacation?
Would you ever like to get a pet?
What do your parents expect of your partner?
How do you envision me 10 years from now?
Starbucks or Dunkin?
What’s your biggest insecurity? What was your bedroom like as a child? Tell
me about one of your best work moments Who’s your best friend? How is our
relationship different from your parent’s relationship?
How important is having kids to you?
What’s the most hurtful thing I have said to you?
If you and your spouse have disagreements about child rearing, what methods
do you use?
What helps you decompress?
Do you believe in setting New Year's resolutions?
Do you have a favorite bar or place of entertainment? How often do you go
there?
How would you describe me to your friends?
Don't be shy! It's important to have some dirty questions to ask your girlfriend at
the ready next time the situation is appropriate. While some
What weird thing stresses you out more than it should? When do you feel like
you are really in your element? How likely are you to believe in conspiracy
theories? What are some alcohol-induced stories of your younger days?
What's the best way for someone to improve themselves? What was the most
productive time in your life? How about the least productive? What three words
best describe you?
How do you handle failure or setbacks?
When was the last time you broke someone’s heart?
Do you think we should keep our money in joint or individual accounts? Why?
Do you think it is more important for a couple with kids to focus on the kids more
or each other more? Why?
Do you think we all see different colors?
What are three of your favorite things about me?
When did you first realize how you felt about me?
If we were to go to a concert, which artist would you like to see perform?
8. If you could live someone else’s life for a day, whose life would you pick?
If a fire destroyed your home and all of your belongings, what would you do? If
you could take out three things before the blaze, what would they be? (Assuming
there is no one in the house at the time of the fire.)
Do you want children?
What makes you feel heard and understood when we have conflict?
63. If life was nothing but constant pain, would it still be worth living? 64. When’s
a good time to start getting serious about one’s health?
1. What would your superhero name be? 2. What’s your favorite flower? 3.
Physical books or audio books? 4. Spontaneous gifts or only for big
celebrations/moments? 5. What’s your favorite book of all time?
Tell me about a typical day at work? Is it stressful? How do you make
decisions?
What are your favorite self-help books or resources?
Do you like to pull scary pranks on people?
How many hours of sleep do you need?
Do you think parents should provide cars for their teenagers if they are financially
able? Would you allow your teenager to buy his or her own car if he or she had
the funds?
What do a lot of parents do that screws up their kids’ development?
What were the chores that you hated doing while growing up?
Do you believe children should be seen and not heard? Why or why not?
1. If you could change only one thing in your life, what would that be and why?
What educational achievements are you most proud of?
What were your first impressions of me when we initially met?
What is something you are looking forward to today, this week and this month?
What was your favorite school subject growing up?
What kind of job would you work, if money weren't a concern?
What’s the angriest you ever felt?
If actors could summon an army of all the characters they’ve played, who would
win in a war of actors?
Who is more of a risk-taker—you or me?
23. Do you prefer savory or sweet?
16. Tell me about a ridiculous bet you took and lost.
What kind of music calms you down?
25. If you could earn any amount as your monthly income, what would that be
and why?
If our house was on fire and you had a chance to grab only five things before
leaving, what would they be?
What would I be doing if money and other people’s opinions weren’t holding me
back?
If you could do anything knowing you would not fail, what would you do?
What’s a non-negotiable in my life?
20. How many dates did it take before you kissed?
How important is it to you that your mate is intelligent? More or less important
than looks?
"If I could change one thing about myself I would change ________."
What part of your last relationship woorked? What part of it hurt?
If you could swap lives with any TV or movie character, who would it be?
What about you feels hardest to love?
Have you ever suffered from depression (not just feeling blue, but a feeling of
extreme sadness that leaves you nearly paralyzed)? If so, what brought these
feelings on, how long did the depression last and what therapies worked for you?
Do you consider yourself in shape? Do you live to eat or eat to live?
How do you feel about your partner using your toothbrush?
If you could change anything about our relationship, what would it be?
Which is your favorite date, so far?
8. What is an important life lesson you’ve learned?
If you were single and quite wealthy, how would you weed out the "gold
diggers"?
How would you spend $5,000 (five thousand dollars)?
Do you think your partner talks too much on the phone and neglects you or other
important things?
18. What’s one thing you think makes our relationship unique from everyone
else’s?
How many hours does it take until you can't stand being alone anymore?
What’s the most surprising thing about love?
Do you think that constantly buying your children new toys teaches them to
become easily bored with things?
What’s your go-to joke lately?
What is the weirdest thing you’ve eaten?
What would you write a book about?
When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
What most concerns you about the future?
8. If I were a musical instrument, which would I be?
21. You just received a gift that reminds you of the best gift you’ve ever received
— but this gift came from someone you hardly know, and that someone winked
at you when handing you the gift. What do you do?
Has anyone very dear to you died? How did you handle it?
Do you think people more people look down on you or up to you? Why? What
question do you most want an answer to? What are some of the telltale signs of
a shallow person? What do you look forward to most in the day?
What are some things that you wished people knew about you?
If you could build a vacation home anywhere in the world, where would you
build it?
What helps you when you feel stressed or overwhelmed?
How do you feel about role play?
Ideally, what characteristics would your friends have?
11. How can we continue to improve our relationship and become closer, kinder,
and more intimate?
What do you think is the best way for people to handle disagreements?
What do you like most about our relationship?
What’s your least favourite emotion?
Does aging scare you? How do you think people can age gracefully?
15. If I was going on a date, and I showed you the outfit I was planning to wear,
and you thought it was unflattering, what would you do?
How do you approach studying or preparing for exams?
Do you have a personal flaw that you'd fix, if you could?
4. What are your thoughts on having a family?
Do you ever think that your partner gives more time, love and affection to a child
or pet and it makes you jealous?
Where do you ultimately want to live?
Do you talk to yourself?
27. What old trend did you participate in? Do you regret it now?
Do you prefer family events or alone time?
What are your feelings about recreational drugs? Have you ever taken any and if
so, how long did you use drugs? Do you still use them?
Do you prefer fancy or casual date nights?
Do you feel like there are societal or gender pressures in our relationship?
Would you rather eat like an anteater or have a long neck like a giraffe?
What is one burning question, you wish I would ask you?
Do you wish life had a rewind, or a pause button?
Have your goals changed in life? How?
21. What kind of energy do I give off: youngest sibling, middle child, oldest
sibling, or only child?
Do you believe in marriage? Are some relationships meant to last forever? Why
or why not?
What’s one thing that used to irk you about yourself that you’ve learned to
accept?
How does your work (in a profession or as a parent/homemaker) impact your
overall happiness in our life together?
How can people grow together instead of apart as they grow older?
Do you tend to keep a lot of thoughts and feelings to yourself or do you share
them pretty openly?
you feel the most awkward?
What was the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
What did you want to be when you were little?
What makes you feel safe?
When did you know you loved me?
Do you plan on rearing your children close to how you were reared, very
differently or a mixture?
Would you steal a car for $200,000 if you would be certain that you would not be
caught? What about for $1,000,000?
Was there one cartoon you were obsessed with growing up?
What’s something your family thinks is normal but is totally weird?
What’s your favorite action movie? What did you love about it?
How much job security do you think you have?
Over the last five years how do you think you have changed for the worse?
Better?
Is there anything you feel you must accomplish before you die? What steps do
you need to take to achieve these goals?
What's the story behind your middle name?
If I asked you to cut back the time you spend with people or activities and spend
more time with me would you do it?
What was the first album you bought?
Can you say "no" to your parents when they want you to do something you would
prefer not to?
What are your thoughts on mentorship or guidance in learning?
If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer
you up?
How would the person closest to you describe you in three words?
48. Who in your family do you view as a role model? 49. Are you inspired by
any celebrities dead or alive? 50. What thought or object gets you through the
day? 51. Do you find praise or criticism to be more motivating? 52. What
inspires you to better yourself?
If you had to change your career, what would you do?
What’s something you didn’t realize about yourself until someone else told you?
How do you keep up with current events or global issues?
17. If you could only listen to one type of music (rock, alternative, jazz, classical,
etc.) for the rest of your life, what would it be?
How close are you to your parents and siblings?
Early in the dating stage, how strongly do you consider your friends and family's
opinion as to whether you should continue seeing someone?
2. Have you ever had a crush on a friend’s parent?
Do you keep things from me to avoid conflict?
Should Pluto still be considered a planet?
What do you remember about the first time we met?
Provided there is good weather, do you enjoy indoor or outdoor activities?
What’s your favorite but lame and outdated slang word or expression?
What has been the best phase in your life thus far?
What’s the most borderline offensive word you’ve used in a public
conversation?
What was your favourite book as a child?
14. What’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever eaten? 15. Is there anything
you absolutely will not eat? 16. If you were a pizza topping, which one would
you be? 17. If you could have any kind of pet, what would you choose?
27. How would you describe your current style?
How should I let you know about a habit of yours that bothers me?
What is the best gift you would like to receive—diamond jewelry, a weekend
trip, or a high-end gadget?
What song makes you think of me?
How do you stay true to yourself in various situations?
Do you think you could ever give up your current life and move half way around
the world for someone you love or for a perfect job?
1. Do you ever wish you had different parents? 2. What is your biggest life
regret? 3. Have you ever cheated on someone? 4. What recreational drugs
have you used in the past? 5. What kind of friend do you think you are to others?
6. What do you feel the most ashamed of?
10. Where is your favorite place to be with me?
1. What did you think when you first met me?
How comfortable are you in expressing your emotions to me?
What's a shared memory of ours that makes you laugh?
What was the worst nightmare of your life?
19. What is your favorite thing about my home/living space? What is your least
favorite thing about it?
What’s your favourite spot at home?
Would you ever give up your dreams for love, or give up love for your dreams?
What kind of perfume smell do you like?
What makes you feel super loved?
Do you feed your pets food off of your plate? How do you feel about that
practice?
What makes us different than other couples? What do you think would be the
best way to strengthen our relationship? What are some of your relationship
goals? How realistic do you think couples in movies and TV are? What does a
happy and healthy relationship look like to you?
How do you think I handle myself when I'm in a crisis situation?
What's something that a lot of people are afraid of, but you aren't?
Have you ever changed someone’s opinion on something? What was it?
What are some of your favourite traditions?
What were you like in high school? In what way have you changed the most?
14. What did your first relationship teach you about love? 15. What’s the bravest
thing you’ve ever done? 16. What’s the most hurtful thing you’ve experienced?
17. What have you learned about change?
Are there any circumstances where you think it is a good idea to put animals "to
sleep"?
When traveling, do you prefer to travel alone or with a group of familiar people?
13. What would your perfect day look like?
13. If you had to get either a dog or a cat, which would it be? And do you have a
name already picked out?
Would you like to be the dominating person or the submissive one in the
relationship?
What did you think when you first saw me?
How many books do you usually read in a year? What type of books do you
read?
What was your least favorite subject in high school?
2. What’s one thing you always procrastinate on?
Name three things we have in common and three differences Is there anything
you’ve always wanted to know about me?
What kind of debt do you feel is acceptable for us?
2. What about our friendship makes you really happy?
What's the worst decision you've ever made?
Do you think that parents should love and care more for their children than their
mates? Do you think it is natural for parents to want to love their offspring more
than the person they married?
Do you think it is a great idea to maintain a close relationship with ex-partners?
How often do you cry? What situations often bring you to tears?
How can I best communicate a problem or concern?
What’s your most treasured possession?
How do we handle behavior, expectations, or demands that we don’t like from
our extended family?
Do you think that you are able to calmly and wisely react in emergencies? What
are some examples of emergencies you have had?
What animal would you be and what animal would I be? What’s the scariest
movie you’ve ever seen?
41. Is it more appealing to have a career or to do odd jobs?
Would you be willing to live a year in another country where we don’t speak the
language? Why or why not?
What's your favorite movie quote?
54. Should humans merge with AI once it becomes an option? 55. Do you ever
think about who or what has influenced you the most in life?
Where do you want to live?
What are your long-term financial goals for us?
How do you think I could enjoy life more? What is a talent that you wish you
possessed?
If I spent a typical day in your shoes, describe what I would experience?
How can I best support you as a co-parent in this family, particularly when you
feel stressed?
Would you consider yourself a highly sensitive person, and if so, how can I
support you?
What did you like the most about where you grew up? What did you like the
least?
What is one social norm you would remove if you could?
Were you "popular" in high school?
Where do you see yourself in your career in the next five years? The next ten?
Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?
What makes the difference between a good husband and a great husband?
Good wife and a great wife?
How can you best manage anger or frustration so we can talk calmly?
What are the qualities you are looking for in someone you want to grow old with?
How do you handle anger?
Does anyone give you an inferiority complex?
36. If you had unlimited money to start your own business, what would it be?
Are you currently satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends you have? Why
or why not?
What's something new you learned about me recently?
What are you battling that you don’t tell anyone about?
Would you rather be loved, respected, or admired?
349. How would you describe your relationship with your family? 350. What
family traditions do you cherish the most? 351. How important is family to you?
352. How do you handle disagreements with family members? 353. Would you
like to have children someday? Why or why not? 354. What values would you
like to pass on to your children?
What do you imagine our life together looks like in the future?
Were you nervous during our first kiss?
Does anything I do make you upset? What worries you?
Do you get a lot of satisfaction from your job - do you feel you are somehow
making a difference?
What do you look for in a friend?
How would you like to spend a day of quality time with me; watch a romantic
movie, cook together, or play board games?
What’s your favorite “make a rule” in drinking games?
Have you ever deliberately thrown up food or ate tiny amounts of food to lose
weight?
Do you think you are a harder worker than most people at your job? Are you
happy with doing an average job?
12. What unusual talent or skill do you wish you had that you don’t?
How long do you usually take to get ready in the morning?
How do you think we should keep the spark alive in our relationship?
30. If you could accomplish one thing in your life, what would it be?
13. If you saw me stress-eating or drinking more alcohol than you knew I could
handle, what would you do?
How do you express love to other people?
6. Do you see us doing something together within the next five years? And if so,
what do you see us doing?
What’s your biggest insecurity, and how can I support you in it?
14. In what situations do you feel most afraid or insecure?
16. My S.O. just left me for someone else, and he accidentally left his credit card
in my apartment. You walk in and find me holding it and looking as though I’m
plotting something. What do you do?
21. If you had to eat the same thing for lunch every day, what would it be?
What is your favorite thing to discuss with me?
What's your favorite movie or TV proposal?
What are some areas you’d like to improve about yourself?
9. Do you feel like a part of society? 10. What kind of role does religion play in
your life?
What decisions have you made regarding how you plan to balance work and
play?
How do you see me?
35. Do you think it’s possible to have a great life alone?
Who was there for you at your lowest moments?
people?
If you were asked to give yourself a nickname, what would it be?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? 5. When did you last sing to
yourself? To someone else?
In what situations do you feel the least confident?
30. Why do you think older people have a harder time grasping new ideas? 31.
Do you think there is an afterlife of any kind?
What emotional patterns do you see yourself repeating?
What travel experiences do you want to share together?
Would you like to live in a small apartment in the city or a big house with a
backyard on the outskirts?
Have you ever hired a gardener? Do you think they are a waste of money or
money well spent?
Would you rather live modestly and retire modestly at 50 or would you rather live
more extravagantly and retire modestly at 65?
Do you feel like most people respect your line of work? Do you think you get the
respect you deserve?
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How should we handle it, if I feel you are spending too much time at work and not
enough time with me?
355. How do you feel about your extended family’s involvement in your life? 356.
What’s your favorite family memory? 357. How do you envision spending
holidays as a family? 358. Do you believe in the saying, “Family is everything”?
What question have you always wanted to ask me?
What is your favourite cartoon?
How have you changed from when you were in high school?
Do you believe in true love or love at first sight?
Do you believe in astrological compatibility?
Would it be okay for your partner to call you at work? Visit you?
What one topic do you wish I would be able to talk about more openly and
freely?
How can we manage the stresses of parenting so we don’t take it out on each
other?
Who have been some of the most influential people in your life?
What was the most expensive thing you’ve regretted buying?
What was your most embarrassing moment?
How do you feel about public proposals?
28. How would you define self-care? 29. What are some mantras that have
stuck with you? 30. Who inspires you? 31. What inspires you?
What else can we do to prepare or protect ourselves from unexpected crises?
What does beauty mean to you? How has your life improved since we met?
How do you define friendship?
What will be the early warning signs that our friendship is in trouble?
Would you like to be famous for anything?
5. What are your 5 travel essentials?
Do you believe in ghosts?
Do you like hanging out with my friends?
Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
What are two of the most important events in your life? What is something you
know is bad for you but you can't seem to get away from it? What's the biggest
favor you've done for someone? How does your current morning routine
compare to your ideal morning routine? What brings you the most joy? What
are you purposefully ignoring even though you know you should probably deal
with it? What do you wish you were better at? Is there anything you did wrong
for years and years, only to discover later that you were doing it wrong?
Do you usually have to work on any of the major holidays?
What do you like the most about yourself? Do you think that we can lead a
long, happy life together? How have I changed since we started dating? Do
we communicate well together? What is a memory you wish you could block
out? What things would you do differently from your parents when you have
your own children? Do you think there was something from your childhood that
traumatized you? Does flirting count as cheating? Would you go through a
boyfriend’s phone if you could? What would you do if your parents didn’t like
your partner? What do you really wish you knew when you were younger?
What is the biggest lie that an ex has told you? What is the biggest lie you’ve
told an ex? What is one thing you feel our relationship is lacking? Do you
want to raise our children to be religious?
Do you have guidelines regarding movies you will not see?
Have you ever been out of the country? If yes, tell me about your favorite trip. If
not, where would you like to go?
Would you consider cooking together as spending quality time?
If you didn’t have to work, how would you spend your time?
Do you have any childhood stories that embarrass you now?
What title would you give this chapter in your life?
What do you think are your optimum hours of sleep to be fully energized?
1. What’s something you’re glad you’ll never have to do again?
What would you dream wedding be like?
When did you realize you loved me?
32. If you could ask the reaper to spare your loved one, what would you tell him?
Do you go back to the same places again and again or do you desire to go to
new places most of the time when you travel?
Do you cook more or eat out more? If you like to cook, what’s your favorite
thing to cook?
What skill are people usually surprised you have?
If you were asked to give yourself a new name, what would it be?
30. Could you bring yourself to kill someone in self-defense?
13. If you could see into the future, what’s one thing you want to see?
What if you had the power to read my mind? Would you use it for good or evil?
3. Do you consider yourself a jealous person?
How do you stay motivated to achieve your personal goals?
What kind of mom do you want to be? (If she wants to be a mom in the first
place)
Do you like your first name? Have you ever wished you had a different name?
What name would it be?
Do you think people can really have psychic abilities?
Which of your friends is most successful? Would you like to have the same level
of success?
Have you ever been in a physical fight?
What is your favorite State? What do you love about it?
What could I do to make you feel truly, fully happy?
Do you think you would enjoy going on a vacation with your sweetheart's family?
Would you detest it or do you not know them well enough to decide?
Did you have a point in your life where you turned your life around?
34. If you could travel anywhere in the world (all expenses paid), where would
you go?
What’s your favourite video game? What do you need to forgive yourself for?
Would you rather sky dive or bungee jump? What was your favourite subject in
school? What was your favourite childhood outfit? How have you changed in
the last five years? Do you care what people you know think of you? What are
our goals? What do you think the point of a relationship is? Complete this
statement: My favourite feature of yours is... 129. How do you want to be
remembered? What’s your dream job? How would you spend $1,000,000
(one million dollars)? 133. What’s your favourite movie? Would you rather have
more time or more money? What would you like for your next tattoo (if
relevant)? Where do you see yourself in five years?
What acts of kindness or service could we perform together that would
strengthen our relationship?
Do you wear slippers around the house?
What color pen do you prefer writing with?
Are you comfortable telling people when they do something offensive?
Are you satisfied by how we share responsibilities?
11. If someone you cared about voted for a candidate you strongly dislike, would
you forgive that person?
9. What was your favorite breakfast cereal as a kid?
How do you feel about pumpkin spice?
What’s something you like to do that’s underrated?
Do you ever compare me to your exes? In what ways?
Who was your first celebrity crush?
How much money should we save each month?
Do you snore when you sleep?
What are three words that describe you? What three words would you use to
describe me?
What are your least favorite household chores?
How do I make you feel loved?
Do you like when I cook for you?
Do you think you're good at asking for help?
40. What hobby would you like to pick up again? 41. What does your dream
proposal look like? 42. What concert do you wish you could go to?
21. What’s your go-to coffee order?
How do you feel about being dominated in the bedroom?
How would you define success? Do you feel successful?
If you enjoy traveling, what places do you like to go to most often? Are there any
places you have no desire to go to?
How do feel about your mate reading your private email? Are you camera shy?
Why?
Are you jealous of any of the members of your family? Why?
How do you like your coffee?
252. What do most women love that you just don’t care about?
4. What do you hope for our friendship as we grow older?
8. In your life, what has been the biggest blessing in disguise?
How often do you get sick? Is it a cold, flu or usually something else?
How do you define commitment?
How much personal space/time do you need for yourself? What does self-care
look like for you?
Has anyone ever thrown an extra special birthday party for you? What made it so
memorable?
Let’s get dance lessons together. What kind of dancing do you want to learn?
Do you tend to analyze your decisions before you talk about them or do ideas
and thoughts blurt out without much forethought?
14. Is there someone in your life you really dislike? 15. If you could have a
do-over in one part of your life, what would it be? 16. What do you think are your
best and worst qualities? 17. What is something no one else knows about you?
18. Do you think of yourself as more selfless or selfish? 19. Who is the most
important person in your life? 20. If you could trade lives with someone, who
would it be?
9. Tell me about a favorite memory.
What's your favorite memory we've made together? What's the best gift you've
ever given?
What am I doing now that you like?
At this stage in your life do you think you would prefer having children or being
child-free? Do you think your feeling might change?
Is your current job position where you thought you'd be five years ago?
6. How have you changed in the past five years?
What topics should we only discuss in person (not by text, email, or phone)?
If you were asked to spend one month in a room for a huge sum of money, and
you had to take one thing with you, what would you choose?
If you were going to dress me in a new outfit, what would I be wearing?
Do you enjoy debating others?
How should I let you know that I feel you’re being unkind?
What are your deepest wounds from the past and how can I support you there?
How is your average week like at work? What are the usual things that occur?
8. What do you like the most about people?
What’s the most beautiful thing about your mom?
What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
Do you prefer dating just one person and seeing where it goes or dating multiple
people until you decide with whom you’re most compatible?
Which is your favorite family holiday, so far?
What three traits of mine made you fall in love with me?
Are there any experiences or parts of yourself you’re hesitant to share with me?
taking away privileges, etc.)? 83.Do you believe that children should be raised
with some religious or spiritual foundation? 84.How did your parents settle
conflicts when you were a child? 85.Do people in your family carry long-term
grudges? 86.How much influence do your parents still have over your
decisions? 87.How frequently do you wish you could communicate with your
parents? Siblings? 88.What did you admire about the way your mother and father
treated each other? 89.When you were growing up, was it important that
everybody be present for dinner? 90.What qualities make a good parent?
91.Do you wish anything were different about your relationship with your
parents? 92.What does my family do that annoys you? 93.What were your
parent’s messages to you about education and university? 94.Have you ever
been fired? 95.What is your dream job? 96.Do you consider your work a
career or just a job? 97.How do you define success? 98. Do you wish you
could work more or less hours? 99.If you could turn back the clock, what
alternate profession would you choose?
If someone gave you one million dollars that you were required to give to some
person or organization, who would you give it to?
What about your current role makes you get up from bed each morning?
Where do you struggle most in parenting our children?
1. Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they and why?
Do you like to take vacations that are activity oriented (cycling trips, skiing trips,
scuba trips, etc.)?
What is your favorite childhood memory? When in your life do you think that
you were at your happiest? What is one memory that you hope you never, ever
forget? What did you dream about doing as a career when you were a child?
What do you most look forward to about getting old? What do you wish you had
more time for? Who do you make happy? Who makes you happy? What
picks you up when you’re down? What is the meaning of life?
21. How would you change the public education system? 22. What would you
change in your life if you knew that there was a god?
Is there a song that makes you think of me?
11. How long was your longest relationship?
What's your dream vacation?
If you could pick a new “golden rule,” what would it be?
If a psychic with a crystal ball told you that you only had one year to live, what
would you change in your life?
How do you define a successful relationship?
Am I a nagger? How so? Does it irritate you?
Do you think that it is important that the father is present at the birth of his child if
at all possible?
After the birth of your child, how much time would you want to take off from
work? Do you have strong feelings about the mom staying home with the
children until a certain age?
Do you have any worries about our future together? Is there something you
wish I would do more of in our relationship?
Which is your favorite fictional couple?
What would you do for a year if you were free to do whatever you wanted?
8. What do you struggle with the most?
Do you speak another language? Why did you choose that language to learn?
I’m so proud of what you’ve accomplished this year. We should celebrate
(insert big or small accomplishment). What would you like to do to celebrate?
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Do you prefer matching things or pattern mixing?
33. In which situations do you think war is called for?
How strong do you think a couple's marriage should be and how financially stable
should they be before they try to have children?
What shows on television do you always watch? How many movies do you
usually watch in a month?
Would you rather own a home you don't love, or rent one that you do love?
If the world ended tomorrow, what would you do on your last day?
What did you do to pull out of the darkest time in your life?
What is one dream you’ve never said out loud?
What are your thoughts about compromising within a relationship? Can you give
an example?
5. Why did your last relationship end?
What are important societal values? (ex. Democracy, fundamental rights, etc.)
Have you ever been part of a protest? What made it important to you? What did
it feel like attending the protest?
27. What would you do if you won the lottery?
How did people treat you in school?
Do you prefer to spend most weekends lazing around the house, getting out of
the house or being productive?
What is your favorite book? What would your parents be very surprised to learn
about you?
Did one of your parents love you more than the other?
What are your physical boundaries?
Describe the contents of your ideal picnic basket True or false: I can easily list
three things I admire about my partner 158. How do you like to relax? What
does a successful life look like to you? What do you want to do differently than
your parents? What’s your favourite flower? What do you want your funeral to
be like? How are you similar / different to your dad (or father figure)? What’s
one of your worst work moments? What does your next week entail? How can
I help you feel loved, honoured and respected? What’s your favourite dessert?
What posters did you have on your wall as a teenager? What’s your earliest
memory?
Is there anything you've always wondered about me, but have hesitated to ask?
What sort of reaction do you have when you get very upset?
How open do I feel when i’m with you?
Can you recall a time when you felt vulnerable with me? How did that make you
feel?
What’s your favorite time of year and why?
42. If your family turned away from you for any reason, would you try to get them
back?
What are some of your favourite songs?
Are there any of my friends or family members you really don’t like? Why?
1. What in this relationship has been hard for you to deal with? 2. What are
some challenges we've been able to overcome together? 3. What do you wish
there was more of in our relationship? 4. Is there anything you miss from the
earlier days of our relationship? 5. What’s your favorite date that we’ve been on?
6. What's the best trip we've taken together?
How do you plan your trips?
What is normal now that will be considered unethical and barbaric in 100 years?
Is there anything about me that gets on your nerves?
Do you think we get to spend enough time with each other?
What turns me on?
What is the most memorable experience that you’ve gone through with
someone?
If you're interested in having kids, how would you like to raise them?
2. When you’re having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
5. What’s the most scandalous thing you’ve ever done at a party?
How would I describe my relationship with myself?
Do you usually put things back where they belong soon after you use them?
Where should our next vacation be?
What fictional city or town would you like to live in?
What’s your middle name? Who gave you your middle name and what’s the
story behind it?
What was your favorite food growing up?
When, if ever, was the first time you smoked a cigarette? Why did you try it? How
long did you smoke? If you still smoke, have you ever seriously tried to quit?
20. What’s something you want to do together that we haven’t done yet?
19. Before you head out one day, your S.O. tells you he’ll / she’ll have a surprise
waiting for you when you get back. What do you hope it will be?
Where would you go if you could teleport anywhere in the world?
What's something that surprised you about me once we started getting more
serious?
If you could be a dog breed, which one would you pick?
What type of social overthinker are you?
Do you think our family has the right to know your financial affairs (whether you
are rich or deep in debt)? What would you tell them if they asked how much
money you and your spouse make or how much money you have in the bank?
At what age do you think you would want to let your children group date? Single
date? Will you let them go "steady" when they are teenagers?
What’s a piece of wisdom you’ve learned by observing the person you like
least?
What would our relationship look like if we lived together, or took things to the
next level?
How can I make you feel even more loved?
Do you feel strongly against people wearing fur coats? Are you liberal,
conservative or somewhere in the middle?
What present do you think would make me happy?
Would you describe yourself as ambitious?
Are you comfortable with my hygiene and self-care? If not, what makes you feel
uncomfortable?
10. How can we be more accepting of areas of incompatibility with our habits?
8. If you could eat one thing for dinner every day, what would it be?
What are your coping mechanisms?
How much does your typical one week vacation cost (not including air fare)? Do
you think you take budget vacations, moderate or expensive trips?
What was the weirdest conversation you overheard?
Do you believe in good luck and bad luck? How about things that are lucky or
unlucky?
Have you ever judged someone for the dark secrets they told you?
What are your thoughts about relocating for a job opportunity?
Did you ever hear or see your parents fighting when you were a child? How
did it make you feel?
What makes you feel unstoppable?
14. Have you ever been engaged or married?
Can you describe what your first heartbreak was like?
What book or movie do you wish you could experience for the first time again?
Have you ever taken food into a movie theater without anyone seeing you?
10. Do you feel on top of our finances and know where our money is going? If
not, how can I help you be more aware of this?
3. If I won the lottery and was suddenly a half-billionaire, what do you think I’d do
first?
What was your first impression of me?
When you are sick and feeling poorly, do you like to be alone or do you like to be
pampered and have someone close to your side most of the time?
7. What is your biggest fear?
Do you sense that others may think that you talk too much about yourself?
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How am I different than others you dated?
8. Who was your favorite childhood teacher?
What's the best dream you've ever had?
Is your family important to you? Why?
If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
Do you think our love has grown over the years?
Have you ever written in a journal?
Can you share a memory that you think encapsulates our relationship?
10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your
loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one
item. What would it be? Why?
Are there any rituals you do every day?
Are you living a meaningful life?
What’s the most exciting improvement I’ve been seeing in myself recently?
What do you think your industry could do better (insert whatever industry your
girlfriend works in)?
Where is one place you would never visit? Where would you want to run away
with me, if you could pick any destination in the world? What habit are you
proud of breaking? What is your guilty pleasure? Who would be the more
strict parent? Do you ever miss being single? Do you admire your parents’
parenting style? Do you consider yourself a free-thinker? What piece of
culture or trend has died out, and you would like to see it make a comeback?
What is something you wish you knew more about? If you could hear every
time someone said something good about you or something negative about you,
which would you choose? What do you think people automatically assume
about you when they look at you? When was the last time you laughed so hard
you cried? What meal makes you the happiest? What song comes to mind
when you think of me? How decisive or indecisive are you? If you could
dedicate your life to solving one problem, what problem would you choose?
Who influences you the most?
How many names do you have?
If you knew you would die in two days, how would you spend the time until then?
Are you religious or spiritual?
What’s one thing in our relationship that used to bother you, but you’ve since
grown to accept?
If your family hated the person you were dating and voiced strong opinion against
you marrying him or her, would you get married anyway?
Do you have a fear of being alone? Rejected? Unloved?
How can we make sure we put our relationship before our extended families?
What kind of memories do we want to create together?
Are you happy?
Who’s tidier, you or me?
Are you generally an optimist, pessimist or a realist?
5. What’s your best memory?
Describe my perfect day What are one of your happiest memories of our
relationship? 27. How can I help take on some of your burden in life? Would
you rather speak every language or speak to animals? 29. What boundaries are
important to you? What progress have we made towards our goals? True or
false: My partner generally likes my personality? What’s your favourite
breakfast?
23. It’s Christmas, and an attractive stranger walks up to you with a sprig of
mistletoe and asks for a kiss — “just a little one <wink, wink>.” What do you do?
How much time do you think is optimal for us to spend together as a couple?
What’s your dream car?
Which family member are you closest to? Has it always been that way?
What's your guilty pleasure?
8. Have you ever been in an emotional or physically abusive relationship?
Do you feel like you're still learning new things about me, or do you know it all?
How do you want people to remember you?
What do you think makes our friendship special?
9. What’s one thing you want to do together that we’ve never done before?
How do you feel about mixing business with family? Business with friends? Do
you have any experiences with either scenario?
10. What is one behavior that you never tolerate?
Do you have any phobias, fears or concerns about going to the doctor?
253. What role do you play in your friend group?
71. If you could magically change one thing in your life, what would it be?
1. Have you ever wanted to die? 2. How would you prefer to die?
2. If you could visit any period in history, when and where would it be?
10. If you could change one thing in history, what would it be?
How would you like me to handle it, if someone in my family says or does
something to offend you, in person or behind your back?
11. Which pair of fictional best friends on TV best represent our friendship?
What's your favorite gift I've given you?
Do you get stressed out when finances are really tight?
Do you have any phobias?
Do you fly as cheaply as possible or do you splurge for business or first class
when going on vacation?
3. What are your goals in the relationship?
58. If you had seen someone being robbed or assaulted, what are the chances
that you would intervene? In which cases would you do it?
When were you the most proud of yourself?
If your job took you away from your mate and children for two months each year
what would you do with your time? Do you think your marriage would be
strengthened or weakened if this happened regularly?
Do you have any special dietary needs? How do you need me to support you
with this need?
How do you feel about getting dogs professionally groomed?
How do you handle the language barrier when you travel to foreign countries?
Are you willing to visit places where your language might not be spoken?
What should I never say to you in anger or playfulness?
How can I be more supportive of you in day-to-day life?
Do you regularly go to musicals, operas or plays? If not, why?
What negative things have made you stronger?
What are your biggest fears?
How many children do you think you would like to have?
How do you overcome fears or anxieties?
25. Have you been working out at all and, if so, what’s been your favorite
activity?
Do you think we share the same values?
When you ask your mate a question, does he or she always respond? How do
you feel if you don't get a response?
How should we handle it if we have a disagreement about money?
Have you ever stolen anything? Why? Were you caught?
Do you have any concerns about my health or unhealthy habits?
1. Whom do you look up to the most — and what qualities in that person do you
want to see in yourself?
If there was a horrible accident and you were unconscious and on life support,
how long would you want to be on life support?
Do you ever feel trapped in our relationship?
Do you have any experiences that have shaped how you view the future?
What is the most important lesson to teach a child?
What’s your least favorite song?
Would you put your family or your friends first if you had to choose one, and
why?
10. What do you admire most about your parents? 11. What do you look
forward to about being a parent? 12. If you don’t want to be a parent, why?
13. Do you want to live near or far from relatives? 14. When your parents get
old, how do you plan on taking care of them?
If you could start your own business, what would it be?
How often do you feel that you really don't know your partner? Will time fill in the
gaps or do you feel that your partner won't open up and you may never really
know him or her?
What's the most stressful situation you've been in? How did you handle it?
What's the most ambitious thing you've attempted? How often do you change
your opinions or how you view the world? What's the biggest opportunity you
were given?
What was the greatest struggle of your life?
Who is your favorite artist?
In order for your relationship to progress, there are some serious questions you
should ask your girlfriend. Silly thought starters aside, these hard questions to
ask your girlfriend are designed to make you evaluate your compatibility as a
couple. After all, you can't move to the next stage of your romance without
establishing where you both stand on core values and beliefs. While some of
them can be tricky, these serious questions to ask your gf are essential
conversations to have.
How do you like to be cared for when you're sick?
If you could change one thing about your character, what would it be?
What was the most important moment in your life?
Have you ever snooped on someone's phone in public?
13. Who’s your favorite family member?
Do you have a least favourite relative?
What was the most painful thing to hear?
Do you use foul language? Why do you do it? Does it bother you when you hear
others cuss?
If you didn't have to work, how would you spend your days?
1. What’s something that often reminds you of me?
What small seemingly insignificant thing did your parents, or someone else say
when you were a child that has stuck with you all this time?
32. What’s your favorite way to relax? 33. What’s the #1 thing on your bucket
list?
Do you think your family should have a limit on the hours of television watched
each day? Would you be willing to start this week?
What according to you are the most important qualities a man must possess?
52. Would you say you trust people easily?
If you could make one book or movie a reality, which would you choose?
What brings you joy?
If you had to take a paid sabbatical and couldn't work for an entire year, what
would you most like to do?
Could you set a world record? What would it be for?
What is something you could splurge on?
In your present career, how much do you think you will be making in 5 years? 10
years?
If you could have any pets you wanted and had the space and money to properly
care for them, what pets would you want to have?
3. Did you ever feel like your parents were your friends? 4. Have you ever felt
guilty about not doing something good enough?
How do you feel when you’re around me?
What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?
If someone wanted to give you a $50 gift certificate to use on yourself, which
store/theatre/spa would you tell him or her you wanted.
Do you think I care enough about your parents?
Do you ever feel uncomfortable saying “no” or speaking up for yourself with me?
If so, why?
16. Is there something you’ve wanted to do for a long time but haven’t yet? What
would that be?
Have you ever given a speech? What was the last one about?
What are some topics you feel uncomfortable discussing with me?
31. What’s your biggest career goal? 32. Do you want to have kids someday? If
so, how many? 33. What’s most important to you: work life or personal life?
34. Who do you aspire to be like? 35. If you had to move across the world for
your dream job, would you?
Have you ever been in a relationship when you weren’t in love?
What animal would you choose to be in another life?
If you were a dog, what breed would you be?
14. Out of our entire friend group, who do you think I’m closest to? 15. Where do
you hope to see me five years from now? Ten years? 16. Do you think I want
kids? Why or why not? 17. Do you think I want to get married? Why or why
not?
What’s the worst haircut you’ve ever had?
Do you usually do some business while you are on vacation (answering email,
checking voicemail, returning phone calls, etc.)? How much time each day? Is
that pretty much necessary?
Do you find that you eat when you are bored, stressed, or worried? Are there
emotional times that make you want to eat?
If there are some things from my past that are just too painful or uncomfortable to
share is that ok with you? Would you be able to commit to someone who can't
share everything?
If you could move to a deserted island without your friends and family, would you
do it?
In what circumstances do you feel most at peace?
How important is it for you to maintain individuality while being in a
relationship?
Do you enjoy shopping, don't care one way or the other, or detest shopping?
Does it change whether it is for clothes, electronics or food?
What is the deal-breaker for you in a relationship?
Have you ever had an emotional breakdown or been diagnosed with a mental
illness? How long did the recovery take?
10. What do you believe about life after death?
Do you screen phone calls before answering the phone? Can you let the phone
ring during meals or when company is over or do you feel compelled to always
answer it?
How do you find comfort and relief on bad days?
What did you like most about me when we first met? What do you like most
about me now?
24. Do you want (more) kids? How many?
What social media post do you regret?
What are your three favorite board/card games?
How can I make you feel special?
When do you feel the most vulnerable?
What is something your parents did or used to do that really embarrassed you?
What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?
Mention a crazy thing you would want us to do?
How have your family been poor role models for relationships?
Who is your favorite person?
What kinds of dates should we do more often?
25. What was your first impression of me?
How do you want our relationship to be different from your parents' relationship?
How do you want it to be similar?
Tell me about your childhood pet. If you’ve never had one, would you like one?
What kind?
What's one holiday tradition you think we should start together?
When would you like to meet my parents?
What do you like about being in a relationship with me?
What is your philosophy in life?
Do you prefer beach, forest, city or farm?
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from a past relationship?
Are you interested in having pets?
What was your favorite kid’s TV show?
What is the most stress-inducing thing that could happen at work?
Do you think about having pets?
How are you most comfortable letting me know that you are out of balance?
Which one of my mistakes taught me the most this past year?
24. If you could be any animal, which one would you be?
In what ways do you think your parents could select a better mate for you than
you could?
What helped you get through the hardest time of your life?
1. What’s the most outrageous lie you’ve ever told to get out of a date?
47. Would you forget a traumatic experience, if you could?
Describe your dream vacation
254. What is the most important personality trait in a man?
What's your favorite quote about love?
Do you have a real desire to (or feel that you really need to) get more education?
What do you want to study? When do you want to start?
If you have children from another relationship, how do you negotiate with whom
they spend the holidays?
Do you think of yourself as mechanically inclined?
Tell me about your favorite and least favorite teachers.
What are some songs that remind you of me?
What do you want in our relationship?
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Which one of these objects reminds you most of me: An umbrella, light bulb,
cell phone, loaf of bread, or pencil. Why?
What’s the highest level of education you’d like to get? (If she doesn’t already
have her PhD)
What’s one thing you appreciated about your high school experience?
Do you go into Internet chat rooms? Are they general chat rooms or devoted to a
certain topic?
37. How gullible do you consider yourself, on a scale of one to 10?
Will you tell me if I do something offensive?
If we face a crisis, how would you want us to handle it as a couple?
If you had to wear one outfit for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Are you content with your current job? If not, why? What was the best job you
ever had? Why was it?
Do you decorate elaborately for holidays? Would you like to put up more
decorations if you had the time/money?
39. Do you think your priorities will change over time or generally stay the same?
How do you feel about pranks?
What historical period or culture do you find most interesting?
If you knew with 100% certainty that having children would decrease your marital
satisfaction by 30%, would you still want children?
If you could instantly learn a talent or skill, what would you want to know how to
do? When is your favorite time of day? What are the best and worst things
about the period of history we are living through? What's the most rewarding
thing in your daily routine?
Has there ever been a time when you felt like you were going to "lose it"?
If you had the option to live forever, would you choose to?
Would you describe yourself as a peace-keeper or a trouble-maker?
How I make you feel respected?
Out of all the books you have read, which one stood out for you?
What hobby do you wish you could pursue?
relatives (that are racist, alcoholics, foul-mouthed, ill-tempered, etc.)?
Do you get irritated when you have to wait in long lines? Will you wait 45 minutes
to be seated in a restaurant?
5. What is the weirdest birthday gift your spouse has ever given you? 6. What is
one thing that your spouse has that you'd love to get rid of?
What’s your favorite hobby?
What have you been extra sensitive to lately?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? 8. Name three things
you and your partner appear to have in common. 9. For what in your life do you
feel most grateful? 10. If you could change anything about the way you were
raised, what would it be? 11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life
story in as much detail as possible. 12. If you could wake up tomorrow having
gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
How have your values changed from ten years ago?
21. Have you ever shoplifted?
How should decisions be made in the family? Does the husband have the final
say or do you do things democratically?
Where do you see our relationship headed?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or
anything else, what would you want to know? 14. Is there something that
you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? 15. What is
the greatest accomplishment of your life? 16. What do you value most in a
friendship? 17. What is your most treasured memory? 18. What is your most
terrible memory? 19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly,
would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? 20. What
does friendship mean to you? 21. What roles do love and affection play in your
life? 22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of
your partner. Share a total of five items. 23. How close and warm is your
family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? 24.
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three
true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling...”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share...”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share
what would be important for them to know. 28. Tell your partner what you like
about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to
someone you’ve just met.
How have you changed since high school? What would your high school pals
think about you now?
Do you think flying or mind reading is a more functional power?
14. If money were no object, what one thing would you buy for yourself to make
life easier or more fun?
19. What is your biggest challenge right now (and is there anything I can do to
help)?
What’s a recurring dream of yours?
What's the most underrated movie ever?
Describe yourself in three words How do you want me to express my affection
to you? What’s your favourite song lyric? What’s your favourite book? What
were our first impressions of each other? Where do you see yourself in ten
years? True or false: We rarely go to sleep without showing love and affection
216. What do you need from me right now? Do you love yourself? What
makes you angry? What’s our family motto? What would younger you think of
your life now? What’s your proudest moment? What’s your favourite sort of
text to receive from me? When are you most comfortable? Who’s funnier, you
or me?
What sports do you watch on television? College, Pro or both?
20. What is the first thing you usually notice about me when we meet (for coffee,
chat, movies, etc.)?
Do you prefer cultural experiences or outdoor adventures when traveling?
Do you want your engagement to be a surprise?
28. What’s something you think that you think no one else thinks? 29. What’s the
angriest you’ve ever been? What happened?
What is your parents' nationality? Were you raised in that culture or do you know
much about it?
What positive things have you learned from observing your parents' marriage?
Does any particular season make you happier than others? If so, do you know
why?
Who in your life is the most stressful? Why?
What did you dream about being when you grew up?
What is your biggest regret in life so far?
What is your relationship like with your father?
How do you feel about the education system and its effectiveness?
7. Who was your role model growing up?
What is the most important thing in a relationship? (e.g. trust, respect, etc.)
Do you think it is a good idea and shows maturity to be able to casually date
more than one person at a time? At what point do you feel it is necessary to date
only one person exclusively?
If you were to gift me, would you prefer handmade gifts or store-curated ones?
What do you think is the best relationship advice you've ever received? Did the
person giving it have a great marriage?
Do you feel that you need to be occasionally held or emotionally supported by
someone who is strong? Why or why not?
When were you the most disappointed in yourself?
If you could live underwater, would you? Why?
How have you reacted in the past to serious life problems, such as a death or job
loss?
How do you feel about gambling? If your company sent you on a business trip to
Las Vegas, what limit would you place on yourself for gambling each day?
What made you fall in love with me?
Do you prefer to be the passenger or the driver? Are you a back seat driver?
72. If you’ve always been completely honest with someone, and you had to lie to
them to save their life, would you find it hard to do?
Has a stranger ever changed your life?
Do white lies appeal to you or would you prefer being told the bitter truth?
When you were a kid, did you feel that you fit in? Why or why not?
5. Do you believe everything happens for a reason, or do we just find reasons
after things happen?
3. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a
30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
What pain or wounds from past relationships might be impacting our
relationship?
10. What’s your biggest fear and have you ever faced it? 11. What’s the biggest
risk you’ve ever taken? 12. Is there anything you’re too afraid to try? 13. Do
you have a favorite childhood memory?
26. Do you remember any character-defining moments from your childhood?
What was your favorite toy as a kid?
What’s the most important personal growth goal you’re working on right now?
What was your first nickname?
14. If I was going to repaint my living room, and I showed you a sample of a color
— and you hated it — would you tell me? Or would you pretend to like it?
What is your ideal hangout idea with friends and acquaintances?
Do we have a six second kiss every day?
1. What’s the biggest problem in the world? How could we fix it? 2. Do you
have any regrets in life? 3. If you could see into the future one time, what would
you want to see? 4. What’s your deepest secret? 5. Who comforts you the
most? 6. How do you want people to remember you? 7. Do you believe in
extraterrestrial life? 8. Do you think long distance can work? How far is too far?
9. What would you give up to pursue your dreams?
If you could eat anything you wanted right now, what would you order?
If your unhappiness at work is impacting our relationship or family, what would
you be willing to do to address the problem?
What’s something you’d never tell your boss?
What do you like/dislike about the town(s) where you grew up? What do you do
with your junk mail?
watching lately?
20. What’s your zodiac sign, and does it resonate with you?
1. What’s your favorite cologne that I wear? 2. What do you like most about my
personality? 3. Do you feel safe when you’re with me? 4. What do you think is
my best quality? 5. What would you say is my biggest weakness? 6. What’s
your favorite thing that I do? 7. Is there anything about my personality that
bothers you? 8. How would you describe me in three words or less? 9. Do you
think I’m funny, serious, or somewhere in between?
Do you think you could live more than six hours away from your parents and/or
siblings?
When taking off your clothes, do you immediately put them in the hamper if dirty,
hang them up or fold them if clean or leave them on the floor?
17. If your next home could have one thing of your choice that your current home
does not have, what would that thing be?
Do you believe in tough love - letting children suffer consequences from their
repeated mistakes?
What sort of parties do you enjoy going to? Do you like to go for a short while or
stay until most people have gone?
What don’t I give myself enough credit for?
Is there anything about my tone of voice that bothers you?
Are you able to keep secrets? Is it hard for you?
Should pizzas be square? Why or why not?
What are your views on money? What are your top financial goals? Have you
ever felt dismissed or belittled by someone in your family? What about at work?
On an average day, what do you think about the most?
Do you like receiving love letters?
6. Do you seek out order or chaos?
7. What’s the point in living, if you’ll end
up dead anyway?
What are the top three things that you dislike about your present job?
3. Who's handier?
What’s the last song you heard?
Would you tell me if I did or said something that offended you?
15. What do you like most about yourself?
6. How important is religion or spirituality in your life?
What hobby would you like to try?
Would you relocate for love?
Do you clean up the kitchen after every meal? Each night? Or when you run out
of dishes or company is coming over?
What is your greatest fear?
When, if ever, is it okay to break the law?
When were you last jealous?
How much should a husband participate in the care of a baby? (i.e. feeding,
changing diapers, late-night responsibilities, etc)? Does it depend who is the
more gifted caregiver?
If we won the lottery, what would you want to do with the money?
16. If you had to be stranded on a desert island with a celebrity, who would it
be?
What's something you used to believe about relationships, but no longer do?
How did you celebrate birthdays as a child? How do you like to celebrate yours
now?
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Do you have a preference for cats or dogs? Indoor pets vs. outdoor pets?
Have you ever thought about what your dream wedding looks like? Do we spend
enough time together?
In what situations do you feel the most confident and sure of yourself?
3. If you could write a song about your life, what type of music would you use?
How are you similar / different to your mum (or mother figure)?
What's your favorite meal now?
Do you have any phobias that you don’t want anyone to know?
How important are birthdays and holidays to you?
What if we only had one day left together? What would you want us to do?
Are there any hobbies that soothe you?
What are your favourite memories about us dating?
What is the one thing you would like to change in the world?
If you found $10,000 on the ground tomorrow, what would you do with it?
What is something I did that you thought was exceptionally kind or thoughtful?
What new hobbies or activities would you like to try together as a couple? What's
our greatest strength as a couple? What could we do to make our relationship
stronger?
Which fictional character do you most relate to and why?
If we have children, how often would you like the children to see their
grandparents? Do you have any particular concern about the children spending
too much time with any of their grandparents or
Would you rather live in only hot weather forever, or only cold weather?
Do you regularly give financial support to your adult children? Why? How would
you feel if your spouse kept bailing your children out of trouble by giving them
food, money or letting them live at home?
How have you been disrespected in the past, and how did it make you feel?
Do you keep in touch with your exes?
35. What are you most looking forward to this year?
What’s your opinion on fanny packs?
What was your favorite romantic moment, and why?
Is there anything you see inside of yourself that makes you curious?
Why do you think it’s illegal to sleep naked in Minnesota?
What are reasons a couple should have children? What are reasons they should
not?
If you could craft the ultimate "last meal," what would it be? Do you believe in
astrology?
When you are looking for relationship questions, it’s always important to ask
about family and childhood. Knowing where your partner came from can help you
understand how they are now.
What does your perfect day off look like?
What song you could listen to on repeat forever?
What could I do to make you feel more understood?
6. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or
anything else, what would you want to know?
In your opinion, what are non-negotiables in a relationship?
Which of your friends would you choose if you had to be on a desert island with
just one?
In what areas do you think our personalities complement each other? (i.e. One is
too reckless, and the other is too cautious, and it balances out to a happy
medium.)
Which newspapers/newsmagazines do your read? How often? How often do you
watch the news?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Are there any types of pets that you refuse to live with (snakes, rats, stray dogs,
etc.)?
What is the one quality in me that you adore the most?
How would you like to decorate your dream home?
Can you name something that I do that unintentionally hurts you?
What’s your favourite outfit on you?
If your partner had a different last name than yours, whose last name should be
given to the child?
Do you eventually want to have children? How many children do you eventually
want? Why? What's the worst parenting mistake a couple can make? What is
the best way to raise children? How would we know if we did our job as parents
well?
Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?
What’s your biggest regret?
Do you get emotional (irritated, sad, joyous, etc.) before or after any holidays?
Which ones and why?
49. How do you think you’ll deal with loss down the line? 50. How would you
like your relationship with your family to evolve? 51. Do you believe in
soulmates?
10. How can we reframe conflict to make it a positive opportunity or experience
for us?
16. What country would you like to visit that you haven’t visited yet?
Who’s the most annoying person you know?
What was your favorite subject in high school?
How would you feel if one of your friends said he or she was gay? Would you still
want to socialize with him or her?
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What’s your love language?
What's your favorite way we spend time together?
What scares you the most?
Have you ever had a supernatural or unexplainable experience? If so, what was
it?
11. If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in only
three words?
Do you think a room full of toys benefits or hinders children's physical and mental
development?
4. What do you see in yourself that you admire when you see it in other people?
Who inspires you?
What specific actions and words make you feel respected?
Describe the most romantic date you can think of — spare no expense!
Does public speaking frighten you? Have you had much experience with it?
15. Have you ever created a fake social media account? If so, why?
Are you more afraid of death or not living?
What was your favorite subject in school and why?
Do you think that it is cruel to keep a dog in a cage or tied up most of the time?
Would you ever live in another country?
Do you judge a book by its cover?
If you had a friend who spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself, would
you keep them as a friend?
How important is it for you to maintain individuality while being in a
relationship?
Where are you in the birth order? Is there sibling rivalry in your family? How close
are you to your siblings?
Do you like receiving flowers? If not, what random gift would you love to receive?
When was the first time you said “I love you” to someone in your life other than
family?
13. Have you ever struggled with addiction?
How often do you go to concerts? What kinds? Would you go more often if you
had more time/money?
24. How do you like your friends to show up for you? 25. What are your
experiences with therapy? 26. Who is in your support system? 27. How can I
support you through tough times?
What are your sleeping habits (do you steal the covers, sprawl all over the bed,
etc.)?
What’s the most challenging academic project you’ve ever worked on?
What was your favorite toy as a kid?
What is your favourite band?
How would you feel if someone raised their voice (shouted) at you?
8. What was your worst date?
What traditions would you like to start?
What life-changing event have you experienced?
12. If a genie could tell you a truth you’d like to know about yourself, what would
you want to know?
What do you love about your job? What do you wish you could change about it?
What’s your favorite memory of us?
33. If you could only enjoy one condiment for the rest of your life, what would it
be and why?
What would you like to see me work on? Would you prefer a brand new house
or brand new car?
What are your primary emotional needs?
What are your coworkers like? Are you friends with any of them?
How easy or difficult is it for you to show yourself love or speak kindly to
yourself?
22. What’s something that you know is on my bucket list? 23. If I could live
anywhere in the world, where would it be and why? 24. If I were to move away,
how do you think our friendship would change? 25. What two actors do you think
should play us in a movie? 26. Which internet meme best describes my
personality? 27. What would my dream home look like?
What’s a past mistake that you’re afraid might ruin our relationship if I found out?
If you could make a phone call to yourself at any point in time, when would it be
and what would you say?
What changes do you think I would need to make to better enjoy my career?
What's the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?
Would you ever spend $100 on a bottle of wine? $300? Under what
circumstances?
Who in our family would best serve as guardians for our children?
Do you have any bad habits you feel you must hide from me?
Do you usually listen to music around the house? What kind? How loud?
How far will you be willing to support me in my career path?
10. What do you most look forward to about getting old?
them at home? .Do you prefer to attend concerts of your favourite band or an
orchestra? .Do you enjoy going to museums or art shows? .Do you like to
dance? What type? .Do you enjoy activities that might make your partner
uncomfortable? .Have leisure time issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship? .Do you enjoy entertaining people in your home? .What is the
one thing that you'd like to change about yourself? .If you could choose your
last meal, what would you eat? .Where do you hope to be in ten years?
.Would you prefer to live in the city or the country? Why? .Have I ever
embarrassed you? .If I had bad breath or body odour or wear dirty clothes, will
you tell me? Should I tell you?
What is one thing you absolutely love about me?
4. What things in your life bring you the greatest pleasure?
What do you worry about? What's something you screwed up and then tried to
hide? What's the scariest / creepiest place you have ever been? Do you think
the world is improving or getting worse? Why? How do you think society is
changing? Do you think we'll change with it? What’s the worst thing that people
are proud of? What’s the biggest betrayal you have ever experienced? What
would be the greatest gift to receive? What is something that you are dreading?
What makes you feel super fancy? What would you want your obituary to
say? What has taken up too much of your life? What’s the most disheartening
and heartening realization you have come to? What was the hardest lesson
you’ve had to learn? Would you take 3 million dollars if it meant that the person
you hate most in the world gets 9 million? What part of you as a person still
needs a lot of work? What are some words of wisdom that have stuck with you
all these years? How well do you know yourself? What is your best (not worst)
flaw? How forgiving are you? Tell me about a time you almost died. Are you
ashamed of anything you did in the past? If you are comfortable talking about it,
what was it? Do you prefer living in the countryside, in a town, or in a big city?
Why? What's your fondest memory of a tree? What are some of the most
pleasant sensations for you? Are you happy with the career path you chose or
do you wish you had chosen a different career? What's the most unethical thing
you do regularly? What is way more difficult than it sounds? What job do you
think you were born to do?
Do you prefer headphones with or without cords?
Who do you feel listens to you the most?
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Do you think we have compatible communication styles?
What would you do if you won the lottery tomorrow?
If your child was born with a birth defect that required around the clock attention
would you take care of the child yourself or let it live in a professional home for
children with such disabilities?
6. If you could erase one past relationship from your memory, which would it be
and why?
What do you want your final words to be?
Are you good at taking phone messages or passing along important calendar
dates to your partner?
14. Do you feel like men and women are equal?
Would you say you're living your dream life?
Where is the perfect honeymoon locale?
10. Have you ever been in a fight?
How do you feel about counseling or therapy if we ever need it?
What movie can you quote the most lines from? Quote your favorite part of the
movie to me!
How have you changed in the last year? How have I changed?
Has trust ever been an issue in our relationship?
In what scenario, if any, is it okay to lie?
If you could marry anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
What do you put on your credit cards?
When you go on a vacation with someone, do you like doing everything together,
most things together or most things on your own and then getting back together
for meals?
18. You’ve just won a home renovation package, but you have to choose
between a complete reflooring and repainting (inside and out) of your home or
upgrades for all your appliances, plus an extra (like a Nespresso machine or an
above-the-range microwave). What would you choose?
What did the people who raised me teach me about love?
Aside from me, who really knows you the best?
Do you make decisions on your own or do you get influenced by other people?
7. If I could change one thing about my life, what do you think it would be?
10. If you could live in a different time period, what would it be and why?
What saying best describes our relationship?
How do you enjoy spending Christmas?
6. What was the best gift you’ve given someone else?
Do I do anything that drives you crazy?
How do you define a successful relationship?
What sort of limitations do you think you would want to place on your children
regarding, television, music, magazines, Internet, etc.?
What are your favorite treats?
1. What is your best childhood memory? 2. What is your worst childhood
memory? 3. What was your biggest fear as a child? 4. What was your favorite
year of school? 5. What was your favorite subject/class in school? 6. What did
you want to be when you grew up? 7. What was your favorite game to play?
8. What is the single most important thing you learned as a child? 9. What is your
most memorable family event?
What is something you have learned from your previous relationships?
What was the happiest moment of your life?
36. Have you ever felt like you have no regrets in life? 37. What’s one thing you
hope to never forget?
62. What do you look for in a friendship? 63. What is/was your longest lasting
friendship and how did it last so long? 64. Do you think you can have multiple
best friends or only one?
Do you have any concerns over vaccinations or flu shots for you or your
children?
What is the nickname that your friends have given you? What does it mean?
What questions are you trying to answer most in your life right now?
How can I make you feel safe to be vulnerable about your pain and fears?
How do you feel about your mate redecorating without consulting you?
Where do you think you would be most comfortable living? City or country? Near
the beach or closer to the mountains? Hot, warm or cold climate?
What is keeping me from relaxing and enjoying our relationship to the fullest?
What is your relationship with your siblings?
34. Do you find it easy to make changes in life?
If you had to choose a new first name what would you choose?
If you had things your way, how often would we be physically intimate, if at all?
What isn’t an Olympic sport, but should be?
How many children would you want if money was no object?
14. If you had to listen to just one of the songs you loved as a kid for the rest of
your life, which song would it be?
Does it bother you if you mate leaves their hair in the sink?
What do you judge yourself most harshly about?
11. If you had a chance to talk to god for 10 minutes but knew you would die
immediately after, would you do it?
1. If I told you one day that I had a superpower that made it unnecessary for me
to pay rent (or pay for much of anything), what would you do? 2. Where would
you like to see me in five years?
Were you a good teenager or did you give your parents a lot of grief?
If you came upon a lot of money, what would you do with it?
Is there anything that you feel like telling your mom or dad but you haven't? Do
you think it would cause more damage to you if you said it? If not, why haven't
you told him?
18. What activities did your mother/father do that you most wish he’d taught
you?
59. What is the essence of well-being?
Do you have a bucket list?
If you could be an animal for a week, what would you be?
If you were to learn a new language, what would it be? What is your favorite
season, and why? Do you prefer having an air conditioner in your home or a
fan? What is that TV show that you cannot miss for anything? Have you ever
been in a major accident? How was the experience?
If you could have any job, regardless of whether you have the experience or
not, what would it be?
Which do you think should have the final say in decisions - logic or emotions?
Why?
Would it ever be OK or desirable that you or your spouse didn't work?
12. What’s one thing you feel our relationship is lacking?
22. What about us do you think works well together? How do we balance each
other out?
Is there such a thing as being ready for marriage?
If you could live through one historical event, what would it be? What is the last
film that made you cry? Where do we go when we die? If you could time
travel once, would you go to the future or the past? Who is your celebrity
doppelganger?
What has been your favorite memory from our time together so far?
24. It’s Halloween and your S.O. wants you both to dress up like Vision and
Wanda/Scarlet Witch from Avengers: Infinity War and go to a party. You had
other plans for the evening. What do you do?
How do you handle high-stress situations?
6. What’s your worst memory? 7. When was the last time you cried?
10. What major regret do you have so far in your life? Is it too late to change it?
Should couples keep secrets from each other? Why or why not?
If I get offended or irritated at something you say or do, what is the best way for
me to bring it up so that you don't get angry?
What was the worst phase you went through in life? When was the last time you
cried? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? What do you think about the
most often?
What is the best thing you learned from your mom and dad?
What is one negative memory you have as a child?
Is there anything you would like to change in me?
Do you look forward to our nights out, or do you prefer us at home?
Do you like movies or books better?
Which would you prefer to have, a small wedding or a big one?
Have you ever gotten petty revenge on somebody? What did you do?
How do you feel when someone close to you disagrees with you? In which areas
of your life do you feel like you are an independent?
What movie is way better than the book? What movie ruined the book for you?
What do you see as my best parenting skills?
What is one thing you would like to change about yourself today, and why?
Is there anything about your past you are uncomfortable sharing with me, and if
so, how can I make you feel more comfortable?
29. Do you believe in having a five-year plan?
14. What’s something you’d like to tell your parents that you would never dare
to?
Does your family have any traditions? Is there a personality trait that always
ticks you off in a person?
5. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would
it be?
Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?
10. What are some specific actions we can take so we can enjoy more time
together?
Is it ever OK to lie? If so, why or in what situation?
What makes you feel secure and safe?
Do you have a phone voice or a puppy/baby voice?
How would you describe your family?
Is there anything that gives you overwhelming anxiety?
22. What is your guilty pleasure?
Are you a morning or night person? Who is your favourite Actor? Actress?
.What’s the best concert or show you have ever seen live? .Who is your
favourite singer or band? Who is your least favourite actor or actress? What’s
your favourite colour? What’s your favourite season? .What’s your favourite
type of food? .What is your least favourite type of food? .What is the strangest
thing you have ever eaten? What are you hobbies? What do you do in your free
time? .Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet? .What’s your favourite
day of the week? .Do you think most celebrities have a better, more exciting life
than you do? Do you regularly go to the movies, or do you prefer to rent or
download movies and watch
14. What’s your spouse's worst habit? 15. Between the two of you, who will
your spouse say is the bigger pack rat?
57. Has any piece of art ever inspired you to change your life in some way?
Do I have emotional habits that drag you down or make you feel bad? If so what
are they?
Prior to this year, what is the best gift you've ever received? Why was it so
special?
Are there any deal-breakers for you in a relationship?
4. What should a healthy relationship provide for the people in it?
25. Do you believe in ghosts?
What are some things you have learned from me?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
What school sports and activities did you participate in up through college?
ision, what would you do?
Have you ever played any musical instruments? Which ones and do you still play
them?
If you knew you were going to die and could only send one text, who would you
send it to and what would you say?
Who would narrate an audio book about your life?
10. What can we both learn from our past wounds that will help us improve our
relationship going forward?
Generally speaking, do you like the way you look?
Do you have a dream that repeats again and again? What is it?
Describe a fun date that only costs $20.
What is one city or country that everyone wants to visit that you don’t?
What quality about our partnership do you enjoy the most?
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If you could be an object for a day, what would you be?
Do I make you feel heard?
Do you have a dream that I can help you achieve?
Do you like being gifted jewelry?
What family vacations did you take as a child?
Do you allow your pets to be on the furniture?
Is there anything that you have practically no self-control over (ice cream, offers
for a roll in the hay, a bargain shoe sale, a beanie baby for your collection, etc.)?
What was your dream job when you were a kid?
How much time do you currently spend working? What hours do you work? Will
that change when you are married and have a family to come home to?
79. What was conflict like in your family growing up? 80.What did your family
teach you about health?
23. How do you prefer to cook your eggs (e.g., scrambled, over easy, sunny side
up, etc.)?
What feeling do you have the most difficulty controlling?
12. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received in your whole life?
12. Is there a belief or attitude that seems to interfere with creating or pursuing a
big dream?
What town were you born, and where did you grow up?
38. What’s the first thing you do in the morning, and how does it impact the rest
of your day?
What makes life worth living?
How do you envision our life in 10 years?
What do you do when you feel stressed?
Why do you need to give up, say no to, or let go of?
Who was the worst teacher you’ve ever had? Which three people are you
grateful for right now? How is our relationship similar to your parent’s
relationship? 4. What was your favourite show as a kid? What can’t you live
without? What’s one of your short term goals? What movie can you watch
over and over again? What’s your favourite snack?
What’s a story you’ve always wanted to tell, but never got a chance to?
20. What’s one thing you would change about yourself right now? 21. Do you
journal and, if so, what do you usually write about? 22. How would you rank
your love languages? 23. If you got to live in another country for a year, where
would you live? 24. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Do you have problems letting friendships dissolve when you realize you have
little in common? Do you feel obligated to keep close family ties with relatives
you would not normally choose to socialize with? Is it ever appropriate to
"divorce" yourself from certain family members?
In your opinion, can long-distance relationships survive?
What’s your favorite comfort food? How do you make it?
If you were asked to give me a new name, what would it be?
Do you have any regrets?
On which topics do you feel qualified at giving advice?
If you found a wallet with $300 cash in it, would you return it to its owner? Would
you turn it into the police if there was no identification in it?
Do you arrive at the airport ahead of time in case problems arise or do you try
to get there at the last possible minute so you don’t have to wait?
Do you like yourself?
6. What actor would you like to play the starring role of your life? 7. Who should
play me (as your best friend)? 8. What is your favorite season of the year? 9.
If you could keep just five of your possessions, what would they be?
Has a book made you cry? What was it?
After your most recent breakup, what song did you play on repeat?
If you could cause one minor inconvenience to the person you hate the most,
what would it be?
6. What’s one similarity between us that you absolutely love?
Are you missing anyone right now? Do you think they miss you to?
What's the biggest fight you've had with your family? Has the issue been
completely settled?
Who is more generous, you or me?
Do you think that if a person offends your mate they have offended you as well?
15. Who would you give an Oscar to this year, if you could award it to anyone?
What is the most surprising thing you’ve ever done?
If you had your own butler, what would you make him do?
If you were an employer of labor, what are the top three traits you want in an
employee?
Who is more likely to live through a zombie attack?
What is your biggest fear in life?
What is your favorite thing about me?
What do you think about when you’re by yourself?
10. Where did your first kiss happen?
What's your favorite obscure holiday?
What makes you feel accomplished?
How do you feel about giving your passwords to your partner?
How many times a day do you brush your teeth?
22. If you woke up as one of your favorite cartoon characters, who would you
be?
Do you prefer to stay in touch with others by letter, email, or the phone?
At what age or what level of financial stability (loans paid off, x dollars in savings)
would you like to retire? How do you think you would spend your retirement?
What is your favorite cuisine?
What would you consider a stress buster — a relaxed weekend at a resort, an
adventure trip, a disco party, or stay at home and watch TV?
1. What is your most embarrassing memory?
What are your wildest fantasies?
What’s one of your favourite childhood memories?
How can I make you feel more secure in our relationship?
If you could name yourself in the will of one of your friends, who would it be and
what would you inherit?
9. Do you have any habits you want to change?
What’s your favourite way that I touch you?
What do you tend to be humble about? When do you catch yourself being
arrogant?
What’s your most regrettable purchase?
Are you more into looks or brains?
What is your preference between cats and dogs?
What did you not realize about yourself until somebody else told you about it?
How did you know that you wanted to do _________ for a career? If you could do
anything else, what would be your dream job?
12. What was the last (or most memorable) gift you’ve received that you ended
up donating or giving to someone else?
What are your expectations when it comes to sharing household chores?
If you had to be a different nationality, what country would you like to have been
born in? Why?
What do you think your best and worst personality traits are? Who do you miss
the most? What is the hardest life lesson you've had to learn? What do you
take for granted?
How do you feel about standardized testing?
What annoys you?
What are your top three deserted island essentials?
What is your opinion on how I manage problems in our relationship?
What's your favorite state?
Have you ever wanted to write a book? What would you write?
What is your definition of femininity?
What is the weirdest food that you have ever eaten?
How do you feel about your children participating in sports where the aim is to
hurt one another or there is extreme physical contact such as boxing, football or
rugby?
23. What behaviors do you despise in another person? 24. If you could have
chosen your own name, what would it be? 25. If you could be a professional in
one sport, which one would you choose?
Did you grow up in an ethnic or culturally unique community? What role does it
play in your life? Will you want to stay active in that community when you get
married?
Have you ever had serious thoughts about committing suicide? What are your
thoughts about those who kill themselves?
Is there anything you wish we discussed more?
Do you believe in second chances, and if so, why?
29. Does it matter that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel if you can’t get to
it?
Tell me about what you were like as a child? As a teenager?
What's your favorite movie or TV wedding?
How does our age difference, or lack thereof, affect us? If at all?
What events are on your bucket list? (ex. Lollapalooza, Macy’s Thanksgiving
Day Parade, etc.)
Do you like erotic fiction?
22. How would you improve your current living space right now, if you could?
What’s a personal dream or goal you’ve never told me about?
8. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change
anything about the way you are now living? Why?
Are you interested in having kids?
What would your dream wedding proposal look like?
I need to buy a present for my mom; will you help me?
What are some expectations you have of a long-term partnership? Why?
How often do you call in sick when you are not really ill?
48. What do you do if you’re faced with something you fear? How can I help
empower you to face your fears?
What kind of a wedding would you prefer —a quiet ceremony with close friends
and relatives or a theme wedding with many guests?
How would you react if I got a job offer in a different country?
How did you feel when a beloved pet of yours died?
What's your favorite gas station?
How powerful is peer pressure to you? Do you feel you need to live in a similar
fashion as your friends? Did you have problems with peer pressure in your earlier
years?
Do you prefer receiving expensive gifts or ones that come from the heart?
What does financial stability mean to you, and how do you plan to achieve it?
Do you currently believe that you are mature and experienced enough to be able
to build and maintain a very successful marriage? When did you feel you were
ready or when do you think you will be there?
What from your past has shaped your emotional needs and reactions?
13. What’s your favorite non-physical quality about me?
Do you have any ten-year goals?
If you could be taller or shorter, which would you choose?
16. What is your favorite childhood memory?
If money didn't matter, what would your dream job or career be?
What positive habits could we work on together?
If your mate had great interest in some sport or activity that you had absolutely
no liking or interest in, would you try to like it or would you simply encourage him
or her to do it without you? If your mate didn't
Children are often very similar to their parents. How do you want to be different
than your parents? And how do you want to be similar to them?
If it cost the same, would you live in a mansion or a mid-sized house with a lot
of land?
Do you have any irrational fears?
What is that one embarrassing moment you have not told anyone about yet?
What do you think is the weirdest animal? Why?
What’s your favourite chocolate?
Is there anywhere you want to visit before you die?
Do you want kids? If so, would you prefer having a baby without a partner or a
partner without a baby?
If you could be born again as someone else, who would you be and why?
What does your ideal life look like?
Does spanking turn you on?
What is that opinion you have that you consider controversial?
Where do you go when you need some inspiration?
Do you put toxic poisons on your yard (weed killer, etc.)? How do you feel about
using those chemicals?
How do you feel about the way your parents raised you? How did they do a good
job and how did they mess up?
Who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
14. What unconventional job would you consider taking if you had to?
If you are in a grouchy mood, should I leave you alone or do something else?
How long does it take you to trust someone?
Do you believe in ghosts?
What would your perfect day look like?
Are you chirpy in the morning or are you a grouch?
Do you see marriage in your future?
22. What book has had the biggest impact on you?
What kind of legacy do we want to leave our children and the world?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing?
Why?
How do you envision our life in 10 years?
What body part do you think best defines your personality?
What five things have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
What habits do you still have from childhood?
In what ways do you see me as a unique individual, separate and apart from our
relationship?
If you and your mate purchased a pet and later split up, how do you think you
would decide who got the pet?
What do you do to protect the environment? Do you think you should do more?
Do you think we’re a positive influence on each other? Do I bring out the good in
you?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a
30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
What are the 5 things you cannot live without?
What do you think are our most difficult topics to discuss?
How has our relationship grown stronger over the months (or years)?
What's the last movie that made you cry?
What’s the first image that immediately comes to your mind when you think of
me?
In what ways do you feel most loved by me?
What annoys you the most about people in three words?
17. Can you walk me through your entire day today, from start to finish?
What do you think about drinking in front of children? What about getting
drunk?
If a genie granted you three wishes right now, what would you wish for?
What’s my perfect date?
What would your ideal vacation look like?
22. Is there anything you’ve been dying to suggest to me but haven’t dared
because you were nervous about how I’d react? What would make it easier to tell
me?
I still get butterflies when you walk into the room. Do you feel that way too?
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Do you feel heard by me?
What food have you never tried but want to?
What are your thoughts on handguns that serve no other real purpose than
shooting people?
Would you ever run for President?
Where did you grow up? Where’s the best place you’ve lived?
What is something your parents don’t know about you?
Where do you want to retire?
How do you feel about permanent tattoos? Why do you think most people get
them?
Assuming everyone is safe, what three possessions would you save in a fire?
What’s something I used to do at the start of our relationship that you miss, now
that we’ve been together for a while?
If you could change one thing about me and the way I treat you, what would you
change? What are you most attracted to about me? What is your favorite
activity to do with me?
Have you ever dated someone who worked in your company? Did the company
have a policy against that?
Do you keep a physical day planner or use your phone?
Which meals would you like to be able to eat together? Do you think we will be
able to consistently do so?
35. If you were a ghost, who would you haunt? 36. What’s your favorite dad
joke?
What petty thing that people do really gets on your nerves? What brings meaning
to your life? What is something you wish you could say to people but can’t?
What are some of the most attractive traits a person can have? What's a secret
you've never told anyone?
How have you changed since we started dating?
Do you have a role model in your profession? What about them do you
admire?
Do you think you are interesting or a bore?
14. If our friendship ended, what’s the one thing about it you’d miss the most?
How would you rate your maturity among your peers?
How can we work it out, if we disagree about the amount of time spent with our
extended family?
Do you have a location in the movie theater where you prefer to sit?
Which color describes our intimate relationship?
What makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
Are you competitive?
1. What gives you the most comfort? 2. Were your parents good at being
parents?
Do you wear slippers at home?
Do you usually stay friends with your exes?
Do you like to exaggerate things for effect?
Who would you like to spend more time with, and what relationships would you
like to develop?
Do you "take your job home with you"?
What do you feel most proud of?
What would a day of being completely spoiled look like?
21. What songs meant the most to you during high school?
1. What was the best part of your week? 2. What was your first thought this
morning? 3. How can I make your day better? 4. Is there anything you’ve
wanted to do for a while, but need help with? 5. How have you been feeling
lately? 6. Is there something coming up that you’re nervous for? 7. What’s
stressed you out lately? 8. Is there anything that would help you relax? 9.
How are your family/friends?
How are our spending and saving habits different?
What kind of animal do you see me as?
How can I let you know I don’t feel like talking?
Does your mate usually interrupt your sentences? Do you find it irritating? Does
your mate monopolize the conversation, making it hard to speak?
3. What were the major turning points in your life?
What was the best vacation you've ever taken?
What are the top 5 countries you want to visit? What are you most grateful for?
What is your definition of femininity? What is your definition of masculinity?
When did you last cry?
Are you a cat or dog person?
Do you think I’ve changed since we first started being friends?
15. A courier has just arrived with news that you are related to royalty, and they
want you to drop everything and head to the royal family’s country to be
recognized. What would go through your head while you were being told all this,
and would you go?
If there is one country you could get a free airline ticket to, which would that be?
What do you most like to do when you have alone time?
If we face a crisis, how would you want us to handle it as a couple?
Do you give money to homeless people/beggars? Why or why not? What
experiences usually make you filled with joy?
What is your favorite holiday? Why is it so special to you?
22. It’s St. Patrick’s Day, and someone pinches you for not wearing green. What
do you do?
What was your most embarrassing moment?
28. Do you think the experiences people have on psychedelic drugs are “real”?
What family traditions did you have growing up? Would you want your children to
continue them?
How important do you think college degrees are in getting a good job? Does the
college experience help you to be a successful person in more ways than just the
book knowledge?
How do you apply what you’ve learned in school to your daily life?
Have you ever sued someone or been sued? What were the circumstances?
10. What other ways do you have for dealing with your emotions if I feel
overwhelmed by them?
In what ways does our relationship help and/or hinder the achievement of your
goals?
Do you like your friends? Do you think they’ll like me?
If you could plan any vacation for us, where would it be?
Who's your "hall pass" celebrity crush today?
Who was your favorite cartoon character when you were a kid?
How do you speak about me to your family and friends?
What is the best concert you’ve ever attended?
When you were a child, did you get an allowance? How much was it? Did you
have to do chores to earn it? Would you want the same system for your children?
What do you want to make more time for?
11. Have you ever cheated on a test? 12. Do you wonder if there really is a
God? 13. If you had one day left to live, how would you spend it?
Have you ever lost someone close to you?
Who is the first person you call when you are in trouble?
How do you define success?
What would you change about me if you could? Do you think I have an
irrational fear of something? Do I ever make you unhappy? When was the first
time you looked and me and realized that you were in love with me? Was my
first impression of you a good one or a bad one? What is one thing I do for you
that you are truly grateful for? What is one thing about me that surprised you?
What do you admire most about me? What is your favorite physical feature of
mine? Where is your favorite place to be with me? Do you want to change
anything in me? How did you know you wanted to be in a relationship with me?
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with me? What is the nicest thing I
have ever said to you? Do I make you feel good about yourself? What is one
secret you’ve wanted to tell me, but haven’t?
11. Have you ever given a gift that the recipient hated (or didn’t know what to do
with)?
What has surprised you about life?
Are you known for anything special in your hometown/friend group?
What skills do you wish you had learned in school?
What are five things you appreciate about me?
10. Have you done anything for yourself lately?
What are your biggest vices?
Are you one who adapts to change easily? Can you cite some examples?
Do you ever pick up hitchhikers? Which type of people would you pick up?
How has your place in the birth order impacted you?
Do you have problems letting someone else control the remote control? Are you
a channel surfer?
What would you want to teach your children about fist fighting?
4. If I were to tell you I had a year to live, what would you do? Or what would you
hope I did?
What are your views on money? Do you have financial priorities or goals?
Would you rather go out for dinner alone or go to a concert alone?
How do you stay intellectually stimulated or challenged?
9. What has been your favorite travel memory so far?
Does aging scare you?
10. Am I someone you feel like you can depend on for emotional support?
What’s your favorite dessert?
Do you believe you need to be married and have children to be "whole"?
What’s something that turns you on that you haven’t shared before? 138. True or
false: Romance is definitely still part of our relationship 139. What’s your dream
house? What’s your favourite type of weather?
3. What did you fear most growing up? 4. How have you dealt with past
disappointments?
If we differ on the amount of time we need alone, how can we compromise?
What is more important to you in a dream job – status, power, or money – and
why?
25. Your S.O. bought a new perfume/cologne, and you think it smells terrible.
What do you say?
1. What’s your favorite book or movie? 2. Would you rather swim with sharks or
jellyfish? 3. Have you ever gotten detention in school? 4. What’s your favorite
animal and why? 5. If a genie granted us three wishes, what would they be? 6.
Have you ever cried in public before? 7. Have you ever gone skiing or
snowboarding? 8. Have you ever done a backflip or frontflip? 9. Have you
ever driven a car off the road?
What parenting skills from your parents do you want to emulate with our
children?
When in your life were you the happiest?
Give yourself a compliment
How many physical fights have you been in? Do you usually start them? Why do
you fight?
On a typical month, how much is your long distance phone bill? Does that include
international calls?
What’s something you’re passionate about that you never get a chance to talk
about?
What things about me remind you of anyone from your past, either past
sweethearts or good friends?
What do you see as your best character trait?
Do you enjoy experiencing different ways of life or do you usually find it
frustrating that they don't do things as efficiently or like the way things are done
back home?
When and where did you go on your first date ever?
What do I need to get off my chest?
6. What are your financial priorities and goals?
If someone wanted to finance the startup of your business with no strings
attached, what business would you start?
What’s your passion?
Are there times when you question our compatibility?
Do you ever get jealous in our relationship?
12. How do you see our future together: do you envision a two-income
household, or a different arrangement?
9. If you could pick one year of your life to do-over, which would it be and why?
Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert? Does it change depending on the
crowd?
53. Did you have a long period in life when you didn’t feel like yourself? How did
you come back from that?
Do you need a lot of space in the relationship?
Who inspires you? Why?
What's something you've always wanted to do, and haven't been able to?
1. Who is your role model and why? 2. What’s the worst decision you’ve ever
made? 3. What makes you the happiest version of yourself? 4. What do you
want your future to look like? 5. How do you define success? 6. Does the idea
of getting older scare you? 7. What was your childhood like? 8. What do you
do when you’re stressed? 9. Where is your happy place?
What do i keep doing that keeps hurting? Do I keep repeating this behavior?
What are some of your favorite memories from any time in your life?
Did you ever hang out with the wrong crowd in school? Did your parents know
about it?
Which of your parents did you go to when you wanted to talk and why?
What would you dream honeymoon be like?
What’s the latest you’ve ever stayed in your pajamas in the day?
If we could travel right now, which place would you like to visit?
Do you already have children?
How many hours of TV do you watch in an average day? When do you turn the
television on and when do you turn it off?
21. If you could travel to anywhere in the world, and money was no object, tell
me where you’d go and how you’d get there.
Who is your role model? Do you think there’s life on other planets? If you
could live as one fictional character for a day, who would it be? What would you
do if you were invisible for a day? Would you ever want to be famous? What
is one difference between us that you absolutely love? What is one similarity
between us that you absolutely love? If you won a million dollars tomorrow,
what would you first do?
How do you see us handling our differences in parenting styles?
How do you like to begin your day?
20. If I have good news and bad news to share, which do you want to hear first?
8. When you’re sad or upset about something, how do you like to be comforted?
Or would you rather be left alone to process it?
Men, what do you think is the best thing about being a guy? Women, what do
you think is the best thing about being a female?
What does retirement look like to you?
What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but others made you feel like
you couldn’t accomplish?
What are three things you can appreciate about being single (even if it feels
hard)?
What was your best birthday?
If you could start a nonprofit what would it be for?
Which of us has a better sense of direction?
What is something you did to impress me in the early days of our relationship?
Do I do anything that makes you feel unloved?
How has your past shaped your outlook on our relationship?
What do you look for in a significant other?
11. Who spends more time in the shower?
Is there something you could cut out of your life with little effort that would save
you tons of money?
Are you closer with your mum or dad (if relevant)?
. How much time do you spend online every day? .What are your favourite
social media sites? . Do you post photos of yourself online? .What was the
happiest moment of your life? .What was your most embarrassing moment?
How did you respond? .Who has been the most influential person in your life?
. Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel? .What
was the biggest mistake you think you ever made and how did it change your
life? 18.What is the last book you read? .Do you have a favourite character in
The Bible? .What is your biggest regret in your life? .Did you have a pet
growing up and which was your favourite? .Have you ever been able to
overcome a bad habit? What was it? .If you could have dinner with any three
historical figures, who would you choose? 24.What is the most impulsive thing
you’ve ever done? .What is the largest purchase you ever made? .What is the
most memorable gift you’ve ever received? .What was the nicest thing anyone
ever said to you? . If you could change anything about your childhood, would
you? What would you change? 29.Who was your hero growing up? .What’s the
riskiest thing you’ve ever done? .Who was your favourite teacher? Why?
.What is something funny you can do that not many know about? .What was
the highlight of your day today? .Have you ever learnt to speak another
language? .What’s your favourite time of the year? Why? .Would you rather
live year-round in a desert or frozen tundra?
5. If someone who knew us both asked you whether I’d rather have a million
dollars or a cool superpower, what would you tell them?
What life crisis do you fear the most? Why?
Have you ever lived alone? Do you or did you enjoy it?
What’s your favourite fish?
When do you feel the happiest?
12. If you won half a billion dollars from the lottery (assume you bought a ticket),
what would you do first?
positive change in your life?
What’s the weirdest thing you have done?
What do you have a strong opinion on that is unimportant in the grand scheme
of things?
What’s your favourite emotion?
What’s your mission in life?
What is the most important thing you learned from your father? What are some
other things he taught you?
What is your favorite childhood memory about a favorite teacher?
Ideally, what are the minimum number of years you think you would need to build
a solid relationship/marriage before you add children to the mix?
What is the wackiest thing you’ve ever done?
16. What’s the best album you’ve listened to as of late?
1. Have you ever felt the need to harm yourself? 2. What memory has left the
biggest impact on who you are? 3. Would you sacrifice your life for someone?
4. Has anything traumatic ever happened to you? 5. Have you ever had an
addiction? 6. Have you ever had a near death encounter? 7. Have you ever
used hard drugs? 8. What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had? 9. How would
you feel if something happened to me?
Do you prefer cooking in or going out to eat?
What things tend to make you angry? How do you usually react when you are
angry?
Who are some of your friends who bring you true happiness, and how do they
do it?
12. What do you wish people knew about you?
5. If you had a childhood pet and they passed away, how did you handle that?
What holiday or traditions do you feel strongly we spend with your extended
family?
What’s the most surprising or interesting conversation you’ve had with a
stranger?
If you could move anywhere for just a few years, where would it be?
Have you ever taken a fake sick day? What did you do?
15. Did you have any pets growing up?
What legacy do you want people to remember about you after you’re gone?
What is something you look forward to in our relationship?
16. How do you feel about big corporations?
Do you prefer to give or receive? Why?
What is your favorite perfume?
Have you experienced gender disparities/discrimination in your work place?
How do you handle that?
How do you describe me to a stranger?
Which, if any, household chores would you expect your children to do? Beginning
at what age?
Do you usually return phone calls and emails within a day?
What one thing could you change in your behavior that would make your
relationship closer? What is keeping you from making that change?
What’s the best pizza you’ve ever had?
Have you ever broken someone's heart?
What skill did you master when you were younger that you’ve forgotten since?
Are you a good dancer?
What food have you always wanted to try? What food do people think is gross
that you love?
How do you express anger?
13. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done at a job?
How well do you function under a lot of pressure? What is your weakness?
What does it feel like to you when you fall in love?
From your previous experiences, when you had a fight or argument with your
partner, did you first run to family or friends for advice or comfort or did first try to
work things out with your partner?
What animal do I resemble?
18. How would you feel if your spouse was in love with another person? 19. What
do you value most – comfort or personal growth?
443. What are your biggest dreams and aspirations? 444. How do you plan to
achieve your dreams? 445. What’s your vision for our future together? 446.
What do you hope to accomplish in the next five years? 447. How do you feel
about long-term commitments and plans? 448. What are your financial goals
and how do you plan to achieve them? 449. How would you handle unexpected
changes to your plans?
Is there any decision you have made that you regret now?
If you could do anything for the rest of your life in the entire world today, what
would that be?
Have you ever used a pick up line? Was it successful?
2. Your spouse has the day off and an empty house. How does your spouse
spend the day?
What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done, and would you do it again?
What's your favorite time of day?
In what ways do you feel I could be a better partner?
What gives you butterflies?
How long do you think you could stare into my eyes without laughing?
Do you think you are competitive? In what areas?
23. Are you still holding a grudge against someone?
How did people treat you in high school?
What historical era would you most, and least, want to go to?
1. What’s the best advice a family member gave you growing up?
What do you think is romantic?
What calms you down the most? What are kinds of things do you find
repulsive? What would your perfect life look like? If you received a salary to
follow whatever passion you wanted to, what would you do? What's your most
embarrassing story about being sick? What friend have you not thought about
in a long time? What's the craziest thing that has happened at a job you worked
at? Who do you act nice around but secretly dislike? If money was no object,
and with no input from me, how would you decorate your / our house? How good
are you at reading people? Are you hopeful about your future? Who do you
want to be more like or who do you look up to most? What were the healthiest
and unhealthiest periods of your life? What's the worst emotional or mental
anguish you've endured? What do you like most about where we live?
To what extent are you involved in politics?
What are you most fearful of? How does that fear keep you from doing things you
would like to do?
How do you feel about dogs that are bred to attack and have been known to kill
children (Pit Bulls, Rotweillers, etc.)?
If you were given the opportunity to successfully run for president, would you do
so? When you won, what three things would you most like to improve in your
country?
What would you perfect night look like?
What is the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?
14. What’s the best movie you’ve seen so far this year?
Do you consider your parents as friends?
Would you rather a night in a fancy penthouse suite or a private beach house?
11. If I started dressing exactly like you – even trying to wear the same outfit
every day – and then started talking and acting like you, what would you say to
me?
What's something I've taught you?
Is there anything I do now that crosses your boundaries and makes you
uncomfortable?
If you could be a character from a hit television show, who would you pick?
Do you think of yourself as an optimist, or a pessimist?
What areas do you think we could most improve our communication? (you might
want to use the book chapter headings as a guide)
Would you rather be an amazing singer, or an incredible dancer?
What was your favorite book as a child?
What’s the worst pain you’ve ever been in?
What qualities in me do you find attractive?
What does success mean to you personally?
If you could be the best in the world at anything, what would it be?
11. What’s the most challenging setback you’ve ever experienced? How did you
overcome it?
What’s something that’s missing in your life?
What’s the most difficult thing you’ve had to go through?
What song makes you think of me?
Is it ever appropriate for someone to express anger in a physical way? If so,
when and how?
What was your high & low of today?
What’s your favorite book? Convince me why I should read it.
What sort of plans have you made for retirement?
What’s a nice thing I have done recently?
What has helped you heal from a heartbreak in the past, besides time and
meeting someone new?
Is there anything you would like to change about yourself?
28. What’s your favorite podcast?
What do I unconsciously do that triggers pain from the past?
What are your top five personal values?
What role does art play in your life?
What to date has been your greatest source of learning?
How do you grieve the loss of something or someone you cherish?
What about our friendship are you proudest of?
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What is your idea of what an organization’s workplace should look like?
Would you rather go on a holiday or buy something expensive?
Which parent are you closer to, and why?
4. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? (If their sense of humor is
dark like yours)
If we started a band together, what would you want us to be called?
Do you want to have kids? Why or why not/How many?
What is the best way for me to tell you that I am out of balance?
Would it bother you if I walked around the house naked?
Do you like museums?
What can I do to be a better partner?
What are your thoughts on therapy?
60. Are your earliest memories positive? 61. Have you gotten closer to the
meaning of life in the last 10 years?
10. Do you think a relationship can come back from cheating?
20. What do you think is your biggest strength in this friendship?
. What are some of the cultural pressures that people put on you as a woman?
Do you remember our first date?
How do I tend to express anger or handle conflict?
How did your last relationship end?
What is the best compliment I have given you?
What sort of research, if any, do you do before you travel somewhere?
Is there anything about me that you would like to change?
What are some of your favourite movies?
What was your dream job as a child?
Do you think the present is better than 50 years ago? Why?
Who was your childhood hero? Why?
Do you ever think it's okay to lie? In what scenarios?
How would someone be able to tell if you're happy? If you're sad? Are you an
organized person?
What’s a word or phrase I use that you adore?
Tell me about the biggest lie you've ever told? Why did you tell it and how did you
feel afterwards?
How personally involved do you get with "your" team's performance? If they lose,
does it make you angry or put you in a bad mood?
Have you ever resigned from your job? Why did you leave the job?
Have you ever been really embarassed?
What’s something you wish you had started planning for when you were
younger?
Do you have a child's heart sometimes? What sort of “childish” things do you
think about doing?
3. What do you think is the meaning of life? 4. What was the most difficult
“goodbye” in your life?
What makes you a good friend? How would you spend $10,000,000 (10 million
dollars)? If you could change one thing about your life today, what would it be?
24. What have you been procrastinating on recently?
11. How were your summers spent when you were younger?
How many weeks each year can you take off from work?
What have i accomplished recentlt that woul dhave shocked me a year ago?
Which musical artist would you want me to commission a love song from?
What's another language you wish you could speak? Have you ever written a
poem or a song about someone? What's a skill you think we could learn
together?
How do you recharge?
5. Do you believe in marriage? 6. Why did you break up with your ex? 7. Who
are your closest friends? 8. How often do you talk to your parents? 9. What is
your ideal holiday destination —beaches, hills, museums, or wildlife
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What was the biggest decision you ever made? What happened?
Tell me about your best vacation.
10. What is your rule as a couple about discussing marital problems with
extended family?
Do you find it easy to start conversations with strangers?
What are the things that you remember from our first date?
11. What’s one thing you’re scared to ask me, but really want to know the answer
to?
How can I be a better partner to you?
If you had one magical superpower, what would it be?
What word matches the color you picked?
What are some unfulfilled things in your life right now?
Do you consider me your best friend?
How are you allowing the past to continue to make you unhappy?
What's the funniest nickname you've ever had?
Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
Do you have any big meetings or things coming up that you’re feeling nervous
about? How can I help? What do you need to feel supported?
What topics do you most enjoy discussing with me?
49. Do you feel like your clothes are a part of your personality?
7. When was the last time you cried and why?
What can someone do that makes them immediately unattractive to you, no
matter how attractive they are physically?
Do you have any weird friends?
3. Do you think there’s an alternative reality?
13. Who is your celebrity crush right now?
Do you get your pets "fixed" or do you allow them to keep producing litters? What
do you do with the babies?
4. What question have you been wanting to ask me?
What's your favorite season?
What are some of your biggest goals, outside of work?
How many drinks does it take until you are definitely "feeling it." Do you cut
yourself off after a certain number of drinks? Or when do you know you have had
enough?
18. What’s a quirk of mine you find really funny?
7. What did you learn to do before your 18th birthday that most people you’ve
met don’t know how to do?
14. Do you believe in the existence of aliens — specifically intelligent life on other
planets?
What do you consider your greatest strengths?
Which type of home do you think would have the most benefit for our lifestyle?
Apartment (no maintenance but not much privacy and not a long term
investment)? House (regular yard work and maintenance but the most privacy)?
Townhouse/condo (no yard or exterior maintenance but certain restrictions and
not as much privacy)?
What role does self-reflection play in your life?
When you were younger, what was your dream job? What gets you up in the
morning? What is your favorite way to spend your time? Do you believe
everything happens for a reason? Do you love yourself?
How do you think we can have more fun in our lives?
What do you want to do differently from your parents?
16. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it
be?
Do you care if your nails are done when you get engaged?
What would you name a boat?
How old were you when you stopped believing in the tooth fairy?
Beach or mountains?
Do you enjoy going to amusement parks? Do you like going on the thrill rides?
What's your favorite gift that I've given you?
Do you think parents should foot the bill for their children's college expenses or
do you think children actually appreciate and learn more when they have to pay
all or a significant part themselves?
How do you feel about having guns in your home?
What’s your favorite thing to relax in the evenings?
Is there anything that you constantly worry about?
7. What’s one thing about you that you’d never mention on a first date?
How could I make your day/life easier/better right now?
What do you envision our home (our realistic home - not our dream home)
looking like? The architecture, the décor, the yard, etc?
Have you ever been on a group tour? What do you think about them?
Would you be with someone who doesn’t have the same personal beliefs as
you?
15. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
What’s your least favourite type of weather?
10. What do you see us doing during our retirement years
10. What is your best birthday memory? 11. What was one of your favorite gifts
as a child?
26. What have you done for fun or leisure this week?
Do you have a favorite movie quote?
11. What are you hoping to learn in the coming year?
Would you ever want to go back to school?
If you wrote erotic novels, what would your pseudonym be?
How do you like to be cared for when you're sad?
18. What’s the most surprising or conversation you’ve had with a stranger? 19.
What’s something you learned early on in life that you don’t think other people
usually do?
12. Your spouse asks you to get fast food for dinner. Where do you stop?
What's the nicest thing you can remember
How important are pillows?
What would make me happy right now?
What are our guiding principles as parents?
19. What do other people do that frustrates you?
53. What advice would you give to your children to stay determined? 54. What is
the best way to motivate each other? 55. What is your greatest success to
date? 56. What do you hope to achieve in the short-term?
25. Have you ever done what you thought was the “right thing” with catastrophic
results?
10. What’s your favorite curse word?
What do you fear the most?
What is your idea of a perfect date?
How has your last relationship prepared you for your next one?
What do you think about eating meals (with your family) in front of the television?
Do you think family time and discussions around the dinner table are important?
78. What was your best birthday? 79. If you could only celebrate one holiday
each year, what would it be?
What activity makes you feel the most joyful when you're doing it?
How have your parents impacted your view on love and relationships? What do
you believe happens after death?
How would you like to spend time with me?
Do you see me as a kind person to you and others?
16. What is your lover’s biggest shopping addiction? 17. What’s your spouse’s
worst habit? 18. What's the name of your spouse's ex? 19. What did the
husband wear on the first date?
What is the most adventurous thing you have done?
If you had the power to correct one problem in the world, what would you fix?
What would you do with your life if you suddenly became a billionaire?
How would your best friends describe you?
Do you want kids someday?
Will you be willing to remain at home and take care of the kids while I go to
work?
4. What’s your biggest fear for this friendship?
How can I make you feel appreciated and loved after a fight?
From your past relationships, do you think that most people learn from their
mistakes or do they simply keep repeating them?
What is the maximum length vacation you think you could take away from work
without causing a problem? If you were retired or between jobs how long could
you be away?
16. Where do you hope to be three to five years from now? How about ten
years?
How many times have you been in love?
Do you have any negative emotions about our relationship you need to express?
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Did you complete your taxes from this previous year? Who did them? Do you
always file on time?
How many pillows do you need to sleep with?
How often do you go clothes shopping?
What's the most expensive thing you purchased that you regret buying? What's
the most expensive thing you purchased that you're happy you bought?
What does my body language tell you sometimes even though I'm not talking?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do your feel most helpful to others?
Which of these differences do we need to work on for healing, resolving, or
managing?
Do you use your yard for any activities?
What's something you like about yourself?
15. What is something that never ends well?
What do you think are my talents? Do you think you have any of the same
talents?
Do you remember your first orgasm?
12. If I lashed out at you, but you knew that the person I was really angry with
was someone else — and if that someone else was also important to you —
how would you handle it?
Would you say you're good at taking care of yourself?
What animal do you think I'd be?
Do you tend to be punctual or are you usually late? What are some things that
you consider a waste of time? What do you like most about my personality?
Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?
Do you think parents have the right to return (to the store) or give away gifts
given to their young children that they feel are inappropriate or junk?
What do we need to change to live closer to our values?
Which celebrity did you have a crush on while growing up as a child?
Did you have a crush on any fictional characters growing up?
What goals do you have for your marriage?
How traditionally “normal” was your family?
Would you rather acquire material items or experiences?
If you didn't have to work for an entire year, what would you do with your time?
What coping mechanisms work for you on bad mental health days?
What do you want your retirement years to look like?
What does friendship mean to you?
17. If you have a choice of two similar products, do you ever consciously choose
the one made by a smaller company because it’s made by a smaller company?
Do you know most of your neighbors? Do you ever socialize with any of them?
What’s your best relationship advice?
Who is the one person you look up to in your career?
Are you an overthinker or a carefree person?
How was your day today?
9. If you were a four-course meal (salad/appetizer, pasta/soup, entree, dessert),
what would you be?
What have you let go of this year that's made a
10. How can I listen to you better so you feel completely heard?
Have you given any thought to how you would want to discipline your children
during early childhood, adolescent years and the teen years? Be specific.
How far are you willing to go in advancing your career?
What's your favorite love song?
What scares you most about our relationship? What do you look for in a
relationship? Do you think we could parent well together if we had children?
Who do you want our children to take after? Do you think you are
misunderstood? What are you most ashamed of?
What can I help you with?
How often do you call your parents/family members?
What’s your greatest accomplishment?
Do you prefer material gifts (jewelry, purses) or experiences (vacation,
concerts)? Who understands you the best? What do you want to be
remembered for?
What movie made you cry the hardest?
25. How would you react if I told you I was going to shave my head and rent my
scalp out for advertising?
Do you like to be surprised?
What's the best book you ever read?
What was your best Christmas?
What do you think I have been binge
What’s your approach to setting and achieving goals?
If you had one wish, what would it be?
Do you think Lucy secretly loved Charlie Brown? What other cartoon enemies
should have ended up as a couple?
Do you enjoy talking about yourself - your job, your vacations, your
accomplishments, etc.?
What are you most passionate about?
Have you given any thought to how you will take care of your mom and dad when
they are older and need assistance?
5. If you could only eat salty snacks or sweet snacks for the rest of your life,
which would you choose?
What can I declutter physically or emotionally?
Do you find you pronounce any words differently than other people?
Which fictional couple reminds you of us?
If you could see into the future, what would you want to know?
What would be your ideal birthday celebration?
What kind of parent do you want to be?
5. What challenges do you most want to overcome?
If you could live one year of your life all over again without changing a thing, what
year would you choose? Why?
19. Do you have a sweet tooth, why or why not?
If there was a genie to grant you three wishes, what would they be? If you could
swap lives with an animal, which would you pick? What's the weirdest fact about
yourself?
66. Have you ever in your life thought, “never again”? What was it about? 67. Do
people around you see you as you really are?
What do you think about people who wake up from a coma able to speak a
language they never learned?
What's the biggest financial mistake you've made?
Do you think you are brave?
Do you still have feelings for an ex?
15. What do you think was your most vulnerable moment in our friendship?
Do you put as much effort and emphasis on inner beauty as outer beauty?
What would you do if you could do anything you wanted for a
day/week/month/year?
What is the most important thing you learned from your mother? What are some
other things she taught you?
What's a word you have trouble pronouncing correctly?
Are you an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
How should household chores be divided?
What are some of your fears?
If you could have dinner with one famous person, who would it be and what
would you ask them?
What language would you like to learn?
What is your typical reaction when someone criticizes you? About what things
are you most selfish?
68. Do you have any regrets?
If you had to change your name, what would you change it to and why?
Do you follow your heart or your brain?
What’s your favourite board game? What’s your favourite place locally?
What makes you happy?
If you didn’t have to worry about earning money, what would you most likely do
for the rest of your life?
What should I say to you when I need more from you emotionally?
What kind of exercise makes you feel good?
How do you think having kids will / has changed our lives and relationship?
What is the best or worst thing you inherited from your parents?
How would you address if there’s a lack of intimacy in our relationship?
Would you consider yourself to be a daredevil?
What attire makes me look hot?
Are your grandparents still alive, and how old are they?
Do you prefer to watch movies in the theatre or at home?
Should we try to move to an area that has a really good school system for our
children?
How do you describe me to other people?
What did your last relatinoship make you appreciate about yourself?
What type of social gatherings do you prefer - small groups or large parties?
Describe me in three words
If you were a very talented writer and were guaranteed to sell 100,000 copies of
whatever book you wrote, what would it be about?
What have all your previous relationships had in common that you’d like to avoid
moving forward, if anything?
What’s your favorite way to document your travels?
If you could go back and change one thing in your life, what would it be? What
advice would you give your younger self?
Are you a morning, a night person or somewhere in the middle?
10. What was your best year so far, and why?
If you had to create a company name for our relationship, what would it be?
Do you smoke (or chew tobacco)? How often? How long have you been doing
so and have you ever tried to stop? What methods?
What are your child-support/custody arrangements with your ex?
Do you think someone should ever correct his or her mate in public?
18. What do you love the most in life? 19. Do you vote?
Do you dream of getting married one day?
If you got into an argument with your best friend over your lover when they aren’t
around, would you stand up for your lover?
Do I make you feel safe and protected?
What are your hobbies? When do you feel the most passionate? What show
could you watch over and over again? What’s a funny story that makes you
laugh every time? 241. What does self care look like to you? What do you think
you need to focus on more?
What's something I may not know about you?
What helps you feel grounded?
What are your favorite hobbies? Would you like to spend more time on them?
If you could choose to know everything about one topic, what area would you
choose to be an expert?
Do you think we should spend certain holidays with certain families or would you
like to spend holidays alone (and with any kids we might have) for a change?
What’s standing in the way of your happiness?
How have I unknowingly been less than kind to you?
How much alone time do you need?
How would you want us to handle disagreements?
What are your thoughts about the way we communicate? Is there room for
improvement?
If you had a warning label, what would it say?
62. Have you ever reconciled with someone you were sure you’d never talk to
again?
What do you think the most essential thing in a successful relationship is?
6. If you had three wishes, what would you wish for?
Could you ever (or have you ever) be in a long distance relationship?
How often do you feel the sheets should be changed?
12. What is the one thing that makes you feel alive?
Do you want to have a say in your engagement ring?
How would you feel if you only had boys or girls? Do you strongly want a
particular gender?
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Are there any parts of a couple's private life that should not be discussed with
family or friends?
18. What’s your most prized possession?
What trend do you think will never go out of style?
11. What do you wish a guy would ask you but never has?
What are your values and beliefs about money?
What biases do you think you have?
What makes you feel most alive?
What do people make jokes about that you find offensive?
12. Do you think we’d be better off without social media? 13. How is your
relationship with your parents?
What did your mom (or dad) always do when you were sick?
If a woman doesn't feel maternal enough to want to stay home and raise her
children, is it better that she make the choice not to have children?
Do you tend to get sea sick or motion sick? What cures have you tried?
What kind of a holiday would you like — a cruise, a hike through the mountains,
or a jungle safari?
Did you ever run away from home? If so, why?
What is the best thing about our relationship?
Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?
5. Are you interested in politics?
What advice would you give to the current younger generation?
Do I have any personal habits that get on your nerves? If so, what are they?
How do your best friends make you feel?
What is your favorite type of art? Do you feel you are artistic in any way?
What's your favorite movie?
18. How long do you want live?
17. If you’re angry, what do you do?
What’s something that delights you in your everyday life?
When you are in a serious relationship do you tend to ignore your friends? Have
you ever had friends get married and suddenly lose contact with their single
friends? Is that to be expected?
How can I better support your career goals?
25. What are you most pessimistic about, and why?
How would you describe your first crush?
What is your definition of masculinity?
Do you ever lose your temper? How does it manifest itself?
Have you ever abused or molested a child (or been accused of it)? If so, what
steps should we take to make sure it doesn't happen again?
What are you most proud of?
9. How important are looks to you?
What's your definition of romance?
Would you want your children to be home schooled? Why or why not?
Do you work better alone or with a team? Why?
Describe your perfect vacation.
Who is the craziest person in your family?
23. If you had to wake up to someone or something licking your face, what would
you see when you opened your eyes?
What should we do to stay on top of our financial goals?
Who was your best friend growing up? What is your favorite memory from
spending time with them?
What do you believe happens immediately after we die?
Do you think it's more important to be smart, or to be kind?
What’s a fear you’ve never shared with me?
Is there a personal goal you'd like to achieve in the next five years or so?
29. If you could pick any actor to play you in a movie, who would it be and why?
Do you collect anything? What and how long have you collected? To what
lengths do you go to add to your collection? How much do you spend each year
on your collections?
What impact do you think artificial intelligence (AI) is having on society? Do you
think we should have more or less AI?
Do you ever diet? What sort of diets do you usually go on?
How much time each day do you think you should spend with your children?
19. How do you want to be remembered by your friends and family?
What are the life lessons I can learn from you?
Are you a super-career woman?
Do you see yourself getting married?
How do you handle unexpected situations while traveling?
On a scale of 1-10, how close do you think you are to your parents?
Is there anything you still don’t know about me that you wish you did?
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. 30. When did
you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 31. Tell your partner
something that you like about them [already].
28. What’s the most overrated holiday in your opinion?
What are three things you hope to do/accomplish before you die?
37. What motivates you to go after your goals? 38. Does anything keep you up
at night? If so, what?
24. Is health more important than fun? 25. What do you think about freedom of
speech?
What are your thoughts on mindfulness or meditation?
What is more important to you: love or money? What is one habit you still can’t
break? Do we have fun together? Who is the person you admire most?
6. In what settings are you the happiest / eager / most comfortable? 7. What
things do you look forward to each day? In your life? 8. If you had three wishes
that would come true, what would they be? 9. What other things would you want
to change now, and why?
If you cooked me your favorite meal, what would be on the menu?
What should our most important values as a couple?
2. If you could wake up with a completely different permanent hair color — any
color — what would it be?
Would you rather go back in time to see the dinosaurs or jump forward a
thousand years to see our futuristic society?
How would you manage a condition where you unintentionally swore in every
sentence you spoke?