Alyssa Mikole O. Rodiño BS Psychology 1-4 Exercise 4 Divorce Divorce has been a subject of conflict in the Philippines for years because Filipinos are extremely conservative and religious and most of the people here believe that marriage is sacred and shouldn’t be broken. There are still people who thinks that way in our country but most are the elderly who have that kind of mindset ingrained in their heads from the past generations. Time has changed a few things in our country and more people became open to the idea of legalizing divorce. Why do people get divorced? There are numerous reasons like maybe they fell out of love or because of a third party or possibly something worse like domestic abuse. There are a lot of reasons on why couples file for divorce. People will argue that getting divorce can be stressful to a kid especially the very young ones because they get to see their parents separate and will most likely be kept in the dark about the reason behind. It is probably better for the child’s health that their parents got divorce compared to how stressful their lives would be if their parents never separated and they live in a house possibly full of arguments. Now, imagine a scenario where someone experiences domestic abuse and can never get away because divorce is still not legalized. Domestic abuse can really destroy a person’s mental well-being and once a person’s mental health is down then their overall health will be affected. It’s better to get divorced to be free from someone manipulative and abusive than endure something worse from staying. Some people may feel like they have failed in life just because they got divorced but in my opinion they didn’t. We all learn from our mistakes and that’s what helps us improve as a person. Instead of thinking of it as failure then just think of it as a challenge in life that you got through no matter the obstacles. Home for the aged Personally I think it is better to send the elderly to home for the aged institutions because at least there we’ll be sure that their need will be taken care of. I live with my grandmother and my mom along with her sisters take care of her in turns. And while they probably think that it’s better that she stays here with us, I don’t think they’re really taking care of her. Almost everyone in our whole family are bus with their lives. The adults have work while us kids have classes to attend. And sure, she’s getting fed and cleaned on time but the affection and love that they should be showering her with just isn’t there. At least if we sent her to those nursing homes then they will allot time and look forward to seeing her than being constantly annoyed at her because she made a mess. And in those home for the aged institutions, we’re sure that qualified people are taking care of her and that her needs and wants will be taken care of. Old-age homes have doctors that are always on standby in case something happens which is beneficial because old people are more vulnerable to different kinds of ailments. It is not necessary that just because we send our loved ones to old-age homes meaning we don’t want to take care of them and that we don’t love them. Most of us are probably going to be mid-aged when our parents reach their old age and sometimes we wouldn’t be able to give them the care that they need. We wouldn’t be abandoning them. Instead we can look forward to visiting them in this old-age homes and show them what we’ve achieved and that we still care about them because during the late adulthood stage is where adults become a bit sad because their children are busy with their lives and probably have forgotten about them. Sometimes being in the same household doesn’t mean you’re giving them the attention and care that they need.
