How To Approach Beautiful
Women Anytime, Anywhere
& Spark Real, Instant
Attraction
THE ONLY GUIDE YOU’LL EVER NEED FOR APPROACHING
BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ANYTIME, ANYWHERE WHILE
SPARKING REAL, INSTANT ATTRACTION
In this Approach Blueprint you're about to discover...
Why the typical dating advice that most men hear is completely
wrong and unnecessarily complicates matters .
How to calm your nerves, release fears, and approach women as
your most confident self.
How to spark real, instant attraction that seems effortless.
How to create connections that just flow without any scripts, lines,
or hacks to memorize!
Our ultra-effective ‘BHC’ framework which breaks down exactly
how women want you to approach them into three simple
steps.
And so much more...
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INTRODUCTION
Are you one of the many men who struggle with approaching women?
Does the idea of talking to an attractive woman leave you feeling like a deer
in headlights?
If so, you're not alone.
But don’t worry, because we at The Attractive Man have a solution.
You might be hoping for a guide that provides you with the perfect
conversation openers or a clever script that guarantees instant attraction…
But we do things completely differently around here at The Attractive Man.
We don't rely on canned scripts or superficial techniques like many other
dating coaches and gurus. Our approach is unique, and we teach
something infinitely more powerful and impactful than any standard dating
advice out there.
It’s called the ‘BHC’ framework and when you apply this 3 step framework,
your nerves diminish, your natural confidence emerges and the right words
just flow out easily when you approach women.
You naturally know what to say and do while flirting with beautiful women –
and sparking attraction and a connection with her becomes effortless.
You’re not trying to “trick” her into making her attracted to you.
You are being naturally attractive and so women can’t help but be attracted.
You see, this process enables you to bring out the most confident, attractive
version of yourself that you probably didn’t even know was possible.
Trust us, we’ve personally coached countless men live, in-person in over 40
countries all over the world. Our approaches have been tested and proven
to work in countless scenarios and across various cultures.
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What we teach is so effective because it’s natural. There’s nothing fake or
contrived about it. It simplifies approaching women, calms your nerves,
removes pressure, and gives you confidence you’ve likely never had with
women.
This is the way women want to be approached.
Once you've got this easy-to-master framework down, get ready to see a
total transformation in your dating life…
But First, Why Listen To Us?
We are Matt Artisan, Lynn Matalon and Aaron Nuñez, a team of master
coaches from The Attractive Man, who combined have decades of
experience in empowering men to unleash their natural confidence
and attract the woman of their dreams.
Together, we’ve developed a revolutionary framework to approaching and
attracting women.
Matt Artisan
Matt is the leading expert in transforming
the lives of men and empowering them
to create authentic relationships. Since
2009, he has personally coached men in
over 40 different countries including the
US, Australia, Germany, Czech Republic,
Denmark, Japan, China, Hong Kong, India,
Dubai, and the list goes on.
Featured on ABC News Nightline, Vice,
Netflix, Newsweek and many more, Matt
is the founder of The Attractive Man the
legendary dating company for men,
based on his groundbreaking
understanding of women and
psychology.
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Lynn Matalon
Lynn is a master dating, connection and
confidence coach with The Attractive
Man. She specializes in helping men
connect with women on an emotional
level, and her ability to quickly assess
and address any internal obstacles
makes her an incredibly valuable
member of our team.
As the key female presence on our team,
Lynn provides invaluable feedback and
insights from a woman's perspective.
Her tailored approach enables men to express their authentic,
confident selves, empowering them to attract their desired
partners. Lynn's expertise and unique perspective make her an
essential asset to both The Attractive Man team and our clients.
Aaron Nuñez
Aaron is a transformational coach at The
Attractive Man. He has been working sideby-side with Matt for over nine years,
helping men unlock their true potential
and become their most confident selves.
Having dealt with his own struggles of
anxiety and self-doubt, Aaron embarked
on a journey of self-discovery, seeking the
guidance of coaches and therapists and
exploring various modalities.
Through this process, he developed a unique approach to unlock
natural confidence, which he has incorporated into The Attractive
Man's coaching process. With a deep understanding of his clients'
struggles, Aaron offers a personalized approach to help men
overcome their fears and become successful in their dating lives.
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Our Students In Action
Using our tried and tested method...
THESE GUYS GOT INSTANT DATES
FROM APPROACHING WOMEN USING OUR
FRAMEWORK...
GOT AN INSTANT DATE!
INSTANT DATE BIKE RIDE!
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INSTANT DATE IN NYC
FIRST INSTANT DATE!
ANOTHER INSTANT DATE
UNEXPECTED INSTANT DATE
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FIRST INSTANT DATE (3 DATES THAT WEEK)
DID 8 APPROACHES & GOT 2 DATES!
INSTANT DATE W/ MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN
HE'S APPROACHED
INSTANT DATE & SECOND DATE
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INSTANT DATE AT COFFEE SHOP
6 DATES THIS WEEK - ONE INSTANT DATE
INSTANT DATE!
FIRST INSTANT DATE W/ COLLEGE CUTIE
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FIFTH INSTANT DATE THIS WEEK!!!
INSTANT DATE AFTER THE BOOT CAMP
INSTANT DATE!
INSTANT DOUBLE DATE!
GOT HIS FIRST INSTANT DATE
These are just a few of our success stories. You can
see more on our website later. For now, let’s help
YOU get these types of results with women.
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How Women Want You To
Approach Them
Before diving into the specifics of our 3-step Approach framework, it's
important you understand the fundamentals of our approach.
In order to do that, let me share a mind-blowing story with you.
Over 9 years ago I was coaching a client named Alex in Bucharest, Romania.
He was a 27-year-old virgin from Finland – tall and gangly, seeming
awkward in his own skin.
One night at a club, he surprised me as he approached a gorgeous woman,
and with a hidden mic, I listened in on their conversation, which took an
unexpected turn:
When she asked, "What are you doing in Romania?" Alex boldly replied,
"Well, I'm on this dating workshop. That's my dating coach over there."
As he pointed at me, I fumbled around and pretended not to listen in.
The woman, intrigued, replied, "Really? You seem pretty confident,
approaching me like that. Why do you need a dating coach?"
I was shocked when Alex freely confessed, "I'm 27 and still a virgin. I’m here
because I want to lose my virginity."
Despite his radical honesty, she didn't walk away.
Instead, she continued talking to him, and that night… She took his virginity.
Think that’s bold? It gets even better…
Alex didn’t just brazenly tell her he was a virgin. He actually asked her for
her feedback after they had sex. "What did you like about me? What made
you decide to do this?" Her response was enlightening: "I loved your
honesty. It's so refreshing to meet a guy that can be that open and not be
insecure about who he is."
Okay, so let’s break this down. Why was this woman attracted to Alex?
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Was it because of what he said? Nope. If that were the case, all guys would
just have to tell women they're virgins and need a dating coach.
The truth is, many men obsess over finding the perfect line or technique to
attract women, but women can easily see through such tactics.
The majority of dating coaches teach manipulative tricks and techniques to
attract women, such as teaching their clients to:
Tell stories that are supposed to make the woman think he’s high-value
Use push-pull techniques (i.e. back-handed compliments) to pretend
he’s not THAT interested; which he hopes will make HER interested
Befriend and go out with female friends to show he’s "pre-selected (i.e.
try to make women think: “if that guy can get with those kinds of girls,
there must be something special about him” 🙄)
However, the issue is that women can see past all of this. Women can
perceive the real you, and how you truly feel about yourself inside. These
tactics don't fool them.
This is where the Be-Do-Have model comes in.
The concept is to focus on becoming the type of man women want to be
with (BE), which will naturally lead to taking the right actions to attract them
(DO), and ultimately, achieving the desired dating life or relationship (HAVE).
BE
DO
HAVE
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BE
DO
HAVE
BE The Man That
Women Want To Be
With
DO The Things That
Naturally Attract
Women
HAVE the
relationship or dating
life you want
Embody these traits:
Masculine
Bold
Radically Honest
Playful
Easygoing
Curious
Capable
Authentic
Leader
When you focus
embodying the right
traits, then you
naturally:
Say the right
things
Take the lead &
Do the right things
Do activities that
fulfill you
Flirt in a way that
is natural
When you are being
your naturally
confident & attractive
self, then you will do
the right things to
attract the woman of
your dreams.
Let's apply this 'be-do-have' concept to Alex's story.
He wasn't using lines or techniques; he was focused on BEING RADICALLY
HONEST. This approach made him more confident because he wasn't
hiding his true self. He wasn’t pretending to be someone else.
Most guys think they need to be perfect, smooth, and cool, like James Bond.
They think they need to hide their flaws and inexperience. What they don’t
realize is that doing this only creates a barrier to connecting with women
and actually turns women off.
By focusing on BEING radically honest, Alex naturally DID the right things to
attract her. Women crave authentic connections with the real you, not a
masked version trying to impress them.
TEASER ALERT
STOP obsessing over what to say or which technique to use (DO),
INSTEAD concentrate on how you're being.
In the next chapter, we'll dive into the three traits to embody that will make
approaching women feel effortless.
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The 'BHC' Approach Framework
IIn years of working with men in over 40 countries, and testing and
optimizing our approach in many different cultures, we’ve discovered the
80/20 when it comes to dating.
We’re talking about the few things to focus on that give you the best results.
The exact qualities to embody into your BEINGNESS that’ll transform you
into the type of man that’s naturally attractive to women.
Our research has led us to developing the ‘BHC’ framework, which reveals
how to meet women anywhere and sparking instant attraction. With this 3step framework, you can confidently approach a woman in almost any
situation, be genuine, and get her number in just 2 or 3 minutes, or even go
on a date right then and there.
Our BHC approach framework is based on these three ways of being:
Bold, Honest, and Curious.
BE BOLD
Take a deep breath and embody the confident, powerful side of
you and start walking towards her. Can you allow the nerves
you're experiencing and still approach her?
BE HONEST
Tell her the reason for your approach. Offer a sincere compliment, such
as, "This may be out of the blue, and I'm a bit nervous, but I just noticed you
here and felt compelled to come over and say hi because you're really
beautiful."
BE CURIOUS
After you introduce yourself, find out if she’s a good fit for you. For
example, “I don’t know anything about you, so tell me something about
you like what are you passionate about."
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Sweep Her Off Her Feet With The BHC Method
Approaching women with boldness, honesty, curiosity, and a desire to
share your impression of her will significantly increase the chances of what
you say making a lasting impact.
Step 1: Be Bold
Let's get straight to the first part of our 'BHC' framework: Be Bold.
So, what exactly does it mean to "Be Bold" when approaching women? It's
about being direct, intentional, and approaching her despite any fears or
nerves you may have.
You see, when you exude boldness through your body language and
presence, confidence just oozes out of you. And let me tell you, women find
that irresistible!
But here's the thing - being bold doesn't mean being fearless. No, it's about
acknowledging those nerves and fears and still approaching her anyway.
That's right, it's about stepping into that tension, even when you know
there could be a potentially negative outcome.
Also, women are no strangers to the dating game. They can usually tell why
they're being approached. But what really gets their attention is when a
man shows that he dares to go for what he wants, knowing full well he's
risking embarrassment and failure.
When you approach a woman indirectly (for example, saying "that's a really
nice hat" or "do you come here often"), it comes across as weak. She will
either take you seriously and respond with helpful information, or she will
pick up on your insecurity and timidity and lose attraction.
What is VITAL to understand here is that BOLDNESS is in your energy more
than anything else. Record yourself doing a pretend approach. Or do one in
the mirror. Are you being timid, shy, looking away, is your voice shaking, is
your tone permission seeking and upward inflecting, are you using fillerwords, and talking a million miles an hour?
These are just some of the signals that reveal you are NOT being bold.
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Instead, when you see a beautiful woman, try counting down internally
from 3...2...1... and then just go for it, even if you don't know what to say or
what might happen. Stand tall with your shoulders held high and make
direct eye contact (and drop that fake smile!).
Then, with all honesty, say something like, "Hi, I'm unbelievably nervous,
but I had to stop you and tell you that you are breathtakingly gorgeous."
By tuning into your sense of boldness, your approach will exude confidence
and magnetism. The directness of your approach will make you irresistible
and incredibly attractive!
Plus, boldness radiates that masculine energy that women just can't resist.
And guess what? This translates to success in other parts of your life too.
So, when you're approaching women with that bold, daring attitude, you're
not only making a strong impression on them, but you're also paving the
way for success and confidence in all aspects of your life.
Embrace that boldness, and go walk up to that pretty lady.
I feel very confident. I feel like a
whole different person essentially…
which I am. This is the FIRST
experience in my life that has
created that shift so fast.
– Suraj, Boot Camp Graduate.
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Step 2: Be Honest
Remember the story we shared earlier about how Alex was being radically
honest about his virginity at the beginning of this blueprint?
Well, it doesn’t just mean spouting out all of your insecurities. It means that
you’re acting in a way that’s congruent with your intent. In other words:
your outer-self (your actions, words, etc.,) is reflecting accurately your innerself (your thoughts, feelings, wishes)
Some pick-up dating coaches say, “Don’t show your interest in a woman, or
you’ll lose your power.”
Frankly, that’s bullshit.
Your authentic interest in her will draw her to you. Even if that means that
you're honest about being nervous. (Which is very attractive, btw).
Being honest means you speak your truth to her, without hiding behind
some false pretence.
“Hey, this is out of the blue and I’m a little nervous but you are absolutely
stunning and I had to risk embarrassment and meet you.”
This kind of statement will go a lot farther than trying to act suave and aloof
when you’re not actually feeling that way.
By calling out the elephant in the room, your nerves, it does two things:
1) Naming your nervousness calms you down by naming your fear out loud
2) This comes off as an authentic, trustworthy gesture that makes her feel
special and safe and also breaks the ice.
We are proponents of radical honesty – but not rude honesty. Rude
honesty sounds more like, “I want to f* you,” or “You’re really pretty but I’ve
heard most blondes are dumb.” Taper your honesty with respect. If you
have to say, “Hey, I’m just being honest,” as a defense, you may have
stepped over the line into rude honesty.
Honesty immediately establishes that you are attracted to her. From the
start, you create the context that you like her.
And that shows confidence! And when you’re vulnerable with a woman
you like, it shows that she can trust you. You aren’t lying about why you
want to talk to her. That’s a great start for an intimate connection.
Another HUGE benefit of being radically honest is that it frees you from the
trap of pretending to be that "perfect guy" and instead lets you own who
you really are – flaws and all.
when you try to hide your flaws and imperfections, it actually makes you
more nervous. But, when you let it all out, that's when you can truly speak
from the heart!
Being radically honest means embracing your true self, and it's a gamechanger when it comes to connecting with women. They'll appreciate that
you're genuine and not trying to put on some act.
So, guys, let go of the idea of being Mr. Perfect, and own your authentic self.
Trust me, women will love you for it!
Suggestion
* Don’t memorize the following steps as that will only take you out of the
moment and put you more in your head.
When it comes time for you to talk to someone who has your eye, we want
you to really live in the present. Take your time, feel your body, feel your
attraction, and slow down.
The right words will come to you if you’re honest. Even if those words are:
“Wow. You’re stunning and my brain has gone totally blank!”
Here’s a natural way to talk to her and present yourself honestly. As you
approach her:
1) Acknowledge what she’s doing, especially if you’re interrupting. (Ex: “I
know you are eating and it’s so rude to interrupt”)
2) Tell her what you’re feeling (Ex: “this is a bit awkward”, “I’m really nervous”).
3) Give a genuine compliment. (Ex: the REAL reason you’re attracted to her.
Remember to stay respectful: NOT Something like: “You’ve got great tits”)
Example: “Hey. This is out of the blue. I see you’re busy working on your
computer – and I’m super nervous right now – but I had to tell you that you
look absolutely stunning. I wanted to come over to tell you that and say
hi.”
Own your attraction to her. That will build the good, romantic (aka antifriendzone) tension with her.
I was really bad with approach
anxiety. [And now] It's been so
freeing to know that I can do it
[approach women]. And that
wouldn't have been possible without
coming to the boot camp.
– KeShaun, Aircraft Mechanic.
Step 3: Be Curious
Okay, you’ve done the hard part in making the bold approach. Now you’re
likely thinking: “What do I say next after ‘hi’?”
Don’t stress, this is a very common question we’ve had over the years from
men we’ve coached.
This initial part after making the approach gives guys all sorts of
nightmares. They worry about their minds going blank, and not coming up
with the right words to keep the conversation flowing.
We have one simple, very effective principle which solves this problem: be
curious.
After you’ve approached her boldly and spoken with her honestly, the next
stage of your interaction should focus on being curious about who she is.
By being curious, you will figure out if this is a person you like, whose vibe
aligns with yours.
It’s not about asking the “right” question and getting the “right” answer. It’s
about noticing. Maybe you don’t learn anything big about her, but if you pay
attention you might find out whether you like her energy, and that’s just as
important.
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This CURIOSITY part is a bigger deal than you might realize. How (genuinely)
curious you are about her reveals a lot about how you see your worth.
Let’s elaborate a little more…
When you realize your worth and feel that you are a great catch with lots to
bring to the table – you will naturally be selective with whom you spend
your time and efforts on. [And if you don’t feel you’re a worthwhile guy with
lots of wonderful traits – then we’ve got to start building some core
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When you see an attractive woman, do you immediately want to get her
phone number and take her on a date?
Just because she’s pretty doesn’t mean anything. Pretty faces are a dime a
dozen. Pretty might get your foot in the door but what you want to find out
is if you’re enjoying her vibe/her energy.
If she’s pretty but completely obnoxious and rude… that pretty face won’t
look so pretty after a few hours.
A high-value man knows his time won’t be wasted on people that are rude
or entitled. A high-value man will be looking for a high-value woman.
When you start chatting with a woman, make sure to get curious about who
she is as a person. This will lead you to ask questions about what makes her
unique. For example, if she tells you about her hobbies such as rock
climbing, this can help you make observations about her character. Maybe
she's adventurous, athletic, or loves a good challenge – who knows? This is
where you get to discover more about her.
This is where the magic and fun of connection begin. Connection isn't just
about having similarities or things in common; it's about a person feeling
seen, heard, and acknowledged as an individual. So start getting curious
about her and ask questions that will help you discover who she truly is.
An important note to remember is that your curiosity should drive you to
learn more about HER, rather than leading you down a rabbit hole of
questions about the activity or thing she's sharing with you. For instance, if
she mentions her love for rock climbing, your curiosity should be about
HER, leading you to ask questions and make assumptions about her
adventurous and athletic traits, as mentioned before.
Be mindful not to fall into the trap of solely being curious about the THING
or HOBBY she just shared.
Avoid asking questions solely about the hobby, such as gear requirements
or injury risks, as you can easily find that information online. These
questions will not provide you with insight into who she is as a person.
When you are curious about her, you are simply getting to know her better
so that you can decide whether you want to ask for her contact info. This
change in perspective can shift your energy from being needy, where you
may feel like you need to do a great job approaching her just to get her
number, to being more confident.
By focusing on getting to know her and seeing if you both have a good
connection and chemistry, you can avoid being outcome or goal dependent,
which can come off as needy. Instead, take the approach of seeing if she's
fun, if you enjoy chatting with her, and if she's light and playful. Then, you
can become genuinely curious about wanting her number.
When you’re curious about her, she feels that you see her, get her, and
appreciate her. Your curiosity helps her feel special and sexy. Your
authentic interest in her also allows her to feel safe with you.
THE FEMALE PERSPECTIVE
Remember that women fear being manipulated, used, fooled, or
taken advantage of sexually. We don’t want to be a conquest. So
when you show genuine curiosity, we feel special. Women want
to know that we’re not just a notch on the bedpost. She's a real
person that you want to get to know.
Even if she shares an intention to keep it casual and fun, she still
needs to be sure that you’re trustworthy and that you respect
her. Plus, it makes us feel incredible to see that you stopped
whatever you were doing and approached out of curiosity. Your
genuine interest in who we are will pull us toward you. Curiosity is
a powerful and attractive force.
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Our clients often tell us that they’re anxious about sharing just the right story
about themselves in just the right way. They want to highlight all their most
attractive accomplishments and interesting stories. Being curious takes the
pressure off of being amusing, or entertaining. All you need to focus on is her.
Here's a catchy phrase that sums up everything and is easy to remember:
"It's not about being interesting, it's about being
interested."
This means that what truly matters is not how interesting you are to others,
but how interested you are in them. In other words, it's more important to
show a genuine interest in others, including their thoughts, feelings, and
experiences, rather than trying to impress them with your own qualities or
accomplishments.
By adopting this perspective, you can have more meaningful and fulfilling
social interactions because people are more likely to feel valued and heard
when they sense that someone is genuinely interested in them. Remember,
it's not about you; it's about them!
And, as long as you’re listening, she will feel more connected, because she
sees that you’re trying to get to know her as a person. Your interest and
empathy will come through, which tells her a lot about you as a man.
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To get curious about a woman, you want to figure out if she’s someone you’d
want to spend more time with. To do this, you need to have some idea of
what you are looking for in a romantic partner, and those preferences can
help guide your conversation.
Take some time to list 20 non-physical qualities, attributes, and values that
you want in a woman. These should align with your own life goals in mind and
should break down into ten must-have traits and ten nice-to-have traits. If one
of your must-haves is an absolute dealbreaker, make sure that this gets asked
sooner rather than later.
One client, Brian, was excited about meeting new women to date casually, but
he wasn’t sure how much he needed to think about who he wanted to date.
He asked us: “What if I’m interested in just dating casually? Why do I need to
figure out what qualities I’m looking for if it’s not anything serious?”
We told Brian what we tell all our clients who ask this: Whether you’re looking
for a long-term partner or a weekend fling, you still need to take stock of your
preferences. What do you want and not want?
Even if your relationship stays casual, this is a person you hope to spend
intimate time with.
What are the musts? What are you looking for in her personality and
interests? For example, do you want someone who is a negative Nancy? Or a
drama queen that will make your life a wreck afterwards?
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3-Step BHC Framework
* (Imprint this in your brain)
Be
BOLD
Be
HONEST
Be
CURIOUS
BE BOLD
Take a deep breath and embody the confident, powerful side of
you and start walking towards her. Can you allow the nerves
you're experiencing and still approach her?
BE HONEST
Tell her the reason for your approach. Offer a sincere compliment, such
as, "This may be out of the blue, and I'm a bit nervous, but I just noticed you
here and felt compelled to come over and say hi because you're really
beautiful."
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3-Step BHC Framework
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Getting The Date
You were bold. You approached her in a very honest and direct way. Then
you found out a little about her by being curious. Now what? Well, why wait
to text her, make plans, coordinate schedules, and go out a week or two
later?
There’s no better time than the presto explore a connection than to go for
an instant date.
Say you meet a woman in the park while on your lunch break. You
approach her, and you both seem interested, but you want to get to know
her better.
Ask her right then and there if she wants to head across the street with you
to grab a coffee.
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Meeting Women at Bars, Parties, and Clubs
When you approach a woman in fun night-time environments like bars,
parties, or clubs, you still should be Bold, Honest, and Curious, but the
difference in these environments is that you must also be fun and playful.
After all, that’s the main reason women go to these venues.
Being playful doesn’t mean cracking endless jokes or constantly trying to
make her laugh. It means enjoying the moment and the situation.
Enjoy yourself and others will, too. If you are genuinely enjoying the time
you’re having, women will notice your charisma and charm. Ask yourself,
"What can I do right now that is fun?"
Look for the positives: Ask yourself, what do I like about this place? Focus on
what you do appreciate instead of what you don’t. This helps you cultivate a
positive attitude and a playful being.
* Here's a helpful hint: Don't make the night solely about meeting women.
If that becomes your sole intention, you may come off as needy and overly
focused on the outcome.
Women can often spot needy men quite quickly, and when you're out to
only get with women, you may start overthinking everything, putting undue
pressure and tension on yourself.
You may become very reactive to micro-communications that you're likely
misreading and over-analyzing, and even worse, you may become the
lurking owl – the guy standing in the corner, holding on to his drink for dear
life, constantly scanning the room for his next 'prey.' Trying to determine
who seems most approachable, the optimum timing to take your shot, and
the perfect line that will hook her may all come across as desperate and
creepy, as well as disingenuous.
Instead, if your goal shifts from 'picking up women' to having fun and
meeting new people, the tension and pressure will naturally dissipate. You
will be open to getting curious about everyone, socializing with guys, staff,
and so on. And that, by the way, is how you meet women. When you're
relaxed with no pressure, you'll have the opportunity to talk and have fun
with women, with no expectation of taking them home until you've at least
talked and gotten to know them a bit.
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BEING Your Most Naturally Confident & Attractive
Self…
Remember, it’s not about what you say or do. It’s about who you are being.
Everything we’ve described goes hand-in-hand with the "be-do-have"
concept.
Put simply: in order to have the beautiful woman on your arm, you must
first be the kind of person who is worthy of being with her.
To further cement it in your brain, here’s how to apply this:
Be bold and make the approach before your mind
takes over and you get stuck in your head (countdown
from 3 and go – bonus points if you have nothing
prepared or rehearsed to say).
Be radically honest, speak from the heart, and own who
you are, flaws and all.
Be curious, show an interest in her as a person, and let
the conversation just flow.
Be that guy. Do those things…and you’ll vastly improve your chances of
landing a date with the beautiful woman you desire.
Our Approach WORKS.
But Don’t Just Take Our Word For It,
Check Out The Following Case Studies
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CASE STUDY
Alok's Story:
From 'Debilitating' Approach Anxiety
To Getting Lots of Dates & Finding A Girlfriend
BEFORE: Alok was really struggling with approach anxiety,
to the point where he just couldn't approach despite
studying and watching a bunch of dating advice videos. He
just couldn't seem to shake off the fear and actually
approach when he wanted to.
Alok
Physician
30 yrs old
AFTER: After taking our boot camps and coaching, he has transformed into bold,
charismatic, confident man. He can now confidently approach women pretty much
anytime and anywhere. He's gotten numerous dates since joining our program and has
since gotten into a relationship with a woman he's excited about.
"THIS BOOT CAMP IS LIKE NO OTHER"
GOT INSTANT DATES, GROWTH, & MORE!
[GF]
CASE STUDY
Samuel's Story:
From Typical "Nice Guy & People Pleaser"
To A Bold Confident Man That "Can't Keep Up" With His
Dating Options
BEFORE: Samuel, who had struggled with "Nice Guy Syndrome" for
20 years, used to be a people-pleaser who didn't pursue the
women he actually wanted. He settled for unattractive and
emotionally toxic partners, hoping this would boost his self-worth.
After his fiancée left him due to his people-pleasing nature, he
decided to join The Attractive Man.
Samuel - Accountant
AFTER: Through our workshops and coaching, Samuel has transformed into a bold,
confident man with multiple dating options. He now confidently approaches women
when others hesitate. He’s gone on numerous dates, landed a relationship, and attributes
his newfound confidence to our program's focus on genuinely connecting with women.
4 DATES IN 8 DAYS!
"I CAN'T KEEP UP"
Samuel
JUST GOT BACK FROM DATE
Samuel
Samuel
Samuel's Continued:
"CONFIDENCE HAS BEEN
ON FIRE"
Samuel
Samuel
CASE STUDY
Joseph's Story
From Not Dating In Years To
Getting Multiple Dates Per Week
BEFORE: Joseph, 60, came to us with low self-confidence, having not
been on a date in years. He struggled to be himself around women,
often overthinking and having trouble creating sexual (non-platonic)
connections.
AFTER: Through our workshops and coaching, Joseph has revitalized his
dating life. He's gained confidence, improved his ability to connect with
women, and started dating consistently. He not only got his first date in
years, he started getting multiple dates a week. The screenshots below
show how he's now securing dates with ease.
Joseph, 60
"I LOVE MY NEW LIFE"
"3 DATES THIS WEEK"
"FEELLING GOOD ABOUT MY ABILITY TO CONNECT ON A DEEP LEVEL"
Joseph's Continued:
CASE STUDY
Will's Story
From Approach Anxiety To Now Married!
Before: He initially struggled with the courage to approach attractive
women, held back by fear of rejection and negative thoughts, despite
“knowing” how to do it.
After: To put it simply, he’s now married! Through our coaching he’s
gained more confidence in who he is and also mastered the skill of
approaching women.
Will, 50
Real Estate Agent
"MARRIED LIFE IS GREAT"
CASE STUDY
Eric's Story
From Not Being Able To Approach
To Getting TONS & TONS Of Dates
Before: The year before joining Unleashed he was hardly getting any
dates and hadn't been with a woman in about a year. He struggled with
the confidence to approach beautiful women, and he would typically
find excuses to avoid the interaction.
After: After participating in our boot camps and coaching, his dating life
has undergone a remarkable transformation. When it comes to
approaching, is basically mastered it. He's much more grounded and he
barely gets nervous anymore. He has been on on so many dates since
joining that it’s hard to count. Furthermore, he has enjoyed his
experience so much that he has become a member of The Attractive
Man team.
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
Eric, 30
Eric's Continued:
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
SECOND DATE!
Eric's Continued:
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
MET A WOMAN AT AIRPORT!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
DATE!
Eric's Continued:
SECOND DATE!
FIFTH INSTANT DATE OF THE WEEK!
TWO INSTANT DATES IN ONES DAY!
BEEN SEEING A GIRL
MET A COUPLE GIRLS WHILE AT WORK
HAD A BLAST AT THE 7 DAY ADVANCED
BOOT CAMP
COFFEE INSTANT DATE!
DATE!
INSTANT TACO DATE!
CASE STUDY
Chandler's Story
From Inexperience To Abundant Dating Options and
Now A Girlfriend!
Before: Before seeking our help, Chandler was feeling uneasy due to
his lack of experience in relationships. He had only been in two
relationships and was putting a lot of pressure on himself, which led to
feelings of defeat and being overly self-critical.
After: After working with us, Chandler's confidence grew significantly.
Chandeler, 26
He was able to approach over 100 women in just a few months and felt
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comfortable connecting with both women and men. He was able to let
go of his insecurities and accept himself as he was, which led to him loving his life and
himself. He started dating multiple women and finally felt like he had options. Ultimately,
he found the girl of his dreams who checks all the boxes and is now happier than ever
before.
"SHE TICKS A LOT OF BOXES"
WEEK 3: "I CAN FEEL MY CONFIDENCE
BUILDING"
"DATING LIFE HAS BEEN GOOD"
Want Us To Personally Show You How To Approach
And Attract The Woman Of Your Dreams?
By joining our immersive program, we will work with you in person, take you
out to approach, and set up role-play scenarios with models to help release
insecurities and nerves, and to help you understand how to really connect
with women. This program has changed the lives of countless men (as you’ve
seen in the previous pages).
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Our exclusive coaching program is designed to help transform your dating life, let
go of all the limiting beliefs, insecurities, and baggage that’s holding you back, and
give you the confidence and skills you need to attract the right kind of partner.
Our coaching program includes:
A 3-day boot camp, where we take you out to meet women in real life, and do
role play with models to practice everything you’ve learned in this guide
One-on-one coaching sessions to help you build your confidence and improve
your communication skills
Strategies for approaching and attracting partners, both online and offline
Tools for building long-lasting, meaningful relationships
Virtual and in-person bootcamps where we listen in on your approaches and
give you feedback on the spot
Advanced model training where you roleplay with our models and female
coaches to let go of anything holding you back from sparking real, authentic
attraction
And so much more…
Don't let another day go by feeling unsure of yourself in dating situations. Take the
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