The Harm of Social Media on Intimate Romantic Relationships Sources: Social Media and Relationships (Butler & Matook, 2015) Social media can have different effects depending on the nature of the relationship o Friendships, kinships, professional relationships, consumer relationships o Article doesn’t discuss romantic relationships Social media systems change the conditions under which relationships form Relationship formation o Depends on factors like: Proximity Less important in the online environment of social media By reducing the need for physical proximity, these systems support faster, broader relationship formation First impressions Social media platforms allow individuals much finer grained control of what they wish to reveal about themselves Walther’s (1992) social information processing theory argued that people needed more time to reduce the uncertainty about the potential relationship partner because limited cues are available Similarity Whether it is based on surface characteristics, such as race, gender, or ethnicity, or deep characteristics, such as values and beliefs, individuals often seek out and form relationships with others who are like themselves Complementarity Homophily is counterbalanced by a need for complementarity. Because exchanges play a significant role, viable relationships often involve individuals whose interests Relationship maintenance and development o Social media systems provide features that facilitate the exchange of rewards among relationship partners o Relationships develop when the partners share gradually more personal information o Based on generalized reciprocity, increased self-disclosure of one individual is likely to lead to higher self-disclosure by the other, strengthening the relationship. Users disclose personal information in social networking sites for a variety of reasons, including convenience, the ability to build relationships and received value from them, recognition, and enjoyment of interpersonal relationships (Krasnova et al., 2010) Relationship dissolution o Relationships that have grown close over time are characterized by increased selfdisclosure and the sharing of personal details. Yet the absence of face-to-face interaction complicates verification of the exchanged information o o easy for individuals to create representations of themselves, provide false or misleading information, or purposefully omit certain information to gain personal benefits Ending a relationship in the social media environment can be done without much effort or personal involvement Yet the reasons to end a relationship in the virtual space are often less likely to relate to conflicts between relationship partners Conflicts over personal disposition (e.g., one of the parties being inconsiderate) or specific behaviors (e.g., being late) may matter less in social media systems, while too much interaction can be perceived as disturbing and result in a relationship being dissolved Individuals are also more likely to formally end a relationship because of the information overload caused by a partner’s extensive communication activities, such as a constant stream of Twitter messages or Facebook postings. Under these conditions, the individual wants the stream of uninteresting, boring, or otherwise undesirable communication to stop and achieves this by withdrawing from the relationship Random Website: Decreased time with partner Negative comparisons Missed bids o Bids for connection reaching for a hand, asking a question, seeking emotional support from your partner o Partner can respond positively, ignore the bid (intentionally or unintentionally), or respond negatively o Social media acts as a distractor o Many missed bids = making a habit = negative effect on the relationship Jealousy o Digital remnants of ex partners o Social comparison Relationship conflict around differing beliefs about what is acceptable on social media Social Media and Well-Being: A methodological perspective (Parry et al., 2022) Parry, D. A., Fisher, J. T., Mieczkowski, H., Sewall, C. J., & Davidson, B. I. (2021). Social media and well-being: A methodological perspective. Current Opinion in Psychology. Love Influences Reproductive Success in Humans (Sorokowski et al., 2017) Sorokowski, P., Sorokowska, A., Butovskaya, M., Karwowski, M., Groyecka, A., Wojciszke, B., & Pawłowski, B. (2017). Love influences reproductive success in humans. Frontiers in Psychology, 8, 1922. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563221003733 DataReportal (2022), “Digital 2022 Global Digital Overview,” retrieved from https://datareportal.com/reports/digital-2022-globaloverview-report DataReportal (2022), “Digital 2022 Global Digital Overview”, retrieved from https://datareportal.com/reports/digital-2022-global-overview-report https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/pdf/10.1089/cyber.2012.0125 Can start it by saying something like: Interactions on social media are some of the most definitive for relationships. Self-worth is determined by social media Some useful things from lecture: Relationship Attribution Model o Happy/unhappy relationship expectation partner behaviour interpretation Interdependence Theory (Thibault & Kelley, 1959) o Comparison Level, Comparison Level Alternatives, Perceived Rewards I think social media could really raise the comparison level of alternatives o More exposure to alternatives Commitment to the romantic partner is strengthened when partners are satisfied with their relationship, and commitment is weakened when alternatives to the partner or relationship status are present (e.g., potential partners, preference to be single). Investment Model (Rusbult, 1980) o highlighted the importance of investments made by partners to maintain their relationship. These investments include intrinsic and extrinsic resources. The intrinsic resources include time and effort, disclosure of personal details, experienced emotions, and importance of relationship linked to self-identity. The extrinsic resources include social status afforded by the relationship, mutual social connections, and material possessions offered by the relationship Outline: Intro o Discuss social media in general o Discuss importance of romantic relationships o Discuss that social media has the power to positively affect newly forming relationships (e.g., connecting people more easily across distance and cultures) but has a more negative net effect on committed romantic relationships o Roadmap? Jealousy (could include monitoring here o How social media increases jealousy o Access to more information o Great Article: The Role of Social Network Sites in Romantic Relationships (Effects on Jealousy and Relationship Happiness) (Utz and Beukeboom, 2011) Monitoring behaviours Trait jealousy Need for popularity Relationship satisfaction negatively related to jealousy Utz, S., & Beukeboom, C. J. (2011). The role of social network sites in romantic relationships: Effects on jealousy and relationship happinesss. Journal of computer-mediated communication, 16(4), 511-527. o , witnessing that a loved one uses social media to interact with other people too much can engender distrust and jealousy, thereby triggering a partner to engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as spying or monitoring social media activities of the loved one (Muise et al., 2009; Muise, Christofides, & Desmarais, 2014). https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1066480716663199 Threat of Alternatives and Relationship Commitment (Comparison) o More available alternatives on social media o “ideal” self-portrayals rather than “actual” self-portrayals of alternatives o Article: Romantic Relationship Commitment and the Threat of Alternatives on Social Media (de Lenne et al., 2018) De Lenne, O., Wittevronghel, L., Vandenbosch, L., & Eggermont, S. (2019). Romantic relationship commitment and the threat of alternatives on social media. Personal Relationships, 26(4), 680-693. o Investment model (Rusbult, 1980) holds that, in addition to relationship satisfaction and absence of alternatives, steady investments (e.g., time, emotional, financial) advanced in the primary relationship are essential for strengthening commitment. Time spent with online friends is traded off with the time that could have been spent with the significant other. https://journals.scholarsportal.info/details/01918869/v139icomplete/277_sma irrivtsmi.xml Lack of Self-Inhibition Online? o https://journals.scholarsportal.info/details/01918869/v139icomplete/277_smairrivts mi.xml o Can cause people to behave in ways they wouldn’t in person May cheat emotionally or physically Easier to hide infidelity Technoference (everyday technological intrusions in couple interactions)? o Createsdistractions https://journals.scholarsportal.info/details/01918869/v139icomplete/277_sma irrivtsmi.xml https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1066480716663199 A partner’s use of social media positively associates with the perception of (a) loneliness, (b) lack of caring, and (c) jealousy that the respondent experiences. Lack of caring positively associated with the intention to break up Overall, mention that most studies are done with heterosexual relationships (probably at the end). Title The episode “Nosedive” of acclaimed science fiction series Black Mirror depicts a society in which individuals’ lives and wellbeing are dictated by a social media rating. Despite seeming dystopian in nature, the premise of this fictional storyline may hit closer to home than many of us care to admit. In today’s technologically-dense climate, social media holds legitimate power to affect our mental health, emotional wellbeing, and consequentially, our social relationships. The term social media constitutes a wide spectrum of networks, apps, and websites, ranging from dating apps (e.g., Tinder), to photo and video sharing sites (e.g., Instagram). Each social media platform is unique in its features and practices (which are, one might add, constantly evolving), and the user experience is made even more unique considering the relevant subjective and cultural contexts in which use occurs (Parry et al., 2022). Thus, it is difficult to deem social media as inherently good or bad. However, considering that there are 4.62 billion social media users worldwide (DataReportal, 2022), it would be senseless to ignore the role of social media use in our interpersonal interactions with others. A particularly interesting interaction when discussing effects of social media is that of romantic relationships. Many of us are already in a romantic relationship, have been in one, or hope to be in one, making this topic both interesting and relevant. In fact, a study by Sorokowski and colleagues (2017) have found that being in love (subjectively) positively influences reproductive success, suggesting that humans have evolved to fall in love and create romantic bonds with each other. This evolutionary aspect of love and romance further suggests that romantic relationships are essential to our overall wellbeing as a species, so investigating the factors that may lead to their demise is equally as important. While social networks provide unique and positive opportunities for relationship formation (e.g., dating apps allow relationships to form across distance and cultures), research has shown that there is a net negative effect on the welfare of established and committed romantic, monogamous relationships. Those familiar with TikTok may recall “Couch Guy”, a young man scrutinized and accused of infidelity as a result of a passionless reaction to a surprise visit from his long-distance girlfriend caught on video. This is just one of many examples of how short, and often out-of-context portrayals of the self and personal relationships on social media may be negatively perceived. Even if our personal relationships are not the direct target of such social ridicule, many of us observe and play into the toxic culture of social media due to the highly public nature of these platforms. The negative impact of social media use on romantic relationships can be explained by breaking it down into three core arguments. First, and most fundamental, is that consistent use of social media increases jealousy and exacerbates existing jealousy between romantic partners. Secondly, excessive social media use poses a distractor that may diminish the quantity and quality of time spent together, impacting relationship satisfaction. Finally, social media provides access to increased available alternatives, threatening the stability of the relationship and decreasing existing commitment. Overall, the interaction or accumulation of these three factors has a likelihood of bringing a romantic relationship to a dissolution. To support this argument, I will be going over key studies within the research field of romantic relationships. Jealousy Jealousy, or as it is otherwise known, the green-eyed monster, is an unpleasant, yet natural emotion. Regardless of the stability of a relationship, jealousy can get to the best of us. A lingering glance at someone other than the primary partner, or a flirty comment can be enough to send a person into a spiral of envy and even insecurity. Where such subtle signs of disregard for one’s relationship (even if unintentional) were once in our control and kept private, the development of social media sites has opened our lives up to the public. Networks such as Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and Snapchat provide and promote easy access to others’ information and activity. Anyone who is a user of any of the aforementioned social platforms knows the damage a single misplaced ‘like’ on another’s picture can do to a relationship’s stability. In today’s social climate, a like or comment is a currency, where affording it to the wrong individuals can cause serious damage to both personal relationships and personal feelings of self-worth. A study done by Muise and colleagues (2009) examined the relationship between the time spent on Facebook and jealousy in committed relationships. Using a survey, these authors collected measures of time spent on Facebook and personal accounts of experienced jealousy. They developed their own scale to measure this idea of “Facebook jealousy” (jealousy that arises from use of Facebook). They found that there was a significant association between time spent on Facebook and jealousy-related feelings experienced on Facebook. Interestingly, these results accounted for baseline levels of jealousy and self-esteem attributed to personality. In other words, the jealousy these participants felt from using Facebook and seeing their partner’s activity on Facebook had nothing to do with how jealous they were as a person. Participants in this study emphasized that Facebook creates a problem when there really isn’t one: “It definitely invokes a false sense of jealousy”, or “I have enough confidence in her to know my partner is faithful, yet I can’t help but second-guess myself when someone posts on her wall” (Muise et al., 2009). We can see from this evidence and such statements that social media like Facebook exposes individuals to a greater amount of jealousy-provoking information about their partner that in the context of real life would not be so accessible. Moreover, this study has shown that these jealousy-provoking interactions are often ambiguous and may lack appropriate context. For instance, the term friend on Facebook has a broad meaning and is open to interpretation by a viewer. This can trigger a number of unhealthy behaviours such as persistent surveillance and spying on the online activities of one’s partner. Consistently monitoring social media has also been found to foster negative social comparison to a partner’s exes or potential alternatives (Frampton & Fox, 2018). Although this study does not delve into how such jealousy can directly affect the relationship, we can assume that this vicious cycle can hurt the mental health of both partners and cause issues on either side of the relationship. On one hand, the ‘perpetrator’ can become defensive and closed off to their significant other if they uncover their activities are being watched. On the other hand, the ‘surveyor’ may become withdrawn from the relationship, experience low self esteem, or even retaliate, initiating yet another toxic cycle. To establish whether social media induced jealousy actually has a negative effect on the relationship, we can turn to an article by Clayton and colleagues (2013). Similar to that of Muise et al., this study used a sample of Facebook users, surveying them on their relationship status, Facebook use, and Facebook-related relationship outcomes. Unsurprisingly, the results showed that Facebook usage predicted Facebook-related conflict (e.g., having an argument with your partner about viewing others’ profiles on Facebook), and this conflict predicted negative relationship outcomes. Cheating (emotional and physical), break-up, and divorce were all found to be associated with Facebook use, moderated by conflict that ensues from jealousy. Given the rapidly evolving nature of social media networks, many of you might be thinking, “Who even uses Facebook anymore?”. Most established and peer reviewed studies on the effects of social media are from the 2000s and early 2010s, when Facebook ruled the internet. Although there is limited supporting evidence for negative effects of other, more modern platforms (e.g., Instagram), we can assume that the jealousy effects are similar, if not the same. Instagram is reminiscent of Facebook in its features such as photo and video sharing, liking and commenting, and easy, open access to others’ online activity. These shared features provide users very similar opportunities to engage in monitoring of others, leading to feelings of jealousy. Interestingly, feelings of jealousy may also arise when one’s partner spends more time on social media than on their relationship. When interactions with social media become a compulsory habit and overtake one’s personal life, it becomes a problem. In fact, this has become such a widespread phenomenon that it has received a formal name, known as “Facebook intrusion” (Elphinston & Noller, 2011). In the next paragraph, I will discuss the epidemic of Facebook intrusion and associated “technoferences” that plague romantic relationships. “Technoference” in Relationships The aforementioned “technoferences”, as coined by McDaniel and Coyne (2016) refer to the everyday technological intrusions in couple interactions or time spent together. To conceptualize the impact of these intrusions, imagine for a second how you would feel if, during an intimate dinner with your partner, they checked their phone every five minutes rather than devoting all their attention to you. Guaranteed, this would detract from the quality of the time spent with your partner. It is clear that technology has invaded our everyday lives to an extent where majority of us spend as much time with our phones and our social media as we do with our loved ones. Evidence supports this claim, showing that individuals struggle to control their use of technology in face-to-face interactions even if they do not experience pathological levels of technology use (e.g., Lang & Jarvenpaa, 2005; Middleton & Cukier, 2006). Given the sheer amount of people who use social media, we can assume that a large portion of screen time is allotted to checking social networks. In order to understand how exactly these technoferences impact our romantic relationships, we first have to look at Rusbult’s (1980) Investment Model. According to Rusbult, satisfaction level, comparison with alternatives, and investment size maintain commitment in relationships. Here, we will focus on satisfaction level and investment size. Strong feelings of commitment arise when individuals feel high relational satisfaction and feel both they and their partner have substantially invested into the relationship. These investments include, but are not limited to, money, effort, and happy memories. One way in which we feel our partner is putting in effort and maintaining happy memories is through quality time and attentiveness. When a person cannot put down their phone long enough to have a conversation with their significant other, they fail to invest adequate time and attention into the relationship, decreasing overall relationship satisfaction (Abbasi & Alghamdi, 2018). The accumulation of these technoferences then leads to a decline in relationship commitment, which is when relational issues may begin. This idea is supported by a study that once again used a survey method to measure Facebook intrusion and infidelity-related behaviours among couples that were either casually dating, in a committed relationship, or married (Abbasi, 2019). Their results showed that excessive social media use (they measured a range of social media, not just Facebook) was significantly associated with infidelity behaviours related to social media. An example of such a behaviour is messaging an old ex over Snapchat. This connection can be explained once again through the Investment Model; time spent with online friends is traded off for time that could have been spent with the significant other (Abbasi, 2019). Moreover, the authors found that this relationship is stronger in younger people. This makes sense, as older people are typically less familiar with and less inclined to use new technology and networks. To look more in depth at the specific feelings that result in decreased commitment in response to a partner’s social media dependence, we can turn to Nongpong and Charoensukmongkol (2016) study. Along with jealousy, the ease with which information can be viewed on social media presents a wider range of available alternatives for one to seek and contact outside of their primary relationship. We will look at this facet of social media and its effects on relationships next. (need to put this somewhere) Increased Threat of Available Alternatives In order to understand to how available alternatives are enhanced by social media and how this harms relationships, we must first think about when and why one may invest their time in alternatives over their primary partner. To do so, we can discuss Rusbult’s (1980) Investment Model References Abbasi, I. S., & Alghamdi, N. G. (2018). The pursuit of romantic alternatives online: Social media friends as potential alternatives. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 44(1), 16-28. Clayton, R. B., Nagurney, A., & Smith, J. R. (2013). Cheating, breakup, and divorce: Is Facebook use to blame?. 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