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LESSON 1
Teen-age Relationships
Including the Acceptable
and Unacceptable Expressions
of Attractions
Raise the
reaction if
you think the status is
correct and raise
reaction if for you it is
wrong.
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READ THE STATUS
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Read my status! 
Attraction
is a force
that unite
people.
Read my status! 
Affection is
one of human
beings'
greatest
emotions.
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Read my status! 
Infatuation
is love
without
engagement
or intimacy.
Read my status! 
People
differ in
what they
consider
attractive.
Read my status! 
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Relationship
is a one-way
traffic.
Read my status! 
Personal
Relationship is a
form of relationship
closely linked to a
person and which
can only be
important to that
person.
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2
Read my status! 
Affection is
one of the
qualities in a
relationship
that everyone
looks for.
Read my status! 
According to
research study,
people differ in what
they consider
attractive, and
cultural influences on
attractiveness.
Read my status! 
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Ladies with broad
shoulders and a
small waist are
not attractive to
men.
Read my status! 
Intimacy is a
sharing of
details,
emotions,
and intimate
thoughts
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Read my status! 
Filipino culture is
bound to believe
that a decent
display of
someone's feeling
is also a must, to
be accepted by
society;
Read my status! 
Macoi has
leadership and
work skills but
does not have
good looks. Is it
attractive to
ladies?
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Read my status! 
Majelyn dictates
to her boyfriend
how to dress up
and what to eat.
Is this a
controlling
issue?
Read my status! 
Is “Love” one of
the three
components of a
healthy
relationship
according to
Sternberg?
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Read my status! 
Is cheating
one of the
unacceptable
issues in any
relationship?
Read my status! 
Ma’am Gre
is a pretty
Teacher.
^_^
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WHAT IS
PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP?
- a form of relationship closely
linked to a person and which
can only be important to that
person.
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KINDS
OF PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
PRIVACY and INTIMACY
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- are two attributes describing
personal relationships and
level of commitment to
another person/s
IMPERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
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- commitment to an
organization like a business
entity, a principle or
purpose
ATTRACTION
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- it is a force that unites people
and can grow into an
attachment which eventually
leads to commitment.
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Here are some of
the attractions you
need to remember:
1. PHYSICAL
ATTRACTION
IS BASED
ON INSTINCT
Most people would claim that
they are attracted to someone after a
few seconds of their first encounter.
April Masini, who also gives ABC
Entertainment News relation advice,
wrote books like Date Out of Your
League, suggests that females are
naturally attracted to men who exude
affection and passion and seem to live
a fascinating life.
Heterosexuals tend to be attracted
to men with traditionally masculine
features including muscle body, square
jaw, straight nose, and narrow eyes,
physically
or
emotionally.
These
physical properties often include higher
testosterone levels, common among
"alpha males." Alpha males display a
particular personality trait, including
directness, determination, and power.
2. PHYSICAL
ATTRACTION DOES
NOT NECESSARILY
LEAD TO A GOOD
RELATIONSHIP
According to Dr. Margaret
Paul, an expert in relationship
who has a Ph.D. in psychology,
the first physical attraction is a
very poor indicator, about how
well a relationship performs that
can lead to a feeling about
abandonment.
PLATONIC
ATTRACTIO
N
IS
You also consider how trustworthy he
or she seems to be and how loving he or
she is, in addition to how physically
attractive your future partner is. Is he
calling, for instance, when he says he's
going? Does she answer the phone if you
call her? Is he going to find little things and
compliments? When you talk about movies
or sports you like, does she even listen to
you? The building block of deep emotional
links are also common interests.
Having a common family history may
also be helpful. Aaron Ben-Ze'ev, a
professor of philosophy and author of The
Subtlety of Emotion, suggests that your
relationship may benefit from physical
proximity, living close to your interest in
love. Believe it or not, it seems that simply
living in the same city or neighborhood
makes people experience more platonic
attractions with each other.
4. THE
UNATTAINABLE
IS ATTRACTIVE
We just want something that cannot be
achieved. According to Helen Fisher, Ph.D.,
Professor
at
the
Rutgers
Department
of
Anthropology and Chief Scientific Advisor to the
Chemistry online dating service, it will still be
attractive to someone we consider "out-of-theleague" because they are ideal. As a way to force
ourselves to strengthen both our body appearance
and our social status, we could be producing these
frustrating crushes. At the same time, loving
yourself and being patient is the most important
thing, because it is impossible to genuinely love
someone else without loving yourself first.
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ATTRACTION
Proximity and similarity contribute to
relationship-building, and reciprocity
and self-disclosure are critical for
sustaining relationships. Yet, what
characteristics do we find attractive
about a person? We don't shape
relationships with someone who lives or
works in our vicinity, so how do we
determine which particular individuals
we want as friends and partners?
documented
which
are
commonly attractive in men:
 Tall
 having broad shoulders
 small waist
(Buss, 1989)
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Researchers
have
several
characteristics
attractive
to humans.
documented
which
are
commonly attractive in women:
 wide eyes
 high cheekbones
 thin jawline
 slim build
 lower waist-to-hip ratio
(Buss, 1989 and Singh, 1993)
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Researchers
have
several
characteristics
attractive
to humans.
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Researchers
have
documented
several
characteristics
which
are
attractive
to humans.
Both men and women with high levels
of facial and body symmetry are
commonly seen as more attractive
than asymmetric individuals (Fink,
Neave, Manning and Grammer 2006;
Penton-Voak et al. 2001; Rikowski
and Grammer 1999).
documented
which
are
In future female partners, social
characteristics that people consider
attractive include comfort, empathy, and
social skills; in males, the desirable
characteristics include competence,
leadership abilities, and work skills
(Regan and Berscheid, 1997).
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Researchers
have
several
characteristics
attractive
to humans.
documented
which
are
While humans want physically attractive mates,
this doesn't mean we are looking for the most
attractive person possible. In fact, this
observation has led some to propose what is
known as the matching hypothesis that asserts
that people tend to choose someone they see as
their equal in physical attractiveness and social
desirability (Taylor, et. al. 2011).
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Researchers
have
several
characteristics
attractive
to humans.
documented
which
are
People weigh the attractiveness of a potential
partner against the probability of succeeding
with that individual. If you believe you are
particularly unattractive (even if you are
not), you would probably be looking for
partners that are fairly unattractive (i.e.
unattractive in physical appearance or
behaviour).
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Researchers
have
several
characteristics
attractive
to humans.
Typically, we love the people
we make relationships with,
but the sort of love we have
for our families, friends, and
lovers is special. Robert
Sternberg (1986) suggested
that love has three
components: affection,
passion, and dedication.
Sternberg (1986) states
that a healthy
relationship will have all
three components of love
– intimacy, passion, and
commitment – which are
described as
consummate love.
At different stages
of life, however,
different aspects of
love may prevail
more.
Other types of love
involve liking
(affection), described
as intimacy, but
not passion or
commitment.
1
Infatuation
is passion (love)
without
commitment
(engagement)
or intimacy.
2
3
Empty love means
commitment
(engagement)
without passion
or intimacy.
Companionate love,
characteristic of “close
friendships and family
relationships”, is intimacy
(affection) and
commitment (loyalty)
but there is no passion.
4
Passion and
intimacy (affection)
describe romantic
love, but no
commitment
(engagement).
5
Lastly, 6fatuous love is
characterized by passion
and commitment
(devotion) but no
intimacy, such as a
“long-term sexual love
affair”.
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Understanding
the Acceptable
and Unacceptable
Means of Expressing
Attractions toward
the Opposite Sex
Filipino
society
has
set
standards for terribly unacceptable
way to demonstrate someone's
attractions against those who are
practically acceptable. Perhaps you
are asking why it is important to
understand and realize these
things.
Filipino culture is bound to
believe that a decent display of
someone's feeling is also a must to
be accepted by society. It is a major
disappointment that anyone who
fails to follow this standard will be
classified as poorly educated by
society or the community, or how
one’s parents failed at parenting.
Because of the Filipinos’
culture of decency, the Republic
of the Philippines seriously
believed that the issues of
people's means of expressing
attractions to the opposite sex
or gender can be legally
addressed.
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Safe Space
Act
Republic Act 11313
The Republic Act (RA) 11313,
otherwise known as the Safe Space
Act,
intentionally
prohibits
indecent and unlawful acts of
expression. This RA broadens the
scope of the RA 7877 or the AntiHarassment Act of 1995.
This law recognizes that sexual
harassment occurs in the workplace,
education, and training environments, and
penalizes persons who have authority,
influence, and moral status in those
institutions who commit prohibited acts of
sexual harassment. While the Safe Space Act
addresses these gaps in our legal framework
by recognizing that sexual harassment can be
committed between peers.
A good example of this are:
-a subordinate to a superior;
-a student to a teacher;
-or a trainee to a trainer.
Mutual respect
Trust
Honesty
Support
Fairness/Equality
Good
Communication
Separate identities
PURE LOVE
AGENCY
What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable
Expression of Attractions?
As you are happy to see and spend
time with your partner, you know that
you are in a stable relationship. No
partnership is ever perfect, and when
basic conflicts arise, causing tension
with others, you will certainly feel that
the relationship is unstable for a
moment.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
1. Mutual respect
Will he or she get to know how smart and
why you are? Will your partner listen to you when
you say you are not happy doing something and
then instantly back off? Respect in a partnership
means that each partner trusts and respects the
weaknesses of each other and will never question
them.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
2. Trust
You talk to a classmate, and your partner wanders
about. Is he going to lose his cool, or is he going to keep
walking, because he knows you are never going to cheat
on him? Often it's normal to get a little jealous; jealousy is
a common feeling. But how a person reacts when he feels
jealous is what matters. Though you trust each other,
there is no guarantee that you will have a healthy
relationship.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
3. Honesty
This one goes hand-in - hand with confidence,
because when one of you is not honest, it is difficult to
trust another. Have you ever caught your partner in a total
lie? Like when she told you that she / he was occupied
with homework, but it turned out that she / he was
talking to friends? You're going to have a lot of difficulty
believing the next time she / he says she / he has to work
and the trust will be on dangerous foundations.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
3. Honesty
This one goes hand-in-hand with confidence,
because when one of you is not honest, it is difficult to
trust another. Have you ever caught your partner in a total
lie? Like when she told you that she / he was occupied
with homework, but it turned out that she / he was
talking to friends? You're going to have a lot of difficulty
believing the next time she / he says she / he has to work
and the trust will be on dangerous foundations.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
4. Support
It is not only in difficult times that you should be
supported by your partner. Usually, when the whole world
is falling apart, we thought that this is the only time we
need support from others. Even in your best, you still need
support and when time gets tough, your significant other
should still be there. For instance, your partner should be
there when you find out that your parents are breaking
apart and he/she should also rejoice with
you when you get a great score.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
5. Fairness/Equality
You need to have a give and a take in your
relationship. Do you take turns deciding what kind of
food to eat? Are you going out with your friends as a
partner as much as you stay out with your friends? If
it is not a fair balance, you will know. When a
relationship transforms into a power struggle, with
one party trying to get his or her way all the
time, changes get really fast.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
6. Separate identities
In a stable relationship, everybody has to make
compromises. But that does not mean you should have the
feeling that you are losing yourself. You both had your own lives
when you started out (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.)
and that should not change. You should not pretend to like
something that you do not like, or give up seeing your mates, or
give up something that you love. And you should also feel free
to build new abilities or interests, make new friends, and move
forward.
There are many factors that lead to the
growth and maintenance of healthy and
acceptable relationships, including:
7. Good Communication
Are you going to speak to each other and
share the feelings that matter to you? Don't keep
your emotions locked up because you are afraid
your partner does not even need to hear about it.
And if you need some time to think about
something before you are ready to talk about it, you
will be provided some space by the right
person to do that.
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10 Things that are Unacceptable
in any Relationships
1.
Cheating
2.
Putting
you down
3. Not
supporting
your
dreams
4.
Controlling
5. Lack of
communication
6.
Unnecessary
sacrifices
7.
Unreliability
8. Forgetting
the
memorable
day
9. Selfdestruction
10. Not caring about
friends and family
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OF
LESSON 1
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Read my status! 
Attraction
is a force
that unite
people.
Read my status! 
Affection is
one of human
beings'
greatest
emotions.
QUARTER
2
Read my status! 
Infatuation
is love
without
engagement
or intimacy.
Read my status! 
People
differ in
what they
consider
attractive.
Read my status! 
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2
Relationship
is a one-way
traffic.
Read my status! 
Personal
Relationship is a
form of relationship
closely linked to a
person and which
can only be
important to that
person.
QUARTER
2
Read my status! 
Affection is
one of the
qualities in a
relationship
that everyone
looks for.
Read my status! 
According to
research study,
people differ in what
they consider
attractive, and
cultural influences on
attractiveness.
Read my status! 
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2
Ladies with broad
shoulders and a
small waist are
not attractive to
men.
Read my status! 
Intimacy is a
sharing of
details,
emotions,
and intimate
thoughts
QUARTER
2
Read my status! 
Filipino culture is
bound to believe
that a decent
display of
someone's feeling
is also a must, to
be accepted by
society;
Read my status! 
Macoi has
leadership and
work skills but
does not have
good looks. Is it
attractive to
ladies?
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2
Read my status! 
Majelyn dictates
to her boyfriend
how to dress up
and what to eat.
Is this a
controlling
issue?
Read my status! 
Is “Love” one of
the three
components of a
healthy
relationship
according to
Sternberg?
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2
Read my status! 
Is cheating
one of the
unacceptable
issues in any
relationship?
Read my status! 
Ma’am Gre
is a pretty
Teacher.
^_^
Name:
Grade & Strand:
QUARTER 2: LESSON 1
Activity 1
Relationship Goals
1.
List
your
10
expectations for your current or
future relationship goals and
state why you want those
things.
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Activity 1
RELATIONSHIP EXPECTATIONS
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9.
10.
REASONS