Magnetic Presents
Attract Women Powerfully
Better Than Any PUA Books: How to Attract Women
Magnetically and Find a Girlfriend Who is Amazing
Book One of the Magnetic Attraction
Series
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You’re about to read a secret system of human psychology that can turn average,
“dweeby” guys into the coolest blokes in the room. This is the evolution of
“pickup artistry” that was popular in the 2000s. This information is powerful, so
keep it secret!
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
F.A.Q
Introduction – Who Am I And What is This
Book?
My pseudonym is “Magnetic”. I’m in my 20s and I live in Los Angeles,
California -- and aside from keeping a normal job, I also pick up girls. For this
reason, I keep my identity a secret and avoid the spotlight. I am also a
professional writer.
This program is going to transform you into a guy who can attract TONS of
women NATURALLY. The truth is the MAJORITY of men have problems
meeting women—and even harder problems finding the girls who are really their
types. Furthermore, I am certain this book is going to help you learn concepts of
SEDUCTION that very few people are aware of.
Just remember what Spiderman said (or wait, was it his uncle?) - with great
power comes great responsibility, so use this system well.
If you’re reading this book, you may or may not be familiar with the “pickup
artist” movement. Starting around the year 2003 there was a TON of material
appearing online by guys claiming to know secrets to the hearts (and underpants)
of women across the world.
Some of this material was GOOD… It hooked me back when I was a teen and in
college. Promises of seducing women in 10 minutes, one night stands, sex
constantly, you get the picture.
But it was also MISSING a lot of stuff. I knew the formula hadn’t been figured
out really by ANY of these guys. Even experts like “Mystery”, Neil Strauss,
Carlos Zuma and a lot of guys had good intentions, but the average 9-5 blue
collar dude who was just looking for a girlfriend couldn’t wrap their heads
around the stuff.
At best they’d get some cool new skills and overcome their fear of women or
social anxiety, but at WORST they would become socially awkward dudes
spouting off really bad pickup lines to groups of women in bars.
Back in 2008 it was painful to go into clubs and watch guys get shot down by
women constantly!
In fact, 90% of seduction books that have been released since then have suffered
from fatal flaws
The point here is to turn guys into super attractive versions of themselves so they
can A: get the girl, B: get the job, C: feel like a badass. But there’s a reason a lot
of these other books don’t accomplish this goal, which I’ll explain momentarily.
Evolution of Magnetic Attraction
I learned early on that success with women required a different skill set from
what was being taught. I decided to create my own system (and keep it to
myself) that would conquer this area of my life.
And it worked.
I’ve now I’ve created the Magnetic Attraction series of books to teach this
system to new guys, and also reframe a bit of what people typically imagine
when they think of attracting women.
And to show how any man can become super attractive.
So, I want to thank you for purchasing this book. Keep in mind, to fully wrap
your mind around this stuff I do suggest to read every book in the series as they
are released. At the end of all this, I expect you to be able to get girls no matter
where you go, at any time of the day, and completely independent of things like
your money, looks, or whatever.
You’ll be able to APPROACH women without anxiety and in a way that will
amaze your friends.
Finally, you’ll have the power to “seal the deal” all of the time. You’ll be able to
get new girlfriends—or just hook up. Either way, you’ll finally feel you have the
love area of your life handled.
I hope you’re excited. Let’s get started.
Chapter 1 – The Magnetic Attraction System
Primer
The idea behind Magnetic Attraction is to create a personality and behavioral
style that draws women toward you. There is a big difference between being
pursued by women versus being the guy who chases after women.
Before I mentioned that 90% of books by seduction and dating experts suffer a
serious flaw. Well, here it is: they teach guys to CHASE after the ladies. You
have to go out and “get” the girl, memorize “openers” and follow a complex
system.
This is why some guys become addicted to going out to clubs because it’s kind
of like big game hunting! But it doesn’t get you very far.
You see, women are NOT DUMB. They know when a man is “out on the hunt”,
and this either works in your favor or it will destroy your chances.
This is why in the late 2000s I used to watch so many guys get shot down in
southern Cali clubs; because after reading “The Mystery Method” or watching
that Vh1 show, guys would get all stoked about chasing skirts.
Well, when a woman knows a guy wants something out of her, they do NOT
hesitate to reject them HARD. Why? Because a girl reasons: “He’s a man, he
can handle it. If he’s going to badly hit on me, he deserves to get verbally bitchslapped for his stupid behavior.”
Don’t get me wrong, a lot of women want to be hit on. If a guy walks up to a girl
with the perfect swagger, perfect demeanor and good style to boot, AND the girl
is ready and willing for a man, they will probably hook up.
But such a guy already has to be at the point where he’s really confident, his
game is smooth, he looks attractive, and a lot of other variables are handled.
This is why it takes some men YEARS to get good with the ladies. I’ve seen
peop;e going out five nights a week for 2 years and still not hook up even once.
There is something seriously wrong with the existing system of attracting
women if that’s the case.
The Hottest Guys in the World Are Chased By Women
No matter where you’re at currently, whether you’re already good with the
ladies, you’re permanently stuck like the example I mentioned before, or you’re
a newbie trying to figure the “attracting women” thing out, you absolutely need
to think about how the most desirable men in the world live their lives, and how
you can emulate them.
So who are they? Well, forget about the celebrity actors, Pitt, Clooney, etc.
These guys might have a lot of charm and were maybe even talented with the
ladies before their fame, but having that much social status and money is
cheating, so we can’t use them as examples.
I’m talking about guys like your friend Enrique from school who had a new hot
girl on his arm every single week.
Even with no money, no celebrity status, nothing—some guys are constantly
being HARASSED by beautiful women until it actually gets old and they have
to dodge drama and upset exes on a daily basis.
Analyzing their behavior, I realized they have very important mindsets that are
difficult to create when you’re thinking along the lines of chasing women. You
see, these types of guys are never “trying” to get with women.
On the other hand, they ARE: extremely social, filled with positive energy,
always have interesting things to talk about, and just seem to “beam” charisma—
people are drawn to them.
The chasers / pursuers, on the other hand, typically have the following attitudes:
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Trying to get laid
- Sizing up women all of the time (“Yeah, I’d fuck her. Her too, and
her…”)
- Worried about how many women they’ve slept with—in other words
they’re worried about social approval and if other guys think they’re cool.
- Always wants sex to reinforce sense of value, will rarely turn down
hooking up, even if the woman is not very good for them.
- At their core, have low self-esteem or are over compensating for
rejections in their lives.
The Catch-22 is that men need to get laid a lot to stop acting insecure like this,
but they can’t get laid without first becoming secure with themselves.
Unfortunately, most gurus / teachers in this field ALSO possess such attitudes,
but they’ve become extremely good at glossing over it with showmanship,
pickup lines, routines and things like that. In fact they’re so good at it they even
score once in a while!
Meanwhile, here are some attributes of the “natural”, the guy who just
automatically is surrounded by beautiful women:
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Doesn’t see sex as important to defining a man’s masculinity.
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Loves women, thinks they’re beautiful, and is very sexual.
- But does not care about hooking up or not. Puts no importance or value
on it.
- Does not size women up constantly—does not look at women as
vessels to satisfy his needs.
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Is extremely social.
- Is attuned to people’s energies and feelings. For this reason, can be
very sexually forward when the time is right.
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At his core has a strong self-esteem and a sense of identity.
- Doesn’t go for it if it doesn’t feel right – tends to reject women more
often than not.
Wow, that’s quite a difference. In a random social situation, who do you think—
between the two guys—is going to have outstanding success and be very popular
among groups of girls?
In fact, let’s say Person A (the first example) is very good looking, and Person B
is a bit older, balding, symmetrically challenged. Well the good news is that
Person A may get some superficial success, but Person B will be the reigning
champion, due to having the proper mindset handled, which is always the most
important ariables.
Becoming the Second Example: The Key Element
Herein lies a challenge: how do you switch from Person A to Person B?
Well, the first step involves admitting that you have some of those low quality
behaviors. This involves also recognizing the fact that being a guy who is
constantly “trying” to get laid is not beneficial whatsoever.
The second step hung me up for a while. You see, outer actions actually create
inner values. Which is why becoming Magnetically Attractive requires certain
systems and challenges to reinforce these ideas. There’s no reason to spend 10
chapters talking about “inner game” because it’s going to be built into the
actions you take.
As you proceed with this book and this series, you only have to keep only ONE
thing in mind: the KEY concept is to lower your attachment to the outcome of
any situation with ANY woman.
This one bit of advice is all you need. As soon as you approach a woman (or a
group of women) with any type of intention to get laid; or any desire to get
something out of them (approval, sex, attention, whatever) then CAPTAIN,
WE’RE GOING OFF COURSE! EMERGENCY!
Proper attitudes will always be: curiosity, a desire for friends, seeking
opportunities (of any kind), and seeking to CHEER women up (make them
smile, make them happy, or make them feel good about themselves).
Notice the difference? These attitudes are primarily about GIVING to women,
whereas traditional pickup artists only care about TAKING from women.
EXERCISE: Print This Page
If you’re reading this from the Amazon Cloud reader, use your operating
system’s screen capture tool and print out this page as a jpeg. Then, keep it with
you. That’s how important this attitude is. It’s easy when reading programs like
this to gloss over certain parts, or THINK you’ve made a mental note when you
really haven’t. However, this is the one concept you can’t forget.
Chapter 2 – Outer Attractive Qualities and
Peacocking
Before we start going out and attracting women into our lives, let’s cover some
of the essentials regarding presentational abilities.
With Magnetic Attraction I do believe you can go out as kind of a slob and still
be popular. I don’t want you to think that it’s all about looks. HOWEVER: looks
always give you an edge. If you’re not presentational you MAY get judged
before you even open your mouth, and your chances will be thrown out the
window.
It’s also a good idea to look and feel your best as you transform yourself.
Personal Grooming
Step one is grooming. This is a no-brainer. You don’t want to go out socializing
if you have a four-day old neck-beard.
- Buy an electric nosehair trimmer, and jam that sucker into your
nostrils. Nose hair is one of those things you just can’t afford to forget
about.
- Take care of your teeth with a metal scraper. Plaque also equals bad
breath, and a host of other problems, so buy a dental grade picker.
- Wax unwanted hair. For instance, if you have a unibrow, you might
want to get rid of it. Also, if you’re a hairy guy like me, you may find your
stomach / chest hair slowly transforms into your pubic hair into a long and
terrible mass. I would highly suggest to get rid of where that hair links, or
else you will look like a manimal. You can buy wax at this link (click).
- Hair: if you have a huge bald spot; unless you really know how to rock
it, consider what you’d look like going “gangsta” a little bit and just
shaving it all off. If you have a full set of hair, make sure you’re properly
texturing it. Talk to your favorite gay hairdresser for styling tips.
- Facial hair: Facial hair is great if you did decide to shave off your hair /
bald spot. A nice goatee can be very masculine / attractive. But it can often
depend on facial features, too—so I’d talk to a stylist.
Dress
- I’m not a fashion expert, but understand that you can create a cool
presentation for yourself IF your clothes fit and they make sense.
- There’s some styles that give people specific feelings. For instance,
leather bomber jackets almost always reflect a rebellious nature.
- You can also look fashionable and urban with a good peacoat (for
winter months) and some designer jeans.
- Maybe you’re a cowboy, then don’t underestimate a denim jacket and
boots, or something similar.
- So find the motif that works for YOU. If you’re not a cowboy, why
fake it?
This stuff will make a big impact on people’s initial thoughts about you. But
don’t obsess too much about it because you can also attract a lot of girls by
wearing a stained Mountain Dew t-shirt and ripped jeans if your personality is
magnetic and charming. (Don’t do this, though. I’m just saying).
Skin
There’s some great diets out there for people who want to make their skin more
youthful with less signs of acne, wrinkles, grease, and so forth. I’d recommend
the ZONE diet which focuses on lots of nuts, legumes, whole foods, water or
organic juice and avoids fried-anything, or anything with too much sugar.
This diet will also give you a lot more energy, increase your mood and maybe
prevent future cancer. So, big pluses!
Color: I recommend 15-20 minutes of sun daily to add some color to your face,
especially if you’re a pale keyboard jockey. I don’t suggest longer than this
much time as it can become damaging.
Exercise
If you’re obese or really scrawny, well don’t expect these problems to go away
overnight. But it’s never too late to get started doing what everybody always
recommends: joining a gym. There’s millions of ebooks out there about fitness,
for all different body types, so I’ll differ to them about this subject. But I will
give some basic facts: very scrawny guys need to greatly increase the amount of
food they’re eating + lots of protein, and focus on lifting. Really fat dudes on the
other hand, have to eat less calories and focus on a LOT of cardio. Get after it.
Smell Good
This is self-explanatory, just buy some kind of good cologne or hell even a lot of
Axe Bodyspray is better than nothing.
Peacocking
So a lot of dating coaches back in the early 2000s came up with the idea of
peacocking. We all know about peacock theory; which is that a peacock finds its
mate by puffing out big, colorful feathers. Well this is still a good strategy in the
dating world.
The idea is to wear accessories and things that give a woman an excuse to talk to
you. Since we’re doing Magnetic Game, this is CRUCIAL because an otherwise
bashful woman might notice an accessory and use that to say “hello”. This will
double your interactions with women.
To understand peacock theory, I included a pic from some magazine I found. I
have no idea who this is, so shout out to whoever took this photo originally
(please don’t sue me):
OK, so this dude looks super smug, but he’s still a good example. As you can
see he’s wearing a nice two-piece but he’s accessorizing like crazy with some
really cool necklaces. Now the thing is I’m going to guess he’s some kind of
smug rock musician, and so it’s appropriate for him to wear necklaces that have
guitars on them because it represents what he does.
So all you really have to do is wear something that stands out enough like this
that women can come up to you and say “Ooh, what is this?”
Body Language / Posture
Ok, this could be another book in itself, but I’ll tell you right now that if your
body language and posture isn’t corrected you’re going to be DEAD in the
water. First impressions count, and if you are communicating any type of
NEEDINESS as a result of leaning in too much, or INSECURITY from
hunching—it’s over before it could start!
My personal advice is to find somebody who served in the Army or the Marine
Corp (if you’re from the states). You’ll notice these guys have good posture (and
sometimes they even overdo it…) because they’re trained how to do it and it’s a
requirement.
You need to pull your shoulders back, with your chest out slightly, but you can’t
overdo it, either. Another trick is to place your back against a flat surface and
compress your abdomen to try and eliminate the hole created along the arch of
your back.
Nervous Ticks
There’s no escaping the fact you HAVE to get videotaped for this one. One
nervous tick of mine is that I may move my lips when I am thinking “outloud”
(I’m always thinkin’), and people used to believe I was a crazy person who
mumbled to himself before I corrected it a few years back.
That being said, what unconscious habits are YOU doing that you don’t even
know about? Are you a nose-picker? An eye-shifter? A hand rubber? Figure it
out and then begin consciously ELIMINATING it!
A bad nervous tick could really mess up your chances!
In Summary
So, now you’re hopefully handling the “outer” and this might feel like a huge
mission in itself. It’s OK. But you need to get this handled before you can move
on to the next parts. In fact, I’d say just stop reading this for now and get to work
on this stuff. After you’ve made an attempt at all these sections, we can talk
again.
Chapter 3 – Being Friendly
The key to Magnetic Game is about being able to approach large amounts of
people, projecting out your personality, providing great feelings, and then
immediately recognizing when women feel attracted and having the tools to
capitalize on that.
Here’s the point where things change from other dating / attraction / seduction
books. This is about the point that most writers would start talking about the
need to begin getting stuff out of women.
This may include getting phone numbers, getting dates, getting hook-ups, or just
getting enough approaches under your belt out during nightclub excursions.
Some writers even stress the importance of “getting” rejections to build
callouses.
This is crazy to me because I don’t get “rejected” anymore, and you won’t
either.
In this book, your goal is NOT to “get” any of these things. We want women to
voluntarily GIVE them away, without you having to do much effort. We do this
by “working rooms”, being magnetically attractive, and allowing them to come
to US.
Another bit of advice you may hear that I feel uncertain about is “warm ups”;
which is slowly learning social behavior by asking women for the time, and then
gradually moving into personal conversation, or perhaps conducting a routine of
some kind—like a scripted set of behaviors, that you practice over and over until
you get better at approaching ladies.
Going into this years ago, this advice posed the biggest learning curve of my life.
Women immediately “knew” I was conducting a routine, using pre-scripted
lines, or just asking for their time as a cheap, unconfident excuse to talk to them.
So, I don’t think you should do this, either.
Another strange piece of advice that I don’t really agree with is the concept of
engaging women sexually and aggressively (such as during the daytime). “Just
man up and do it” is something I’d hear tossed around a lot. There’s videos out
there of some guys who can approach a woman at a K Mart and proposition her
within 15 minutes.
Hats off to those guys who have this extraordinary skill, but if you’re just
coming out of a dry spell and you’re looking for a girlfriend, give me a break.
Unless you’re a very special personality type, I don’t think you should try
anything so drastic.
Instead, let’s just aim to be friendly to people, which is the first step in the
Magnetic Attraction process.
Mission Objectives: Make as many people as possible
feel good about themselves.
You’ll find you won’t feel much anxiety about talking to people if your goal is
just to offer a smile and move onward.
- On the way to work, smile and offer slight nods to people as you walk
by.
- Memorize some jokes. Quick ones that only take a minute. Such as:
“What’s brown and sticky?” “eww” “A stick, what did you think I
meant?”. If you get some laughter, perfect—now move on.
- Toss jokes and good times to every depressed barista or cashier you
happen to come across. Male or female.
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Wave at people who you’re stuck in traffic next to.
- Compliment anyone who feels they need a compliment. If somebody’s
wearing a new tie, make sure they feel good about picking it out. If a girl
feels self-conscious about herself, imagine how she could benefit if you
told her that she had an incredible smile?
So what you’re going to do is start doing this all of the time. Really, I think you
need to spend about a week practicing this and you shouldn’t skip any days.
At this point in many men’s seduction type books, you’ll hear somebody talking
about the problem with “approach anxiety”. What you’re going to discover
doing these exercises is that anxiety doesn’t really happen if your intention is
simply to make somebody feel good.
You see, anxiety is typically the result of trying to achieve a desired outcome,
and feeling the pressure of the performance (as thus, performance anxiety).
What you MAY experience through this exercise is occasional self conscious
thoughts or shyness. This is quite natural, especially if you’re not a social person
by nature and you have to push yourself out of your shell.
But understand there’s no obligation or stated outcome as a result of performing
these exercises. There’s no demographic, and no intention to “pickup” girls or
try to achieve some outcome of X amount of phone numbers.
After you’ve spent some considerable time doing this, I would suggest to move
on to the next chapter:
Chapter 4 – Flirting
Now that you’re quite used to saying “hello” and cheering people up as you go
through your day, it’s time to begin shifting focus from random people and more
toward women you are attracted to.
Flirting is the important stepping stone from “cheering people up” into
“communicating sexually with women”.
It’s an Extremely Subtle Adjustment
The first big point about flirting is that the difference between being very
friendly and talking to people, and expressing sexual interest, is tiny. It’s like
when you’re driving a car, moving your hands by a couple of millimeters can
send you in an entirely different direction.
Really, it’s based on a couple of variables.
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Interest: you feel attracted to the woman.
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Interest reciprocated: she feels interested or curious in return.
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Normal communication ensues with a new “tone” of attraction.
The key to flirting is thus physically FEELING interest in the woman, and being
emotionally cognizant to when she feels interest back.
This is the key to becoming a flawless natural: understanding when there is
mutual interest, and then immediately capitalizing on it:
So that’s what we are going to work on recognizing for this next mission.
Mission Objectives: Create Interest Among Several
Women
The next thing you need to do is make it a point that the people you interact with
on a daily basis are women that you find attractive.
Now this doesn’t mean you are going to run around pursuing every woman you
meet and begging at their feet. But what you WILL be doing is seeking
interactions with the ladies with normal, casual, friendly communication, such
as:
“Hi, what’s up?”
“How’s your day / evening going?”
“Have a long day ahead?”
“You look great today, have a good one!”
As you may have guessed, the point is just small talk. You’re not trying to get
anything out of them and you’re not trying to seduce them. The point is to make
minimal interactions to get over any social shyness you may have, and to also
make you feel more comfortable approaching women.
You see, when a woman (especially an attractive one) is approached by a guy,
the first thing she thinks is “What does this dude want?” – but you’re bypassing
this by NOT wanting anything – just talking. This is MUCH more powerful than
you think because you’re giving girls the chance to be attracted to YOU.
On your day-to-day endeavors, focus on making non-committed small talk with
about 10 different women. Then, just move onward.
Easy enough, right? When this is done, we will move into the second part of this
mission.
Step 2: Turn Interactions to Flirting
For the second half of this mission, you’re now going to turn your daily
interactions into flirting.
“But how?” you may ask – “What do I do? What’s the perfect line or piece of
banter that I can produce to flirt with a girl?”
Well, I used to get stuck on this reasoning also. Fortunately, to turn an
interaction into flirting is easier than you think; it’s a subtle, mental process.
- If you see a woman, imagine how it is you are attracted to her.
Fantasize about her. This will actually help you.
- Ensure you feel that sense of your own attraction as you engage her in
small talk.
- Don’t worry about what you’re saying, focus more on how you feel.
You can talk about literally anything. It doesn’t matter.
- Use your eyes. Make solid eye contact, and drift your gaze down
toward her mouth a little bit as you talk.
- Ensure that you speak slowly, and playfully. Imagine you are teasing
your little sister.
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Flirting will happen naturally from this point.
By expressing your interest like this NON VERBALLY and subtly, you are
“forcing” the attraction. You’re being charming, and communicating your
flirtation under the radar. This gives her the opportunity to express her sense of
attraction back to you (if she’s feeling it).
Next, it’s very important to understand the signs that she now feels attracted.
You can’t miss these indicators or you’ll blow it. It SHOULD be fairly obvious
when a woman is showing interest in you. There’s a lot of subtle yet clear signs
that, unfortunately, a lot of guys miss.
Signs She’s Interested
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Is she paying attention to your words?
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Does she maintain eye contact with YOU and no one else?
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Does she lean IN while she talks to you?
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Does she touch your arm?
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Does her face light up when you talk to her?
Now, the important point here is by expressing your attraction non-verbally, and
without being direct, she will sense a subtle shift in energy and this is what will
either spark her attraction to you, or it won’t. But don’t become outward,
forward or obvious in your intent unless it’s clear that she’s into you. In other
words, don’t compliment her, lean in too much, touch her or any other outward
sign UNTIL she demonstrates them to you FIRST.
This is how Magnetic Game works. Your goal is to be charming, interested in
her (without explicitly demonstrating it), and being non-attached (small talk, not
caring about the outcome, not trying to “close” her) but being VERY aware of
HER signals. As soon as she expresses her interest back to you, you can
gradually escalate your own interest.
What you’re doing is you’re filtering out girls who are NOT interested in you.
You see, most guys spend 90% of their effort trying to impress, charm or win the
40 or 50% of girls who don’t really care about them. It makes no sense.
You see, when you focus your effort only on the girls who are already explicitly
interested in you, then you will achieve close to 100% “success” rates, and you
can painlessly move beyond the girls who are not interested in you, and would
likely reject you if you tried to persistently hit on them.
Never waste time again trying to impress the women who are not attracted to
you. Instead, become the master of understanding their signals, and only place
your effort where it counts.
Chapter 5 – Meeting Lots of Women
By now, you’ve learned some basics about becoming Magnetically Attractive.
It’s really about perfecting your outer appearance, making non-committed small
talk, mastering your ability to flirt, and then paying attention to their signs of
interest in you.
But this doesn’t mean you’re going to have huge amounts of beautiful, available
women come into your life. These skills alone will, at best, get you talking to
more people and becoming more social.
To take the leap into becoming a kind of seduction expert you hear about, then
you have to apply these concepts to settings where there are lots of women
available that you can talk to.
For this, it’s all about location.
Bars and Nightclubs
The obvious choice is bars and nightclubs. On any given weekend, you’ll see a
lot of guys swarming around clubs and hitting on women. So how can we light
up a club WITHOUT having the “getting / pursuing” attitude?
Given that we are Magnetic Attraction specialists, we have the ability to actually
outperform every other guy in nightclubs who are trying to vie for female
attention. Multiple times after going into a club I’ve had other guys get me aside
and ask “How is what you’re doing possible? All these women keep coming up
to you!”
“Dude, you’re like a MAGNET!” one guy once told me. (And that’s how I
ended up with the nickname “Magnetic”).
Follow these steps:
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Enter the club
- Find the first group of mixed guys and girls, and ask “Are you all
having a good night?”
- As they’re responding, quickly say “Awesome, I’ll catch up with you
all later” and move on.
- Go toward the bar, order a drink, and clink glasses with the first person
on your left. A big smile, a warm greeting, and then move on.
- Go to the balcony with your glass; find the next group of people and
tell them a joke. As they’re responding to it, explain; “I’ll catch up with
you all later. See you.”
- Avoid directly “hitting on” ANY woman you meet. Again, small talk,
bright positive energy, move onward. Non-attachment. And, of course,
flirting where possible.
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Direct everybody in the group with eye contact. Don’t exclude
anybody.
At this point, here’s what women are seeing:
Some dude comes up to us, maybe he’s hitting on us? I don’t know…
He seems really attractive and confident, and good energy. I don’t think he
wants anything from us…
He’s pretty friendly, has a lot of confidence, and that’s a cool necklace he’s
wearing.
And now he’s wandering. Oh, darn, I wanted to find out about who he was. Now
he’s gone, and he’s talking to some more people. He must be really popular.
What will happen next?
Like clockwork, women will start trying to get your attention; that is women
you’ve met from inside other groups will come up to you at the bar (or
anywhere) and be like “Hey, do you remember me?”
Or groups will try to include you in their circle, or invite you for after-party
events.
It’s that simple. It’s not rocket science. And yet, there’s supposed to be such a
big, drawn out process involved.
So the beauty of this system is that you’re never compromising your integrity.
You don’t have to be a dancing monkey or vie for the approval of some woman
in a bar you don’t know. You’re just allowing them to come to you.
Just remember:
- Approach large amounts of people. If possible, meet and say “hello” to
almost everybody in the venue.
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Move around always. Don’t linger until you’re actually engaged with a
woman who’s interested in you.
- If what you’re after is sex, then be open to the idea of taking a woman
back with you, or to go back to her place. The more indifferent / laid back
you are about this idea, the easier she’ll feel about it. More about this in
the next chapter.
Places Other Than Bars
I do enjoy the nighttime venues the best for the ability to operate like this. But
for some people, the daytime is the best.
It’s harder in the day because you can’t move from person to person as swiftly.
But, you can continue casual, non-pursuit approaches effectively in certain
places. For instance; classes, clubs, or daytime mixers like charity events or art
shows.
It’s the same idea as before. If you see a girl with a cute dog, comment on the
dog, show your positive energy or non-verbally express your interest, and then
move on. When you see her again, she’ll be thrilled.
With these ideas firmly in place, you can really accomplish a lot. But, it’s very
important, however, to know what to do NEXT—after a girl approaches and is
interested in you.
Everything I’ve taught so far is only 50%. The next part of the interaction is
understanding how to close, escalate, and make the woman yours.
Chapter 6 – Closing
So, you’re in a club, and a girl remembered you and came up to you. You’re
now in a whole new ballpark, my friend. If you’re a bit rusty with women, the
art of communicating with them and most importantly taking things to the next
level is a big topic.
There’s a lot of information out there about stages of an interaction (attraction,
comfort, seduction). It’s mostly bunk.
The truth about sex is that if what you WANT is a one-night stand; a lot of
women are up for it if you A: don’t make a big deal about it, and B: have the
proper logistics in place. You don’t really need to go through some weird system
to get a woman’s favor. Most of the time, they’ve already decided within
minutes of meeting you if they want to sleep with you or not.
So, before you go into a club, you need to understand what it IS you want.
Do you want one night stands? Do you want a steady girlfriend? Do you want a
non-steady girlfriend? Do you just want to expand your social circle?
Because if you want a one night stand, the first thing you need to do is ensure
your living conditions are appropriate for that. Women will rarely be stoked
about going to a house that you share with five people in a tiny bedroom that’s
messy, and then navigating stares from weird roommates after the deed is
finished.
But if you’re with a girl you’re actually dating, then it’s possible she’ll be cool
hanging out with you just about anywhere. But seeking a relationship is a lot
different from seeking a one night stand.
For one night stands, what you really need is a nice crisp little apartment in a
convenient part of town close to the nightlife, and preferably by yourself.
Or, you could decide you want to go back to HER place. Sometimes you can
accomplish this by just casually mentioning “OK, are we ready to come back to
your place?”, and presto.
Nonetheless, whatever your goal is, you have to know how to navigate the
situation so you can cooly—and cleanly—take things to the next level, because
it’s typically not only what you want, but what she wants
My opinion about sex is that even if you ultimately want a long-term girlfriend,
you really do need to sleep with her first, and you need to do it before some
other man comes along and beats you to it.
Here’s a walkthrough for anybody who is curious about how to take an
interaction from the initial meeting and into the bedroom. In this case, I will use
the bar or nightclub as my example. Let’s assume you’ve just “walked the
room”, met a ton of people, and you’re waiting for the girls to be magnetized
back to you.
- First of all, if a woman is going out of her way to talk to you, rest
assured she’s interested in you.
- If a woman is interested in you, she wants to spend more time with
you, which means you can easily move to a quieter part of the bar or club.
- You have to keep the same non-committed, relaxed attitude as when
you first met her.
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Conversation doesn’t have to be complex.
- Match her interest, so if she’s touching your arm as she talks, you can
start to touch her, too.
- The opportunity to be alone with her is a great chance to escalate.
Gauge the situation, if she’s sending you a lot of signals, you can usually
pull her in to make out with you.
- In addition, if she’s pulling her face close to yours, you MUST kiss her
at that point. If you miss these opportunities, you could blow it.
- The idea of hooking up must be as NON CHALLANT as possible. If
you give it any kind of emotional investment, you could blow it.
- The interest has to be mutual or less: if you start showing more interest
in her than she’s showing toward you, then you could (once again) blow it.
- Never turn down the opportunity to escalate the more that she flirts
with you. The sooner you’re making out with a girl, the better. Going for
that kiss separates a lover from a friend zone victim.
Moving from a bar to a bedroom does require a kind of plausible deniability to
take place. It’s not so easy to tell a woman “Come back to my place and let’s
screw”, but it is a bit more comfortable to say “Come back to my place and we’ll
have a drink.”
Allowing Her to Invite Herself
In the true Magnetic Attraction way, it’s sometimes best to allow the lady to be
the first to indirectly ask to come back to your place. Remember, this whole
book involves being VERY socially aware, and noticing when she wants you to
take her home is part of that skillset.
There are two specific questions a woman will ask you that indicates that she
wants you to go home with her, or for you to take her home.
“What are you doing later?” or “What are you doing tonight?”
At which point the appropriate response is always: “Just hanging out at my
place, wanna join me?”
If you’re feeling cocky, you could say “hanging out at your place”.
She will likely say “sure”, and then it’s on. Fairly simple.
These are the nuts-and-bolts of “closing” the deal when you meet a woman. But
like anything it takes practice and a lot of social adjustment to bring yourself to
this level. However, I believe by not worrying about canned routines or other
synthetic techniques, it will come much more smoothly for you.
Chapter 7 – Common Hurdles
Now I’ll go into the two most common problems I hear guys exclaim as they
work on this area of their lives. In future books in this series, I’ll go into some of
the other sticking points.
HURDLE 1 – I Run Out of Things to Say
One of the most common problems that guys face as they start going out and
meeting women is that even after they’re attracting them—they don’t know what
to say when they meet them.
So, they blank out, or have problems keeping the conversation going.
This is especially common among shy guys who are going beyond what they’re
used to.
Here’s what to do about this:
- Practice Improv. Improv experts use random word generating tools
(can find ‘em online) to think of creative stories to associate to words.
Freestylers may also use these tools to create original rhymes from out of
thin air. This is a powerful skillset that will aid you socially.
- Always focus attention back on HER, not you. Ask questions, nod your
head, and LISTEN!
- Anytime there’s a dreaded awkward pause coming up, use whatever
you were talking about moments before to craft into an observation, and
then a question. You can talk about stories from your life, society, pop
culture. Then, ask her what she thinks.
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But you have to be quick on your feet.
- Remember great conversational skills really involve what you DON’T
say. Never brag about yourself. Never put others down, and NEVER
negative gossip.
HURDLE 2 – Approach Anxiety
The Magnetic Attraction style should not come with any approach anxiety, or at
least only very small amounts of it. The reason is because you are effectively
meeting as many people as you can within a short amount of time, and allowing
the girls to do all the work to find you and talk to you again.
So, there’s no pressure when you approach a group of bar or club patrons to
conjure some flawless performance to isolate the woman, distract her friends,
and disappear with her like a magician’s stage act.
You’ll find that most “approach anxiety” is really just performance anxiety. We
place too many expectations on ourselves, and try TOO hard to get some random
chick who we don’t even know.
Damn straight this behavior would make a person nervous.
By approaching in the Magnetic Attraction style, this anxiety will never occur.
Now, some people may experience slight approach anxiety as a result of simply
asking “hey, what’s up?” to big groups of people. Just remember that you’re
only being social. No ulterior motives. You have permission to move onward if
you don’t feel right.
If you’re just not feeling in a social mood, well in this case you really do have to
make some effort to improve your vibe. I suggest “warming up” by talking to
people on the street or in line outside.
HURDLE 3 – Last Minute Resistance
“Sorry, but this doesn’t feel right.”
I really think that “last minute resistance” is evidence that the woman just
doesn’t feel comfortable around you enough yet. Sometimes, however, it’s
because of religious or other moral hang-ups.
The best thing to do is take it easy. Relax. Don’t push it.
If you really want to prevent LMR, then what you should do is focus a lot more
on the foreplay. Pet her, caress her, kiss her neck. Do this until she can’t think
straight anymore and is consumed by desire. It won’t be hard to move things to
the next level from this point.
F.A.Q
Can I go out with wingmen?
Yes. Magnetic Attraction works best with a wingman. But, both of you guys
have to be on the SAME page. Somebody who’s not following this system is
likely to blow it all up by: over-pursuing, acting pushy, or trying corny
traditional PUA tactics. The attitude should be more about having fun, partying,
and then moving to the next group of people—working the entire room without
ever acting all hung up on one specific girl. So, make sure the guy is cool, or else
train him.
Can I go out alone?
I’d recommend it. If you have to wait every time for your friends to join you, it’s
a crutch. Besides, since Bob has to go to work at 7 AM, by 10 PM you’ll
probably end up alone on most nights anyway.
What do you mean by “it’s wrong to pursue women”?
I mean it’s wrong to go into a club, venue, anywhere, and try to push your
presence into a girl’s life. Magnetic Attraction is about being charming, sniffing
out when a girl is attracted, and then capitalizing on that. Pickup artists /
pursuers try to push, push, push, and many women feel annoyed by this
behavior. Traditional “pursuing” behavior is not a very efficient system.
How long do I stay in set with a group in a club?
When you approach a group of people, come in with a glass raised, clink glasses
—say hello to everybody—then leave. Your focus should be on making a very
strong impression, and then getting out of there. You can always come back
later, in fact that’s the whole point.
What if no girls are coming up to me?
Walk around the room again and wave “hello” to people you introduced yourself
to earlier. Remember if your impressions were strong—because you had a cool
appearance, good body language, and you were confident—they WILL
remember you and usually want you to join their groups.
What if she has a jealous boyfriend?
Who cares? Move to another girl. Remember YOU have abundance. You can
always walk away and find someone better.
What to do if she loses interest?
She’ll only lose interest if you show too much of your own interest too early. Or,
if she gets bored. You’re only boring, however, if you’re not attractive to her.
But, if your approaches were all confident, this won’t be a problem.
How to get good at this?
Go out, a lot. 4-5 nights a week.
How many people should I converse with in a club of like 200 people?
I’d try to talk to at least 100 people in that club.
How do I ask for her phone number?
If you don’t think you’re going to go home with her, at least get her digits. This
one’s easy. Make sure you’ve talked to her for at least 30 minutes or so (this way
she’ll remember you), then be like “I gotta go, let’s bug each other on text
message”. And presto.
Phone numbers are sometimes not that valuable. You’re better off hooking up
that night, or waiting until you see her again at the same location next week.
After the alcohol wears off the next day, most ladies throw out their phone
numbers or delete their new contacts.
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I hope you enjoyed this book, and that it opened your eyes to new, exciting ways
to bring women into your life. I’ll see you on the next program!