Is parental supervision same as parental control? Cooped up at
home with a pandemic raging outside, this question is perhaps on
every student’s mind. I Hania Imran stand before you as a vouch
for a motion that no, parental supervision is not the same as
parental supervision and yet affects the child poorly. Now we as
today’s opposition strongly believe that this is not true, but before
we come to our actual argumentation, let us first define some
important terms in this debate.
Parental supervision, it is looking after, or monitoring a child's
activities by a parent; whereas parental controlling is being
overprotective. The most basic form of parental supervision is
required to keep children from hurting themselves or others; to
keep them away from dangerous objects and situations. Parental
supervision is keeping an eye on the children but letting them
experience the seasons of life.
Controlling parents are nonresponsive to their children’s emotional
and psychological needs. They constrain, invalidate, and
manipulate the kids’ psychological experience. Controlling
children poorly may cause certain problems, such as Unrealistic
expectations and doomed to fail scenarios. The child is expected to
meet irrational, unhealthy, or simply unattainable standards, and is
punished at times if and when they don’t. Those punishment may
not be physical but wound a word creates is fatal sometimes.
Secondly, Unreasonable, unilateral rules and regulations, destroy
child’s parental peace. Negotiating to the children, taking time to
explain things, setting principles that apply to all members of the
family and society, controlling parents set strict rules that apply
only to the child, or only to certain people. That surely harms a
child’s personality and prepares introvert or extreme extrovert.
Balance and rhythm are disturbed.
A controlling mother has a massive psychological impact on her
children, regardless of why she exhibits such behavior. Controlling
parents often tend to be anxious, paranoid and possessive. They
struggle with true intimacy and can be extremely defensive. They
take conflicts personally, very rarely apologize and it is almost
impossible to disagree with them without receiving a forceful
backlash.
To sum up, here are the main points our opponents have not
addressed. Anxiety is a normal part of parenting. For some
parents, however, a traumatic past or personality limitations stop
them from being the best caregivers they can be. Their
unregulated and overwhelming angst will spill over into
a tendency to over-control, affecting their children in invisible but
long-lasting ways. Not all controlling parents present with the
same set of behaviors. Some controlling parents express their
underlying fears through aggression, or by being highly critical
Thank You!
Hania Imran
VIII C