LET'S CLEAR UP ANY REASONS TO NOT TAKE CARE OF YOU FIRST
The following principles, thought exercises and actions help you get a reality
check where of you are at - reality is the foundation for change - and take small
steps to keep your tank full.
WHY SELF CARE MATTERS
The quality of support you give depends on the
quality of life you’re experiencing for yourself.
YOU MAY HAVE REASONS TO NOT FOCUS
ON YOURSELF RIGHT NOW.
WHICH OF THESE SOUND FAMILIAR:
Every day.
Your well-being and quality of life sets an
Y/ N
I’m managing at the moment.
Y/ N
I don’t think I need help.
Y/ N
I don’t know how to find services to
help for where the situation is now.
Y/ N
I’ll focus on me when we get
through all this.
Y/ N
I don’t want / like to ask for help.
example for the person you’re concerned about
Chronic worry wreaks havoc on your nervous
system. Without taking care to reverse the harm
caused by worry, you won't be positioned to
make it through the recovery journey with them
You deserve to thrive.
REALITY CHECKS EMPOWER US
When so focused on what’s going on that we
lose sight of where we are in our relationship with
the person we care about or with ourselves.
We’re human, so our ‘realities’ get biased.
But we know this: Reality is the foundation for
change. It will be beneficial to take an internal
inventory, a compassionate and truthful look at
where you’re at.
It’s natural to think some or ALL of these when we’re
focusing on helping others. But letting any of these
reasons stop you from being effective will affect your
physical health and disrupt you from starting to see
the results you’re hoping for and working toward.
HAVE YOU BEEN FEELING ANY OF THESE LATELY:
OBLIGATION, GUILT
OR
RESPONSIBILITY
WHEN
TO PAUSE
When you observe how you’re
acting in this relationship, how
much of it is driven by a sense
of obligation, guilt, or
responsibility? These
motivators are precursors to
feeling resentment later. If
they’re your driving factors,
we’ll help you work on shifting
into motivations that keep you
connected, clear and that take
care of you.
PRO TIP: YOU ARE
RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU.
WE DO THE BEST WE
CAN, ARMED WITH THE
RIGHT TOOLS HERE!
CHANGE IN THE
RELATIONSHIP'S
WHEN TO PAUSE
IDENTITY
Your relationship with this
person has become so focused
on their struggle that the
original dynamic - what the
relationship once looked like is a thing of the past.
PRO TIP: RELATIONSHIPS
DO CHANGE OVER TIME
LOOK TOWARD
CREATING A NEW
RELATIONSHIP THAT
WORKS FOR YOU BOTH.
LOSS OF YOURSELF
WHEN TO PAUSE
You’re so engulfed in the
supporting role that other
aspects of your life, the things
you love and the things you do
that make you uniquely you,
have fallen into the
background.
PRO TIP: ONE ACTION A
DAY CAN GET US BACK
ON TRACK HERE.
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