COMPREHENSIVE BIBLICAL AGE-BY-AGE SEX
EDUCATION FOR 3 TO 5 YEAR OLDS
Reading Instructions:
The Doodle Book designed for this age group is to be read to them. However, they should be allowed
to color the pages. Pick a part, per time, and ensure you have conversations. Listen to the questions she asks
and take notes to explain concepts that she may not have understood. I recommend that you take the time to
read your daughter's doodle book before her. So that you are not caught off guard by any question she will ask.
Let’s go.
Guide:
Your 3-5 years old is beginning to make sense of the world around them, they are beginning to understand
their bodies, knowing the difference between feeling happy, sad, afraid, or angry. At this age they are interested
in making friends, they care about how others act and they are able to show affection to familiar people. They
also tend to have imaginary friends.
To communicate with a child of this age, always speak the truth. Avoid using bogus and non-high falutin
language, four short sentences will do.
Here are the things to teach children of this age.
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Affirm
Let your child know that God made them as a girl and God made boys too. God made her beautiful. Tell her
that beauty is in appearance and in how we make others feel when they are around us.
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Boys and girls are different
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Boys have a penis
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Girls have a vagina
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Boys can stand and pee because the penis has a narrow outlet
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Girls need to sit and wee because where the wee comes from a little under
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Girls wee from their vulva
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All children, boys, and girls were made in God’s image
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What boys and girls have in common
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God created them both
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They both have breast
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They both have anus for pooing
Teach your children all about parts of the body
Have them start by naming the parts they know
Next, tell them body parts they may not have mentioned
Tell them there are three parts of the body
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Public
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Private
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Internal
Public parts are the parts of the body people can see and are not covered when you wear a swimsuit.
Have them mention those parts.
Private parts are those parts covered by a swimming suit
Also, have them mention parts they think should be apart
Internal parts
These are parts of the body that cannot be seen but are super functional. They are;
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Brain
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Pancreas
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The lungs
The brain;
Controls thought memory and speech
Makes us remember what we see and what we were told. But it does so many very important things.
The pancreas;
Makes it possible for our body to digest food. When food is digested properly our body takes up what it needs
to help us grow and then sends out what we don’t need for wee and poo.
The lungs;
The lungs are large and in charge of our breathing
All parts of the body have rules. These are the ways we protect our bodies from harm.
For example, our internal parts have simple rules that help them function
The brain needs us to get enough sleep
The lungs needs us not to inhale smoke or take cigarette
The pancreas wants us to eat the right kind of meals
Our public parts want us to keep them clean. Cut our hair clean, clean our ears, cut our nails, wash our legs,
and keep our hands clean at all times.
Our private part follows a different set of rules
Our private parts are delicate. DE-LI-CATE means that our private parts require care and gentle handling.
How to take good care of your private parts
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First name the private parts for girls and boys.
For boys, their private parts are their breast, penis, anus, and lips
For girls, their private parts are their breast, vagina, anus, and lips
Another name for private parts is NEVER AREAS
These are areas that nobody should touch you and you too should not touch others
NEVER AREA RULES SHOULD KNOW
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No one should touch you on your nipples.
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No one should touch you on your vulva.
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No one should touch you in your vagina.
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No one should touch your buttocks.
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No one should touch your anus.
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Also, you should never touch anyone’s nipples.
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You should never touch anyone’s vulva.
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You should never touch anyone’s vagina.
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You should never touch anyone’s buttocks.
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You should never touch anyone’s anus.
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Also, you should never touch any boy’s penis.
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And you should never touch any boy’s testicles.
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You should not play with your private body parts.
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It is wrong for someone to touch their private body part in front of you.
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It is wrong for someone to ask you to touch his or her private body part.
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Do not take your clothes off in public. When you want to change go into your room and change.
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It is wrong for someone to take off their clothes in front of you.
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You should never accept to take your clothes off in front of someone when they ask you to.
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Do not accept for anyone to take a photo or video of you when your clothes are off.
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It is wrong for someone to show you photos or videos of people without their clothes on.
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It is wrong for someone to lie on you with or without your clothes on.
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It is wrong for anyone to run their private body area against any part of your body.
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It is wrong for someone to peep at you while bathing or dressing up.
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It is wrong for someone to call you his wife.
What to do if an attempt is made;
Teach your child that if they ever feel uncomfortable about any aunty or uncle they should talk to mum and
dad.
The “What If Cards” contains several situations that your daughter would find herself in. It is your responsibility
to explain the reasons for your answers and also listen to whatever questions they may ask.
Help your child create her safe circle, create a safe circle for the house, school, and church.
A safe circle includes the name of 5 people who they can go to when they feel uncomfortable about someone
or something
In order to stay safe what are the rules?
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Do not accept gifts from people, always ask them to give it to your parents
Do not follow strangers
Do not visit neighbors without your parents
Do not accept for a male to take you to the toilet or bathe you
Teach your girls about boundaries
They should knock before entering a toilet or a room
When things do not belong to them they should ask for permission
Before touching people or touching any public part of their body like hugging or holding hands, they
should ask if the people are okay with it
They should learn to say no when they are not comfortable with a person
They should be okay when someone says no
Insert daddy care at
They should take “No” without whining
Provide them a list of places
They cannot go alone, avoid using specific people’s names rather us “the neighbors”
When cousins are around, all plays should happen in the open no mummy and daddy drama
Specify the hide and seek area for play. As well as hide and seek rules that say 2 people cannot hide in
the same place
When visitors are around, the guest room should always be out of bounds unless otherwise stated.
Children should take permission from parents about going to the visitor’s room even for repeated
guest
When a family friend or relative decides to carry only one child to go and buy something, teach your child to;
 Ask about other siblings
 Ask for the stranger to take permission
 As a parent, do not accept anyone, family or friends, from picking a child as a favorite.
ANSWERING THEIR WIERD QUESTIONS:
Where do babies come from?
Do babies eat in the womb?
How do babies get in the womb?
How does that happen?
What if someone tries to tell me how that happens?
Why should you trust mum and dad to be the ones to tell you?
What is sex?
Answers to these questions are available when you buy the Body Smart Girl Bundle.
LET US PRAY
Prayer & Confession
Dear Father,
I pray for my daughters
……………………………………………………… (call each one by name) that they will come to know
how much God loves them and how wonderfully he has created them. I pray that you will steadily by your
hands remove them from all form of harm including sexual harm. I pray that they will be wise for their age and
the Holy Spirit will continually remind them of what we are teaching them and give them supernatural insights
and wisdom for sudden events that we may not have spoken to them about. As we open up our home to
relatives and domestic staff, guide us. Keep anyone who has potential to harm our children far away from us.
No matter how desperate we are per time, may you still be our guide. May our daughters never know the pain
and agony of sexual abuse in Jesus name, Amen.
Managing Girls of Who Have Been Abused.
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Report sexual crimes against children to the appropriate authority. Pastors, therapist are not designated
to manage perpetrators of sexual crimes. There is a social welfare, police department responsible for
managing sexual violence. Do well to report officially.
ii. Follow through reporting regardless of who is involved.
iii. Take your child for medical examinations and review.
iv. Spend time with your child and do not blame her for the outcome of the incident regardless if she
contributed through negligence. Even if you believe that she has made irresponsible choices.
v. Pray fervently for healing in your child’s body and soul.
vi. Write out an affirmation for your child that they can recite and sing.
vii. Allow them speak when they want to. Let them ask questions. Let them share their story repeatedly in
as fragmented ways as possible.
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Keep them close.
Prayer and Confession for Children Who Have Been Abused
Dear Father, I commit my daughter
……………………………………………………… (call each one by name) into your hands. Your word says
that You are close to the brokenhearted and that You save those who are crushed in spirit. Please let my
daughter feel Your love and warmth at this time. Save my daughter from this crush. Strengthen her to overcome
all the negative thoughts and ideas that will seek to give her a new identity. I shield her from all the negative
aftermath that always torments girls who have been abused. It will never be her portion. Heal her Lord, make
her whole.
*Add the first confession to this as well*
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