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4 Strategies to Successful Communication

4 Strategies to Successful Communication
by Kat Yamamoto-Calvo
Originally published on March 31, 2021 at www.thefolkeinstitute.com
A woman’s guide to being heard
Have you ever asked yourself, how can I effectively communicate what I want, need, think, or
believe to others in the workplace? What about in family and social interactions? The ability to
successfully express yourself, deliver your message effectively, and be heard is a personal
development skill that many women seek. Too often, we second guess ourselves or worry
about what people might think of us.
Be assertive. This is one of those things that are easier said than done. Assertiveness is a skill
that is developed and honed by fire. Once learned, it does not even guarantee that you get
what you want but it will definitely get you heard. Here are 4 strategies to successful
communication from The Folke Institute’s CEO, Carrie Spell-Hansson:
Acknowledge the need - Assertiveness is often confused with aggressiveness.
Being assertive is not being aggressive. On the contrary, assertiveness combats
aggression. It is the ability to express how you feel without negating anyone else.
It is communicating your wants, needs, and feelings. Acknowledging that you
need to develop this ability is the first step.
Clearly determine your wants, needs, and feelings - Take the time to pause and
think of what you need, what you feel, and what your values are. Be intentional
and deliberate. Often, women may say that they are not being heard yet they
are unable to clearly articulate their message. How can you ask for what you
want if you are unsure about what you want?
Get coaching - It takes confidence, courage, and practice to become assertive.
Attending workshops or engaging a coach can give you the tools you need to
develop this essential skill. With years of biased learning to unlearn, having
someone supporting you to tap into your power can give you the courage and
confidence you need to become your best self and accomplish whatever goals
you set for yourself.
Apply lessons learned and be accountable - Just like with anything, learning
without application can be a waste of time. Assertiveness is a skill, and like riding
a bike or playing an instrument it takes practice. One small step at a time
consistently, will assuredly get you to your destination... a successful
communicator. When possible, find a trusted friend or mentor to serve as an
accountability partner, if that isn't available to you, be accountable to yourself.
Just commit to staying on track!
Remember, assertiveness is a choice. How we communicate and make an impression on others,
whether it is a first or lasting one, is a choice. And each of us gets to decide on a case-by-case
basis if and when we want to be assertive. Doing so strengthens our personal power.
As this year’s Women’s History Month draws to a close, I challenge all of us to make a
commitment to ourselves that we will do whatever is necessary to be proactive and continue
moving forward not only for our own advancement but for the generations to come.