“ a boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . . the purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you ” WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENT T YPES OF BOUNDARIES? Physical / Intellectual / Emotional / Sexual / Material / Time WATCH THIS VIDEO ABOUT CONSENT… Key questions to answer after: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. What have you learnt from the video? What are the ideas around consent? How do you implement consent? What are the different types of consent? How will you change your practise around consent? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gM7850BmblU Developing a speech How does Tamora Israel develop a speech that is engaging, thoughtful, insightful, interesting…? What techniques did you hear / see? What topic would inspire you to do a Ted Talk? “Put yourself out there and learn about the people close to you. Community is so much more than hanging out. Community is action.” Read through the transcript of the speech to help you develop your answers These are some of key concepts in relation to consent…discuss your ideas/opinions/thoughts on them with a partner. Trust and loyalty Assumptions, myths and unwritten rules Coercion Manipulation Vulnerability Exploitation In relationships, people usually give their trust, and later their consent, to others based on their experience of being with them. Some people need time to establish this trust; others may feel able Trust to and trust someone else without knowing them loyalty that well. Coercion and Agreement that is brought about by wearing the other person down, intimidation, exploitation physical threats or emotional threats is not consent. Vulnerable young people in need of emotional support, shelter, food, money, alcohol or drugs are at risk of abuse by people who may offer support Consent should never be assumed; instead, they should be encouraged to actively seek consent. Never assume consent on the basis that it has occasions. Assumptions, been given on previous Everyone has the right to change their mind myths and or to feel differently at different times and unwritten in different situations. rules Vulnerability and For a range of reasons, such as age, level manipulatio of maturity, and special educational needs or disability, n some people are more vulnerable than others. Manipulation happens when engineering a situation to increase their vulnerability, Manipulation can also be subtle Why are setting boundaries important? How do you implement boundaries? • It is the person seeking consent who is responsible (ethically and legally) for ensuring that consent is given by another person, and for ensuring that that person has the freedom and capacity to give their consent. • If consent is not clear, informed, willing and active, it must be assumed that consent has not been given. • If consent is not clearly given, or is given and then subsequently retracted, this decision must always be respected. • Since people can change their minds, or consent to one thing but not to something else, the seeker of consent must keep assessing whether consent is clear, informed, willing and active. • Consent must be seen as an ongoing process, not a ‘one-off’. • In healthy relationships, both parties respectfully seek each other’s consent and know that their decision to give or not give consent will be respected. • A person is never to blame if their decision not to give consent or to withdraw consent is not respected.
