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Practical guide for a deep and fruitfull relationship
How to have a deep and fruitfull relationship? A relationship where you feel safe
and free for spiritual growing.
We speak about a relationship which is enjoyable for you, your partner and your
surrounding. In this relationship you love yourself on the first place. When you
are full love for yourself you love your partner. After the the relationship is filled
with Love you two start Loving everybody arround you.
Love yourself
Woman: We regognize that for a woman in general it is her nature to put her
children on the firtst place. We invite you to chnage this and put yourself on the
firts place. This means: if you love yourself and you want to take of yourself you
want the very best for your children. It is good to understand this. For example:
If your child is sick for one week and you took care for the child. After this your
friend asks you: what did you do this week? Than there are two aswers possible,
A I had to take care of my child
B I wanted to take care of my child.
The second aswer feels completey different: It is your decision to take care of
your child because you love it, you want this. You regognize that this is your
passion. The first aswer doesn’t feel beautiful, you don’t feel free to choose.
There was no choice. It was heavy and off course you did it. It feels lik you lost
yourself.
Notice that in both aswers the result was the same: you took care of your sick
child. It was filled in your brain in a complete different way.
Man: We regognize the same in the man.
Love each other.
We regognize that in a not fruitfull relation both partners want to change the
other. Both partners know excacly what is wrong about the other. You can only
change yourself! Don’t make your partner responsible for your happyness.
We man can support our woman by telling her that it does not feel good when
she wants to change us. This is not easy because our natural behavior is to
supply everything to our lover. For example: If the woman sends a telephone
message and the man reacts two days later. For a woman this can be very
difficult. She can be angry for him not to respond quick enough. She will tell him
to respond quicker next time. For me the good enswer for the man would be:
Woman I am good, please don’t try to change me, I love myself the way I am. If
you want I can support you and help you to look at it and find out what your
problem is. The fundamental thing is: don’t put your problems on the other. If
you have a problem you can ask the other for support. In this example it would
be: The woman ask the man: I found something what boders me can you help
me? When I wrote you a telephone message and you did respond after two days,
I feel sad and abonded. I feel unsafe and I start to make stories in my brain like:
maybe you don’t like me anymore or you found a younger nicer woman.
So the man can say: Woman you have a problem, not me. If you put this problem
on me I can not help you becouse you make me an enamy. If you put you problem
in another way so that it is your problem than I would love to you.
A lot of beautiful, open and experienced women feel ready for a deep and fruitfull
relationship. We regognize that they have this question in there mind? Where is
the open hearted men? A lot of times they try to connect with men and they
found out: the men are not ready for me! There spiritual growing feels limited. It
is time that these beautiful women stop putting there happinez on the man.
When there is no man in there life, it means: These woman is not ready!
For a man a good technic to love himself more is improving his relatioonship
with his sexuality. When a man improves his relationship with his sexualtity he
can feel more self confidence and feel more free. A good exercize is to work on tis
is having less and less ejaculations. Helpfull in the beginning is starting to
regognize that ejaculation and orgasm can be completely seperated. It are two
different things. Having a orgasm with a ejaculation is one of the many orgasms
you can have. The other possilities to have orgasms without ejaculations are
interesting because the energy is not used to create sperm and trown out, but
can be used fore self healing and spiritual growing. The orgasms will be of a
higher quality and can be felt in the complete body. Having less ejaculations will
help the man to change his life and get out of the distructive cycle.
Every man has technieks to enjoy longer from sex before he ejaculates. It is not
so importend how long you can last as long as you keep improving your
technieks and keep on learning more technieks: PC muscle excerzise, breath
work, circulating energy. Don’t think you are already good enough but keep
improving!
A lot of man are afraid of loosing themself into a relationship. After some time he
loves his woman so much that he forgets to ask himself what he wants. He knows
better what she wants, but forgets about what he wants himself. I invite these
man to always ask yousself the question what do I want before you start to fulfill
the desires of your woman. Example:
When a man has more self convidence he is not afraid of putting his desires into
his relationship. When he starts to experiment with putting his dark masculine
energy into his relationship he may find out how welcome this part is for the
woman. When a man has more self convidence it is mor easy for a woman to feel
save with him. Often a man is not ready to go into a deep relationship with one
woman. He often has a lot of different relationships. He feels that in all these
relationships different parts of him are loved and welcome. He is afraid of
putting all his desires into one relationship. After some time in one relationship
he looses himself. He feels he is not good enough for the woman, she wants to
change him and she has expectations. For this man it is not easy to be true to
himself and tell her that he will not change when she pushes him. He is ready to
change when he feels that all his parts are loved and welcome. Firts she has to
accept him totaly as he is, than he will be ready to change from internal desire.
When a man feels completely loved by his woman, he can experiment with
integrating his dark masculine site into his sexual relationship with his woman.
He can notice how welkome this part his, when he uses this dark energy in this
sexual meeting.
Next he can experiment with receiving the beauty an other beutiful sexy woman
he sees on the street and witch excites and arrouses him. Instead of going for it,
or feel guilty about his feelings or feel frustated, he can learn receiving this nice
and juicy body reaction for a young sexy woman and feel grateful or this gift, he
can learn to be brave enough to take this home to his wife. He can unpack this
gift in the sexual meeting with his wife and revalidate his relationship. He can
use this life energie for creation and together enjoy this. Togeher they can enjoy
this fresh revalidating and creative life energy.
The beautiful thing about this is that in this way his woman can enjoy together
with him the beauty and sexyness of other woman. She doesn’t feel attacked or
unsafe anymore. She is not afraid anymore that he will leave her for another
woman, because the other woman is younger, more sexy or more beautiful.
This is our experience, with Love Dorota and Niels
-Fear of loosing yourself. Many people are afraid of loosing themselves is there
relationships. Man want to supply the woman, it is there natural behauvior. It is
good to reckognize this and see this automatic program. The invitation is to ask
yourself before you supply if you want this yourself. Is there also another option?
Is feels completely different when it is your man decision to take care of your
woman. For example: After one week you where taking care of your woman,
because she was sick in bed. After this week your friend asks you: How was your
week? The answer can be A: I had to take care of my woman because she was
sick. B: I wanted to take care of my woman, because she was sick. (I also could
ask her mam to take care but I decided to do it myself) Notice that the action is
the same in both answers you take care of your woman, but it is stored in a
complete different part of your brain. In the second answer it was your own
decision. You don’t feel like you loose yourself in the relationship.