“Hey” to Lay: The 7 Steps to Unlocking
Her Attraction… and Her Legs By Dominic Mann
Table of Contents
“Hey” to Lay: The 7 Steps to Unlocking Her Attraction… and Her
Legs
Table of Contents
1. Introduction
From “Hey” to Lay
2. The Kind of Man Women Want to Fuck
Unofficial Harem or Gorgeous Girlfriend?
What Are Women Attracted To?
Brad the Granny Chaser
Giving a Cavewoman the Tingles
3. How to Become the Man Women Want to Fuck
A Controversial Little Thing Called Sexual Marketplace Value
How to Be Sexy
How to Make a Dungeon-Dwelling Troll Sexy
Swag Jacking
Getting Stew from His Mom’s Basement to a Girl’s Bedroom
4. How to Approach Women You Want to Fuck
Where to Find Girls to Approach
Social Circle
Hobbies
Cold Approach
5. How to Date Women You Want to Fuck
Texting Her
The Date
Do Not Chase
6. How to Physically (and Verbally) Escalate Interactions with
Women You Want to Fuck How to Flirt and Create Intense Sexual Tension
How to Escalate Your Way to the Bedroom
The Kiss (… and Beyond)
1. Introduction
You want to know how to go from spotting a hot chick on the street to
having her scream out in pleasure from underneath your sheets.
You want to know how to go…
FROM “HEY” TO LAY
The structure of this book is as follows:
But first…
(A Fucking Warning: If you’re not well-fucking-acquainted with the word
“fuck”, you’re about to fucking be.) Anyhow, here goes:
1. You. First, you’re going to learn how to become the guy women
want to fuck.
2. Her. You will then learn how to find women you want to fuck.
And then…
3. Approach. How to approach women you want to fuck. (And
how to not be an awkward fuck.) 4. Text. How to properly text
women you want to fuck so as not to kill attraction and come off
like an unfuckable loser.
5. Date. How to set up dates with (and actually date) women you
want to fuck.
6. Escalate. How to physically (and verbally) escalate interactions
with women you want to fuck.
7. Bang. How to get to the point of fucking women you want to
fuck. (And how to make them want to fuck you.) As you might have
noticed, what you’re about to learn in this book progresses step-bystep from the first “Hi!” to the subsequent sweaty, primal grunting
that us men enjoy so much. From “hey” to lay.
So, without further ado, let’s dive right into becoming the man (yes, man,
not “guy”, and definitely not “boy”—but a fucking man!) that women want to
fuck.
2. The kind of man women want to fuck
UNOFFICIAL HAREM OR GORGEOUS
GIRLFRIEND?
The fact that you’re reading this book tells me something very important.
Ready for it?
Here it is:
You’re not lying a Bahamian beach covered in a gazillion women on
permanent booty call. Nor are you are flying in a Saudi king’s private jet
snorting cocaine off a girl’s ass while your de facto harem watches on in awe,
bathing in your awesomeness.
(No shit, Dominic!)
But… you probably don’t want that.
In fact, you’re probably just a guy who wants to be able to find (and
secure) a girlfriend with relative ease.
Or perhaps you want to have a few girls you regularly have casual sex
with.
Or possibly you’ve just been burnt in a relationship that ended badly and
you want to know what went wrong and how you can get back in the game
without making the same mistakes.
Or maybe you just want to know the simple step-by-step way to go from
“hey” to lay so that you can have more options in life when it comes to women.
But none of that matters. Because the tactics are the same, regardless of
whether you want to grow a de facto harem or get yourself a gorgeous girlfriend.
But before we turn you into a pussy-slayer who swaggers around making
women go weak at the knees everywhere he goes, let’s first take a look at what
exactly it is that women want.
To answer the question of how to become the man women want to fuck,
we must first ask ourselves: What are women attracted to?
WHAT ARE WOMEN ATTRACTED TO?
It’s an age old question: What do women want?
Fortunately, the answer can be found by looking at attraction from an
evolutionary perspective.
As you might recall from your high school biology class (if you weren’t
busy sitting up the back of the class spitting spitballs on the fan, that is), there’s
this thing called natural selection.
Put simply, he who has the most babies wins. He passes on his genes and,
eventually, his genetic traits find their way into the rest of his species.
Conversely, he who has few (or no) babies loses. His genes die out.
And this is where the solution to the age of question, “What do women
want?” lies. As such, we can reframe the question as follows: “What maximizes
a vulnerable cavewoman’s chances of successful reproduction?”
These baby-maximizing traits will provide for us the answer to female
attraction.
BRAD THE GRANNY CHASER
But before we discover the secret to giving a woman the tingles, let’s first
examine the evolution of male attraction. As such: “What maximizes a
caveman’s chances of successful reproduction?”
(Hint: It’s not saggy old grandma-tits and gray hair.)
Imagine two cavemen. Brad and Chad.
Chad is a caveman who is attracted to healthy young women with
titillating tits, a nice ass, luscious long legs, and indicators of health such as a
symmetrical face, shiny hair, nice big eyes, clear skin, and all that good stuff.
Brad is a little different. He chases after disabled old ladies with missing
limbs. When he sees gray hair, shrivelled skin, saggy tits, a non-existent ass, and
(ideally) a missing limb or two, he just turned the hell on.
Now, who do you think is going to have greater reproductive success?
While Brad will be lucky if he has so much as one child, Chad would
probably have more offspring than could be counted on all fingers and toes.
Brad fails to pass on his genes, thus virtually no men today are attracted to
infertile old ladies.
Chad passes on his genes through dozens of offspring, and thus what he
considered attractive is what all of us consider attractive. So much so that words
such as “beautiful” describe exactly what we’ve evolved to be attracted to.
See how this—viewing attraction from an evolutionary perspective—
works?
Let’s now take a look at what women have evolved to get the tingles for.
GIVING A CAVEWOMAN THE TINGLES
Women grow babies in their bodies. As such, for us guys, a woman’s
physical traits is of the utmost importance.
But, as you might be aware, men do not(!) grow babies inside their bodies.
As such, women have evolved to place far less importance on a man’s physical
traits.
That’s why it’s not uncommon to see hot women with ugly guys. Or older
guys. Meanwhile, you almost never see a hot/successful guy with an ugly/old
woman (or blue-haired feminist land whale). It’s not that women are golddiggers
or men are superficial pigs. It’s just how we’ve evolved.
This brings us to the following question: If women have evolved to place
less importance on a man’s physical traits when it comes to attraction, what are
they attracted to?
Well, let’s whip that question back out again:
“What maximizes a vulnerable cavewoman’s chances of successful
reproduction?”
The answer?
A caveman’s behavior.
Cavewomen who were attracted to big, strong (both mentally and
physically), dominant cavemen were far more likely to successfully reproduce
and pass on their genes.
(Note: From now on, I will simply describe the traits women are attracted
to as “masculine.” This includes such masculine traits as dominance, strength,
not being emotional, courage, independence, competitiveness, assertiveness,
toughness, etc. Notice also that many of these traits could be described as being
those of an “asshole” or “jerk”, explaining why women—despite their
protestations—can’t help but get the tingles for “bad boys.” But I digress.) These
masculine cavemen could protect her from big, scary sabertooth tigers; catch big
buffalo for her when she’s pregnant and vulnerable; protect their weak, infant
child from the harsh conditions of evolutionary times; have the status within the
tribe to secure necessary resources; and perhaps even have the strength and
mental fortitude to protect her and her infant child from hostile tribe members or
opposing tribes.
All of this greatly maximizes her chances of successful reproduction—
passing on her genes.
Meanwhile, mating with a meek, submissive “nice guy” who lacks the
spine of the aforementioned masculine caveman would have just the opposite
consequences, lowering a cavewoman’s chances of successful reproduction.
“But wait!” you ask. “Wouldn’t these so-called ‘nice guys’ better
maximize a woman’s chances of successful reproduction for the very reason that
they’re so submissive and eager to please?”
Ironically enough, it is for the very reason that nice guys go out of their
way to keep women happy that women find them so sexually repulsive.
Meanwhile, and equally ironically, it is for the very reason that
masculine men are indifferent, give zero fucks, and never bend over
backwards trying to please anyone that women find them so damn sexy.
Why is this?
If a man is strong enough to not bow down to an attractive woman (as nice
guys do), he is almost always strong enough to deal with whatever shit the world
throws at him.
Meanwhile, if the meek and eager to please nice guy can’t even stand up
to a woman, how on earth is he going to protect her (and any vulnerable
offspring they might have) from the harshness of evolutionary times?
But this leads to another problem…
Any guy can puff out his chest, do an alpha male strut, and act like a big
deal.
So how’s a woman to know if he’s the real deal or actually just a loser
putting on a facade?
They test him. They give him shit. And they see how he responds.
And lo and behold, ye have yeself the infamous “shit test.”
HOW WOMEN SECRETLY TEST YOU (AND
HOW TO PASS)
“I bet you use that line on all the girls.”
“Weirdo.”
“Is that the best you could do?”
“Don’t you have anything better to do with your life?”
“Are you a player?”
“Stop staring at me.”
“That shirt you’re wearing is ridiculous!”
“I don’t date short guys.”
“Buy me a drink!”
All of these are examples of so-called “shit tests” that women chuck at
guys. Snide remarks. Off-putting questions. Poking and prodding potential
insecurities.
Why do women do it?
Women constantly shit test men to see if they can ruffle his feathers and
put him off balance. To see if he’s truly a dominant, strong, gives-zero-fucks
guy, or if he’s just some weak loser putting on a facade that crumbles down with
the first snide remark.
So how do you best respond to shit tests?
Simple. Demonstrate strength. Toughness. Masculinity.
How?
By giving approximately negative 7.3 fucks.
And what’s the best way to demonstrate your masculine indifference?
That you’re so tough you literally don’t care?
The best technique is to agree and amplify her shit test.
For example, she might say, “You look upset.” (Even though you’re
clearly not.)
A nice guy beta male would get all defensive, saying, “No! I’m not
upset!!” This demonstrates weakness as well as the fact that he feels insecure
about what other people think of him.
Instead, a better response would be something to the effect of, “Yeah, I’m
going to go home and watch Titanic now.” Agree and amplify.
By agreeing and amplifying, you simultaneously demonstrate you don’t
care and that what she said was dumb.
Some more examples:
Girl: “I bet you use that line on all the girls.”
Guy: “Yeah, I literally get up every morning and I’m covered in bitches,
it’s that damn effective.”
Girl: “You seem like a player.”
Guy: “Sounds like you’ve got an eye for talent.”
Girl: “That shirt you’re wearing is ridiculous!”
Guy: “Thank you. Your mom bought it for me.”
Girl: “Buy me a drink!”
Guy: “Sure. Would you like my ATM pin too?”
Another good response to the “buy me a drink” a shit test that’s not agree
and amplify is simply, “No, you buy me a drink.” It demonstrates you consider
yourself higher value than her and that you’re not so desperate for female
attention that you go around buying drinks for women you don’t even know at
bars.
To finish off this section on shit tests, here’s an excerpt from Nobel Prizewinning physicist Richard Feynman’s autobiography Surely You’re Joking, Mr.
Feynman!: — We went over to their table and he introduced me to the girls and
then went off for a moment. A waitress came around and asked us what we
wanted to drink. I ordered some water, and the girl next to me said, "Is it all
right, if I have a champagne?"
"You can have whatever you want," I replied coolly, "'cause you're payin'
for it." [Not putting her on a pedestal.]
"What's the matter with you?" She says. "Cheapskate, or something?"
[Shit test #1.]
"That's right." [He’s totally indifferent.]
"You're certainly not a gentleman!" she said, indignantly. [Shit test #2.]
"You figured me out immediately!" I replied. [Agreeing and amplifying.]
I had learned in New Mexico many years before not to be a gentleman.
Pretty soon they were offering to buy me drinks—the tables were turned
completely!
—
A good rule of thumb, if you’re currently a timid nice guy, is to always
err on the side of being an asshole. If you don’t believe me, just try it.
3. How to become the man women want
to fuck
A CONTROVERSIAL LITTLE THING
CALLED SEXUAL MARKETPLACE VALUE
As much as the PC police and blue-haired feminists might scream and
shout otherwise, the simple fact of the matter is that relationships are,
essentially, unspoken social exchanges.
The exchange might be of friend stuff, like someone to talk to, do
activities with, etc., or it might be of boy/girlfriend stuff, like commitment, sex,
etc. When the social exchange is uneven, such as a girl getting her
“boyfriend”/commitment needs met, without the guy getting his sexual needs
met (i.e. the friend zone), things typically don’t last too long.
But what does this have to do with anything?
Well, you—as a person—have a certain value in the sexual marketplace.
For example, a rich guy with six-pack abs has a higher sexual marketplace
value (SMV) than a 400-pound Reddit-dwelling internet troll living out of his
mom’s basement.
Likewise, a smoking hot 21-year old has a higher SMV than a 38-year old
blue-haired feminist land whale.
And it is for this reason—one’s SMV, that is—that you virtually never see
rich, hot guys with old obese women, nor hot young babes with broke, fat losers.
So what does this mean for you?
Well, as you might have guessed, it means that if you want to bang highquality girls, you need to work on increasing your SMV.
How?
Simple. As a man, you have a large amount of control over your SMV (as
opposed to women, whose SMV is largely determined by their genetics and age).
HOW TO BE SEXY
Here are some things you can do to increase your SMV:
1. Lift. Eat will and hit the gym. Build muscle. And if you’re
currently fat, lose it and then muscle up. If you’re a skinny dude,
bulking up is especially important. Women don’t value looks as
much as us guys, but lifting will make women more attracted to you
because they feel you are more powerful. Get two clones doing the
exact same thing, give one of them bigger muscles, and—despite
doing the exact same thing—his muscular appearance gives him an
aura of power and confidence. Women are instinctively attracted to
men that they feel are more powerful than them. So bulk up!
2. Dress well. It might seem minor, but this is massive. The
difference between baggy, plain-looking clothes and stylish clothes
with a tight fit is immense. Imagine James Bond. Now put him in a
baggy pair of khakis and a drab gray t-shirt. Not at all the same, is
he? That sleek charisma and “coolness” has all gone out the
window. We’ll discuss the single easiest way to take your fashion
from unfuckable to irresistible below. (See the section on “Swag
Jacking” below.) (Note: For a small example of the effect simply
changing clothes and getting a good haircut can have on your
appearance, compare these two pictures of Elon Musk. The first one
shows Musk in casual clothes at work. See it here:
https://goo.gl/H8fw9s. Hardly impressive. The second picture shows
him doing some important presentation, dressed well with hair
styled. See it here: https://goo.gl/KYT8dj. Clearly, a simple change
of clothes and haircut makes a big difference. Use this to your
advantage!) 3. Increase status. While us guys hardly care about a
woman’s status (in fact, most guys would be more attracted to the
cute teen at Subway than we would some hard-charging corporate
lawyer), women do care about a man’s status. That’s why the high
school quarterback (or the college athlete, or the frat star at a big
party school) never had any shortage of girls chasing after him—in
the social scene, his status was through the roof. The same goes for
rockstars, the “man in a uniform” phenomenon, and with powerful
jobs. Women have evolved feel great attraction for powerful men
and men with high social status.
4. Game. A guy who can effortlessly banter along, dominate social
situations, and flirt with chicks has a higher SMV than some autistic
dude.
In summary: Game, fame, fitness, style, money, and ambition.
Now, let’s discuss an example (albeit an extreme one) of how you as a
man can increase your SMV.
HOW TO MAKE A DUNGEON-DWELLING
TROLL SEXY
Imagine a fat-ass neckbearded self-proclaimed feminist beta-orbiter
whiteknighting pile of lard that live in his mommy’s basement like a troll in a
dungeon. No SMV whatsoever.
We’ll call him Stew.
But guess what? Stew can be reformed.
Lift. Dress well. Increase status. Game (and no Stew, I don’t mean World
of Warcraft).
So let’s take Stew to his pantry. But before we do that, we need to make
sure Stew shaves off his neckbeard, chucks out his fedora, and uninstalls World
of Warcraft.
After this (and after washing Stew’s fingers of Cheetos powder), we’ll
chuck out all processed food. If it’s in a box, bag, container, or anything that
looks like it was made in a factory, it’s going into the trash. From now on, Stew
is going to eat nothing but meat and vegetables (along with some eggs and nuts)
and drink nothing but water (and, if Stew wants, some tea and/or sugar-free
coffee). No junk food (not so much as one milligram) is allowed in his house lest
he succumb to its temptation.
Now that Stew’s diet is fixed, we’re going to take him out the front door.
(Been awhile, hasn’t it, Stew?) He’s going to go for a run (which he will do
every day from now on). To maximize weight loss, Stew is going to sprint as
hard as he possibly can for 40 seconds, and then slowly jog for 20 seconds (or
sprint 30 seconds and jog 10 seconds, whatever), and repeat this for 20–30
minutes. He will do this each morning when his willpower is at its peak.
After consistently eating and exercising like this for a while, Stew will
notice that he’s no longer a fat-ass tub of lard. Instead, he’s starting to look like a
normal, healthy person.
Now that he looks like (and is) a normal, healthy person, we’re going to
take Stew to the gym. (But he’s only allowed to go to the gym once he’s lost all
his fat and looks slim. If he still looks a little doughy or chubby, he’s not allowed
to go. You can’t build muscle and lose fat at the same time.) Stew can get a
personalized workout at his gym—he just needs to make sure he tells them
exactly what he wants: Big muscles. He wants to bulk up and get big.) After
consistently making a routine (yes, routine, this is important) of going to the
gym 3–4 times a week (depending on his workout program), he’ll start to notice
he’s gaining muscle. After six months to a year, he’ll start to look legitimately
buff. Stew will notice girls checking him out as he swaggers to the gym and then
—after working out—back to his mom’s basement.
Now, we’re going to take Stew shopping. We’re going to get him some
great-looking, well-fitting clothes. He’s going to go for the smallest size that he
can fit on his now-muscular body. Fit is king.
Perhaps we’ll get Stew some dark jeans, a well-fitting shirt (stick with
white or light blue), and some chelsea boots. This is a super simple outfit that
looks great (only if it fits well, though—go for a tight/slim fit, not a
loose/“comfortable” fit).
With his new outfit—a well-fitting white shirt, dark jeans, and a simple
pair of chelsea boots—Stew now looks a million bucks. (To see an example of
Stew’s outfit, use this link: https://goo.gl/MQLf8A) That said, just because Stew
now looks like a sexy mofo, Stew isn’t allowed to stop going to the gym or start
eating junk food again. He needs to be consistent or he’ll lose his progress.
Unlike a video game, Stew can’t just “level up” his SMV and then quit cold
turkey and hope to maintain it.
It’s also worth noting that there are obviously many other ways you can
dress—blazers, watches, leather jackets, etc.—so here’s a dead simple way to
master any style and look like a boss.
It’s called…
SWAG JACKING
Find a celebrity who is both:
1. Stylish. Known for being hot/fashionable.
2. Similar. Looks a lot like you, both in terms of facial structure
and body type.
Search Google Images for this guy in casual clothing. Take note of any
recurring items of clothing and find similar items of clothing in your price range.
Ta da!
Moving on…
GETTING STEW FROM HIS MOM’S
BASEMENT TO A GIRLS BEDROOM
Now all Stew needs is status and game. The easiest way Stew can both
improve his social status and have opportunities to work on improving his game
and ability to socialize easily is to join a club. And guess what? He’ll also meet
plenty of women!
Some examples of clubs Stew could join: Yoga, skiing, art, book club,
meditation, team sport, triathlons, photography, bartending course, etc.
Let’s say Stew starts out by doing triathlons and joining a yoga class and
photography and rock climbing clubs. Stew now has plenty of opportunities not
only to meet women (with whom he’ll actually have something in common to
talk about), but Stew will also be able to finetune his social skills.
Stew’s perceived status will also benefit from his newfound hobbies as it
takes him from basement-dwelling internet troll to someone who’s actually
doing pretty interesting things with his life. If he chooses to be a team leader or
organize stuff within these clubs, then his perceived social status can benefit
from that, too.
In addition to building a social circle around his hobbies, Stew’s social
status will increase as he moves out of his mom’s basement, gets a job, and starts
working toward ambitious goals.
So now we’ve taken Stew from neckbearded, overweight basementdweller to self-reliant, muscular, stylish guy who pursues interesting hobbies and
regularly interacts with women.
Now what?
4. How to approach women you want to
fuck
WHERE TO FIND GIRLS TO APPROACH
There are several ways to go from having no (fuckable) women in your
life to having lots of (fuckable) women in your life. Here are just a few: 1.
Social circle game 2. Hobbies 3. Cold approach Let’s take a look at these one
by one. First…
SOCIAL CIRCLE
Most people, even the Stew’s of the world, have a social circle and should
be in a position to regularly interact with women. It might be through school,
friends of family, family of friends, friends of friends, etc.
Okay, so you have some sort of a social circle, what next?
Well, first things first:
1. SMV. Make sure you’ve worked on improving your SMV. In
case you forgot: Lift, dress well, increase status, improve your
game. You don’t need to achieve divine status before approaching
women, but shitty clothes, a fat belly, and autistic social skills make
you butt fugly to women, so make sure to fix them up first.
2. Reading signals. Take note of how women respond to you—
even in small ways. For example, you’ll know your SMV is
improving when women start holding your gaze. If they hold your
gaze longer than two seconds, you can safely approach. It might
turn out to be nothing, but she won’t immediately shut you down.
And, obviously, if a girl smiles at you, you can safely approach with
boldness.
These two points are applicable to all types of approach, whether it be
cold approach, meeting women through your hobbies, or through your social
circle.
Now, back to social circle game specifically…
As you improve your SMV or have a string of successes, women in your
social circle will start noticing and probably even be talking about you. This
gives you a window of opportunity during which you can approach almost any
woman. The best route to take is to simply approach all of them.
Say hi and make smalltalk. Your goal isn’t to get laid but to get used to
approaching and talking. If you want, you can start by approaching women you
don’t want to have sex with. Anyway, eventually, have lunch/coffee with
everyone. Word will get around that you’re a super social guy and so women
won’t think much of you approaching them. Similarly, nobody—you included—
will care if an invitation gets declined. Moreover, girls in your social circle are
most likely to go on a “coffee date” (don’t call it that, though) with you,
especially if you’re known for taking virtually everyone to lunch/coffee.
The idea is that lots of asking women out and going for coffee/lunch with
them—with no sexual intention—will reduce your anxiety and make you
increasingly confident when talking to women.
So there you have one way to go about approaching women in your social
circle. We’ll get back to escalating beyond a non-sexual coffee date later on in
the book.
Finally, note that social circle game is relatively slow compared to
approaching chicks at the club, bar, or on the street.
Moving on, let’s take a brief look at hobbies.
HOBBIES
As you take up hobbies and join clubs and teams and the like, the people
you meet will essentially become an extension of your social circle. As such,
approaching women you meet through your hobbies should be done in virtually
the exact same manner as described above in the social circle section.
That is, put simply, approaching, saying hi and making small talk, and
then asking out to lunch or coffee.
The third and final way to approach women is…
COLD APPROACH
This method works, but it nonetheless has its downsides. It can be
awkward and a lot of women will simply scurry away like a scared cat. At
nightclubs, women can be very defensive and have their “bitch shields” up and
ready for all the guys who try hit on them. While cold approach can and does
work, it’s not for the feint of heart and it’s more a game of numbers than
anything else.
That said, let’s talk quickly about day game.
First, you want to start off with a commanding presence. Us guys notice a
girl’s waist first, then chest. For women, it’s your body language that they
notice. This is particularly important if they’ve never met you before, as is the
case with cold approach.
For good body language, start off by not being fat. Apart from that, stand
up tall with your shoulders back, head up, and confidently making eye contact
with everybody. If you don’t know what good body language looks like, go look
up some clips of James Bond. Also, have steady, deep breathing. Stable
breathing leads to a stable (i.e. confident and relaxed) mind.
Moving on…
When it comes to approaching women, you can be in an aisle at the
supermarket, at the gas station, walking down the street, at a bus stop, in a
carpark, on the subway, at a dog park, anywhere really.
As you swagger about the place, hold eye contact with anybody and
everybody. If anybody holds your eye contact, make a statement about them—
just say something. Don’t compliment them on their looks or attractiveness.
Instead, for example, you might sometimes say something about the
environment or location. Or about that bracelet that girl’s wearing. Or her big
rings.
You should also try incorporate assumptions or commands into whatever
it is you say. For example, “You should always wear a dress,” or “You look like
your brother.”
The reason for this is that it takes more mental effort to respond to such
statements, and so people who respond are automatically become more invested
in the conversation.
On the other hand, if anybody doesn’t respond, just smile, continue
making eye contact, and give them a nod. Be happy knowing you brightened
somebody’s day and move on to the next person.
So you can just say something as simple as, “Excuse me, I had to come
over and say you have a really elegant walk.” (Make sure it’s something that is
not about her physical looks. It could be something she’s wearing, doing, etc. or
something about where you’re at.) You can also just comment on something
appropriate to your environment. For example, if you’re at a university around
exam time: “Rough test. I’m sure you passed through.” Or you can just strike up
a conversation about anything, really. Heck, even washing machine liquid will
do if you’re at the supermarket.
Something worth noting is that of a day, you can’t be as outrageous or
controversial as you might be at a bar or nightclub. Instead, you have to take a
more non-threatening “old man conversation” approach and strike up a
conversation about seemingly inane things. You can then escalate from there by
dropping “bait” into the conversation—small tidbits about yourself that force her
to ask more about you. Alternatively, if she’s throwing off indicators of interest,
you can go for a number close by telling her you’ve got to get on your way but
you’d love to go grab coffee/lunch with her at some point so you’ll grab her
number.
You’ll get turned down plenty of times, but that’s just the way it is when
approaching women out of the blue. You’ll get used to it and learn not to take it
personally but just move onto the next girl that catches your eye.
5. How to date women you want to fuck
Before we dive into the date itself, let’s dive into setting up the date in the
first place…
TEXTING HER
The majority of guys all make the same mistake when it comes to texting
women.
What is that mistake?
(Hint: It has nothing to do with the content of the texts themselves.)
Most guys just text waaayyy too much.
Good morning texts. Good night texts. Essay-length texts. Text after text
after text. Having entire conversations(!) through text. If you, like most needy
men, have fallen into this seemingly innocuous trap, (advantageous, even, as it
feels like you’re moving the interaction forward) then bear this in mind: You
can’t fuck a text message.
Texting builds zero attraction. It might feel like you’re moving the
interaction forward, but you’re not. You need to meet her in person.
Furthermore, texting too much is not only a sign of neediness, but you give the
impression that you have nothing better to do with your life—a highly
unattractive trait, to say the least.
So what’s a man to do?
Simple. Use text messaging only as a way of arranging to see her in real
life—setting up dates. No “good morning” texts. No “happy new year” texts. No
big long conversations. No essay-long texts. None of that. Just use text as a way
to set up dates. Nothing else.
Now that that’s been established, let’s move onto the date itself.
THE DATE
If you’re with a girl you approached out of the blue (i.e. day game), then
start escalating immediately—both physically (touch) and verbally (flirting,
etc.). We’ll talk more about exactly how to escalate like a boss in the next
chapter.
If you’re on one of the aforementioned coffee dates with a girl from your
social circle, then you may want to take your time and be more cautious. You
don’t want to shit where you eat, (your social circle) so to say. As such, it’s best
to take the following approach…
Every now and then, one of your coffee/lunch dates and you will have a
moment of connection. Boom—this a great time to escalate. If the two of you
haven’t touched before, hold her hand (never ask, just do it). Similarly, if you’ve
already hugged, go for the kiss. Just make sure that nobody she knows is around.
Eventually, as you continue escalating, things will become physical enough that
the two of you become intimate.
Finally, be aware of how she responds. If one of your coffee dates recoils
from your advances, continue from the stage you were at before you escalated
and pretend nothing happened (i.e. you didn’t try make a move on her). Most of
the time, she’ll just ignore it too. You’ve just got to tread a little more carefully.
While it doesn’t matter a whole lot what some girl you approached on the street
thinks of you, you don’t want to get a reputation in your social circle as a perv or
creep.
Now, let’s talk about escalating your way to the bedroom…
6. How to physically (and verbally)
escalate interactions with women you want to
fuck
How do you get from girl-you-just-met-on-the-street to girl-you-insertyour-penis-into?
(Hint: You don’t need any “ninja attraction hacks” or “secret techniques
girls don’t want you to know.”) All you need is to do is…
(Wait for it…)
Escalate.
Boom. That’s it.
Before we dive into the exact what’s and how’s, you need to know that
there are two sides to escalation: 1. Physical escalation. Going from friendly
touches, to more sexual territory, to the kiss, and then to bed.
2. Verbal escalation. Going from friendly talk to flirting and
beyond.
Let’s start with the less sexy (but nonetheless highly important) type of
escalation: Verbal.
HOW TO FLIRT AND CREATE INTENSE
SEXUAL TENSION
Did you know you can escalate a conversation you’re having with a girl
from mundane and unexciting to flirty and sexy… and, in the process, create
massive sexual tension… using just your tongue?
(No, not using your tongue in that way.) Anyway, let’s have a talk about
flirting.
So how do you flirt?
It seems simple. You just… flirt. Right?
Funnily enough, despite it seeming deceptively simple, most guys have no
clue how to flirt.
So let’s start at the obvious place. The dictionary.
flirt
verb
1. behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather
than with serious intentions.
"she began to tease him, flirting with other men in front of him"
From that definition, one word above all others is most important. Here it
is: Playfully.
Flirting is playful. It’s not serious. In fact, if you come across as too
serious when flirting, you won’t be called “a serious guy,” you’ll be called
creepy. So make sure to keep it clear you’re being playful by smiling, touching
her forearm or shoulder, keeping a light tone of voice, and so on.
What this also means is that flirting is subtle. You imply something sexual
rather than outright saying it.
For example, a girl you’re with might say, “I love thongs.” A lot of guys,
attempting to be flirty, might say something like, “I reckon you’d look great in
thongs.” Ugh. Too obvious and clumsy. There’s no mystery, the guy sucks the
fun out of it by being so obvious and direct.
A more subtle and playful response could be something to the effect of,
“Don’t try make me think of you in thongs.”
Anyway, let’s take a look at three specific flirting techniques:
1. Push-pull. You pull her in (either emotionally, physically, or—
even better—both) and then playfully push her away, before reeling
her back in again. You put her on an exciting emotional
rollercoaster. For example, “You’re too cute for me to handle. Get
away!” playful shove or, “We’d be a great couple. Actually, nah, I
bet we’d fight all the time.”
2. Chase framing. You playfully frame the
interaction/conversation as if she is the one chasing you. For
example, the aforementioned, “Don’t try make me think of you in
thongs.” Or if she asks you when you’re going to settle down, you
could say, “Why? You auditioning for the part?” Or if a girl says,
“Who doesn’t love a good massage”, you could say, “Trying to
seduce me by offering free massages?” (And if she says, “No!” then
you could say, “Good! Because it won’t work.”) 3. Role playing.
Accentuate the masculine-feminine dynamics with playful roleplay
where you take on the masculine/authority role (e.g. school
headmaster, policeman, boss, etc.) and she takes on the
feminine/petite role. For example, “That was naughty, I’m going to
have to give you a detention for that,” or, “I’m going to have to take
away your [cooking/blowjob/humor/etc.] license and put you on
probation.”
HOW TO ESCALATE YOUR WAY TO THE
BEDROOM
Most of us have heard of the frog-in-a-pot analogy. Chuck a frog in a pot
of boiling water and it jumps right back out. Put the frog in at a cool temperate
and slowly bring the water to a boil, and it won’t realize until it’s too late.
Well, guess what?
When it comes to physical escalation, it’s exactly the same.
If you haven’t had the misfortune of experiencing it personally, you’ve
probably heard of someone who’s taken a woman he likes on a fancy date (and
possibly even wined and dined her several times), and then goes for the kiss,
only for her to turn her head and rebuff him, possibly making up some excuse
about how she’s “not ready” or whatever.
Why does this happen?
Here’s why: The guy tried to chuck her in a pot of boiling water.
What he should have done instead is start at room temperature and slowly
proceed to boil her alive. (Metaphor! Metaphor!) So how do you physically
escalate your way to the kiss, bed, and beyond?
Easy. Start small. Then a little bit bigger. And then a little bigger again.
And on. And on. And on.
Give her a hand shake. Touch her forearm or shoulder to emphasize a
point or let her know you’re just messing with her.
Then progres onwards. When you’re flirting, you can give her a high-five,
tickle her, give her a playful shove, conduct a phony palm-reading, and so on.
And then continue to march on forward. Put your arm around her. Rest
your hand on her thigh. Sit her on your lap. Brush a loose strand of hair back
into place (or lint off her shirt/coat). Put your hand on her lower back when
guiding her somewhere or going through a crowd. Hold her hand (and no, don’t
ask her for permission, just do it). And so on.
Before we move on, I want you to keep in mind that you need to be very
aware of how she reacts to your touch. Does she appear uncomfortable, tense, or
move away? Or does she respond positively and reciprocate?
If she seems uncomfortable, deescalate. Take it down a notch (assuming
she was comfortable at that lower level of physicality) and then gradually work
your way back up. Repeat if needed and continue escalating in this fashion until
you’re with her naked under the sheets.
Speaking of action beneath the sheets, how can you go for the kiss (and
beyond)?
THE KISS (... AND BEYOND)
Going for the kiss is a relatively simple affair assuming that you’ve
already escalated up to that point. If you haven’t, you’ll likely get the awkward
head turn. The frog will jump out of the pot.
Otherwise, simply hold eye contact, look at her lips and then back at the
eyes, lean in, and go for it.
Another (sexy) way to go for the kiss if you’re at your/her apartment—
and if she’s walking around, looking at something, preparing drinks, whatever—
is to slowly approach from behind, touch her hips, lean in near her ear, smell her,
and kiss/bite her neck. This’ll make her wet as the Niagara falls.
After that, just have sex.