Self Concept
and
Self-Esteem
Name___________________
WHY study:
SELF-CONCEPT
SELF-ESTEEM
To have a more positive self-awareness
To see yourself honestly and to like or at least
accept yourself
To remove the internal barriers that keep you
from doing your best.
What is the
difference between
Self-Concept
and
Self-Esteem
Your VIEW of yourself - The ENTIRE
picture...
It changes
SLOWL
POSITIVE
You see yourself
as a
LOVEABLE and
WORTHWHILE
person…
of people with
POSITIVE
NEGATIVE
You feel uncertain
and uncomfortable
about yourself - - you fear possible
rejection
of people with
NEGATIVE
Jump to
conclusions
Look at only one detail
and disregard the big
picture
Magnify faults
Minimize achievements
Blaming others. What better
way to deny our
weaknesses than to blame
others for our problems or
for the world's problems?
Being an overly nice
people-pleaser or
rescuer or selfsacrificing martyr.
Self - Concept Circle
• The person I think I am.
• The person others think I am.
• The person others think I think I am.
As I See Myself
Other’s
Reactions
To Me
My Actions
As Others See Me
How is self-concept destroyed?
Destroyed by:
• Comparing yourself to others
• Putting yourself down
• Drug abuse
List and develop YOUR
personal strengths
and abilities
LOOK FOR
positive relationships
with others
Set ATTAINABLE goals
based on your
WANTS and NEEDS
Recognize what YOU
have accomplished
each step of the way
The way YOU
THINK and FEEL
about yourself
Can change from
MOMENT to
Feeling
POSITIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
of people with
HIGH
Feeling
NEGATIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
of people with
LOW
People with low selfesteem are often drawn to
each other – these
relationships are often
destructive – hurtful rather
than helpful
Seek to understand whatever has an
influence on your life – be aware of the
world around you
Be respectful toward yourself – refuse
to reject yourself
Recognize that you are the source of your
own choices, actions – YOU make your life
what it is
Stand up for your values and feelings –
find appropriate ways to express them
Take responsibility for identifying your
goals
Exhibit your principles of behavior to others.
Keep your promises and honor your
commitments
Esteem of yourself!
Eleanor Roosevelt said “Nobody can make you
feel inferior without your permission.”
Group discussion
1. What does it mean?
2. How true is it?
3. Can you think of cases where it might not be
true?
4. In what kinds of situations would this quote
be most useful to remember?
What is a value?
• Qualities, characteristics, or ideas about which
we feel strongly.
• Our values affect our decisions, goals and
behavior.
• A belief or feeling that someone or something
is worthwhile.
• Values define what is of worth, what is
beneficial, and what is harmful
• Values are standards to guide your action,
judgments, and attitudes.
How VALUES & MORALS
fit into feeling good about yourself?
Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good
self esteem
Discover your values – a value is something
you strongly believe in
Our values affect our decisions, goals and
behavior.
Live by what you value – the closer your values
come to your actions the happier you will be.
Moral
Material
Aesthetic
Intrinsic
Extrinsic
Universal/American
Group specific values
Value versus Facts:
• Values are things we feel
“should”, “ought”, or “are
supposed to” influence our
lives.
VALUE: All people should be
active in a specific religion.
VALUE: The best time to buy
clothing is when the price is
discounted.
• A value is a statement of
one’s personal beliefs.
• Facts simply state what
actually are. It is easy to
confuse values with facts.
FACT: Many people are
active in a specific religion.
FACT: The most economical
time to buy clothing is when
the seasons change and the
price is reduced.
• A fact is established by
observation and
measurement.
Your age will greatly influence your values.
Different people and things influence you at
different ages:
• Ages 1-7 --- parents
• Ages 8-13 --- teachers, heroes (sports,
rocks, TV)
• Ages 14-20 --- peers (values because of
peers or peers because of values?)
• Ages 21+ your values are established, but
you may test your values from time to
time.
Hypocrite – One who subscribes to one
set of values, and does another.
Immaturity - One who has not identified
his values.
• Immaturity:
• Maturity
– Unclear values
– Drifters
– Flighty
– Uncertain
– Apathetic
– Clear values
– Life of purpose
– Meaning and
direction