OVERCOMING SPEECH ANXIETY
by Craig N. Sawchuk, Ph.D., L.P.
Fear of public speaking is a common form of anxiety. It can range from slight
nervousness to paralyzing fear and panic. Many people with this fear avoid public
speaking situations altogether, or they suffer through them with shaking hands
and a quavering voice. But with preparation and persistence, you can overcome
your fear.
These steps may help:
Know your topic. The better you understand what you're talking about — and
the more you care about the topic — the less likely you'll make a mistake or get
off track. And if you do get lost, you'll be able to recover quickly. Take some time
to consider what questions the audience may ask and have your responses
ready.
Get organized. Ahead of time, carefully plan out the information you want to
present, including any props, audio or visual aids. The more organized you are,
the less nervous you'll be. Use an outline on a small card to stay on track. If
possible, visit the place where you'll be speaking and review available equipment
before your presentation.
Practice, and then practice some more. Practice your complete presentation
several times. Do it for some people you're comfortable with and ask for
feedback. It may also be helpful to practice with a few people with whom you're
less familiar. Consider making a video of your presentation so you can watch it
and see opportunities for improvement.
Challenge specific worries. When you're afraid of something, you may
overestimate the likelihood of bad things happening. List your specific worries.
Then directly challenge them by identifying probable and alternative outcomes
and any objective evidence that supports each worry or the likelihood that your
feared outcomes will happen.
Visualize your success. Imagine that your presentation will go well. Positive
thoughts can help decrease some of your negativity about your social
performance and relieve some anxiety.
Do some deep breathing. This can be very calming. Take two or more deep,
slow breaths before you get up to the podium and during your speech.
Focus on your material, not on your audience. People mainly pay attention
to new information — not how it's presented. They may not notice your
nervousness. If audience members do notice that you're nervous, they may root
for you and want your presentation to be a success.
Don't fear a moment of silence. If you lose track of what you're saying or
start to feel nervous and your mind goes blank, it may seem like you've been
silent for an eternity. In reality, it's probably only a few seconds. Even if it's longer,
it's likely your audience won't mind a pause to consider what you've been saying.
Just take a few slow, deep breaths.
Recognize your success. After your speech or presentation, give yourself a
pat on the back. It may not have been perfect, but chances are you're far more
critical of yourself than your audience is. See if any of your specific worries
actually occurred. Everyone makes mistakes. Look at any mistakes you made as
an opportunity to improve your skills.
Get support. Join a group that offers support for people who have difficulty
with public speaking. One effective resource is Toastmasters, a nonprofit
organization with local chapters that focuses on training people in speaking and
leadership skills.
If you can't overcome your fear with practice alone, consider seeking professional
help. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a skills-based approach that can be a
successful treatment for reducing fear of public speaking.
Nervousness or anxiety in certain situations is normal, and public speaking is no
exception. Known as performance anxiety, other examples include stage fright,
test anxiety and writer's block. But people with severe performance anxiety that
includes significant anxiety in other social situations may have social anxiety
disorder (also called social phobia). Social anxiety disorder may require cognitive
behavioral therapy, medications or a combination of the two.
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TO OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING,
STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF
by Sarah Gershman
Most of us — even those at the top — struggle with public-speaking anxiety.
When I ask my clients what makes them nervous, invariably they respond with
the same answers:
“I don’t like being watched.”
“I don’t like the eyes on me.”
“I don’t like being in the spotlight.”
And it follows that when they get up to speak, nearly all of them initially avoid
making eye contact with members of the audience. Therein lies the problem:
While avoiding direct eye contact may seem like an effective strategy for coping
with speaking anxiety, it actually makes you even more nervous.
To understand why, we need to go way back to prehistoric times, when humans
perceived eyes watching us as an existential threat. Those eyes were likely
predators. People were literally terrified of being eaten alive. In response to that
prehistoric reality, the amygdala, the part of our brain that helps us respond to
danger, kicked into full gear. And when our fight-or-flight response gets triggered,
we understandably feel intense stress and anxiety. What does this have to do
with public speaking? Turns out, everything.
Here’s the bad news: Our brains have transferred that ancient fear of being
watched onto public speaking. In other words, public-speaking anxiety is in our
DNA. We experience public speaking as an attack. We physiologically register an
audience as a threatening predator and mount a comparable response. Many
people’s physical responses while speaking resemble how their body would react
to physical signs of danger (shortness of breath, redness of face, shaking).
So today when we speak in front of a group and feel the eyes watching us, we
feel painfully visible, like a caveman exposed in daylight. And because our brain
is telling us that we are under attack, we do whatever is necessary to protect
ourselves. We construct walls between ourselves and the source of danger — in
this case, the audience — to repel the attack and blunt any danger.
What do these walls look like? We focus on our slides. We look down. We retreat
into our notes. In the process, we disregard the people in front of us, wishing
them into invisibility. Even the most confident speakers find ways to distance
themselves from their audience. It’s just how we’re programmed.
Fortunately, there is a solution: human generosity. The key to calming the
amygdala and disarming our organic panic button is to turn the focus away from
ourselves — away from whether we will mess up or whether the audience will
like us — and toward helping the audience.
Studies have shown that an increase in generosity leads to a decrease in
amygdala activity. Showing kindness and generosity to others has been shown to
activate the vagus nerve, which has the power to calm the fight-or-flight
response. When we are kind to others, we feel calmer and less stressed. The
same principle applies in public speaking. When we approach speaking with a
spirit of generosity, we counteract the sensation of being under attack and start to
feel less nervous.
Admittedly, this is hard to do. As a speech coach, I often find that my clients who
are the most generous in work and life have the hardest time speaking in public,
because their brain is telling them, “Now is not the time to give. It’s time to run!”
But it’s absolutely possible to become a generous speaker. Start with these three
steps:
When you’re preparing, think about your audience.
When we start preparing for a presentation, the mistake we all make is starting
with the topic. This immediately gets us inside the details — and makes it harder
to break down the wall between us and others. Instead, start with the audience.
Before diving into the information, ask yourself: Who will be in the room? Why
are they there? What do they need? Be specific in your answers. Identify the
audience’s needs, both spoken and unspoken, and craft a message that speaks
directly to those needs.
Right before you speak, refocus your brain.
You are the most nervous right before you speak. This is the moment where your
brain is telling you, “Everyone is judging me. What if I fail?” And it is exactly at
this moment that you can refocus your brain. Remind yourself that you are here
to help your audience. Be firm with your brain. Tell yourself, “Brain, this
presentation is not about me. It is about helping my audience.” Over time (usually
between four and six presentations), your brain will begin to get it, and you will
become less nervous.
While you’re speaking, make eye contact.
One of the biggest mistakes we make is speaking to people as a group. We scan
the room — trying to look everyone at once — and end up connecting with
nobody.
In reality, each person in the room is listening to you as an individual. And so the
best way to connect to your audience is by speaking to them as individuals.
How? By making sustained eye contact with one person per thought. (Each
thought is about one full clause.) By focusing at one person at a time, you make
each person in the room feel like you are talking just to them.
This is hard. We are accustomed to scanning the room. Making direct eye
contact can feel uncomfortable at first. Yet, as you practice it more, it will actually
make you less nervous. It is far easier (and more effective) to have a series of
one-on-one conversations than it is to speak to everyone at once. When my
clients use this technique more than three consecutive times, they almost always
report a decrease in speaking anxiety. (Note that the most important people to
look at are those who are at the far edges of the room. These are the people who
are already at a disadvantage. By being extra generous to those at the edges of
the room, you bring everyone in.)
We know the power of generosity to give us a sense of fulfillment, purpose, and
meaning. Generosity is just as powerful in speaking. It turns a nerve-wracking
and even painful experience into one of giving and helping others. A generous
speaker is calmer, more relaxed, and — most important — more effective at
reaching the audience and making the desired impact.
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