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5 - STEP HEART HACK GUIDE
IDENTIFY THE UNMET NEEDS IN YOUR
HEART THAT LEAD TO TOXIC CYCLES
Connecting to your heart and finding out the basic human needs that have gone
unmet your whole life are the first steps to finding freedom from toxic emotional
cycles and unhealthy tendencies. Most people think they understand self
awareness but they really just end up trapped in introspection, naval-gazing to
find more things to judge about themselves.
Proverbs 13:12...
About the Coach
I'm Sammi Robbins and I help
Christian woman get connected
to their hearts and to God so
they can let go of the destructive
cycles and behaviors that keep
them from being fully alive and
present.
"A hope differed makes the heart grow
sick but a Desire Fulfilled is a tree of Life."
Your needs are not bad and you are not
bad. There is a practical way for your
desires to be met in a healthy way. God's
waiting to meet it.
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1
IDENTIFY YOUR MOST
UNHEALTHY TENDENCIES
2
CONNECT TO YOUR
EMOTIONS
3
Understanding Where
it Came From
We all have ways that we protect
Remember the last time you fell into each
Of the 3 that resonated the most, pick
ourselves from feeling unloved,
tendency and reflect on the moment just
the feeling you've most consistently felt
unchosen, rejected, abandoned, and
before you acted out. What were you
throughout your life (We'll start small).
powerless. These things usually show
feeling? You don't have to get this perfect...
Now ask yourself, "When was the first
their face with unhealthy patterns such
Read this list Carefully and pick 3 that
time I felt this?" You may need to close
as going to food for comfort, self
resonate most. Were you scared? Angry?
your eyes and wait. This may reveal itself
sabotage, self protection/withdrawal,
Sad? Betrayed? Disgusted? Jealous?
through an image, thought, or memory.
sleeping around, alcoholism,
Ashamed? Grieved? Rejected? Anxious?
Take what came to you...Now what were
workaholism, mindless Netflix
Hateful? Guilty? Helpless/powerless?
you ultimately desiring the moment
abuse (yep, its a thing), porn, and a slew
Embarrassed? Frustrated? Bitter? Violated?
before you were met with that feeling.
of other things. Identify your top 3
Neglected? Alone? Disappointed? Ugly?
See the list of Desires Below if you need
tendencies. Don't judge
yourself. Identify.
help.
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DIVORCE FROM SHAME
With that desire, now you know that the only reason you invited
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MEET THE NEEDS
Now I want you to close your eyes (Obviously Not right now right
that tendency or cycle into your life is because you had a healthy
now...because you're reading LOL). When your eyes are closed, I
need that went unmet. When anybody has a need that has gone
want you to picture yourself with your desire as if it were in your
unmet, we find a way to get it met, be it healthy or toxic. The only
hands and tangible. Now this may take some childlike
way to destroy the toxic cycle is by getting that Good Desire
imagination...But I want you to hand that desire to God (we
fulfilled in a healthy way. You were doing the best you knew how
believe one way God encounters us is through imagination: see
with the tools you had. Shame will never heal you or make you
references below). Then Ask God, "How do you want to fulfill this
better.
desire?" Take the first thought, feeling, or thing you sense and
trust that its Him, because it is. The more disconnected you are
from your heart or the child in you, the more difficult this will be,
but don't lose hope
DESIRE LIST
CONNECTI ON:
WORTH , TO BE KNOWN /
SEEN/ HEARD , JOY, LOVE
STA BIL ITY :
BE LO NG ING ,
CO MF OR T,
SEC UR ITY ,
PE AC E
COMPETENCE:
APPROVAL ,
RECOGNITION,
GOODNESS,
FOLLOW THROUGH
AC HI EV EM EN T:
DO M,
SIG NI FIC AN CE , FR EE
E
NG
JU ST IC E, CH AL LE
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If any of this feels difficult, don't lose heart. The goal of this process
is not to be perfect or to fix yourself. You're a whole person that is
in a process of healing. True emotional health comes when you
embrace and love yourself in the middle of the journey and
messes we experience. If you want to dive deeper into
experiencing emotional wholeness, sign up for my free training.
References:
Matthew 18: 3- You will by no means inherit the kingdom of
heaven unless you become converted and like that of a little
child.
John 10:27- My sheep hear my voice and I know them and
they follow me.
1 Corinthians 2:16- We have the mind of Christ.
Ephesians 3:17- He who is able to do exceedingly abundantly
beyond all that we can ask, think, dream, or imagine...