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Properties of Marriage Essay

The properties of marriage are characteristics unique to a Catholic marriage that aims to preserve
the sanctity of the sacrament and protect the most basic unit of a society, family. There are
namely three interconnected properties: (1) exclusivity, (2) indissolubility, and (3) openness to
Exclusivity means that marriage is between exactly two people, one male and one female. This
‘restriction’ is to ensure that one is always looking out for the best interest of the other. Being in
a polygamous relationship places a burden on its participants in guaranteeing that mutual and
equal love is given to all. It prevents being put in a situation wherein one is forced to pick between
his two spouses, which can result to resentment. Theoretically, it might play well; however,
human feelings are not straightforward. One is bound to have favorites. This is demonstrated by
Chris, Matt and Cait. When Chris asked Matt, his husband, if they could engage in a ‘thruple’,
Matt admitted that he was hurt and greatly opposed it. It also seemed like he agreed to do it for
the sake of his love of Chris as he was still adamant that he’s a homosexual which might be
indicative of his lesser attraction to Cait. Moreover, Cait had mentioned that unequal time spent
between them brought up her insecurities. Some might suggest that a solution to this is keeping
a timetable and designating each day of the week for a spouse but this makes marriage more of
an obligation rather an act of service stemming from love for one another. As demonstrated by
the 50% divorce rate in the U.S., it is already hard maintaining a relationship of 2 people. What
more could happen if there were three?
Indissolubility emphasizes that once you’ve made your vows in front of the altar, each is
responsible to the other for the rest of their remaining lifetime. It strengthens the Church’s belief
that marriage is a sacrament made in the presence of God and therefore, cannot be broken
simply by human will. The Church does not want to make it easy for spouses to turn their backs
on their matrimonial promises when inconveniences arise. Instead, couples are encouraged to
work on their problems together with patience and understanding. Another purpose of
maintaining this quality is for the maintenance of a strong familial foundation needed for caring
and educating children. As shown in Breaking Sasha, separation of parents takes a huge toll on
kids. Both of her parents, as they deal with the aftermath of the father’s infidelity, now have
lessened capacity to attend to Sasha as she spiral-down to a constant state of blame and anger.
This proves that cooperation and unity between the husband and the wife is of utmost
importance in providing a stable support for the children.
Lastly, openness to fertility is the same mission given to Eve and Adam, to go forth and multiply.
This ensures that the mission of Christ is propagated down even to the youngest member. As a
domestic church, the family, primarily the parents, are given the responsibility to introduce their
children to a life of faith by teaching them Christian virtues. I have to commend that all the
couples seem to have the intention of having kids. Although they have unconventional
arrangements that the Catholic Church condemns, I hope that it, in no way, predisposes their
kids to bad values.
As modern time progresses, secularism is becoming more prominent. As such, different kinds of
relationship will arise largely deviating from the Bible’s definition of marriage. The best and most
productive thing we can do is help these parents raise their kids, our future, to be good people
by being part of a support system as “it takes a village to raise a child”.