SBU Matter
Parent and Family Orientation
Center for Prevention and Outreach
Counseling and Psychological Services
Stony Brook University
Who are you?
1.
First-time parent of a college
student
2.
Veteran parent of a previous
college student
Why are you here?
Transition
Communication
Partnership
U Matter in your student’s
success
Which kind of parent are you?
1. Can I come with you?
1. I still know what’s best for you…
1. When I was in college…
1. Whatever it is, my student can handle it…
1. 18 and out…
Now that your student is in college,
how much to do anticipate your
role will change?
1.
2.
3.
Too much
Not at all
Too little
Transitions…
Dealing with your feelings
Empowering your student
Negotiating your student’s independence
Managing new expectations…
Know what we offer…
What do you want your student
to get out of college most?
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Job skills
Critical thinking
Have fun
Learn to cook and do laundry
Make new friends
What do you think your student
wants to get out of college most?
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Job skills
Critical thinking
Have fun
Learn to cook and do laundry
Make new friends
Parents asked to draw the greatest influence
on their teens placed themselves last…
…but teens asked to draw the major influences in
their lives placed their parents first.
U Matter!
Parental Influence on Alcohol or
Other Drug Use
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Communicate with your student:
• Listen
• Be respectful towards them
• Communicate concerns clearly
and directly
• Ask questions
Know the Student Conduct Code
SBU Alcohol and Drug Policy
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ILLEGAL for anyone under 21 to use or
possess alcohol.
• Providing alcohol to minors is
unlawful
• Illicit drug use is illegal
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Student Conduct Code describes
specific policies on the LEGAL use or
possession of alcohol on campus
K-12 Communication Model
Hi, my child is taking a new
medication that may affect
their concentration.
Thanks for calling,
we’ll let their
teachers know.
University Communication Model
..
That medication may
affect your concentration,
don’t forget to speak to
the people at school.
I’m not sure who to
tell, I guess I’ll call
my UGC advisor
I’m glad you called,
why don’t you come
in and will go over
some resources.
Obstacles to Academic Success
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2.
3.
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5.
6.
7.
Alcohol & other drugs
Homesickness
Sleep difficulties
Stress
Anxiety & Depression
Financial Problems
Internet Use/Computer Games
2012 National College Health Survey
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Stress 28.4%
Sleep difficulties 19.6%
Anxiety 19.3%
Depression 11.3%
Internet use/computer games 11.4%
Finances 6.5%
Homesickness 3.7%
Alcohol use 3.3%
Drug use 1.5%
2012 ACHA National Survey Data
RED FLAGS:
Drastic changes in…
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Mood
• Irritable
• Sad
• Distant
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Behavior
• Physical appearance
• Isolation/Withdrawal (frequency of contact)
• Unable to manage finances
• Too many interpersonal difficulties
RED FLAGS:
Drastic changes in…
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Communication
• Hopelessness
• Ways they communicate with you
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Academics
• Grades
• Withdrawing from semester without any
clear reason
“Just not acting like themselves”
Mental Health and Wellness Services
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Counseling and Psychological Services
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Disability Support Services
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Peer-to-Peer Education
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Health and Wellness Programs
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University Police: 631-632-3333
(emergencies)
Title IX
Title IX is a federal law requiring all higher
education institutions to ensure that employees
and students have an environment free of sexual
harassment, sexual violence, and gender
discrimination.
See www.stonybrook.edu/titleix for more
information and/or to report an incident.
Remember U matter at SBU
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Transitions: challenging and exciting
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Communicate and take an active
interest in your student’s college
experience
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Know our services
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We are partners in our students’ success
Questions?