SBU Matter Parent and Family Orientation Center for Prevention and Outreach Counseling and Psychological Services Stony Brook University Who are you? 1. First-time parent of a college student 2. Veteran parent of a previous college student Why are you here? Transition Communication Partnership U Matter in your student’s success Which kind of parent are you? 1. Can I come with you? 1. I still know what’s best for you… 1. When I was in college… 1. Whatever it is, my student can handle it… 1. 18 and out… Now that your student is in college, how much to do anticipate your role will change? 1. 2. 3. Too much Not at all Too little Transitions… Dealing with your feelings Empowering your student Negotiating your student’s independence Managing new expectations… Know what we offer… What do you want your student to get out of college most? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Job skills Critical thinking Have fun Learn to cook and do laundry Make new friends What do you think your student wants to get out of college most? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Job skills Critical thinking Have fun Learn to cook and do laundry Make new friends Parents asked to draw the greatest influence on their teens placed themselves last… …but teens asked to draw the major influences in their lives placed their parents first. U Matter! Parental Influence on Alcohol or Other Drug Use • • Communicate with your student: • Listen • Be respectful towards them • Communicate concerns clearly and directly • Ask questions Know the Student Conduct Code SBU Alcohol and Drug Policy • ILLEGAL for anyone under 21 to use or possess alcohol. • Providing alcohol to minors is unlawful • Illicit drug use is illegal • Student Conduct Code describes specific policies on the LEGAL use or possession of alcohol on campus K-12 Communication Model Hi, my child is taking a new medication that may affect their concentration. Thanks for calling, we’ll let their teachers know. University Communication Model .. That medication may affect your concentration, don’t forget to speak to the people at school. I’m not sure who to tell, I guess I’ll call my UGC advisor I’m glad you called, why don’t you come in and will go over some resources. Obstacles to Academic Success 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Alcohol & other drugs Homesickness Sleep difficulties Stress Anxiety & Depression Financial Problems Internet Use/Computer Games 2012 National College Health Survey • • • • • • • • • Stress 28.4% Sleep difficulties 19.6% Anxiety 19.3% Depression 11.3% Internet use/computer games 11.4% Finances 6.5% Homesickness 3.7% Alcohol use 3.3% Drug use 1.5% 2012 ACHA National Survey Data RED FLAGS: Drastic changes in… • Mood • Irritable • Sad • Distant • Behavior • Physical appearance • Isolation/Withdrawal (frequency of contact) • Unable to manage finances • Too many interpersonal difficulties RED FLAGS: Drastic changes in… • Communication • Hopelessness • Ways they communicate with you • Academics • Grades • Withdrawing from semester without any clear reason “Just not acting like themselves” Mental Health and Wellness Services • Counseling and Psychological Services • Disability Support Services • Peer-to-Peer Education • Health and Wellness Programs • University Police: 631-632-3333 (emergencies) Title IX Title IX is a federal law requiring all higher education institutions to ensure that employees and students have an environment free of sexual harassment, sexual violence, and gender discrimination. See www.stonybrook.edu/titleix for more information and/or to report an incident. Remember U matter at SBU • Transitions: challenging and exciting • Communicate and take an active interest in your student’s college experience • Know our services • We are partners in our students’ success Questions?