Chapter Eight
Developing Emotional
Intelligence
Developing Emotional Intelligence
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Emotional Intelligence, Journal 27
Focus Questions
– What is emotional intelligence?
– How can you use your emotions as a
compass to stay on course to a rich,
fulfilling life?
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Emotional Intelligence
• describes an ability, capacity, or skill to
perceive, assess, and manage the emotions
of one's self, of others, and of groups.
• It is a relatively new area of psychological
research. The definition of EI is constantly
changing.
• Daniel Goleman, is the leading psychologist
that has identified four components that
contribute to emotional effectiveness.
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Components of Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Self-Awareness: Knowing your
feelings in the moment.
Emotional Self-Management: Managing
strong feelings.
Social Awareness: Empathizing accurately with
other people’s emotions.
Relationship Management: Handling emotions in
relationships with skill and harmony.
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Right Now I Feel
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Right now I feel…
I feel angry when…
I feel sad when…
I feel afraid when…
Right now I feel…
I feel calm when…
I feel peaceful
when…
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8. I feel contented
when…
9. Right now I feel…
10. I feel loved when…
11. I feel happy
when…
12. I feel joyful when…
13. Right now I feel…
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Knowing your own Emotions
• Build a vocabulary of feelings.
• Be mindful of emotions as they are
happening.
• Understand what is causing your
emotion.
• Recognize the difference between a
feeling and resulting actions.
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Reducing Stress, Journal 28
Focus Question
– How can you soothe stressful feelings that
make life unpleasant and threaten to get
you off course?
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What is Stress?
• It is any interference that disturbs a
person’s mental or physical well-being.
• Most of us simply know that it’s the
wear and tear that our minds and
bodies experience as we attempt to
cope with the changes and challenges
of life.
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Stress in Modern Life
Focuses mostly on:
• Worrying about past events
• Agonizing about present challenges
• Fretting about future changes
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Creating Flow, Journal 29
Focus Questions
– What are you doing when you feel most
happy to be alive—when you become so
absorbed that time seems to disappear?
– How can you create more of these peak
experiences in your life?
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Creating Flow
• Flow states – are highly enjoyable
periods of time, characterized by a total
absorption in what one is doing, by a
loss of thoughts or concerns about
oneself, and by a distorted sense of
time.
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Two Factors that contribute to Flow
• The challenge a person perceives
himself to be facing and
• The related skills he perceives himself
to possess.
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Develop Self-Love, Journal 30
Focus Questions
– How much do you love yourself?
– What can you do to love yourself even
more?
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Self Love
• Is the core belief that
“ I AM LOVABLE”
It’s the unwavering trust that , no matter
what, I will always love myself and other
people will love me as well.
Self-love is vital to success.
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Creating a Self-Care Plan
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I can nurture myself physically by…
I can nurture myself mentally by…
I can nurture myself emotionally by…
I can nurture myself spiritually by…
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