Definitions:
Not just the absence of disease but . . . . (you finish this definition)

Keys to Successful Change
Self-efficacy: believe you can obtain a goal
Reinforcement: positive or negative
Self-talk: messages you send yourself
Locus of Control

Locus of Control
Internal: from within self
External: from others/environment http://www.psychtests.com/lc.html

Healthy Self-Esteem
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Grounded in the positive experiences of love received in childhood.
Originally built on characteristics adopted from parents.
Healthy self-esteem is integrated.

Healthy Family
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Open communication
Supportive and flexible
Teaches (discipline) and respects
Sense of play and humor
Honor traditions and rituals
Share responsibilities
Seek help if needed
Respect privacy

Unhealthy Family
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Closed communication, secrets
Strict and rigid, controlling
Unpredictable
Untrusting
Unsafe to express feelings
Unclear roles
Constant conflict or no conflict

Healthy vs Unhealthy Families
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Open Communication
Supportive, Flexible
Teaches Discipline
Respectful
Sense of Play, Humor
Shared Responsibilities
Seek Help if Needed
Respect for
Differences/Privacy
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Closed Communications,
Secrets
Strict, Rigid, Controlling
Demands, Punishes
Disrespectful
Unpredictable, Unclear
Rules
Untrusting
Unclear Rules,
Confusion
Constant Conflict or No
Conflict

Impact of Healthy vs Healthy
Families?
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On society?
On the individual?

Impact?: Healthy/Unhealthy
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY
TRUST IS ESTABLISHED INABILITY TO TRUST
EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS ACCEPTED
DON’T SHARE FEELINGS
ENVIRONMENT IS SAFE
LEARN TO PLAY/HAVE FUN
ENVIRONMENT IS UNSAFE
FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY
ENJOYS TIME AT HOME
DEVELOPS PROBLEM-SOLVING
ABILITIES
ESCAPES (FANTASY OR REAL)
FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY
EMOTIONAL PAIN
SHAME AND DOUBT
GUILT, ANGER, FEAR
LONELINESS, CONFUSION

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs
SELF
ACTUALIZA TION
ESTEEM NEEDS
LOVE AND AFFECTION
SAFETY AND SECURITY
PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS

Psycho-Socially Healthy People
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 are realistic accept themselves are free and autonomous have capacity for intimacy live lives in creative ways

Challenges to Esteem Need
Can choose to:
– acknowledge something went wrong and can start again
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– deny anything went wrong and blame someone else develop a lasting negative self-esteem and feel bad, unloved and ineffective

Road to Good Psycho-Social Health
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Maintain honest communication
Be assertive
Be flexible deal with anger appropriately dump the GARBAGE

Dumping the GARBAGE
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G guilt
A anger
R revenge
B bitterness
A aggression
G greed
E envy

Basic Rules by Which to Live
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Accept yourself
Respect yourself
Trust yourself
Love yourself
Stretch yourself
Look at challenges as opportunities for personal growth
Think not of where but who you want to be