Some random Emotional Intelligence Questions and how you might have scored. Then what would have
been the better choice of a more emotionally mature person. Explore what’s holding you back.
Always Often Sometimes Rarely Never
When I am upset with someone, I let him or her know.
Maybe you answered Rarely or Never. As most of you reading this can figure, it’s not a particularly
effective strategy. I’m visualizing silence and major pouting as this persons method of communicating.
So if you’re a person who answered Rarely or Never, then think about why you behave this way. What
could you change in your way of thinking and behaving? The much better answer is Often or Always.
I feel that people take advantage of me.
Maybe you answered Always or Often. What’s the story you are telling yourself that allows others to use
you? Why can’t you set appropriate boundaries? The better answer is Rarely or Never.
I make impulse purchases.
If you answered Always or Often, then American business loves you! But when you get home, do you
ask yourself why in the world did I spend that money? Examine what motivated you to make that
impulse purchase and not check the boxes for Rarely or Never.
I get upset without really knowing who or what exactly is bothering me.
Maybe you answered Always or Often. The emotionally mature person is fairly familiar with their
emotions and any “hot buttons” and what might trigger them. The better answer to this question would
have been Rarely or Never. What’s stopping you from examining why you feel as you do?