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Part 5
Relationship between parents and
children
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Relationship between parents and children
Case 1
1.
What is important to the father as he sees it?
2.
What is important to the son as he sees it?
3.
How would you feel when your parents could not take immediate care of your
needs?
4.
Do you think your parents know you well? Why?
5.
Do you think you know your parents well? Why?
6.
How could you improve understanding between you and your parents?
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Case 2
1.
On which of the following problems would you ask your parents for help?
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2.
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study
money
unhappy with school
unhappy with teachers
I wouldn’t ask for my parents’
help
In general, can your parents help you solve your problems?
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3.
health
unhappiness
friendship
future
others, please specify _________
yes
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no
Apart from your parents, to whom would you go for help?
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friends
 brothers and/or sisters
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classmates
 grandparents
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teachers
 other relatives, e.g. uncle, aunt, cousins
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principal
 domestic helpers
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school social worker
 others, please specify _________
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it depends
 no one
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Case 3
1. Do you think the father and the son have different views on discipline? Why?
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2. Do you think that your parents are too strict?
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3. In which of the following area(s) would you like your parents to give you more
freedom? Please put a  in the appropriate box(es).
 going out
 making friends
 dating
 the way I spend money
 the way I dress
 staying overnight with friends
 I have enough freedom already
 study
 doing homework
 talking on telephone
 time spent on computer
 others, please specify ____________
4. Do you think your parents would listen to you if you ask them for more freedom?
Why?
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5. What can you do to convince your parents that you would not get into trouble with
more freedom?
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Case 4
1. Have you ever quarrelled with your parents over your share of housework?
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2. Are you willing to do some housework? Why?
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3. Apart from the matter of housework, which of the following is/are the main
cause(s) of quarrels between you and your parents? Please put a  in the
appropriate box(es).
 not doing well at school
 talking too long on the telephone
 friends
 relationship with family members
 always going out
 way of spending money
 smoking
 dress
 no quarrels at all
 dating
 going out at night
 using foul language
 drinking
 amount of time on computer
 others, please specify ___________
 not living with parents
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4. Which of the following would you do after you have had a quarrel with your
parents? Please put a  in the appropriate box(es).
 I would ask someone to talk to my parents
for me
 I would write a note to my parents to
explain myself
 I would go on quarrelling with them
 I would stay out overnight
 I would do more those things that my
 I would not talk to my parents
 I would not listen to my parents
and would do what I please
 I would cry
 I would say sorry to my parents
 no quarrels at all
parents do not want me to do
 others, please specify ____________________
5. Do you think these quarrels will affect your relationship with your parents? Why?
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What have you learnt?
 Parents and their children may have different needs at a given
time.
 Parents are very helpful to their children but there are times when
children may need to find other helpers.
 Parents and their children may hold different opinions but this
should not affect their relationships.