C o u n s e l i n g , C a r e e r, & D i s a b i l i t y S e r v i c e s N e w s l e t t e r
November 2010
Raider Wise Counsel
Ten Tips
for
Coping with Holiday Stress
In This Issue
Ten Tips for Coping- 1
With Holiday Stress
Did You Know?
1
Remember to SEE
3
Did You Know?
3
Important Notice
from Disability
Services
3
Did You Know?
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November 8 for
spring 2011 classes;
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January.
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We all look forward to the holidays and hope that they will be a
time of happiness, friendliness, fellowship, and harmony. Yet often
our anticipation and excitement turns into feelings of depression
and/or family disharmony.
Part of what happens in the holiday season, in terms of mood
changes and anxiety, may occur because of the stressfulness of
holiday events. It may also be caused by overdrinking, overeating,
and fatigue. The demands of the season are many: shopping,
cooking, travel, house guests, family reunions, parties, office
parties, and extra financial burden.
Sometimes people who are generally depressed actually struggle
with holiday depression. Symptoms can include headaches,
insomnia, uneasiness, anxiety, sadness, intestinal problems, and
unnecessary conflict with family and friends.
Here are some tools to get through the holiday season happily. . . as
well as ways to prevent problems and misery for yourself and your
loved ones:
1.
Have an attitude of gratitude. Misery and gratitude cannot
occupy the same space in our psychological house, and we
have the power to choose between these emotional states.
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Ten Tips for Coping with Holiday Stress (continued)
2.
Have an attitude of
gratitude
3.
Be responsible for
how you behave
Volunteer
4.
Stick to your priorities
Holidays do not automatically take away
feelings of aloneness,
sadness, frustration,
anger, and fear
5.
6.
Be careful about resentments
Don’t expect the holidays to be just as they
were when you were
a child
Plan unstructured,
low-cost fun holiday
activities
Do not overindulge
Give yourself a break
7.
One golden rule to getting along with family: Be responsible for how you behave. You certainly have no control over
how your relatives behave. The most important part of
avoiding the holiday stress with our families is for each of us
to feel mastery over, and satisfaction with, our own behaviors, attitudes and feelings. If you know in your head and
your heart that you’ve acted like the best parent, child,
brother, sister, friend that you know how to be, you can walk
away from any difficulty feeling good about yourself.
If you’re feeling depressed and lonely, volunteer with any
number of groups that help underprivileged or hospitalized
children, the homeless, or the aged and disabled at the holidays. There are many, many opportunities for doing community service. It is difficult to remain depressed when you are
helping others.
Decide upon your priorities and stick to them. Organize your
time. Be reasonable with your schedule. Do not overbook
yourself into a state of exhaustion. This makes people
cranky, irritable, and depressed.
Remember, no matter what your plans, the holidays do not
automatically take away feelings of aloneness, sadness, frustration, anger, and fear.
Be careful about resentments related to holidays past. Declare an amnesty with whichever family member or friend
you are feeling past resentments. Do not feel it is helpful or
a way to get close to tell your relative every resentment on
your long laundry list of grievances. Don’t let your relative
do that to you, either.
Don’t expect the holidays to be just as they were when you
were a child. They NEVER are. YOU are not the same as
when you were a child, and no one else in the family is either.
On the other hand, if your memories of childhood holidays
are awful, be grateful that you now have the capacity and
skills to make them wonderful for yourself and those you
love.
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Ten Tips for Coping with Holiday Stress (continued)
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10.
Remember
To
SEE
Sleeping regularly
Eating well
Exercising
These are essentials
for a less stressful
and more enjoyable
holiday.
Did You Know?
It’s important to
understand the
difference between
the holiday blues
and major depressive
disorder. Feelings of
depression during
the holiday months
usually get better
and do not need
medical treatment.
Plan unstructured, low-cost fun holiday activities: Windowshop, and look at the Holiday decorations. Look at people’s
Christmas lighting on their homes. Take a trip to the
countryside, etc. The opportunities are endless.
Do not let the holidays become a reason for over-indulging in
food and drink and create unnecessary weight gain and hangovers for yourself. This will exacerbate your depression and
anxiety. Contrary to popular opinion, alcohol is a depressant.
Give yourself a break: Most importantly, create a time for
yourself to do the things YOU love to do. Then you can
better enjoy being with those you love.
If you keep only a few things in mind to combat the holiday blues,
please remember:
The choice is always yours, the sky is partly sunny, and the glass
is half full, if you want it to be that way.
Depression is usually a clinical disorder, but sometimes “the
blues” confront all of us, particularly at holiday time. It may be
caused by the memory of loss, feeling of disappointment, or just
being run down from parties, overeating, and drinking.
But for many of us, holiday depression can be a choice we, in
effect, choose to make. If we choose not to make this choice, we
can choose instead to focus on the partly sunny skies and revel
in our gratitude for our bounty, health, hope, and our courage to
face each day with hope and determination.
*Adapted from Mark Sichel, LCSW
IMPORTANT NOTICE FROM DISABILITY SERVICES
Students requesting classroom accommodations should schedule an
appointment with their counselor immediately after registering for
classes.
Remember, accommodations do not roll from semester to semester.
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