School Social Skills At-A-Glance
Greeting Others
Accepting “No” for an Answer
1. Look at the person
1. Look at the person
2. Smile
2. Acknowledge the “no” answer (“ok”)
3. Use a pleasant voice
3. No arguing, whining, or pouting
4. Make a verbal greeting
4. If you don’t understand why, ask
calmly for a reason
Following Instructions
1. Look at the person
2. Acknowledge the direction
3. Do the task right away (“fast 5”)
4. Check back when done (if needed)
Getting the Teacher’s Attention
1. Look at the teacher
5. If you disagree, bring it up later
Accepting Correction (Feedback)
from Others
1. Look at the person
2. Acknowledge the correction/feedback
3. No arguing
4. If you disagree, bring it up later
2. Raise your hand
3. Wait for acknowledgment
4. After acknowledgment, ask or share
in a quiet voice
Making a Request
1. Look at the person
2. Use a pleasant voice
3. Ask for what you want clearly, using a
question and saying, “Please”
4. If granted, say, “Thank you”
5. If denied, accept “no” calmly
Accepting a Consequence
1. Look at the person
2. Acknowledge the consequence and
do as you’re told
3. Own your mistake, don’t argue or
make excuses
4. Apologize, if appropriate
Giving Feedback to Others
1. Look at the person
2. Use a calm voice
3. Begin positively with praise or
empathy
4. State the problem specifically
5. Give a reason why it’s a problem
6. Offer a solution
7. Thank the person for listening
Disagreeing with Others
1. Look at the person
2. Use a pleasant voice
3. Make an empathy statement
4. Explain the misunderstanding or
why you disagree
5. Give a reason
6. Listen to the other’s position
7. Thank the person for listening
Giving a Compliment
1. Look at the person
2. Smile
3. Use a pleasant voice
4. Make a positive praise statement