Kids Say the Craziest Things • A group of 7-10 year olds was asked a variety of questions about marriage • One of the questions was “How do you decide who to marry?” • Ten-year old Alan said, “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and should keep the chips and dips coming.” • Nine-year old Kristen answered, “No person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all way before and you get to find out later who you’re stuck with!” • Another question was: “Is it better to be single or married?” • Ten-year old Anita said, “It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them” Kids Say the Craziest Things • It kind of makes you wonder where these children picked up their perspectives on marriage, doesn’t it? • I chuckled at Kristen’s notion that God decides it and you’re stuck with it! • When a child says that, it’s funny • Unfortunately, there are far too many adults that cling to the same way of thinking … • A good dose of the book of Ruth offers all of us plenty of hope and help Romance? • • • • • • It’s been 11 weeks of going through the book of Ruth … someone came up to me and said with some disappointment that there does not seem to be much romance in the book Instead, Naomi, Ruth, and Boaz seemed to more concerned about survival and duty … there is a measure of truth to this observation Because of all that has happened so far, we want Ruth and Boaz to be together, not Ruth and the other kinsman But the way Boaz acted indicated that he wanted to marry Ruth for more than duty … he had nothing but praise for her and readily agreed to a marriage proposal after being awkwardly awakened in the middle of the night Furthermore, Naomi’s comment about Boaz’s impatience in Ruth 3:18 arouses curiosity … is it only because of duty that Boaz “will not rest until the matter is settled today?” Boaz very well may have been a bachelor who found true love later in life Whose Agenda? • The book may do nothing more than hint at the romance between Boaz and Ruth, but it clearly trumpets covenant faithfulness • Above all, Boaz was a man of faith and integrity • He cared about keeping God’s instruction because he knew that this was the avenue of ministering to real people with real needs and so advancing God’s redemptive plan through his life • Here is where this story speaks to you and me: – Do we see the situation of our lives as opportunities to glorify God by ministering to others? – Or do we view our situations in terms of other agendas? – Whose kingdom are we building? • Ruth 4 asks if we love God enough to put ourselves at His disposal by loving our neighbor The Romance of Redemption Ruth 4:1-12 • Through the actions of Boaz we see four characteristics of true love: True love takes action (vv. 1-4) True love is willing to pay the price (vv. 5-6) True love is willing to be accountable (vv. 7-10) True love receives God’s blessings (vv. 11-12) Ruth 4:1-4 1Now Boaz had gone up to the gate and sat down there. And behold, the redeemer, of whom Boaz had spoken, came by. So Boaz said, “Turn aside, friend; sit down here.” And he turned aside and sat down. 2And he took ten men of the elders of the city and said, “Sit down here.” So they sat down. 3Then he said to the redeemer, “Naomi, who has come back from the country of Moab, is selling the parcel of land that belonged to our relative Elimelech. 4So I thought I would tell you of it and say, ‘Buy it in the presence of those sitting here and in the presence of the elders of my people.’ If you will redeem it, redeem it. But if you will not, tell me, that I may know, for there is no one besides you to redeem it, and I come after you.” And he said, “I will redeem it.” Where does Boaz go the next morning? Why? The City Gates • In the ancient Near East, the city gate was not only the point of entry into town and the most logical place to look for fellow villagers coming and going, it was also the heart of the community • The gate was the seat of government and the site where legal transactions, judicial proceedings, and other important official business was conducted (cf. Gen 19:1,9; 23:10,18; 34:20,24; 2 Sam 15:2-6; Prov 22:22; Amos 5:10,12,15) • The city gates also served as a platform for local dignitaries, a pulpit for prophetic messages, and the hub of local gossip for the entire village • Whenever you hear of someone being praised in the gates (like the legendary woman of Proverbs 31), the entire community from the top down was honoring them • It’s comparable to a NYC ticker tape parade for a national hero or having your name emblazoned on a star inlaid on the sidewalk of Hollywood and Vine • Praise in the gates is high honor indeed Ruth 4:1-4 1Now Boaz had gone up to the gate and sat down there. And behold, the redeemer, of whom Boaz had spoken, came by. So Boaz said, “Turn aside, friend; sit down here.” And he turned aside and sat down. 2And he took ten men of the elders of the city and said, “Sit down here.” So they sat down. 3Then he said to the redeemer, “Naomi, who has come back from the country of Moab, is selling the parcel of land that belonged to our relative Elimelech. 4So I thought I would tell you of it and say, ‘Buy it in the presence of those sitting here and in the presence of the elders of my people.’ If you will redeem it, redeem it. But if you will not, tell me, that I may know, for there is no one besides you to redeem it, and I come after you.” And he said, “I will redeem it.” Boaz took three provide • The first thing westeps learnto about trueredemption: love from Boaz is that it takes action He3:18 made contact with the (v. 1) Who is this nearer redeemer? How is he identified? • 11.John – “Dear children, letnearer us not redeemer love with words or tongue but 2. actions He recruited elders (v. 2) with and truth.” 3. He nearerthrough kinsman Naomi’s landhe(vv. 3-4a) • What didinformed Boaz do the to follow onabout the commitment made to Ruth? What specific actions did he take? “Friend” (peloni almoni)? • According to the ESV (and NIV) translation of verse 1, Boaz addressed the nearer go’el as “friend” • The expression Boaz used is peloni almoni, a phrase that is an example of a wordplay termed farrago – This is a wordplay in which unrelated and perhaps even meaningless rhyming wordsof areRuth combined to produce a new idiom • The writer substituted the phrase peloni almoni for a particular – English examples include: “hodge-podge,” “helter-skelter,” “heebie-jeebies,” reason and “hocus-pocus” •• Based on what you know aboutin:the nearer redeemer, why would the author The same expression is used labeled him21:2 with– the equivalent of John Doe? “The king has charged me – 1 Sam “AndHebrew David said to Ahimelech the priest, • The narrator is underscoring this manofin order to about create with a matter and said to the me, namelessness ‘Let no one knowofanything the matter I send you, impression and with which charged you.’ I have made a less which than favorable andI have is prompting the audience to an suspect a appointment with the young men for such and such a place.” pejorative purpose in the choice of the expression – 2 Kings 6:8 – “Once when the king of Syria was warring against Israel, he took • To translate assaying, “friend” to obscure narrator’s counselthe withexpression his servants, “Atissuch and such the a place shall be my camp.” purposeful ofdoes the man’s name – When omission the narrator not wish to give the name of the place the translation “such and such a place” is appropriate • Commentators suggest best translation here (Ruth 4:1) is “Mr. So-and-So” • Note that this phrase originates with the narrator, not with Boaz; since the other go’el was a relative, Boaz would have known him and addressed him by his actual name Ruth 4:1-4 1Now Boaz had gone up to the gate and sat down there. And behold, the redeemer, of whom Boaz had spoken, came by. So Boaz said, “Turn aside, friend; sit down here.” And he turned aside and sat down. 2And he took ten men of the elders of the city and said, “Sit down here.” So they sat down. 3Then he said to the redeemer, “Naomi, who has come back from the country of Moab, is selling the parcel of land that belonged to our relative Elimelech. 4So I thought I would tell you of it and say, ‘Buy it in the presence of those sitting here and in the presence of the elders of my people.’ If you will redeem it, redeem it. But if you will not, tell me, that I may know, for there is no one besides you to redeem it, and I come after you.” And he said, “I will redeem it.” •• • • • • • • Boaz “took ten first men,” actively sought so that legal “And Note the isprovidence ofheGod once again “Andout behold” (literally Ruth 4:3 the mention of land that…them Naomi wanted redeemed proceedings couldthe start just suggests in the that any at just the right Whythen”) do youstrongly think writer of RuthHebrew postponed reference to Jewish authorities citenow? thatthe “ten” were to be present for the recital of moment along just right person Elimelech’s landcomes until the marriage benediction thushidden it may be that Boaz was This isdo notyou coincidence but–happened the of YHWH atpast work What suppose had tohand theassumed land in the that preparing athe marriage ceremony Having nearer redeemer does Boaz now wait until ten resultedcalled infor Naomi’s present requestover, for its redemption? Thus, took to ensure duly eldersBoaz of the citycare chance to passa by onconstituted their way tolegal the forum fields?would be present the civil proceedings he wished to set in motion Why didto henotarize need ten elders? Naomi’s Land • The text is not describing an outright sale of the land by Naomi • Instead, this refers to a transaction in which only the right use of the land is being transferred for a stipulated value (paid completely at the beginning of the deal) for a stipulated period of time • Thus, Naomi is selling the usufruct -- the potential fruit and produce from the harvests • Naomi must have inherited rights to the field of Elimelech when he died and produced no male heirs • Given the particulars, it appears that Elimelech sold the usufruct of his land before he and his family emigrated to Moab, and the field since then has been in the possession of others • Since Naomi has no means to repurchase the field, she transfers this obligation/right to her nearest kinsman • Now Naomi through Boaz is calling on the nearer kinsman to repurchase the field from its present possessor … the land is in need of redemption Ruth 4:1-4 1Now Boaz had gone up to the gate and sat down there. And behold, the redeemer, of whom Boaz had spoken, came by. So Boaz said, “Turn aside, friend; sit down here.” And he turned aside and sat down. 2And he took ten men of the elders of the city and said, “Sit down here.” So they sat down. 3Then he said to the redeemer, “Naomi, who has come back from the country of Moab, is selling the parcel of land that belonged to our relative Elimelech. 4So I thought I would tell you of it and say, ‘Buy it in the presence of those sitting here and in the presence of the elders of my people.’ If you will redeem it, redeem it. But if you will not, tell me, that I may know, for there is no one besides you to redeem it, and I come after you.” And he said, “I will redeem it.” • It is natural to do what is good for yourself ••• Nothing Mr.So-and-So So-and-So wrongassessed said withhe being would businessman initially redeem who’s the got land a nose because for ahe good wasdeal abe Mr. theasituation, decided the land purchase would • Nothing goodfor businessman wrong with buying land (it’sredeem produce) from a widow good him, and said, “Sure, I will it” did Boaz urge the nearer go’el to do? ••• Nothing It’sdid aWhat good wrong deal with tonaturally get making this piece thehim, most of property oflike God-given back opportunities the family He what came to just we so in easily do How did thedo latter initially respond? Why? ••• But land contrast means more crops; see more crops the two mean men more who money; were qualified more to ItMore is what love to do what isyou good forbetween others money mean this property? more What do foryou the good about their of actions? • redeem Boaz took steps to dopotential what would beobserve in thelife best interest Ruth, a family that had no male descendant, and a nation whose God received honor when its citizens did the loving thing by obeying the laws He gave them • Love focuses outward; love thinks about what is good for the other person and does that Ruth 4:5-6 5Then Boaz said, “The day you buy the field from the hand of Naomi, you also acquire Ruth the Moabite, the widow of the Faced this economic andofethical dead, in order to with perpetuate the name the dead in his 6Then which dilemma, COA does he choose? inheritance.” the redeemer said, “I cannot redeem it for myself, lest I impair my own inheritance. Take my right of redemption yourself, for I cannot redeem it.” •• Mr. So-and-So is faced with four courses of actions about (COAs): the price of What does Boaz tell the nearer redeemer 1. redemption? While not legally bound, he could accept moral responsibility for Elimelech’s How is this a surprise to him? estate, redeem the field, marry Ruth, and ensure the well-being of Naomi, the • What horns of dilemma does this latter go’el find himself on? senior widow. This would be the honorable COA. 2. 3. 4. He could redeem the field and pledge to marry Ruth but then renege on the pledge after the transaction was complete. By doing this, he would jeopardize his reputation and standing in the community. He could reject the offer, thereby ceding the rights to the land and the responsibility of raising up the name of the deceased to Boaz. This COA would not necessarily be irresponsible since Boaz has declared his intent. He could accept responsibility of a go’el & redeem the field but reject the responsibility of a levir and cede Boaz the moral obligation and/or right to marry Ruth. This would lose him respect/honor in community and prove costly in future if Boaz produced heir thru Ruth who could claim back the land. Ruth 4:5-6 5Then Boaz said, “The day you buy the field from the hand of Naomi, you also acquire Ruth the Moabite, the widow of the dead, in order to perpetuate the name of the dead in his inheritance.” 6Then the redeemer said, “I cannot redeem it for myself, lest I impair my own inheritance. Take my right of redemption yourself, for I cannot redeem it.” • Although Boaz had a strong desire to marry Ruth, he gave the • In what ways do the actions of Mr. So-and-So parallel those of unnamed kinsman-redeemer every opportunity to redeem the Orpah in Ruth 1? land and acquire Naomi and Ruth. • In what ways do you think Boaz’s approach to the situation • What price of true love was Boaz willing to pay? would have affected his future marital relationship to Ruth? •• • • • Note contrastto(once again) between these two redeemers Boaz’sthe approach the negotiations would have given him Mr. So-and-So was to take, butwas Boaz was will willing give confidence that hiswilling marriage to Ruth God’s for to their Mr. livesSo-and-So was concerned about himself and endangering his estate, but Boaz selfless concerned about the When believers trustwas God by notand trying to manipulate the care affairs of of two life, widows they experience the peace of God that continues to • Mr. So-and-So didGod the logical thing, their but Boaz assure them that has directed stepsdid the loving thing I am So-and-So • All of us are tempted to think and act like Mr. So-and-So • We size up a situation and figure out what is best for us • We play it safe to protect our own interests and agendas • We do not seek first the kingdom of God (Matt 6:33) … • Instead, we are more concerned about “all these things” that God promises to add; such an approach to life does not honor God • The anonymity of Mr. So-and-So is telling – there is no future in a life devoted to self and playing it safe • Here was a man who had an opportunity to redeem a desperate situation; but he thought only of himself and so has been forgotten Ruth 4:7-10 7Now this was the custom in former times in Israel concerning redeeming and exchanging: to confirm a transaction, the one drew off his sandal and gave it to the other, and this was the manner of attesting in Israel. 8So when the redeemer said to Boaz, “Buy it for yourself,” he drew off his sandal. 9Then Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought from the hand of Naomi all that belonged to Elimelech and all that belonged to Chilion and to Mahlon. 10Also Ruth the Moabite, the widow of Mahlon, I have bought to be my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead in his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brothers and from the gate of his native place. You are witnesses this day.” What two public Boaz 1.Whereas He promised tocommitments be ainformation good to Ruth gavehusband updid hisdoes right What bitMr. of So-and-So cultural make to show that his true love was of the 2.to He promised to maintain the name redemption, what Boaz the author give us indid verse 7?do? accountable? dead whom was this said? Before Ruth 4:11-12 11Then all the people who were at the gate and the elders said, “We are witnesses. May the LORD make the woman, who is coming into your house, like Rachel and Leah, who together built up the house of Israel. May you act worthily in Ephrathah and be renowned in Bethlehem, 12and may your house be like the house of Perez, whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring that the LORD will give you by this young woman.” •• True love God’s blessing Although we tend and to consider our had intimate a Who werereceives Rachel Leah? How they relationships “built up the house 1. of The people asked the Lord to bless 11a) private matter, the story of Ruth andRuth Boaz(v. demonstrates some Israel?” 2. the to relationships blessmean Boazwhen (v.to 11b) ofThe thepeople benefits of allowing our unfold and take • What did the asked people of Lord Bethlehem they prayed 3. that Thethe people Lord to bless their offspring (v. Leah? 12) shape openly in thethe larger community of faith LORDasked would make Ruth to be like Rachel and Whatdo threefold blessing/benediction didRuth Boaztoand Ruth • How you think it might have blessed know that the receivecommunity from their community they moved into committed Jewish was prayingasthis particular benediction? relationship with each other? Ruth 4:11-12 11Then all the people who were at the gate and the elders said, “We are witnesses. May the LORD make the woman, who is coming into your house, like Rachel and Leah, who together built up the house of Israel. May you act worthily in Ephrathah and be renowned in Bethlehem, 12and may your house be like the house of Perez, whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring that the LORD will give you by this young woman.” Why do you think the people of Bethlehem drew attention to Now consider the part the witnesses’ three-fold •such Consider the in second part ofofof the witnesses’ benediction a scandal thefinal history Judah as the birth of Perez(v. as11b) blessing the offspringpray of Ruth and Boaz (v. 12) •something What didon the for Boaz? to bewitnesses emulated? Whathad is the connection theupbirth of Perez tofor Judah • How Boaz already inbetween part lived to their hopes him? •There rabbinic hermeneutical principle of “from to of lesser” andisTamar the hoped-for offspringpoint from thegreater marriage • How did theand people’s second blessing forward to David? •The reader Boaz andcannot Ruth? help but think that if God had given immoral To Christ? Judah a double blessing in the birth of twins and if Judah flourished through Perez, how much brighter are the prospects for a couple of integrity like Boaz and Ruth The Romance of Redemption Ruth 4:1-12 • Through the actions of Boaz we see four characteristics of true love: True love takes action (vv. 1-4) True love is willing to pay the price (vv. 5-6) True love is willing to be accountable (vv. 7-10) True love receives God’s blessings (vv. 11-12) Case Study: Kim, a single young woman • Scenario: Kim has met “Mr. Right.” That’s what she has been telling your small bible study for the past two weeks. She met Larry just four months ago at the school where they both teach. Kim, who became a believer 3 years ago while in college, is a 23 year old, first year elementary school teacher. Larry, age 24 and also in his first year of teaching, is an only child who still lives at home. Kim says she “led him to the Lord” shortly after they met. “When’s the wedding?” someone asks Kim just before the beginning of this week’s small bible study. “Three weeks from Saturday!” she responds. “We’re going to have a quaint ceremony at Larry’s parent’s lodge. You’re all invited.” “Whoa! Three weeks?” someone in the crowd chimes in – it was more of a statement than a question. “That’s pretty quick romance, isn’t it?” Kim insists it’s because “God brought us together” and “It was love at first sight” and “We just know we’re right for each other.” • No one says anything else about the wedding until the bible study ends. As people are leaving, Kim approaches you (the study leader) and asks, “Can I ask you something? Why do I get the feeling that not everybody here is as excited as I am about me getting married? I want to know.” Case Study: Kim, a single young woman Kim’s view of love seems more influenced by Hollywood than the Bible. How so? • In a typical Hollywood movie, “love” occurs within a 2-hr block of time. Two characters meet, get to know each other a little bit (maybe), begin to have feelings for each other, and then boldly assert they can’t live without each other. • “Love” is not the best term to describe such instant attraction • The notion of “falling in love” certainly falls far short of the biblical concept of love • As demonstrated by Boaz in Ruth 4, true love exhibits some very tangible characteristics: it takes action (Boaz initiated the redemption payment) it is willing to pay the necessary price (Boaz calculated and delighted in paying the cost of redemption) it is willing to be accountable (Boaz made a public commitment) and consequently it received God’s blessing Case Study: Kim, a single young woman Kim’s view of love seems more influenced by Hollywood than the Bible. How so? • The idea that one can “fall in love” guts love of its volitional depth • Emotions are wonderful but they must flow out of a person’s volition and action, as God Himself exemplified, “For God so loved the world the He gave His one and only Son” (John 3:16) • Biblically understood, love is fundamentally a decision to take sacrificial action to meet the needs of another person motivated by a desire to please God • When Kim says it was “love at first sight,” what she means is that she felt an immediate attraction to Larry when she met him … her understanding is feeling-based • The truth about feelings is that they can leave just as quickly as they came • True love, however, is unchanging. “It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Cor 13:7-8) Case Study: Kim, a single young woman What are some questions that Kim may need to address? • For Kim, the will of God is a personal, individual matter, something God makes known to me • The Scriptures caution against this and emphasize the importance of seeking godly counsel • Here are a few questions Kim ought to consider (and we might encourage her to explore) as she seeks to discern God’s purposes for her life: What insight does Proverbs 15:22 (“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed”) give concerning decision making? Does my understanding of love square with the Bible’s explanation (for instance, 1 Cor 13 and 1 John 4:7-21)? Do I have a biblical basis for concluding that the wedding is truly the will of God? Why did I become upset when I sensed that others didn’t seem to share my excitement about my wedding plans? Case Study: Kim, a single young woman If you were the group leader Kim approaches, how would you respond to her? How might you use the story of Ruth in the conversation? • It’s vital to remember that a true friend doesn’t merely tell you what you want to hear (that’s flattery), but what you need to hear in order to please God • Furthermore, a mark of maturity in the Body of Christ, is when we learn to “speak the truth in love” with one another (Eph 4:15) • In this scenario, Kim has opened the door by asking for honest input • For starters, I would thank her for coming to me, communicate my appreciation for her as a sister in Christ, and express my intent to seek the glory of our Savior and her good in this important decision • I would emphasize that marriage is a wonderful gift given by our gracious and good God, and that by His design it is a picture of Christ’s relationship with His bride, the Church (Eph 5:23, 25) • This truth underscores the importance of exercising great discernment before entering marriage, since marriage isn’t just about me, but is an opportunity to exalt Christ Case Study: Kim, a single young woman If you were the group leader Kim approaches, how would you respond to her? How might you use the story of Ruth in the conversation? • I would remind Kim that God in His wisdom has given us wonderful examples in His word of how real people honored Him in the past as they considered marriage • I would encourage her to read the book of Ruth, asking her to pay particular attention to what we learn about love from the actions of Ruth and Boaz As demonstrated by Boaz in Ruth truewife love and exhibits somelike veryto tangible • •I would then let her know that4,my I could meet characteristics: with her soon to discuss what she gleaned from reading Ruth as it takes action (Boaz initiated the redemption payment) wellasitpray with her as she seeks God’s good purposes for her life is willing to pay the necessary price (Boaz calculated and delighted in paying the cost of redemption) it is willing to be accountable (Boaz made a public commitment) and consequently it received God’s blessing