Chapter 8, Lessons 1-3
Different Types of Friendships and
Being Safe
Casual, Close, Platonic, On-line
Friendships: Many types throughout life
Casual:
- Share similar interests
- No deep emotional bonds
Close:
- Strong emotional ties
- Support/encouragement; listens to
concerns without judgment
- Talk about problems
Friendships: Many types throughout life
Platonic:
- Shared affection with opposite gender
- Not considered a couple
On-line:
- Communication through Internet
- Positive vs. Negative
- Rewarding to know people from all
over the world (cultures/traditions)
- Dangerous when others aren’t truthful
What should you do to be safe on Internet?
1.
2.
3.
4.
Don’t share personal information
Don’t share photos (facebook?)
Never arrange face/face meetings
Tell a trusted adult if… you become
uncomfortable
Recognizing Problems in Friendships
Important to know how to recognize and resolve
problems in friendships
Cliques – small circle of friends who exclude
others as outsiders
Ways to avoid negative aspects of cliques...
•Become active in several activities
•Develop variety in friendships
Envy or jealousy – you have unique talents, don’t
compare yourself; think positive (self-talk)
Student Activity: (5 minutes)
Read “When Friendships Change” on
page 197 in Glencoe Health textbook –
Health Skills Activity
With a classmate, role-play a scene to
end this scenario using the instructions
given in the ‘writing’ section
OR
You may write or draw a cartoon
ending the scene using the instructions
given in the ‘writing’ section
Peer Pressure
People your age can influence how you think,
feel, and act
Can be negative or positive…
Positive Peer Pressure:
•Inspire you to try something new
•Encourage you to participate in activities
•Influence you in healthful ways…
Negative Peer Pressure:
•Take part in negative behaviors
•Accept beliefs with negative consequences
•Cliques who are disrespectful to others
Harassment:
Persistently annoying others
Manipulation:
Indirect, dishonest way to control or
influence other people
Examples (pg. 200, Figure 8.5): making
threats, blackmail, mocking or teasing,
‘guilt trips’, bargaining, flattery, bribing
Resisting Negative Peer Pressure:
Practicing Refusal Skills (communication
strategies) will help you deal with NPP
Assertive Refusal
1. state your position - reason
2. suggest alternatives - activities
3. stand your ground – body language, eye
contact; walk away
Passive and Aggressive Responses
Passive = easier?
Viewed as pushover, not worthy of respect
Aggressive = get your way?
Viewed as forceful, pushy, or hostile
Being assertive shows you stand up for
your rights, beliefs, and needs. It shows
you respect yourself and those around
you.
Setting Limits
To protect your health and safety
Age of people you date
Where you go?
How will you get there?
What will you do when you get there?
Abstinence
A deliberate decision to avoid high-risk behaviors
Intimacy – closeness between two people developed
over time.
Infatuation – exaggerated feelings of passion
Self-control – a person’s ability to use responsibility
to override emotions (control reaction)
set limits for expressing affection
communicate with partner
talk with trusted adult
low-pressure dating situations
date someone who respects/shares same values
Avoiding Risk Situations
What do you think? (class discussion)
Avoid places where alcohol and other drugs are
present
Avoid being alone with a date at home or in an
isolated place
Considering the Consequences
what do you think? (class discussion)
STIs/STDs
Unplanned pregnancy
Consent Law – NC consent law - age is 16
The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years
Effects on Mental/Emotional Health:
• Aren’t committed as in marital relationship
• Guilt feelings – truthful to parents about
sexual activity? Would they approve?
• Loss of self-respect going against values
• Regret and anxiety in consequences
The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years
Effects on Social Health:
• May lose opportunity for new friendships
• May lose opportunity for new activities
• Tension in family from disappointment/worry
• Challenges in financial and emotional support
• Teen parents put own education/career and
dreams on hold to raise child
Is it normal to have sexual feelings?
Yes.
Can you control the reaction to these feelings?
Yes.
Deliberate decision = planning and self-control
Re-commit to Abstinence – ALWAYS an option –
never too late to decide/act on protecting your
health and well-being!
Know the facts before you react…
Dating Decisions – personal values and priorities
will influence your dating decisions
Are you ready to date? Other priorities? (goals,
tasks, values, and activities you judge to be more
important than others)
Set healthful dating expectations…
 consideration and respect
 communicate thoughts and feelings honestly
 never feel pressured to do anything against
your or your family’s values
Refusal Skills Suggestions to Say No to NPP
“Everybody does it”
No. Not everybody is doing it.
“I thought you were cool”
I am cool, and the answer is still no.
“No one will know”
I’ll know, and I’m the one who matters.
“If you loved me, you’d do it”
If you loved me, you’d respect my decision.
Student Enrichment:
Design a website on abstinence for teens. You
will draw this on paper. The site should be
accurate, informative, and creative. It should
also contain links to other reliable abstinence
websites…
(link ideas: more information on refusal
skills, decisions to date, peer pressure,
considering consequences, sexual
content on tv, benefits of abstinence…)
What is your website address?